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Grateful...What are you grateful for__ · Black Girl Interrupted Podcast

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Black rut. Y'all already know how you feeling. You're up, y'all already
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know how you started up? What's up? What's up? What's up?
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Okay, y'all already know what it is. It's your girl ass baby.
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Oh and I'm feeling good today. I'm feeling feeling feeling I'm feeling great today.
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Let me let me let me start off by saying it. Oh,
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welcome back to another episode of Black Girl interrupted. Of course y'all know who
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it is. It's your favorite girl five o folk bringing you another episode.
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This was not gonna be long tonight. I promised this was just gonna be
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brief. I just want to hop on tonight because I mean, we talk
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about everything, but I always, like I say, I always want to
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do something different every month, Like I always want to switch it up and
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always stop and give thanks and to ask what are you grateful for? So
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again, tonight's episode is not going to be a long, long, long
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episode. I'm tired, but I'm up, I'm good, I'm blessed.
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I have some energy today. Uh man, When I tell you today is
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is it's a day they go on my she's on hay sis. I was
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just about to call you back. I forgot you. What's going live?
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I love you? I love you too. Hold up, get these thinkers
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together. There we go. I get better every time. I try to
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do this every day, I get better at each and every time. Then
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I try to send y'all some hearts and some loves. But, like I
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say, tonight, it's a much needed conversation. As you know, the
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holidays are approaching. I know it's it's difficult for a lot of people.
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Some people are celebrating their first holiday without a loved one. This may be
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your second, this may be your tenth, this may be your twentieth year.
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I don't know. But I really wanted to get on here tonight and
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just really give thanks. I want to know what are you grateful for?
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You know that that's the conversation for tonight, Like what are you grateful for?
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Again? Y'all? You're a month and a half away from twenty twenty
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four, so I think it's time to just really give thanks for the things
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that have happened to us in twenty twenty three as we walk into twenty twenty
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four. But y'all already know before I even do all of that, y'all
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know I gotta do my mental health check in. I always have to do
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that. It's imperative because I know it gets a little I know it gets
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difficult. I know it gets rough for a lot of people. And I
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know a lot of people feel like they don't have anybody. They feel like
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they're alone. But I do want you to know your mental health does matter.
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If it doesn't matter to anybody else, it does matter to me.
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So y'all, I am. I don't know. I'm just in a different
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mood today. So let's jump into the mental health check in. Let me
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know in the comments, how will you feel in today? Again? Happy
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Wednesday, It is hump day. We are two days away from the weekend.
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We are eight days away from Thanksgiving or whatever holiday it is that you
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celebrate. Some don't celebrate Thanksgiving. I myself personally don't because I get up
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and I give thanks every day, so I don't need one day out of
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the year to give thanks. And if you really knew that, you let
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me not even go down that rabbit hole again. But let me do my
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mental health check in and just jump into tonight's conversation. Y's cool. We
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all have twenty four hours, all right, what makes some of us average,
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makes some of us good something great? It's not the family you was
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born into. Right, has none to do with that, have none to
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do with your social economic status. It has everything to do with how you
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command your life. So if you have a bad day, which is no
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such thing of it doesn't exist. You had a bad moment and you were
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so immature that you let that moment dictate the rest of your day. Right,
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And you're not kids no more. I don't do elementary school. I
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don't do elementary school because they really a fifth grader. If I'm talking to
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a third grade, fourth grade, and fifth grader, kindergartner, I don't
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care what I tell them. They're not at a place of maturity where they
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can switch their mindset their kids. You grown, and some of you are
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grown, but you're still a child. And you brag about how you're an
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adult. You're only an adult because of your age. You're not an adult
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because you command your life. You're adult because of your age, and that's
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not what makes adulthood. You're not an adult because you are eighteen years old.
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You twenty five, twenty six. If you still kept catching timper tangents,
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you still getting attitudes. That means you're not an adult in that area.
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That means that particular area controls you. Right, You almost got into
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a car accident. Car accident over with, car accident been over with ten
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hours ago, you still pissed about it. You done got into it with
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your friend that happened two days ago, and y'all still not talking. That's
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immaturity, right. And let me tell you something. You don't know how
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many days you have, Like, I'm just gonna keep it one hundred.
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You don't know how many days you have left. You don't want to be
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wasting days like you're not God, like, you don't create, You don't
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you can't wake yourself up. You don't know how many days you have left.
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You can't be playing with the days you have on foolishness. So you
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have to learn how to control yourself. Right, And so y'all know my
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circumstances. I'm not here because I'm sweet. I'm here because one day it's
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like yo, even you get a control of this, bro, You need
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to get control of your life. You do not have control. You watch
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a dog on TV playing video games when you should be out of your grindding.
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So there are people all day. People are et. Bro you do
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not want to be me. You're not ready for this grind, broh.
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Some of you you can show up when you're at home. When you go
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on the road, you struggle, meaning that when things are going the way
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you want, you cool. But when it rains, you like, you
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gotta grow up. Your body is not control you. If the money,
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if I got to get up early in the morning and get the money,
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I'm a morning person. If I gotta go play somebody in their hometown and
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they got home on the bank, I'm about to come bring the eed,
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Like, listen to me, like, you gotta stop playing. So most
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of you, what happens is when everything is favorable, you a beast.
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Make sure you understand what I'm saying. When everything is favorable, meaning like
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whatever conditions you like. When those conditions are right, you're a beast.
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But when the conditions ain't right, you get smacked in the face. You
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gotta grow up. You gotta make, you gotta make after you gotta make.
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You gotta be a morning person, afternoon person, night person. You
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gotta be at home person, on the road person. You gotta be when
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you when you when you feel good person, when you sick person, when
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you tie your person. I took an offensive, my man, look at
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me, you tire. I'm like, bro, have you lost your mind?
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About to kill it? Why do back to back speeches? Four o'clock
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to five? Then they wanted me to wait till eight to start again.
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I have to sit there for three hours and wait. It can't like,
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let's go each one of us. The things that you don't have control over
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is the things that's keeping you from being sweet. And at what point are
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you gonna fight against that? That nature in you that you know? So
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if I was an ass, most of you already know what your challenge is.
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You ain't dumb. You know what it is. You just don't fight
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it. And I'm challenging you to fight each And the only reason you're having
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a bad day is because of what you're thinking about. Now. I read
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something that said that the human brain is phenomenal and it could think like of
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a million and something different things, right, It's just it's explosive. But
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the one thing it cannot do is it cannot think of two ideas at the
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exact same time. It does not have the capacity to think of two things
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at once now has the capacity in an hour to think about a whole bunch
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of stuff, but at one particular moment, it cannot think about more than
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one thing. So if you're having a bad day or having a bad moment,
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it means you're probably focusing on what whatever that bad thing is. That's
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what you're focusing on. That's why your life messed up yup, because you
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focused on the stuff that's wrong. You're not putting the same energy on what's
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right. And it's just weird how we are as humans. We notice the
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bad and we talk about the bad, but we don't notice the good and
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talk about the good. We don't harp on the goods. And that's what
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you do wrong. You focus so much on the negative that you forget all
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the positive. And then when you do think about the positive, you're not
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putting the energy in the positive like you put in the negative. So it's
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no secret you are where you are because you focused on stuff you ain't got
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no business focusing on. We all have twenty four hours. Let me say
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this, y'all. When I picked that video, I hadn't even watched it.
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I'm like a big Eric Thomas saying, and I was like, you
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know what, I like that video. I want to, I want to.
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I want to play that one tonight. And that was my first time
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watching it. And when I tell y'all, fell so offended watching it because
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I know he was talking to me. I don't know who needed to hear
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that, but that was for somebody, and I know that somebody is me
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and everybody else that watches my show. What he said really hit home.
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He says, I'm where where we are because of how we think, and
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if all the energy we put into the negative, imagine what could happen if
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we put all that team energy into the positive. Oh. I needed to
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hear that today because effective today, I'm on a thirty day reset from my
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job. We are still doing our mental health check in. Let me know
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how you're feeling today, let me know how you're feeling mentally, How are
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you feeling physically, how are you feeling emotionally? But I'm on a thirty
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day reset from my job, from everything simply because I gotta get it together,
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because I have carried so much these last three years that I'm ready to
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put it down and put more focus into what I love doing, and that's
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this podcast. Oooh that hit home. It did anyone that's in my circle,
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and y'all know who y'all are. I don't have to name y'all.
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Y'all seen the loads and loads that I've carried that I made a promise to
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myself that after this thirty day reset, I'm coming back bigger, better,
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stronger. Listening to that video, a lot of y'all don't understand how great
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y'all are. I don't think a lot of y'all really really understand how wonderful
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y'all are. Regardless of what you have done in the past, that does
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not define you as a person. I tell y'all all the time. If
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you need a shoulder, I'm here. It's time for us to put these
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loads down and walk in our greatness. This is why I do what I
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do. I don't do this for publicity. I don't do this for fame.
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I don't do this for money. I do this because I enjoy doing
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this. But I've been so focused on what's not going on, what's going
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wrong, and not looking at what's going right. I am alive. You
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understand. My eyes opened today, but I didn't give God the thanks for
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that. I have a roof over my head, and I didn't give God
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thanks for that because I'm so focused on the wrong. Because I'm not in
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a house, i still live separate from my children. I'm still relishing in
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grief. I'm not taking care of myself health wise, but I'm not thinking
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God for what I have. You get what I'm saying. I have food,
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I have a job, I have beautiful people in my circle. I
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have a wonderful boyfriend. I have three beautiful children. I forgot about them
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because I'm sitting up here and I'm so focused on what's going wrong in my
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life. Because i'm looking at I'm not where I'm supposed to be. God,
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why I'm questioning? And I say this to y'all so humbly, thank
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God for where you are right now, not for where you used to be,
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but for where you are right now. Because we don't want to be
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where we used to be, because a lot of us didn't like who we
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were how we used to be. So that's why tonight I want to know
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what are you grateful for? I have let me see this. Ever since
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I started doing episodes like this, I peel one band dd off every time
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because I'm able to be vulnerable with y'all. I'm able to love y'all no
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matter what space I'm in, whether it's a light space or dark space,
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in between space, a good space, a bad piece, a happy space,
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or sad piece. I still get up and I pull up for y'all.
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But I still keep my cup full. One of the things that I
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am grateful for is the breath that I still have in my body. That's
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first and foremost. I'm grateful to my doctor, who is very has been
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very proactive in my mental health these last almost three years. I'm thankful.
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I'm grateful for that. I give gratitude to the beautiful people that pour into
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me. That's what you need to be grateful for. There are people out
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here who don't have a place to lay their heads, a stable place.
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Let me let me, let me say that there are people out here that
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don't have a stable place to lay their heads. And here we are complaining
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because we're not in a house. We're living in an apartment, we're living
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in a townhouse. We're living with our parents, we're living with our siblings.
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There are people out here that don't have anywhere to stay. But we're
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so focused on the negative, and we're not looking at the positive. We're
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not looking at the beautiful thing that God gives us every day. We're not
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looking at that because the devil. We're allowing the devil to control our thoughts.
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So on my thirty day reset, I'm gonna learn to undo the things
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that I don't like and start loving the things that I do like. Start
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putting more energy into the things that I do like and less of what I
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don't like. So I like being in an apartment, Absolutely not. But
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I have a roof over my head. I'm not where I'm supposed to be
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in life, but those are because of my own decisions and not anybody else.
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Those are decisions I made. So I'm grateful that I stood up and
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I took accountability for the decisions and the choices that I made in my life.
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I'm grateful for that. I'm grateful that God gives me another day every
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day that my eyes are able to open, that it gives me another to
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get it right. Even though I may have messed up yesterday. God says,
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you know what, I'm gonna give you another chance to make it right.
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But we're so focused on what happened yesterday that we forget about I got
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another chance to do it again today. I was talking to my sister this
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weekend and my sister was in a real, real bad space, but I
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had to call. I knew she didn't want to talk even if she didn't
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answer the phone. I just wanted her to know that I loved her and
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I was thinking about her. But she did. She picked up the phone
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and we talked and I told her, I said, you know, Sissy,
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I love you that even in your darkest moments, you still poured into
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me. So what type of sister would I be if I didn't do that
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and if I didn't give you that in return? And we talked about thirty
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minutes, and that was, let me tell y'all, that was the best
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thirty minute conversation we had the best because in that moment, I was grateful
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that even though my sister was in a dark moment, I still was able
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to bring a little light to her. So I'm grateful for the gift that
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God gave me and the ability to do such. That's what I'm grateful for.
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I'm grateful that God gave me a voice, that God helped me to
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create this beautiful platform called black Girl interrupted that I utilized my pain for the
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good. But at the end of the But at the end of the day,
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I'm like, why do I even still do this? I still question'd
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just be grateful because there are people that want to do what you do,
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but don't know how to don't know where to start, They're scared to do
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it because they're afraid of judgment. I'm grateful. I'm grateful that I was
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able at a monster and through all the pain that I've endured, I was
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able to find my gift. That's what I'm grateful for. I'm grateful m
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for the beauty. I'm grateful for the beautiful relationship that is starting to flourish
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with me and my mother. My mother. Anybody that has been following Ashley
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dan Pitts on Black Girl Interrupted, you know the history with me and my
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mother. So I'm grateful God has put me back in a position to work
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on our relationship. I'm grateful that I'm finally down to one hundred and fifty
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pounds, my diabetes is finally under control, my loopis is under control.
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I'm grateful. So can't nobody tell me God ain't able? Can't nobody tell
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me God don't keep you can't nobody tell me that when it rains, God
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don't give you an umbrella. Can't nobody tell me that. Because I'm grateful,
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I'm appreciative. I'm allowing with my mind. I'm giving myself grace because
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I know I can't undo everything in thirty days. I know this, But
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I'm gonna be grateful for the things that do change in these thirty days,
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and I'm gonna be grateful for the other days that change outside of these thirty
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days. I'm gonna be grateful that I make it to twenty twenty four,
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because there are a lot of people that won't get to see twenty twenty four.
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So I want to know what are you're grateful for? What are you
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grateful for? I don't want to hear the negative. I want to hear
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positive, Baby, I want to hear positive. I want to know what
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are you're grateful for? What do you give gratitude for? M I'm just
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grateful that I'm still here. I am grateful that those six attempts did not
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come to pass. I think I'm grateful that every weapon formed against me didn't
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prosper. That's what I'm grateful for. I'm grateful that I'm able to now
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work on shaking I'm the devil. That's what I'm grateful for. That's what
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I'm grateful for. I'm grateful that I am now moving back into the light
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and I'm coming out of the dark. Because if you've never been in the
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dark, you can't appreciate the light. That's what I'm grateful for. I
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don't know. I don't know what you're going through. I don't know what
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you've been through. But I love you. I love you anyway. I
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love you anyway. I don't care if you messed up yesterday. I love
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you today. I don't care what you did to me two years ago.
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I love you. I don't care how much you hurt me ten years ago.
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I love you. I forgive you. That's what I'm grateful for.
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Forgiveness, discernment, that's what I'm grateful for. I'm grateful. I'm beautiful,
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I'm phenomenal, I'm resilient. That's what I'm grateful for. I'm grateful
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that my black men are winning. I'm grateful to see my black sisters winning.
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I'm grateful that black men are now taking their health and their mental seriously.
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I'm grateful for that I'm grateful that my black women are now loving and
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respecting themselves. I love y'all for that. We're winning. What are you're
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grateful for? Talk to me? I want to know what are you're grateful
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for? I want to know what are you grateful for? What are you
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not? The negative, not the negative, the positive? What are you
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grateful for? Positive? Positive? Only positively only no negativity because you are
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what you speak. You understand you speak negative, negative things happen to you.
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You speak negative into your life. That's what's gonna come the past for
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you. We're not doing that anymore. I want each and every person that
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is tuned the and every person that is following me on my journey. I
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want you to dig deep and I want to know what your gift is.
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I want you to show the world what your gift is. I don't care
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what America says about black men and black women. I don't care what they
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say. You tell them. Ashley says you are phenomenal. You tell them
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Ashley says, you're not easily broken. You tell them. I said,
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you may be cracked, but you're not broken. You're fixable. That's what
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I'm grateful for. I'm grateful because I have some of the let me say
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this, God gave me some of the most amazing people. But the only
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way that I was able to become phenomenal, I had to let go of
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the ones that weren't so great for me. Even though they look good to
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me, they weren't good for me. So I need everyone to get in
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your space. I need you to get by yourself, not around the whole
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lot of people. I need you to get by yourself. And when I
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say by yourself, I need you to get naked, and I don't mean
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physical, but I need you to sit down, and I need you to
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tell God how phenomenal you are. I need you to give God all the
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grace. I need you to give God all the praise. I need you
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to stop. And you say, you know what, I don't give a
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damn about these because God told me that I'm phenomenal. God told me that
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I'm great. God told me I could be anything that I put my mind
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to. You can accomplish anything you'll put your mind to. Regardless of what
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one person says, that's the deemon, that's the devil working against you.
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We gotta stop, We gotta get suited up in our armor, baby,
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because guess what, twenty twenty four, the devil is really gonna come.
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He's really coming, and we gotta be prepared. We gotta be ready when
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he shows up. See, I wasn't ready when God showed up, and
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I allowed the devil to destroy me and a lot of relationships and a lot
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of things that I tried to do God. I allowed the devil to take
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that from me. He robbed me, but I allowed him. I allowed
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him to come and break into my house. But I told y'all twenty twenty
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four, I'm not allowing the level of the devil to take anything else from
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me. Allowed you to take too much, and that was my piece.
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I've allowed the devil to take too much for me, and I'll be damn
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if I allow you to take any more from me. You robbed me.
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I've missed out on so many amazing things, and a lot of y'all have
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missed out on some great things because we've allowed the devil to come and sit
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in our house. We've allowed him to come in and play with our children.
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We've allowed him to take things from us that we worked hard for it.
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We're sitting here now and we're just like, well, man, I
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remember when I used to ah ah. We're not talking about what we used
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to do. We're not talking about how we used to be. We're talking
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about how we are to date. We're talking about what we have to date.
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A lot of y'all, I've been friends with y'all ten fifteen years outside
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of social media, and I've seen the struggles and the ones that I've made
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it. I'm proud of you. I'm proud of you. You did it.
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Yeah, you fell down a couple of times, you did, but
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you got back up and you kept fighting. See a lot of y'all don't
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realize we're built for the war. Some of y'all just don't know that yet.
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A lot of y'all have been tested and you failed, And although you
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felt, a lot of y'all are afraid to take the test again. I
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don't care how many times you felt the test. You get up and you
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keep going. That's what I'm grateful for. I'm grateful when I tell y'all,
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I woke up this morning different. I woke up feeling different. I'm
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looking at the world different, I'm looking at myself different. I looked in
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the mirror and I cried, and I said, Ashley, get up,
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you're on a thirty day reset. Go. I'm scared. I'm gonna be
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honest with y'all. I'm scared. I'm afraid, and the only reason I'm
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afraid cause I don't know what it's like to be healed. I'm absolutely afraid.
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I'm not scared to tell y'all that, but I'm tired, tired of
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being in the dark. Do you know how many things we accomplished when we're
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in the light. Do you realize how many things we accomplish when we sit
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in the how many things we miss out on when we sit in the dark.
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When you're in the dark, you have no peace, you have no
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joy, pieces everything. People can't love on you when you sit in the
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dog. You can't do what you need to do sitting in the dog,
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because see, in the dark, that's where negativity resides. And who wants
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to be miserable their entire life? I don't. When I'm around y'all,
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I want to have pure joy. I want to give you pure joy,
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not fake. I don't want to pretend when I'm around y'all that I'm happy,
32:30
and I know deep down I'm not. No I don't want to do
32:32
that. Y'all don't deserve that. I don't deserve that. We deserve peace,
32:44
we deserve joy because when judgment day comes, I want to be able
32:49
to tell God, Oh yes, God, I lived in my best life
32:53
because I live in the light. Now, I'm no longer in the dog.
33:01
I took those blackout shades off my window. So what does that tell
33:08
y'all? I'm ready. Whatever you got covered up, take it off,
33:17
whatever you got that's keeping you, that's preventing you from getting to the light,
33:21
take it off, take it off, remove it. We're not doing
33:30
this, y'all. We're not sitting in the dark anymore. We're gonna sit
33:34
in the light. And I'm not saying that every day is gonna be a
33:38
good day, cause that's not the truth. That will be a lie.
33:43
So I'm not gonna lie to you, gonna tell you every day is a
33:44
good day for me. I know a lot of y'all don't have good days
33:46
every day. I know you don't, But let's embrace those good days and
33:52
focus less on those bad days. Cause through every l comes a w I
34:00
come to pour into y'all. I come to love on y'all. We laugh,
34:06
we joke, we patty, we crack jokes. That's what we're supposed
34:08
to do. But at what point do I need to stop and say,
34:12
I, Ashley, you need to pour into your people. Man, they
34:15
falling down, Get them up, pick them up, carry them with you,
34:19
drag them across the finish line with you. So that's what I'm doing.
34:23
My table is big enough for everybody to eat it. I'm not selfish
34:27
by no means. I don't care what you've done to me. I love
34:30
you. I still wish you well. I still pray that whatever storm you're
34:38
sitting in the midst of, I still pray that you get an umbrella.
34:43
I still pray that whatever weapon forms against you doesn't prosper. I don't care
34:46
how dirty you've done me, and I've been drugged through the mud, but
34:53
I still love y'all. And that's the guard in me. See now,
34:58
if that was the old me, i'd still cuss you out. So not
35:01
don't test me, but just know I do it through love. But I
35:09
want you all to get better. To my black women, you what a
35:15
shit girl. Excuse my language. You the bomb, baby, You're the
35:19
bomb. To my black men, I got your back, You're protected.
35:28
Your mental health matters to me. I think you're doing a great job to
35:31
every every black man that's watching that's a father, You're doing a great job.
35:37
I see you, even if you are dealing with your better baby mama.
35:43
I see you to your better baby mama. I'm gonna pray for you.
35:52
We got a lot of comments here we go. Huh, I'm so
35:57
sorry, y'all, so trigger says. Mentally, I'm okay physically, I
36:02
feel great. Emotionally, it's touch and go. I understand, Yoshi.
36:10
I love you too, says say Pooh. You have the resilience, big
36:16
bee. You've been through a lot and you're still standing tall, my sister
36:25
says, and all honestly. Honestly, Physically, I'm exhausted. Mentally I'm
36:29
tired, but every day I'm pushing because I don't have a choice. And
36:31
you know why. I do know why. I do know why, my
36:37
sister says. I love the strength that you were displaying, even when you
36:40
don't know you have it. I got it. I'm so proud of you
36:46
and your fight. Absolutely, because my battle never ends. But at what
36:52
point do we give that to God? At what point? Do we say,
36:58
you know what, God, this is too much from me. Let
37:00
me just go and set this down, let me back away, and I'm
37:02
gonna let you handle this. At what point do we do that? My
37:07
sister Jules says, I'm in a much better space mentally, by the grace
37:10
of God, this emotional roller coaster is finally slowing down. I praise God
37:15
daily. Thank you for the conversation the other day. I love you,
37:22
I'm proud of you and be grateful. Oh I tell y'all you know,
37:32
it's because of y'all. This is why I do this. This is why
37:37
I go as hard as I do with this podcast, because I know I'm
37:45
helping somebody, I'm touching somebody, I'm reaching somebody in some form of fashion.
37:52
And sometimes we need this. Black men and black women sometimes we need
37:57
these spaces where we just sit down and we just get real. I'm talking
38:00
about sometimes where we're just able to be vulnerable with no judgment because y'all already
38:06
know I don't allow disrespect on my platform. Y'all know that. So when
38:10
we're having our moments where we sitting down and we loving on each other and
38:15
we're pouring it into each other These are the days we need to celebrate.
38:22
We need to jump up for joy and say, man, somebody is seeing
38:29
me, somebody knows that I'm going through something, and somebody speaking to me
38:31
to day. These are the days that I live for, amongst other things
38:38
too. So Yo, she says, you look beautiful. You're amazing,
38:43
phenomenal, intelligent, intellectual, grateful. We are here for you, she
38:50
says, but they know you are there for them. Absolutely, she says,
38:54
Amen, she'd say, Mama's listening. Heava, I love you.
39:00
I love you, Mama. I miss your mama so much. Titha says.
39:05
She gives me hearts and kisses, I love you. Trigger gives me
39:07
Bookoo hearts. We got a lot of We got a lot, a lot,
39:10
a lot, a lot, a lot of comments. Okay, so
39:14
yo, she says, come on now speak. They're got my fellow Sagittarius.
39:17
She says, yes, Ash, you're better preach. Uh. They'll
39:22
got my sisters, my sister joh, she says, yes to you and
39:27
mommy. Absolutely, my girl, faith fe I love you faith Ae.
39:31
She's sending me Bookoo love. Trigger says today, I'm grateful for finding my
39:37
purpose and having the opportunity to live it out helping people. And that's that's
39:42
imperative. You understand. I'm challenging everybody, like I say twenty twenty four,
39:46
we need to shark. We need to start displaying our gifts because we
39:51
got gifts. Okay, let me tell you something. We are like the
39:54
seat. Let me tell you, black folks, y'all, we are like
39:57
the seasoning that goes in to a dish, that brings to the cookout.
40:02
You get what I'm saying. We're the seasoning that's missing in a recipe because
40:07
see us black folks. Babe, shoot, babe, we all guilt.
40:14
We're that extra oh that y'all need. And I and I just I love
40:21
this. I can't see it enough. I'm grateful. I'm grateful to have
40:25
these beautiful people. I'm I'm I'm grateful to just see y'all winning. I'm
40:34
grateful that y'all are be defying the odds because they say black men will never
40:39
amount to anything. They say black women all were good for is being baby
40:44
mamas, and and that's it. No, But I'm loving the fact that
40:46
and I'm grateful to be a part of the army that we're winning, that
40:53
were overcoming each and every obstacle that the devil throws our weight. I'm grateful
40:58
for that. I love that. I love when I see y'all on your
41:01
pages and y'all are celebrating a new job, or maybe you just had a
41:06
new baby, or maybe you know you're moving into a new space, or
41:09
your baby's great. I don't care what it is. I want to celebrate
41:14
that with you. I'm grateful that y'all allow me to be a part of
41:17
that. I'm grateful that y'all tune in and celebrate with me, big small.
41:23
I'm grateful that y'all love on me the way that y'all do, and
41:25
that I'm able to give the love back to y'all. This is what I
41:30
love. This is what I'm grateful for. So I want each and every
41:34
person. I want y'all to be grateful for that. I want y'all to
41:37
write a list. I don't care if it's two things, five things,
41:39
right down, get a piece of paper and write down what you're grateful for.
41:43
That's what I want y'all to do and focus on that and not the
41:49
bad. That's what I want y'all to focus on, less on the negative
41:53
and more on the positive, because y'all just don't even understand how great we
42:00
are, how phenomenal we are. Some of y'all don't see your gift.
42:07
Some of y'all are so focused because somebody told you you can't do this,
42:10
and so you carry that with you. I'm no longer allowing people telling me
42:15
what I can and can't do, because with God, I'm able to do
42:19
anything. Okay, that's what I'm able to do. I don't care what
42:24
this person told me that lives next door to me or whatever. I don't
42:29
care whatever a person has told me, Ashley, you can't do this.
42:31
God says I can and he has the final say, so your opinion doesn't
42:37
matter to me. As long as I got gud baby, I might a
42:39
beble to do anything that I want to do. Baby. If I want
42:42
to sell shoelacers, I'm gonna be the best shoe shoelace seller out there in
42:45
the world because God told me I could do it. And I'm gonna put
42:51
my hands on my hips and roll roll my neck and roll my eyes at
42:53
the next person that tell me what I can't do because bebe let me tell
42:58
you something God told me I could now what? Now what? Now?
43:02
What? If God tells you what you can do, that's all that matters.
43:07
I don't care what man or woman tell me. You can't tell me
43:10
what I can't do. And I'm not gonna tell you what you can't do,
43:14
because guess what, God says you're able? Now what? And you're
43:19
tell them that and you walk off? Hmm, that's what you do.
43:25
Because it's a lot of people out here that are praying on your downfall.
43:28
It's a lot of people out here that aren't. They're upset because they're still
43:32
negative and and you've overcome that, you've elevated from that. There are people
43:37
out here that are mad at you. Let them be mad, because baby,
43:43
I'm comfort. God told me I know what you could do. But
43:50
do you know what you could do? Crickets, we're tested every day.
44:07
Trigger says, praise God for the good news. I love you, sister.
44:09
I love you too, baby, I promise I do. I miss
44:12
you, Larry. That's my Let me tell y'all something. When I first
44:17
moved to Atlanta, that dude right there, that was my guy, he
44:22
says. Keep expressing, keep reaching, and keep motivating us of the mentally
44:25
wear repeats Absolutely, I'm gonna always motivate y'all because a lot of people don't
44:30
understand that suicide is the third leading cause of death and black men. A
44:36
lot of people don't know that mental health it's not taking seriously in the black
44:43
community because the people are afraid to talk about it. I'm not I'm no
44:46
longer afraid because someone shares the same story as me. There's someone sitting in
44:52
their own storm right now who doesn't know how to get out of the rain.
44:55
But that's why I'm here. I'm here to push you. I'm here
45:00
to encourage you. I'm here to empower you. I'm here to uplift you.
45:01
I'm here to love on you. Regardless of whatever it is that you're
45:06
going through. We're gonna get through. We're gonna grow through, and it's
45:15
gonna hurt because there are gonna a lot of there's gonna be a lot of
45:17
people that you're gonna outgrow. There's gonna be a lot of people that,
45:22
as bad as you want to hold on to him, God is gonna remove
45:25
them. God is gonna put him out of your They're gonna he's gonna clear
45:28
your path. He's gonna move them out of the way because he's gonna clear
45:31
your vision because hee, a lot of us are blinded. Uh, it's
45:35
a facade, a mirage. You know, we think we they're they're good
45:38
people, but really, truly they're not. So God is gonna move those
45:43
people out of your way, those stumbling blocks, those weapons. And I'm
45:49
gonna keep saying it. I know those weapons form, but they're not gonna
45:52
prosper as long as we don't let them. As long as we come out
45:58
of the dark and we sit in the light, maybe we're gonna excel.
46:02
We're gonna win, We're gonna be victorious, and then we'll be able to
46:07
have a testimony. But first we gotta take the test. I've taken a
46:15
lot of tests. I've been tested a lot, and I failed a lot.
46:19
But that's why I have a testimony. That's why I have a testimony,
46:23
because I've taken a test. Some of y'all are still being tested,
46:28
and some of y'all are still failing. But the reason a lot of y'all
46:30
are still failing is because you're still holding on to the what could have been.
46:37
We're no longer holding on to the what could have been. We're gonna
46:42
hold on to what could be and what will be. Let me correct that
46:45
we're holding onto what will be because we're gonna start speaking like we've already accomplished
46:51
this. We're gonna start speaking like we've are, like we already have it.
46:54
We're gonna start showing grace. We're gonna start displaying gratitude. That's what
46:59
we're gonna start doing. So for twenty twenty four, see let me say
47:05
this. So for the remainder of twenty twenty three, let's lie the gag
47:07
and play do whatever. But in twenty twenty four, baby, you better
47:10
be ready to show up. You better be ready to show up. You
47:15
better be ready to be grateful and give grace and gratitude and let go of
47:23
what could have been and less focus on what will be because I know what's
47:29
gonna be. I'm speaking positivity, baby, I'm speaking prosperity into each and
47:36
every last person that's watching. No matter how far and debt you are,
47:43
God is gonna clear it for you. That's what he's gonna do. God
47:52
is gonna elevate you to a higher level. He's gonna provide for you.
47:54
He's gonna find you and put you in a position where you can elevate.
48:00
Don't be scared, though. We gotta stop running, because only the devil
48:08
brings fear. So all this time, I've been allowing this little devil that
48:16
tiss on my shoulder again to control my life, to dictate my feelings.
48:22
That's what I've been doing. That's why I've been miserable. That's why i've
48:28
been sad. That's why i've been depressed, That's why my anxiety is up.
48:34
That's why I can't sleep because I'm allowing the devil to play in my
48:38
mind. I'm allowing him to control my thoughts. And God is trying to
48:43
give me peace. God is trying to give me rest, but I joined
48:50
playing over here with the devil because the negativity, the negative, the negative.
48:54
The dog is comfortable, it's familiar, So we gonna always go back
49:00
to what we know. What's fami you, and that's in the dark.
49:01
But I look better in the light, don't you think. Don't y'all think?
49:07
I think y'all look so much better in the light. I don't like
49:12
seeing y'all in the dog. I can't see you. As long as you
49:16
sit in the dog, you can't even see yourself. You see a mirage.
49:28
But when you come into the light, baby, y'all shine, you
49:30
glow, You shine bright like a diamond like Rihanna says, you shine bright
49:35
like a diamond. That's what you are. You're beautiful. God is gonna
49:47
always keep you. I love you two, sister. God is gonna keep
49:54
you. But at what point do we turn it up? Can we start
50:07
gluing? Can we just love each love ourselves? Can can we love?
50:20
Can we give? Can we praise? Because God has kept a lot of
50:29
us, a lot of us, a lot, a lot a lot of
50:35
us. God has kept us and carried us. And then the moment we
50:39
get to where we're trying to go, we know we act like we don't
50:43
need him until we need him. So I'm grateful that God is allowing me
50:53
to love him a little more and release a little more. I'm grateful for
51:01
that. I'm grateful. I love you more than you know, Sissy,
51:07
and you know that. Ms. Toushina says, I'm grateful for a second
51:15
chance of living life the way I deserve. I'm grateful for my health,
51:17
strength, and my family. The love they have for me is amazing and
51:22
it's one of a kind. That's what I mean when I say grateful.
51:27
She got a second chance. A lot of people aren't getting second chances.
51:34
Be grateful, be grateful for that. I remember when Miss Toushina was sitting
51:42
in a dark place. I remember, and I'm grateful that you made it
51:52
out of the dog. I'm telling you, my sister, Yoshi, I
52:00
remember she was in the dark, and now she sits in the light.
52:08
She displays her gift for the world to see. I need some of y'all
52:15
to do that, you know what. Let me correct myself. I need
52:19
a lot of y'all to do that. I need everybody to do that.
52:22
I need y'all to come into the light. I promise that's what I need
52:27
y'all to do. I need y'all to move out of the dark and come
52:30
on into the light. I need y'all. I need to know what are
52:31
you're grateful for? I want to know what are you're grateful for? And
52:39
Yosh says, in where we are going, I'm going further. I'm trying
52:43
to tell you I'm right here at the finish line. But God says your
52:50
race is not over. You'll still got some more to do. So I'm
52:55
grateful for every test that God gives me and I'm passed, I'm grateful.
53:01
I'm grateful even when I don't pass, because guess what, when I wake
53:05
up the next day, that gives me another chance to get up and do
53:07
it all over again. But this time I know what to do differently.
53:13
See, I learned from my past mistakes, and those past mistakes didn't feel
53:19
so good to me. So I like where I'm at now, not only
53:24
physically but mentally and emotionally because now I'm learning how to pick and choose my
53:30
battles. So I'm grateful for that. I'm grateful God has come and sat
53:38
with me and has told me, nash La, I've seen you do this
53:45
and this and this, and this is why you're not getting blessed. This
53:49
is why you're going through what you're going through. So I'm grateful that not
53:54
only did God forgive me, but the people that I hurt forgave me.
54:00
That's what I'm grateful for. Miss Octavia says, Yes, that's what I'm
54:06
grateful for. Miss Octavia says, I'm grateful for life absolutely. Because I
54:15
say this all the time. There are a lot of people that are not
54:17
gonna wake up tomorrow. So I give gratitude, and I give grace to
54:25
the Almighty who makes it possible for me to be where I am, for
54:35
me to do the things that I do, for me to be able to
54:37
give and show the world my gift because I didn't know I had this,
54:43
because see, I didn't want people to know my business. You know what
54:45
I'm saying, because people were so busy judging. But those are only people
54:54
that judge and keep a score of the things that you've done. Don't mean
55:00
you Well, I don't need you to keep a score of the bad things
55:07
that I've done, because you know what, I don't live at that address
55:10
anymore. I've moved somewhere different, so you could keep pointing and saying,
55:17
oh, yeah, I remember when to ask. Yeah, But let's talk
55:20
about what Ashley is doing now, causeye that's how you get your blessings.
55:27
Cause see, if I held everybody hostage at their old address, I probably
55:32
wouldn't be here. I probably wouldn't be blessed like I am right now.
55:40
I just got to love you, even though you may not like me,
55:45
I love you. You may not like me, you may not have liked
55:49
the things that I've done or the things that I've said, but I love
55:52
you. I apologize because that was the hurt Ashley. That was the Astley
55:59
that was hurt, that was that wanted everyone else around her to hurt.
56:02
So I'm grateful for this new person that God is allowing me to become.
56:08
So I'm grateful for that. I'm grateful. Mister Sheena says, you got
56:14
this is absolutely I do. I received that, and I believe that because
56:20
I woke up different today because I said, you know, I can't allow
56:28
a job to stress me out. I can't allow people to stress me out.
56:32
I can't allow I can't keep allowing certain situations to stress me out.
56:37
So I have to do a reset. A thirty day reset is what is
56:40
needed and warranted, and I'm gonna do just that. In these thirty days.
56:50
I'm gonna fine and work on one thing at a time, not everything,
56:54
not multiple things. So let me say this, when you start your
56:58
reset, focus on one thing at a time. Don't overload your plate,
57:06
because then you're gonna be right back and squire one. So I'm gonna tell
57:10
you what I'm gonna work on coming out of the door, going outside,
57:19
because I don't go outside. I'm gonna work on that and breathe this air
57:28
and and and be able to enjoy the outside. Because see, once you
57:31
get in that box, that's it. And I don't. I don't want
57:36
to live in a box anymore. I want I want to go outside.
57:37
I want to get back to the old Ashley. And I know y'all remember
57:42
the fun Ashley. I want to get back to that person. Yo.
57:47
She says, Let the Lord lead your way, absolutely, she says,
57:51
let him be your guiding light. It's a lot of comments, y'all,
57:54
it's a lot of comments. They're gonna my sister, that's my work,
58:00
best friend. She says. I'm grateful for life and my kids. Javera
58:06
says, I'm grateful that my mom has me to depend on. With everything
58:09
that I'm going through mentally, physically and emotionally, my mom still has me
58:13
to depend on absolutely, and she has God. Because you get your strength
58:17
from God. Because I know there are a lot of days that you're ready
58:22
to give up. I know there are a lot of days that you're ready
58:23
to throw on a tower. I know those days, but you get up.
58:30
God wakes you up every day. It gives you the strength to keep
58:32
going. But just wait till you get that reward in the end, because
58:37
be bad. Hmm, that reward is gonna be so sweet. God never
58:49
does anything that we're not ready for. Miss Octavia says, Amen, she
58:57
says, let the light shine. She says, trust in God. Yosh
59:05
says, you have to let us love you also, absolutely, and I
59:08
have to stop closing down because I tend to do that when I'm going through
59:15
stuff. I shut down and I don't let y'all in. And I have
59:19
to stop doing that. So that's another thing on my thirty day reset.
59:23
It's to come out of that. Oh, ain't nobody here for me.
59:27
I'm because baby, y'all showing me right now that y'all hear y'all showing me.
59:32
I'm grateful. I'm grateful. I'm grateful that y'all grabbed me and pulled
59:42
me back up and say, come on, I we still got to get
59:44
to the finish line. You haven't fulfilled your purpose. So I'm grateful for
59:50
that. I'm absolutely grateful for that. So Shena says that part. Yosh
59:59
says, stop rejecting love. We're trying to pour into you. Sis,
1:00:00
I know it. But it's familiar. And I do that because I've been
1:00:07
stung so many times by the very same people that I've tried the love on
1:00:14
that I've tried to pour into. So I'm working on that. That's part
1:00:20
of that thirty day reset, and that's getting back into who I was three
1:00:23
years ago, but different, better, stronger. I want to go back.
1:00:31
Let me see this. I want to go back to the old Ashley,
1:00:35
but improved. Does that make sense? I want to go back,
1:00:38
but I want to come back improve I want to come back. I'm ready
1:00:43
to come and get back into my full Ashley. You get what I'm saying.
1:00:46
I want to come back and I need to be ready. And when
1:00:51
I say ready, I don't mean just ready. I mean mentally ready,
1:00:58
physically ready, emotionally ready, spiritually ready. That's what I mean when I
1:01:02
say when I come back, That's how I want to come back. I'm
1:01:07
ready to laugh again. I'm ready to get outside. Although I'm no longer
1:01:12
for the streets y'all. You know, Big Daddy will not let me,
1:01:15
you know, be for the streets, but I'm ready to get back into
1:01:19
that. I'm ready to have fun, y'all, because I've missed so much.
1:01:22
We have all missed so much because we were letting the devil keep us
1:01:29
confined in this little bitty box. So I'm grateful that God has unwrapped the
1:01:37
box. He's opened it up, and he's carefully taking me out, and
1:01:42
he's setting me outside of the box, and he's pushed the box to the
1:01:45
side. He's thrown the box away, He's destroyed the box. So,
1:01:49
y'all, I can no longer get back in that box. I can no
1:01:52
longer get into a place that I deemed comfortable. So I'm scared, but
1:02:04
I know what God, I could do anything. I know, y'all,
1:02:07
is scary to do something different because we're so used to doing the same thing
1:02:13
over and over and over again. We're afraid to try something new. But
1:02:16
the new is always better than the old, and it feels better than the
1:02:21
old, although we know we look at the old and we're just like,
1:02:23
oh my God, I just want to go back. No, because think
1:02:28
about what the old did to you mentally, emotion spiritually, physically, think
1:02:32
about what the old did to you. That all won't look so good to
1:02:37
you anymore, that old won't taste so good anymore. It'll become a bit
1:02:40
of taste. So God again has taken me. So God is so God
1:02:45
again, y'all. Let me say this, we've all been in our boxes.
1:02:49
Okay. Yosha says, you're doing an amazing job. Also to to
1:02:52
saypool thank you. So Shehina says, I am coming back around to me.
1:02:59
God has been God in my steps even when I'm afraid to keep pushing
1:03:01
mentally, I'm okay today and that's okay. Trigger says, you're doing a
1:03:09
great drive. Thank you for thank you for the safe space you create for
1:03:14
create for us here. And it's gonna always be a safe space here because
1:03:17
only peace resides here. Let me let me say this, y'all. We're
1:03:21
not doing the negative. We're not doing negative anymore. Okay, we're not
1:03:23
doing that period and that's on Mavery had a little lamp, and that's on
1:03:29
Jesus Jerome Jackson Junior the Third. We're no longer doing negativity, baby,
1:03:32
because we're too positive. I told y'all, we're that season. We're not
1:03:37
Salt and Papa Baby, We're that told as Satyrist. We're at lowrist.
1:03:42
We're at more than seasonal, Baby, we are the flavor that everybody's been
1:03:45
missing. That's what we are. We break, We add the too it,
1:03:54
so get in. Let me tell y'all something, wherever you go,
1:03:59
you bring it on to it. Okay, you bring it. You add
1:04:01
that extra flavor to it. If you tropical punch kool aid, baby,
1:04:06
put put another dash of sugar in it, baby, just just to sweeten
1:04:10
it up a little bit. That's what y'all start. That's what we're gonna
1:04:14
start doing. So we're gonna get out of these little boxes that we've built
1:04:18
for ourselves that I'm gonna say that we're gonna stop being prisoners in our own
1:04:24
minds. We're gonna come out of those boxes. We're gonna destroy the box,
1:04:28
thull the box away because we have to stop running back to places that
1:04:31
are familiar to us, that we're comfortable to us, but we're killing us
1:04:35
at the same time. Come on, now, come on now, stop
1:04:42
playing. Alnicia says, I'm getting to a better place, a better space
1:04:48
mentally. But I'm not going to give up. And you won't because let
1:04:53
me tell you some when you achieve peace, maybe you could overcome anything anything.
1:05:01
Now Now what we put let me tell you something. We are rolling
1:05:08
our eyes, and we rolling our necks, putting our hands on our hips,
1:05:12
we stomping our feet on negativity, baby, because we're doing everything positive
1:05:16
in twenty twenty four. Y'all just don't even understand how twenty twenty four is
1:05:20
gonna be amazing for all of us. You may be down right now,
1:05:30
but you're not out again. There are people that watch all pages and are
1:05:38
waiting on y'all to fail. Let me run that back one more time.
1:05:46
It's a lot of people that are watching your page, or they're sitting on
1:05:50
the sideline watching what you're doing, waiting and hoping that you're gonna fail.
1:06:00
God says, hold up, hold up, I got you. Don't even
1:06:02
worry about it. Stop trying to spend the block on people, y'all.
1:06:11
Okay, I'm throwing my head side the side because guess what, we always
1:06:15
want to get our lick back. Ah, I'm gonna let God handle you
1:06:18
because he hits harder than me. Somebody better say, hey, man on
1:06:25
that one. I know y'all waiting for me to fail. I know a
1:06:29
lot of y'all are like, oh she just I'm baby, I'm true to
1:06:32
this. See. God just spent the block for me. Some of y'all
1:06:41
still willing to be picked up. I said it, so she says,
1:06:47
I'm grateful for you creating this space for us black men and women. Thank
1:06:50
you forever for your voice. Absolutely, and I'm always create a space for
1:06:55
black men and black women until God tells me I got to go sit with
1:06:59
him. That's why I'm doing this. Like I said, a lot of
1:07:03
people get on these platforms and they try to do this for likes and shares.
1:07:09
I don't do this for all of that, because, let me tell
1:07:12
you, there have been days that I've done my podcast and no one has
1:07:15
tuned in. But God say, you keep going because somebody's watching. But
1:07:24
again, God has spent the block for me. Some of y'all still sitting
1:07:29
on the curb waiting. That's what I'm grateful for. I'm grateful for that
1:07:34
God double back and came back around and picked me up because at that point
1:07:39
I was ready. See God passed by me, okay, and he left
1:07:45
me because God said, you're not ready your shit. So I'm gonna leave
1:07:49
you here to think about your decisions that you've made, and then I'm gonna
1:07:55
double back when you're ready. So when I sat down and I Oh God,
1:08:00
I say, God. I said, I'm ready, Can you come
1:08:03
pick me up? God said, You're not really ready, So I'm gonna
1:08:12
keep allowing life to keep life in until you really truly get ready to see.
1:08:15
God knows the truth. So you may lie to your friends, to
1:08:18
your loved ones, but you can't lie to God. And I kept telling
1:08:23
God, I'm ready, but I'm ready. Oh God, man, come
1:08:25
on. God told me, no, you're not. When you're ready,
1:08:30
I'll come back and pick you up. And that hurt the most. And
1:08:36
the only reason he didn't spend the block for me then is because I was
1:08:40
still trying to do everything, because I wasn't allowing God to have his way
1:08:44
with me, you get what I'm saying, because I still have my hands
1:08:45
in the pot. So God left me to sit on the curb to think
1:08:48
about my decisions that I made. God left me on the block to think
1:08:56
about the words that I've spoken to people. Why he didn't pick me up.
1:09:00
He left me there. He tested me, and I passed. Because
1:09:06
here we are three years later. A black Girl interrupted podcast. Mhm,
1:09:16
some of y'all don't don't don't don't understand that some of y'all don't. Don't
1:09:20
y'all don't get that part I'm sending. I'm sending love back to you.
1:09:28
So she says, Amen, God has been moving those weapons out of my
1:09:30
way, asking God for clarity on people, and and discernment has been showing
1:09:34
me a lot. A lot of y'all don't even understand that when your vision
1:09:40
is clear, you get to see everything. That's why a lot of y'all
1:09:45
still sitting on the coroner on the curve. You get what I'm saying.
1:09:48
A lot of y'all are still sitting on the curve. This is why God
1:09:50
ain't pit the block for you. Oh that's why, because y'all didn't asking
1:09:56
to clear the path for you, because you're still in and you don't even
1:10:00
have twenty twenty vision. That's why he still got y'all sitting on the sidewalk,
1:10:08
rusty, dusty, dirty biddle miserable. That's why. But when I
1:10:20
went to God and I told him, come on, God, I'm ready,
1:10:24
I'm ready. Now, I'm ready, he said, I know you're
1:10:26
not. You keep telling everybody else you're ready, but I know you're not
1:10:30
ready. And I really wasn't until I had to get naked, until I
1:10:42
had to take accountability for those words that I spoke, for the things that
1:10:47
I've did to people, for the people that I've hurt, for the people
1:10:55
that I've lied to, for the people that I've stolen from. Until I
1:11:01
was ready to take accountability for that, God told me, you sit your
1:11:04
dusty behind on the curb and you wait your turn, and that hurt.
1:11:15
Sashina says, you claim and declare what is ours and be thankful for what
1:11:18
is, what hasn't happened yet and what's to come. Absolutely, because I'm
1:11:24
no longer focusing on what I could have been, but I'm focusing on what
1:11:28
I will be. That's what I'm doing. And I thank God that he
1:11:32
spent the block because baby ill don't even understand this ride. It's peaceful.
1:11:42
Trigger says, oh amen Ky nat Ky, Sissy, I miss you too.
1:11:51
I miss you too, Trigger, I promise I do. I miss
1:11:54
you tremendously. What are y'all grateful for I've given? I know I've given
1:12:03
y'all a laundry list of things, but I'm grateful. I'm gonna go outside
1:12:12
tomorrow, even if that's just to sit on my balcony, I'm gonna get
1:12:16
out of my house. I'm gonna cry when I walk out that door.
1:12:26
Not tears are sadness, but tears a joy. Since you know I miss
1:12:34
you. You know, girl, you know I miss you. But I
1:12:39
can't wait till you come to Houston. I can't wait till you come and
1:12:43
see me. Girl. Look, let me tell you something twenty twenty four.
1:12:46
Let me say this, y'all. Let me say this twenty twenty four.
1:12:49
We're gonna take them trips, even if they solo trips. We about
1:12:55
to get out here and live our best life. Big Daddy says, Hey,
1:13:00
beautiful, I'm grateful you're in my life. Oh it's bait, it's
1:13:05
you are. I'm sorry. I love you though I hope you're having a
1:13:10
good day at work. A good night, Nat says, Come to the
1:13:15
a girl. We're gonna cut girl with no sizzles. We cutting up with
1:13:18
no sissles. Let me tell you those trips that y'all are planning, even
1:13:26
if your friends don't show up, baby, take that trip in twenty twenty
1:13:29
four, Take that trip, show up for you. Don't worry about everybody
1:13:35
else. Be grateful for that. Excuse me be grateful because we don't know
1:13:48
how much time we have left here. Allow God to spend the block on
1:13:56
you and come pick you up a big Let me tell you something. Now
1:14:03
you already know. Let me tell y'all, we gotta get Let me say
1:14:05
this. We have to do a Comcast reunion. That that's a must,
1:14:11
because let me tell you something. Wasn't no crew like our crew when we
1:14:14
lived in Atlanta, when we wor at that Comcast. Little brother, now
1:14:18
you already know. Yes, we're gonna hit up, bugger. Absolutely,
1:14:23
we're gonna cut up. I promise you, we're gonna have us a ball.
1:14:26
We're gonna Let me tell let me see this. I want to come
1:14:30
see y'all because I haven't been. I haven't been in Atlanta in three years.
1:14:34
It's very bittersweet. But I can't let that hold men back anymore.
1:14:43
I gotta come. I gotta see y'all. I gotta come love on y'all
1:14:46
like I gotta hug y'all. I need to pray with y'all. I need
1:14:49
to do everything with y'all. Like we need to have a barrel of last.
1:14:54
We need to make some beautiful memories because when our time comes, we
1:15:00
don't want to leave here with regret. So let's be grateful for the time
1:15:04
that we have here on earth. Okay, let's do that. Let's twenty
1:15:09
twenty four and Atlanta reunion. Okay, a Comcast reunion. Everybody that's in
1:15:15
Atlanta. We need to pull everybody together, and it needs to be a
1:15:19
weekend of love, a weekend of joy, a weekend of praise, a
1:15:26
weekend of memories. You'll get what I'm saying. And we need to stay
1:15:35
connected. Nat says, I need a lead from Comcast. Lol, just
1:15:45
like three months, maybe eight months. Let me tell you something, says,
1:15:46
take that lead, Take that lead, Take that Let me tell you
1:15:53
something. Your mental health matters. You take that lead. You take care
1:16:00
of you because self self care is very important. Because let me tell you
1:16:03
something, these these these jobs, they don't care about you. They don't
1:16:09
care about your mental They just as long as you show off for them,
1:16:11
that's all they care about. But you take a step back and you and
1:16:15
you focus on you, and you take care of you. That's what you
1:16:18
do. Don't worry about what nobody else says. You take care of you.
1:16:28
That's what you do. But again with tonight, y'all welcome back again
1:16:33
to another episode. A black girl interrupted again. Tonight, we'll talk about
1:16:38
grateful gratefulness, gratitude. What are you grateful for? I've given y'all a
1:16:43
laundry list of things, and and and the list can go on and on
1:16:45
and on and on and on and on and on and on and on.
1:16:48
She said, yes, it does, because I be replaced in three days
1:16:50
if I die. Baby, let me tell you something. The day you
1:16:53
die, they gonna have somebody sitting in your in your chair, if not
1:16:56
the same day the next. Now, what are you grateful for? Because
1:17:02
again, positive positive vibes, only positive, positive, positive, positive positive.
1:17:10
That's all we're doing. No more negativity, Okay, no more negativity,
1:17:15
no more, no more, no more sitting in the dark, no
1:17:18
more sitting in these boxes. We're not doing it. Twenty twenty. Let
1:17:21
me say this, twenty twenty four. We're coming for everythink. Let me
1:17:26
say this loud, twenty twenty four. We are coming for everything that we've
1:17:30
allowed the devil to steal from us. We're coming to take it back.
1:17:36
That's what we're doing. Everything the devil stole from me. I'm coming to
1:17:41
take it back because it belongs to me. They don't belong to you.
1:17:45
It belongs to me. So that's what I'm grateful for. I'm grateful for
1:17:50
that. I'm grateful that God every day gives me the strength to get up
1:17:56
and fight every battle that comes my way. That's what I'm doing in this
1:18:00
thirty day reset everything that I've allowed the devil to do. I'm coming back
1:18:08
for it times two. So you may have taken one, but I'm coming
1:18:14
back for two. Hell maybe ten. That's what I'm coming back for.
1:18:20
And I need every person. Whatever you have allowed the devil to steal from
1:18:24
you, you need to go and you need to take it back. You
1:18:28
take it back from him. You go into his house and you take it
1:18:32
back. Do you hear me? We spend in the block in twenty twenty
1:18:40
four on the devil everything that you took from me the first time. I'll
1:18:45
be damn if I let you take it from me again. And that's on
1:18:47
God, that's on Jesus, Jerome Jackson Davonte Jr. The Third Baby,
1:18:55
whatever Jesus name is. That's what I'm doing. I'm spending that's the only
1:18:59
block I'm spending on, and that's the devil because you stole too much from
1:19:03
me. You robbed me of my joy, You took my peace from me,
1:19:08
and I let you take it. I allowed you to take that from
1:19:12
me. Although God is telling me, Ashley, I got you, hold
1:19:16
on, You're gonna be all right. I didn't believe him because I'm too
1:19:19
bisus. I was. Let me say this, Let me back up.
1:19:24
The only thing we're spinning the block on is the devil. That's the only
1:19:29
thing we doubling back on. We're not going back to old addresses. We're
1:19:33
not spending the block on xes. We're not doing none of that. I'm
1:19:38
spending the block on the devil because I allowed you to come into my house
1:19:42
and you robbed me. You stole from me, You stole my joy,
1:19:45
you stole my piece, you stole my love, you stole my sanity that
1:19:50
I was no longer able to give to anybody else. And I allowed you
1:19:54
to take that from me. But I be damn if I let you take
1:19:56
that from me again. I be damn if I'll let you take that from
1:20:01
me. I allowed you because I was vulnerable, because I was weak,
1:20:09
and it looked good to me, and it was familiar to me. It
1:20:12
was comfortable for me, But I'd be damn if I let you take anything
1:20:15
else from me. I've worked too hard for peace to allow anybody, people,
1:20:23
friends, family included, to allow you to rob me again. Not
1:20:29
allowing that anymore, not letting you take that from me anymore. I'm coming
1:20:33
back for everything that you took from me. I'm coming back for everything that
1:20:36
man says I couldn't have because God says you can. God told me,
1:20:42
go get it. So that's what I'm grateful for. I'm not spending the
1:20:47
block on anything old. I'm coming back for everything that was taken from me.
1:20:56
But every day that I sat on that sidewalk and I waited for God
1:20:59
to come back and pick me up, I'm coming to get it, because
1:21:01
see guard and picked me up. Now I'm no longer sitting on the curve.
1:21:08
See I'm in the car and I'm enjoying the peace. That's what I'm
1:21:15
doing. So everything that we've allowed the devil to take from us, that's
1:21:20
the only thing we spending the block on. That's the only thing we doubling
1:21:26
back. That's the only thing we take. That's the only thing I'm stealing
1:21:30
back because it belongs to me. Anyway, and I allowed you to take
1:21:34
it. We all allowed the devil to come sit in our house, intrude
1:21:44
our thoughts, control our emotions. We allowed that. So who are we
1:21:48
really mad at? The devil just came and did his job, and we
1:21:54
allowed him to. That's what I'm grateful for. For the peace, I'm
1:22:01
grateful for the discernment. That's what I'm grateful for. I'm grateful that I'm
1:22:09
alive today. I'm grateful that i have air in my body. I'm grateful
1:22:13
that i have clothes on my back, food on my table, or roof
1:22:15
over my head. Three beautiful children, for my beautiful friends, for my
1:22:24
beautiful family. That's what I'm grateful for. And I'm not gonna let the
1:22:27
devil take any of that away from me. I've worked let me say this,
1:22:31
We've worked too hard and come too far to get set back. So
1:22:40
twenty twenty four, run it like Chris Brown, say, let me see
1:22:45
if you could run it. I'm about to show you. I'm not gonna
1:22:48
tell you. I'm not gonna tell you. I'm gonna show you. You're
1:22:54
about to see how powerful I'm really about to be. You're gonna see how
1:22:58
resilient. I'm really to be and I need y'all to speak that same tone
1:23:03
over your life. Y'all are about to be so resilient, baby. Let
1:23:09
me tell you something. People about to be like, how did you get
1:23:12
there? Don't tell them, you show them. We're done talking. In
1:23:16
twenty twenty three, we about action out. Stop talking and do what Nike
1:23:23
say. Just do it. Get up and do it, no matter how
1:23:26
many times you fall down, no matter how many times you fail, get
1:23:30
up. We tired of smelling, We tired of being miserable. Were ready
1:23:35
to be happy baby. In twenty twenty four, were running it. We
1:23:40
running them corns up, were running them bags up, were running success stuff.
1:23:44
We're no longer gatekeeping. We're opening our doors. We loving on people.
1:23:47
That's what we're doing. We loving on people. Were pouring into people.
1:23:57
We're encouraging people, We're empowering people. We're uplifting people. That's what
1:24:00
we're doing. In twenty twenty four, were not playing no more. And
1:24:03
I'm rolling my my neck, stumping my feet, with my hands on my
1:24:06
hip and my ghetto girl boys saying you can't have a devil. I came
1:24:15
back to reclaim everything that belongs to me. That's what we're doing in twenty
1:24:18
and twenty four. Now run that, Now run tell that. That's what
1:24:25
we're doing in twenty twenty four, twenty twenty three, were getting prepared.
1:24:31
So these last what fifty some days we got left in twenty twenty three,
1:24:39
forty some days. You better stop playing with your potential because we're gonna kick.
1:24:45
We kicking in dose, we taking it. Every person that said we
1:24:50
were gonna fall, we're not. But every person that's watching you waiting on
1:24:57
you to fail, we not. Cause again, there's a lot of people
1:25:03
watching you praying on you to fail. They want you to fail, they
1:25:09
want you to flop. Hmm. Just watch what Watch what Ashley about to
1:25:15
do in twenty and twenty four. Just watch. I'm not talking about it
1:25:18
no more. I'm gonna show y'all, And when it happens, y'all gonna
1:25:24
be like girl, that girl spoke that, cause I'm speaking that all my
1:25:28
life. I'm speaking what I want A house, I want it, better,
1:25:33
credit, I'm gonna get it. Peace, I got it, Elevation,
1:25:42
I'm getting there. That's what we're doing. What are y'all doing?
1:25:49
Stop playing? See y'all get up here and y'all play. We ain't playing
1:25:55
no more. That's not what we're doing. We're going to get our blessings
1:26:02
that are so well deserved. Trigger says at all, and that's why I
1:26:12
left customer service and with the serving people in the community that has overlooked absolutely
1:26:15
your gift, and that says facts Amen, Trigger say, come through,
1:26:25
grateful for the takebacks. Now run hashtag now running, and that's what we're
1:26:29
doing. We're running it because guess what, that marathon still continues. And
1:26:36
we got this. No matter where you're sitting at in life, we got
1:26:42
this, regardless of whatever it is that you're going through. We got this.
1:26:49
No more holding onto the past. We're looking at today, in the
1:26:53
future. Claim what belongs to you, take back what was taken from you.
1:27:00
That's what I'm grateful for. That's absolutely what I'm grateful for. I
1:27:09
love it, I'm here, I'm in peace. That's what I'm grateful for.
1:27:19
And I'm gonna keep saying that. That's what I'm grateful for. I
1:27:26
love y'all. Y'all are beautiful, intelligent, phenomenal. You're everything. No
1:27:38
matter if you don't get it right the first time, Get up and do
1:27:41
it again. They say it's always better the second time around. Anyway,
1:27:49
that's what we all, y'all, we grateful for that. We're coming back
1:28:00
victoriously, regardless of what people say, regardless of what people do. You
1:28:11
continue to show up for you, You love on you, you take care
1:28:16
of you. But you get up and you try it again. Don't give
1:28:21
up. Don't give up, don't give up. Keep fighting and remind yourself
1:28:30
every day what you're grateful for again. Stop looking at what you used to
1:28:36
have and look at what you've got now. I'm not saying those setbacks didn't
1:28:42
get us ready for the comebacks, but we have to stop holding on to
1:28:46
that. We have to stop focusing on the negativity and pour more energy into
1:28:53
what's positive. And that's what I'm doing. That's what I'm doing. That's
1:29:02
what I want y'all to do. I really want y'all to do that.
1:29:08
I really want to see y'all win. And we got this. I needed
1:29:17
that today. I really needed this today. I don't know who this was
1:29:25
for. I don't know who needed to hear this today. I don't know
1:29:30
who this helped, Even if it's just one person, I've done exactly what
1:29:33
God has allowed me to do, and I'm grateful for that. I'll forever
1:29:39
be grateful for what God allows me to do, and what God provides for
1:29:44
me, and what God gives me. I'll forever be grateful for that.
1:29:49
I'll forever be grateful for the beautiful people that God continues to put into in
1:29:54
my life and places in my path. I'll forever be grateful for that.
1:30:00
Ever be grateful for the peace that I've I'm learning to get back. I'll
1:30:04
forever be grateful for the accountability that I've taken in life. I'll forever,
1:30:13
ever, ever be grateful every day that I'm able to open my eyes.
1:30:23
That's what I'm gonna forever be grateful for. That's what I'm grateful for.
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Right now. I'm grateful in this moment. I'll be grateful for what tomorrow
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holds for me. I'll be grateful for what next week holds for me,
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next month, next year, two years from now, five years from now,
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Because in those times, I really want us to look back and say,
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man, I'm grateful, because I really want you to give God all
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the praise, because without Him we're not able, no matter how many times
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we try to do this on our own. We gotta continue to put guard
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in the midst of it all. And that's when Mary had a little lamb.
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I love y'all. Oh we've been bad. Let me tell you we
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did it. We got another day. We had another day to do it
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right. Trigger says me. I needed this today. Thank you. You're
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welcome. Hey, Brenda, she says, amen, those are the only
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getbacks for doing We no longer swinging on people. We're gonna let God handle
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them because a lot of y'all don't understand how hard God hits. Some of
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y'all ain't been hit yet. Oh, but when you do, mm,
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when you do, because them heads hurt, they're very painful. I'm not
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saying you can't recover from them, but just know that when they come,
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they hurt. And that's when you become weak and vulnerable. And then that
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gives the devil the time to ease on it and take over your household.
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And there comes the dysfunction, there comes the negativity, There comes the miserable
1:32:39
people, because we open the door and we let the devil right on it.
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But I'm gonna let God get you, not me, not me at
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all, because see, God didn't already spun the block on me too many
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times. And Baby, let me tell you, I'm tired of sitting out
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there on that hot side I walk on that high concrete. I'm tired.
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So I had to get off, and I had to go to God wholeheartedly
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and ask him and tell him I'm ready. Keep playing with God all you
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want to keep faking and funking out, funking out here and telling God you
1:33:19
ready when you're really truth or not. I am though. Too much has
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been taken from me and I want it back. So in order for me
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to get back, I had to get right, and I had to be
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sincere because, like I say, you ca a lot of people, but
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you can out of God because he sees everything. So keep playing out there
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if you want to, you're gonna be sitting on that high sidewalk, on
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that high high concrete. I ain't say nothing no more. Y'all got ad
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eh. And on that note, I love y'all so much. I do
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want to let y'all know Black Girl Interrupted will not be airing next week.
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I am actually let me go ahead and tell y'all we'll be going impatient for
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a few days. I'm not ashamed. To tell anybody that, but I
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need it for my mental But I will be back. So next week,
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no Black Girl Interrupted. The following week, we'll see how that pans out,
1:34:31
but I need it for me. I'm taking all the necessary steps to
1:34:36
get my mental back where it needs to be. So on that note,
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I love y'all again. Black Girl Interrupted will not be airing next week.
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I should be back in two weeks. Again, I have to do this
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for my mental y'all, pray for your girl. Ah. I'm good.
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I need the peace, I need the time away ah, and I'm okay
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with that. So just break. That's it. That's all I ask.
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Just break and stay positive. But when Black Girl Interrupted does return in two
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weeks, this is gonna be for the black men, it is for my
1:35:35
black women, it's gonna be for y'all. Mm hmm. I'm ready though.
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It's warranted and it's needed. So I say all of that to say,
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take care of you, focus on you, get you together, so
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when twenty twenty four rides, you'll be prepared. Pray if thanks if Greece,
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and always remember what you're grateful for. I love y'all, and of
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course y'all know I'm gonna take y'all out on something very beautiful and then we're
1:36:30
gonna bring it to a clothes So I love y'all. I see y'all in
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two weeks. Y'all, take care of yourself, don't beat yourself up,
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don't be too hard on yourselves. Okay, and I see y'all November twenty
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eighth, my birthday. See y'all later. Here we go, though,
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Say thank you for grace. Thank you for mercy, thank you for understanding.
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Thank you for wisdom, thank you for parents. Thank you for love,
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thank you for kindness, thank you for humility, thank you for peace,
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Thank you for prosperity. Say thank you in advance for what's already yours.
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So how I live my life. That's where why I am. One
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of the reasons why I am today, Say thank you in advance for what
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is already yours. Thank you, thank you, Thank you. Thank you
1:37:34
for this day. Thank you for every moment that led to this day.
1:37:40
Thank you for the hard times they made me appreciate the good times. Thank
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you for the lessons they were needed for my development. Thank you for my
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eyes they get to witness the miracles of today and tomorrow. Thank you for
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everything I take for granted. Thank you for all of my blessings. Thank
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you for my drive, thank you for my spirit, thank you for my
1:38:03
strength. Thank you for giving me the courage to fight through the hard times.
1:38:10
Thank you for the people in my life, those I love and those
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I learn from. Thank you for it all. Thank you, Thank you.
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It's the key that opens the door to instant happiness, unlocks the door
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to everything we are really seeking in life, happiness and contentment. Think about
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it. No matter what you say you want money, riches, health,
1:38:35
to help others, why do you really want it? When you drill deep
1:38:41
down, the only reason anyone wants anything is the feeling we believe we will
1:38:46
get from happiness. That all boils down to happiness and contentment. And the
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truth is we can have it now if we are grateful. And if you
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get quiet, get away from the noise of the world and think for a
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moment about what you could be grateful for. I'm sure you could find plenty.
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Be grateful. There's food on the tape, airing your lungs, life
1:39:14
in your body. Get grateful that you have opportunity, opportunity to take your
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life to a whole nother level. To the side right now as you are
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going to live your dreams and never settle until you do. Get grateful for
1:39:30
the mental strength you've been given to survive the hard times. Get grateful for
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your limbs if you have them. Many are not so blessed. Your eyesight
1:39:38
if you have it. Many are not so blessed. Your hearing if you
1:39:43
have it. Many are not so blessed the health you do have. Many
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are in worse positions. Get grateful for that one person that has had an
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impact in your life, or many people. If you are so blessed,
1:39:57
then get grateful. You can choose to be that person for someone else,
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that one that makes a difference in someone else's life, no matter how small.
1:40:06
Get grateful you get to experience this magical universe today. Look for miracles.
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I guarantee if you are looking, you will see them. There are
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unlimited things that be grateful for. Open your eyes, unlock your amazing life.
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It's ready for you right now. Thank you for this day, whatever
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it brings, whether a challenge, I need to grow a lineup to teach
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me patience, an unexpected blessing, every moment of joy, whatever today brings,
1:40:46
Thank you, whatever it brings. I pray I have enough presence in
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each moment to know that no circumstance is my life, no high or low,
1:40:58
no event, no thing is my life. Life is energy, and
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I know I'm so much more than my physical body. Thank you for my
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ability to love, to give to others my authentic love and kindness without expecting
1:41:12
anything in return. Thank You for my strength, thank you for my presence.
1:41:17
Thank you for my ability to attract only the things and people that are
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in harmony with what I need in my life. Thank you, thank you,
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Thank you for this day, whatever it brings. PES