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If a parent can comfortably afford it, should they give money to help out their adult child? · Anele and the Club on 947

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  Speaker 1: Wake Up with a plang.
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  Speaker 2: La and the Club on nine four seventh.
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  Speaker 3: Right now, I heard this voice that I was like, yay,
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  Speaker 3: the audacity.
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  Speaker 1: Of the person sending it, Yes, have a listen.
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  Speaker 4: Pi L.
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  Speaker 2: I just wanted to ask.
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  Speaker 5: So for background, my parents are very well off. They've
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  Speaker 5: done really well for themselves. Don't get me wrong, I'm
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  Speaker 5: super proud of them. But my family is really struggling financially,
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  Speaker 5: I mean, even to pay things like school fees. And
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  Speaker 5: we've hinted this to them on multiple occasions, but they
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  Speaker 5: really hasn't been like any support from them. They even
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  Speaker 5: just bought a holiday home and am Schluger, but we
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  Speaker 5: can barely afford to go camping.
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  Speaker 2: So I just wanted to know. I mean, is this normal?
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  Speaker 3: Yes, my angel is very normal. Why are you pocket
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  Speaker 3: watching other people's money? The audacity is that I'm super
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  Speaker 3: proud of them. Hey, your parents don't need your bride
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  Speaker 3: my bab I.
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  Speaker 1: Mean I would. I mean if my mom was super wealthy,
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  Speaker 1: not expected, but it would be nice if she coures
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  Speaker 1: a few coins my way.
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  Speaker 6: But that's what's key, right, would be nice. I don't
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  Speaker 6: think your parents are forced to keep you and your
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  Speaker 6: family going because you're not. You're an adult. You're grown
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  Speaker 6: enough to have kids and a spouse. You should be
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  Speaker 6: grown enough to fend for him.
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  Speaker 3: Those are grown up decisions. Hey, we struggle for school fees. Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: having a child is a grown up decision. And as
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  Speaker 3: soon as you say I'm gonna have a child, you
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  Speaker 3: were saying, I know how to I know what I'm doing.
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  Speaker 1: But sometimes it's external factors that are influenced. Maybe that
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  Speaker 1: we're in jobs or the kind of jobs that are
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  Speaker 1: AI is taking. Yeah, maybe there's a downturn in the
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  Speaker 1: economy and sales aren't what they used to be. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I mean we're struggling a little bit than mummy.
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  Speaker 3: And here's another thing about people with money. You can't
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  Speaker 3: hint to them.
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  Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying. You must just ask Yeah
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  Speaker 2: we've hinted. No, no, no, no, it's your parents.
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  Speaker 7: You need your parents' support.
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  Speaker 2: Ask your parents for support.
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  Speaker 7: They want you to be adult enough to come to
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  Speaker 7: them to have the conversation. Because what's that saying, If
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  Speaker 7: you spoil your children, you'll raise your grandchildren.
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  Speaker 6: Right.
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  Speaker 7: So this is the case, and points and their parents
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  Speaker 7: are going, we can see you struggling, step up, and
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  Speaker 7: ask us be an adults.
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  Speaker 3: Because when you ask us, then we can make decisions
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  Speaker 3: around the payment the repayment because we're not handing you cash.
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  Speaker 2: Want the money back. That's how they have.
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  Speaker 3: Money, That's how they can afford a houseroom shlanga because
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  Speaker 3: they didn't just run around listening in on conversations. Oh sorry,
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  Speaker 3: did I have somebody say that they can't.
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  Speaker 2: Pay their rent this month? He has twenty tho. It
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  Speaker 2: doesn't work like that.
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  Speaker 6: And the thing is people from a wealthy background, when
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  Speaker 6: you guys say struggling, very often it's relative. So your
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  Speaker 6: kid can't go to the prizest private school in Jobu,
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  Speaker 6: but they could go to a really good public school,
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  Speaker 6: or you could do what the rest of us do,
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  Speaker 6: cut some of your subscriptions.
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  Speaker 7: Yeah, maybe the parents are looking at their lifestyle going
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  Speaker 7: actually it's not that bad and just cut back on
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  Speaker 7: X y Z. They could possibly make it, but they
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  Speaker 7: need to come to us.
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  Speaker 1: No, if I if I had kids, I would like
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  Speaker 1: to support them.
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  Speaker 3: If I would just randomly give your way, if I
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  Speaker 3: had cash, I'd help them.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: There was a former friend of mine who was married
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  Speaker 3: into a family where the dad would come for for
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  Speaker 3: Sunday lunch and just live like a bag of money
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  Speaker 3: with wow little checker's back.
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  Speaker 1: See that's my kind of family. This is my kind
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  Speaker 1: of family.
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  Speaker 3: Sunday you just leave like a bag of money and
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  Speaker 3: they weren't asking for it, right.
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  Speaker 7: Learn to cook so fast every Sunday. Come try my
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  Speaker 7: Hi recipe.
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  Speaker 3: Oh one one eight thirty eight nine fourthemen? Are you
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  Speaker 3: on Natasha site here? Do you think she's lost her mind?
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  Speaker 4: LM?
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  Speaker 5: I just wanted to ask. So for background, my parents
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  Speaker 5: are very well off. They've done really well for themselves.
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  Speaker 5: Don't get me wrong. I'm super proud of them, super proud.
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  Speaker 5: But my family is really struggling financially, I mean even
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  Speaker 5: to pay things like school fees. And we've hinted this
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  Speaker 5: to them one more supplications, but they really hasn't been
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  Speaker 5: like any support from them. They even just bought a
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  Speaker 5: holiday home in Shlanga, but we can barely afford to
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  Speaker 5: go camping.
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  Speaker 2: So I just wanted to know, I mean, is this normal? Yes,
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  Speaker 2: it's very normal. They're sticking to their plan. They had
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  Speaker 2: things that at this.
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  Speaker 3: Age, we're gonna do this, at this age, we're gonna
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  Speaker 3: do that, and probably they were like, well, at this age,
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  Speaker 3: we're gonna buy a holiday home.
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  Speaker 1: In No, I'm still I'm still with her. I can
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  Speaker 1: see how there's an expector. I mean, I would ask,
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  Speaker 1: and I'm.
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  Speaker 2: Pretty sure this.
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  Speaker 3: Dad asked, are you sure you want to study ba.
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  Speaker 6: Are you sure you want to marry Josh the drama?
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  Speaker 2: Are you sure? And you said yes?
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  Speaker 3: And all of a sudden, you're super proud of the
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  Speaker 3: fact that difference of financially. No, guys, thank what's the
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  Speaker 3: name Natasha?
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  Speaker 2: I maybe if I've officially.
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  Speaker 1: Heard it all. No, but if I put myself in
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  Speaker 1: Natasha's shoes, I can see how.
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  Speaker 8: That about.
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  Speaker 3: Say Natasha shouldn't shouldn't be wearing shoes at this point,
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  Speaker 3: I just wanted to ask.
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  Speaker 5: So for background, my parents are very well off. They've
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  Speaker 5: done really well for themselves. Don't get me wrong, I'm
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  Speaker 5: super proud of them. But my family is really struggling financially,
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  Speaker 5: I mean, even to pay things like school fees. And
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  Speaker 5: we've hinted this to them on multiple occasions, but there
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  Speaker 5: really hasn't been any support from them. They even just
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  Speaker 5: bought a holiday home in m Schluger, but we can
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  Speaker 5: barely afford to go camping, So I just wanted to know.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, is this normal.
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  Speaker 9: You can just hear the privilege when she goes my.
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  Speaker 2: Parents are really rich.
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  Speaker 10: No, it's really downscale a little bit, and then you
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  Speaker 10: can go glamping.
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  Speaker 7: I think the fact that she's expecting it is a
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  Speaker 7: little bit so forward.
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  Speaker 3: But I mean she could always ask them for help
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  Speaker 3: if it's really that bad, and then pay them back.
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  Speaker 11: I just don't think they should be an expectation.
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  Speaker 8: But one hundred percent would help my kid if I
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  Speaker 8: was in that situation.
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  Speaker 1: This is why rich parents see Mary rich. They're right,
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  Speaker 1: you dropped the ball.
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  Speaker 2: You married poor, you diluted the wealth. Yeah, what what
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  Speaker 2: is that? What is the draft?
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  Speaker 3: That's sad here all of a sudden, this is the poverty.
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  Speaker 6: However, as a veteran poor person, dear, I can tell
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  Speaker 6: you now going in with the camping line is not
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  Speaker 6: going to get you in advance saying we can barely
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  Speaker 6: go camping.
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  Speaker 1: I need to talk about.
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  Speaker 3: Food because also, yes, that's the thing. Somebody who's really
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  Speaker 3: struggling is not looking at the fact that they can't
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  Speaker 3: go on holiday. They look at the fact that they
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  Speaker 3: need to keep the lights on, they need to pay
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  Speaker 3: for electricity, They need to buy food, petrol the car.
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  Speaker 3: If she has said I can barely fill up my tank,
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  Speaker 3: I'd be like, okay, I hear you. When are you
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  Speaker 3: already on holiday?
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  Speaker 2: You need to be at work. You don't have time
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  Speaker 2: for leaving.
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  Speaker 1: No, but our struggles are different at different levels. Hey,
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  Speaker 1: so like her struggle is about the holiday.
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  Speaker 2: At least she's super proud of her parents. Zaidi and Houghton. Hi,
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  Speaker 2: we're good, Zaid How.
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  Speaker 4: Are you very well? Thinks I love your showman bick
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  Speaker 4: up guys.
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  Speaker 2: Thank you so much, love you right back.
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  Speaker 3: You and Frankie's idea say the parents should be helping.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, okay, but I got a question for you for
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  Speaker 4: el one day. Did you ever see us or funeral
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  Speaker 4: cards pulling a safe? Sow in a safe? What did
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  Speaker 4: you have never seen?
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  Speaker 10: Me?
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  Speaker 4: Short? Guys? Now we must help. We must help her
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  Speaker 4: as long as the kids are trying and they're making
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  Speaker 4: an effort. If they falling short created flights to business class,
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  Speaker 4: no problem. If they helped him, you have to help
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  Speaker 4: because life is very short. When you die, you will
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  Speaker 4: leave all the education and they're gonna use it anyway.
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  Speaker 2: Not the last time you ask your parents for money.
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  Speaker 4: I know, guys, my parents helps me. Yeah, I know.
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  Speaker 4: I've got the best parents in the world. Yesterday, the
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  Speaker 4: best best parents in the world. They help us all
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  Speaker 4: the time. I won't go and say that I need
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  Speaker 4: X amount of money, but you will just come and say, Okay,
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  Speaker 4: you guys are going somewhere years extra for the kids.
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  Speaker 4: Let me help with us, Let me help this.
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  Speaker 1: See that's nice, right, that's nice.
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  Speaker 4: We try, me and my wife, we work hard, we try,
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  Speaker 4: but obviously you know we don't run to them for
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  Speaker 4: prayer and welk money. But if you need to upgrade
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  Speaker 4: the camp into the gramp in health case, we might
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  Speaker 4: help our go together. Yeah, and you say they go
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  Speaker 4: together better idea.
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  Speaker 3: Well, and Frinky, you're forty years old and your parents
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  Speaker 3: still help you financially.
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  Speaker 2: But this is just.
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  Speaker 3: They add icing to a cake. So they're not You're
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  Speaker 3: not asking them to bake the cake.
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  Speaker 2: They're just adding the icing.
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  Speaker 4: I'm not asking them to bake the cake. Pay today.
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  Speaker 4: I run my life, Me and my wife run our house.
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  Speaker 4: But if we're going on holiday, my dad will say, okay,
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  Speaker 4: you pay for the flights, I'll pay for the accommodation,
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  Speaker 4: and I feel that is I'm not saying it's saying.
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  Speaker 4: I'm not saying they have to do it, but I'm
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  Speaker 4: saying do it because tomorrow were today we here, Tomorrow
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  Speaker 4: we go and when you do when when they leave,
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  Speaker 4: we're going to use that money and lets you together.
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  Speaker 3: They wait, Zad, do you live in the same compound
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  Speaker 3: as your parents?
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  Speaker 4: No, my parents still in len Asia and you don't
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  Speaker 4: want to leave Lenes, and and you stay away, I'm out.
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  Speaker 1: It's my parents go on and leave.
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  Speaker 4: They love Lenes because my dad told me. He says,
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  Speaker 4: you will still see a lady going to buy twinter
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  Speaker 4: when skips him crowded.
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  Speaker 6: I don't think your parents love Lenes. They can't move
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  Speaker 6: out because they're probably new up and who can move out?
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  Speaker 4: I trust me they can move out tomorrow. They can who.
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  Speaker 2: Upgrade you if they move out of lanes? But me, no, no, no,
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  Speaker 2: don't worry about it, Zaid. But thank you for this.
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  Speaker 3: So clearly Natasha has not lost the mind because they is.
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  Speaker 3: But once again, Zaid is already booking the holiday. The
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  Speaker 3: dad is just upgrading, and so there is effort from
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  Speaker 3: the dad is meeting Zai and his wife halfway.
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  Speaker 2: Natasha once parents to come all the.
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  Speaker 1: Way in, gotta come and help. Look, I like to Zaide,
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  Speaker 1: I like this opinion very good.
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  Speaker 3: Dady is very comfortable. They have most presses in life.
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  Speaker 3: He knows that anything he does is for sure because
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  Speaker 3: if all of this falls apart, his parents are good
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  Speaker 3: for it. That is what we call what a luxury
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  Speaker 3: a luxury, not a necessity. Natasha is looking for parents
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  Speaker 3: to put up the necessities, things that you should have
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  Speaker 3: been doing for yourself.
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  Speaker 2: No one, no one sent you to go have kids.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm just I still I'm still saying like I
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  Speaker 1: get I get what you saying. I don't know, but
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  Speaker 1: I'm still saying like, if your parents have got money,
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  Speaker 1: I don't see what's wrong with them helping you guys out.
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  Speaker 1: If you're a little strapped on your side.
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  Speaker 3: You only have to get a pair of glasses so
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  Speaker 3: you can see clearly on the way. Nadine Nadine has
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  Speaker 3: got a few words for Natasha.
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  Speaker 5: M I just wanted to ask. So for background, my
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  Speaker 5: parents are very well off. They've done really well for themselves.
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  Speaker 5: Don't get me wrong, I'm super proud of them. But
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  Speaker 5: my family is really struggling financially, I mean, even to
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  Speaker 5: pay things like school fees. And we've hinted this to
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  Speaker 5: them on multiple occasions, but they really hasn't been like
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  Speaker 5: any support from them. They even just bought a holiday
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  Speaker 5: home and I'm schlunger, but we can barely afford to
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  Speaker 5: go camping.
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  Speaker 2: So I just wanted to know, I mean, is this normal?
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  Speaker 2: What kind of an adults?
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  Speaker 8: When you want money, you ask for mine, then you
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  Speaker 8: must have payment.
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  Speaker 2: Parents are well within their rights. They work for that money.
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  Speaker 2: You need to work for your.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah, and this is exactly why I don't want kids,
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  Speaker 6: because you never really get a break from kids.
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  Speaker 9: Oh, I'm with Vanilla on this one. I know life
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  Speaker 9: is tough, but then again, how long are your parents
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  Speaker 9: going to help you out? Like they help you out
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  Speaker 9: this month, then next month they must help you again.
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  Speaker 9: And then also the comfortability of knowing your pidents are
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  Speaker 9: going to do it for you.
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  Speaker 10: My life dad used to be very well all for
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  Speaker 10: and whenever we went to him, decide, listen, can you
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  Speaker 10: help out? It will help us out that problem that
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  Speaker 10: you can't go team again. You first have to pay
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  Speaker 10: back what you bought it the first time before he
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  Speaker 10: will help you out again?
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  Speaker 1: Two points on this, Okay.
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  Speaker 3: The first one, your parents have probably gone through the
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  Speaker 3: stage in life where they went well off and it
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  Speaker 3: was tight. Yes, it was tight, and they are where
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  Speaker 3: they are now, so they know full well the steps
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  Speaker 3: that are needed for you to get out of the
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  Speaker 3: slump that you're in and it does not involve them
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  Speaker 3: bailing you out. Maybe this is the case. And then secondly,
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  Speaker 3: what happens if things were the other.
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  Speaker 1: Way around you.
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  Speaker 3: Who you are well off and your parents are the
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  Speaker 3: ones who can't even go camping?
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  Speaker 1: Would it be that help them?
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  Speaker 3: Would you like to be that's like as oh yeah,
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  Speaker 3: without them asking. All you have to do is like
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  Speaker 3: see that they they you know, they putting coins together
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  Speaker 3: for a holiday, and be like, oh no, don't worry,
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  Speaker 3: here's a business car seat.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, So firstly I would help my parents if I
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  Speaker 1: was wealthy and they were struggling. But then secondly, I think,
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  Speaker 1: here's my thing. If it is at the cost of
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  Speaker 1: your come that I'm asking you to help me, right,
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  Speaker 1: so there's a little bit extra, but I mean it
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  Speaker 1: is going to impact your life, right, But I'm saying
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  Speaker 1: please help me, mom, That for me is not right.
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  Speaker 2: But if it's like.
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  Speaker 1: But if it's not impacting you at all to help me.
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  Speaker 3: It is impacting me just because I've got ten million rent.
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  Speaker 3: I actually want twenty million rent. You are impacting me
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  Speaker 3: because you're stopping me for my next school, which is
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  Speaker 3: twenty million.
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  Speaker 2: Right, I'm impacted as imp.
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  Speaker 1: I'm just thinking. I'm just saying that it does. I
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  Speaker 1: feel like it doesn't impact them.
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  Speaker 2: It does help.
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  Speaker 3: Every cent that leaves my bank account, it impacts me.
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  Speaker 2: That's why I'm wealthy.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, Nadine, good morning, Good morning.
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  Speaker 2: What do you think?
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  Speaker 11: Well, my theory is is if you're going to start
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  Speaker 11: it with the fact that you can you can't afford
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  Speaker 11: your kids' school fees and you can't go campaign. If
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  Speaker 11: you were saying I bet you have food on the table,
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  Speaker 11: saying yes, but those parents and you said it exactly
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  Speaker 11: like that, they've gone through the struggle, they've bolt on
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  Speaker 11: that she says it that they both their lives. They
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  Speaker 11: they obviously struggled as well.
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  Speaker 2: So yeah, so it would it would?
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  Speaker 3: Do you think it would be different if this is
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  Speaker 3: how it would be a Natata side, If your parents
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  Speaker 3: got their money from their parents, they inherit everything.
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  Speaker 11: Because even if you inherit everything then at some point
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  Speaker 11: and also the paints how old her parents are. Like
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  Speaker 11: my grandfather loved until the age of ninety two, and
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  Speaker 11: his kids sucked him dry. He loved comfortably, and now
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  Speaker 11: they inherited nothing because it was nothing left. So they
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  Speaker 11: all on the brink of.
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  Speaker 2: Poverty.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, but.
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  Speaker 11: You're not helping yourself. You're just delaying your problem.
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  Speaker 1: I have a friend who said, I want my inheritance. Now.
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  Speaker 2: I don't get people like that.
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  Speaker 1: It's worked, It's worked really well.
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  Speaker 10: I know.
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  Speaker 3: I know plenty of people who've done that and they
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  Speaker 3: got it. The Mandela kids did that. Yeah, I don't
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  Speaker 3: get that.
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  Speaker 1: Well, it means that we can skip the debt part,
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  Speaker 1: because you know what I'm saying, like, you pay so
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  Speaker 1: much debt if you go, if you buy a house,
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  Speaker 1: if you buy a car, if you buy and that's
• 15:10
  Speaker 1: what they've done. They've said, look, Mom, instead of waiting
• 15:13
  Speaker 1: till the end to give us this because it's she
• 15:16
  Speaker 1: sort of put it aside for the right. He said,
• 15:18
  Speaker 1: now give it to me now, because then I can
• 15:19
  Speaker 1: make I don't have to pay the bank all this
• 15:22
  Speaker 1: money that I'm going to pay with my lifetime. I
• 15:23
  Speaker 1: don't know, you can sort it out.
• 15:25
  Speaker 2: Creepy gives me I know them, I know, I know,
• 15:30
  Speaker 2: go get the inventorium. What do you think?
• 15:32
  Speaker 8: Good morning Annela and the team. My first time on
• 15:35
  Speaker 8: the red.
• 15:36
  Speaker 2: You know, welcome, go get so talk to us. You
• 15:40
  Speaker 2: got the final call here, so you better be good.
• 15:43
  Speaker 11: Yes.
• 15:44
  Speaker 8: So I am a thirty four year old and there
• 15:47
  Speaker 8: has never been a time where my dad hasn't sought
• 15:50
  Speaker 8: shot up on me. And then every time when I
• 15:53
  Speaker 8: need help, she's already there. And you know, he doesn't
• 15:56
  Speaker 8: make that much. My dad was a teacher and my
• 15:59
  Speaker 8: mom never really worked. But he always makes sure that
• 16:03
  Speaker 8: whatever I need he provides, Like.
• 16:06
  Speaker 2: Run me through the things that you need from him, Like.
• 16:08
  Speaker 8: What, Okay, two months back, I purchased a property and
• 16:13
  Speaker 8: I was shot on the transfer cost. So I caught
• 16:16
  Speaker 8: him up. He's on retirement and I was like that
• 16:19
  Speaker 8: I'm short one hundred thousands and I don't know where
• 16:22
  Speaker 8: I'm going to get the money. And you know, within
• 16:25
  Speaker 8: a couple of hours he sent it through.
• 16:28
  Speaker 2: Okay, and then another one another example, like.
• 16:34
  Speaker 8: Every time, like when I'm shot, and like you know,
• 16:37
  Speaker 8: some months are difficult. I must say that I've got
• 16:40
  Speaker 8: a great job. It pays well, but with everything else,
• 16:43
  Speaker 8: all my responsibilities, some months I'm short. I'm like that, yo,
• 16:46
  Speaker 8: you know it's towards months and and I do not
• 16:49
  Speaker 8: have money for well, he will just send me money.
• 16:51
  Speaker 2: And do you ever pay him back?
• 16:54
  Speaker 11: Ah?
• 16:55
  Speaker 8: Not really, he never asks for it back.
• 16:58
  Speaker 1: Are you planning on playing back?
• 17:01
  Speaker 8: I can do certain things for my parents, like you know,
• 17:04
  Speaker 8: I take them on holidays, I you know, pay certain
• 17:08
  Speaker 8: things for them, like in December I do, I buy
• 17:12
  Speaker 8: goes for them, so I do.
• 17:15
  Speaker 2: Okay.
• 17:15
  Speaker 3: See this is that there's a there's an englishman. A
• 17:18
  Speaker 3: mutually symbiotic.
• 17:20
  Speaker 1: Relationship, is correct?
• 17:22
  Speaker 2: Give me the full English? Am I right? And then
• 17:24
  Speaker 2: there we go. You see this is mutual.
• 17:27
  Speaker 3: There's money going to them from your end, and then
• 17:29
  Speaker 3: there's money going from them to you.
• 17:31
  Speaker 2: This is why this works. Our girl here, Natasha.
• 17:34
  Speaker 10: Yeah.
• 17:35
  Speaker 3: Now, once we give nothing to the parents and it's
• 17:37
  Speaker 3: just moaning that the parents are living their life.
• 17:39
  Speaker 8: But why are we working? Is it not that we
• 17:41
  Speaker 8: can help our kids to begin with?
• 17:44
  Speaker 3: No, No, it is to afford your child every opportunity
• 17:48
  Speaker 3: to stand on their own two feet.
• 17:50
  Speaker 8: Yes, but if you can see that your child is
• 17:52
  Speaker 8: trying and he's struggling, then here, why not as system.
• 17:57
  Speaker 3: I can assist you into finding a way for you
• 18:00
  Speaker 3: to stand on your own t street. But I'm not
• 18:01
  Speaker 3: I'm not paying for your holiday.
• 18:02
  Speaker 1: So you'd invested in my business?
• 18:04
  Speaker 2: No, no, no, come back.
• 18:06
  Speaker 8: But you know, if I've got the means and I
• 18:09
  Speaker 8: see that my child is raggling, then I don't mind
• 18:12
  Speaker 8: helping them.
• 18:13
  Speaker 2: Go get So do you have do you have siblings?
• 18:17
  Speaker 8: I do have one sibling.
• 18:18
  Speaker 2: And are they.
• 18:19
  Speaker 3: Also asking for money for your parents? Or are they're
• 18:21
  Speaker 3: the ones gi?
• 18:23
  Speaker 8: No, No, currently, my sister actually is looking for a
• 18:26
  Speaker 8: job and she gets a monthly allowance from my dad.
• 18:32
  Speaker 1: You guys are going to look after your daddy. I'm
• 18:33
  Speaker 1: just warning you at this rate, I mean the numbers
• 18:36
  Speaker 1: that you're throwing around here a wild I'm just making
• 18:39
  Speaker 1: make sure your house has a little as flat on
• 18:42
  Speaker 1: the outside because yeah.
• 18:44
  Speaker 8: Oh no, no, I always make sure that he gets
• 18:46
  Speaker 8: everything that he wants.
• 18:47
  Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, no.
• 18:49
  Speaker 3: No, I'm going to go back to my big English.
• 18:51
  Speaker 3: It's a mutually seen by your relationships. Never in my
• 18:54
  Speaker 3: life and I think that I would ever ever.
• 18:56
  Speaker 1: Use your English. Teachers are so proud that is this moment.
• 18:59
  Speaker 3: Don't as we to spell symbiotics, we might run into
• 19:02
  Speaker 3: a free problems take you by.
• 19:03
  Speaker 2: Now it's back to making your morning in La and
• 19:07
  Speaker 2: the Club on nine four seven