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ROR 190: Uncomfortable · Red Onion Randy - Life in a Supermax Prison

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Speaker 1: Hello, this is a prebate call from and if the
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Speaker 1: present Department of Correction read an in state prison to
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Speaker 1: accept this, all press zero. This is Randall bab Aka
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Speaker 1: Read on You Randy. I'm currently serving one thousand, two
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Speaker 1: hundred and fourteen years for capital murder and on robbery
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Speaker 1: now and finally at a level three fucking air correctional center.
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Speaker 1: So always throw from where I grew up. If you
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Speaker 1: you do. Let's get started with the podcast Everybody's Read
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Speaker 1: On Your Randy again today. I'm gonna talk about becoming
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Speaker 1: comfortable with the uncomfortable. This is something that I've actually
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Speaker 1: currently dealing with right now in my life. Here Buckingham
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Speaker 1: an incentive for as well. I mean, it's kind of
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Speaker 1: a joke, to be honest with you. It really wasn't
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Speaker 1: much incentives here at all, but it's still a hell
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Speaker 1: of a lot better where I've been. So, you know,
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Speaker 1: I'm I'm not gonna bitch and cry about it, but
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Speaker 1: it just seems like a lot of stuff is kind
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Speaker 1: of going sideways on me. You know. I just I'm
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Speaker 1: in that season of life. It happens, you know, everybody
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Speaker 1: goes through ups and downs. Right now, a little bit
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Speaker 1: of a down period, you know, so kind of got
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Speaker 1: a little frustrated. The hell, I got a lot frustrated,
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Speaker 1: you know, and I just kind of got to thinking, like,
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Speaker 1: you know, is it worth it? Is? The constant struggle,
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Speaker 1: the constant aggravation, just be emotional, just dealing with all
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Speaker 1: just like is it worth it? And of course my
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Speaker 1: answer is yes, it is because at the end of
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Speaker 1: the day, I can't become who and what I want
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Speaker 1: to be without being uncomfortable, without going through a bunch
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Speaker 1: of bullshit, Like that's just life. You do not grow
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Speaker 1: when things are going well for you. That's not when
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Speaker 1: you grow. Same thing. Working out you build muscle, Yeah,
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Speaker 1: you go out, you push yourself, you lift heavy, you
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Speaker 1: do it, thousand push ups to day, whatever the case
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Speaker 1: may be. However you choose to work out like, that's
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Speaker 1: not when you grow. You're not when you're pushing your
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Speaker 1: body through hell, you're not growing at that moment. You're
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Speaker 1: tearing your muscles up, you're depleting the core energy and
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Speaker 1: you that cause you to go and move and all
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Speaker 1: this other stuff like you're breaking yourself down physically. That's
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Speaker 1: what you do when you exercise, especially if you're doing
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Speaker 1: it right and you're freaking pushing yourself. Now, you grow.
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Speaker 1: Your body actually grows when you're sleep. It's the same
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Speaker 1: thing with life. It's the same thing, you know, dealing
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Speaker 1: with cancer, dealing with an alcoholic parent or spouse, dealing
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Speaker 1: with you know, a child running the streets and doing
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Speaker 1: dumb you know, dealing with a husband on the other
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Speaker 1: side of the ocean, locked up in prison, no matter
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Speaker 1: what it is, those are the moments when you grow,
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Speaker 1: when you're when you're dealing with adversity, when you're when
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Speaker 1: you're going through hell and you just you feel at
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Speaker 1: the end of Europe, you feel like, you know what,
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Speaker 1: so I can't do this no more, Like I don't
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Speaker 1: want to do this no more. When you can't afford
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Speaker 1: to pay three hundred and fifty dollars to finish a
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Speaker 1: job that's going to pay you eighteen hundred. All these
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Speaker 1: things tie in everything, no matter what it is you're
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Speaker 1: going through. And I'm giving some specific things, you know,
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Speaker 1: I'm sending the message to some you know, just other people.
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Speaker 1: They know who they are when they hear what I
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Speaker 1: just said, you know, and one of them is my
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Speaker 1: wife of course, you know, being in a relationship with
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Speaker 1: a man in prison across the notion I think that
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Speaker 1: one's pretty woman knows. No matter what it is you
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Speaker 1: deal with, you have to become comfortable with the uncomfortable.
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Speaker 1: Because when you can become comfortable, when you get in
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Speaker 1: those uncomfortable moments like what I'm going through right now,
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Speaker 1: like it just seems like nothing is going right. That's
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Speaker 1: what it seems like. Obviously things are going right for me.
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Speaker 1: It's really easy, though, when you get in these moments
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Speaker 1: to focus on just what's going wrong. And that's why
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Speaker 1: you need to become comfortable. Because see, when you become
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Speaker 1: comfortable with being uncomfortable, when you become comfortable with being frustrated,
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Speaker 1: when you become comfortable with being when you become comfortable
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Speaker 1: with being depressed, when you become comfortable with whatever your
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Speaker 1: personal hell happens to be, that day when you can
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Speaker 1: sit there and look they say, you know what, Okay, yeah,
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Speaker 1: this is going wrong. This is going wrong, and this
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Speaker 1: right here is just a pain in my ass and
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Speaker 1: I really don't have time for this. But you know what,
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Speaker 1: hold up, wait a minute, let me change my legs,
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Speaker 1: let me look at this difference. Thanks Universe, God, Jesus,
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Speaker 1: whatever you believe in, it's you know, you got to
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Speaker 1: personalize that to yourself. Me. I believe in God, I
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Speaker 1: believe in Jesus. You know I'm I'm a Christian to
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Speaker 1: the best of my damn ability to be one anyway.
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Speaker 1: So you just, whoever or whatever it is that you
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Speaker 1: happen to believe that, you just say thank you for
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Speaker 1: this opportunity. Yet fucks and I have a feeling it's
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Speaker 1: gonna get a little bit worse. But you know what,
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Speaker 1: thank you for the growth I'm about to experience. Thank
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Speaker 1: you for believing in me that I can actually pass
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Speaker 1: this test. I can go through these trials and tribulations
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Speaker 1: he struggles, and I can come back to the other
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Speaker 1: side a better person, a better man, a better woman,
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Speaker 1: a better husband, a better wife, a better mother, father, brother, sister,
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Speaker 1: whatever the case may be. For you, and that's what
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Speaker 1: I'm talking about, and that's what I'm doing in my
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Speaker 1: own life. When you get somebody in here that disrespects me,
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Speaker 1: to you, whether they're doing it intentionally or whether they're
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Speaker 1: doing it unintentionally, they're just going with the flow of
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Speaker 1: what other people are doing. Is you deal with a
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Speaker 1: lot of keenage for in high school girl dramas in prison.
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Speaker 1: I'm telling you, there are more females in prison than
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Speaker 1: there are in the world. It's insane the amount of oh,
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Speaker 1: you have to deal with in here. But I'm looking
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Speaker 1: at it like, God, you know what, Thank you for
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Speaker 1: believing in me. Thank you for having a little bit
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Speaker 1: of faith that I don't have to go punch this
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Speaker 1: guy in his mouth and teach him a lesson in respect.
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Speaker 1: You know that I'm strong enough to kind of just
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Speaker 1: let him run his mouth, like, so what where you
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Speaker 1: ain't putting your hands on me? Man? And if you
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Speaker 1: ain't putting your hands on me, then you don't believe
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Speaker 1: that in the first place. It's about looking for the positive.
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Speaker 1: It's about looking at it with a little bit of joy,
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Speaker 1: and you have to learn to enjoy it. And it's difficult,
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Speaker 1: it's not easy, and you can't show. I ain't gonna
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Speaker 1: get it perfect straight out the gate, but that's what
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Speaker 1: makes it worth it. I've been telling somebody. I really
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Speaker 1: have been telling myself this a lot lately. If it
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Speaker 1: was easy, it wouldn't be worth it. Occasionally I'm a
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Speaker 1: smart ass to myself. Sure that doesn't surprise most people,
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Speaker 1: you know. Sometimes I'll say, well, if it was easy,
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Speaker 1: it'd be easy, dumb ass, But it still works for
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Speaker 1: me because you know, sometimes you just got to talk
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Speaker 1: to yourself. But if it was easy, it wouldn't be
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Speaker 1: worth it. Look back over your life, look back at
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Speaker 1: some of the the struggles and the desperations. If I
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Speaker 1: wouldn't have come to prison, if I wouldn't have done
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Speaker 1: the stupidst that I did, if I wouldn't have grew
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Speaker 1: up the way I grew up, with the violence and
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Speaker 1: the beatings, and you know, being around a bunch of
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Speaker 1: drug users and alcoholics and criminals and all that stuff,
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Speaker 1: I wouldn't be where I'm at today. I wouldn't have
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Speaker 1: my wife, I wouldn't have my friends, you know, and
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Speaker 1: I've got friends that just they mean the world to me. Obviously,
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Speaker 1: you know, we all know how I feel about my wife.
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Speaker 1: I've done a few episodes on that already. And how
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Speaker 1: I married the woman, actually she married me. Let's see,
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Speaker 1: she's probably a little bit stupid to do so, but
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Speaker 1: you know, don't tell her that. But when you start
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Speaker 1: looking at the blessings, when you take your eyes off
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Speaker 1: of the team, when you take your eyes off of
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Speaker 1: the struggle, it frees you in a wage where it
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Speaker 1: doesn't have as much power. Now that doesn't mean, Look,
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Speaker 1: if you've got freaking stage five colon cancer or something,
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Speaker 1: don't just sit there and start running around. You know. Oh,
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Speaker 1: I'm so grateful for the sun and the sky. I'm
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Speaker 1: so grateful for how blue it is and the clouds,
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Speaker 1: and you know, forget to go to your damn doctor's appointment.
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Speaker 1: Let's not be stupid on your way to the doctor's appointment. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: look around and find things to be grateful for. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: I'm in prison, but you know what, I just went
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Speaker 1: outside this morning and tried to murder my buddy with exercise.
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Speaker 1: Like we went at it, and it's for it's so funny,
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Speaker 1: Like me and him were both the same height. We're
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Speaker 1: five foot nine and a half. You know, he's a
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Speaker 1: little bit more muscular than I. Am. You know, we're
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Speaker 1: pretty much close to the same weight, give or take,
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Speaker 1: you know, maybe five to ten pounds. And we're out there,
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Speaker 1: we're working out, and like I mean, we are pushing ourselves.
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Speaker 1: We are pushing, pushing, pushing ourselves. And you see these
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Speaker 1: huge muscle bound guys. You know, they don't went and
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Speaker 1: lifted weights. They don't done all that once. And you
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Speaker 1: see all these shoes I freaking huge guys. I mean,
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Speaker 1: guys ever bench pressing five six hundred pounds. You know,
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Speaker 1: they're squat and a thousand pounds like I mean, they're
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Speaker 1: just freaking muscles on top of muscles on top of muscles.
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Speaker 1: And you see them looking at me and Ryan like
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Speaker 1: holy shit. And they're they're sitting there pointing to their guys.
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Speaker 1: They're calling to so over like yo, man, why he's
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Speaker 1: too crazy ass white boys, you know, and most of
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Speaker 1: them are black. We got a couple of really big
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Speaker 1: white guys with most of them generally you know, black.
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Speaker 1: But and you know, I'm sitting there like a arry,
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Speaker 1: I'm gonna look at him, bruh. And he sees them
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Speaker 1: and he's like it's motivation, like it's something to be
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Speaker 1: thankful for, Like you know, here are these guys that
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Speaker 1: are huge, massive, I mean, probably strong enough to knockersly
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Speaker 1: out if it punching. And yet they're sitting there admiring
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Speaker 1: minding his workout, admiring the way me and him are
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Speaker 1: pushing each other, dragging each other. Like I literally threw
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Speaker 1: up on my last burpy. I was actually in the
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Speaker 1: middle of doing my last burpe actually eight count bodybuild
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Speaker 1: excuse me, you did? Who's doing eight count Bodybuilders this morning? Well?
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Speaker 1: My last one is I'm going down. I'm throwing up
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Speaker 1: and throwing up when I'm coming back up, Like that's
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Speaker 1: how we push her says man, I should be grateful
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Speaker 1: for that. Did I have somebody who's willing to go
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Speaker 1: out there with me six days a week and just
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Speaker 1: killing Okay? Yeah, I don't have the muscle I want. Unfortunately,
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Speaker 1: I don't have the money to buy the stuff I
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Speaker 1: need to get there. And you know I've said that
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Speaker 1: before on here, and it's still the case. I know
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Speaker 1: a lot of people think, you know, I'm probably making
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Speaker 1: thousands of dollars from the podcast. I am not not
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Speaker 1: even close, you know. Okay, you know what, I have
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Speaker 1: a podcast, I have a voice, I have a friend
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Speaker 1: who's actually gone into credit card debt so we can
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Speaker 1: keep the podcast going. He believes in me that much.
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Speaker 1: He's making them kind of sacrifices, and that's something to
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Speaker 1: be grateful for instead of bitching and crying. And I
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Speaker 1: can't go by tuna fish and mackerel and sausages and
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Speaker 1: blocks of cheese and whatnot, you know, so I can
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Speaker 1: actually get big. Okay, screw it, don't work out to
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Speaker 1: get big. Go out there and just work out for car.
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Speaker 1: You'll go out there and just become an animal so
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Speaker 1: much so that you've got these other big guys are
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Speaker 1: sitting there looking to us like, holy shit, man, I
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Speaker 1: can't do that, Like I can't do that. Go out
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Speaker 1: there and I do side launches like I'm doing picture
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Speaker 1: perfect side launches all the way down, and these guys
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Speaker 1: are like, holy shit, I would tear my nuts off
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Speaker 1: if I tried to do that right now, anything, use
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Speaker 1: it as motivation. Become comfortable with being uncomfortable. Trust me,
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Speaker 1: I was uncomfortable as hell doing preaking pet Colt Bodybuilders
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Speaker 1: on top of what we already did. Like that was
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Speaker 1: actually near the end of our workouts. It's the same
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Speaker 1: thing that for me. I always find whenever I'm pushing
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Speaker 1: myself physically, whenever I'm pushing myself with my workouts to
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Speaker 1: my limit, like I'm getting after it. It makes the
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Speaker 1: spiritual battles, It makes the mental battles, the emotional battles.
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Speaker 1: It makes those a whole lot easier here for me
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Speaker 1: to deal with because it'll it gets me in that
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Speaker 1: mindset of for I'm warring, like I'm going to war
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Speaker 1: right now. I can handle this, man. It It does something.
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Speaker 1: It changes the way you look when you get that
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Speaker 1: war mindset and you get that willingness to be like, Okay,
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Speaker 1: you know what, I can accept this. I'm not gonna bitch.
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Speaker 1: I'm not gonna cry about it. I'm not gonna I'm dancing.
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Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lay down and give up. I'm gonna
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Speaker 1: get up. I'm gonna make my big I'm gonna get up.
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Speaker 1: I'm gonna clean my space. I'm gonna get up. I'm
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Speaker 1: gonna drink some water, I'm gonna get I'm gonna i'm
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Speaker 1: gonna go work out. I'm gonna go do something productive.
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Speaker 1: I'm gonna go do something positive. When you start doing
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Speaker 1: those positive things, it makes it easier to focus on
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Speaker 1: the positive. It makes it easier to focus on the
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Speaker 1: things that are going right. Even if you just got
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Speaker 1: only one thing that's going right in your life, focus
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Speaker 1: on that one thing because it helps you to dig,
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Speaker 1: It helps you to put things in perspective. It helps
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Speaker 1: you to change your attitude. I could walk around here depressed,
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Speaker 1: I could walk around here mad I can do it
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Speaker 1: all the time because there is so much negativity in prison.
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Speaker 1: There's so much negativity where I'm at, with the people
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Speaker 1: I'm dealing with. You know, people walk by the video
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Speaker 1: visit monitor and see me with my wife, and they
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Speaker 1: see how beautiful she is, and she is gorgeous. That's
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Speaker 1: not me just saying that, like any human being who
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Speaker 1: took one look at my wife is gonna be like wow,
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Speaker 1: and they get jealous. Help. They're jealous that I'm with
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Speaker 1: a black woman. They're jealous that I'm with the first
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Speaker 1: gorgeous woman. They're jealous that I get video visits from
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Speaker 1: her on a regular basis, at least five times a week.
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Speaker 1: And they're jealous that I got a podcast. They're jealous
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Speaker 1: that I got some people, my friends David and Sarah,
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Speaker 1: you know, driving up to visit me once every two
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Speaker 1: months or whatnot, like, and they just making up lies,
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Speaker 1: pushing little bullsh at me, you know, just looking down
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Speaker 1: their nose at me, hating on me. I can focus
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Speaker 1: on that, and the only thing that's going to do
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Speaker 1: is make me mad. Then it's going to make me
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Speaker 1: madd Then I'm really gonna start getting pissed. And then
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Speaker 1: by around day four, day five, and I'm just dwelling
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Speaker 1: on this. I'm just meditating on this next thing. You know,
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Speaker 1: you have one minute remaining the next thing. You know,
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Speaker 1: I do something stupid, and then where am I at?
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Speaker 1: Right back in the mountains, starting all over it. So
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Speaker 1: I choose to focus. Man, damn, I got a gorgeous wife.
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Speaker 1: I got a wife who loves me enough to actually
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Speaker 1: pay for video of this. It's five days a week.
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Speaker 1: I got a wife who loves me enough to fly
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Speaker 1: across the ocean. It comes to things seven hours with me.
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Speaker 1: Focus on the positive. When you can do that and
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Speaker 1: you become comfortable and the uncomfortable, that's why things are
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Speaker 1: going to change. The shift is going to be made
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Speaker 1: in your life. Dig deep people, Yeah, it's it's not
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Speaker 1: easy at first, but you can do it all You
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Speaker 1: get comfortable with being uncomfortable in life, because there's always
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Speaker 1: going to be something that makes you uncomfortable. All right.
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Speaker 1: That's uh, that's all the time we have for now.
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