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Lessons - Why the Highest Paid People Never Chased the Paycheck | Jairek Robbins - Performance Coach & Bestselling Author · Success Story with Scott Clary

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  In this lessons episode, explore why chasing external success leads to emptiness and how real
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  fulfillment comes from purpose-driven work. Discover how mastery attracts wealth and recognition,
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  understand the difference between achieving goals and dedicating a life to meaning,
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  and uncover why helping others succeed creates deeper satisfaction.
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  This is something that's interesting. I want to just ask something on this before we move on,
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  so a lot of people, they look at the second mountain and they're always striving, striving,
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  striving, but I feel like they're looking at it for the wrong reasons. And let me explain.
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  So when you do achieve a level of excellence in almost anything, any field, and you have the impact
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  that you were, I believe, put on earth to have, you will coincidentally just have all those things
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  anyways. If you are the best at teaching, if you are the best at building a business,
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  you are the best at motivating, if you are the best athlete, if you're the best author,
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  the best poet, the best right or whatever, if you are the best of the best of the best,
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  you get all the stuff. But I feel like people want the stuff and they don't actually end up
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  understanding that they have to be the best, whereas if you just had the mission of being in the
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  top percentile of that field, all the other stuff comes naturally anyway. Look at yourself,
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  for example, you're building up your brand, you're speaking on global stages, all that shit comes
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  with money, all that shit comes with notoriety and fame and wealth, but it's like you've positioned
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  it in a different way. So you're doing the thing that you're passionate about and you're not just
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  chasing it for the money, you're chasing the thing for the thing, and then the money is like a
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  secondary result. I'll show you the second mountain, second mountain is different.
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  I want to understand this more because the reason why I'm trying to understand this is because
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  I agree with you though, I'm not disagreeing on people, everyone wants to be famous, but no one
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  wants to do the work. Quote, Kevin Hart. I agree with you. And the concept of people being obsessed with
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  the fame, the money, the cars, the house, the girl, the guy, the trips, the travel, the jet, the
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  whatever, the stuff, that part for me was no longer interesting. And it's not because I got it all.
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  It's because I found something that was worth investing my life into, which I think is what
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  you're hinting towards, but finding something that's worth investing your life into is very
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  different than finding something you can go achieve. Because it's not about achieving, it's about
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  literally dedicating your life to it and saying, ah, if I walk this path for the rest of my life,
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  I will be eternally joyful, regardless of how many steps I take down that path. I just know I'm
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  on the path and that is the joy. And then it's like, well, what path? And when I came back,
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  and I'll just give you, this is ridiculous, at least in my mind looking at it now, I came back,
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  I was pissed at homeless people. Like you're standing in the richest country on earth. You have
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  access to clean drinking water that won't kill you. You have access to food, you have shelters,
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  you have community service, you have shelters that'll help you get a job, and you're standing
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  here doing nothing and complaining. Like I was pissed at homeless people. I went back to a private
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  Catholic college in San Diego. I sat at the little cafe working on my homework and I heard
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  girls and guys talking about TV shows and ugly boots and shit. And I was like, you guys are idiots.
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  Like you really are obsessed with nonsense. And I was wildly judgmental and I was just kind of
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  frustrated and pissy at humans for a while, which also wasn't. Anything or anyone. So that was
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  the wake up. I sat one time and I'm like, how am I helping anything by just being pissed at people?
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  Like I'm not. Okay, how could I help? What could I do? And I was like, I need to wake them up to
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  go care about more than just themselves. And I don't know if you've ever tried to go tell young
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  people that there's more to life. Like they look at you like you have three heads and they don't
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  care. They're like, that's great. Cool. I'm gonna go get my car now. Like they don't care. I was like,
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  God, that's annoying. And I said, you know what? I'm gonna do the work around. I'm gonna figure out
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  how to get them to the peak of that mountain faster so that they can realize it ain't it. Jim
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  Carey says, I wish everyone could be rich and famous and have all their wildest dreams come
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  true so they could realize it ain't it. And I was like, you know what? I'm gonna make people's
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  dreams come true faster. I'm gonna get their ass to the top. I'm gonna put them on rocket fuel
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  and get them to the top of that mountain as fast as I possibly can. And then stare them in the
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  face and go, now what? And let them go that mountain. Boom, we're there. Now what? That mountain,
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  boom, they're it. Now what? And I did it. I remember I took a young guy in New Jersey.
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  Him and I were talking, he had done a finance at NYU. And he was living in his parent's house
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  at time. And he was like, if I could just work hard enough and move to the city and have my own
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  place in New York City, then I would be really living. Six months later, you know, got a job,
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  made the money, moved to New York City, has his own pad in New York City. I'm like, now what?
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  He's like, you know, having a place in New York City is cool, but I got to be able to travel.
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  I got to be able to go places like that's the real juice in life. Got him a job as a corporate
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  speaker traveling around the country every three months, different city, corporate apartment,
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  corporate car, corporate phone, everything handled. And he's like, yeah, after, you know,
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  a few years of doing that, he's like, this is great. But I really feel like I need a home base now.
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  Like somewhere that I would just love to come home to fast forward, moved around a little bit,
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  eventually landed up living like 500 yards from our house here in Puerto Rico on the beach.
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  He had a beach front condo 180 ocean view on the ocean. And he's like, you know, now if I could just
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  and I looked at him, like, what makes you think the next thing is going to be any different than the
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  last four? You've gotten everything you've wanted every time you wanted it, but nothing's really
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  changing. And he's like, I know, bro, I know. I like them. What is it? What is it? What would allow
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  you to finally find something that you could invest your life into? Something that you'd be so
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  passionate about that you like you said, the money doesn't matter. The time of day doesn't matter.
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  It's kind of like you fall in love with life. Time disappears. You disappear. Nothing else
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  matters. You're just obsessed. You have like flow, flow state and life at this point because everything
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  is in the zone. You're just there. Like, what is that for you? What is that? And he's like, I don't
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  know, bro, maybe it's this or maybe it's that or maybe it's this. And we dug in. And for him,
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  it turned out it was it was working with people in a coaching capacity. It was like helping other
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  people like you helped me. And I was like, you think that's it? He's like, I know that's it. He's
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  like, that's when I feel alive. Not like cool, cool, cool, cool. And he's like, truly dude. Like,
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  he always sees me like, I don't know if you remember you changed my life. Like, remember the kid
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  who lived with his parents in New Jersey? That's me. And I was joke. Like now he traveled all the
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  world and speaks places. He speaks places. And he coaches people and does all this stuff. And
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  at one point, like you said, those were my dreams. I don't have a deep yearning for that stuff
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  anymore. I remember I spoke at a stadium to 15,000 people in Germany in 2019. I watched that whole
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  thing. That was amazing. You're perfect. It checked the box. It checked like a soul level box for me.
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  Some part of myself was still wanting to compete with my dad, filling stadiums of people
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  to talk to. After I got to go speak to an entire stadium, it checked the box of like, I'm good.
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  I don't need to speak anymore. I've said enough. If they want me to, I'm happy to. But there's no
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  part of me that feels like, I've got to be the one talking like, let them talk. Let me send some
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  of my people I've trained. Let them go talk. Let them have the experience. And that's part of
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  the second mountain. The first mountain is, can you make it to the top yourself? But after you've
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  been to the top a few times, it's not, I mean, it's cool. It's fun to get there. You high five
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  yourself and you're proud of yourself for the moment. But the real magic comes when you bring
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  someone else up and you watch them experience what it's like to get there the first time.
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  And so that that's kind of a different stage of life for me. Even we were just in South Africa,
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  I've been on safari four or five times in my life. It's a blessing. It's life changing for me.
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  It was in its life changing for most people. I took my wife and son who's only three
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  on a safari for his birthday when he turned three a few months ago. And or just last month actually.
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  And my wife came back from the two days and 10 hours we spent driving around looking at all the
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  animals. And she's like, I think that's a far I changed my life. And I smiled. And I was like,
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  she's like, what was your favorite part? And I was like, your face watching you experience it
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  for the first time. That was the coolest part. Like I've, I love the animals. They're amazing.
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  I love seeing the animals every time they still wow me every time. But watching her face see it
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  for the first time and watching my son see it for the first time was the coolest.
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  And so those are things that I look for now. Can we create an experience that allows someone to
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  experience a part of their life they've never experienced before? Can we help them reach a peak
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  that to them we get to watch their face have that peak moment and peak experience in their life.
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  And I get to be proud saying, hey, I was a guide. I remember I was working with a client and at
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  one point his father had exited his position in the major company. And this guy was in his 60s
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  and checked every box you could imagine had the jet, the helicopter, the multiple houses,
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  the government level, whatever like yet everything. And he's like, I'm worried about my dad now
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  that he's retired. He just sits in place, crossword puzzles all day and talks about the will.
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  I was like, oh shit. And he's like, can you talk to him? I was like, I don't know if he's going
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  to listen to me like, I'm young. I'm still putting my shit together. And he's kind of at the other
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  side of the journey. He's like, I know, but you have some magic can like you say something to him.
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  I was like, I'll talk with him if he wants to. It's totally up to him. And he was super kind and
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  generous. He's like, oh, thank you for your time. You're so kind. All this stuff. He was very nice.
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  And at the end of the conversation, he was so thankful. He's like, thank you for the work you've
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  done with my son. You changed his life. He's like, I was, you know, he thanks to the family. He
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  has enough money. I'll never have to worry about money in his life. But I was worried about him
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  as a person. If he would build a life, he'd actually be proud of. And he's like, after the work he's
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  done with you, he's building a life. I know he'll be proud of. Thanks for tuning in. If you found this
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