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How do narcissists act when you get the police get involved · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on beautiful people?
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  Welcome to another episode of the Narcissist Code.
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  I'm your favorite selfaware narcissist, Mr. Lee Hammock,
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  better known as mental illness across all social media
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  platforms. This your first time sitting in
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  my face or hearing my lovely voice.
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  I am a clinically diagnosed narcissist and I use my platform
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  on social media to raise awareness for NPD get more
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  people in the therapy and also validate the victims, survivors
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  and thrivers of said disorder. Said toxic people said toxic
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  traits. Today's episode is going to be
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  about how do narcissists react when the police get involved.
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  Eastern Standard Time. But yeah, Welcome back.
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  Welcome back. Welcome back.
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  Y'all. So how do narcissists react when
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  the police get involved? So absolutely.
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  Some narcissistic people, y'all. Some talks to people.
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  Some talks and narcissistic people will absolutely lose
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  their damn minds when the police get involved.
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  Some of them will, you know, I know.
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  It's. You know, when people ask me how
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  to get a narcissist to leave you alone, I tell people I like
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  regardless. Get the police involved.
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  Regardless of what happens next. Regardless of what, whatever
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  goes on. Get the police involved.
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  Because if you don't, that narcissistic person will think
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  that they can run run over top of you.
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  They they they they think whatever they do to you, it's
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  okay. Just like okay.
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  Well, you're not calling the police on me, so you must be
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  okay with my behaviors, right? You're not doing this, so you
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  must be. You must be fine with how I'm
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  treating you, right. You're not doing that.
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  So you must 100. You must 100% be just copacetic
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  with what is going on in this, in this space, whether I'm
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  popping up at your job, your house, your work, your place of
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  employment, whatever I'm doing, you must be okay with it,
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  correct? Because if you were not okay
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  with it, you could just block me.
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  I mean, you could, you would call the police.
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  You would just get rid of me, correct?
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  Yeah. Because some nurses, the people,
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  they would lose their minds. Y'all.
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  Yeah, they would. They would just like sometimes
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  getting the police involved will absolutely get them to leave you
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  alone. You know and that like it
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  becomes a deterrent in the police involved puts it on
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  record. You know and sometimes I mean
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  when I say get it police involved, I don't necessarily
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  mean calling the police and filing charges against somebody.
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  Sometimes it's it's it's good to just make an incident report so
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  there's a report of the incident to make it something to get
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  something on order something online.
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  I talked to a I did a one-on-one with a lady the other day and
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  she was saying that her narcissistic partner, whatever
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  she wouldn't filed a she wouldn't directly to the Police
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  Department and filed an incident report that this person was
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  stalking and harassing her just to put it on record.
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  So I don't necessarily want to press charges.
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  I just need to file something to put something on record that
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  I've been here and here's the proof that this is going on.
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  I don't want this person arrested.
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  I just need to come down here and file this, you know, just
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  let you know that there's something going on.
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  So if I do come back, you already have this to start
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  working with. And I don't know if that works
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  for everybody, but that works for her because her situation is
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  is extremely unique. But she said it worked for her,
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  they took that, they took that her name, wrote down that she
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  came in there and she had spoke to them and whatnot about her
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  particular situation. So that help that end up helping
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  her out right there in that space.
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  So just put getting the police involved, like if they put their
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  hands on you, you you pretty much have to call the police.
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  You know what I mean? And this was just, it made you
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  sometimes you don't want to do that in the moment.
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  Like I'm calling the police on you because they can.
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  Again, y'all saying out loud that you're going to call the
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  police. Could, could, it could make the
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  situation worse. They just say that they could
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  just like they could become just they could lose their minds
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  like, Oh no, you caught the police on me.
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  I got to take you up out of here.
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  So if they were going to leave you alone and stop doing what
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  they're doing, you said, I'm going to call the police.
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  They can snap on you, grab your phone, smash your phone, smash
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  your head, Whatever they're going to do, they can just snap
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  and lose their mind and start seeing red and attack you.
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  So telling them that you're going to call the police can put
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  you in danger. But I'm not telling you I'm not.
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  I'm not saying to not call the police.
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  I'm just saying, once they calm down, once you get a chance to
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  go, do something to get a second by yourself.
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  You can shoot a text message to one of your friends to tell them
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  to call the police, or you can call the police and secret on
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  your own. You can just dial now on one and
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  just do whatever they they'll send somebody out there
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  regardless. But you don't necessarily want
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  to alert them to the fact that the police are coming because
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  sometimes they can snap, you know?
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  Sometimes they'll run out the house, sometimes they'll calm
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  down, but sometimes they get absolutely snap.
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  Just you always use discretion. Y'all always use discretion.
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  And I know physical violence isn't always a part of toxic
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  relationships. Emotion, it's typically
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  emotional mental abuse or what not.
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  But you can call the police like say if they're stalking you and
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  harassing you and just, you know, in trying to intimidate
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  you or something like that, punching holes in the wall,
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  throwing things in your vicinity, pulling out weapons
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  and threatening you. Y'all, you might need to go to
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  get the police involved because sometimes they like, yes, they
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  can snap, but sometimes it's it becomes a deterrent.
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  You know, restraining orders or just, yeah, restraining orders
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  or just pieces of paper. If you get the whole list
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  involved and somehow or granted A restraining order, it is just
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  a piece of paper. It doesn't.
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  It's not a force field but that piece of paper can be a
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  deterrent to some narcissistic people to get them to leave you
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  the hell alone. You mean oh you got you you
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  filed a police report or you have frustrated or I mean I need
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  to leave you alone. They work sometimes in these
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  spaces because they'll leave you alone because they don't some a
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  lot of Narciss don't want to go to jail.
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  They don't want their freedom stripped from them because of
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  this relationship and how they're treating you and what
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  not. They don't want that to happen.
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  So it becomes a deterrent to you know the deter toxic
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  narcissistic behaviors and traits and things like that.
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  It becomes a deterrent. So they they won't do it.
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  They won't. They'll necessarily, they won't
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  necessarily leave you alone. But they might not do it again.
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  You know what I mean? It becomes a deterrent again.
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  What? What deters others, deters
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  others could aggravate the rest of them.
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  Like I said, you filed A restraining order.
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  They can still call you. They can still text you.
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  They can still harass you. It doesn't stop them from doing
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  that. They can still do that.
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  I had a matter of fact. I got a message from a a young
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  lady. And I know women can be
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  narcissist as well. Y'all.
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  But I got a message from a young lady.
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  She sent me a message like I haven't talked to my my, my
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  abusive partner. I haven't talked to them in a
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  few months. Why are they sending me these
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  text messages? One of the text messages just
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  read FU. You know the F word?
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  It's a FU. And then the next one said I'm
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  going to unalive you if you bring somebody else around you,
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  man, woman, child, whoever, without reasonable doubt I'm
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  going to unalive you and them, you know.
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  And by unalive I mean it starts with K and rhymes with heal, you
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  know, starts with K and rhymes with heal.
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  They said I'm going to starts with K and rhymes with heal you
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  if you have somebody else around you and gets here's the kicker,
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  y'all they already live with somebody else.
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  They live with a person of the opposite sex that you know, the
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  sex that they're attracted to. They already live with somebody
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  but they don't want you to move on.
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  I told her I was like, have you called the police?
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  So no, I don't. I don't do, I don't do that
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  because they're like, no, I don't want to ruin their life.
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  I'm not going to call the police because I don't want to ruin
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  their life. I like you're not ruining their
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  life. They know the difference between
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  right and wrong. They know they shouldn't.
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  They cannot convey these threats to you like this.
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  They know they can't send you a message saying this to you right
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  now. They know they can't threaten
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  you. They're ruining their own life.
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  You're not ruining y'all getting police involved.
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  They a narcissist could panic. It's just like oh you trying to
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  ruin my life. Oh you trying to do this to me?
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  You trying to do that to me? You're trying to take money out
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  of my kids mouth. You're trying to make me poor
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  and homeless. Y'all, you're not trying to do
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  anything. They are doing it to themselves
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  with their toxic, narcissistic, abusive behaviors.
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  They're doing this to themselves.
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  So if they if you tell them they're going to be going to
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  call the police, or if you already call the police, just in
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  your mind, keep it in your mind that you are not ruining
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  anything that they have going on.
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  It is them in their toxic behaviors.
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  It is them doing this to their selves.
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  It is not you, It is them doing it to their selves, you know?
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  So don't feel bad. I mean, I know I can say don't
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  feel bad. I know you're going to feel bad,
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  but don't beat yourself up for that right there, you know?
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  Don't beat yourself up for setting up that type of space
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  right there. You know what I mean?
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  It just, and that's how it works right there, just in that space.
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  Because like, you know, don't beat yourself up.
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  They they want to make you feel guilty about holding them
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  accountable. You're you holding them
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  accountable. It is not guilt.
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  You know You should don't feel guilty by holding them
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  accountable because they made the choice to do these toxic
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  behaviors. They made the choice to be
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  abusive. They made the choice to be toxic
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  and manipulative. They made those choices.
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  You didn't make that choice for them.
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  You see what I'm saying? So but like I said, you get the
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  police involved. It could go a few different
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  ways. Y'all but like this is the thing
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  right here. Y'all.
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  If you get the police involved and you hold them accountable
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  and you get them out the house and they somehow circumvent your
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  blocking your restraint order and they reach out to you and
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  you talk to them and you engage them and you let them back into
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  your house, child the police just, I've seen this happen
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  before. I've talked to people, I haven't
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  seen it personally in my real life, but I've talked to so many
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  people that this has happened to before what they are dealing
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  with. A narcissistic person talks a
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  person, abusive person or whatever, and they get them out
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  the house, they get restraint orders, they file charges and
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  then guess what? They let the person back into
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  the house. The person is living with them
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  and the person starts being abusive again.
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  And sometimes that person is take ends up taking their own,
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  taking their life, sending up, sending them about it here.
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  Yeah, I know you love these people.
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  I know you care about them, you know, for the most part.
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  But don't let your love and care be weaponized to get you to the
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  point where you give up your life for this person.
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  I don't think it's worth that, you know.
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  But a lot of people say, well Lee, you don't know what love
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  is. Your nurses okay.
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  Go ahead and love, love them. To love them to the end of your
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  life, which might be in the next couple weeks if you keep giving
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  into this toxicity out. Seriously, the more you go back
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  to these dangerous toxic gas people, especially if they
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  threaten to put their hands on you, especially if they threaten
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  your life, the more likely they are to end your life.
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  You know what I mean? And I say I know what I say.
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  That kind of sound like a joke. I'm not.
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  I'm literally, seriously not joking.
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  The more you go back to them, the more they think you're okay
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  with the behaviors and the worse the behaviors will get.
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  So you have to stay in power and you have to stay.
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  You have to protect your peace and protect yourself.
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  And like I said, if necessary, get the police involved and hold
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  them accountable. Y'all don't drop the charges at
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  the last minute because you feel bad for them or you think
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  they've changed. Because sometimes, like when you
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  press charges on a narcissistic person and you get the police
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  involved and they'll, yeah, they'll start to play nice with
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  you. They'll be the nice.
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  They'll turn into the nicest person ever just to get you to
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  drop the charges. And then guess what happened?
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  When you drop the charges, the mask comes off and they become
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  the person that you file the charges on again.
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  They become that toxic, abusive person again, very rarely.
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  They change for a long time once you get the police involved.
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  Y'all. So it's up to you to protect
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  your peace, to protect yourself, to protect your life.
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  It's your life. You have to live it to the
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  fullest extent possible, you know.
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  So if you if necessary, get the police involved and like I said,
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  just prepare for different reactions.
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  Y'all because some of them might leave you alone and some of them
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  might become extremely aggravated and become more
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  dangerous. Just use discretion, protect
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  yourself, protect your peace. And if you get out, yeah, if you
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  get out, stay out. Protect your peace, protect
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  yourself, y'all and just, you know, arm yourself if you have
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