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- 0:32Have you ever wondered why some women tend to effortlessly attract men?
- 0:36And not just any man, but healthy masculine men who want to protect, provide, and commit to her, and meanwhile, other women, usually high achieving women, although equally as powerful as the first woman, tends to struggle a lot more in relationships by getting ghosted bread crumbed.
- 0:54Or treated like a backup plan.
- 0:56Well, if you're done chasing emotionally unavailable men and shrinking your light just to get a text back from a guy, then this video is going to be your liberation because I'm going to be breaking down the five divine feminine pillars that makes certain women.
- 1:12Completely magnetic and it makes men obsess over you.
- 1:17Hi, my name is Amanda.
- 1:19Welcome to this channel where we talk about how to manifest what you want in life without all the extra stress, chaos, and trauma that most people are accustomed to.
- 1:27Lately, we've been talking a lot about relationship dynamics, divine feminine energy.
- 1:31This is based on my 15 years of experience coaching women in different areas of their lives, and spending about six years around successful, high achieving ambitious men and asking them what it was that they were looking for in partnership and relationship.
- 1:47Once I understood divine feminine energy and combined it with what all these high achieving men taught me, then I was able to manifest my own husband.
- 1:54Within four months.
- 1:56So if that's something that you're interested in, make sure to subscribe and hit the notification bell.
- 2:00If you're enjoying this video, give it a like, because it helps us get it in front of more women.
- 2:05Ladies, there's so much freaking mess and confusion out here about what makes healthy relationships divine.
- 2:11Feminine energy, masculine energy.
- 2:13So one thing you can do to.
- 2:15Honestly heal the collective consciousness at this point is just give this video unlike, so YouTube can put it in front of more people who are trying to heal and have better relationships because Lord knows we need it with the state of affairs right now.
- 2:30So let's get into it, right?
- 2:32Let's get into what these pillars are and as always.
- 2:36For those of you who wanna go deeper, you can apply to private coaching with me.
- 2:40This is part of what I help you embody as a woman, especially if you've never really been taught this, which most women, especially in the western world, have definitely not been taught these things.
- 2:50And then we wonder why relationships are a total mess in the West right now.
- 2:55And if I have other trainings and things, I will make sure to mention them.
- 2:59For those of you who wanna go deeper.
- 3:01So here's the thing, right?
- 3:04When it comes to high achieving and ambitious women, and not even high ambitious achieving women, just women in general in Western culture, we've been taught to lead in love the same way that we lead in business, right?
- 3:17So it's plan the date, send the first text, split the bill.
- 3:20We think we're being nice when we offer to split the bill.
- 3:23A nice does not get commitment, ladies, not from healthy men.
- 3:27Um, and then we wonder why men.
- 3:30Pull away.
- 3:31But the women who actually get pursued and chosen, they're not doing more, they're not performing.
- 3:38They're not overgiving.
- 3:39They're doing this whole thing entirely differently.
- 3:42They're playing a whole different game that women.
- 3:47Modern women, particularly in Western culture, need to learn about this game because this game's actually been around for thousands of years.
- 3:55But what happened is, uh, particularly in Western culture, what has happened is over the last a hundred years or so, for lots of reasons, a lot of the things that would've created like healthy.
- 4:06Attached people, um, meaning we can bond with other humans in a healthy way.
- 4:12A lot of the factors that are involved in that have been literally like pulled apart, uh, over the last hundred years or so, uh, particularly in the United States and other.
- 4:22Western countries.
- 4:24Uh, so for example, one of those things is the, the family structure being pulled apart, which has been going on for a hundred years or so.
- 4:31In the United States, we had industrialization, we had two world wars.
- 4:35Uh, we had the Great Depression then that led to feminism.
- 4:39Uh, why did it lead to feminism, Amanda?
- 4:41Because most people think feminism.
- 4:43Just came outta the blue and came outta nowhere.
- 4:46It did not imagine a hundred years ago, we were living in community with each other.
- 4:51This is actually something that's becoming cool again to do, but we were living in community in the United States.
- 4:56We had much stronger family bonds, and not just family bonds, but also social bonds.
- 5:01I'm living in Mexico right now because my, my husband and I like the international lifestyle.
- 5:05He actually.
- 5:06Runs a business where he helps people move to other countries.
- 5:09And I'll say, Mexico's got this part right?
- 5:11Okay.
- 5:11Mexico's got other problems, but Mexico's got this part right.
- 5:14And as a Latina, I'm Cuban, this is.
- 5:17To me the way that it should be, and it turns out that this is the healthiest way of doing it, which is we have very strong family bonds and it's not just families, it's the aunts, it's the uncles, it's the cousins, it's the neighbors, it's the social circles, it's the church like it's very strong community bonds.
- 5:34When we have really strong community bonds, what ends up happening is, um.
- 5:38And this is stuff that, um, Adam Lane Smith talks about attachment Adam, which I find really fascinating.
- 5:44But basically what happens is we create environments where the children, uh, are more securely attached.
- 5:49Because basically, if mom and dad are not able to give love for whatever reason, then there's like fail safes, right?
- 5:56There's redundancy, there's grandma, there's grandpa, there's an aunt, there's an uncle, there's cousins, there's neighbors, there's, there's, there's an actual community.
- 6:04And what's happened in the United States, uh, particularly and other parts of the west is that that's been like systematically destroyed over the last a hundred years or so, starting with industrialization when the men got taken outta the home, starting with everybody moving into city to cities and moving into these really tiny places.
- 6:22Uh, we had two world wars, right?
- 6:24World War I, we were losing men at alarming numbers.
- 6:28In World War I and then the ones that did come back, we just expect, we just expected them to just like function.
- 6:34Even though they just saw all their friends get killed.
- 6:36Of course they couldn't function.
- 6:38So women had to start stepping up because they couldn't necessarily, either the men were not there because they were literally out working or, uh, out of the home, uh, not in the home in some sort of a family or community structure anymore, or they had gotten killed at war.
- 6:54Or when they came back from war, they weren't functioning very well.
- 6:57So that's up to World War I.
- 6:59Then we get the Great Depression.
- 7:00Then we get World War ii.
- 7:02So by the time we get to the 1960s and seventies when feminism is really starting to, um, take off, women are just already, women are already exhausted.
- 7:11Right.
- 7:11They're just more exhausted now in this current day and age.
- 7:15But by the time we got to feminism, women were already tired.
- 7:18Right.
- 7:18It's basically what was going on.
- 7:20Um, because we've had generation after generation, after generation.
- 7:24Of these family and community bonds, which we need in order to raise healthy people and people who can bond in healthy ways has been destroyed because of a lot of, because of survival, because of a lot of things that were going on.
- 7:38In the world at the time, and it's alarming to the point where Adam, uh, lane Smith was talking about this.
- 7:45Um, I think, and this is particularly to the United States, two thirds of people in the United States right now are considered to have an ins, uh, some sort of insecure.
- 7:55Attachment style.
- 7:57So it's what I've been saying over and over and over again on this channel.
- 8:00The reason dating is such a mess right now in the Western world is because you have a bunch of unhealthy people trying to date each other, causing more chaos because it's just been generations of trauma that we're dealing with, um, at this point.
- 8:14So women, right, for lots of reasons that I just mentioned, have had to start stepping up for a hundred years, basically at this point in the United States, right?
- 8:25So what happens when women start stepping up?
- 8:27Well, as always, there's pros and cons to everything, right?
- 8:29Nothing's ever all good or all bad, right?
- 8:32So in the case of, in this case, women started learning how to make money.
- 8:35They knew how to take care of things.
- 8:36They already knew how to do that.
- 8:37They start applying that to their careers and they start making more money.
- 8:40The problem is now they're applying it to their relationships, and it literally does not work.
- 8:45Right.
- 8:46I know I went off on a little bit of a tangent, but it's really important to understand like how we got here and why there is so much confusion, right?
- 8:56Because the women who get pursued and chosen, like I said, they're playing on a different game and it's important to understand, um, you know, the matrix that people are dealing with when it comes to dating culture right now and why they're so.
- 9:11Much confusion and why it's so important to understand these pillars of divine feminine energy, because I promise you ladies, when you understand this, you're gonna stand out from all the basic women out here.
- 9:21You are going to stand out and the healthy men are going to be able to see you.
- 9:25And like I mentioned, part of what's going on right now is that you have unhealthy women and unhealthy men.
- 9:31And they keep dating each other.
- 9:32And then there's those of you in the middle who are just like confused and don't even know which way to go because you don't know what's healthy and what's not.
- 9:41You don't know what's healthy within you.
- 9:43Um, you haven't seen good examples because of all the stuff that I just mentioned in the United States in particular.
- 9:48You haven't even seen good examples.
- 9:50We haven't seen good examples of healthy relationship dynamics and family dynamics for decades in the United States, and that's part of what's causing, um, all this mess.
- 10:00So as a woman, if you start embodying these pillars, which again, thousands of years.
- 10:05This stuff has been around, then you're going to be able to A, become healthier yourself as a woman.
- 10:12But b, now the healthy men are going to start, um, seeing you and you're going to, you're gonna end up in an entirely different dating pool than what most people are dealing with, uh, in this particular mess.
- 10:24So pillar number one is receptivity.
- 10:28What is receptivity?
- 10:29It is your ability to receive without guilt or obligation.
- 10:33I gotta tell you all something.
- 10:35I was just talking to my husband about this the other day, uh, with private, I've seen this with private coaching clients.
- 10:40I've seen it in the YouTube comments.
- 10:42Problem number one that you all have is you feel so guilty when men are giving to you.
- 10:49But here's the thing, right?
- 10:51Healthy men are driven by three things, and I go deeper into those three things.
- 10:56In the Feminine Magnetism Mastery Program, which you can get for$27 below, one of those things is their ability to protect and provide.
- 11:06Why?
- 11:06Because that's how they got their status.
- 11:08It's still how they get their status, um, in the world today.
- 11:12And that basically ensured their survival.
- 11:14Otherwise they'd be like, Hey, you're kicked outta the tribe.
- 11:16Okay.
- 11:17Like, what usefulness do you have?
- 11:19Um, basically, so a man's survival and also status depended on his ability to provide, guess what Mend these days?
- 11:29They're still psychologically wired for it.
- 11:31And the healthy men still get their status from being able to provide, they feel good about themselves when they are able, uh, to provide.
- 11:41But what does that mean?
- 11:42They're not going to give to a woman who cannot actually receive it.
- 11:46They're going to give to women who know how to receive.
- 11:49And a lot of times I will tell women, Hey, you gotta start doing this.
- 11:52Experiment where you have to start receiving from the men all around you.
- 11:56And sometimes they'll be like, but what if I don't like him?
- 11:58And I'm like, it doesn't matter.
- 12:00This doesn't even need to be romantic.
- 12:02Uh, right before I met my husband, I was doing an experiment where I was receiving from the men all around me.
- 12:07It wasn't always romantic.
- 12:09A lot of times it was platonic.
- 12:10A lot of times it was a colleague just trying to solve a problem.
- 12:14Last week we were out, um, at a to a business meeting for my husband's business.
- 12:18We were checking out some real estate, uh, here in Mexico, and we were out with my neighbor and his girlfriend, and my neighbor picked the restaurant.
- 12:27And you know, he, I ordered something and he's like, oh, um, and then he ordered something for me right now, a lot of you would feel guilty.
- 12:35And that was that my husband who ordered for me?
- 12:37No, right.
- 12:38It was another man who ordered for me.
- 12:40Was it romantic?
- 12:41No, nothing romantic about it.
- 12:45He was just like, this is, uh, you ordered this.
- 12:48Hey, this goes really good with that.
- 12:50And then he just ordered it.
- 12:51From the waiter and I received it, and I allowed it to happen.
- 12:54Do you know what A lot of the women, uh, who end up in my programs would've done, they would've felt bad about it.
- 12:59They would've been like, oh, no, you don't have to do that.
- 13:01Uh, they would've been like, oh, but I don't know if I want that.
- 13:04Like they, there would've been so much like weirdness and guilt around it that they wouldn't just have let their neighbor.
- 13:09Right.
- 13:10Order something for them because the neighbor knew what to order in that particular restaurant.
- 13:15So it doesn't even have to be romantic, right?
- 13:18You just have to start learning how to receive in all the ways that men love to give.
- 13:24I oftentimes tell women, and if you take the feminine magnetism mastery.
- 13:27Uh, program, which again, you can grab below.
- 13:30I go through it really deeply on how you can actually practice a lot of this stuff with your fathers.
- 13:35You can practice it with your brothers, your male neighbors, your cousins little boys, and just start paying attention to how they, um, react when you receive and receive well, um, from.
- 13:50Men.
- 13:51Not everything is romantic ladies.
- 13:54That's number one when you're dealing with men.
- 13:57Um, and number two, if you can't receive from the men all around you, how on earth are you going to pull in a provider, protector husband, which is what you guys want?
- 14:09Well, you have to learn how to receive from the masculine period in order to receive from a masculine, um.
- 14:16Provider protect her husband, in which case, yes, it is romantic in that way, but all men provide, all men have forms of provision and protection.
- 14:26So start learning how to receive it from all men because it's not necessarily romantic.
- 14:31Okay.
- 14:32And then here's how you start embodying that, right?
- 14:34You wanna start saying thank you, I receive that.
- 14:37I appreciate that.
- 14:38Thank you so much for putting in that order for me.
- 14:40Uh, thank you so much for opening the door for me.
- 14:43Thank you so much for this gift.
- 14:44Thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you.
- 14:47And when you start feeling guilty, because a lot of you do, you start feeling guilty, then this is where we need to start doing exercises.
- 14:55On how to expand our capacity to receive, because oftentimes we feel guilty about receiving because we don't feel like we're worthy of receiving.
- 15:03So when I tell women to do that exercise that I've mentioned several times on this YouTube channel, we're building that muscle where a woman can receive more and more and more, and.
- 15:14Because that is the literal job of, um, the feminine, right?
- 16:20So that's how you wanna embody it.
- 16:21And here's how you wanna avoid it.
- 16:22You wanna avoid it by over-functioning.
- 16:25You wanna avoid it by splitting bills to be fair.
- 16:28Right.
- 16:29When it comes to romantic relationships, the way it's fair is not how you think it's fair.
- 16:34Okay?
- 16:35Uh, the way that we talk about fair in terms of division of labor and work is not what works in relationships.
- 16:41We're, we're talking about a different form of equality here.
- 16:45Um, and then also you wanna avoid trying to earn his effort.
- 16:51Now, why are we, is it a different form of equality?
- 16:53You might be asking?
- 16:54Well, because the masculine and the feminine is a very symbiotic.
- 16:58Uh, relationship, right?
- 16:59It's a dance, right?
- 17:00It's not like I'm equal and you're equal and we're doing the same dance.
- 17:04It's not that it's more like this.
- 17:06It's more like a figure eight.
- 17:07It's more like an infinity sign.
- 17:09The better you get at receiving, the more he's gonna wanna step up for you.
- 17:12The more he steps up for you, the safer you're going to feel.
- 17:15The safer you feel, again, the more he wants to start giving to you.
- 17:18And he starts stepping up, um, as well.
- 17:21But if you're looking at it as like, we're equal, or I feel bad, or I'm guilty, or I'm over functioning.
- 17:27It kills polarity.
- 17:28It kills attraction, especially with healthy men.
- 17:31Feminized men might like that.
- 17:33They might be, you know, arguing about splitting the bill.
- 17:36They might be like, what can you do for me?
- 17:38A meth, healthy masculine man is not going to ask you what you can do for him because he gets his status and he gets his, uh, feeling good about himself.
- 17:48By providing, which is a sign of a healthy male.
- 17:51Okay?
- 17:52Pillar number two is radiance.
- 17:54So what is it?
- 17:55It's your inner glow that makes you totally unforgettable.
- 17:59So here's why it works.
- 18:00Men are magnetized by energy.
- 18:02That feels good to be around.
- 18:06So the, have you noticed how like there's some women, uh, like my husband's obsessed with me, right?
- 18:10He was saying that the other day.
- 18:12He's like, I'm so obsessed with you.
- 18:13Like, what did you do to me?
- 18:14Um, this, this is what I did to him, these five things, right?
- 18:18But, um, another example of.
- 18:21Uh, a man who's obsessed with his wife, uh, Gomez Adams right.
- 18:25And Moria Adams from the Adams family.
- 18:27Gomez is ob obsessed by Moria.
- 18:31Tia's not going around, over functioning moria iss, not going around doing the most, mortician's, not going around, trying to be liked.
- 18:37Right?
- 18:38Mortician's, just moria and Moria.
- 18:40Tia's very magnetic right.
- 18:42And Moria does what makes her happy.
- 18:44If it's in her conservatory or the creepy things.
- 18:47That she likes to do, or being a mother, or being a wife, or we were watching the sixties, uh, original one the other day.
- 18:54She's there like knitting.
- 18:55You know, she just, morticia just does whatever, um, makes her happy.
- 18:59And Gomez is totally obsessed with her because Moria is magnetic, right?
- 19:05So here's how you embody it.
- 19:06You wanna do the stuff that lights you up.
- 19:08You wanna prioritize joy for you, not for everybody else.
- 19:13For you, and I've done plenty of other videos on that.
- 19:16And again, I go deeper in feminine magnetism mastery.
- 19:20And the thing is that Radiance is not just about looks right.
- 19:23If you're just focused on looks.
- 19:25You're a level one woman, okay?
- 19:27You're level one.
- 19:27I don't have a better name for it right now, so if you're offended, sorry, not sorry, but it gets the point across.
- 19:33You are a level one woman.
- 19:35If you are just focused on looks, this is an internal game, not necessarily an external game.
- 19:41Pillar three is appreciation.
- 19:43Oh my God, if all women did this.
- 19:46We would be living in a much different world.
- 19:48Right?
- 19:48So what is appreciation, noticing and affirming the man, not just what he does or the result that he gets for you.
- 19:58Here's why it works.
- 19:59Men stay when they feel seen, successful and appreciated.
- 20:04Okay.
- 20:05Now, how do you embody this?
- 20:07You say, I love how intentional you are.
- 20:09I love that you planned the date, you're doing such a good job.
- 20:12Stuff like that.
- 20:13Like men like to feel appreciated for their efforts, um, because, um, it's not always easy to be a man, okay?
- 20:21They're the ones who gotta go out and work.
- 20:23They're the ones who gotta go out and hunt, especially healthy, masculine men who are providing and protecting.
- 20:27You think that's easy?
- 20:29Right.
- 20:29Um, I was looking, when my husband and I just moved into this place and he was like fixing stuff up and putting up solar panels and making sure everything is safe from the security cameras and dealing with the contractors and all.
- 20:40It's hard.
- 20:41It's hard freaking work.
- 20:42Right?
- 20:43And then on top of that, he's running businesses and managing money and all that kind of stuff.
- 20:46Like it's hard sometimes.
- 20:49And what happens is that.
- 20:50Most women don't appreciate men for their efforts.
- 20:55And I'll give you another example.
- 20:57Some of you get upset when the man doesn't take you to the restaurant that you wanted him to take you to.
- 21:02So then you start controlling the situation rather than just appreciating him.
- 21:07For having chosen the restaurant and planned everything to begin with because it was not done perfectly up to what you would consider to be perfect, then you do not appreciate him.
- 21:16You focus on the end result, not the actual effort.
- 21:20And then you're like, oh, but he didn't do the thing I wanted him to do.
- 21:22Well, he will.
- 21:23When you learn how to appreciate him, then he's going to do better next time.
- 21:27Um, when you learn how to appreciate men, it's like they just start upleveling, upleveling, upleveling, upleveling.
- 21:33And again, it's that symbiotic.
- 21:35Uh, um, uh, relationship.
- 21:37And I would venture to say that appreciation is even a form of receiving and he's gonna wanna do better the more that you appreciate him, because men are not really getting appreciation from anywhere, uh, these days.
- 21:50So this will really make you stand out as a woman.
- 21:53Pillar four, playfulness, right?
- 21:55It's lightness, it's fun, it's unfiltered, feminine joy.
- 21:58Why does this work?
- 21:59Because men are drawn to the woman who makes him feel.
- 22:03Alive.
- 22:03How do you embody this?
- 22:05You flirt, you tease, you dance.
- 22:06You let your playful inner girl, um, come out, right?
- 22:10And again, those of you who are very stuck in your head energy, it's very difficult.
- 22:14To get into that playful, uh, mood, right?
- 22:17So you wanna learn how to balance it, because playful doesn't mean immature.
- 22:22It doesn't mean you start acting like a child.
- 22:24It just means that you are magnetic and you find joy in all the things around you.
- 22:29Uh, one thing that my husband finds very endearing about me, I could find joy or amusement in the tiniest little things, period.
- 22:39Pillar five, right?
- 22:40And this one gets confusing for people is mystery.
- 22:43So what is mystery?
- 22:44It means keeping parts of yourself sacred and revealed over time.
- 22:49A lot of y'all talk too damn much and you reveal too much too soon, and then the man has nothing to hold onto in terms of mystery because mystery.
- 23:00Feels masculine pursuit and that curiosity of like, Ooh, I wonder what she's up to.
- 23:05Ooh, I wonder what, what she's doing.
- 23:07Oh, I saw this other side of her.
- 23:09Oh, she's not.
- 23:09That's what keeps him engaged.
- 23:12So again, it's almost like, it's almost the same as being too available.
- 23:16Like when you're, when when you're too available, there's no mystery, and a man needs mystery in order to engage the pursuit and stay engaged.
- 23:25How do you embody this?
- 23:26Don't overshare.
- 23:27On a first date, you wanna let him discover you?
- 23:30One of my clients recently said that her grandma said this, and I was like, I, I totally get what your grandma was trying to say.
- 23:36And it was about mystery.
- 23:38Her grandmother told her once, oh honey, um, you know, you gotta save your secrets for after you're married, right?
- 23:44Where her grandmother was trying to say is like, don't talk so damn much.
- 23:47Don't give so much away so soon.
- 23:49Let there be a mystery, let there be a gap.
- 23:52Don't be so available because that is what helps men, um, fall in love.
- 23:56So you want to avoid trauma dumping over explaining, or always being available, like I said.
- 24:02So when you combine all of these things together, that's when you can stop chasing men and you can start receiving because you're gonna have them eating out of the palm of your hand when you learn how to do.
- 24:13These five things, they're going to become obsessed with you.
- 24:16Those of you who are married, right?
- 24:18Start doing these five things and you're, you're gonna be begging for a night off.
- 24:22If you start learning how to do these five things to the married ones, right, and you wanna stop when you do this right?
- 24:28You move from trying to prove yourself to attracting, and it attracts very healthy masculine men.
- 24:35That's what these five pillars do, because I've seen women go from getting ghosted to getting engaged just from embodying these shifts.
- 24:43I went.
- 24:44From getting ghosted to getting engaged, um, by embodying these shifts.
- 24:48And it's not magic, right?
- 24:49Actually, there's a lot of science and biology behind this as well that I don't have time to get into.
- 24:54There's a lot of psychology behind it that I don't have time to get into either.
- 24:58If this resonated with you hit the like button, drop a comment below with the pillar that you're most excited to activate.
- 25:04'cause let me tell you something really interesting and I go really deep into it, in that feminine magnetism mastery, the cool thing about this is if you just work on one of these, it's gonna help all the others as well.
- 25:16So part of what we do in that Feminine Magnetism Mastery program is you're gonna do an assessment on where you are on each of these five pillars.
- 25:23So you can start.
- 25:24Strengthening the one that's like weakest to put it that way, but it benefits all the others.
- 25:30So if you work on one, you start improving all the others as well.
- 25:33And I go deeper into how that works in feminine magnetism mastery, which you can get below for$27.
- 25:41Hit the like button, drop a comment, let me know which one you're going to be using.
- 25:45Subscribe and hit the bell so that you never miss a video that we have coming out on this channel.
- 25:51Um, and I'm going to tell you what I tell all my students and all my coaching clients, which is.
- 25:57You are already this, right?
- 25:59This is not meant to be an overwhelming thing.
- 26:01You were born with this.
- 26:03It's just a matter of uncovering all this stuff that got in the way of it.
- 26:07So if you're looking at this and you're being like, oh my God, how am I supposed to do that?
- 26:12You were born with it.
- 26:13It's just remembering how to do it.
- 26:16Thank you so much for giving me your time today, and I'll catch you on the next one.