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Season 3 - Episode 167 - How do you handle the MUST's vs SHOULD's? · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning from the Chicken Coop podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermind set
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop, along with all her chickens.
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  Hey everybody, good morning from the chicken coop.
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  Today we are talking about musts versus shoulds.
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  So I have noticed a pattern in myself where I will say, oh, I
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  should do this. I should do this.
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  And believe me, I've called this out to my coach because it
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  drives me crazy and I'm not typically that person.
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  I get a lot done. But I do know that there are
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  times in my life when I start shooting all over myself, as we
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  say. And I have noticed that it has
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  been showing up with certain things that I don't like to get
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  done, like paperwork. Paperwork is the bane of my
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  existence. I can't stand doing paperwork,
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  office work that doesn't have to do with any of my clients, but
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  just has to do with all like tax stuff, you know, anything that
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  has to do with stuff that you don't like to deal with.
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  I hate doing it, so I wait till the last minute.
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  I put it off because it's just a in my world, it's a should, but
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  it's not a must. So I started thinking about this
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  as I was getting ready to record a session this morning.
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  And I said, you know, I should talk about this just so I can
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  give myself a good reminder as well as maybe help somebody else
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  out there who's doing it. So often we do this to ourselves
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  where we talk about things that are important, necessary,
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  urgent, however you want to look at it.
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  But we assign them these things of saying, oh, well, I should do
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  this, I should do this. Like I must brush my teeth
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  before I go to bed. I should get up early and work
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  out. Because really, nobody's going
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  to know, right? At some point, it's going to
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  show up eventually in the long run, but it's so far out that we
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  don't worry about it because it's so far out.
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  You know, the damages of not working out aren't going to
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  affect you immediately as as they all say, it will take a
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  little bit of time for it to show up typically.
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  And because of that, we put it off and we put it off and we put
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  it off because we don't have quote UN quote, the urgency for
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  it. And it is not a must, it is a
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  should. So for me, I know there's a,
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  there's time in the year to process and do this type of
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  paperwork that I don't like to do.
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  So it doesn't become a must, it becomes a should.
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  And when I was thinking about this today, I started saying to
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  myself, OK, I have to really focus myself and get myself to
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  recognize that I need to make this an absolute without
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  question must. So I'm going to teach you guys
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  how to do this at the same time, because anything is digestible
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  when we do it in small chunks and things become a big deal
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  when we make them a big deal by putting them off and not doing
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  them when we are supposed to do them in a timely manner.
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  And again, it could be anything when you think about it, if you,
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  if you didn't have the must of brushing your teeth, Oh my gosh,
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  Can you imagine how gross your mouth would be?
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  By the time you know you didn't do it for a week or so, you'd be
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  like, this is ridiculous. I feel absolutely disgusting.
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  Most of us would feel disgusting after missing one of the times
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  we do it during the day. So you have to start looking at
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  the consequences of allowing something to be a should instead
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  of a must. And then put together in your
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  mind, what, what are those things that are a must that
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  you're already doing? Like I must brush my teeth.
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  I must go to sleep, I must eat food.
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  Fundamental things, yes, but we make it a must and we have to do
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  it. I, you know, just earlier today
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  we were out, I had had only a protein shake in the morning.
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  I had gone hours without anything else other than the
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  protein shake. And I started to get really
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  antsy, you know, hangry, if you will.
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  And right away I said, I, I need to pull over and go to the gas
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  station and get some nuts or something because this isn't
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  going to be pretty. And I, and I knew it.
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  I knew it, I felt it coming. And because there was an urgency
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  with it, it went from, I should get something to eat to I must
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  get something to eat. So it switches very quickly and
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  we can start to follow this along in our life and see where
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  else this shows up. So we can kind of bridge the gap
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  and teach yourselves how to do this in all areas.
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  So one of my plans is to make it a must that every month when I
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  do my wrap up of a month and I say OK, because I like to
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  debrief things in detail and say, OK, what worked well this
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  month? What could have been better?
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  What can I add in? How can I be more efficient?
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  I'll look at months. I add up all the things that I
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  do. Crazy about that.
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  Love to give myself stickers for great jobs, but I've never
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  included this particular one in it.
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  So now I'm going to make it a must that every month I'm going
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  to download all the information in so that I have everything
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  right away. I'm not going to wait and have
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  to do a year's worth it a whole time.
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  Instead I'm just going to do it month by month and that will cut
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  down the time and it will be painless and effortless when I
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  have to just put this all together.
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  Actually get software that does this.
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  What a concept. So I'm telling you this and I'm
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  sharing this with you, one, because I want you to know
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  again, we all do these things and this is my Achilles heel, if
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  you will. And two, I want you to see 99.9%
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  of the time it's all these little tiny things that we can
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  do quickly that will change things.
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  It's not that it's big giant shoves that we need to do and
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  give ourselves. It's just the small little
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  things. So take that into consideration.
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  Work on that. Ask yourself, what am I saying
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  is a should when it could be a must or should be a must?
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  There you go. Get that one.
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  What are the things I want to turn into a must instead of a
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  should? And really start just the whole
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  process by just observing. What are you allowing yourself
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  to say? I should, I should, I should
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  again, shooting all over yourself and then turn those
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  into must. And then let's see where you go
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  from there. All right, guys, I hope you have
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  a great day. Talk to you soon.
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  Bye.