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Quiz Are You Being Too Nice (Self Check Test) · A Capture Deep Vibs A Positive Space For Inspiration And Embracing Of Heart

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  Speaker 1: Ever wonder if you're too nice for your own good?
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  Speaker 1: Kindness is a beautiful trait, but when it's too much
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  Speaker 1: or used for the wrong reasons, it can leave you drained, resentful,
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  Speaker 1: and even lost in your own life. In one of
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  Speaker 1: our latest videos, The Dark Side of Kindness, we explored
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  Speaker 1: the hidden costs of being too kind, how it often
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  Speaker 1: stems from past experiences, and how to shift toward a healthier,
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  Speaker 1: more balanced form of kindness. If you haven't seen it yet,
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  Speaker 1: definitely check it out after this. Now, think of this
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  Speaker 1: quiz as a gentle check-in, a chance to pause, reflect,
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  Speaker 1: and ask yourself, am I truly being kind or am
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  Speaker 1: I afraid not to be? If you've ever felt drained,
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  Speaker 1: taken advantage of, or guilty for setting boundaries, this quiz
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  Speaker 1: might be just what you need to help you recognize
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  Speaker 1: the patterns and reconnect with your own needs. So grab
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  Speaker 1: a pen, open your notes app, or just keep scoring
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  Speaker 1: your head. There are no wrong answers, so be honest. Ready? Okay,
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  Speaker 1: number one. Do you ever feel guilty for setting a boundary,
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  Speaker 1: saying no, or just needing a little space? A, rarely. B, sometimes. C, often.
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  Speaker 1: Or D, almost always. Question two. When someone asks for
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  Speaker 1: a favor and you're already overwhelmed, Do you say yes
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  Speaker 1: anyway and then stress about how you'll manage it all? A.
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  Speaker 1: Rarely B. Sometimes C. Often Or D. Almost always Question 3.
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  Speaker 1: Do you find yourself apologizing for things that aren't really
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  Speaker 1: your fault, just to keep the peace? A. Rarely B.
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  Speaker 1: Sometimes C. Often Or D. Almost always Question four, have
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  Speaker 1: you ever stayed quiet about something that hurt you just
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  Speaker 1: to avoid conflict? A, rarely, B, sometimes, C, often, or D,
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  Speaker 1: almost always. Question five, do you catch yourself over explaining
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  Speaker 1: or apologizing too much just to make sure everything's okay? A, rarely, B, sometimes, C, often,
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  Speaker 1: or D, almost always. Question six. Do you sometimes feel resentful,
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  Speaker 1: but then feel bad for feeling that way? A. Rarely. B. Sometimes. C. Often.
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  Speaker 1: Or D. Almost always. Question seven. When someone's upset, is
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  Speaker 1: your first instinct to blame yourself or drop everything to
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  Speaker 1: make it better, even if it has nothing to do
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  Speaker 1: with you? A. Rarely. B. Sometimes. C. Rarely. Often or D,
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  Speaker 1: almost always. Question eight, do you ever think, if I
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  Speaker 1: don't help, they'll think I'm selfish or maybe if I
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  Speaker 1: give more, they'll finally appreciate me? A, rarely. B, sometimes. C,
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  Speaker 1: often or D, almost always. Question nine, almost done the quiz.
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  Speaker 1: Do you downplay your own needs or struggles because someone
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  Speaker 1: else might have it worse? A, rarely, B, sometimes, C, often,
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  Speaker 1: or D, almost always. And question 10. If someone's upset
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  Speaker 1: with you or doesn't like you, does it eat at
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  Speaker 1: you until you try to fix it, even when it's
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  Speaker 1: not your fault? A, rarely, B, sometimes, C, often, or D,
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  Speaker 1: almost always. Tally up your answers and take a deep breath.
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  Speaker 1: You're not being graded. This is just a gentle reflection
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  Speaker 1: to help you understand yourself a little better. Ready for
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  Speaker 1: the results? If you got zero to 10 points, you're
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  Speaker 1: the grounded giver. You have a strong sense of empathy,
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  Speaker 1: but you've also learned how to balance your kindness with self-respect.
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  Speaker 1: You probably know how to say no when you need
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  Speaker 1: to and can offer support without losing yourself in the process.
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  Speaker 1: That's not easy. It likely took time and self-awareness to
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  Speaker 1: get there. Keep checking in with yourself and honoring your needs.
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  Speaker 1: Healthy kindness isn't about giving everything. It's about giving freely
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  Speaker 1: without guilt or fear. 11 to 20 points. You're the self-sacrificer.
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  Speaker 1: You have a big heart and a genuine desire to
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  Speaker 1: help others, but sometimes you may lose sight of your
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  Speaker 1: own needs. Perhaps you've internalized the idea that your worth
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  Speaker 1: comes from being needed or making sure everyone else is okay.
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  Speaker 1: The truth is, Your kindness is invaluable, but so are you.
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  Speaker 1: You often carry the weight of everyone else's emotions on
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  Speaker 1: your shoulders and feel guilty for saying no, worrying you'll
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  Speaker 1: be seen as selfish. You might even feel invisible sometimes
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  Speaker 1: because it's always you taking care of others' needs but
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  Speaker 1: never the other way around. And underneath it all might
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  Speaker 1: be a quiet fear. What if I'm only lovable when
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  Speaker 1: I'm useful? Hey, many sensitive people develop this pattern because
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  Speaker 1: keeping others happy felt like the safest way to feel
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  Speaker 1: loved or valued. It's okay to feel conflicted about saying no,
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  Speaker 1: it doesn't make you selfish. The key is learning to
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  Speaker 1: balance your natural compassion with self-compassion. Here's something to reflect on.
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  Speaker 1: What beliefs or experiences led you to put others before yourself?
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  Speaker 1: How can you practice self-compassion and start nurturing your own
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  Speaker 1: needs too? Maybe take this as a sign to start
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  Speaker 1: listening to your own voice. You deserve care too, not
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  Speaker 1: just for what you give others, but for simply being you.
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  Speaker 1: All right, if you got 21 to 30 points, you're
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  Speaker 1: the kindness chameleon. If this is you, um, hey, are
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  Speaker 1: you okay? I know it can be hard to check
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  Speaker 1: in with ourselves sometimes. If your score is in this range,
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  Speaker 1: it means you've mastered the art of shape-shifting to meet
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  Speaker 1: everyone else's needs, no matter how much it costs you.
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  Speaker 1: You know how to read a room. You anticipate what
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  Speaker 1: others want before they say a word. You shrink yourself
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  Speaker 1: to keep the peace, overextend to feel valued, and say
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  Speaker 1: yes even when every part of you is screaming, please, no.
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  Speaker 1: Your kindness is powerful, but it's easy to lose touch
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  Speaker 1: with your own needs while taking care of everyone else's.
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  Speaker 1: But here's the good news. Recognizing this pattern is the
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  Speaker 1: first step toward creating a healthier balance. You can still
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  Speaker 1: care deeply for others without losing sight of yourself. Healing
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  Speaker 1: means reconnecting with your needs. your boundaries, and your voice.
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  Speaker 1: It's natural to fear being seen as selfish when you
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  Speaker 1: set boundaries, but prioritizing yourself is essential for long-term wellbeing.
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  Speaker 1: Self-care isn't selfish. It's self-preservation. Setting healthy boundaries teaches others
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  Speaker 1: to respect you while protecting your emotional energy. No matter
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  Speaker 1: what you scored, remember this quiz isn't about judging you.
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  Speaker 1: It's about understanding yourself better and recognizing where you might
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  Speaker 1: need a little more support or self-compassion. Revisit it when
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  Speaker 1: you need to check in with yourself. Being a kind
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  Speaker 1: person is beautiful, but not when it means abandoning yourself.
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  Speaker 1: You're allowed to be soft and strong, giving and guarded
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  Speaker 1: when needed, because true kindness is just as much about
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  Speaker 1: how you treat yourself as it is about how you
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  Speaker 1: treat others. Did this quiz help you realize something about yourself?
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  Speaker 1: Let us know in the comments. We'd love to hear
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  Speaker 1: We also have quizzes like, are you really okay? self-check-in,
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  Speaker 1: and how people view your personality, another quiz. Thanks for
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  Speaker 1: watching and see you soon.