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Here Are 6 Words That Narcissists Absolutely HATE · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  So what are some words that narcissist hate?
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  When I say hate, I'm talking about a raw, seething hatred
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  ladle. Words narcissist loathe.
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  They cannot stand to hear. They can't.
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  They don't even they don't. They hate the fact that these
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  words even exist in the dictionary.
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  That's what we're talking about today.
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  Y'all words narcissist hate. If you're new here, my name is
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  Lee Hammock. I'm a diagnosed narcissist and I
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  give you an inside look at the mind of a toxic narcissistic
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  person and we're going to hop right into it today.
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  Y'all words narcissist hate. I wrote these words down and
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  today's Mike holder is a fork holding with a fork.
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  I get easily attached to my shirt.
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  Y'all by like holding. It just makes me feel like I'm
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  doing an interview. But yes, the very first word
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  that I'm, I'm gonna say this is probably the number one word
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  that narcissists hate right here.
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  The number one word that narcissists hate.
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  I'm gonna like what? What?
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  What do you think? I want you to, I want you right
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  here to take 5 seconds. Write it in the comment section
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  right now. What you think the number one
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  word that narcissists hate is? Go.
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  You ready? OK, no, you know, now
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  narcissists hate all of these words.
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  Them they're equally right one A1B1C1D1E whatever right?
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  But the word no, narcissist cannot this word right here is
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  what you want to you want to set a narcissist off.
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  You want to see who they really are in the beginning of the
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  relationship, use the word no. I promise you, most times
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  narcissistic people will reveal their true selves and who they
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  actually are and what they're actually after.
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  Once they use the word no, I promise you, once you, once you
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  use the word no, once the word no is introduced into your
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  relationship, I promise you they will find they will find a way
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  right here to show, to reveal the the mask will come off.
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  If they if they've been wearing a mask, it will come off all
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  right. It absolutely will.
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  Just because how narcissistic people work, we can't hold it
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  in. We hate hearing the word no.
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  No makes us feel like you're in control.
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  Somebody telling us the word no makes us feel like we have no
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  power. We have no control over this
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  situation that we're currently in.
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  So use the word no, use it effectively, use it efficiently.
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  And I promise you the narcissistic person or people in
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  your life will reveal themselves.
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  I promise you this one of the words that narcissist cannot
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  stand. You want to make a narcissist
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  change colors like a chameleon right in front of you.
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  Say no to them. Make them feel rejected.
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  Because no. The word no introduces so much
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  shame in rejection into a narcissist's life.
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  It just cannot handle it. It's like over.
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  It's like an overload. You overload them with shame
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  when you use the word no. You overload them with the fact
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  that they really are not in control of the situation.
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  You are. So use the word no and use it
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  effectively. The next word is the room.
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  Boundaries. Boy BB is not for boy.
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  B is for boundaries. Seriously, it's like the
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  narcissistic alphabet. Huh.
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  That'd be a good video, wouldn't it?
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  If I can find a letter for each. If I can find a letter, y'all
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  see if I would come up with video ideas what I'm talking to?
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  Y'all, if I can find a letter for each word of word for each
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  letter, I'll do it. I'll do the narcissistic
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  alphabet. But B is for boundaries because
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  narcissists absolutely cannot stand the word boundaries.
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  Yeah. If you set boundaries early on,
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  you'll see them again. It's just like saying the word
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  no. If you set boundaries early on,
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  you'll see who the narcissistic people are.
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  You'll see who the people are. They cannot stand boundaries who
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  don't respect your boundaries. You will see that.
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  Yeah, boundaries are much more difficult to set later on in the
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  relationship. I'm not saying that you can't
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  you can't set them. I'm not saying that.
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  I'm just saying, well, you got to set a boundary.
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  Later on in a relationship, it becomes a lot more difficult
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  because that person is already they, this person already thinks
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  that they have the how the works of the relationship is going to
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  work. They already think they have it
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  figured out. So they don't think you have any
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  kind of power or control in this situation, Right.
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  So boundaries are where the narcissist Hey, if you say
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  respect my boundaries, boy, you might see a narcissist turn into
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  a damn hobgoblin right in front of your face.
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  If you use the word boundaries in front of them because they
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  cannot stand it because you. Boundaries mean that you are in
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  charge. Boundaries mean that you are
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  empowered in this situation. That's what boundaries mean.
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  So boundaries, boundaries, boundaries.
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  The B word that narcissists hate is boundaries, right?
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  The next word that narcissists hate a lot of narcissists hate
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  is therapy. Yeah, I was trying to guess the
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  words. Guess them therapy.
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  How many words I got left 1233 more words after this.
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  So it's what 6 words even number Therapy bring it up.
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  The word therapy in a relationship with a narcissist
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  can a lot of times reveal their true character again.
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  You will see how they truly feel right because a lot a lot of
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  narcissists don't believe in therapy.
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  They'll just tell you straight up, I don't believe in therapy,
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  or they've tried therapy before and it didn't work, or they
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  think therapy is for stupid people, or they, they think you
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  should go to therapy, right? That's how they justify a lot of
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  their actions and behaviors. They think that you should go to
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  therapy. If you bring up the word
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  therapy, they will take it as an insult because therapy means
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  it's into a narcissist. Therapy means that something is
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  wrong. And narcissistic people don't
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  like to acknowledge things that are wrong with us, right?
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  So if you tell us we need to go to therapy, that's you telling
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  us that we are imperfect people, that something is wrong with us,
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  that we need to be fixed. You see, you see how that just
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  works right there? You telling us that therapy, we
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  need therapy. This means that we need to be
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  fixed or worked on or something like that.
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  And it's just that that just doesn't float with most
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  narcissists, right? It just doesn't fly with most
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  narcissistic people because that's the the workings of a
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  mind of a narcissist, right? We just don't like being told
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  that we need to go to therapy or just introducing therapy.
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  Can we go to therapy together? Can we do couples therapy?
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  You see what I'm saying? Therapy is just one of those no,
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  no words. We are dealing with a
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  manipulator or just a toxic, abusive narcissistic person.
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  The word therapy, you bring up therapy, you typically you will
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  see the real version of them and you see how they really feel
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  about therapy, but also therapy. This is one of those words that
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  narcissists hate until they get to get a chance to use it
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  against you, right? They'll hate therapy until they
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  can get an opportunity, get an opportunity to bring up therapy
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  telling you that you need to go to therapy, right?
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  Until they can, they can unless they can throw it against you,
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  right? They'll they'll hate the word
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  therapy unless they can use it against you.
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  The next word, the next word I have now is the word narcissist.
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  Just literally, literally, I wrote, I wrote down the word
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  narcissist because narcissists hate the word narcissist.
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  They hate being called narcissist.
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  They hate the, they they hate the fact that the word
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  narcissist exists. They hate that it's a buzzword.
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  They hate that it's a personality disorder.
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  They hate that it's an insult. They hate that it's a label.
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  They hate everything about the word narcissist.
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  They hate how many letters the word narcissist has.
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  How many letters you got? 9, They hate this.
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  Nine. Yeah, 9 letters.
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  They hate this. Well, this is 9.
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  Yeah, it's nine. That was 10 456789 It's 1010
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  letters. 10 letters. I'm sorry and get my glasses.
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  weeks. So you also hit that subscribe
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  So we subscribe to channel for my birthday gift.
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  But yes they hate the word narcissist unless they can use
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  it against you right? If you introduce the word
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  narcissist to them they a lot of times they will throw it back at
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  you. You're the narcissist and let me
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  tell you why you don't respect my boundaries.
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  You don't you need to go to therapy.
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  No, I don't want to be with you anymore.
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  You say they'll use all the words that they hate against you
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  in succession. Sometimes they'll make they'll
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  make, they'll use the words that they hate in a complete sentence
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  to insult you. So when you bring up therapy to
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  a narcissist, that's why or the word you call them a narcissist.
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  You just open up their world to it, right?
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  You open up the world to north. You open up their eyes to it.
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  And it doesn't mean that they're, it doesn't mean that
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  they're going to get better. It just means that they're going
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  to start using it against you. Sometimes it just means that
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  they're, they're going to weaponize it against you and try
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  to find a way to hurt your feelings with it.
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  So that's something that you could seriously, seriously
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  consider right there. Narcissistic people, toxic
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  people are going to weaponize it against you.
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  The next word, gaslighting. I got one more word after this.
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  Y'all gaslighting narcissist, Y'all narcissists hate the word
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  gaslighting. And if I said some of these
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  words you should absolutely use against your narcissist to use
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  when you're dealing with a narcissist, you, you should
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  definitely use the word no, you should definitely use the word
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  boundaries and set boundaries. But when you start using the
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  word therapy narcissist or gaslighting those words that
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  they, they can use against you, right?
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  I know you want to try to help the person that you're with or
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  their parent or whoever it is. I understand that right.
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  But you got to be very careful with the words that you
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  introduce to them because once you introduce the word
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  gaslighting to them and you tell them, stop gaslighting me,
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  you're gaslighting me. Gaslighting, gaslighting,
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  gaslighting, you get you leaking gas, you get you're gaslighting
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  so much, you're leaking gas. You see, when it gets into that
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  type of situation right there, they started using and
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  weaponized it against you. It's very difficult to make to
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  make things happen, right? So that's why I say you have to
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  be very careful with the words that you're using with this
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  narcissistic person because they will absolutely positively use
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  it against you. That's how the mind, that's how
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  the minds of narcissist work. They will absolutely weaponize
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  that type of stuff against you, hurt your feelings and just drop
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  try to drive you crazy with it. That's how it goes.
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  That really is. So if you're dealing with a
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  narcissist, just I know they're dead.
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  They are gaslighting you and you want to tell them what you want
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  to tell them that you know that you're gaslighting there.
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  But once you introduce it to them, they don't know what it
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  means. They look it up and they they
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  try to come back to you. You're gaslighting me by using
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  the word gaslighting. You're gaslighting me by telling
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  me I'm gaslighting you. You're a gaslighter.
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  I've been gaslighting gaslighting shirts.
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  Their nicknames, their nickname for you is going to be
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  gaslighter Gas lit. I've been gas lit so they hate
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  the word gaslighting until they can use it against you.
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  The last word right here, y'all is actually 2 words too.
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  It's a term. It's a phrase, right?
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  I was going to use synthesis here.
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  I was like synthesis though, makes it so I can use synthesis
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  or phrases, but then I can do a whole nother video about that.
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  It was just singular words, but then I couldn't, I couldn't
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  escape this word right here. The word, the singular word
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  right here is abuse, right? They hate the word abuse, but I
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  wrote down emotional abuse because most narcissists don't
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  believe that emotional abuse is abuse.
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  They think that physically, that they think that the only thing
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  that they can do to you is physically abuse you.
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  They don't believe in emotional abuse, verbal abuse, anything
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  outside of putting their hands on you.
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  They don't think that it's this abuse.
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  So you're dealing with the narcissist or tax person.
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  You say you're you been emotionally abusive.
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  They might look at you and laugh or look at you and think you're
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  stupid, right, Because they they don't believe in emotional
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  abuse. They just think emotional abuse
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  is some made-up term that people have used to try to self
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  victimize themselves nowadays, which happens.
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  They will to absolutely just say emotional abuse doesn't exist.
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  But at least at least I didn't hit you.
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  Ain't no ain't nobody ain't nobody emotionally abusing you.
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  You're emotionally abusing me. Emotional abuser.
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  What you talking about? All I did was yell at you.
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  All I did was just up and down dude.
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  All I did was trauma bond you to me.
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  I ain't emotional abuse. I there's narcissistic abuse
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  doesn't exist you. Sometimes they hate the word
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  abuse but especially emotional abuse because they don't believe
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  in the only thing that it exists.
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  You mean what words did I miss? Y'all, if you think I missed any
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  words or you could add to the list, drop it in the comment
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