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The Doctors Couldn’t Explain It: She Just Died · Prioritize Your Life

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  Speaker 1: Welcome to Prioritize Your Life and PrioritizeYourLife.com. Today is going
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  Speaker 1: to be a little different for me at least, which
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  Speaker 1: is kind of fun because I actually know Adam and
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  Speaker 1: Holly pretty well. How long do we work for? Three
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  Speaker 1: and a half years together, something like that?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe had lunch together, maybe at least two or three
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  Speaker 1: times a week during all of those weeks, so good times.
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  Speaker 1: Those of you that don't know Adam and Holly, they
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  Speaker 1: are amazing, amazing people, wonderful examples of how engaged parents
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  Speaker 1: should be. I would try and list all of the
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  Speaker 1: awesome things you guys have started up and do, but
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  Speaker 1: just that I really, I look up to you guys
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  Speaker 1: as just a really awesome example and wonderful parents. And
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  Speaker 1: I know you have some incredible stories too, and I've
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  Speaker 1: probably only heard a little bit of some of them.
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  Speaker 1: So thanks for coming and sharing with all of us.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, you bet.
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  Speaker 1: Part of what I try and do with these is
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  Speaker 1: just cue it up a little bit and then stay
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  Speaker 1: out of the way. So I'm just going to turn
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  Speaker 1: the time over to you and excited to hear the story.
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  Speaker 3: Cool well um it's kind of funny because um.
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  Speaker 4: I never thought that we would ever share this story
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  Speaker 4: in particular he.
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  Speaker 5: Doesn't like to share his feelings share with other people
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  Speaker 5: one of.
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  Speaker 4: Those uncomfortable well i've come a long way though 10
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  Speaker 4: years ago like when we first started doing facebook and
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  Speaker 4: stuff Like Holly would share something on Facebook and I'd
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  Speaker 4: be like, stop it.
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  Speaker 5: Like a birthday.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, like an everyday okay thing to share on Facebook.
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  Speaker 5: And he'd be like, why are you telling people about
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  Speaker 5: our life?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I hate that.
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  Speaker 5: People don't need to know about our life.
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  Speaker 4: People don't need to know about our life.
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  Speaker 3: And now here we are.
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  Speaker 5: Telling you about our life.
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  Speaker 4: But over the years, yeah, I've just felt like obviously this,
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  Speaker 4: you know, not connecting, not.
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  Speaker 3: Sharing, not being vulnerable with others helps no one.
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  Speaker 2: Right.
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  Speaker 4: So here we are. I never thought that I would
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  Speaker 4: share this story in particular. It's very sacred.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: Story, but with the world and everything that's going on
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  Speaker 4: right now, if it can inspire or help, um, someone
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  Speaker 4: to take comfort in and, uh, realize that there is
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  Speaker 4: a higher power out there, then, then it's worth it. So, um,
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  Speaker 4: so this particular story starts. So my wife and I had, uh,
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  Speaker 4: we've had two kids, two boys. And we're going to
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  Speaker 4: have our third child in a little town in Idaho.
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  Speaker 4: And we actually just last night watched this or read
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  Speaker 4: in our journals so we could remember all the details.
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  Speaker 5: Yes, we did.
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  Speaker 3: We read our journals.
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  Speaker 4: And I'd forgotten that it started at four in the
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  Speaker 4: morning and we woke up and We were going to
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  Speaker 4: go get induced at the local hospital there.
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  Speaker 5: Just me, not him.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: I like that he says we, though, because he was
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  Speaker 2: obviously involved in that.
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  Speaker 3: So we went to the hospital. We were there at 4.
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  Speaker 4: And the weird thing was, and I'd forgotten this, too,
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  Speaker 4: but they didn't know that we were coming for some reason.
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  Speaker 4: Like they thought we were scheduled at a different hospital
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  Speaker 4: or something.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, different hospital at a different time.
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  Speaker 4: So it was really weird. Um, but they're like, okay, yeah,
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  Speaker 4: let's start. Let's do it. And so we started and, uh,
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  Speaker 4: she was given the Pitocin and, uh, we sat down
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  Speaker 4: and I was, I think doing something on my phone and, and, uh,
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  Speaker 4: and she was sitting there and then, um, all of
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  Speaker 4: a sudden she just like jumped up in pain and
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  Speaker 4: was like, go get the nurse.
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  Speaker 3: And I was like, what? Just kind of like, what's
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  Speaker 3: going on?
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  Speaker 2: It was the worst pain I had ever felt in
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  Speaker 2: my life. And I had had two babies before. And
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  Speaker 2: I was like, I can't handle this. Like, I would
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  Speaker 2: rather die than be in this much pain. And it
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  Speaker 2: was all of a sudden. And usually when you have
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  Speaker 2: a baby, it's like little by little. Okay, now it's
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  Speaker 2: getting worse. Now it's getting worse. That was just like
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  Speaker 2: zero to ten in an instant. I couldn't handle it.
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  Speaker 2: And I couldn't even like yell and scream like I
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  Speaker 2: wanted to. That was how much pain I was in.
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  Speaker 2: So just letting you know how I really felt.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, and so she....
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  Speaker 4: Because I was just going to press the button or whatever,
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  Speaker 4: and she's like, no, go and get the nurse. So
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  Speaker 4: I ran out, and we were all by ourselves, so
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  Speaker 4: I ran out and went and got the nurse, and
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  Speaker 4: we're coming back in, and when we got back in,
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  Speaker 4: she was.
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  Speaker 4: Convulsing, foaming at the mouth. And, um, uh, I was
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  Speaker 4: just like, oh my gosh, what is going on? And then, uh,
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  Speaker 4: after just a little bit, uh, her eyes just rolled
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  Speaker 4: back and she just stopped and she was gone. And
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  Speaker 4: I was just like crying and like the monitors were
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  Speaker 4: going crazy and By that time, some more people were
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  Speaker 4: coming in and I was just realizing, and it was
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  Speaker 4: pretty selfish I guess, but I was just like, I'm
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  Speaker 4: a single dad. This is the worst thing ever. Just
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  Speaker 4: thinking about that I was a single dad. And then
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  Speaker 4: all of a sudden I had a thought come to
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  Speaker 4: my mind, give her a blessing. So I put my
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  Speaker 4: hands on her head and I gave her a blessing
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  Speaker 4: or a prayer and prayed for her. And I don't
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  Speaker 4: even remember what I said at all, honestly.
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  Speaker 5: I remember what he said.
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  Speaker 2: Because that's when I came to. And all I remember
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  Speaker 2: was feeling so much pain, telling him, go get the nurse,
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  Speaker 2: and then I blacked out. I didn't remember anything up
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  Speaker 2: to the point of hearing my name. And he said
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  Speaker 2: my name in that prayer. And that's when I came
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  Speaker 2: to was I heard my name first. And all of
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  Speaker 2: a sudden I just opened my eyes and I couldn't talk.
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  Speaker 2: I couldn't talk for a half an hour. And I
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  Speaker 2: think that was one of the scariest moments of my
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  Speaker 2: life because I could see what was going on. I
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  Speaker 2: didn't understand it, but I could see my husband. I
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  Speaker 2: could see the nurses and the doctors yelling at the nurses.
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  Speaker 2: That was a lot of anger in the room and frustration.
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  Speaker 5: And I knew it was all about me. I was
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  Speaker 5: the cause of all this. And I couldn't talk. And
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  Speaker 5: that was really scary for me because I.
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  Speaker 2: Had this thought, I hope I can talk again. I
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  Speaker 2: hope that eventually I'll be able to say something. And
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  Speaker 2: then what happened was I I remember Adam like taking
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  Speaker 2: my hand and just holding onto his hand and like
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  Speaker 2: making eye contact with him. Like I can somehow let
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  Speaker 2: him know I'm okay.
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  Speaker 5: I'm back.
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  Speaker 2: And when it was about half an hour later and
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  Speaker 2: then I could finally talk again. And I remember finally
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  Speaker 2: like trying to just Concentrate on that oxygen and breathing.
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  Speaker 3: I had to have oxygen too.
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  Speaker 5: By the way. We both had our oxygen with us.
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  Speaker 5: I was like, give him oxygen, please.
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  Speaker 3: Because I was like.
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  Speaker 5: I need him.
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  Speaker 3: I was messed up.
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  Speaker 2: He was panicking a little bit. Well, more than a little.
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  Speaker 5: So I had my oxygen and I was concentrating on breathing.
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  Speaker 2: And then when I finally could say something, I said,
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  Speaker 2: I don't know what happened, but... That was really bad.
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  Speaker 2: I was saying those random stuff. That was bad, but
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  Speaker 2: I'm okay now. And that's what I said. I wanted
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  Speaker 2: to reassure him.
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  Speaker 5: I'm okay. I'm here. I'm alert.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah. So we ended up running. They ran a bunch
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  Speaker 4: of tests. We ran and got MRI. And then they
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  Speaker 4: just wanted to get the baby out. And so had
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  Speaker 4: an emergency C-section. That was fun. yep and we had
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  Speaker 4: had our little marie um my little girl and it
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  Speaker 4: uh turned out to be um okay and it was
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  Speaker 4: a it was a miracle and uh just very grateful
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  Speaker 4: and uh.
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  Speaker 3: Happy that there is a.
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  Speaker 4: Higher power out there that's watching out for us and
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  Speaker 4: we felt both you know since then and and during
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  Speaker 4: the whole event and especially after that, you know, he's
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  Speaker 4: got a plan for each of us and when it's
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  Speaker 4: our time, it's our time. And when it's, when it's not,
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  Speaker 4: it's not.
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  Speaker 3: And so, um, so yeah, that was, uh, it's just
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  Speaker 3: a crazy, crazy, crazy experience.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. And I, I went back in my journal to
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  Speaker 2: try and get, to see if I had written down
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  Speaker 2: what did the medical record say?
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  Speaker 5: Like what really happened?
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  Speaker 2: And, we know a lot that didn't happen cause they
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  Speaker 2: thought that I had had a stroke, but then I didn't.
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  Speaker 2: They thought that I had had a seizure, but I didn't.
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  Speaker 2: And they thought, Oh, blood clot in the lungs, but
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  Speaker 2: I didn't. And I thought it was heart, my heart,
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  Speaker 2: but they weren't monitoring my heart at the time. They're
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  Speaker 2: monitoring the baby's heart and she had big problems.
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  Speaker 3: Her heart rate went.
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  Speaker 5: Super low and that was scary.
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  Speaker 2: Um, But the doctors, honestly, they didn't agree with each other,
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  Speaker 2: and so the medical records are like a disaster.
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  Speaker 5: They don't even make sense. Because one doctor says this,
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  Speaker 5: and one doctor says this.
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  Speaker 4: And it was so crazy too, because when it was happening,
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  Speaker 4: it was like, I was just sitting there in shock
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  Speaker 4: after her eyes rolled back and she was just gone
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  Speaker 4: and the monitors were going crazy. There was doctors just
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  Speaker 4: running everywhere. No one was paying any attention to her.
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  Speaker 5: No one was doing anything.
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  Speaker 4: No one was doing anything. It was just crazy. They
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  Speaker 4: were all looking at monitors and stuff. But then that
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  Speaker 4: thought popped in my head.
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  Speaker 3: And thankfully came back.
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  Speaker 5: You can do something. You can do something.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, exactly. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, and we don't want to, of course, blame doctors
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  Speaker 2: because I think a lot of the time people do
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  Speaker 2: that too easily. They say, oh, yeah, it's the doctor's fault.
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  Speaker 2: But the doctors weren't even there. And yet they're responsible.
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  Speaker 2: And they're supposed to write on medical records. They're supposed
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  Speaker 2: to be the one that is liable for everything that happens.
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  Speaker 5: And they weren't even in the room. And, of course,
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  Speaker 5: they don't know what happened. So after all those tests,
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  Speaker 5: I'm just grateful.
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  Speaker 2: That i have a husband who could really just listen
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  Speaker 2: and know that you know god is a part of
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  Speaker 2: our life and he's a part of each one of
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  Speaker 2: our lives every single one of us because all of
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  Speaker 2: us can listen to that you know just listen to
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  Speaker 2: that um feeling inside of you that you are a
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  Speaker 2: child of god god cares about you and he can
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  Speaker 2: help you through whatever you're going through so and i
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  Speaker 2: know that I'm grateful that he was there to call
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  Speaker 2: me back because I was not ready to go anywhere
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  Speaker 2: anytime soon.
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  Speaker 1: Man, we became pretty good friends over those years. I
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  Speaker 1: think you mentioned a little bit of it, but I
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  Speaker 1: remember you saying back then, like, yeah, I really didn't
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  Speaker 1: want to have any more kids after that. I don't
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  Speaker 1: want to lose my wife. How many kids do you.
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  Speaker 3: Guys have now?
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  Speaker 5: So we have five now. We still only have one daughter, though.
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  Speaker 5: She's our one daughter.
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  Speaker 2: And then we had two, but we... I wanted to
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  Speaker 2: have more children. Adam's like, well.
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  Speaker 3: I gave the caveat, only if you promise.
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  Speaker 5: That you're not going to die. Not that I promised.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, well, hey.
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  Speaker 1: It worked out.
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  Speaker 2: And I said, well, we'll just schedule another C-section, and
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  Speaker 2: I won't go into labor. We definitely won't, you know,
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  Speaker 2: do the Pitocin and induced labor thing.
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  Speaker 5: And so it's been okay. I haven't died. I don't
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  Speaker 5: have time to say that. But we've had two more
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  Speaker 5: sons since then, so.
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  Speaker 5: We feel blessed and have our little family, big family.
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  Speaker 5: Big family.
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  Speaker 1: That's interesting too, after all this time that you still
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  Speaker 1: don't necessarily really know what the cause was. And there's
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  Speaker 1: people that are guessing. I think there's a lot of
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  Speaker 1: correlations to what's happening in the world today right now,
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  Speaker 1: even like with the virus, because there's some people that
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  Speaker 1: are trying to blame it or who knows what to
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  Speaker 1: do and you should do this and you should do that.
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  Speaker 1: But I think like always, and what we're taking away
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  Speaker 1: from a lot of these stories is it's pretty easy
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  Speaker 1: to try and push blame somewhere, but whatever's going on,
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  Speaker 1: we should probably always take a deep breath and just pray.
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  Speaker 2: I think that's always good advice when you don't know
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  Speaker 2: what to do. Take a deep breath and pray because
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  Speaker 2: someone else is there that knows a lot more than
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  Speaker 2: us and he wants us to listen to him.
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  Speaker 3: Yep, follow that inner guidance, you know.
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  Speaker 1: Thanks so much for coming and sharing your story. And
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  Speaker 1: maybe I can convince you to come another time because
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  Speaker 1: I know that you probably have like 100 more of
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  Speaker 1: these stories because I know how awesome you guys are.
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  Speaker 1: So maybe we'll see you again.
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  Speaker 3: Sounds good.
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  Speaker 4: Thanks, guys.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah.