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Rabbi Moshe Haber Orchot Saddiqim: The Great Mix: A Recipe for Character Development 7.8.26 · Rabbi Moshe Haber - Daily Mussar/Weekly Perasha

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  In this introduction of this book, everything has to work on
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  our character sheets. His Next up is this.
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  He says, OK, so we we spoke by yesterday that people actually
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  are born a certain way and then their tendencies change.
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  Sometimes it's because of people around them.
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  Sometimes it's because they were really prone to becoming a tired
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  person with their mental makeup. Whatever it is, a person has to
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  work on themselves to realize that I'm after, you know,
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  address certain tendencies, whether it be I'm often angry,
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  I'm often first grade, I'm often busy with arrogance, whatever.
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  Maybe he's Derry, right? I wasn't Derry.
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  Yeshmida. There you are Yeshmida.
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  There's also another factor, which is not every tendency is
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  there enough just to be strong in one area fully, which means
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  person says I want to be a nice guy.
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  I'd love to be a nice guy. You can't always be a nice
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  starter. And in fact, if you're all that
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  way, often times it does you in the wrong way.
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  Yeshmi Dasha said equation I mentioned about the gold.
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  There are certain tendencies countries you should have often
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  Yeshmi Dasha equation I mentioned my mouth.
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  And there's certain characters you need to have at times.
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  Which means if you're always a nice person and you're always
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  soft, maybe you can't have discipline any children, right?
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  For example, if you can't run a business, maybe you can't, I
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  don't know, stand up for what's right.
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  Vizao Domilo said. Tough choice.
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  His life is like cooking a dish. Let's say that dish is going to
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  have vegetables, meat, water, salt and some Peppers.
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  All right, some sort of spice. We call every one of these
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  different ingredients need to have a certain amount Mize ma
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  alta Mize arbe. It's a little a lot.
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  I mean my ETA basal you have two little meats, the food is going
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  to be hazik. Basically, if you have too much
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  salt, not really, not edible because of its salt, the hen
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  kulam, you and I would have too little of 1 tendency and too
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  much of another. Like we say, too little.
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  If you don't never get angry, ever, never get turned off,
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  never get upset, you might stick something out too long.
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  It's not proper. If you get any real time, he
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  might be really unable to function.
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  This is the makeup of man. Yeah.
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  I'm not calling me coca. The same way the food will be
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  disgusting. Same mother's personal be
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  confused existence. Avala Baki.
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  However, the you know the great chef, what do they do?
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  A great chef does not have a secret dish.
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  A great chef does not have a secret spice.
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  What they have is a secret mix. How they do that mix is what
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  makes them great actually. They take from each different
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  ingredient the right amount and then make the food extremely
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  enjoyable. Let's break it down when it
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  comes to character as well. Yes, we do something like we
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  said, humility in general. Humility is a character trait
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  they should have a lot of. Thank you.
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  Right, Bouchard. Bouchard does not mean in this
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  sense, embarrassment. It means a person's shame, which
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  means a person. He's shy.
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  He's shy. It's a good thing, right?
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  If someone is not sticky at all, someone is not at all careful,
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  not at all shy. We know they're brazing too
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  loud. They talk too much.
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  They say their own thing and they don't really.
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  They're not careful. They don't.
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  My hand, the the soft testimony, the soft tendencies.
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  Those are good. There are some that you should
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  have only a little of go on Gava.
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  Should you be arrogant at times? And he says, yes, you should
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  have 1/8 of an eighth of Gava, 1/8 of an eighth in gava.
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  How they got that number, we have to know.
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  But that's what it says, right? Val Azut and brazenness.
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  Should a person be brazen? Be bold.
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  Oh, we say, hey, that's kanamic. You should be bold like a like a
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  leper. You definitely have to have
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  boldness as part of the Amaiclub if you take any successful Jew.
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  And I don't mean successful in money, I mean successful in
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  growth. I think successful grow in Jew
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  and raising the family the right way.
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  We spoke about the insignificance of having
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  independent family, which means that you raise your children
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  with the minds that we do our thing.
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  That requires azut, right? That requires you mentioned on
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  Shabbat. The boldus of the boldus has
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  spoken on Shabbat. Exactly.
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  Azariot literally means harshness.
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  Sometimes you have to be harsh, not often, but sometimes you
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  need to be harsh like Henye dam should kill the Pele Sabina.
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  And therefore every person needs to have the right skill.
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  They caught me, call me da Shura.
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  He's a hair to wave hot to. Making sure not to have too
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  little of what you need a lot of or too lot a lot of what you
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  need to love. OK, that's a very important
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  point. That is, your job in life is not
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  to drive home with certain tendency.
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  That's not your job. Your job is not to be very busy
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  with a certain character tree. Sometimes you find people who
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  make it a life's mission to be busy with something, whatever it
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  may be, and they in a certain sense overdo it because they go
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  to an extreme in that tendency, which really was a good
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  tendency, but they took it too far.
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  Your job in life has to be a good person not to be, you know,
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  perfect in one character tree. That's how it works.
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  Happens to be we have one example of where we talk about
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  that person's tendency and we focus on our tendency more
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  should have been on the middle of it.
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  So really it's a contradiction to this concept.
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  Here we are we're talking about a great man.
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  We don't say he's a great man. We say he's a very humble man
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  and God said it himself. The reason we say that that may
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  be different is because humility is the one that a person should
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  just work on, work on, work on, and your job on.
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  Life really is to drive home that tendency.
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  But in general, in general, you and I, our job is to become a
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  great person, not a great specific character trait, a
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  great mix, a great chef, a great combination, and therefore a
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  great outcome. That's your job.
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  And you'll find I proved this point to be true, I think.
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  And that is, was Abraham Aveeno a very strong person or a very
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  weak person? Was he a very nice person or was
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  he a very tough person? Was he very brazen or was he
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  very soft? Which one was he answers all.
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  And the greatest example is, is that you look at his tests.
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  He keeps swinging from side to side in this way.
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  The final one, the test of Akada Yitzhak was a literally a
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  contradiction to everything his life stood for.
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  His life stood for having a family, having a future, being
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  solved, being nice, being caring, being thoughtful.
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  His life stood for that. And his final Test was a direct
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  opposite of that. And why is that the case?
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  And the robber said that's the case because Abraham was
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  supposed to be a good outcome, and now it's just a good
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  tendency or a good Catholic state.
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  That's a great man. And you and I, our job will be.
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  And our job we're going to work on is it to find ways to say in
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  certain situations, I have to be soft, I have to be nice, you
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  know, the ones. I need to be tough with my
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  children. I have to have both at the same
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  time, right? And that's hard.
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  Grandchildren, just the same. It's hard.
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  And it's very difficult to have both ways.
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  Yeah. But I can't get angry, but I
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  can't let I can't be rolled over either.
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  I can't allow a disrespect, but I can't be a person who stands
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  on principle for the sake of respect.
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  So here I am. I'm walking a tire up of life.
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  And that's the reality. Life is a person developing and
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  becoming a better person. Not a very better character
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  trait. You will use your character
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  traits to become a better person, but your overall goal is
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  to become a fine person. Take for example a Jewish king.
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  Another example. Jewish king has to be you look
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  at that. I'm bomb about the make up of a
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  Jewish king. So the first half he goes
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  through, this man has to be respected.
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  Everyone when they see him have to bow down to him, lay down on
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  the floor in front of the Jewish king.
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  He has to be respected. No one let us sit in his chair.
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  After the king presses away, they burn his clothes because no
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  one protects his clothes ever, you know, can wear his clothes
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  ever again. But Jewish King is a man and
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  must be put on the pedestal to a very high degree, unbelievable
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  degree, borderline, something that you would not think is
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  Jewish unless it was Hakeem and then Bomb wrote it.
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  That's how far it goes. OK, so here's the man.
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  He's on a pedestal. This guy is a big deal.
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  Forget about it. Untouchable, right?
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  So you would think that would mean the makeup of this person
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  is he walks with his CERN head held high.
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  He thinks of himself in a different stratosphere.
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  Yet the reality is a Jewish King's job is to be caring and
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  thinking. He's live.
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  He is the heart of the nation, which means he has to always at
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  all times be worrying about the villages and the small people on
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  there and the little people and the people who can't afford and
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  people who can't function and still die who's put in pedestal.
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  That's pretty much was arrogant existence of life the way we
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  perceive him. And yet at the same time, he
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  needs to be a man that's caring and thinking and worrying about
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  the people that are small. How is that possible?
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  Only way it's possible is if you're a Jew working on having
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  that fine outcome of a character trait.
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  Not I'm building my ego, my arrogance, my persona and my
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  image, and therefore I'm going to fly high right when a ball
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  player, and my favorite example of those guys who bang their
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  chest, those are some ball players.
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  I think that they're the kings, right?
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  Actually nicknamed themselves the king.
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  Go too early, but they're nicknamed themselves the King,
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  and then they act that way and they think that they're
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  literally Mashiach and they're mine and they go that way.
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  What happens? You try to talk to them like a
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  human being. It's not talking to them.
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  There's no conversations. There's no normal they.
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  They talk about themselves in third person.
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  Well, how'd that happen? Because they live the persona.
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  They were going One Direction. As a Jew, we're told to become a
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  king. A king is supposed to become a
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  king. At the same time, bring yourself
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  down to earth because his focus is combo, His focus is the
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  outcome. His focus is becoming a better
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  person. So you and I, we're not going to
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  just say, yes, I checked the box of Mr. Humility or I checked the
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  box of Mr. Arrogance or Mr. Soft or Mr. Tough.
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  No, I checked the box of Mr. Good Jew.
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  And that's the case. I'll fine in certain situations.
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  I'm I'm tough, sorry, I'm not. And you'll find this perfect
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  balance again. This is something that a weak
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  person does not realize. What they do is they just check
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  the box of let me go down the mode of Mr. Nice.
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  And we all know Mr. Nice can go too far.
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  We've explained many times a lot of the liberal views are based
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  on Mr. Nice and they end up being chaos and crazy.
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  And then Mr. Tough is also officially strong and they're
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  not human is ours is the makeup of his toenails.
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  And this is a mix of a person becoming like a great chef and a
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  great day. We'll see you, president,
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  becoming a great chef, which is a perfect combination.
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  That's who you should become. This is like this.
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  This is a wild next step. Is this right, Ted Avitavin me
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  shit if or no, tell me that I it's a wild next step.
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  A person whose tendency is toward a bad me da or gets used
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  to becoming a bad person, and he doesn't change himself.
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  What happens is that person hates, despises the good
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  tendency. Let's say you become an arrogant
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  person, right? You're always talking about
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  yourself. When someone shows you humility,
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  it doesn't just get you nervous. You don't just think it's a
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  waste of time. You get turned off.
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  You think that noon? What is that?
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  That guy is being a small guy. I thought it was the opposite
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  way. When a person gets used to
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  arrogance, a person likes arrogance, they end up despising
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  another way. They can't be around them.
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  You haven't noticed. It's a funny thing, People who
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  are not the best people, or at least they're not living life
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  the best way. Not only do they not care for
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  the guys living life a good way, they actually have negative
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  things to say about there was a bad person there at Sadiq.
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  Sadiq in a negative way. They are they always doing
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  everything right. They think they're doing
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  everything right. They think they're the best
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  right? And they get turned off by
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  someone who's trying to live life the best way.
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  Now, why is that the case? Is that because of jealousy?
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  Yes, but it's really because of this when a person digs their
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  heels into becoming a bad person, if none of us ever want
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  to be, but they think that he has to do a bad tendency.
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  They not only do not follow in suit of the good tendency, they
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  don't like it. They hate it.
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  They despise it. And they look at those people
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  looking like, I'll give you an example, A guy who decides he's
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  going to go and do things in a very splashy, loud way.
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  OK, he's splashy, he's loud, he's flamboyant, he's noisy.
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  That guy, right when he's, when he sees a community member who
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  has a tendency of doing things quietly, when he does things
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  under the radar, he does things about people knowing, right.
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  I, I've seen this. You know what that comment is?
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  They're doing it the wrong way. That's off.
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  That's wrong. That's not proper.
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  What's wrong? What's only being quiet?
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  What's wrong with zombing? Under the radar answer is it
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  gets you turned off, it bothers you.
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  It bothers this person because it's different.
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  Because you can't do that. Because and you end up not
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  liking it because you're living life one way, you end up
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  despising the right way. If a guy is, let's say a non
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  learner, it's not a learner. It's not a whole learner, right?
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  He not only doesn't learn, he doesn't like people who do
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  learn. The Gamaz says that Ishit
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  Amadits, the wife of an Amadits hates that I make her come,
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  doesn't go for them. Ihram hates why hates.
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  Why does the wife of a symbol person, of a non learning person
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  hate the Tamir Khan? By the way, the most classic
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  example we have of this is an Ahmadist himself.
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  We used to hate Tamim and that man was Habiah Kiva.
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  Originally Habiah Kiva, when he was in an audit, he said if I
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  would meet a Tamir Khan I'd want to bite them.
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  I've despised them so much. I don't want to bite them.
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  Live against them. You don't learn, they learn
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  just, you know, like move on. That's how it works when someone
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  has a negative character trait or someone live lives the wrong
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  way. Not only do they not follow the
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  right path, they hate those who do that's they have a guy who
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  does run the business dishonestly.
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  He's not honest in business. He just makes money the wrong
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  way, right. If that guy sees someone who
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  checks every box, who pays taxes the right way, who's honest and
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  literally dots every I and crosses every T, not only does
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  he think that that person is wasting the time, everything now
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  does he think that he actually thinks that person is off?
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  He doesn't like that person. You have a guy who's in their
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  shady business. He doesn't like people who are
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  busy paying taxes fully and are busy checking every box and make
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  sure to be by the book. They think those people are
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  wasting their time and they think those people are bad.
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  So it becomes a real hater, becomes a hater.
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  That's the concept of hater. A hater is someone who digs his
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  heels into their life. He's living and he therefore
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  despises the other kind of life. And it's especially true when he
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  digging a heel into a bad way of life.
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  Now give me another example. You have a guy who's a certain
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  kind of husband. What does it mean?
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  He's a kind of husband. He's very tough on his wife,
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  such a thing. He's very tough on his wife.
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  My way or the highway. He does things and his wife
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  follow the suit. Fuck such a husband out there.
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  We know those guys. Then they have a brother-in-law
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  who said the this problem takes up the garbage before his wife
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  asks this guy cleans at the table after she ran Neil.
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  This guy is always taking care of the kids, being the kids.
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  This guy is that guy. You know that guy, right?
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  So I'm one type like to say my brother-in-law is the opposite
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  type. I might be talking about in real
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  fun. OK, fun as an example.
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  That might be true. Now what happens the tendency of
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  man is not only do you not care for the other way.
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  You know what you do when your wife tells you you ever saw so
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  and so so good. They be with the kids and
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  Sundays they spend Sundays with the kids.
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  No, you do. You start saying this guy's
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  ridiculous to like another woman.
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  They're out of their mind, they're wasting their time.
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  You know what they could be doing effectively in life and
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  you make a whole spiel about the guy who's just out of live life
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  the right way. This is true.
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  This is real, and this is very much the case.
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  Why is it the case? Why do I care that my
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  brother-in-law spends time with his kids and I don't?
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  Why does a person care? That's how people are.
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  Not only do they dig the heels into their way of life, they
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  despise those who live life the other way, which might be the
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  right one. True or not true.
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  You've seen this or not seen this.
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  It's. Trying to justify us.
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  He does exactly. All the time.
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  I actually just did it the other day when my friend was.
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  My friend told me he does carpool for camp.
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  Right, exactly. Yeah, like why do carpool for
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  camp? Yeah, I know.
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  When your wife comes to you and says, you know so and so, you
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  know what they do? You know what the typical oh,
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  that's what they do. You know what else they do?
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  And you know what else they do? And you know that, right?
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  And they're not working so hard, and maybe they have a lot of
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  time on the hands and all those different things you make up.
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  Why? Because we hate people who live
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  life differently than ours, specifically if ours is wrong.
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  That's how far it goes if ours is right.
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  Here's a funny thing. Tamika Ham doesn't hate
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  Almaritz. Nahmaritz hates the why because
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  the Almighty and his wife specifically, they're living
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  life the wrong way. They do not want to find out
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  that their life is wrong. And because of that, they, like
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  you said, justify. They need to make it that this
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  life is right life. And you know what that mistake
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  is? You never allow yourself a
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  chance to move the needle at all.
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  To me, if you think you're living life to perfection and
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  it's down, it's going in the wrong direction, what's going to
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  change? How is the person in your teens,
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  how in the world is someone going to become anything if they
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  fully believe that this is right and that is wrong and this
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  happens to be wrong, How is it possible?
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  That's why justifying yourself, making it look like my life is
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  perfect or my way of life is perfect is a very dangerous way
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  to go and. The hope of this is jealousy,
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  like you said yesterday. Yesterday you said that the the
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  root of all this type of criticism is usually jealousy,
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  Yes. Is jealousy and, and also and,
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  and actually there's a root to jealousy.
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  The root to jealousy is to to interest in living life in your
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  mind as the most awesome life imaginable.
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  And because of that, you're jealous when you think you see a
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  flaw in your life in contrast to theirs.
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  And the same thing is true over here.
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  The root of actually, there's a root to jealousy and there's
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  roots of this are the same. The root is I need my life and
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  my tomorrow. Am I yesterday to be defined as
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  the most awesome life of life? If I'm a depressed person, it's
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  the opposite. But if I'm a person and needs to
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  feel good about myself, I'm running this risk and that is my
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  life must be awesome. And therefore I hate the fact
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  that they have a good life. And I also fully want to believe
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  that this should be the best thing and I'm living the best
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  life. And if that's the case, I'm
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  going to justify everything. I'm going to lift up everything.
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  I'm going to make my life seem perfect and I put everyone else
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  down. And that's how people are.
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  Somehow they connect everything going on around them as all
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  flawed and this life as all perfect.
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  And The funny thing, the same person who's also jealous at the
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  same time, right, is jealousy. It's also trying to justify and
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  value the current life that you live.
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  And that's why we need to be OK with the fact.
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  That is not perfect. It's OK not being perfect.
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  None of them are perfect. Nobody has life in a perfect
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  way. And they're all going to grow if
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  they realize it. And they're not going to grow as
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  they think this is perfect. And he's saying it's true.
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  We tend this as well. And then he says when someone
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  lives life, you know, pain and suffering is an illness in the
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  body. Cannot my daughter all 10 Holy
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  on nefesh having bad tendencies. Bad countries are known as and
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  the same way a sick person. The way it works is when
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  someone's sick and as they have bad taste buds, you get in
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  something sweetie, it tastes bitter.
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  If there's any bitter, it might taste sweet.
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  So if someone's sick in character as well, you give them
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  nobody. A sick person might want to eat
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  something that's not healthy for them and hates healthy food.
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  Right? That's how this works.
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  Same thing is true with people whose souls whose character
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  traits are sick. They like bad ideas and they
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  hate good ideas. You tell the guy who's flawed
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  character wise. You tell them, how about you sit
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  down and learn a little Mossad. The last thing they want to do
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  is learning Mossad. You know why?
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  Because they have no interest. I know there's a person years
• 21:33
  ago who I felt everything, who I felt was living life the wrong
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  way. And I recommend learning Mossad.
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  A few minutes today learning Mossad and not want it at all.
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  Why not? Because if you're living life
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  the wrong way, the last thing you want to do is try to find
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  out about good counter situation.
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  You know, same idea as before. You do not want to know another
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  side. In fact, you want to see the
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  other side as Florida, as a waste of time, as a paint.
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  And you want to see the side the best.
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  Huh. Is that natural?
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  Very natural, That's it. And he says it's literally based
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  on the onus. So the more a person is flawed
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  in character, the less they're interested in learning Mussan
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  and the more a person is OK. It's a funny thing because it
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  means that we're talking to people who need it less, right?
• 22:19
  That's the way the world is, you developing people who are less
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  fluid and you should be developing the people who are
• 22:26
  more fluid. That's just the way the world
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  is. If someone has a negative
• 22:29
  character rate, they have less interest in knowing the truth
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  and they despise the truth. They consider it bitter, they
• 22:36
  consider it a problem, they consider it a sin.
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  They can do whatever they want, a spiel to make that side look
• 22:43
  bad and this side look good and see that as an issue and get
• 22:46
  nervous when that's just telling you MIT avim Avim had the
• 22:52
  authored art. They like bad ideas, right With
• 22:56
  Sung EIN Mahdir Khattouva, and they hate good ideas.
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  Omar Slim elected Bob. They give a dalam.
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  It's like a weight on them. It's like hoyam.
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  It bothers them. It gets them nervous to hear
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  good ideas. They listen to a speech with
• 23:09
  someone promoting a concept that's not their way.
• 23:12
  It gets them turned off and they listen to the speech of some
• 23:15
  opponent concept that kind of gives them a pass to live life
• 23:20
  the wrong way. The way they're living it.
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  They're like, bravo, I like that speech.
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  I imagine a rabbi gets up there and says you got to be tough,
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  you got to be strong, Don't just be a pushover.
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  And they happen to be tough in the wrong way, these people, and
• 23:33
  they listen to the rabbis ain't got to be tough.
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  You got to be strong, Don't be a pushover.
• 23:36
  The rabbi's asterisk was for the sake of Torah, alright.
• 23:40
  And they hear the rabbi's bold speech.
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  I said speech, my boldness last week, correct?
• 23:44
  And they hear that speech. They ignore the asterisk.
• 23:47
  They ignore the fine print. They just hear the rabbi said he
• 23:50
  got to be tough. They obviously got to be bold.
• 23:52
  They come home and their wife says something about, you know,
• 23:54
  so and so, like, we got to be tough.
• 23:57
  They have to be bold. The rabbi said it.
• 23:59
  He didn't say a word about that. He said something else.
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  But that's what they translated. Why?
• 24:04
  Because that happens all the time.
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  People feed and you have your own channel.
• 24:08
  You know how the world is and you have your own channel.
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  The Conservative. Listen to Fox, right?
• 24:12
  And the other ones, little CNN, we all have our own channels in
• 24:15
  our mind. We hear what we want to hear and
• 24:18
  we leave what we want to live and we channel ourselves to just
• 24:20
  promote ourselves and ourselves and ourselves.
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  And this is the way we were with this.
• 24:25
  And people who are bad tendencies, they hate the good.
• 24:28
  That's the key point. He despise the good tendencies
• 24:31
  and they're never going to come around.
• 24:32
  The first awareness a person needs to have is it ain't
• 24:36
  perfect over here and it's perfectly fine.
• 24:38
  It's OK to not be perfect. It's OK to not be number one
• 24:43
  every area if you think you are you that kid who's wearing knee
• 24:47
  pads on the basketball court because his Mama told him that
• 24:50
  he's perfect at basketball and it's not a play, right?
• 24:53
  Because you're circling around the fact that you're doing great
• 24:56
  and stay. If that parent tells that kid,
• 24:58
  listen, you got some talent, you have a future, but there's also
• 25:02
  something you have to work on your game that's good.
• 25:04
  Got a lot better shot, far better show.
• 25:06
  And the one who told his parents, Ellen, don't listen to
• 25:09
  them. You're the best.
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  I know they play on the bench. He's still the best.
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  I know you're short than everyone else.
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  He's still the best. I know you can't shoot you the
• 25:16
  ball. Another goes in.
• 25:17
  You're still the best, that kid Fanosa.
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  And that's what we are. And we believe that we're
• 25:22
  perfect at a certain age. We believe we have it all made
• 25:25
  in the shade and everything's set in this stage.
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  But do. People.
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  Are they people that really believe that?
• 25:30
  Sure. Well, they they don't really,
• 25:32
  really in an honest moment. Like you look in the mirror.
• 25:35
  Like young people who comes, all of a sudden they're crying,
• 25:38
  Sure, 120 comes and they're full of regrets, but while they're
• 25:42
  living their life as they're in the flow and they have a need,
• 25:45
  they have a need to feel great, keep forward.
• 25:48
  And 120 are different because those are moments and the person
• 25:51
  doesn't need to feel great. He's in a state that is OK being
• 25:53
  fluid, right? The more flow the better during
• 25:56
  those times in a sense. But during times when he's, you
• 26:00
  know, he needs to feel great. He needs to go on.
• 26:02
  He needs to tell himself the tomorrow he's going to be
• 26:04
  awesome and tomorrow I'm going to bang my chest and I feel
• 26:07
  great about myself. During those times, they cannot
• 26:09
  see a flaw. Not a flaw in their schedule,
• 26:12
  not a flaw in their relationships, a flaw in the
• 26:14
  character trait on the Tifila and Li Mutura and the Charity.
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  Nothing, nothing can be flawed. Instead, everything's perfect.
• 26:22
  Why? Because I need to feel great.
• 26:24
  And the more you bite that, the more you assume that, the more
• 26:27
  you're prone to this danger. That's what you're telling us.
• 26:30
  And it's like an illness and it's like bitter to that illness
• 26:34
  to find out this really inconvenient truth, which is
• 26:38
  you're great. You got more to go instead of
• 26:40
  thinking you're perfect and then realizing you're floored.
• 26:44
  You know, you've been, you know, keep finding out the hard think
• 26:47
  of being the truth. You better off realizing it now
• 26:49
  better off realizing there are there's more to go, there's more
• 26:52
  to do and that'll create greatness.
• 26:53
  That's what he says by the lamb. He says, Hoyer, can you shout
• 26:58
  out? I'm about these people.
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  They say bed is good and they say good is bad.
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  Shamim Hosheh Lord, Shamim Hosheh Lord.
• 27:10
  They say darkness, light is darkness and, and, and, and the
• 27:15
  opposite, darkness is really light.
• 27:20
  Bitter sweet. Sweet is bitter, right?
• 27:23
  So what do these people have to do?
• 27:29
  These people need to sit down with that's what he says the kid
• 27:34
  said on my take, not the holy and Nephish you're who it's I
• 27:37
  mean go to the go to the books and stop and realizing the truth
• 27:42
  and realizing that we're talking about you, right, That's what it
• 27:48
  is shame the guy doesn't feel so good, doesn't feel so good and
• 27:54
  his wife says go to the doctor doesn't want to go to the
• 27:56
  doctor. He pushes it off.
• 27:58
  Why is he pushed it off? Why is that guy pushed it off?
• 28:02
  He's scared of being told he's got something wrong.
• 28:05
  He's scared of being told he's got to watch what he eats or
• 28:08
  watch his schedule or don't over stress yourself.
• 28:11
  He doesn't want to hear it. He doesn't want to change a key
• 28:14
  use that doesn't change an iota. So he just pushes off the doctor
• 28:17
  visit pushes off and then he goes and it built up and it
• 28:20
  built up and it built up. Whereas the other guy who's
• 28:23
  doing the check UPS and he's perfectly open to say, doc, what
• 28:26
  do I got to do this time? Now what do I got to do that
• 28:28
  time? All right, that person will be
• 28:31
  constantly developing himself and healthy and strong in that
• 28:35
  area because he's always been told that this vitamin, that
• 28:39
  pill, this regimen, stop eating that and he's really that small
• 28:43
  amounts. It's OK.
• 28:44
  All right, that is the exact same thing over here.
• 28:47
  If you have a person who never goes to the doctor of nefesh of
• 28:50
  salt, never looks himself in the mirror ever, goodness, that
• 28:55
  person gets older and starts to look in the mirror, whatever it
• 28:57
  is, and he's having a problem with this relationship and that
• 29:00
  relationship and this is going wrong.
• 29:01
  You're not going to hunt. And why is it all falling apart?
• 29:04
  Why is everyone getting nervous to me?
• 29:06
  Why does it feel like I'm cutting out half the world
• 29:07
  because I need to keep up my thing?
• 29:09
  Why did life feel like it's falling apart?
• 29:11
  I'm getting issues left and right.
• 29:13
  The answer is you never stop. I looked in that little mirror.
• 29:17
  I said to yourself, where am I? If you did, you tweak this and
• 29:22
  you too tapped and you develop this and you'd stop that and you
• 29:26
  stop talking so negatively. There are people who speak less
• 29:29
  Shahada like to the moon and you're saying something.
• 29:33
  Are you real? Like, do you realize at all?
• 29:35
  I know we all have this tendency of slipping things.
• 29:38
  We all not perfect. We all let things go.
• 29:40
  But you do you realize like this is just a pile of negativity.
• 29:43
  This is, I mean, we're going to learn about this guy's Shabbat
• 29:45
  they're talking about. He's talking about sins and sins
• 29:48
  and sins and problem. This is like a problem.
• 29:51
  What's happening? Answer is compiled.
• 29:54
  Answer is now try to tell that person as soon as a sin, he's
• 29:58
  out of your mind. He can't even think.
• 30:00
  You can't even get close to removing now because he went too
• 30:03
  far. And the idea is stop and get
• 30:07
  steady check UPS, which means all the time stop and look
• 30:10
  yourself in the mirror and say is that right?
• 30:12
  Was that conversation OK? He's based in the constant Cosmo
• 30:16
  and FSJ, Yes. Was that idea OK?
• 30:18
  Should I have said that? Should I have felt that?
• 30:21
  Should I have gone there? Did I really waste my time?
• 30:24
  Did I use my time wisely? Should I have spent that?
• 30:27
  So they have not spent all these different things and slowly but
• 30:30
  surely you start to strengthen and develop and make more
• 30:35
  potency. Everything that you're doing.
• 30:37
  It is everything you're doing is reflected upon, is developed, is
• 30:41
  clarified, is, you know, giving power to much better than the
• 30:45
  other way where it builds up fat and fat and fat and waste of
• 30:50
  time and the wrong tendencies. And they compile themselves to
• 30:53
  become a complete and total totally off, whereas all he
• 30:58
  needed was concentrates. That's the idea.
• 31:00
  It's a little like a train. When that train goes off the
• 31:02
  rails and it keeps going, going over the other direction.
• 31:05
  And if it's just drop off, you put it back on and it's fine.
• 31:07
  That's what we have to be keep being put back on.
• 31:10
  That's the idea.