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From Reality TV to Community Leader: Shauvon Inspiring Story of Transformation · The Diva Details

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  Welcome to the Diva Details. Welcome to the Diva Details.
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  Let's dive in with Diva Mia and Diva Cat.
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  Well, hello, everybody. This is Diva Mia, and today I have a special guest on
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  here. Her name is Diva Shauvon.
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  And you may recognize Shauvon. She was actually on The Real World and on MTV,
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  and she is a strong woman.
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  She has transitioned into multiple different careers.
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  She embraces change, and she helps her faith guide her.
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  And one of the things I love about Shauvonis she's such a good mother as well.
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  And I think as women, we struggle sometimes with balancing career and life and work.
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  She is amazing at being such a strong leader, a strong woman,
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  and a strong business person.
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  I know it's challenging for a lot of women out there to balance all of these things together,
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  but I wanted to talk to Shauvon a little bit and see if she can help guide us
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  through managing our lives and juggling all the things that we as women have
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  to endure and how she gets through it, even in the challenging times.
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  So without further ado, I wanted to introduce Deva Shauvon. Hey, Deva Shauvon.
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  Thanks for having me. Well, thanks for coming on. I'm just so excited to have you today.
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  Yeah, me too. I'm excited to talk and, you know, share a story and all that
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  good stuff. Well, wonderful.
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  Well, why don't we start kind of at the beginning? When you were on a reality TV show,
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  can you kind of guide me through how you went about getting on the TV show,
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  first of all, and then what guided you on the TV show once you were on and how
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  you felt through that process.
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  Yeah, it's one of those opportunities that I didn't know I was really going to go for that.
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  I wanted to, I was going to Sacramento State University and studying journalism
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  and my minor was PR, so public relations. So I knew I wanted to do something
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  with public relations and marketing and maybe being like a news reporter or news anchor.
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  So that was kind of my whole thing. I knew I wanted to be on TV in some sort.
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  And then, yeah, the opportunity auditioned and got on Real World,
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  and that's when it was really popular back then.
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  And so I got to live in Australia, and then the challenges started for MTV,
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  and I started doing challenges for them and was in Thailand,
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  New Zealand, Czech Republic, so lots of places around the world.
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  I got to travel and really have some amazing experiences, and that was a really big part of my 20s.
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  So I feel like it was a really good time just to get to experience and travel
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  the world and do these really amazing shows.
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  And it was just a great time in your 20s to kind of get to figure out who you
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  are, what you want to do with your life, and get to travel and things like that.
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  So especially before marriage, kids, things like that.
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  So it was really fun. It was a really good time.
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  So you went on TV, and you'd not been on TV before, but you were kind of thinking
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  you might because you were a journalist major. but then you embraced it and you decided to travel.
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  How was that going to new places, experiencing new locations?
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  Was it scary at all or did you just love every bit of it? Things out of our
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  comfort zone. I feel like that's what helps us grow.
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  So even though there might be a little bit of worry about, oh my gosh,
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  I'm going to this new place or I'm doing this or doing that.
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  There's always that with anything we do.
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  That could be with traveling the world or even staying in your own state, doing something.
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  Anything that's new that pushes us outside of our comfort zone.
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  Can be worrisome, but when we do that with anything in our lives...
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  Causes growth. And so with doing all that that I did in my 20s,
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  I have to say it was maybe who I am now.
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  I mean, I wouldn't trade anything that I experienced, anything that I went through,
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  good and the bad, because, you know, for one, getting to travel and see the world is so important.
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  I feel like that's important for all of us to get to do that,
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  to see different cultures and meet different people, people that we would never see.
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  But then also just what it does to our heart, our mind, our body, everything for us.
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  It's such a huge spiritual thing to travel and to just see so many new places and experience things.
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  And I really feel because I got to do that and that part of my season of life
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  really prompted me for who I became later in life. And then what did you do right after that?
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  What did you transition into after MTV? I did that for a long time.
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  I filmed into my 20s. You know, a lot of other things came with that.
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  You got a lot of appearances and you get to the MTV Music Awards and all these fun things.
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  So I did a lot of extra things like that within commercials, fun stuff like that.
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  And then I started realizing I kept getting the call to go on the next show, the next show.
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  And I thought I kind of have to put a halt to this at one point and decide,
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  okay, now that I'm getting towards 30, what is my plan?
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  What do I want to continue doing with my career? Is it going to keep being on TV?
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  Am I going to try to be a news reporter now? Am I going to go a different route?
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  So all those things kind of come into play.
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  And eventually, as I got close to 30, I came to Maui on a vacation and then
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  was like, wow, this is one of the most beautiful places. I've traveled so many
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  places around the world and just fell in love with it. Went back to San Diego where I was living.
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  And I just said, how can I make this happen? A lot of people say,
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  oh, it's so hard to move to Hawaii, or that's just a bucket list dream.
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  And I just thought, I know I can make it happen.
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  Anything that we put our mind to, we want to do it, we can make it happen.
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  And so I just said, I've always wanted to live there, like after being there and vacation there.
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  And this is just where I need to be. And so then I moved, I fell in love with it.
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  And I thought, you know, there's no other better place to live.
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  We want to be in this world. We should live where we want to live,
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  be where we want to be, have the career we want to have, have just whatever makes your heart happy.
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  Whatever you feel called to do, do it. And for me, I just felt this pull and
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  calling that Maui was my home and where I was meant to be. And I just made it happen.
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  And I've been here now for, yeah, about 10 years. There's a little bit where
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  I moved back to San Diego when I had my daughter.
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  But besides that, it'd be over 10 years that I've been on Maui now.
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  So you were single when you moved there. Is that right? With my now husband,
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  my husband, we were dating at that time.
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  And when actually it was our going away, kind of like gathering party that we
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  had with all of our friends, you know, the day before we were flying out to
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  go to Maui and he proposed.
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  So that was really sweet. Oh, that's so sweet.
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  Maui, because it was nice to be able to say, okay, I'm moving all the way to
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  Maui together with you. It'd be great for us to either be married or engaged.
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  And so we talked about it, but that was it. I did not know that I was going
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  to ask because that was a really big surprise.
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  So yeah, so we got engaged the day before and then we came to Maui as an engaged couple.
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  And then I'd say it was like within six months later, we got married in McKenna. That's beautiful.
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  That's so beautiful. So it's almost like a destination wedding,
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  but everybody came to your destination.
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  Yeah, basically. And everybody was happy. They're like hearing how beautiful
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  Maui was. And so yeah, they were so happy to come over for the wedding.
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  And yeah, we're actually celebrating our 10-year wedding anniversary in October.
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  So excited for that. So you transitioned from California to Massachusetts.
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  Yes. It was a huge transition because you're transitioning to another state.
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  You're embracing a lot of change.
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  And what drove you, besides the fact of its beauty, what gave you the instinct
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  to say, I think I'm going to give up my family. I'm going to leave everything I know.
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  And I'm going to move out in the middle of the Pacific where there's no one there that I know.
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  And it's all going to be new to me. So you have to really embrace change and
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  be willing to take risks if you're going to do that.
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  It's beautiful, but you had to start all over again from the very ground up
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  and give up all your current TV appearances.
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  So I'm sure that was a transition for you. What was your mindset at that point?
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  I think for me, it was having this experience of all the traveling I did in
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  my 20s and seeing new places made it less intimidating to do a move like that.
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  I think if I never had any of that experience with MTV, any of the traveling,
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  any of all of that, I probably maybe would have never, the desire would have
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  been there, but I don't know if I would have had the, say, guts or the willpower to make it happen.
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  And so I think that's, again, why everything that we experience in our lives
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  really, really does lead us to who we are today.
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  And all the things that we experience or whatever we go through really does.
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  So all what I went through in my 20s, literally not knowing,
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  gave me courage to say, okay, I want to move. This is beautiful.
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  This is the place for me that I want to be in the whole world.
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  And yeah, it is a lot to give up your home where you are. I did that twice, actually.
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  But to move all of your belongings and to do all of that, that is a huge thing
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  to do and a huge commitment.
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  Yeah, like you said, being away from family, all of that.
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  I am just a big believer of doing
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  things that your heart and your mind and your body are leading you to.
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  And I genuinely feel it's like a nudge and a push from Jesus where he wants to lead you.
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  And I feel like that's with a lot of things in my lives. When I feel like I'm
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  trying to do something and there's a roadblock or something stopping it and
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  you just keep wanting it to happen and you keep trying and it's not working
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  out, it's not meant for you.
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  And I had so many lessons when I was younger where I would still keep trying
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  to do it even though it wasn't meant for sin too. I pray on it, I listen to my heart.
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  I just try to feel where he's guiding me and leading me.
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  And when the door opens easily or it's an easy path, then I know it's the right way and it's from him.
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  And so when things just work out how they're supposed to, it's meant to be.
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  So I'm a really big believer in that with so many things in my lives and all
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  the things that I've done.
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  Now, even in the last 10 years on Maui, I feel like it's all because he was
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  guiding me and leading me.
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  And then the magic happens that way, right?
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  We bless other people. We make impacts, whether it's community impact or just
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  an individual person that you're blessing and helping.
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  But everything is meant to be in his will for us. So, you know,
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  I know I'm getting spiritual there, but that is really true.
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  When we fight against something, we try our own way.
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  And if it's not meant for us, the door closes, you know, sometimes abruptly and hard.
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  Well, I think that part of our podcast lately has really been about listening
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  to your intuition and listening to that small little voice inside your head that's guiding you.
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  A lot of times we ignore it as women because we try to power through things
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  or force things. I think women are getting back to intuition and back to who they are.
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  It's almost like God's speaking to you through your intuition.
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  And so kind of transitioning with that.
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  So when you were on Maui, your intuition did that. Is that what drove you to
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  start the Aloha Ladies Group or were you doing another job before that?
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  Yeah, well, actually, when that started, we were just coming out of the pandemic.
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  I have a lot of friends, people that we know here on Maui and a lot of them,
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  too, as well. And so as we're coming out of the pandemic, I just was feeling
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  this, just this really push and pull to somehow...
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  Just help women, whatever it is in the capacity. I didn't really know.
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  And sometimes you get feelings, you get urges, but you don't really know what it is.
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  And I don't want to say like it's a dream, but sometimes it's a dream.
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  It's a thought. It's an idea.
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  It's something on your heart. It could come in any form.
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  And it's just this intuition, like you're saying, like we have,
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  and we just kind of, we don't know what it is. And so that's what it was for me.
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  I didn't really know what it was. I just knew coming out of COVID,
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  we were all seeking relationships again, and friendships again,
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  time together again, just being with our friends again, or just anything.
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  That shut down, and COVID was hard on everyone. We all were inside our home,
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  stuck inside, couldn't do anything.
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  So I think we were all needing that. So as things were opening up a little bit,
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  still timid, not knowing, I started just trying to get small groups of women
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  together, our friends, and things like that.
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  And then I noticed there was a lot of my friends that had businesses,
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  small businesses, and bigger size ones that wanted to let the community know
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  that they were open, but no one knew.
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  Nobody knew it was open or a small business is over here struggling.
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  They haven't had any sales the last year and they need to pay their mortgage
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  still and all these things and they got to put food on their table.
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  And so it was kind of like I already had this smaller little platform on social media.
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  And so I said, hey, can I help you? Let me help just, you know, say, put it out there.
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  I don't know who's going to see it, but put it out there that your restaurant's
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  still open or that your business is still open.
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  And so I started doing that and I started having little get-togethers.
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  And again, not knowing where it's going to lead, not knowing what's going to happen, right?
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  It's just when you feel, and this is one thing I want to really share with all
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  women, that if you have some feeling in your heart or you have some dream,
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  don't ever feel like it's too late or, you know, I'm in the.
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  Craziness of kids right now, or my focus has to be on my family or my husband,
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  or I have a nine to five job and I don't have time, but I have this thing in
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  my heart I would love to do. We're never too old.
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  We're never too craziness in the life going on to do one little thing for us or do something.
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  And so for me, it wasn't that I was thinking about money, didn't care about
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  that at that point and still don't. I never have with any of the things that I do.
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  It was for me, not trying to start something that I was going to make money
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  off of, not trying to start something that I was going to get big or famous
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  off of or anything like that.
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  It was for me something that I could do to impact and help others.
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  And I knew if I was feeling this way that I needed connection and I needed time
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  with women or just have something face-to-face after this whole COVID thing,
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  I knew other women were probably feeling this way too.
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  And businesses I knew were hurting and struggling.
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  So I just took that because I knew if I had a need for this,
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  there has to be other women that need this too. I started trying to help other
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  businesses, friends get out there.
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  And then I tried to start having little get togethers, which the women automatically
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  were like, yes, please. We need this. We need this. Thank you.
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  And so I'm like, wow, there really is a need. So, okay, let's continue this.
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  Let's keep getting together and doing things. And so it just kept growing and
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  growing. Businesses would reach out to me. Oh my gosh, can you share for me too?
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  And then I'd start having bigger women get together and the women were just loving it.
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  We were just bonding and connecting and talking, sharing heart and creating
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  new friendships and strengthening old friendships.
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  It was just beautiful. It was so beautiful, this connection that women need.
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  And we need it now. We need it all the time, not just started.
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  So it was just an idea, wanting to help, wanting to bless with really no other strings.
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  Just that's all it was. And then.
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  I think as it's grown so much over the years, people feel the genuineness of it.
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  They feel that it's coming from my heart. It's not about money. It's a now fast forward.
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  It's this huge social club of women.
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  It's just to have a special place, a sisterhood that women can come together,
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  come to the events, be together, share, meet new friends, and then in turn for
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  blessing nonprofits around the island and, you know, doing really good things for them.
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  And so to back up a little bit, you know, the events were small and as they
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  kept growing, there was more and more women wanting to go.
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  And I'm like, and I'm doing events
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  for 50 and it would sell out like in an hour. And I'm like, wow, okay.
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  So now we know, you know, there's more women needing to do this.
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  And I would do these events and basically everything that would be wrapped up
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  in the events, whatever the money would be left over out of the hard costs,
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  you know, buying the flowers and the venue and the food and stuff that would go towards a nonprofit.
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  So it'd be like Make-A-Wish Hawaii or Common Ground Collective or,
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  you know, Village of Hope, helping foster children on Maui, being children with
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  disabilities, helping put fresh food and produce back into the community.
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  So all these different amazing nonprofits, they're benefiting off of it.
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  At the same time, all these women are benefiting because we're all coming together and being together.
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  And then as it keeps growing, you know, everyone, you know, business-wise,
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  a lot of businesses offer things.
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  They're like, you know, we want to bless the community. here's some stuff for a
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  giveaway can you do that or here's a you know really great special I
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  want to offer only to the social club and so it just
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  now is catapulted to so many different things where it's bringing women together
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  saving money getting fun giveaways and freebies to super fun events and then
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  also helping non-profits so it's just really kind of made itself evolve over
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  this whole time into something that's just been a such a big blessing.
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  The blessing for me of it all is really just seeing the other people that I'm blessing.
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  Seeing the nonprofit that I'm blessing or helping, that's huge for me and knowing
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  what impact it's making for them and different things within their nonprofit.
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  When I get the women together for events and afterwards, that was amazing.
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  Thank you so much. I needed that. I didn't realize I needed a sisterhood and to meet other women.
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  And then that to me helps me like, yes, if I can just impact even one person,
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  fantastic. And nonetheless, you know, multiple or even hundreds, you never know.
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  And, you know, I've had so many even small businesses where I share for them
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  on the platform for the social club so all of the members can participate.
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  See this business, learn about this business. They get an exclusive special
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  for them, which, you know, we all love. We all want to save money.
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  And then those businesses write me messages back. And it's, I have numerous
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  of these messages and it's these businesses saying, wow, because you shared
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  that for me. And there's one in particular, it always sticks out.
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  She's like, thank you so much for sharing my business. It means so much to me
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  because you did that. I got so many sales.
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  I was able to pay my rent this month and be able to stay in my home and like
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  feed my children. And so it's like, wow, stuff like that.
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  We don't even realize the impact we can have on other people when sometimes
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  we think something seems so small. It is not.
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  Just to impact one person like that is incredible.
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  So and there's just so many stories like that that were messages that I've got.
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  And that's one thing for me. I just if I could do anything with the podcast
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  today with sharing this message is to share with other women.
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  I mean, of course, men, too. even if you have a little thought in your mind,
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  feel a pull in your heart spiritually, or if you're a believer and you feel
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  it's Jesus, someone's nudging you or he's nudging you, or you feel like you
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  have this idea, don't ever think it's too small.
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  Don't ever think, oh, it's too small, it's not gonna get anywhere or do anything.
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  Because even the smallest of an idea, if you can end up blessing one person
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  and this whole world with it, it was worth it.
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  And usually 99% of the time, I'm 10, 50, you never know.
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  So every single chance or every feeling you have is worth it because in the
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  long run, Earth, to love one another, to love other people, to give to people, to make an impact,
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  to have a purpose, we live to bless other people because in turn, we get blessed back.
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  Whenever we do more and we help others, it comes around to us tenfold and that's
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  truly why we're here on this Earth.
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  We're not gonna be remembered later on because we had a beautiful big house
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  or we had that special car in the driveway and we had that special car in the driveway.
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  Or we had the prettiest face with no wrinkles, right? We're not going to remember
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  for that. We're going to be remembered for the impact that you made.
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  People are going to say, wow, her soul, what she did. My goodness, she contributed.
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  And it could be anything. And again, it doesn't have to be that you have to
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  do some career or platform or social club like me, right? It could just be anything.
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  It could be something small. It could be that your decision is to once a month
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  make beautiful cards or little paintings and go deliver them to,
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  say, a memory care facility for older people. It could be a retirement home.
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  It could be just anything that you are a difference in someone's lives,
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  and people will remember you and thank you for that.
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  That sounds amazing, Shauvon. You really sound like your cup is full.
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  It sounds like the Aloha Ladies Group, it's not just a service for you to give
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  to people, but they're filling up your cup too.
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  And it's amazing when what you do can give back as much as what you're giving out.
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  And I love the fact that you're cup and you feel so inspired after you do these
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  events and these social clubs and bringing everyone together as a social club
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  and as an organization so that you really do have a womanhood.
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  You've created an environment where people can thrive and learn and teach each
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  other and learn from each other, et cetera.
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  And businesses can grow through this as well. I'm loving this.
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  This is amazing. And not to transition too quickly, but then you transitioned as well.
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  And after the Lahaina fires, which was a big deal for Maui, you transitioned
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  and wrote a children's book.
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  It gave you the idea to create a children's book and the reason why and then
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  how you came up with the idea as well. Sure, absolutely.
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  Well, you know, when I was in college, I wrote for the newspaper and then I
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  wrote for a magazine later on in my life. So I've always been a writer.
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  I've always, interesting, you'll notice when you look back at your life,
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  you'll see little things to where something later on happens and you go,
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  I see how that full circle happened.
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  And that's kind of one of the things with the book. So me and my daughter used
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  to, I mean, since she was, I don't know, maybe three, so young,
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  she's eight now, but I would write these little books, little stories,
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  and then she would color.
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  So I would read them, she couldn't read yet. I would read them to her,
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  just what the words I would write. And then she would illustrate each page.
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  And so we had this thing for all her childhood, basically, where we'd always just do this.
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  I just, so it's always been a thing I love to write. I've always loved doing.
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  I never really thought I would write a children's book. I just more did it fun with her.
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  And so when the fires happened, that was extremely devastating for our whole island, for all of us.
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  Very, very hard. And so having a child that was what she would have been like six.
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  And so, yeah, I think six, almost seven. having her not understand or be able
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  to, children can't wrap their head around what has just happened that is happening.
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  So extremely devastating, right? And we also want to protect our children and
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  not hurt them either, right?
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  So we have to give them the information of the truth of what is happening because
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  they saw a frantic all of us were.
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  I mean, you can't hide it from your child. You know, there's smoke.
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  I was here on Maui. You can see everything that's happening.
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  So they don't quite understand. They're at that age. And so after the fires.
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  When things were kind of settling, obviously there's still so much going on.
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  My husband was actually with his business over there trying to help with all
• 22:53
  the stuff like right after the, and so then all the way through the cleanup.
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  I don't understand why daddy's not home at all and he's gone at 4 a.m.
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  And he's not getting home at 10 at night because he was over there helping with this.
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  So when I was helping to volunteer and do things that I can,
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  so we were kind of in this, she's like getting what's happening.
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  She's sensing it all. She's feeling all of it, but not understanding.
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  And so as I'm trying to explain it to her, I was feeling this really pull on my heart.
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  Can't just be her. There has to be other children.
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  And so I was wrestling with, I can't share a story about that.
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  That doesn't make sense for me. And so I would pray on it and pray on it.
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  And I just, for me, was like, I'm really filling this pool to make a children's
• 23:35
  book, but I don't understand because it can't be to make a children a book about the fire.
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  That doesn't make sense. Everything was really fresh. It was kind of confusing.
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  And again, that's where all of us, all different situations,
• 23:47
  We feel these pulls and sometimes we don't know what they mean or how they work out.
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  So I just kept thinking and praying and thinking and praying.
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  And then I was trying to share it with my daughter more and more.
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  And then it's about Lahaina.
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  It's about the beauty of Lahaina. It's about the people of Lahaina.
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  It's about the whole history this is about. It's about keeping that.
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  Keeping Lahaina alive. That's what it is.
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  And so as I kept working through all these thoughts, I reached out to an artist.
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  She's born here, born and raised on Maui, has her family here.
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  And I reached out to her and said, this might sound crazy, but I just have this
• 24:25
  pull in my heart and this idea. Can we meet? Can we talk?
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  And so I said, I'm having this, but I really want to write this story.
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  Just be like a beautiful keepsake for everyone and give back with it and just
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  bless the community and bless everyone. That's really what it was for.
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  I want to bless the Lahaina community overall because of what they all went through.
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  And I want to bless everyone beyond if I can with it. And so I said,
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  can you do the illustrations? If I say each page, what I'm really wanting to
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  portray on each page with illustration, can you do that for me?
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  Would you be willing to do that for me?
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  And she said, yes, absolutely. She's like, I love it. And I thought this was perfect.
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  This is when you were meant to intersect and meet each other.
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  And how I even met her was through my social club.
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  So again, it all ties into my journalism major, you know, writing for years
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  and years, never knowing that I was going to do anything with that.
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  And then doing the social club, meeting her through that.
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  I mean, everything just connects and intertwines, even we don't think it does.
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  We got together and we created this beautiful story.
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  And these characters are journeying through Lahaina. And in every illustration
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  are these beautiful, important locations and a lot of them historical locations
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  in Lahaina that are no longer there. They got taken down by the fire.
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  So now when you can open this book, you feel like you're right back there in
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  Lahaina, like it's still there. And for me.
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  There's several parts of this. So there's the part of, we just want to give
• 25:50
  back. We gave back with the book to Lahaina Arts Guild.
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  It's an incredible nonprofit in Lahaina that blesses all the families that live in Lahaina.
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  And I do, I think it's like 4,000 music classes, 5,000 art classes every year.
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  It's so, it's incredible.
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  So that was right up our alley. This is perfect.
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  You know, we gave back. So we blessed the community that way.
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  We also, in turn, when I met people from especially we did a book signing at Barnes & Noble.
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  It was just incredible, the response, because you also have these feelings of,
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  is Lahaina, everyone that's in the community all over Maui, but especially Lahaina,
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  are they going to understand what we were trying to do for them?
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  Are they going to understand that we really just wanted to have something that
• 26:26
  they can have a keepsake and bless them?
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  And any family that wrote me that was from Lahaina, we gave them a free book.
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  We really tried to just bless how we could. I just thought about this.
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  I should actually fast forward a second.
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  This was also a big part before I got into creating the book,
• 26:41
  and I feel like this is a huge pivotal piece in this, but this is really important to share.
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  So I'll kind of fast forward back to pre-book when I was having the nudging,
• 26:50
  thinking about the book and wanting to do it.
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  So I ended up having this, I helped host and create a big event.
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  It was for 250 Lahaina children and their families that lost their homes in the fires.
• 27:05
  There's way more people than that were affected by this, of course,
• 27:09
  But we wanted to try to focus, if we could, and then expand it out from that.
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  But first focus on the ones that lost everything, their homes and everything.
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  And so when you take 250 children and their families, it was over a 700-person
• 27:22
  event. And so I helped with Hope Chapel.
• 27:25
  We all created a plan. How can we do this when we want it to be a Christmas
• 27:29
  event? It was the Christmas after the fire, so how many months after.
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  Everything was so new, so fresh. And we just were like, let's just bless the
• 27:37
  families however we can. So it was a beautiful event.
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  We had photography set up where we did a photo shoot.
• 27:44
  The event was incredible. You know, we tried to encompass everything we could
• 27:49
  just to make it a very special Christmas for them.
• 27:51
  So Chick-fil-A donated all the food. We had bikes and ukuleles and all presents.
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  I mean, it was incredible. It got like every child got to get like five presents,
• 28:01
  take home a bike. And then we had photographers come and do like Christmas photography
• 28:05
  sessions. And we had big bounce houses.
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  We just tried to make it the most fun, beautiful, so they could just come.
• 28:12
  It wouldn't obviously change anything they went through.
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  It's so small in the seam of that. But it was just to give them one day that
• 28:19
  they could just not think about that.
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  That they could come. They could just see the kids' faces light up and just
• 28:25
  be happy and have fun. And that's all it was about.
• 28:27
  Because of all of that and that day, it was so heavy. There's no way it cannot be heavy, right?
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  What all these families just went through. And you're just trying to just to
• 28:36
  bless them for the day. You just want them to feel that we're here for them.
• 28:40
  We love you. We want tears that day. just share on them and love on them.
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  And so that day, that was one thing that I feel like was such a huge thing in
• 28:47
  the book too, because I remember seeing the kids just light up so happy.
• 28:51
  And I was like, wow, if there's something that I could do that could help these
• 28:56
  children light up like this, but every day, not just today, like,
• 29:00
  what is that? How can I do that?
• 29:02
  And so in the turn of praying about the book and everything,
• 29:05
  that's kind of how it all came to be where it was like, this is it.
• 29:08
  I'm understanding now the pull I'm having for this children's book.
• 29:11
  It's to do this, to bless and bring smiles to children. And that's kind of how it all worked out.
• 29:17
  So back to the book, it just ended up being something that we met so many people.
• 29:22
  Me and the illustrator, when we were doing like, say the book signing and passing
• 29:26
  out books where there's just community members that come up and would just hug
• 29:29
  us and have tears and say, thank you for doing this. We needed this.
• 29:34
  I needed this. And these are adults, even though the books were children.
• 29:37
  And it was like, that's it and I literally looked at
• 29:39
  one day looked at Tioni and said this is why we did this
• 29:42
  this is why so it's always like again
• 29:45
  you can always do things and I like to revert back because
• 29:48
  I want this to inspire whoever's listening to this podcast anyone that's listening
• 29:53
  I just hope that these little stories that I can share some big some small just
• 29:58
  will give them some type of inspiration for maybe something they have and so
• 30:03
  with this book it was like okay great we have blessed,
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  you know, this person and then this person and now this many people.
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  And that's all it is. It's just all about giving back.
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  And, you know, one story I'll share very briefly.
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  We've done a lot of book readings at elementary schools here and in one school
• 30:19
  particular without saying the.
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  You know, it was beautiful. It was about a class. I think it was two.
• 30:25
  It may have been two kindergarten classes. So I think probably a little over
• 30:28
  40 kids and all the parents came.
• 30:30
  And so we, you know, talked with the families. They made beautiful art for us
• 30:34
  with rainbows to match the book. And it was just beautiful. And we got to talk story.
• 30:39
  Both teachers dressed up as the characters to the book.
• 30:42
  It was just a beautiful experience. And we got to just meet the parents and the kids.
• 30:46
  And so we read the book. and afterwards the teachers
• 30:49
  did a beautiful hula dance for us and played the ukulele
• 30:52
  and then the kids sang songs to say thank you for us coming
• 30:55
  and one of the teachers says there's a little boy that wants to share something
• 30:58
  with you and so he stood up in front of all of us and I can only imagine how
• 31:02
  nervous a little kindergartner could be in front of families you know all his
• 31:07
  students there's like over 40 kids and he stood in front of us and told us while
• 31:12
  he's holding actually the book in his hands.
• 31:14
  And I do have a photo of it and then hugging him after.
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  But he goes and he says it in his small voice. And he's like a little boy.
• 31:22
  And he goes, I just want to say, I lost my home in the fires. I was very sad.
• 31:28
  But I read your book and it makes me happy.
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  And I just was like, come here, open my arms to him. And he ran to me and I'm
• 31:36
  just hugging and I just start bawling and hugging him.
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  And here's this little sweet boy angel in my arms.
• 31:43
  And I'm just thinking, my goodness, I could cry right now.
• 31:47
  Like, this is why, this is why. So even though I helped bless so many other
• 31:52
  people in that moment of my, of the hours I spent on writing and writing and
• 31:57
  rewriting and taking away from my own, I spent with my daughter to do this.
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  And so it's like, it's all unselfishly just trying to give and all of that work,
• 32:06
  all the money I had to spend to produce the book. I haven't made one penny off of it.
• 32:10
  So it's like, I've spent money. I've out of my pocket, out of my time.
• 32:14
  But that moment and hugging him, this is why, this is why.
• 32:19
  And I can just really, these type of moments for the rest of your life make you, that's it.
• 32:23
  That's what I needed. I just needed to impact one person if I could.
• 32:27
  And if it's more, fantastic.
• 32:29
  And then after we did that book reading, the teachers say, okay,
• 32:32
  go hug these, which are just us. Go hug them and say thank you.
• 32:35
  And then here's 40 kids rushing at us and hugging us at the same time.
• 32:38
  And it was just so much love and so beautiful.
• 32:42
  And that's, those are the things and those are those moments that make it all worth it.
• 32:46
  And yeah, that's how that all played into be.
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  And so don't know if I would ever write a book again. I loved the whole experience.
• 32:53
  I thought it was incredible.
• 32:55
  And we were able to bless so many people with it. But really,
• 32:59
  I just just the impact alone and the love that the community felt for me and
• 33:04
  the illustrator, Tioni, was just really all I wanted.
• 33:07
  So it sounds like you're guided a lot by faith and that your faith really does drive your actions.
• 33:14
  And when you hear your intuition tell you you should go for something,
• 33:18
  you wrestle with it for a little bit.
• 33:20
  You pray about it for a little bit and then you just kind of jump in and do
• 33:24
  it. You don't hold back. You go all in.
• 33:26
  There's nothing slowing you down. That's what I love about you.
• 33:29
  And you're always such a giver to provide service to other individuals and always
• 33:35
  helping and giving hope and encouragement. You're just loving on everyone.
• 33:40
  I think a lot of times we as women forget that we are divine feminine and part
• 33:45
  of who we are is to love other people and to give. And we make the world a better
• 33:52
  place when we are in our true femininity.
• 33:54
  And you're constantly in your true feminine.
• 33:56
  You're giving to other people without the need to receive.
• 34:01
  And that level of giving is rare in this world. And that's one of the things I love about you.
• 34:07
  So going forward, how do you see your career or do you see yourself going towards
• 34:14
  any types of organizations?
• 34:16
  I know the community, the Aloha Ladies Group is huge. to the community of that
• 34:20
  organization is still going strong and growing and probably growing into other areas.
• 34:25
  But do you see yourself branching into anything else? Because you're kind of
• 34:29
  like an entrepreneur and growing into new businesses constantly.
• 34:32
  Thank you so much. That was so sweet. That honestly means so much to me,
• 34:37
  hearing those sweet words from you.
• 34:39
  I appreciate that a lot. That means so much to me. Where it's going to go from
• 34:42
  here, it's always the sky's the limit, right?
• 34:44
  Aloha Ladies Social club keeps growing and growing i
• 34:48
  suggest anyone listening to please come on it's
• 34:51
  free and follow us on instagram and i don't
• 34:54
  know i just want to continue on growing
• 34:58
  and expanding in the areas that women need it and that's just want to keep creating
• 35:03
  a platform and a space for women to feel heard to feel included and to help
• 35:09
  their dreams come true when i'm helping other women share their business and
• 35:13
  talk about it, I'm helping. That's their dream.
• 35:15
  That's their dream and their business they wanted to do. And I'm helping them
• 35:19
  get it out to the public, to the community and spreading it.
• 35:23
  So I'm just trying to continue helping women just learn what their passion is,
• 35:29
  maybe help guide them if I can help them get out there.
• 35:32
  So as much as I keep growing, I truly just want to help other people.
• 35:37
  It's just a way to bring us together and to grow.
• 35:41
  And there's some like couple little things I want to share really quick.
• 35:44
  So for anyone that's listening that I hope this will help them a little bit.
• 35:47
  If they say I've had that in the back of my head, but I just can't do that. Or I.
• 35:52
  I just never could. I have a pile
• 35:54
  of laundry over here. I have two kids at home and I just can't for me.
• 35:58
  I'm done. And the one thing I just want to say is we're never done. We can do anything.
• 36:01
  Did I think I was going to be writing a book at this age, a children's book?
• 36:05
  No, but then you just do it. There's all these different things.
• 36:07
  You can do so many things. You don't have to just do one.
• 36:10
  You can do, if you feel a tug on your heart, you can do it.
• 36:14
  A couple of things that I like to do. So if they're feeling like a pull on their
• 36:17
  heart or they're feeling something, right?
• 36:19
  So time, I feel like this is with all of us. We always want to say,
• 36:22
  it's too late or I can't do it. Or it's not perfect. I don't have the whole idea.
• 36:26
  Well, it doesn't have to be perfect. You can just start where you are.
• 36:30
  Write it down, get your thoughts out.
• 36:32
  I always love tell one person in your circle. It could be your child.
• 36:36
  It could be your husband. It
• 36:36
  could just be one friend, but just share it with someone, write it down.
• 36:39
  And then each day, take like 10 minutes for yourself where you just think about
• 36:45
  that idea, write the idea.
• 36:46
  If you're starting to feel like something on your heart, like,
• 36:48
  wow, I could really do this. This is something for me.
• 36:50
  This is a dream that I have. This is something that I've always wanted to do,
• 36:53
  but I just don't have the nerve.
• 36:55
  Well, take even 20 minutes now and say, okay, what could I do to further myself
• 36:59
  in that dream? Is there one email I could do?
• 37:01
  Is there one day where I could just research one topic of this?
• 37:05
  Like just do something leaning towards it.
• 37:07
  And then as you keep doing that, and as you keep giving yourself more and more
• 37:11
  information, it might come to you even more clear.
• 37:14
  And then you might say, oh, wow, I can do this or do that.
• 37:17
  Another thing I love is like a joy list is let's say write down 15 things that
• 37:22
  make you happy. Just you, right?
• 37:24
  Something that is for you, that you love. And then say just once a week.
• 37:29
  Pick one of those things off the joy list and do it. Do it for you. Do it for yourself.
• 37:33
  Those are things that just help us lift, lift our spirits.
• 37:36
  And I know as myself too, being a mom, center my whole self around my daughter,
• 37:41
  my life, my kids, you know, keeping our home clean, right? All these things
• 37:44
  we have to do, plus our other things.
• 37:46
  But we got to focus a little bit on our dreams, ourselves, our hearts,
• 37:51
  our minds, all those things.
• 37:53
  And so make a little joy list. Start today.
• 37:55
  Make a joy list of 15 things that make you happy. And then just carve out doing
• 37:59
  one of those, one of them a week. You'll notice a difference.
• 38:02
  And then if there's a little dream or something that you have in your heart that you want to do.
• 38:06
  Just write it on paper, maybe talk to about somebody, and then just every day,
• 38:11
  even if it's for 10 minutes and that's all you can spare, you know, write on it.
• 38:15
  What could you do to help you get there? What's one thing you could do that
• 38:17
  could maybe get you one step closer to that?
• 38:20
  You know, look things up online or get a book about it, anything that you can
• 38:23
  do, and you'll start feeling a little bit of clarity for yourself on whatever
• 38:27
  it is that you might be able to do it.
• 38:29
  Because at any age, we can do anything, anything that we have in our mind.
• 38:34
  Or if it means something to you, you can do it.
• 38:37
  And for me, it was just, I knew that I was meant to use my connections,
• 38:44
  my heart, whatever it is, that it was meant to bring women together,
• 38:48
  to support women, to empower women and to make an impact in my community and to other people.
• 38:53
  And I didn't know how that worked. I didn't know how that was gonna come to be, right?
• 38:57
  No one knows. You're just kind of like, I feel all these things.
• 39:00
  I know I gotta do it somehow, but I don't know how, but I just started.
• 39:03
  I didn't try to make it perfect.
• 39:05
  I didn't try to say, oh, I have to have this beautiful business plan and this
• 39:09
  beautiful logo and all these beautiful things in place.
• 39:12
  It started. I just, you have to start. It's never the right time.
• 39:15
  That's one thing. People even say that about kids, right? Before I had my first
• 39:18
  kid, it's always a blessing.
• 39:20
  So same thing with this. It's just, I didn't know where I was going.
• 39:23
  I didn't have a huge master plan for it. I just did it. And I feel like that's
• 39:27
  where the beauty comes from things is just creating and doing.
• 39:32
  For me it was preying on it and just
• 39:35
  feeling guided to however it was meant to turn out and
• 39:38
  I feel that with any of us you know we all can
• 39:41
  do anything at any age and I just that's one thing I just really want
• 39:44
  to portray because I feel like I hear from a lot of women I can't I'm just too
• 39:47
  old now or I passed my time or you know I just have too many things that I can't
• 39:52
  and that's for me because I hear that so much especially within ladies I talk
• 39:56
  to at the social club but they're like wow I wish I could do something like
• 39:58
  this or I wish I could I hear that so much so I just hope that anyone listening to this podcast.
• 40:04
  That they feel inspired, even if it's just a little bit, and that they are able
• 40:09
  to want to, whatever it is, take notes from this or take an idea or a thought
• 40:15
  or anything and that they can really just feel like,
• 40:18
  okay, I'm leaving listening this today and I feel like, I feel inspired or I
• 40:22
  feel I want to go do something now or I want to help someone or so.
• 40:26
  Well, one of the things that happens a lot with women, especially in their 30s,
• 40:30
  40s, and 50s is they start to lose their identity.
• 40:33
  Their identity gets wrapped up in their relationship. It gets wrapped up in their children.
• 40:37
  One of the things I love about you is that you keep reinventing yourself and
• 40:42
  doing things that help build your identity.
• 40:44
  You're thriving with your identity in your marriage, which means you have a
• 40:48
  marriage that you're supported in, which is wonderful as well.
• 40:52
  But you're growing as a person with your identity in your marriage and with your family.
• 40:58
  And one of the challenges I know is the work-life balance and managing all this,
• 41:04
  because you've got a lot of balls up in the air or you're juggling a lot of things at the same time.
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  And how do you keep that work-life balance with your family, with your daughter?
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  How do you keep that going so that everything stays together?
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  I think, you know, years and years and years ago, I don't think I did.
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  I think I, at that time, was very just all about my daughter and just doing
• 41:26
  the things and scrambling everywhere.
• 41:28
  And I think as time has went on and I've learned more and more tools and more and more ways, now I am.
• 41:35
  You kind of just sit and you focus down on, okay, these are things I'm carving
• 41:39
  out for each person in my circle, right?
• 41:42
  Could be your parents. It could be your children. Could be your husband.
• 41:45
  And then what about for me? What am I carving for me? What do I need to make
• 41:49
  sure that I'm doing so I can be a better mother thing?
• 41:52
  So it's all about finding that balance, which is very difficult.
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  But that is something that can be found when you can just sit,
• 41:59
  look at all your things, get yourself organized.
• 42:02
  And really, it's almost like speaking to someone that can help you,
• 42:06
  whether that's like a coach or like almost like a motivational kind of a friend
• 42:10
  or a person, which I hope I can be that for everyone in the social club and everybody.
• 42:14
  Anyone else that needs it, that's something for me that I've always wanted to
• 42:18
  continue to help other women. And I don't know if that's the way that I'll end up going.
• 42:21
  You know, you never really know. I've had a year or so where I actually had
• 42:25
  this event plan that was going to be kind of like a mixer for the social club,
• 42:29
  but also be motivational and empowerment kind of a thing.
• 42:32
  And I just have all these just things that I want to share and say and just
• 42:36
  help women. And so that might be something that later on ends up evolving, I think, on its own.
• 42:42
  But I've always been a believer in not just saying, oh, I'm this or I'm this
• 42:46
  or I'm that or putting myself in a category.
• 42:48
  I really just see how things evolve and how things come.
• 42:51
  And if there ends up being more and more women that reach out and that want
• 42:54
  help or want to learn how to do this or want more tips or things like I would love to share that.
• 43:00
  So even just connecting with other women in that way. So I don't know how it
• 43:04
  will all evolve eventually, but that's definitely in my heart and how I want to help others.
• 43:10
  But I think we all have lots of things on our plate.
• 43:13
  Everybody does. And so we have to just look at them, how we can arrange them
• 43:18
  in our daily life to where we keep feeling successful at the end of the day
• 43:22
  and feeling like, okay, I conquered all these things.
• 43:25
  I also did something for myself. and yeah
• 43:28
  if anyone's looking for a sign this is their sign they
• 43:31
  can do it you know they they can make it to
• 43:34
  where every day feels at the end of the day a
• 43:37
  regular doing the same like getting up feeding the kids going to work coming
• 43:40
  home getting up going to bed same thing they can they can have the life they
• 43:45
  want and the life they dream they just have to put some few things into place
• 43:49
  but it can happen you want to live in a certain place like maui this is where
• 43:53
  i wanted to be made it happen.
• 43:55
  And twice, I moved back when I had my daughter to be close to my family.
• 43:59
  And my grandma had really mentioned she ended up passing away.
• 44:02
  And that little bit of time we got with her when my daughter was first born is so precious to me.
• 44:08
  And I think if I wouldn't have came back, I wouldn't have got that.
• 44:10
  And then I knew I'm going to move all the way back to Maui again, did it twice.
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  And we just all have these things in our lives that sometimes feel changes or
• 44:18
  different paths, but they're all meant for a reason.
• 44:20
  And we just have to figure out and look ahead on how it's going to be and just
• 44:25
  really feel whatever's in your heart, whatever you're feeling the tug.
• 44:27
  We've got to follow with those feelings because they're there for a reason.
• 44:31
  It sounds like you really know your purpose. And your purpose is to help and
• 44:36
  serve other people and to give people love.
• 44:39
  And that's, I think, a strong part of your purpose.
• 44:41
  And one of the things women lose a lot of times, whether they're just going
• 44:46
  through their midlife crisis or maybe they get a divorce or they have a spouse
• 44:49
  die, they lose their purpose because a lot of people's purpose is wrapped up
• 44:54
  in their relationships.
• 44:55
  But you've taken it and you've wrapped your purpose up into serving so many
• 44:59
  people and making a strong impact on the community as a whole.
• 45:04
  And there's people that are now benefiting from your purposes.
• 45:08
  So how do you keep your marriage strong at the same time while serving the community as well?
• 45:14
  Let me think how I want to answer that question really quick.
• 45:16
  So you asked like how I'm keeping my relationship strong.
• 45:20
  Because you're focused a lot on serving others, and that's part of your purpose
• 45:24
  and loving other people.
• 45:26
  How do you keep your relationship going when you're serving other people and
• 45:29
  making sure that, you know, your purpose is driven with him as well?
• 45:33
  That's a great question.
• 45:34
  It's all about balance, right? So when he's at work during the day,
• 45:38
  I focus on my daughter in the morning, and then I carve out my day. I have a set calendar.
• 45:43
  I do set myself, okay, I need to do this for this time at Aloha,
• 45:46
  ladies and do this. Okay, I need to email these people back for events.
• 45:48
  Everything's organized and structured.
• 45:50
  And then at the end of the day, I make sure I stop it when it's time to stop and it's family time.
• 45:54
  And I make sure it's what I need to do with my family or it's a walk on the beach or a sunset walk.
• 46:00
  And I have my time that I need things for me that I know is filling my cup up, filling others cups up.
• 46:06
  So it's really, it is, it's all about balance.
• 46:09
  And then the weekends, it's going to be mixed with a little bit of work stuff,
• 46:12
  but usually it's family time.
• 46:14
  So it's just finding the balance of what you need to do for your children,
• 46:17
  what you need to do for your partner, what you need to do for work stuff, and then for you.
• 46:22
  And we forget so much about us. And that was me for years and years.
• 46:27
  I never filled my cup. I wouldn't do anything for me. It was always for other
• 46:30
  people, for other people, for other people, and still a lot that way.
• 46:34
  But I do make sure that in turn of that, I'm trying to fill my cup a little
• 46:38
  bit with things that bring me joy.
• 46:40
  And again, that leads you back to the joy list, right?
• 46:43
  So. And how do you, you know, balance your religion as well as this?
• 46:46
  Because I think your faith is a big driver in who you are as a person and your
• 46:51
  identity. How do you balance that as well?
• 46:54
  Yeah, so it really is. And I know for everyone, everyone might be different,
• 46:58
  their belief system and things like that. I am a huge believer.
• 47:01
  I've always been a believer. I really feel that Jesus gets me through everything.
• 47:06
  And we're talking the good and the bad. For how I, on a daily work,
• 47:10
  is I have this book called Jesus Calling. I think it's incredible.
• 47:14
  It's a great way to start your day. It's a short little message. You read one a day.
• 47:18
  And I have the book, I could just show you guys, but I have this book where
• 47:21
  I'd say now, oh my goodness, since before I had my daughter. So it could be.
• 47:25
  Nine or 10, almost 10 years, who knows, probably nine years at least,
• 47:28
  where I've read the same message every single day for a full year.
• 47:31
  And then when you get to the end of it, you start over again.
• 47:33
  And it's funny, the book's starting to fall apart. And my husband goes,
• 47:36
  why don't you just buy a new one?
• 47:37
  And I said, how many tears that book has seen?
• 47:40
  That tear, that book has seen so many shedded tears on so many days at so many different times.
• 47:46
  I'm like, that book holds so much of my emotion and love and pain and everything.
• 47:53
  And I said, no, I can't get rid of this. It even has teeth marks from when Violet
• 47:57
  was like, I think two years old biting on the corner.
• 48:00
  I know if I'm going to go on vacation for a week, if I don't bring it,
• 48:02
  I'll take screenshots of each page and read it.
• 48:06
  But yeah, so for me, it's starting my day reading that, getting my head in the
• 48:11
  right, praying and talking with him.
• 48:13
  And then through every decision that I do or a way that I'm feeling,
• 48:17
  I pray on it. Is this meant to be? Am I meant to go this way.
• 48:20
  Please guide me if I am. I don't know, but just show me the way or put up a
• 48:24
  door. Don't let it happen.
• 48:25
  So for me, my faith is huge in it. I know he's there. I know he's guiding me.
• 48:29
  I know he's protecting me.
• 48:31
  And sometimes we don't understand things. There's bad things that happen in
• 48:34
  our lives, all of our lives, tragedy, and we don't get it, but we just have to keep having faith.
• 48:39
  And just the way that he has guided me and let me bless so many other people
• 48:47
  and impact their lives, and in turn, that's been such the big blessing to me. I know that's from him.
• 48:53
  I know that he has that. He only has good for us.
• 48:56
  He only wants good things for us. He only wants to bless us and show us the
• 49:02
  beautiful life that we can have if we believe and trust in him.
• 49:06
  And I don't want to push anyone if anyone doesn't believe in that,
• 49:10
  but it never hurts to believe.
• 49:11
  I've also incorporated including your family in some of the events too,
• 49:15
  and have them like help you out a little bit.
• 49:18
  I know that you've got an Instagram page for your daughter.
• 49:22
  And she talks about her faith a lot as well. And you're showing her the way
• 49:27
  through a great example.
• 49:29
  How do you see that, you know, balancing out going forward?
• 49:32
  Do you see more of that happening? Because I'm sure she's taking after you as
• 49:36
  a great influence on her.
• 49:38
  It's just really sweet seeing her kind of grow in her faith,
• 49:41
  watching her kind of pray. Or she has a little book that she reads daily, too.
• 49:45
  Watching her, I thought, oh, my goodness, this is adorable. I would just love
• 49:49
  for her to share this with other children.
• 49:51
  And so I said, do you want to share this with other children? And she said, yeah.
• 49:54
  So we started this. It's called Jesus Inspired Kids.
• 49:58
  And then she's able to kind of share little messages or little cute things for other children.
• 50:03
  So right now it's on, we just made a little page on Instagram and TikTok.
• 50:07
  Kids aren't really on there as much like her age. So we're really going to transform
• 50:11
  it into more of a YouTube space. That way, I think younger kids can see at her
• 50:15
  age and kind of just be inspired and hear sweet messages like that.
• 50:19
  Yeah, wherever she ends up taking it to.
• 50:22
  You've taught her well how to share and love on other people.
• 50:25
  And that's one of the blessings that you offer is just how much love and concern
• 50:30
  you give for other people.
• 50:32
  And that's one of the things with the Aloha Ladies. It comes from your heart.
• 50:36
  It comes from your soul. And you were guided.
• 50:39
  I think it was divine guidance, honestly, into doing that for other people.
• 50:44
  Do you see it growing into other areas, maybe having a men's group as well.
• 50:49
  Do you see that happening at all?
• 50:51
  I cannot say how many messages I get from other islands, especially Oahu and
• 50:55
  Big Island that are like, do you have this over here?
• 50:58
  We need this over here. And I said, yes, we're working on it.
• 51:01
  So we currently are working.
• 51:02
  I just have all of them follow the Maui page for now because it's just kind
• 51:06
  of all inclusive for everybody. And I support all the islands through it, of course, too.
• 51:10
  But yeah, we definitely are starting and growing into other areas.
• 51:14
  And I have one girl on Oahu and then a lady on Big Island that I'm kind of talking
• 51:20
  to to see if I can kind of get to know them more.
• 51:22
  Probably need to plan a couple trips together and see if I feel like they could
• 51:25
  be the right fit for kind of leading.
• 51:27
  But there's so many women that reach out that want that on other islands and
• 51:30
  other places. And I think men would love that too.
• 51:33
  Yes. So there's absolutely potential for all of that.
• 51:37
  I will just as wherever there's The need is where I will need, will do it gladly.
• 51:43
  And if there's a need for women wanting more help and guidance, I'll evolve into that.
• 51:49
  So I'm just kind of wherever people reach out to me, I encourage people to reach
• 51:53
  out to me. Send me a DM on Instagram.
• 51:55
  I'd love to meet you, talk with you. And if there's a way I can help someone, I would love to.
• 51:59
  Yeah, we'll post your website as well if you want a link to it so people can
• 52:04
  have access to contact you.
• 52:06
  But the other thing is, is so you've grown as such an individual and such an
• 52:11
  inspiration to so many people. and you do truly have an entrepreneur spirit.
• 52:17
  Do you see yourself going into other businesses or any other ideas besides Aloha
• 52:22
  Ladies or besides the book, et cetera?
• 52:24
  What other areas do you wanna focus on in your career moving forward?
• 52:28
  I mean, that's a good question too. There's a lot, you know, I have to say.
• 52:32
  I have several different things kind of written down as I would say some are
• 52:36
  kind of goals, some are kind of dreams, some are kind of ideas,
• 52:41
  right? Like I like to separate things out, which is also another good thing to do too.
• 52:45
  I separate them out and you almost like categories, right, if you will.
• 52:49
  And you kind of look at them and say, what could I do to edge towards this?
• 52:52
  Is this what's meant to be?
• 52:53
  And I pray on them and I think about them. I work on daily a little bit.
• 52:57
  So kind of the same thing I was highlighting earlier and make your list.
• 53:01
  Work on it 10 minutes a day or 20 minutes a day.
• 53:03
  And so I do that too. I implement all the things that I'm sharing myself.
• 53:07
  And so, yes, I do have some other ideas and some things. I won't share too much
• 53:11
  yet until I know that they're evolving.
• 53:14
  But definitely, if I foresee them coming forward and happening,
• 53:18
  people will absolutely see them on the platform, on the social club and the emails.
• 53:24
  But right now, it's just I see a big part of Aloha Ladies.
• 53:28
  I mean, it's really continuing to expand largely and fastly.
• 53:32
  So I see a lot of different avenues with that.
• 53:35
  I still have several events that are coming up for the rest of the year.
• 53:39
  I'm really excited about those.
• 53:40
  So lots of events, lots of things bringing women together, lots of fun questions
• 53:45
  on Instagram. And those are so fun.
• 53:47
  People love those and lots of ways to support other businesses.
• 53:50
  I have this really fun VIP experience platform thing that's coming out with
• 53:55
  the social club. So that's going to be amazing.
• 53:58
  So that's in the works right now. Hoping to launch that at the beginning of
• 54:01
  August. And then I really would love to somehow start almost like call it coaching,
• 54:07
  but just like nurturing would be the word because I'm a nurturer and I want
• 54:10
  to help. I'm so like guidance.
• 54:11
  So if there's a way that I can help guide and nurture and help women in all
• 54:16
  aspects, there's something like that I'm kind of looking into and just praying
• 54:20
  on and just waiting and see what is the need there?
• 54:23
  What can I help there? So we'll see how it all works.
• 54:26
  Comes to be. But yes, there's a lot of things. And that's really one of the
• 54:30
  things. If you can make your list, make a dreams list.
• 54:33
  That's okay to dream. It's okay even if they feel so far out of touch.
• 54:37
  Just write them down. If you have ideas that seem sillier, write them down.
• 54:42
  They can be creative ideas. You can have your fun, silly, expansive dreams.
• 54:47
  And then you can have the more realistic things. But write them down and you
• 54:51
  will see them. They will happen.
• 54:53
  And I can tell my mom of this really quick. If she listens to this,
• 54:56
  she'll be like, probably already thinking this in her head from a little kid to like a teenager.
• 55:01
  She used to tell me mainly when I was a teenager, how she had this list and
• 55:05
  how she wrote down when I get to be a certain age, I want this,
• 55:09
  this, this, I won't list all the things on there.
• 55:10
  She had these things listed down that she wanted to happen for her.
• 55:14
  Right. And like almost like, I don't know if it's a manifesting list,
• 55:16
  but it's just what you want, what you dream of.
• 55:18
  And so she put that away. And then when she opened it, I don't even know how
• 55:21
  many years later, whatever it was, those things came true on the list.
• 55:25
  I mean, it was like, wow. And so her, I remember sharing lists,
• 55:28
  showing me the paper and I'm like, oh my gosh, you wrote that how long ago?
• 55:32
  And that, those things happen. So it's baffling.
• 55:36
  So because of her sharing that with me, I am a real believer in putting things
• 55:42
  on paper, writing them down.
• 55:43
  I mean, if I could even find, I'm sure I have it put away somewhere.
• 55:47
  I've been doing Aloha Ladies now for over four and a half years.
• 55:50
  I wrote things down. I jotted them down. I remember in the very middle,
• 55:53
  I made a circle and I wrote Aloha Ladies.
• 55:55
  And I drew lines coming off of it. How could I help people?
• 55:59
  What could I do in this? And literally, it's just sketching stuff.
• 56:02
  And here we are, fast forward four and a half years later.
• 56:05
  I'm sure 80% of those things on there are real now, without even thinking about it.
• 56:11
  One of the things I'm sure you have to be good at, because you do so much for everyone else.
• 56:17
  Is to make sure you still have boundaries to tell people no when they try to
• 56:22
  overextend you because it's always a struggle for women that like to give is
• 56:27
  to be able to say no to other people because you're going to have to because
• 56:31
  you can't get everything done.
• 56:32
  So how do you balance that by saying no with making sure you focus on purpose
• 56:38
  and focus on what's necessary to make sure you're hitting your goals?
• 56:42
  You hit that nail on the head. That is so true. That is so true for all of us.
• 56:47
  So I am working on that myself you
• 56:50
  know boundaries are hard to do they're hard to set up I think
• 56:53
  they are very important but yeah for
• 56:56
  giver type people they can be definitely hard to
• 56:59
  do and we can stretch ourselves too thin sometimes when
• 57:02
  that happens so yeah that's something that I just hired on and brought someone
• 57:06
  on to be helping me with Aloha Ladies kind of be a new team member I'm really
• 57:10
  excited for her I think that's going to kind of take some things off the plate
• 57:13
  so I'm not I'm feeling like I'm doing so many things and I can allow for these
• 57:17
  other dreams and creative ideas to come to life.
• 57:20
  I'm just like, well, how can I reorganize better, hire on someone so I don't really have to say no.
• 57:26
  I can just spread it out a little bit more so it's not so much on me.
• 57:30
  And how do you keep your self-care going? So how do you take care of you as
• 57:34
  well with your self-care routine?
• 57:36
  I mean, it's really important to do that. And it's hard when we're busy,
• 57:39
  everyday life, kids, careers, work, all of that.
• 57:42
  I just, for me, one of my things that's
• 57:44
  like a non-negotiable is me and my daughter, my husband get off work.
• 57:48
  We go and do our sunset walk. We go out and kick the soccer ball around or we
• 57:52
  go to the beach and we walk on the beach, but that's our thing.
• 57:55
  So no matter what's going on, when for me, okay, it's about 530 or five o'clock
• 58:00
  time for us to eat something and I just shut it off.
• 58:03
  And so for me, family and that important time is truly so important.
• 58:09
  I don't let it get over stuff going on. It's just going to have to wait.
• 58:12
  And so for me, things that are self-care to me, which is somebody else might
• 58:17
  be like, Like, oh, getting my hair done or a massage. And I like that stuff too.
• 58:20
  But for my day-to-day, most important is family time, getting sun,
• 58:24
  seeing the sunset, breathing in fresh air, being outside and doing those types
• 58:29
  of things that really bring me joy.
• 58:31
  That's beautiful. So you get to spend quality family time together.
• 58:35
  You've created these businesses that are self-sustaining and they're growing to a bigger level.
• 58:40
  And you've given so much back to the island of Maui, which is such a blessing,
• 58:44
  I'm sure, for everyone there.
• 58:46
  Is there anything you want to add to the ladies out there to give them maybe
• 58:51
  a little bit of motivation or to give them a little bit of inspired thought
• 58:55
  to help them grow into their own purpose,
• 58:59
  to their own ideas, and to realize their dreams?
• 59:03
  If you dream of something and it's in your heart, just don't let it stay there.
• 59:08
  I guess that's one thing.
• 59:10
  We have sometimes we have these feelings and we just let it sit.
• 59:14
  If we put all the energy, love.
• 59:18
  Time, thoughtfulness that we put into our kids or our husband or our nine to
• 59:24
  five job or whatever it is,
• 59:26
  if you took all that, even just 20% of that and took it to that dream and put
• 59:32
  it into that dream or wrote it on paper where that dream is,
• 59:35
  just try it. That's all I have to say.
• 59:38
  Try it and you'll see what will come out of it and what will happen.
• 59:41
  If it's in your heart, it's for a reason. That's the main thing I can say.
• 59:44
  Just don't let it sit there.
• 59:46
  Bring it out. And sometimes we don't know what to do with it.
• 59:50
  And that's why I suggest saying write it down on paper and then even tell one person closest to you.
• 59:56
  See what you feel after you do that. You'll talk with them about it and they'll
• 59:59
  say, oh, well, what's your idea? Well, what would you do?
• 1:00:02
  And then you'll interact on that idea a little and it actually starts to grow
• 1:00:06
  and you'll see, but just don't let it sit in your heart because we all are blessed
• 1:00:10
  with so many gifts and blessings and we're meant to use them.
• 1:00:15
  So I just, and same thing with you, you're so good at talking and supporting
• 1:00:18
  people and it's like your natural gift.
• 1:00:21
  You know, you can just talk and say so many beautiful things about people and
• 1:00:25
  you interview people, you talk about people, and it just generally comes from
• 1:00:29
  your heart. It just like comes out so natural.
• 1:00:32
  Not a lot of people could do that. Not a lot of people could just talk so effortlessly.
• 1:00:36
  You're not reading a script. You're just talking. It just comes from your heart
• 1:00:40
  and not a lot of people can do that. And that's your gift.
• 1:00:43
  That's your blessing. You're connecting so many people that it could be one
• 1:00:48
  or two people that listen to this podcast and it could be 50 that listen to,
• 1:00:52
  say, one you did the other day. And you might change people's lives.
• 1:00:55
  You might encourage them. You might bless them. You might help give them knowledge
• 1:00:58
  that they never had an idea about.
• 1:01:01
  So that is the blessing of this podcast and so many podcasts and what you're doing.
• 1:01:07
  That was your gift. And you have so many more gifts. Well, thank you. I appreciate that.
• 1:01:11
  And I do think that my gift is to help empower women in all areas.
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  I like to help women grow and to live life to their fullest.
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  That's our purpose, right? Your idea is to help and organize communities,
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  and mine is to help every individual woman just empower her life and to live the best life she can.
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  I love that. I love that. I love that. But I think we're good.
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  I think we've covered almost everything today. If there's any other closing
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  Thank you for listening, everybody. Thank you for your time.
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  And I just hope that anyone listening feels a little bit more inspired.
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  Well, thank you, Diva Shauvon. This is Diva Mia signing off. Have a wonderful day.
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