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A new type of narcissist; The Somatic Narcissist · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on, beautiful people?
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  Today we're talking about a different type of narcissist,
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  the somatic narcissist. If you're new here, my name is
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  Lee Hammock. I'm a clinically diagnosed
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  narcissist. And welcome to another episode
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  of the Narcissist Code Boom, episode 1003.
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  I forgot to say that yeah, I'll be forgetting.
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  I've been forgetting. Give me give me a break.
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  Give me a break. 1003 episodes. I'm.
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  I'm losing it sometimes. So yo somatic, the somatic
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  narcissist. I don't know if y'all have seen
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  very many videos about the somatic narcissist, but this is
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  pretty much the the basic type of narcissist that a lot of
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  people talk about. Somatic narcissistic people get
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  their supply or their self worth from vanity, from their looks,
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  their physical appearance. They're so hyper focused on
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  their physical appearance. These are, I would call.
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  I would say that somatic, narcissistic people tend to be
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  some of the most insecure inflated ego people on the damn
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  planet. And I would know I used to be, I
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  mean, am I still kind of somatic?
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  Yeah, I would just say that. So I like so in order.
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  So I was, I would say I was a somatic narcissistic person for
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  a very long time. I still kind of am, but in order
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  to kind of face that the Super being super vain and things like
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  that, being obsessed and consumed with how I look.
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  I actually go around looking disheveled a lot of times.
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  Like right now this is disheveled.
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  You see how freezing my hair is right now?
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  I'm disheveled because I don't want to be super hyper focused
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  on my looks and whatnot, but I'm going to work.
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  I'm going to get an edge up. I'm going to be back.
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  I'll be back soon. I'll be back like with
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  Terminator. But yeah, somatic, narcissistic
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  people, y'all tend to be hyper, super hyper focused on how on
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  their appearances and not just on their appearances, on the
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  appearance of others. Like it's one of the things like
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  you will see that somatic narcissist tend to like super
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  hyper focus and meet super judgmental of other people, of
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  how they view other people and whatnot of how other people are
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  viewed in their eyes and whatnot.
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  But it's almost like they cannot think past how people appear,
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  how people look, how people present themselves.
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  They're always judging people about their shoes or their
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  clothes or their hair or their teeth or their weight or their
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  body, whatever it is y'all their money, their resources, whatever
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  it is, their appearance. You know, they tend to be the
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  Super judgmental, insecure, narcissistic people.
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  Like if you strip the narcissist, the somatic
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  narcissist of their looks and appearance, what do they have?
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  What else do they have? Now I have a bubbly personality
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  and I'm I'm humorous. I tell people I have a good
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  personality. It's just disorders.
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  But that's part of the process right there.
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  Y'all, I understand who I am. A lot of somatic narcissistic
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  people are the cock and conceited narcissist.
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  This is like the word narcissist would apply extremely apply to
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  somatic narcissist. Like the general word, the
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  general word narcissist applies to somatic narcissistic people.
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  Because when you think of narcissists, you think of cocky
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  conceited people. People that are obsessed with
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  how they look and what they drive and things like that, how
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  they dress. They have to have the nicest of
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  things. That word applies a lot to
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  somatic narcissists. So a lot of y'all might deal
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  with the Super vain, egotistical somatic narcissist.
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  That's why I'm just telling y'all, if you yeah, when your
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  attraction to override your intuition, you lose y'all.
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  You just will when your attraction overrides your
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  discipline. Like, I'm just so attracted to
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  this person. They're so beautiful, I'm
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  willing to give them another chance, you know, And somatic
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  narcissist don't come in any shape, size or gender.
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  You mean they're just somatic narcissist.
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  They have to they present themselves a certain type of
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  way. But you know, they might not be
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  conventionally attractive to a lot of people.
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  You know what I mean? Because that happens, like, and
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  I just tell you all this as well.
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  Somatic narcissist hate being criticized in any way, shape or
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  form. Like if it's not praise, it's
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  criticism. Now I'll say that again, if
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  you're not praising them, you are criticizing them.
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  There is no in between in that space right there.
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  If you're not praising A somatic narcissist, you're absolutely
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  criticizing them. If you're not complimenting, if
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  you're not complimenting, somatic narcissistic robot needs
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  to reset. Rebooting.
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  Deep breath achieved. Restart it.
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  If you're not complimenting them, you are insulting them.
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  If you don't notice how their hair looks, or their new makeup,
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  or their new shoes, or their new socks, or a shirt or how they're
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  dressed, you're insulting them. They want you to notice a lot of
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  somatic narcissists, even maybe some.
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  Can somatic narcissists be covert narcissists as well?
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  Yes. You don't have to be outrageous
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  in peacocking to be a somatic narcissist.
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  You can be a covert somatic narcissist.
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  That's what I would be. I would just dress nice and try
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  to look nice. But I'm not I'm not boisterous
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  and out you know loud and that right now I'm just.
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  I'm cool. I'm chill.
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  You know. I try to stand out without
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  standing up. That's how we that's how I used
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  to describe myself. I would try to stand out without
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  necessarily standing up. You know, and that's what
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  happens. Like, and I just like, I need,
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  I, I will take a, it seems like somatic narcissists can seem
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  humble sometimes as well because you would give them a compliment
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  and they'll just be like, oh, well, thanks.
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  Cool, cool. I appreciate that.
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  They don't go crazy like, oh, wow, thank you so much.
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  They take it as they don't. They expect it.
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  They're expecting this supply. You know, and somatic
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  narcissists are the ones that tend to get worse as their age
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  because like, I mean, every narcissist I would say gets
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  worse as their age. But so because somatic,
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  narcissistic people are so focused on how they look, they
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  can get very this nasty as they get older.
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  They can get very mean as they get older, very vicious as they
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  get older. The old bitter, narcissistic
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  grandma or grandpa, they're just, they just hates the world.
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  Even though they might have everything.
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  They just don't want, they don't like the way they look anymore.
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  They don't recognize themselves anymore as a young, vibrant,
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  youthful person. So they hate the way that they
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  look. They hate the way that they're
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  presented, presenting themselves towards you.
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  You know what I mean? They hate it.
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  They hate it so much like they hate getting older and whatnot,
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  so that's what it is. But you can also get the kind of
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  somatic, narcissistic person that you know, connect just
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  tries to connect to people through sexual sex, actual
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  expression. They express themselves
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  sexually, sexually liberated people, they just go crazy.
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  Some of them can be very sex, can be sex addicts, you know,
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  but they get their feel off of being sleepy or trying to sleep
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  with a lot of people. You know, it's a numbers game
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  for somatic narcissists. It can be quality, but a lot of
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  time there's quantity over quality.
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  And I'm not saying anybody else is of less quality, but that's
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  narcissistic people. They will sleep with whoever.
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  Some of them will sleep with whoever will sleep with them.
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  You know, if you give a somatic narcissist a compliment and you
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  are the of the gender that they are attracted to, they might try
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  to sleep with you based on the compliment.
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  Oh you like me. They think that because you
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  compliment them, you like them, you must like me.
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  You complimented me, so you must like me, you know?
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  So you complimented me because you must want to sleep with me.
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  Like it's very hard. Like like I said this, this type
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  of narcissist is extremely selfish, self-centered and
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  hugely egotistical. So they only really care about
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  getting their own own personal needs met.
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  They have to get their needs met.
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  I I need my needs to be met in this space right here.
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  And they're as long as their needs are being met, they don't
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  care how they're treating other people.
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  Let's keep it, hide and be realistic with it.
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  As long as this person's needs are being met, they don't care
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  how they are treating you. My needs are being met.
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  How you being treated is kind of second tier.
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  It's kind of lower, lower rung, so to speak.
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  As long as my needs are being met, I don't care how you feel.
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  Why should I care how you feel? As as long as my needs are being
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  met, my wants and needs are completed, you know?
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  That's just how it goes right there.
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  Y'all you know? I just feel like that's that's
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  how it happens right there. This is just part of it and I
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  can say if you're dealing with a somatic narcissistic person, you
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  probably understand this video. You're like, damn man, that is
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  crazy. And like I said, they do not get
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  better at their age. Y'all because they start like
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  they could become hyper focused on themselves.
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  They see one wrinkle or somebody points out a Gray hair or
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  something like that. You might go home and they might
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  go home and lose their damn minds.
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  If this is your partner and somebody points out a flaw,
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  they'll take it out on you later on.
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  You might. You might can sense their energy
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  shift in that moment, but later on they will take it out on you.
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  They will be. They will blast you later on.
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  For you mean I can't believe. How dare they talk about a
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  wrinkle on my face? How dare they talk about this?
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  How dare they bring this up or mention this?
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  How dare they? And they'll take it on me.
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  I'm not saying they'll go home and try to beat your ass or
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  something like that, but some of them will.
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  They'll take it out on you. They'll give you the silent
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  treatment. They'll treat you badly.
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  But they they won't make it. They they might not try to make
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  a seed in front of other people, but they'll treat you badly.
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  You know what I mean? I was just, like I said, this
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  type of narcissist y'all well, they they they they kill for
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  attention. They they want to be the center
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  of attention. Like I said, the covert somatic
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  narcissist that they'll try to be the center of attention
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  without trying to draw the light to them.
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  Like they want people to see them but don't want all the
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  attention focused on them. So to speak.
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  The overt somatic narcissist is the kind of Peacock person that
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  you know has on a bright orange suit.
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  Or like, you know, like Dumb and Dumber, there was in the movie
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  Dumb and Dumber with Jim Carrey had on an orange suit and Jeff
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  James had on a blue suit. That type of stuff right there.
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  Like they stand out in the crowd, they want a Peacock and
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  want the they want all the lights, camera, action to be on
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  them. You see a lot of this type of
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  stuff with celebrity somatic narcissist.
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  You see them, they they just hyper focused on their looks and
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  like only care about how they look and getting their needs
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  met. They don't care how their
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  actions affect other people. As long as it's somehow some
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  way, shape or form this action is benefiting them.
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  You know and like I say there's no, like there's no cure for
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  somatic narcissism. Now they have to go to therapy.
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  They have to be willing to work on themselves and they'll just
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  be OK with getting older and things like that.
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  Be OK with the the finite nature of life as a whole, because if
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  they don't, like, if you're dealing with the same person,
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  y'all, they will absolutely get worse as they get older.
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  They're not going to accept getting older because like in
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  this space right here, they're older, especially if they if
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  they got money. The older they get, the more
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  that they will become dependent upon that money or whatever to
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  get supply, you know, to get that narcissistic supply.
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  They will be dependent upon getting that money because they
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  they can try to get beautiful people around them, especially
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  the narcissistic man and whatnot.
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  They'll try to use money to get beautiful, you know, women,
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  beautiful men, whoever they're attracted to around them.
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  Hey, I got money, I can I I but it makes that makes them feel
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  young and exuberant. The somatic narcissist cares
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  about their image so much that they hyper focus on how their
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  partner looks as well. So this is the type of
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  narcissist that will leave you for a younger person.
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  You know a lot of different narcissists will leave you for
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  the younger person, but this this type will leave you for a
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  younger person because it makes them look better, it makes them
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  feel better about themselves. It gives them that validation
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  that they need and they will abandoned their kids, abandoned
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  their family just for the shock of being in a relationship with
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  somebody younger and more exuberant or pretty or whatever
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  it is in that space. So somatic, narcissistic people,
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  y'all they're hyper focused on their looks and they might
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  actually be conventionally attractive people, but they will
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  be super insecure. So they will be hyper focused on
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  your look, but they'll be jealous of you as well.
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  They won't let they they they'll make you feel worried about
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  going to the gym to work on yourself because even though
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  they might look good, they want to hold you back from looking
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  good. They want to keep you exactly
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  how you are because they think that if you look better you're
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  you'll find somebody to replace them because they are always
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  comparing and contrasting themselves to other people.
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  You know, they're consistently comparing and contrasting
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  themselves to other people, how they look, how they feel, you
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  know, the money they have like the hair, how, how, how tall
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  they are, the height, whatever. I mean, I'm telling you, they're
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  always comparing and contrasting themselves to other people.
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  So they might, they might exude this level of confidence.
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  But right belief that level, right belief, that first level
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  of layer of confidence is super like the insecure swamp.
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  Under the Under the Lily pads is the insecure swamp.
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  You know what I mean? Under under the Lily pads of
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  confidence is a big swamp of a big swamp of insecurity.
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  You know what I mean? The Lily pads are beautiful, but
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  as soon as you lift that Lily pad up, it's like swamp water
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  stinking. You know, smell bad, Look bad.
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  It's just horrible. Anyways, y'all, let's talk in
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