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You are a Masterpiece in a Messy World · Start Your Comeback: Rebuilding after Divorce, Empty Nest, and Loss of Spouse

• 0:00
  Speaker 1: Is there a major life transition benching you?
• 0:02
  Speaker 1: I know you may be asking what's next?
• 0:06
  Speaker 1: What's my purpose?
• 0:07
  Speaker 1: What if?
• 0:08
  Speaker 1: Because I've asked those too.
• 0:12
  Speaker 1: Welcome to the Start your Comeback Podcast.
• 0:14
  Speaker 1: I'm Toni Thrash, a certified life coach, and I want to share the tools and practical steps to help you create a winning game plan to move into your new adventure.
• 0:25
  Speaker 1: Hi, welcome back.
• 0:57
  Speaker 1: You are listening to episode 57.
• 0:59
  Speaker 1: Raise your hand.
• 1:01
  Speaker 1: If you are a mess right now, or think you are a mess Good, then I'm not alone.
• 1:08
  Speaker 1: We are a hot mess right now everyone.
• 1:12
  Speaker 1: There are no exemptions.
• 1:14
  Speaker 1: With a highly contested election looming, I feel we are all teetering on an edge and there's no one to keep us from going over the edge.
• 1:23
  Speaker 1: That's pretty much as political as I'm going to get.
• 1:27
  Speaker 1: We are in the midst of personal meltdowns and we have no validation for where we are.
• 1:31
  Speaker 1: We cannot articulate any viable reason for our state.
• 1:35
  Speaker 1: It's tough and we're struggling.
• 1:38
  Speaker 1: I was writing the other day.
• 1:41
  Speaker 1: I remembered Ephesians 2.10.
• 1:43
  Speaker 1: For we are God's masterpiece.
• 1:46
  Speaker 1: He has created us anew and crushed Jesus so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago.
• 1:54
  Speaker 1: Masterpieces, wow.
• 1:56
  Speaker 1: You see, we aren't really the mess we think we are.
• 2:00
  Speaker 1: We are the masterpiece in the mess we are.
• 2:09
  Speaker 1: We are the masterpiece in the mess.
• 2:10
  Speaker 1: This puts a whole new spin on things.
• 2:11
  Speaker 1: As a masterpiece in the mess we do the things that masterpieces do.
• 2:13
  Speaker 1: We show the world how to stand in the mess so that our future grandchildren and their grandchildren know how to stand.
• 2:21
  Speaker 1: We model what to do.
• 2:24
  Speaker 1: We continue to influence generations and change the way people look at Jesus.
• 2:29
  Speaker 1: We are so original that once you've seen us, our love influences you.
• 2:35
  Speaker 1: A masterpiece defines a whole set of cultural values and is brilliantly above reproach values and is brilliantly above reproach.
• 2:43
  Speaker 1: You see, we have to remember to act like a masterpiece, not the mess.
• 2:53
  Speaker 1: We are masterpieces created by God to influence the world in a loving, non-judgmental way.
• 2:56
  Speaker 1: You see, masterpieces stand the test of time.
• 2:59
  Speaker 1: They endure because the artist's skill, subject matter and craftsmanship will endure through the latest fad.
• 3:09
  Speaker 1: And let me just say this here and remind you, you and I, we are not a fad.
• 3:16
  Speaker 1: Masterpieces speak to every generation and our mission is to show the world.
• 3:22
  Speaker 1: The artist who created us, the woman at the well, is a clear example for me.
• 3:28
  Speaker 1: Jesus could and had the right to condemn her, judge her and tell her off, but he didn't.
• 3:36
  Speaker 1: He spoke the truth and love to her and she realized then she was a masterpiece.
• 3:42
  Speaker 1: Then she was a masterpiece.
• 3:51
  Speaker 1: She then brought the rest of the town to him and her story is still a masterpiece today.
• 3:52
  Speaker 1: You see, you are a masterpiece even if you feel a little messy right now.
• 3:56
  Speaker 1: You're a masterpiece even if your life is not gone as planned and is currently spinning out of control no-transcript.
• 4:12
  Speaker 1: You are a masterpiece even if you've lost your job and are wondering what's next.
• 4:16
  Speaker 1: You're a masterpiece even if you are in shock or in limbo.
• 4:23
  Speaker 1: These things don't change who we are, but they could and may change our circumstances for just a minute.
• 4:29
  Speaker 1: You see, as messes we tend to over-control things, trying to control everything around us our jobs, relationships, children and, really, god.
• 4:40
  Speaker 1: This is typical and apparent, for who messes are?
• 4:44
  Speaker 1: We become an overnight sensation in the insecurity of it all.
• 4:49
  Speaker 1: We fight to get what we want and believe our way is the only right way.
• 4:55
  Speaker 1: Ask me how?
• 4:57
  Speaker 1: I know let's just stop.
• 4:59
  Speaker 1: The only way out of this messiness is to pause and learn to slow down.
• 5:05
  Speaker 1: You see, when we're in shock, we cannot make a rational decision.
• 5:10
  Speaker 1: We base our decision on our emotions, and I've learned the hard way.
• 5:14
  Speaker 1: This is not a great idea.
• 5:18
  Speaker 1: Let me give you five little things to try right now and see if it helps.
• 5:22
  Speaker 1: The first thing is to control the easy things like the laundry, the kitchen, cleaning it up or making your bed every day.
• 5:32
  Speaker 1: This will remove some of the overwhelmness.
• 5:35
  Speaker 1: Number two listen.
• 5:37
  Speaker 1: This is a learned trait.
• 5:39
  Speaker 1: We tend to create a mess because we don't listen.
• 5:42
  Speaker 1: Learn to hear what is not being said and sometimes it's just okay to keep our mouths closed.
• 5:50
  Speaker 1: Rest, do whatever is best for you, don't apologize for it and don't come up with excuses to avoid it.
• 6:01
  Speaker 1: Number four cry.
• 6:03
  Speaker 1: It will be one of the biggest releases you will ever do.
• 6:07
  Speaker 1: To this day, my children make fun of me because I cry over the craziest things.
• 6:13
  Speaker 1: Number five laugh.
• 6:15
  Speaker 1: I love this more than anything Sarcastic, dry humor that makes me laugh until I can't breathe.
• 6:23
  Speaker 1: These days, the memes are just outstandingly hilarious.
• 6:29
  Speaker 1: These things help to remind ourselves we are real, breathing, moving people.
• 6:35
  Speaker 1: I can't guarantee this will make us less of a mess, but it will remove the stigma of being a hot mess.
• 6:44
  Speaker 1: Control the simple things.
• 6:46
  Speaker 1: Side note, I'm trying to control the creatures who continue eating my plants on my patio.
• 6:54
  Speaker 1: You see, the world is always going to be a mess, but we don't have to be Right now.
• 7:00
  Speaker 1: Even in the middle of the biggest mess of our lives, we are still the masterpiece.
• 7:05
  Speaker 1: We just have to remember what masterpieces do Be, that it's what you were created for.
• 7:12
  Speaker 1: The day we stop being a mess is the day we reach full masterpiece certification.
• 7:18
  Speaker 1: No matter, remember who created you and why you were created.
• 7:23
  Speaker 1: And, as my boys would say, stop listening to the haters.
• 7:27
  Speaker 1: They don't really know.
• 7:28
  Speaker 1: There is a way out of the mess.
• 7:30
  Speaker 1: It is a simple step of creating a game plan to create a path for you out of the mess you find yourself in.
• 7:37
  Speaker 1: It won't change your masterpiece status, but it will remove the garbage in your way.
• 7:43
  Speaker 1: It is a simple but profound way to help you see.
• 7:47
  Speaker 1: Clearly, in the middle of your mess, you see masterpieces have to be cared for, tended to and protected, otherwise, over time, they will fall apart.
• 7:57
  Speaker 1: You are not meant for that.
• 8:01
  Speaker 1: Your game plan will get you off the bench and moving into your life again.
• 8:06
  Speaker 1: You want that right.
• 8:08
  Speaker 1: In the show notes I've listed the first three episodes that deal with shock, limbo and re-entry.
• 8:14
  Speaker 1: Listen to them.
• 8:15
  Speaker 1: Better yet, listen to them and then share them with somebody you know who needs to hear them.
• 8:21
  Speaker 1: Well, that's it for today.
• 8:23
  Speaker 1: Join me next week as I discuss the topic.
• 8:27
  Speaker 1: I'm Sorry you had to Be First.
• 8:30
  Speaker 1: It's a story very close to my heart.
• 8:33
  Speaker 1: You won't want to miss it.
• 8:35
  Speaker 1: Hey, thanks for listening.
• 8:37
  Speaker 1: I don't take it for granted that you're here.
• 8:39
  Speaker 1: You didn't listen by mistake.
• 8:41
  Speaker 1: If you want to reach out, you can DM me on Instagram at Tony Thrash.
• 8:46
  Speaker 1: Until next week, remember, there's still time left on the clock.
• 8:50
  Speaker 1: Let's get you off the bench to start your comeback.
• 8:54
  Speaker 1: I want to give a special shout out to Country Club for the original music.
• 8:58
  Speaker 1: You can find them on Instagram at Country Club.
• 9:02
  Speaker 1: Thank you.