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(#28) Manifest More by Falling Madly in Love With Yourself · Alignment With Jenn

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We are so attracted to people who are authentic, even if
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they're completely different for them.
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Us, we have respect and we have admiration because we all know
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it takes courage to be authentic.
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OK, welcome to episode 27 of the Receive podcast.
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I am your host Jen. It's easy.
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And today we're going to be talking about manifesting more
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by falling madly in love with yourself.
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So this episode is all about self love, which is the theme in
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my community for 2026. And so really when we think
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about self love, oftentimes we think about self-care, right?
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We think about foot massages and we think about going to get a
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facial and we think about evenings in, but there's so much
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depth and there's so much beauty when we really start to explore
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what it means to fall madly in love with yourself.
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Because as we know, manifestation is all about the
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universe reflecting back to us what we believe about ourselves.
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And oftentimes, most of us are walking around with fractured
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relationships with ourselves. And those are reflected back to
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us in all of these micro moments that we experience with our
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partners, with our friends, with our business relationships, and
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when we can truly create a powerful, healthy, clean
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relationship with ourselves where we're truly in love with
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ourselves. Not just tolerating ourselves,
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not just kind of being a little bit of a bully to ourselves, but
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actually truly loving ourselves on a deep level, which is very
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difficult for many people. We create this effortless
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ability to manifest the things that we want.
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We become instantly more magnetic.
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We attract partners, we attract business relationships, we
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attract opportunities because there's nothing more magnetic
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than the frequency of love. So I think about this and I
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think about the frequency of love of when I was first falling
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in love. So my very first boyfriend that
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I ever had in high school. And I remember falling in love
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with him. And we were at the movies and he
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held my hand. And I felt this rush of
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excitement, this amazing feeling of just bliss by the fact that
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he was simply holding my hand. The thing that we think about
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love is we think that it's the other person causing those
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feelings of love. And so we oftentimes externalize
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that other people are our source of love when that's actually not
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true. That is an illusion.
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We are the source of our own love.
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All of those feelings I was feeling when he held my hand
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were me. They came from me and my
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perception and my understanding and my interpretation of the
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experience. I could have very easily had
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different feelings, right, if I didn't like him as much.
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Those feelings were coming from myself.
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Our feelings come from ourselves, and we interpret it
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as if they come from something outside of ourselves.
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And so when we begin to work on this relationship with ourselves
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and fall madly in love with ourselves, we become far more
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magnetic and we are able to generate those positive feelings
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from within effortlessly and easily.
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And that is how we elevate our vibration to attract more things
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into our lives. Oftentimes what happens is
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people are walking around with shame, with self judgment, with
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needing to prove themselves, with feeling like if only I was
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further along, if only I was a little better at this.
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If only I wasn't so harsh on myself, I will say I would say
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most people have really harsh, strong inner critics that are
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constantly telling them the things that they should be doing
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better, the things that they should be doing differently.
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When that creates hesitation, that creates disconnection.
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One of the most attractive qualities a person can have is
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when they are fully present. And this has been shown time and
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time and time again that when you are with someone and that
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person is fully present with you, you're instantly more
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attracted to them. You're instantly more interested
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in them. But presence takes not having
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our mind running and running and running in circles.
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It takes us actually being fully focused on that other person and
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not focused on ourselves. When we have a harsh inner
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critic, when we're constantly judging ourselves and thinking
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of things that we need to do better, we are not loving
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ourselves. We are actually bullying
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ourselves. And we are not present with
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other people. We're not present in the present
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moment. That's one of the amazing
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benefits of this path to falling madly in love with yourself.
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This whole idea came to me because I had this experience
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where I was reading a book and I was reading.
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It's called Calling in the one by Catherine Woodward Thomas,
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and she says this one line. And it just like struck me when
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I read this line. And it's that I'm Speaking of
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something deeper than self-care. I'm talking about the actual
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ways you relate to yourself, the habitual ways you speak to
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yourself, the ways you respond or not to our own difficult
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feelings or unwanted needs, the commitments you make or don't
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make to fulfill your deepest dreams and desires, and the ways
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you honor or fail to honor your word to yourself.
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Self love is not about these fluffy things.
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It's about the true relationship that we create with ourselves.
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How we show up for ourselves, how we speak to ourselves
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internally, how we show up for our dreams, whether we are
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devoted to our vision or it can kind of happen or it cannot
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happen, right? That's the truth of self love.
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And so after I read this, I really, really sat and I
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reflected and I thought about what are all the ways where I'm
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not really loving myself as deeply as I can.
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And I immediately had all these flashes of images of ways that I
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was judging myself, that I was trying to prove myself, that I
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was shrinking myself to make others feel comfortable, that I
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was being harsh with myself internally, right?
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I was judging my appearance, I was judging my actions.
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I was judging the social media content I would put out.
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It created this hesitation. It created this shame within
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myself, right? Shame is this belief that
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there's something wrong with me. And when we're constantly
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judging ourselves, we create this ball of shame within
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ourselves. The issue with that is shame and
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not only feels like crap, but it's very, very heavy.
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It's a heavy, dense energy on the scale of consciousness
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that's at the bottom. It's heavy and it weighs us
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down. It makes us difficult for us to
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manifest the things that we want in our lives.
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It makes it difficult for us to create the things that we want
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to create. And so self love is the antidote
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to that. When you're able to look at the
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things that you have cast out within yourself, the things that
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you judge, the things that you say that are not enough, and you
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choose to love yourself anyway, you choose to love those things
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about yourself. You choose to have compassion
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for those things about yourself, then what happens is you elevate
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your energy instantly. You elevate into these higher
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vibrational emotions, you become more magnetic.
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People want to be around you, opportunities are attracted to
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you, clients are attracted to you.
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And that's what happened to for me.
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So I took myself through my own work.
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I took myself through my own vault of subconscious rewiring
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sessions, through my own meditations, through all of the
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things that I teach. And it was like I elevated
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within the matter of even after doing this for a week, for two
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weeks, I felt like a completely different person.
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And I saw people responding to me differently.
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I saw people wanting to talk to me more, wanting to come up to
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me, people saying hi to me at the grocery store, more
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opportunities coming to me, clients wanting to work with me
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for longer and longer periods of time, New clients coming to me
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and saying, you know, I was just attracted to your energy.
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Because we are attracted to love.
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That is our true frequency. That's the frequency that we
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resonate with the most. And so when we operate out of
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love, it's easy oftentimes for us to love other people.
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It's easy for us to see the good in other people, right?
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Can oftentimes not be so easy to do that with ourselves, but we
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have to do it with ourselves or we cap our ability to love
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others, to do those kinds of things for others.
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So that was a longer intro that I had really planned, but I want
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to share with you really kind of the core pieces that I looked at
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and I want to give you some of the practices for you to help
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cultivate this relationship of self love within yourself.
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I will be doing a challenge around this in February, so be
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sure to check me out on Instagram at alignment with Jen.
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We're going to be doing a self love related challenge to
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cultivate this and really turn this into a practice.
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So the first thing I noticed with myself that made a really
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big difference on this journey was beginning to practice self
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adoration, self appreciation, self valuing, self celebration.
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So what is that? It is becoming your own biggest
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cheerleader. Often times we will look for
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other people to validate us, right?
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That's kind of what we've been taught.
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We go to our teacher to see what grade we got to see, OK, was
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this good enough? And that's the school system
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we're brought up with. That's the mentality that were
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created with. But what if we can source it
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from inside? What if we can start validating
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ourselves and adoring ourselves and appreciating ourselves for
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the small things and the big things, right?
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Assuming and knowing our inherent worth because we're
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divine souls and assuming that yes, there's going to be lessons
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to learn and seeing yourself through the soft, loving eyes of
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an ideal parent, right? The universe, the Creator, how
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the Creator would actually see you is through nothing but love.
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The Creator's not going to be harsh and judgmental and unkind
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to you. It's going to be nothing but
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love for you. And so why not treat yourself in
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that way? And what I noticed with myself
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is that, and it was very easy for me to find things that I had
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been doing that weren't so great, right?
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Areas where I wasn't quite measuring up.
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I wasn't smart enough, I wasn't pretty enough, I wasn't XYZ or
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enough. And my mindset would immediately
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going in to fix it. OK, how can I make that better?
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How can I make that better? Then we get up here, we get into
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the mind. But what can happen when we
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start to cultivate self love as we bring more energy into our
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hearts and we expand our hearts and our heart is our the magnet
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of our body that attracts everything to us.
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And so instead of looking for the things that I could fix
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about myself, I started looking for everything that I did right.
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And I started doing this practice.
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I call it the self acknowledgement practice.
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Super simple can you can do it in a minute and it will change
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your life. I promise you that what it is is
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you take maybe a minute. So one of my clients takes the
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subway home from work every day. So I told her I was like, OK,
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every single day when you get on the subway, I want you to do the
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self acknowledgement practice and I want you to take a minute
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and reflect on the past 24 hours and acknowledge yourself for the
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things that you did. Well, small things are big
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things. You could say I'm so proud of
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you for getting up this morning when you didn't really feel like
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it. I'm so proud of you for going to
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the gym. I'm so proud of you for not
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being reactive when your Co worker said something snarky,
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right? Noticing yourself and validating
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yourself because oftentimes we're so starved for that
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validation when we can give it to ourselves.
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And then imagine what a strong vessel this creates for you.
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If you've done any of my work before, you know I talk about
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how everything we want to manifest already exists, right?
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Quantum physics shows us that, but we have to have the vessel,
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we have to have the capacity to hold it or else we won't be able
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to receive it. What self love does is it
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strengthens your vessel, it strengthens your ability to
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receive it. And part of that is this inner
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dialogue. And when we start to cultivate
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this self acknowledgement practice, we start to see that.
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And what I saw with myself is that as I started to acknowledge
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myself more, I stopped being as critical of myself.
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I stopped being as critical of other people.
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It honestly truly rewired the way that I was speaking to
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myself internally because oftentimes that internal
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dialogue is not something we've been like, OK, sign me up for
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like this model of internal dialogue.
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What it is is it's your parents. Typically it's your caregivers,
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it's the people you grew up with, maybe significant teachers
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that you had or siblings and how they spoke to you, which was
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passed down to them from their caregivers.
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We often times don't necessarily want that, right?
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We want to choose how we view ourselves.
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We want to choose how we look at ourselves.
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And so that is one of the primary ways to start rewriting
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this internal dialogue. So the second piece I thought
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about with self love is self devotion.
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And this is truly devoting yourself to the things that you
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want to create in your life. So if you've heard me talk
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before about devotion versus discipline, right?
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Often times in society, people are like, you need to be more
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disciplined, right? You need to wake up at 5:00 AM
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and go on a run and la, la, la, la, la, right?
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Discipline feels very punitive, truly, like you get disciplined
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for doing something wrong. I don't like that.
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I like devotion. Devotion is I am devoted to
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myself. I am devoted to the universe.
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I'm devoted to my higher calling.
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And devotion is an energy of love.
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You're pulled by your love for something.
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I show up for what I love because I'm in love with loving
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it, not because I'm forced to do it right.
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One of my clients told me she's like, you know, I was thinking
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about what you said about devotion versus discipline.
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And she's like, I didn't feel like working out, but I did
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because I was devoted to my health.
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And I was like, yes, that's it. That's exactly it.
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We're devoted to ourselves. Rather than trying to discipline
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ourselves into being something, why not view ourselves as
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someone who's worth loving and caring for and then devoting to
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that self devotion? What it really is, is doing the
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things you say you're going to do that matter to you.
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Showing up for your dreams, keeping your word to yourself,
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not being around people who make you feel like crap.
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Clearing out your old patterns, clearing out your old triggers,
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clearing out your old fears. Because you're devoted to loving
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yourself. It's really leading yourself and
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being that leadership that you want.
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You could kind of think of this whole practice as if you were
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your own ideal parent, most perfect parent in the world.
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You don't have to think of your own parent.
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I'm saying think of like the most perfect, perfect, perfect
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parent that doesn't even really exist.
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How would you treat yourself then?
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How would you talk to yourself? It'd be nothing but love.
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So the second one is that self devotion.
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And that's really, do your actions align with what you say
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is important to you and what you want in life?
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Or do your actions align with how you're feeling in the
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moment? And it's not that we don't honor
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our feelings, but it's that we keep in mind that what I'd
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rather have five years from now or a year from now is more
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important to me than me watching this episode of Netflix right
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now. That's what self devotion is, is
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it's allowing yourself to create the life that you really want
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and actually taking steps toward it.
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So then the next one is self-expression, and this is
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allowing yourself to speak up for yourself, allowing yourself
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to speak your truth, allowing yourself and accepting who you
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truly are and then expressing it to the world.
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Because when we stop judging ourselves, we will stop assuming
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that everyone else is judging us too, and people will actually
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stop judging us. Because when we get off the
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frequency of judgement, we stop attracting people on the
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frequency of judgement. Self-expression requires that we
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accept and love and acknowledge ourselves first, because if not,
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it's going. We're going to constantly be
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like trying to adjust and fit ourselves into a box to make
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other people happy. We're not going to feel
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liberated to actually express ourselves.
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So you allow yourself to be heard, your voice to be
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expressed. You say, you know what?
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I know I have an important message to share, and I'm
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willing to share it. Right?
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One of my clients told me that she was having a conversation
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with her uncle and she had just got a new dog.
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And he said, well, I don't really like dogs.
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And she was like, OK, well, that's OK.
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Like, I am really happy that I got a dog.
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You know, she expressed herself. She wasn't unkind.
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She wasn't mean, but she expressed that she wants a dog.
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She loves a dog. His truth doesn't have to be
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your truth. And that's part of this
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self-expression is recognizing I can express myself and I don't
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expect anything of the other person.
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I don't expect them to agree. I don't expect them to be
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anything that they're not, but I still get to express myself.
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There's room for all of us to express ourselves.
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You stop performing, you stop contorting yourself to meet the
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expectations of others. And what happens when we do that
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is the people who are not meant for us fall away.
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And the people who are meant for us, there's space for them.
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There's room for them, there's the frequency for them.
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That's number three, self-expression.
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The last thing I want to say about self-expression is that
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when you begin to express yourself authentically, people
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are drawn to your presence. There was this study done in
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Europe somewhere, I don't remember exactly where, and they
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measured the frequencies emitted from the human body, and
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everyone always thought love was the highest expression.
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What they found is that there is actually a frequency that's 400
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times more magnetic and that's the frequency of authenticity.
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Because what is authenticity? It's acceptance and loving of
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the self. It's saying, you know what?
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I know my truth and I'm comfortable expressing my own
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truth. And that is attractive.
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We are so attracted to people who are authentic, even if
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they're completely different for them, us, we have respect and we
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have admiration because we all know it takes courage to be
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authentic. It takes courage to put yourself
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out there in a space where you could experience judgement.
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That's number three. Number four is self trust.
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So this is so important and such an important aspect of self love
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and what it is, is it's you stop abandoning yourself.
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You start cultivating a relationship where you show up
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for yourself. You start listening to your own
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inner guidance over other people's advice or other
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people's beliefs. You tune into your intuition and
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your inner knowing before going to 75 different friends and be
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like, what do you think? What do you think his text
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message means? What do you think?
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I should reply? No, you, you tune in and you
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say, what's the truth for me? Because nobody, they're going to
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tell you their truth. They don't know their truth.
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Self trust is cultivated when we lean back and we rely on
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ourselves and we act in a way that aligns with the vision that
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we want, right? It kind of relates to self
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devotion that we talked about. You follow through on the things
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that you say you're going to do. You are there for yourself.
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You are your own safety net. I had a client and what she
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shared with me is that she had had just had this argument with
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her family and she felt a lot of pain from this argument, right?
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Which is very common to happen over the holidays.
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And what I told her is she was like, you know, how do I fix
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this? How do I fix this relationship?
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And I was like, well, you know, we cannot change other people.
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We can only change ourselves. What you can do for yourself in
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this moment is be there for yourself.
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Be that safe space for your own emotions.
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Be that safe space to support yourself, to validate your own
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feelings, to nurture yourself, right?
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And self trust is actually related very much just #5 which
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is self nurturing, which I'll get into it more in a moment.
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But self trust is when you learn that you can trust fall into
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yourself because you know that your word means something to
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you, that you will follow through on the things that you
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say you'll do. And you don't do things that are
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harmful to you. You don't allow yourself to
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spend time with people who are harmful to you, right?
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Self trust is this whole deep relationship.
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So then the last one I want to share is self nurturing.
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And this one I think is incredibly powerful as well.
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Honestly, these are all so important but.
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Self nurturing is being that internal parent to yourself.
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It's how you speak to yourself when you have those
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uncomfortable emotions and how you show up for yourself when
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you have those uncomfortable emotions, right?
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Is it that when I have an uncomfortable emotion, I try to
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stuff it down or ignore it or burn through it and blast
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through it by focusing on my work or going to the gym?
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Or is it that I take a moment and I acknowledge that feeling
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and I say, yeah, you know what? What that person said, it did
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hurt me and I'm sorry you feel hurt and I love you and I'm here
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for you. What do you need?
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We can have that kind of relationship with ourselves
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where we give ourselves space. And what one of my really good
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friends shared with me is that she's in a new relationship and
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it's an incredible, incredible relationship.
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And she said that something she does differently in that
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relationship than she ever did in the past is that whenever she
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has a trigger come up, she feels hurt.
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She feels pained by something her partner does.
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What she will do is she's like, I'll take time for myself and
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she's like, and I'll really reflect on how I actually feel.
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I will nurture myself and she's like, sometimes I'll see that it
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had literally nothing to do with him and it was all to do with me
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and me needing my own support. We all have internal feminine
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energy and internal masculine energy, and they're both so
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important. And the masculine energy is the
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one that can hold you when you are struggling, that can be
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there for you, that can help you and say, you know what, I know
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you're hurting, but I'm here for you.
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What do you need? What can I do for you?
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Do you want me to put on a movie?
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Do you want me to get your jammies right?
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Do you want a journal? Do you want to talk about it?
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You can have that conversation with yourself.
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It's about nurturing those parts of yourself that are hurt rather
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than casting them out or stuffing them down.
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What I want you to think about, I know that I shared a lot of
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different pieces to this is even if you take one thing that I
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shared today, you don't have to implement all of this at once.
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Maybe you take the self acknowledgement practice, maybe
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you start showing up for yourself a little more
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consistently on the things that matter to you.
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Maybe you start nurturing yourself a little bit more.
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What you will notice is your entire relationship with
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yourself will change from that simple 2mm shift, right?
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I've shared this before that when a plane takes off, if its
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nose is off by 2mm, then it will end up hundreds of miles away
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from its desired destination. And that's the same thing for
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you is when you take one of these simple practices and you
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implement it over the days, the weeks, the months, the years,
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you're going to be in a completely different timeline.
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So you don't have to take all this information and implement
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it today. But think about this and how can
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you be that loving person to yourself?
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And if you find that you're constantly judging and shaming
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yourself, why, right? Who taught you that?
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Where did that come from? Because it doesn't need to be
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that way. So I hope that you loved this
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episode. I've loved doing this with you.
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I am releasing, I just recently released a new private audio
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series called Match for Miracles.
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And it's completely free. And it guides you through deeper
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into how to rewire the subconscious mind and the
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nervous system to become more of a match for miracles.
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So if in 2026, focusing on manifestation is one of your
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goals, if you have some big things that you want to call in,
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this audio series is the perfect place to check it out.
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I will include the link in the show notes for you.
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You can also message me the word match on Instagram and you'll
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get a link for it. OI hope you have loved this and
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I will see you in the next episode.