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Would You Date A Man Like This? | Entrepreneur Edition w/ Mike Moss · Social Proof Podcast

• 0:00
  [SPEAKER_02]: Everybody talks about entrepreneurship, everybody wants to win.
• 0:03
  [SPEAKER_02]: We want the money and we want the success.
• 0:05
  [SPEAKER_02]: We talk about the strategy and how to get to the bag.
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  [SPEAKER_02]: But nobody talks about one of the biggest challenges entrepreneurs face in it is what?
• 0:14
  [SPEAKER_02]: Do you do about the relationship side of your life?
• 0:17
  [SPEAKER_02]: Finding the right person.
• 0:19
  [SPEAKER_02]: I mean, what got to be honest?
• 0:20
  [SPEAKER_02]: you see some I don't Instagram at an event or speaking of a stage and you have no idea if they're actually singular or not but you know they're a successful entrepreneur there on the grind so we are solving a problem welcome to the exit interview listen Donnie and I are going to be interviewing
• 0:38
  [SPEAKER_02]: all the entrepreneurs that you want to know if they're ready to not.
• 0:42
  [SPEAKER_02]: I mean every week we're introducing someone from Atlanta starting off for eligible entrepreneurs or in eligible entrepreneurs, you never know.
• 0:49
  [SPEAKER_02]: But Doddy's going to interview the women I'm interviewing the men and we're asking the questions that actually matter.
• 0:54
  [SPEAKER_02]: So the questions you're normally probably wouldn't find out months or years later until it's too late.
• 1:00
  [SPEAKER_02]: So what I want to know how they think about money, what their financial status is, what you
• 1:06
  [SPEAKER_02]: What do you want out of life?
• 1:07
  [SPEAKER_02]: What's the deal of breakers?
• 1:08
  [SPEAKER_02]: What are you really looking for?
• 1:09
  [SPEAKER_02]: Then you get the decide.
• 1:13
  [SPEAKER_02]: Is this somebody you could actually see yourself with?
• 1:16
  [SPEAKER_02]: You know, I'm just going to let you know that this single and how you take it from there is how you take it from there.
• 1:20
  [SPEAKER_02]: Our goal is very, very simple.
• 1:22
  [SPEAKER_02]: We entrepreneurs find meaningful relationships and maybe even get a few people married along the way.
• 1:27
  [SPEAKER_02]: I'm trying to help you find your person.
• 1:29
  [SPEAKER_02]: So this is the first episode of this and I believe it's going to be powerful Because your future husband wife or business power couple partner might be one episode away Okay, welcome to the exit of you She said I'm done with you.
• 1:46
  [SPEAKER_03]: I don't know shit.
• 1:46
  [SPEAKER_03]: I'm done with you shit.
• 1:47
  [SPEAKER_03]: I'm done with this.
• 1:48
  [SPEAKER_03]: I just don't you don't you did you cheat?
• 1:50
  [SPEAKER_03]: I didn't cheat Wait a minute.
• 1:55
  [SPEAKER_02]: I don't the way you answered it
• 1:57
  [SPEAKER_04]: I'm never looking for somebody more valuable than you.
• 1:59
  [SPEAKER_04]: But I'm looking for somebody to release whatever toxicity, frustration, whatever, even if it's sexual.
• 2:06
  [SPEAKER_04]: That's crazy.
• 2:07
  [SPEAKER_04]: As long as you know it's wrong.
• 2:08
  [SPEAKER_04]: Not only do I know it's wrong, I'm ashamed of it.
• 2:10
  [SPEAKER_02]: Good heart, pretty.
• 2:11
  [SPEAKER_02]: Got the weight that you're looking for, but can't dress.
• 2:14
  [SPEAKER_03]: The only reason you have a roster is because you have a availability.
• 2:17
  [SPEAKER_04]: I didn't lose my virginity because I just had a weak moment.
• 2:19
  [SPEAKER_04]: I lost it because my mom told me it was special, but everybody around me was having sex.
• 2:23
  [SPEAKER_04]: You hear all the things K-sets?
• 2:24
  [SPEAKER_04]: K is not agree with anything you said, and I love the fact that she's true to herself in that way.
• 2:29
  [SPEAKER_03]: Uh, when me out deserve to love that you won't, please don't settle for nothing that you know is not for you.
• 2:34
  [SPEAKER_03]: Mike Moss!
• 2:34
  [SPEAKER_03]: My man.
• 2:35
  [SPEAKER_02]: You're single, yes?
• 2:37
  [SPEAKER_02]: Yes.
• 2:38
  [SPEAKER_02]: You live in Atlanta?
• 2:39
  [SPEAKER_03]: I just moved to Atlanta.
• 2:41
  [SPEAKER_02]: So welcome to Atlanta.
• 2:42
  [SPEAKER_03]: Thank you, bro.
• 2:43
  [SPEAKER_02]: So at podcasts, we are going to have a conversation station much like this.
• 2:47
  [SPEAKER_02]: OK.
• 2:49
  [SPEAKER_02]: I want to have conversations around finding the right partner.
• 2:53
  [SPEAKER_02]: Because I was, and first I was like, man, there's enough relationship based podcasts, however, what I want to do differently,
• 3:02
  [SPEAKER_02]: is one coming from an entrepreneurial angle, because there's a lot of women that say, I will not date a simply nine to five, meaning like just nine to five.
• 3:12
  [SPEAKER_02]: You have a job, you might be building something.
• 3:14
  [SPEAKER_03]: Got you.
• 3:15
  [SPEAKER_02]: And I'm like, man, I know people who are available, single, ready to mingle.
• 3:20
  [SPEAKER_02]: And I want this to be maybe a place where you can find that person.
• 3:24
  [SPEAKER_02]: Okay, so, what do you think about that?
• 3:27
  [SPEAKER_03]: I actually really like it, but is this the kickoff to that?
• 3:30
  [SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, you're the first ever.
• 3:31
  [SPEAKER_03]: I don't want to be the face of the managed.
• 3:32
  [SPEAKER_03]: I thought about it today.
• 3:34
  [SPEAKER_03]: Okay, that's what I called you.
• 3:37
  [SPEAKER_03]: Because I always think about ways to promote parking.
• 3:38
  [SPEAKER_03]: That's true.
• 3:39
  [SPEAKER_02]: You'll come to park at some true truth.
• 3:40
  [SPEAKER_02]: And I'm like Mike Moss is the host.
• 3:42
  [SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
• 3:43
  [SPEAKER_02]: And you know, some ladies might body tick.
• 3:45
  [SPEAKER_03]: It's like, whoa, let me just get in the building.
• 3:47
  [SPEAKER_03]: Hey, we're listening.
• 3:47
  [SPEAKER_03]: I'm using you.
• 3:48
  [SPEAKER_03]: If you love God and you and you ready to change your life, whether before relationship or be for your purpose, hey, you come to the right spot.
• 3:55
  [SPEAKER_03]: So.
• 3:56
  [SPEAKER_03]: That's just a shame, just plug anyway.
• 3:58
  [SPEAKER_03]: Okay, okay, so how are you been in Atlanta?
• 4:01
  [SPEAKER_04]: So I've been in Atlanta officially, let's say six weeks, I came last year, but I was still coming back to the 4th of Chicago.
• 4:06
  [SPEAKER_03]: Okay, what part of the city?
• 4:08
  [SPEAKER_03]: So I'm in Vinings now.
• 4:09
  [SPEAKER_03]: Why so?
• 4:10
  [SPEAKER_04]: I'm not too familiar with everything around it, but Smurna, Marietta, type area.
• 4:13
  [SPEAKER_03]: Okay.
• 4:14
  [SPEAKER_02]: You got a car?
• 4:15
  [SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, got a flat, come over here, yeah.
• 4:17
  [SPEAKER_03]: Got a flat, come over here, okay.
• 4:18
  [SPEAKER_02]: I just have an all-important questions.
• 4:19
  [SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.
• 4:20
  [SPEAKER_02]: All right.
• 4:24
  [SPEAKER_02]: Let's just, let's jump in this, okay?
• 4:26
  [SPEAKER_02]: When it comes to your balance between business, entrepreneurship, whatever your goals or dreams are and managing your relationship, how do you manage the dynamic?
• 4:35
  [SPEAKER_04]: So I haven't had to do that in a very long time.
• 4:37
  [SPEAKER_04]: I think my last relationship during COVID once I transition from that, I really start going completely on everything into business.
• 4:44
  [SPEAKER_04]: So I think since then, I've kind of dated with the understanding that hey, I don't have the same type of time as a normal individual would, but I have intentional time.
• 4:53
  [SPEAKER_04]: So if you're okay with quality time, as you say,
• 4:57
  [SPEAKER_04]: then you can give a little bit on the quantity.
• 4:59
  [SPEAKER_04]: And so that's how I kind of make that work.
• 5:02
  [SPEAKER_04]: I'm a travel for a living and so it kind of gets sticky for a lot of people.
• 5:05
  [SPEAKER_04]: It's like, oh, I want my person there with me.
• 5:07
  [SPEAKER_04]: It's like, do you want your person there with you or do you want somebody who's actually building something to where you don't have to keep doing the thing that you don't like don't as much.
• 5:13
  [SPEAKER_04]: So it depends on what what you care about.
• 5:15
  [SPEAKER_04]: So I like to get people to options.
• 5:16
  [SPEAKER_04]: But this is something I'm committed to.
• 5:18
  [SPEAKER_02]: So yeah, I mean, I'm so this is your first season of full-time business in being open to it.
• 5:27
  [SPEAKER_02]: Ooh, you're not gonna know how to balance it.
• 5:29
  [SPEAKER_02]: But as you said, I spent intentional time.
• 5:31
  [SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
• 5:31
  [SPEAKER_02]: You don't really know, yeah.
• 5:34
  [SPEAKER_04]: So what I do is I, it's like a calendar, right?
• 5:37
  [SPEAKER_04]: Once that's on my calendar for something that we're doing intentionally, I'm not available anymore.
• 5:40
  [SPEAKER_04]: Hey, Mike, I would like you to host this event and like to do it.
• 5:42
  [SPEAKER_04]: If it's something I see value in, I'm actually not available to do business on that time.
• 5:46
  [SPEAKER_04]: even if it's something that I would not naturally be excited about, if that's somebody that I'm giving my attention of time to, they actually, their words to me, cutting off that part of my life for.
• 5:55
  [SPEAKER_04]: So, got it.
• 5:56
  [SPEAKER_04]: So you are a host?
• 5:57
  [SPEAKER_04]: I'm definitely a host speaker as well or a host.
• 6:00
  [SPEAKER_04]: I mean, yeah, I'm a speaker too, but I'm the host people that know they need it.
• 6:03
  [SPEAKER_04]: This is how I do it.
• 6:04
  [SPEAKER_04]: And a lot of people just don't know the value of a host.
• 6:06
  [SPEAKER_04]: And so for me, it has nothing to do to say, I'm the best host.
• 6:09
  [SPEAKER_04]: I believe I am.
• 6:10
  [SPEAKER_04]: But it has nothing to do with that arrogance or that confidence of it.
• 6:14
  [SPEAKER_04]: I'm not entitled, I just believe that a lot of people think that them struggling to do a show because it's going well, that it wouldn't add value for them to have the peace to only worry about the thing that they care about doing while somebody else cares about your actual vision, not being saying, but your actual vision and carrying that through.
• 6:30
  [SPEAKER_04]: And I think that by that it'll boost me personally, but I care about the vision.
• 6:35
  [SPEAKER_02]: All right, let's get into it.
• 6:36
  [SPEAKER_03]: So why didn't your last relationship work out?
• 6:40
  [SPEAKER_03]: There was a COVID relationship.
• 6:42
  [SPEAKER_04]: And she lived in Burmuda.
• 6:44
  [SPEAKER_04]: A lot of people thought that that might have been a little crazy, but working for the airlines, I was able to travel all the time.
• 6:49
  [SPEAKER_04]: That's what I mean.
• 6:50
  [SPEAKER_04]: We met a college.
• 6:51
  [SPEAKER_04]: So we met a college back in 2003.
• 6:57
  [SPEAKER_04]: she was a year ahead of me and she always had a relationship.
• 6:59
  [SPEAKER_04]: So she was very close with my first cousin so I knew her from being roommates and so she was just she was just a good friend.
• 7:05
  [SPEAKER_04]: I'm a solid qualities in her but she was always unavailable and she ended up being married and then it uh that dissipated and once I found out she was single I was like you know that's crazy I've always thought she was dope so
• 7:19
  [SPEAKER_04]: We're going to get about a year and a half, so March 2020, it's about seven years old.
• 7:25
  [SPEAKER_04]: So first COVID, when I say COVID relationship, I mean, and I mean, the airlines, I went from I could still travel while I'm working, but if I'm not actually working, I can't travel under the fact that I'm a, what's it called, a essential worker.
• 7:41
  [SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, also, because I have pre-marital relations.
• 7:45
  [SPEAKER_04]: That's good.
• 7:45
  [SPEAKER_04]: Yeah.
• 7:45
  [SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no
• 8:12
  [SPEAKER_03]: She in the relationship.
• 8:13
  [SPEAKER_03]: We in the relationship.
• 8:16
  [SPEAKER_04]: It's okay, let's talk about it and then let you tell me because you go back and forth.
• 8:21
  [SPEAKER_04]: You have issues at the end.
• 8:22
  [SPEAKER_04]: Oh, I don't want to do this no more.
• 8:24
  [SPEAKER_04]: Okay, you sit with it.
• 8:25
  [SPEAKER_04]: Okay, I actually want to give it a try.
• 8:27
  [SPEAKER_04]: We try to do it again.
• 8:28
  [SPEAKER_04]: Then the other person goes to the know what we try is not working.
• 8:30
  [SPEAKER_03]: This is the last one who said I'm done.
• 8:33
  [SPEAKER_03]: Okay, well then she did.
• 8:37
  [SPEAKER_03]: She said I'm done with you.
• 8:39
  [SPEAKER_03]: I don't know shit, I'm done with you shit, I'm done with this.
• 8:41
  [SPEAKER_03]: That's just don't chew that.
• 8:42
  [SPEAKER_02]: Why would she don't want you back?
• 8:44
  [SPEAKER_03]: She was done with me because I think that the stuff that came with the relationship just got a little bit too much.
• 8:50
  [SPEAKER_03]: What stuff?
• 8:56
  [SPEAKER_03]: It's crazy.
• 8:57
  [SPEAKER_03]: I just feel I just I don't feel I don't like you want me to find a wife I feel like I'm just trying to see.
• 9:04
  [SPEAKER_02]: Can we be on a blind like I want to talk about me?
• 9:07
  [SPEAKER_04]: How do I protect people that I know don't want to sit on this high sea like she doesn't sign up to sit on a high sea?
• 9:11
  [SPEAKER_02]: Right.
• 9:12
  [SPEAKER_02]: I'm asking you what part of you was she done with, right?
• 9:16
  [SPEAKER_03]: She was done with the part of me
• 9:24
  [SPEAKER_04]: This was a mistake, y'all.
• 9:26
  [SPEAKER_04]: This was a mistake, y'all, y'all, y'all, I still want y'all to come to the podcast summit, but I feel, I feel befuddled right now.
• 9:33
  [SPEAKER_04]: Why is this such a difficult question?
• 9:36
  [SPEAKER_04]: Because if it's represented me, if it's just me, I can answer tough questions.
• 9:40
  [SPEAKER_04]: But when I think about airing someone else attached to me, who is very priceless.
• 9:46
  [SPEAKER_04]: You'd be surprised how a real podcast reaches David.
• 9:48
  [SPEAKER_04]: You'd be surprised.
• 9:50
  [SPEAKER_02]: Cool.
• 9:51
  [SPEAKER_02]: All right, bro.
• 9:52
  [SPEAKER_02]: Okay, just tell me one of the things that you do she didn't like That made her say, all right, I'm done.
• 10:03
  [SPEAKER_03]: I think I pulled back.
• 10:04
  [SPEAKER_02]: Did you cheat?
• 10:06
  [SPEAKER_03]: I didn't cheat Wait a minute.
• 10:10
  [SPEAKER_03]: I don't the way you answered it Mike because it's because this was a problem of arguing, so
• 10:22
  [SPEAKER_02]: Ask me if I've ever cheated on my wife.
• 10:24
  [SPEAKER_04]: Nope.
• 10:25
  [SPEAKER_03]: Ask me.
• 10:26
  [SPEAKER_03]: No, ask me.
• 10:27
  [SPEAKER_03]: Just ask me.
• 10:27
  [SPEAKER_03]: Do you ever cheated on your wife?
• 10:28
  [SPEAKER_03]: Maybe I've ever cheated on your wife.
• 10:29
  [SPEAKER_03]: No.
• 10:30
  [SPEAKER_03]: Oh, because it's easy.
• 10:31
  [SPEAKER_02]: Simple answer.
• 10:32
  [SPEAKER_03]: Got it.
• 10:32
  [SPEAKER_02]: Yes or no, there's no gray.
• 10:34
  [SPEAKER_03]: There's just the answer.
• 10:35
  [SPEAKER_03]: No.
• 10:36
  [SPEAKER_04]: Ask me if I've ever cheated on my wife.
• 10:38
  [SPEAKER_03]: I've never cheated on her.
• 10:39
  [SPEAKER_02]: But I know she did you cheat on your ex.
• 10:41
  [SPEAKER_02]: You said, no.
• 10:44
  [SPEAKER_02]: Almost like a cheat.
• 10:48
  [SPEAKER_03]: What'd you do, Mike?
• 10:48
  [SPEAKER_03]: Come on, listen, we all make mistakes.
• 10:50
  [SPEAKER_03]: It's not about the mistakes, it's about the angle.
• 10:53
  [SPEAKER_03]: It's about the angle, y'all, like listen to me.
• 10:56
  [SPEAKER_03]: Like if, I'm sorry, I'm not gonna be the person to be the person.
• 10:59
  [SPEAKER_03]: Right, there's speeches for them.
• 11:00
  [SPEAKER_03]: It's the other people don't, don't phrase things in this matter.
• 11:05
  [SPEAKER_02]: Is that a off question?
• 11:06
  [SPEAKER_02]: Am I listening to the fear of question?
• 11:08
  [SPEAKER_04]: I just don't, I think you're asking it out of time.
• 11:11
  [SPEAKER_04]: So I think that what you're doing is, you're like, let me say, let me say that.
• 11:16
  [SPEAKER_04]: Let me say it right now.
• 11:17
  [SPEAKER_04]: Once you place it like this, I'm absolutely not helping my case.
• 11:20
  [SPEAKER_04]: And I say it right now.
• 11:21
  [SPEAKER_04]: So I didn't really know that somebody's watching right now and they're like, you actually should agree with him, yes, because he went first.
• 11:27
  [SPEAKER_04]: It's like the person gets the first swing and it's such a good swing that I'm dating.
• 11:30
  [SPEAKER_04]: And it's like, I'm still a good fighter, y'all.
• 11:32
  [SPEAKER_04]: He's like, I can't tell.
• 11:33
  [SPEAKER_04]: He's knocking you out.
• 11:35
  [SPEAKER_02]: I'm not the original your wife.
• 11:36
  [SPEAKER_02]: No quick easy.
• 11:38
  [SPEAKER_04]: Yeah, I'm not married first of all.
• 11:39
  [SPEAKER_04]: Just stop.
• 11:39
  [SPEAKER_02]: Why do you stand?
• 11:40
  [SPEAKER_04]: I don't take a old before guy.
• 11:42
  [SPEAKER_04]: But here's what I'm saying is it.
• 11:43
  [SPEAKER_02]: But that's that's also a conversation he's to be had.
• 11:46
  [SPEAKER_02]: I guess you can't fall back on the fact that I'm not married that I did not honor the commitment that I made to this person.
• 11:55
  [SPEAKER_03]: That's true.
• 11:55
  [SPEAKER_03]: All right.
• 11:56
  [SPEAKER_03]: Such a cheap room.
• 11:59
  [SPEAKER_03]: The problem is, is the problem is that if I agree to this, which I'm about to, I would liar too, because I just told you that wasn't really unfaithful because I wanted to give context.
• 12:10
  [SPEAKER_02]: But the person let's tell me the answer and then you can give me the context.
• 12:13
  [SPEAKER_02]: I let you explain what I was explaining.
• 12:15
  [SPEAKER_03]: I'm not definitely not gonna explain too much, but I was unfaithful.
• 12:18
  [SPEAKER_03]: Okay.
• 12:18
  [SPEAKER_03]: Okay.
• 12:19
  [SPEAKER_02]: All right.
• 12:19
  [SPEAKER_02]: Cool.
• 12:20
  [SPEAKER_03]: Now, ladies, he's honest.
• 12:21
  [SPEAKER_02]: He will be honest.
• 12:22
  [SPEAKER_02]: Now, he got a back in the corner.
• 12:23
  [SPEAKER_02]: And I apologize.
• 12:24
  [SPEAKER_04]: And I apologize because I should have been honest a friend, but I was debating between talent, our business versus my business.
• 12:31
  [SPEAKER_04]: So that's that I think that's the main thing.
• 12:33
  [SPEAKER_02]: You know, the purpose of this conversation and this show, if it becomes like a, this is definitely going to become something.
• 12:38
  [SPEAKER_02]: It's to ask the questions that
• 12:41
  [SPEAKER_02]: Um, the people that you meet out and Linux mall or whatever.
• 12:45
  [SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.
• 12:46
  [SPEAKER_02]: They're not gonna find out until later.
• 12:49
  [SPEAKER_02]: That's not true.
• 12:50
  [SPEAKER_02]: The Pisa Humbus dip they have.
• 12:51
  [SPEAKER_02]: Well,
• 12:52
  [SPEAKER_02]: You, one, most people aren't gonna ask the types of questions that I just ask you that are in two, you're probably never ever going to volunteer this type of information.
• 13:04
  [SPEAKER_02]: So you'll never even get to that point where you're like, ah, how do I describe it?
• 13:08
  [SPEAKER_02]: You probably won't get to that point for six, eight months if they ever ask you.
• 13:12
  [SPEAKER_02]: And I don't even think,
• 13:14
  [SPEAKER_02]: that any of my, any one I dated asked me why it didn't work out with the person I previously dated.
• 13:21
  [SPEAKER_02]: I don't think it was a rest.
• 13:22
  [SPEAKER_04]: Hmm.
• 13:23
  [SPEAKER_04]: Well, I've definitely admitted it that I've been on faithful before to people talking.
• 13:27
  [SPEAKER_02]: So that's what she was told with you.
• 13:29
  [SPEAKER_04]: I think that that triggered something at the end, but I think that we were done before and I think that's where I made a mistake.
• 13:36
  [SPEAKER_04]: I think that I felt she was carrying more and I looked for a distraction that I thought I could safely do.
• 13:43
  [SPEAKER_04]: and I played myself.
• 13:44
  [SPEAKER_02]: You look forward to distraction, what do you mean?
• 13:46
  [SPEAKER_04]: I wanted somebody to get off the stuff I was stressed out with, because I feel like I was just carrying our stuff.
• 13:51
  [SPEAKER_04]: And so, which I understood that she was going through a lot, but I felt like I was never able to unload what I was carrying.
• 13:58
  [SPEAKER_04]: And so, I wanted the distraction from feeling any of the stress that I was feeling.
• 14:02
  [SPEAKER_04]: And so, I wanted to have conversation with somebody that wasn't attached to anything I was going through.
• 14:08
  [SPEAKER_02]: You want to find somebody new?
• 14:10
  [SPEAKER_04]: find us on my random random, you know, for sure, fresh.
• 14:15
  [SPEAKER_04]: You know, there's a thing like even like a man that that's unfaithful, like, and we've had conversations like this, barbershop conversations, but you know that there's people that are unfaithful, they feel like they're protecting the person they with, right?
• 14:26
  [SPEAKER_04]: And a woman will say, well, what does that mean?
• 14:28
  [SPEAKER_04]: Like you disrespect to me by cheating, how can you do that?
• 14:31
  [SPEAKER_04]: I'm never looking for somebody more valuable than you.
• 14:33
  [SPEAKER_04]: I'm never looking for somebody to replace the person I care or plan to spend my life with.
• 14:37
  [SPEAKER_04]: I'm looking for somebody to release whatever toxicity, frustration, whatever, even if it's sexual, to release that energy so that I can focus on whatever it is that I'm overwhelmed by.
• 14:47
  [SPEAKER_02]: That's crazy.
• 14:48
  [SPEAKER_04]: It's crazy.
• 14:48
  [SPEAKER_03]: It doesn't work that way.
• 14:49
  [SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, but let me tell you.
• 14:51
  [SPEAKER_03]: In that way, it doesn't release anything, but you're right.
• 14:55
  [SPEAKER_02]: the release of what you're releasing.
• 14:57
  [SPEAKER_04]: But you know I'm talking about the standard of person, like if I was to say something to somebody, I loved them and then I was cheating on them with Brianna.
• 15:04
  [SPEAKER_04]: They're looking like, oh my god, like, how could I compare to this?
• 15:07
  [SPEAKER_04]: But if you cheat on them with somebody, it's like, oh, and they look and it's like, well, she does the, it's like, yeah, that's the point.
• 15:13
  [SPEAKER_04]: If she's does the, it's easier to keep her away than her running back, like you can give strict rules.
• 15:19
  [SPEAKER_04]: You don't worry about feelings when you don't have anything but a physical connection with somebody.
• 15:25
  [SPEAKER_03]: That actually was a terrible answer.
• 15:29
  [SPEAKER_03]: All right, it's not an answer, it's not an answer.
• 15:31
  [SPEAKER_02]: I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don
• 15:47
  [SPEAKER_02]: like the female me.
• 15:49
  [SPEAKER_02]: This is going to like dig into these types of answers you film me in terms of asking questions.
• 15:54
  [SPEAKER_02]: All right.
• 15:54
  [SPEAKER_02]: Nobody's going to act.
• 15:55
  [SPEAKER_02]: Nobody's going to go that deep because it's like I'm I'm new into the relationship.
• 16:00
  [SPEAKER_02]: So anyway, so you don't have to worry about that.
• 16:02
  [SPEAKER_02]: But if I were the next date you go, if it ever gets to that, this is why yeah, I cheated and I just made a mistake and I was sorry.
• 16:11
  [SPEAKER_02]: All the stuff that you just said makes you seem like a worse person.
• 16:16
  [SPEAKER_03]: I believe it, but that's what I told you in the beginning when you structured the question of that.
• 16:20
  [SPEAKER_04]: And then when I'm from the tangent to double down on everything, to structure.
• 16:24
  [SPEAKER_04]: Yeah.
• 16:24
  [SPEAKER_04]: Oh, yes.
• 16:25
  [SPEAKER_04]: But you have enough emotional intelligence where you could have saved me from stuff.
• 16:27
  [SPEAKER_04]: He was like, uh, he's drowning.
• 16:29
  [SPEAKER_04]: Hey, Mike, grab that 25 pound away from me.
• 16:32
  [SPEAKER_04]: Yeah, that's what I'm with that.
• 16:34
  [SPEAKER_02]: I mean, I like it.
• 16:35
  [SPEAKER_02]: I want my audience to know who this is.
• 16:38
  [SPEAKER_02]: And the person that's watching this day may have cheated.
• 16:41
  [SPEAKER_02]: And I understand, maybe they understand what it's like to maybe there's some friction and then you see your opportunity.
• 16:47
  [SPEAKER_02]: And it's nothing, my heart isn't connected to it.
• 16:51
  [SPEAKER_02]: It's just my body.
• 16:52
  [SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
• 16:54
  [SPEAKER_03]: I'm just still wrong though, yeah, don't mind that's it as long as you know it's wrong Not only do I know it's wrong.
• 17:00
  [SPEAKER_04]: I'm ashamed of it So that's the hesitation in it and it's the first time it's ever happened in my life And I was a proud person to say all men ain't like that because all men don't do that I had a brother who got married.
• 17:09
  [SPEAKER_04]: It was a virgin when he got married 28 or 29 I was he
• 17:13
  [SPEAKER_04]: like I felt like we was always breaking a lot of stereo types in terms of what women saw me and us and so when that happened I feel like I fell into something that I didn't have to because I chose to do something as a distraction and I got lost in the depth of it.
• 17:27
  [SPEAKER_04]: Like I thought it was just going to be talking which was still technically cheating too.
• 17:30
  [SPEAKER_02]: Yeah for sure.
• 17:30
  [SPEAKER_04]: But it's something I feel like I could have came back from.
• 17:32
  [SPEAKER_04]: You know what I'm saying?
• 17:33
  [SPEAKER_02]: So you became what you were fighting against at some point like and I'm sure you're either on stage or because you're inspirational, right?
• 17:43
  [SPEAKER_02]: and you are telling other men that why you shouldn't be trapped by that, you know, physical desire and, you know, you got to have more respect to honor and you fell into a witch.
• 17:54
  [SPEAKER_03]: We all make mistakes so I understand it.
• 17:56
  [SPEAKER_03]: I don't think I talked to a man about that.
• 17:58
  [SPEAKER_03]: No, I think that that's hypocritical for me to talk about something that's struggling with.
• 18:03
  [SPEAKER_02]: Okay, um, I don't want to ask.
• 18:07
  [SPEAKER_02]: Okay.
• 18:07
  [SPEAKER_02]: No, go down here.
• 18:09
  [SPEAKER_02]: You say it's something that you struggle with, but you did say it was your first time.
• 18:13
  [SPEAKER_02]: Right.
• 18:14
  [SPEAKER_02]: Meaning either you've done this before, meaning you struggle with it or you're not done struggling with that.
• 18:23
  [SPEAKER_04]: I don't think that anything that you fall to that you do unexpectedly as a man is ever gone away without intention.
• 18:30
  [SPEAKER_03]: For sure.
• 18:31
  [SPEAKER_04]: So for me, I think that I'm going to do intentional steps to make sure it doesn't happen, but because it happened before, there's a fear in my mind that it can always resurface if I'm not intentional moving forward.
• 18:40
  [SPEAKER_02]: Which means you're not really embarrassed or remorseful in that way.
• 18:46
  [SPEAKER_02]: What do you mean?
• 18:47
  [SPEAKER_02]: So you're saying, this is something I struggle with.
• 18:49
  [SPEAKER_02]: I fell to that desire, right?
• 18:51
  [SPEAKER_02]: And what you're saying to me now, and city young ladies in Atlanta, is I might get with you, but that is going to be a struggle for me.
• 19:01
  [SPEAKER_03]: That's not what I'm saying.
• 19:02
  [SPEAKER_03]: I'm saying that it's something that I fell with so much.
• 19:04
  [SPEAKER_03]: One second real quick.
• 19:05
  [SPEAKER_03]: Is that what he said?
• 19:07
  [SPEAKER_03]: That's not what he said?
• 19:08
  [SPEAKER_02]: Thank you.
• 19:08
  [SPEAKER_02]: What is that?
• 19:09
  [SPEAKER_02]: He said it's something that I struggle with.
• 19:10
  [SPEAKER_04]: And please, can you let the audience know what she just said to you?
• 19:13
  [SPEAKER_04]: Okay.
• 19:13
  [SPEAKER_02]: Can I get it?
• 19:14
  [SPEAKER_02]: No, no.
• 19:14
  [SPEAKER_02]: We don't have to answer.
• 19:16
  [SPEAKER_02]: We don't got to get the care rule.
• 19:17
  [SPEAKER_02]: I just want to get it.
• 19:18
  [SPEAKER_02]: But I don't know.
• 19:20
  [SPEAKER_02]: He got strong.
• 19:20
  [SPEAKER_02]: No.
• 19:21
  [SPEAKER_04]: And it was infatted.
• 19:23
  [SPEAKER_04]: And I'm glad that she said that because what I'm saying is that.
• 19:26
  [SPEAKER_04]: I am so ashamed of doing that that I'm so intentioned about not happening again that it rings.
• 19:30
  [SPEAKER_04]: It's like my don't forget that don't forget that don't get comfortable don't do that.
• 19:34
  [SPEAKER_04]: Like the reason why I bring it up in conversation before somebody may ask or or in the situation.
• 19:42
  [SPEAKER_04]: because I'm always thinking about it.
• 19:43
  [SPEAKER_04]: Hey, I know this is gonna be a knock on me.
• 19:45
  [SPEAKER_04]: I want to let you know something before I'm not perfect.
• 19:47
  [SPEAKER_04]: This is happening in my last relationship, but I've done it before really.
• 19:53
  [SPEAKER_04]: I just don't volunteer with you and understandably so because of where we are right now This is terrible David like I would love a resistance, but this is my first impression to your audience and I forgot I've watched the hot seat.
• 20:06
  [SPEAKER_04]: I didn't know that we was coming to the hot seat
• 20:08
  [SPEAKER_02]: I didn't know either.
• 20:09
  [SPEAKER_04]: I promise you.
• 20:09
  [SPEAKER_04]: I would have fixed my tie.
• 20:10
  [SPEAKER_04]: I mean just aired it up.
• 20:11
  [SPEAKER_02]: Let me tell you.
• 20:12
  [SPEAKER_02]: So our money was setting up the shirt like he was like, yeah, how you want the light?
• 20:17
  [SPEAKER_02]: So he set the lights up a certain way.
• 20:19
  [SPEAKER_02]: And I was like, oh, I looked at it.
• 20:20
  [SPEAKER_02]: I was like, I don't want that field to it.
• 20:22
  [SPEAKER_02]: I want it more bright because I like do like kind of more.
• 20:25
  [SPEAKER_02]: He's going more cinematic.
• 20:26
  [SPEAKER_02]: Right.
• 20:26
  [SPEAKER_02]: When I was dope, maybe not.
• 20:27
  [SPEAKER_02]: So I'm saying, I say, all this to say, I'm I'm creating this.
• 20:32
  [SPEAKER_03]: Oh, in real time.
• 20:32
  [SPEAKER_03]: Got you.
• 20:33
  [SPEAKER_03]: Yes.
• 20:38
  [SPEAKER_02]: A, I want a woman to know who they're dealing with, and it doesn't automatically knock you out the box because everyone's made mistakes.
• 20:46
  [SPEAKER_04]: Yeah, but I just think when you start and honing, and I think we've been talking about 20 minutes about this mistake.
• 20:51
  [SPEAKER_04]: Yeah.
• 20:51
  [SPEAKER_04]: We haven't talked about none of my good qualities when you talk about how much I love you and love women.
• 20:55
  [SPEAKER_03]: I'm a good guy, right?
• 20:55
  [SPEAKER_03]: You know, I'm not.
• 20:57
  [SPEAKER_04]: I'm a good guy.
• 20:58
  [SPEAKER_04]: Right, but with this episode going in, then you're going to be like, thanks for coming.
• 21:00
  [SPEAKER_04]: No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no
• 21:04
  [SPEAKER_02]: But even how much I love women is a terrible way to pray in that.
• 21:07
  [SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, especially when you're talking about cheating.
• 21:09
  [SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, we get caught for sure.
• 21:10
  [SPEAKER_03]: Are you struggling?
• 21:11
  [SPEAKER_03]: He's an attorney.
• 21:12
  [SPEAKER_03]: Oh, this guy is a struggle.
• 21:13
  [SPEAKER_03]: Oh, you're cheating.
• 21:15
  [SPEAKER_03]: Oh, my gosh.
• 21:16
  [SPEAKER_03]: Can I ask you a question?
• 21:17
  [SPEAKER_03]: How are you for you, Guy Mary?
• 21:19
  [SPEAKER_02]: I never really dated more than one or two people at a time.
• 21:23
  [SPEAKER_04]: David, do you know how stuff that sounds?
• 21:26
  [SPEAKER_04]: You know how crazy that sounds for you to say I've never dated one or two of you just talking about some I've been faithful.
• 21:30
  [SPEAKER_04]: So you just intentionally dated more than one person at a time and did they know about each other?
• 21:35
  [SPEAKER_02]: They didn't know it about it, but they didn't ask each other.
• 21:37
  [SPEAKER_02]: And I never said this is a committed relationship either.
• 21:40
  [SPEAKER_02]: And I never asked what they was doing.
• 21:42
  [SPEAKER_04]: So you allowed them to guess your intentions because you weren't asking for theirs.
• 21:47
  [SPEAKER_04]: Because you didn't ask about what they had going on.
• 21:49
  [SPEAKER_04]: You allowed them to assume that you were just the stand-up guy that they were hoping that you were.
• 21:53
  [SPEAKER_04]: No.
• 21:54
  [SPEAKER_02]: It's not a step.
• 21:55
  [SPEAKER_02]: So when you meet somebody in the mall or in the club, or whatever.
• 22:00
  [SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
• 22:01
  [SPEAKER_02]: There's an understanding, oh, you're single.
• 22:04
  [SPEAKER_02]: I'm single.
• 22:05
  [SPEAKER_02]: Let's get to know each other.
• 22:06
  [SPEAKER_02]: It's not super, we're not like in a committed situation right now.
• 22:11
  [SPEAKER_04]: I agree completely with you.
• 22:12
  [SPEAKER_04]: What I'm saying is that after someone starts to get attached, the lines get blurred on expectation.
• 22:17
  [SPEAKER_04]: They may not ask you because they don't want to be disappointed, but they would love the clarity.
• 22:22
  [SPEAKER_02]: Correct.
• 22:22
  [SPEAKER_02]: And when you get to that point, that's when you make it clear.
• 22:25
  [SPEAKER_02]: What point is that for you?
• 22:27
  [SPEAKER_02]: When back feels like we need to be clear when I get feelings and I feel like we're spending a lot of time together We need to have a deeper conversation, but there's no Hey, what's up, man?
• 22:38
  [SPEAKER_02]: My name's David.
• 22:39
  [SPEAKER_02]: We're gonna.
• 22:39
  [SPEAKER_02]: Oh, what's your name?
• 22:40
  [SPEAKER_02]: Let me get your number.
• 22:40
  [SPEAKER_02]: Okay, by the way, real quick I was just with some girl last night.
• 22:45
  [SPEAKER_02]: I just want to let you know
• 22:46
  [SPEAKER_02]: We don't, we don't do that.
• 22:47
  [SPEAKER_02]: We're getting to know each other.
• 22:49
  [SPEAKER_04]: You don't mean to look into being exclusive, allows them to have clarity or what is your timeline on someone being transparent about different things like that.
• 22:57
  [SPEAKER_02]: Nobody has a time.
• 22:58
  [SPEAKER_02]: I met my wife and maybe a month and a half after I met my wife, I stopped talking to other people.
• 23:08
  [SPEAKER_02]: Did you let her know?
• 23:09
  [SPEAKER_02]: No, let her know that I stopped talking to other people.
• 23:11
  [SPEAKER_03]: Mm-hmm.
• 23:12
  [SPEAKER_02]: Well, I don't know what my time and my attention.
• 23:14
  [SPEAKER_03]: Okay.
• 23:15
  [SPEAKER_03]: And then I proposed to her six months later.
• 23:17
  [SPEAKER_02]: A couple days later, we got married.
• 23:19
  [SPEAKER_02]: Oh, after you could propose?
• 23:20
  [SPEAKER_02]: No, 100%.
• 23:21
  [SPEAKER_02]: Don't.
• 23:22
  [SPEAKER_02]: I said, yeah, you want to get married.
• 23:23
  [SPEAKER_02]: She said, yeah.
• 23:24
  [SPEAKER_02]: I said, let's go tomorrow to get a ring.
• 23:26
  [SPEAKER_02]: And then, you know, at the end of the week, let's just go to the courthouse.
• 23:28
  [SPEAKER_02]: Wow.
• 23:29
  [SPEAKER_02]: And she was with it.
• 23:31
  [SPEAKER_02]: eight years later.
• 23:31
  [SPEAKER_02]: That's dope.
• 23:32
  [SPEAKER_02]: Three kids of eight years later.
• 23:33
  [SPEAKER_02]: That's far.
• 23:34
  [SPEAKER_02]: So so for for me, my thing is I never dated a whole but like I have some friends that like they got a little roster.
• 23:40
  [SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.
• 23:41
  [SPEAKER_02]: And mentally as I'm building a business, I could never manage that.
• 23:44
  [SPEAKER_02]: I agree.
• 23:45
  [SPEAKER_02]: That's what I mean.
• 23:46
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• 23:51
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• 23:52
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• 23:58
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• 24:07
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• 24:13
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• 24:18
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• 24:26
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• 24:31
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• 24:38
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• 24:39
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• 24:43
  [SPEAKER_00]: Right now.
• 24:44
  [SPEAKER_02]: All right, now let's go into a brighter conversation.
• 24:47
  [SPEAKER_03]: Hopefully, hopefully it's great.
• 24:50
  [SPEAKER_02]: What are you looking for?
• 24:58
  [SPEAKER_03]: I feel like I killed a lot of what I thought I was looking for in the past.
• 25:04
  [SPEAKER_04]: So I think right now, I need somebody who's open to what makes each other happy.
• 25:11
  [SPEAKER_04]: I think if I start caring about somebody, I become more interested in what they care about.
• 25:17
  [SPEAKER_04]: I want somebody to really understand how much traveling and giving back means to me.
• 25:28
  [SPEAKER_04]: In my age I'm 40, you know, so a lot of times, a lot of women, especially 30s, have the, I need to hurry up have a family, I need to get married, I need to have babies, you know, because of the clock, and it scares me, because it's like, you're not, we're not going to travel.
• 25:44
  [SPEAKER_04]: You don't care about travel, you say you like traveling, but you want to put all that on hold for 10 years, I'm not.
• 25:51
  [SPEAKER_04]: out, I'm gonna try my baby eight months like this baby is I'ma sit down for half a year and as soon as your body finished healing as soon as we understand that you're in a good space start moving around again we we going somewhere and if you're not open to the idea of being a family
• 26:08
  [SPEAKER_04]: wherever our family decides to go as a family, then I think it's gonna cause a little tension between the two of us.
• 26:15
  [SPEAKER_02]: All right, that's my aspect, give me some other aspects.
• 26:18
  [SPEAKER_04]: I care about their relationship with God.
• 26:20
  [SPEAKER_04]: Like I want somebody to have a front foundation of something.
• 26:23
  [SPEAKER_04]: I'm not even saying you have to be going to church every single week and Bible study and everything like that.
• 26:29
  [SPEAKER_04]: But have to desire.
• 26:30
  [SPEAKER_04]: I'll lead you on that.
• 26:31
  [SPEAKER_04]: I'll definitely sit down.
• 26:32
  [SPEAKER_04]: We'll go through the different constructs.
• 26:35
  [SPEAKER_04]: of the things I've learned from the Bible things that stood out.
• 26:37
  [SPEAKER_04]: I want to hear what stands out from you on what you care about in terms of your own quality of life and your own integrity and your character with God.
• 26:45
  [SPEAKER_04]: That means a lot to me just just foundationally because I feel like we can hold each other accountable if we have that foundation.
• 26:50
  [SPEAKER_04]: And then outside of that, I just want somebody who wants something for themselves.
• 26:55
  [SPEAKER_04]: What do you like for yourself?
• 26:57
  [SPEAKER_04]: I don't want everything to be about me and I want everything to be about you, but I need you to have something about yourself that you deeply care about so that I can admire
• 27:04
  [SPEAKER_02]: I love it.
• 27:05
  [SPEAKER_02]: All right, what about aesthetically?
• 27:07
  [SPEAKER_04]: aesthetically.
• 27:08
  [SPEAKER_04]: I like weight.
• 27:09
  [SPEAKER_04]: Jack, I like weight.
• 27:11
  [SPEAKER_04]: I like weight.
• 27:13
  [SPEAKER_04]: Now weight don't mean you can't button your pants.
• 27:17
  [SPEAKER_04]: What I mean, and don't mean you can't.
• 27:19
  [SPEAKER_02]: We're kissing with a person.
• 27:20
  [SPEAKER_04]: Like for what pushing?
• 27:22
  [SPEAKER_04]: We're not trying to be pushing before Christ returns.
• 27:31
  [SPEAKER_02]: I'm just moving, I'm just moving long because you're saying it as if like you're trying to wait until marriage.
• 27:36
  [SPEAKER_03]: I think I am.
• 27:38
  [SPEAKER_03]: That's the reason why.
• 27:41
  [SPEAKER_03]: I've been spending a lot of time on myself.
• 27:42
  [SPEAKER_03]: I don't really be dating.
• 27:43
  [SPEAKER_02]: Okay.
• 27:44
  [SPEAKER_02]: So, okay, what did you get from that answer?
• 27:47
  [SPEAKER_02]: Dear number, the part where we were talking about, because he said it's something that he struggles with.
• 27:52
  [SPEAKER_02]: And I'm like, well, if it's a struggle, then the next person you meet, where you're essentially saying to them is, I don't know that I can manage this struggle.
• 28:04
  [SPEAKER_02]: But you said that's not what he said.
• 28:05
  [SPEAKER_01]: No, that's not what I heard.
• 28:07
  [SPEAKER_01]: I heard him say that because he did struggle with it He's being super intentional about making sure it doesn't happen again
• 28:21
  [SPEAKER_03]: All right, I didn't get to it, but I'm but she got that and that's all that matters That's that's what matters right now, but if we keep living in your courtroom You're gonna keep dropping this there for pain because you you you guys feels David you're using them again I know you're so for me.
• 28:34
  [SPEAKER_03]: I am bro.
• 28:35
  [SPEAKER_02]: You don't realize how easy this gonna be when someone sees all this and they see who you are
• 28:41
  [SPEAKER_02]: And it's nothing that you are hiding at this point.
• 28:44
  [SPEAKER_02]: So when somebody DMs you like, yo, what's up, I'm gonna go on a little data sum.
• 28:48
  [SPEAKER_02]: They already know what's up.
• 28:49
  [SPEAKER_02]: So let's keep that recent backpack.
• 28:50
  [SPEAKER_04]: Did they tell you, I cheated the data.
• 28:53
  [SPEAKER_04]: I didn't tell you.
• 28:53
  [SPEAKER_04]: Okay, because if you were to me, I appreciate you reaching out.
• 28:55
  [SPEAKER_04]: Like, that's how this box sounds, right?
• 28:57
  [SPEAKER_04]: No, it's great.
• 28:59
  [SPEAKER_02]: Let's keep back to this version for the push.
• 29:01
  [SPEAKER_02]: Okay, explain this.
• 29:03
  [SPEAKER_04]: Well, what I'm saying is it.
• 29:05
  [SPEAKER_04]: I love, my love, my love language is our quality time, words of affirmation, but right after that's where it's going to go to.
• 29:11
  [SPEAKER_04]: Physical times.
• 29:11
  [SPEAKER_03]: I need to touch all.
• 29:12
  [SPEAKER_03]: I love your fine print is crazy.
• 29:16
  [SPEAKER_03]: What?
• 29:16
  [SPEAKER_04]: You're going to read the seats in seconds.
• 29:18
  [SPEAKER_04]: I'll just add these pictures in.
• 29:19
  [SPEAKER_04]: So for me, even as a friend, as a family member, like I, people tell me, like, Mike, you get a best hugs and I always say, I give hugs because I intentionally, I intentionally want you to know that I'm happy to see you.
• 29:32
  [SPEAKER_02]: One second real quick.
• 29:34
  [SPEAKER_02]: Hey, I'm not even going home.
• 29:35
  [SPEAKER_02]: Where'd you be coming from?
• 29:37
  [SPEAKER_04]: This is coming.
• 29:38
  [SPEAKER_04]: Let me add, let me just add the place to be genuine.
• 29:40
  [SPEAKER_04]: I'm going to save it for you.
• 29:41
  [SPEAKER_04]: No, no, no, this is crazy.
• 29:42
  [SPEAKER_03]: No, you're cutting me.
• 29:43
  [SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.
• 29:44
  [SPEAKER_03]: No.
• 29:45
  [SPEAKER_03]: Right, this isn't bad.
• 29:46
  [SPEAKER_03]: This is like that.
• 29:47
  [SPEAKER_03]: It's your smile.
• 29:47
  [SPEAKER_02]: It was that.
• 29:49
  [SPEAKER_02]: I give the bad hugs.
• 29:50
  [SPEAKER_02]: I don't know.
• 29:52
  [SPEAKER_04]: I didn't say I did.
• 29:52
  [SPEAKER_04]: I said, that's what I've told.
• 29:54
  [SPEAKER_04]: But I'm saying, when people tell me that, I'm like, I'll literally, okay, I'll give you two examples.
• 29:58
  [SPEAKER_04]: When I hug somebody, I'm like, I'm like, it's a big compliment on me.
• 30:01
  [SPEAKER_04]: Oh, and that makes sense.
• 30:02
  [SPEAKER_04]: I'm not married, right?
• 30:03
  [SPEAKER_04]: So that's cool.
• 30:04
  [SPEAKER_04]: And if I get a partner in it, and she fills away about that, guess what?
• 30:07
  [SPEAKER_04]: Them side boys is right there if they're fine.
• 30:10
  [SPEAKER_04]: Oh, I got it.
• 30:10
  [SPEAKER_04]: And I'm just as passionate about not touching somebody.
• 30:13
  [SPEAKER_04]: I said, you know, I'm about hugging somebody.
• 30:15
  [SPEAKER_04]: I've hugged somebody and they give you that that I don't really like.
• 30:18
  [SPEAKER_04]: And it's like, oh, I'm sorry for that.
• 30:19
  [SPEAKER_04]: And it's like, oh, no, we can do a hug.
• 30:20
  [SPEAKER_04]: I'm like, I don't do fake hugs.
• 30:22
  [SPEAKER_04]: We gon' say what's up or we gon' hug the other end of that.
• 30:24
  [SPEAKER_04]: So I'll give you the space, but I can't do the fakeness.
• 30:27
  [SPEAKER_04]: So the tap boy don't tap me.
• 30:30
  [SPEAKER_04]: Like if I hug you and you, oh, that means get back.
• 30:32
  [SPEAKER_04]: That means times up and I just got here.
• 30:34
  [SPEAKER_04]: So it's like, are we hugged or are we not?
• 30:37
  [SPEAKER_04]: So you tap me, that's the last hug you ever give for me.
• 30:40
  [SPEAKER_04]: We gon' social distance for life.
• 30:41
  [SPEAKER_02]: Okay, all right, let's go back to the aesthetics.
• 30:43
  [SPEAKER_04]: You like a little way like I like, I like weight because I like
• 30:49
  [SPEAKER_04]: comfort, right?
• 30:50
  [SPEAKER_04]: And so what I like, I like a woman comfortable around me, and I love a confident woman.
• 30:54
  [SPEAKER_04]: I feel like a lot of women struggle with confidence because they're not comfortable.
• 30:58
  [SPEAKER_04]: And so for me, it's like, listen, I know you're going to just self way more than I am.
• 31:02
  [SPEAKER_04]: You gain weight as you need to.
• 31:03
  [SPEAKER_04]: You lose weight as you need to, but then I got nothing to do with me.
• 31:06
  [SPEAKER_04]: I like you for you.
• 31:07
  [SPEAKER_04]: So I start off with the weight, not because I need weight, but because your weight won't bother me.
• 31:13
  [SPEAKER_03]: But if you slim that ain't that's not your ideal it depends because if you slim and you got a little cushion somewhere
• 31:25
  [SPEAKER_04]: It ain't just limb right like it's just I just I just don't want to have to sign a waiver I'm not I'm not a little guy so I just don't want to have to sign a waiver Like I just need to know you're gonna be alright if you next to me Okay, all right, and if you can hold your own I'm good with what you put you're going with okay Face aesthetics is there anything you I love a smile love a good smile.
• 31:46
  [SPEAKER_04]: I love a good smile and and I love
• 31:50
  [SPEAKER_04]: sent.
• 31:50
  [SPEAKER_04]: I love someone who smells good and loves someone who takes care of themselves.
• 31:54
  [SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
• 31:57
  [SPEAKER_02]: How their feet looks?
• 31:58
  [SPEAKER_04]: I'm not into that.
• 31:59
  [SPEAKER_04]: I think that's weird.
• 32:00
  [SPEAKER_04]: Just clean them.
• 32:02
  [SPEAKER_02]: Just clear.
• 32:02
  [SPEAKER_02]: So they got to buy your orange or any really sugar.
• 32:04
  [SPEAKER_02]: I'm not to.
• 32:05
  [SPEAKER_04]: I'm not really.
• 32:06
  [SPEAKER_03]: It's not for me.
• 32:07
  [SPEAKER_04]: Don't create a socks out by him.
• 32:09
  [SPEAKER_04]: I got you.
• 32:10
  [SPEAKER_04]: I wish a most comfortable pair of stuff.
• 32:11
  [SPEAKER_04]: Yeah, I'll go ahead and order those.
• 32:12
  [SPEAKER_04]: Put them my card.
• 32:13
  [SPEAKER_04]: I got you.
• 32:14
  [SPEAKER_02]: Okay, and I love this.
• 32:16
  [SPEAKER_02]: Um, Do you prefer in my wife asked me this other day?
• 32:21
  [SPEAKER_02]: And I am really not an answer.
• 32:22
  [SPEAKER_02]: She's like, do you like me dressed up or casual?
• 32:26
  [SPEAKER_04]: So it's just depends, but I'm more attracted to you.
• 32:31
  [SPEAKER_04]: at your bummiest when you're at your bummiest first of all and it can it can I have a 30 second field to just break this down come on more women get highlighted at target than at the club and I want I want you to understand that a woman oh sorry a lot of women going to get how it a lot more at target than in the club I need you to understand this.
• 32:50
  [SPEAKER_04]: You care about the way that you look and a lot of times when a man approaches you at that grocery store at that public or at that broker at that Walmart at that target.
• 32:58
  [SPEAKER_04]: You like, why would you come up to me and you see I'm looking like this?
• 33:02
  [SPEAKER_04]: It's because I see you at your worst.
• 33:05
  [SPEAKER_04]: If you look amazing at your worst, girl, I know that you can dress it up.
• 33:09
  [SPEAKER_04]: But if I see you at your best every single time, I see you.
• 33:12
  [SPEAKER_04]: Oh, you hide something from me.
• 33:14
  [SPEAKER_04]: You are afraid to show me what it is.
• 33:16
  [SPEAKER_04]: Second day, we're going to the pool.
• 33:18
  [SPEAKER_04]: We go on swimming.
• 33:19
  [SPEAKER_04]: Go on.
• 33:19
  [SPEAKER_04]: Absolutely.
• 33:20
  [SPEAKER_04]: I need to see those other guys.
• 33:20
  [SPEAKER_04]: We go on swimming.
• 33:21
  [SPEAKER_04]: Yup, I need it.
• 33:21
  [SPEAKER_03]: And I need you to swim.
• 33:22
  [SPEAKER_04]: I don't need to, I don't need to, I don't need to, I don't need to, I don't need to, I don't need to, I don't need to, I don't need to, I don't need to, I don't need to, I don't need to, I don't need to, I don't need to, I don't need to, I don't need to, I don't need to, I don't need to, I don't need to, I don't need to, I don't need to, I don't need to, I don't need to, I don't need to, I don't need to, I don't need to, I don't need to, I don't need to, I don't need to, I don't
• 33:38
  [SPEAKER_02]: A boss or, and there's, there's, there's a, many image Wayne Jocelyn.
• 33:43
  [SPEAKER_02]: There could be a both, but this is for the sake of this question.
• 33:46
  [SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.
• 33:46
  [SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
• 33:47
  [SPEAKER_03]: Boss or homemaker?
• 33:50
  [SPEAKER_04]: Homemaker, for sure.
• 33:51
  [SPEAKER_04]: No question, but I want you to be a boss in your own right, even if you like craft, you know, needling or with that threading thing they do on the planes.
• 34:01
  [SPEAKER_04]: Um, if you love doing that so much, you're Chris Krowshaan, is that what it's called?
• 34:05
  [SPEAKER_04]: If you do that so much, that that's the something you love to do to give you peace and you say that.
• 34:08
  [SPEAKER_04]: I want to see you doing that intentionally, consistently enough to wear you on that.
• 34:14
  [SPEAKER_04]: I'm working so that you don't have to, but I, I want you to have something that you love doing even if you don't have to work.
• 34:20
  [SPEAKER_04]: Does that make sense?
• 34:21
  [SPEAKER_02]: Which means if there are career focus, they did 300, 400,000 in the border and that's not attractive to you.
• 34:27
  [SPEAKER_04]: No, I think it's very attractive.
• 34:28
  [SPEAKER_04]: You just had off-known Khalifa on here and not too long ago.
• 34:31
  [SPEAKER_04]: And when I say, like, name drop, like, she saw the bomb, like, I found out.
• 34:37
  [SPEAKER_04]: I changed my, I changed my age limit because of her.
• 34:41
  [SPEAKER_04]: I was like, I'm not going to date nobody on the 20th.
• 34:42
  [SPEAKER_04]: I'm 40.
• 34:43
  [SPEAKER_04]: She said I'm 27.
• 34:44
  [SPEAKER_04]: We're going to 27.
• 34:47
  [SPEAKER_02]: 27 it is.
• 34:48
  [SPEAKER_04]: All right.
• 34:49
  [SPEAKER_04]: We got a parentheses now, but it's only because one thing I always say is the most attractive thing to me is something that you force me to be attracted to I don't naturally like girls to shave in a hair off, but when you haven't seen a girl that cut her hair out, need a long first of all shout out to miss me alone
• 35:04
  [SPEAKER_04]: But need a long, we think of need a long with that cut from fresh prints from Friday, like use it's a signature and I would never encourage you to do that.
• 35:12
  [SPEAKER_04]: So your confidence told you to do that because I'm going like whatever you decide.
• 35:15
  [SPEAKER_04]: Oh, yes.
• 35:16
  [SPEAKER_04]: What the, what Jill Scott says, a man can tell me what to do if he can tell me what to do, but he can't tell me what to do.
• 35:21
  [SPEAKER_04]: If he can't tell me what to do, if he can't tell me what to do.
• 35:23
  [SPEAKER_04]: And a woman is saying, wait, like, if you know what you got going on, forget my inputs, we aren't do you do you.
• 35:35
  [SPEAKER_04]: This is good, my favorite food, favorite food, so I just can't eat it all for another game.
• 35:46
  [SPEAKER_04]: First date, first date, something where I can get to know you.
• 35:53
  [SPEAKER_04]: It can be coffee, it can be dinner, it can be something fun.
• 35:59
  [SPEAKER_04]: Man, so because I travel so much, I would love to do a first date pick up in just those and where we both never be in.
• 36:07
  [SPEAKER_04]: Like Chicago doesn't get as much credit as New York, LA, Miami, the Vegas is.
• 36:14
  [SPEAKER_04]: but like short drive, just driving on that short line, low 90s R&B, I can get us some to go full from your favorite spot, and just sit there and just talk, like I mean like dive in and really get to know each other.
• 36:29
  [SPEAKER_04]: And then take a flight back, you know, right back, get you back home safely, back to where your people love you, you know what I'm saying?
• 36:35
  [SPEAKER_02]: Hold on, is this all the time, are you flying out?
• 36:37
  [SPEAKER_04]: You don't fly out?
• 36:39
  [SPEAKER_04]: Thursday.
• 36:40
  [SPEAKER_04]: If if the person if I get an impression to the point to where I was like, yeah, I don't think that there's nothing that I won't do.
• 36:47
  [SPEAKER_04]: First day to impress somebody that I'm intentionally serious about.
• 36:50
  [SPEAKER_04]: Absolutely.
• 36:51
  [SPEAKER_02]: Okay.
• 36:51
  [SPEAKER_02]: All right.
• 36:52
  [SPEAKER_02]: Well, we got to get into the break conversation.
• 36:53
  [SPEAKER_04]: And I've never flown somebody out first date ever, but it's not something to be honest.
• 36:58
  [SPEAKER_02]: Absolutely.
• 36:58
  [SPEAKER_04]: Okay.
• 36:59
  [SPEAKER_02]: How much would you spend on the first?
• 37:01
  [SPEAKER_02]: How much was your first date
• 37:11
  [SPEAKER_03]: 400.
• 37:11
  [SPEAKER_03]: 400.
• 37:12
  [SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
• 37:13
  [SPEAKER_02]: Okay.
• 37:13
  [SPEAKER_04]: Because I'm, well, no, because I got the Broadway's in New York.
• 37:16
  [SPEAKER_04]: That stuff is it can, can get up there.
• 37:19
  [SPEAKER_04]: Let's say 500 max, first day, first day.
• 37:22
  [SPEAKER_02]: Okay.
• 37:23
  [SPEAKER_02]: Um, so you're in a scenario where you add a little restaurant and okay.
• 37:33
  [SPEAKER_02]: Okay.
• 37:33
  [SPEAKER_02]: Okay.
• 37:35
  [SPEAKER_02]: We'll say we're in Atlanta.
• 37:36
  [SPEAKER_02]: I don't know if you know a lot of Atlanta just yet.
• 37:38
  [SPEAKER_02]: I'm still alive.
• 37:39
  [SPEAKER_02]: What's a good first date restaurant for you?
• 37:43
  [SPEAKER_03]: Okay, y'all don't know Atlanta like that, but there is this.
• 37:46
  [SPEAKER_03]: Give an example of anywhere you've been.
• 37:48
  [SPEAKER_04]: You've described the type of restaurant.
• 37:51
  [SPEAKER_04]: So one of the places that I like full-wise is it has to lobster fried rice, and I don't even eat shellfish, but
• 38:03
  [SPEAKER_04]: It's like an odor, type of illness, it's down.
• 38:08
  [SPEAKER_04]: High in seafood, not high in seafood, because I don't eat seafood.
• 38:13
  [SPEAKER_04]: So it's a place that we have to have a balance of both so I could eat something as well.
• 38:16
  [SPEAKER_04]: But it was, it was, it was, it was a place like that.
• 38:22
  [SPEAKER_04]: I don't think I eat a lot of high-end stuff so me dating they would have to tell me that that's the type of stuff they look for me to look into that so I eat a lot of a lot of the same stuff and I'm meal prep and so I'm in public so I'm trying to drop this weight so I got it.
• 38:40
  [SPEAKER_04]: Okay, so like some of the top I will have to research it.
• 38:43
  [SPEAKER_02]: Um, first date cheesecake factory?
• 38:46
  [SPEAKER_04]: I'm open to it.
• 38:48
  [SPEAKER_04]: I mean, okay, yes, I would, would you, I'll have gotten, yes, for sure, for sure, no question.
• 38:55
  [SPEAKER_04]: No question.
• 38:56
  [SPEAKER_04]: But I would, yeah, I would ask them how they feel about the cheesecake factory out of garden in a joking way.
• 39:03
  [SPEAKER_04]: And if they came back offensively like, no, we ain't never touching it again, but also you got a market in Shonei.
• 39:10
  [SPEAKER_04]: because I'm more basic than you already, and you're not going to love it here completely.
• 39:14
  [SPEAKER_03]: I'm not going to love it here.
• 39:15
  [SPEAKER_03]: I'm on my dating profile.
• 39:16
  [SPEAKER_04]: I have Waffle House.
• 39:17
  [SPEAKER_04]: Can't do you enjoy Waffle House or would you eat there because of me?
• 39:21
  [SPEAKER_04]: Like, in if somebody says that I could never eat a Waffle House, I'll accept them to match just to let them know just one word.
• 39:28
  [SPEAKER_02]: Good heart, pretty.
• 39:29
  [SPEAKER_02]: Got the weight that you're looking for but can't dress.
• 39:33
  [SPEAKER_02]: a win.
• 39:34
  [SPEAKER_02]: Is it winning?
• 39:34
  [SPEAKER_03]: Girl, I got you.
• 39:35
  [SPEAKER_03]: Nah.
• 39:36
  [SPEAKER_03]: What?
• 39:36
  [SPEAKER_03]: You value your appearance.
• 39:38
  [SPEAKER_03]: So what?
• 39:39
  [SPEAKER_04]: I value you smelling good and you've been confident.
• 39:41
  [SPEAKER_04]: That will frustrate you.
• 39:42
  [SPEAKER_04]: I'm telling you.
• 39:42
  [SPEAKER_04]: I promise you, I can put you in something simplistic.
• 39:45
  [SPEAKER_04]: A woman loves for a man to take lead, don't you?
• 39:48
  [SPEAKER_04]: I'll find you something to wear.
• 39:49
  [SPEAKER_04]: Don't worry.
• 39:51
  [SPEAKER_04]: I have cousins and people who are stylish.
• 39:53
  [SPEAKER_04]: They'll figure out something.
• 39:55
  [SPEAKER_04]: Okay, that's a part you can fix.
• 39:56
  [SPEAKER_02]: No question.
• 39:57
  [SPEAKER_02]: I won't cut it.
• 39:58
  [SPEAKER_02]: But, but if we don't live in the same place in every time y'all step out, she looks crazy.
• 40:07
  [SPEAKER_03]: Why would she look crazy?
• 40:08
  [SPEAKER_03]: Because we're telling you that.
• 40:09
  [SPEAKER_03]: Dressing and they look crazy.
• 40:11
  [SPEAKER_03]: Women care about the way that they are.
• 40:13
  [SPEAKER_02]: I don't love them.
• 40:15
  [SPEAKER_02]: If he has all those three things, I dated a woman and she just, see, look, every time I like, I give an example was crazy to you.
• 40:23
  [SPEAKER_02]: It's just not put together, bro.
• 40:24
  [SPEAKER_02]: Like, why would you wear that to this?
• 40:25
  [SPEAKER_04]: Does she smell good?
• 40:27
  [SPEAKER_02]: Yes.
• 40:27
  [SPEAKER_04]: Do you give her a upfront example of what is going to be when you're going?
• 40:31
  [SPEAKER_04]: It's a black tie.
• 40:32
  [SPEAKER_04]: You're going to dress and I started out and then she's dressed down.
• 40:34
  [SPEAKER_04]: It's like how I didn't dress down.
• 40:36
  [SPEAKER_02]: It's just, you know, something, yeah, listen, bro.
• 40:38
  [SPEAKER_04]: If I care about something, you're not passionate about I feel like it's my responsibility.
• 40:41
  [SPEAKER_04]: Somebody's your kid.
• 40:41
  [SPEAKER_04]: It's your kid, dress.
• 40:43
  [SPEAKER_02]: I agree.
• 40:43
  [SPEAKER_02]: Something you can't.
• 40:44
  [SPEAKER_02]: Okay.
• 40:46
  [SPEAKER_02]: If you were, because you, you put some pride into your appearance.
• 40:50
  [SPEAKER_02]: If a guy every time you all get together, he just looks like just correct.
• 40:53
  [SPEAKER_02]: Maybe his sneakers dirty either clean person The sneakers dirty the outfit looks.
• 40:57
  [SPEAKER_02]: It don't lay on you.
• 40:58
  [SPEAKER_02]: Well dirty in a cool.
• 41:01
  [SPEAKER_02]: You're not cool with that, right?
• 41:02
  [SPEAKER_04]: Because somebody would just keep dressed And it's like oh my gosh again Yeah, I don't think that's as much of a big deal for me because I feel like I can fix that and I'm willing to
• 41:12
  [SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, but then you like, yo, uh, baby, make sure you wear something like this and then they come out the house and they still don't put it on right.
• 41:19
  [SPEAKER_04]: Yeah, then I'll show you 10 examples and we'll get you 10 examples and blabé put a genogin thing on.
• 41:24
  [SPEAKER_04]: We're going to do a different stuff.
• 41:27
  [SPEAKER_04]: Yep, we're going to a different stage.
• 41:29
  [SPEAKER_04]: But I would have last week's hug.
• 41:30
  [SPEAKER_04]: I thought that the cleanest real quick because we're going to go somewhere.
• 41:32
  [SPEAKER_04]: But I'm flying you over here.
• 41:34
  [SPEAKER_04]: They ain't seen you over there.
• 41:35
  [SPEAKER_04]: Trust me.
• 41:35
  [SPEAKER_04]: I'm a flight attendant.
• 41:36
  [SPEAKER_04]: I got two outfits for the weekend there.
• 41:38
  [SPEAKER_04]: We watched three times.
• 41:39
  [SPEAKER_04]: And I go into a different state.
• 41:40
  [SPEAKER_04]: It didn't count.
• 41:41
  [SPEAKER_04]: Are you still a flight attendant?
• 41:42
  [SPEAKER_04]: Yeah, I still were for their lunch.
• 41:43
  [SPEAKER_04]: Where?
• 41:43
  [SPEAKER_04]: Which is just, it's just part of the time.
• 41:45
  [SPEAKER_04]: So Sky West is a, Sky West.
• 41:47
  [SPEAKER_04]: Yes, so that's a regional.
• 41:49
  [SPEAKER_04]: They charter out the smaller, they charter out the smaller planes for Delta, United and American.
• 41:53
  [SPEAKER_04]: We do all three.
• 41:55
  [SPEAKER_02]: But you still get the benefits for all three of those.
• 41:56
  [SPEAKER_02]: I still do the benefits, yup.
• 41:58
  [SPEAKER_04]: Well, my mom and dad fly for free, my buddies fly a little nephew so neck and other.
• 42:03
  [SPEAKER_03]: My absolutely come on for sure.
• 42:04
  [SPEAKER_04]: She's gonna take my brother's boss arm arm arm arm arm.
• 42:07
  [SPEAKER_03]: Yep.
• 42:08
  [SPEAKER_04]: My nephew can still stay on.
• 42:09
  [SPEAKER_04]: My nephew's three years old just hit his 100th flight.
• 42:12
  [SPEAKER_02]: Wow.
• 42:13
  [SPEAKER_03]: Oh, bro.
• 42:13
  [SPEAKER_03]: We changed his stuff, bro.
• 42:14
  [SPEAKER_03]: I'm telling you, man.
• 42:15
  [SPEAKER_02]: Okay, I meant that.
• 42:17
  [SPEAKER_02]: Okay, um... Give me... How do you know?
• 42:24
  [SPEAKER_02]: OK, let me ask this question.
• 42:27
  [SPEAKER_02]: You just meet someone and maybe you have for lack of better words, a roster.
• 42:32
  [SPEAKER_02]: OK, OK, you have a bunch of, I don't have a bunch, that's a harsh word.
• 42:35
  [SPEAKER_02]: But you've got a few people that you're talking to.
• 42:37
  [SPEAKER_02]: You know, Texan, let's, I want to link up.
• 42:40
  [SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.
• 42:41
  [SPEAKER_02]: How do you start to fall back?
• 42:45
  [SPEAKER_04]: So I think it is hard for me to manage anything when I'm given somebody else in that much intentional time.
• 42:49
  [SPEAKER_04]: The only reason you have a roster is because you have availability.
• 42:52
  [SPEAKER_04]: So once somebody gets more intentional time, your availability falls out.
• 42:56
  [SPEAKER_03]: How do you know who to pick?
• 42:57
  [SPEAKER_04]: Just okay whoever's getting most time here and for sure if I'm intentional about somebody that's that's me choosing and even if it's just me choosing for it right now you've shown me enough to where you get my intentional time so that means I'm not available every time somebody else reaches out and it might not be at a space where you can spy in there right now okay do you think you're strong enough to be intentional about this person but let go of the fun one the fun one
• 43:23
  [SPEAKER_03]: How soon is a photo house soon?
• 43:24
  [SPEAKER_03]: That's what I'm saying.
• 43:25
  [SPEAKER_03]: It's the time you got a little fun once.
• 43:27
  [SPEAKER_04]: When you start finding somebody that you love and you value, yes, you can let it go.
• 43:30
  [SPEAKER_04]: It's just not as easy.
• 43:32
  [SPEAKER_04]: I'm not saying it's not, I think it is.
• 43:34
  [SPEAKER_04]: I think I think it's not easy when you start going through things and you start getting distracted when you get your eye off of why you chose that person, which is why.
• 43:43
  [SPEAKER_04]: I feel so bad about the last instance because I could have separated it.
• 43:46
  [SPEAKER_04]: It's a look and back, I see something that could have been changed, but the fun one is the fun one because of a reason.
• 43:52
  [SPEAKER_04]: Fun one, you know you're settling.
• 43:54
  [SPEAKER_04]: You know this is not for you long term.
• 43:56
  [SPEAKER_04]: Matter of fact, any man out there has ever had a pregnancy scare with a fun one?
• 44:01
  [SPEAKER_02]: We'll tell you right then you sit there like this and it's not about to be my life forever I'm not about to be a touch of this part, but you can have fun But a fun one isn't just sexual fun one's like, yo, this this one I hang out with this one Like we laugh and joke, you know all that kind of stuff.
• 44:17
  [SPEAKER_02]: I think that's different time Yeah, I've never I've never like been in that scenario because I don't know Never been in that scenario, but for the context of this conversation how
• 44:25
  [SPEAKER_02]: Do you think you're strong enough to pick especially if that's the phone and that's easy to cut off in if this is somebody will have fun but that can't cut off your friend.
• 44:32
  [SPEAKER_04]: The new person's cut she's not just a friend any time a woman that's a friend chooses to go take a physical with a man she's volunteering the fact that this friendship has an end date now once I find somebody serious.
• 44:44
  [SPEAKER_02]: Well, your described is extremely easy to describe when you're not in that situation.
• 44:50
  [SPEAKER_03]: It's not about it being easy.
• 44:51
  [SPEAKER_03]: It's about it being simple.
• 44:53
  [SPEAKER_03]: It's not simple or easy.
• 44:55
  [SPEAKER_04]: I think it's simple because at the end of the day, I don't get to choose what makes my woman or my potential wife comfortable.
• 45:01
  [SPEAKER_04]: Once she understands the truth of a situation and that she's not comfortable with that, that's something that I've already mentally start preparing myself, that's something I have to let go.
• 45:09
  [SPEAKER_04]: Because I chose to cross a line that I could have just kept it straight French
• 45:13
  [SPEAKER_02]: I'm saying, okay, you're dating a couple people.
• 45:16
  [SPEAKER_02]: I've got one that you spend maybe a little more time with, but you've got this other one that's rising in the ranks.
• 45:21
  [SPEAKER_03]: You have a lot like this.
• 45:22
  [SPEAKER_03]: Okay, got you.
• 45:23
  [SPEAKER_02]: But you both, you have a relationship with both of them.
• 45:26
  [SPEAKER_02]: How would you get out of this conundrum?
• 45:28
  [SPEAKER_02]: Because it's not as easy as just, oh, I'll cut this off.
• 45:31
  [SPEAKER_02]: I don't know, you just care about both of them.
• 45:34
  [SPEAKER_04]: Okay.
• 45:34
  [SPEAKER_04]: How do we approach this?
• 45:35
  [SPEAKER_04]: It's time to have a tough talk.
• 45:36
  [SPEAKER_04]: And I call them and it's like, hey, listen.
• 45:39
  [SPEAKER_04]: I don't feel good about having this conversation like I do feel like I'm not doing you just as by how much fun we've had and I do actually care about you, but I feel like I've mess about it that I want to be intentional about and I feel like us connecting and us hanging out a lot is going to interfere with that and I'm just here to let you know respectfully I'm going to have to call this quits and this is going to be my your last time hearing for me.
• 46:00
  [SPEAKER_04]: Got it, okay.
• 46:02
  [SPEAKER_02]: Can you go any questions?
• 46:04
  [SPEAKER_04]: No, there's that field respectable.
• 46:07
  [SPEAKER_04]: Okay.
• 46:08
  [SPEAKER_02]: Okay.
• 46:08
  [SPEAKER_03]: All right.
• 46:09
  [SPEAKER_03]: Well, I mean, ladies.
• 46:11
  [SPEAKER_03]: No, that's not to say.
• 46:12
  [SPEAKER_03]: That was to Mike Moss.
• 46:14
  [SPEAKER_04]: That's not to segue out.
• 46:15
  [SPEAKER_03]: We not doing that.
• 46:16
  [SPEAKER_03]: Which means we go.
• 46:17
  [SPEAKER_03]: So we run.
• 46:17
  [SPEAKER_02]: This is this thing.
• 46:18
  [SPEAKER_02]: What I'm doing.
• 46:18
  [SPEAKER_02]: This is what I'm doing.
• 46:20
  [SPEAKER_02]: I'm putting you on a platter.
• 46:22
  [SPEAKER_02]: I'm bringing the platter around and you like, you like, you like, though, anybody?
• 46:27
  [SPEAKER_02]: And then somebody's like, what?
• 46:29
  [SPEAKER_02]: I'll try that.
• 46:29
  [SPEAKER_02]: I got questions for you to ask me.
• 46:31
  [SPEAKER_04]: because I think that I think that you've shown.
• 46:35
  [SPEAKER_04]: You've shown what I understand.
• 46:36
  [SPEAKER_04]: You shown what I'm interested on the basic level, but the only thing deep that you talked about me was was my history of cheating.
• 46:41
  [SPEAKER_04]: You didn't talk to, you didn't talk to him.
• 46:43
  [SPEAKER_02]: I was a conversation with him.
• 46:44
  [SPEAKER_02]: I had no idea where, I don't know where the conversation goes through.
• 46:47
  [SPEAKER_02]: That's true.
• 46:48
  [SPEAKER_02]: That's true.
• 46:48
  [SPEAKER_02]: It's not like I'm writing down one of the other ideas.
• 46:51
  [SPEAKER_04]: And that's the reason why I love your conversation.
• 46:52
  [SPEAKER_04]: I just don't understand the, I didn't expect to be on this side of it for this moment.
• 46:57
  [SPEAKER_04]: What's coming back for?
• 46:57
  [SPEAKER_04]: What come back for part?
• 46:58
  [SPEAKER_02]: You cleaned it up pretty good.
• 46:59
  [SPEAKER_04]: I don't, I don't think you clean that up.
• 47:01
  [SPEAKER_04]: I think I, I thought accountability and once I took accountability, I think it phased out.
• 47:06
  [SPEAKER_04]: We was able to move on.
• 47:07
  [SPEAKER_04]: But I was too busy trying to explain my intention but between caring and it just kept putting me to deeper home.
• 47:12
  [SPEAKER_04]: But once I was accountable to it's like, okay, it was wrong.
• 47:15
  [SPEAKER_04]: It should have done it.
• 47:15
  [SPEAKER_04]: It's not going to happen again.
• 47:17
  [SPEAKER_04]: We was able to move on.
• 47:17
  [SPEAKER_03]: You want to do it next?
• 47:19
  [SPEAKER_03]: Yes, absolutely.
• 47:20
  [SPEAKER_03]: Let me see what you want.
• 47:21
  [SPEAKER_03]: You want to see what?
• 47:24
  [SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, what to see.
• 47:25
  [SPEAKER_02]: That's crazy.
• 47:27
  [SPEAKER_02]: Let's see what you got going on.
• 47:29
  [SPEAKER_02]: I just want to see what you got going on if you don't mind.
• 47:31
  [SPEAKER_02]: I just just open one up, I just want to see it.
• 47:34
  [SPEAKER_03]: In clothing, y'all.
• 47:35
  [SPEAKER_03]: Mike, let me just see what you got.
• 47:37
  [SPEAKER_03]: Let me just see what's going on.
• 47:38
  [SPEAKER_02]: I'm going to read the bio, I just want to see what's going on.
• 47:46
  [SPEAKER_03]: Okay, you're 40 right.
• 47:48
  [SPEAKER_03]: I'm 40.
• 47:49
  [SPEAKER_03]: Okay, when you're birthday, um, November 22nd, November 22nd, so was your rising?
• 47:57
  [SPEAKER_03]: That's crazy.
• 47:57
  [SPEAKER_03]: I don't even know my son.
• 48:00
  [SPEAKER_03]: What's how were you born?
• 48:01
  [SPEAKER_03]: Right, 242 a.m.
• 48:03
  [SPEAKER_03]: I know that.
• 48:03
  [SPEAKER_04]: You know that?
• 48:04
  [SPEAKER_04]: Because somebody asked me one time, but I know was for app.
• 48:06
  [SPEAKER_04]: I didn't know why they was asking me.
• 48:07
  [SPEAKER_04]: So I had to call my mom.
• 48:08
  [SPEAKER_04]: I told you
• 48:13
  [SPEAKER_02]: That, you know, it's on your board.
• 48:15
  [SPEAKER_02]: You doing?
• 48:15
  [SPEAKER_02]: Where were you born?
• 48:17
  [SPEAKER_03]: P.O.
• 48:18
  [SPEAKER_03]: Okay, look at that.
• 48:19
  [SPEAKER_03]: I said, I said, I opened the way for you.
• 48:22
  [SPEAKER_03]: All right, come on, let's see.
• 48:23
  [SPEAKER_03]: I'm trying to find.
• 48:24
  [SPEAKER_03]: It's a Facebook day.
• 48:25
  [SPEAKER_03]: And it's, oh, I got my phone at every place.
• 48:27
  [SPEAKER_02]: Facebook has a specific dating app.
• 48:28
  [SPEAKER_02]: Mm-hmm.
• 48:29
  [SPEAKER_02]: Oh.
• 48:30
  [SPEAKER_03]: You have it too?
• 48:32
  [SPEAKER_03]: You're in a dating app?
• 48:33
  [SPEAKER_03]: You got a dating app?
• 48:34
  [SPEAKER_02]: No.
• 48:35
  [SPEAKER_02]: Do you know how to uh, can you never ever gonna get in this conversation?
• 48:38
  [SPEAKER_03]: Are you trying to see the people or you're trying to see my profile?
• 48:41
  [SPEAKER_03]: Do you know how to, but you're only one out of maneuvering.
• 48:43
  [SPEAKER_02]: Figure it out.
• 48:43
  [SPEAKER_04]: No, you're gonna figure out the wrong stuff.
• 48:45
  [SPEAKER_04]: Do you hear, did you hear this one?
• 48:47
  [SPEAKER_04]: No, you don't see her?
• 48:48
  [SPEAKER_04]: No, you have to hear it if you like her.
• 48:50
  [SPEAKER_04]: But I haven't read it in about a yet.
• 48:51
  [SPEAKER_02]: Like her?
• 48:52
  [SPEAKER_04]: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
• 48:53
  [SPEAKER_04]: Everybody.
• 48:54
  [SPEAKER_03]: No, no, no, no, no.
• 48:55
  [SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
• 48:56
  [SPEAKER_04]: I don't I haven't seen it.
• 48:57
  [SPEAKER_04]: That's what you popped up.
• 48:58
  [SPEAKER_04]: What do you hear us here?
• 48:59
  [SPEAKER_04]: Can you can you breathe on the batter?
• 49:01
  [SPEAKER_04]: This is.
• 49:01
  [SPEAKER_04]: How old is she?
• 49:03
  [SPEAKER_03]: She's 30.
• 49:03
  [SPEAKER_04]: Okay.
• 49:04
  [SPEAKER_04]: It's not.
• 49:05
  [SPEAKER_04]: I don't give a whole lot.
• 49:06
  [SPEAKER_04]: But yes, you have to tap the picture and then and then.
• 49:08
  [SPEAKER_04]: Tap the picture.
• 49:09
  [SPEAKER_04]: Okay.
• 49:09
  [SPEAKER_02]: We're talking about.
• 49:11
  [SPEAKER_03]: What does it say?
• 49:12
  [SPEAKER_02]: It just says local located in Atlanta from Atlanta.
• 49:15
  [SPEAKER_02]: Block a report.
• 49:16
  [SPEAKER_02]: I said.
• 49:16
  [SPEAKER_02]: So she don't have.
• 49:18
  [SPEAKER_02]: She's not being intentional.
• 49:19
  [SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.
• 49:21
  [SPEAKER_04]: So she don't care about the app for sure.
• 49:25
  [SPEAKER_04]: I don't.
• 49:26
  [SPEAKER_03]: She's not.
• 49:27
  [SPEAKER_03]: She's not.
• 49:27
  [SPEAKER_03]: She don't care.
• 49:28
  [SPEAKER_02]: Facebook dating.
• 49:29
  [SPEAKER_02]: All right.
• 49:30
  [SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
• 49:32
  [SPEAKER_02]: Okay.
• 49:33
  [SPEAKER_02]: Can you see.
• 49:34
  [SPEAKER_02]: Oh, you can see who liked you.
• 49:36
  [SPEAKER_02]: Uh, yeah.
• 49:36
  [SPEAKER_03]: You can see who liked you.
• 49:37
  [SPEAKER_03]: Okay.
• 49:38
  [SPEAKER_02]: Make you like.
• 49:38
  [SPEAKER_02]: Okay.
• 49:41
  [SPEAKER_02]: I see what's going on.
• 49:42
  [SPEAKER_03]: Are you liking people?
• 49:43
  [SPEAKER_03]: No, I don't like it, bro.
• 49:44
  [SPEAKER_03]: Oh, I'm about to say, Dave, I just want to be here.
• 49:48
  [SPEAKER_02]: Oh, I'm in the matches.
• 49:49
  [SPEAKER_02]: Okay.
• 49:50
  [SPEAKER_02]: Can I just see someone in the conversation?
• 49:51
  [SPEAKER_02]: I won't say no.
• 49:52
  [SPEAKER_03]: No, not for sure.
• 49:53
  [SPEAKER_02]: I don't know what to call here.
• 49:56
  [SPEAKER_03]: What does Courtney look like?
• 49:57
  [SPEAKER_03]: Can I see your face?
• 49:59
  [SPEAKER_03]: I don't be talking to a lot of people.
• 50:02
  [SPEAKER_03]: Okay, can I, can I read your message or just said you don't want to do that, can I said you don't, let me, let me scan it to make sure it's not great.
• 50:19
  [SPEAKER_02]: I'll read the first part, it's clear, and it sounds like your perfect gentleman says, Courtney, you have a beautiful smile, I'm interested in getting to know you, when are you free for a conversation?
• 50:29
  [SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.
• 50:30
  [SPEAKER_02]: That was good.
• 50:31
  [SPEAKER_03]: Cool.
• 50:31
  [SPEAKER_02]: All right.
• 50:32
  [SPEAKER_02]: That's enough.
• 50:34
  [SPEAKER_03]: Thank you, Dave.
• 50:35
  [SPEAKER_04]: I feel like you're not looking for it.
• 50:36
  [SPEAKER_04]: Okay, I'm here.
• 50:37
  [SPEAKER_03]: You're looking for content and I don't know if I'm looking for a conversation Do y'all chose David.
• 50:43
  [SPEAKER_03]: Okay.
• 50:44
  [SPEAKER_02]: I'm just looking for a conversation.
• 50:45
  [SPEAKER_02]: I want to see like the good.
• 50:47
  [SPEAKER_02]: So this is a good conversation.
• 50:48
  [SPEAKER_03]: Okay.
• 50:48
  [SPEAKER_02]: Posh.
• 50:49
  [SPEAKER_02]: Let me see if I. Y'all got a little conversation going.
• 50:54
  [SPEAKER_03]: Well, it's not much, because I don't remember talking to her recently.
• 50:57
  [SPEAKER_02]: So it says, hey, Posh, looking forward to getting to know you.
• 51:00
  [SPEAKER_02]: How's your day going?
• 51:01
  [SPEAKER_02]: Which is good.
• 51:02
  [SPEAKER_02]: She said, it's good, love, how's yours?
• 51:04
  [SPEAKER_02]: And then you say something?
• 51:05
  [SPEAKER_02]: She says something.
• 51:06
  [SPEAKER_03]: You write these paragraphs.
• 51:11
  [SPEAKER_03]: Was nervous, mom?
• 51:12
  [SPEAKER_02]: No, no, it's a bunch of, it's a bag of, you know, but you go in a little more and like you're, you're, it's your speaker.
• 51:19
  [SPEAKER_04]: You're, I don't even think it's a speaker.
• 51:21
  [SPEAKER_04]: I think it's because I'm a man.
• 51:22
  [SPEAKER_04]: And I think a lot of women think man are not intentional, they know.
• 51:25
  [SPEAKER_04]: And so for me, I don't think that I'll find my wife on a date nap.
• 51:29
  [SPEAKER_04]: But I've seen people do it.
• 51:31
  [SPEAKER_04]: So I'm just not cutting off anything.
• 51:34
  [SPEAKER_04]: If I meet somebody genuine on there, I'm just like, oh, don't worry about it.
• 51:36
  [SPEAKER_04]: I don't care.
• 51:36
  [SPEAKER_04]: We met here.
• 51:37
  [SPEAKER_04]: We got it.
• 51:38
  [SPEAKER_04]: I found mine.
• 51:38
  [SPEAKER_04]: That's small.
• 51:39
  [SPEAKER_02]: For real.
• 51:39
  [SPEAKER_02]: We met on Tinder, bro.
• 51:40
  [SPEAKER_02]: Shut up.
• 51:41
  [SPEAKER_02]: I won't lie to you.
• 51:43
  [SPEAKER_02]: We met on Tinder.
• 51:44
  [SPEAKER_02]: Dated a little bit.
• 51:45
  [SPEAKER_02]: Six months later.
• 51:46
  [SPEAKER_02]: We got married.
• 51:48
  [SPEAKER_02]: Bro, okay.
• 51:49
  [SPEAKER_02]: Hold on.
• 51:49
  [SPEAKER_04]: Can we have my many directors down?
• 51:51
  [SPEAKER_04]: Eight years.
• 51:51
  [SPEAKER_02]: Have you talked about this on your podcast?
• 51:54
  [SPEAKER_04]: That's fire.
• 51:56
  [SPEAKER_04]: Do you know anybody else who's who mess somebody in Mary's mouth Tinder?
• 51:59
  [SPEAKER_04]: I don't know about it.
• 51:59
  [SPEAKER_02]: I think I, as I tell my story, people tell me like, oh yeah.
• 52:04
  [SPEAKER_03]: Me too.
• 52:04
  [SPEAKER_03]: We're trying to kind of
• 52:10
  [SPEAKER_03]: Uh, I was always looking for somebody.
• 52:13
  [SPEAKER_03]: Okay, and I feel like that, I think that's why I'm at.
• 52:16
  [SPEAKER_04]: So because like even my hinge, I didn't realize my hinge is not attached right now, but that's the app that I think have the most quality people on it.
• 52:23
  [SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.
• 52:23
  [SPEAKER_04]: But because I'm not.
• 52:27
  [SPEAKER_04]: on them a lot I just I don't care face book is the most new to me so that's the reason why I feel like that's the most fresh I'm looking through like okay cool and I've realized a different cities have different a caliber of people on it's only a type on there too that's only a type don't want you match with okay you don't have a lot of type not only just on my fit of physical let me see your let me see your profile
• 52:52
  [SPEAKER_03]: That's what I was trying to show you.
• 52:53
  [SPEAKER_04]: I was like, did you care about sending a program?
• 52:55
  [SPEAKER_03]: I knew you were.
• 52:57
  [SPEAKER_03]: But I didn't say nothing.
• 52:58
  [SPEAKER_03]: You didn't, you didn't.
• 52:59
  [SPEAKER_03]: But I just... Let me see.
• 53:00
  [SPEAKER_03]: Let me see your profile.
• 53:02
  [SPEAKER_03]: Come on, just see your profile.
• 53:03
  [SPEAKER_03]: No, but you got, you forgot.
• 53:04
  [SPEAKER_02]: You forgot a little type on there now.
• 53:05
  [SPEAKER_02]: Okay, I don't know what that means.
• 53:09
  [SPEAKER_04]: This guy.
• 53:10
  [SPEAKER_03]: It's got different, man.
• 53:12
  [SPEAKER_04]: So I saw Facebook.
• 53:13
  [SPEAKER_04]: I don't think you get a profile because I think it goes to your To your regular profile.
• 53:16
  [SPEAKER_04]: Yeah, I'm just wearing it.
• 53:17
  [SPEAKER_02]: I'm just trying to It keeps bringing you my boss He's available.
• 53:24
  [SPEAKER_02]: How can someone reach out to you without weirding you out?
• 53:28
  [SPEAKER_04]: Oh, so that's a thing if I meet you through social media.
• 53:32
  [SPEAKER_04]: You got to have a reference.
• 53:33
  [SPEAKER_04]: We got to have somebody in common Other than that, I prefer to meet you in person or
• 53:41
  [SPEAKER_04]: something organically.
• 53:42
  [SPEAKER_02]: It has to be someone on people that you match with on that.
• 53:45
  [SPEAKER_04]: But they also don't know what I do.
• 53:47
  [SPEAKER_04]: So it's separate from that.
• 53:48
  [SPEAKER_04]: They don't meet me.
• 53:49
  [SPEAKER_04]: People that meet me on the stage act differently than people that meet me in real life.
• 53:53
  [SPEAKER_02]: So, but I'm saying, what can I send you?
• 53:55
  [SPEAKER_02]: What can someone send a DM to you right now, where you lie, okay?
• 54:02
  [SPEAKER_04]: I think you just say, I understood what you was talking about on the podcast or I didn't like what you just talked about on the podcast, start a conversation, I'm a man.
• 54:10
  [SPEAKER_04]: If I like you back, I'll look through your stuff and I'll see and I'll pursue you, I don't need help doing the other than me knowing that you're out there.
• 54:18
  [SPEAKER_04]: So say something and just make it with a little depth to it.
• 54:24
  [SPEAKER_04]: Hey, I signed the podcast, thought you were cute, my name's
• 54:28
  [SPEAKER_04]: I mean, cool.
• 54:28
  [SPEAKER_04]: Women only want to do that.
• 54:30
  [SPEAKER_04]: And I don't think they should, but what I'm telling them to do because I remember I want to win a comfortable.
• 54:35
  [SPEAKER_04]: Talk about something to have to do with what we're talking about.
• 54:37
  [SPEAKER_04]: I'll take it from there if I'm interested.
• 54:40
  [SPEAKER_04]: Oh, well, Mike, I reached out to you and you didn't really say much back.
• 54:44
  [SPEAKER_04]: It's not because I didn't see it or because I didn't think that enough it is just, I don't want to waste your time.
• 54:50
  [SPEAKER_04]: So I'm going to say, oh, I appreciate you watching, but if I don't ask you more about you, then
• 54:56
  [SPEAKER_04]: I just appreciate that exchange.
• 54:57
  [SPEAKER_04]: Got it.
• 54:58
  [SPEAKER_02]: OK, let's say for us as you were interested in Mike from this conversation, how would you approach it?
• 55:03
  [SPEAKER_02]: Or would you not say, oh, that's a good question.
• 55:06
  [SPEAKER_01]: Okay, that's funny because I I'm having a big issue with that.
• 55:10
  [SPEAKER_01]: Okay.
• 55:10
  [SPEAKER_01]: I don't like approaching men.
• 55:13
  [SPEAKER_01]: I don't feel like I should.
• 55:14
  [SPEAKER_01]: I feel like if you see me and you're interested, you're gonna say something.
• 55:18
  [SPEAKER_02]: So in this scenario, when the scenario is you are you're watching this, just like anybody else is watching and you say to yourself It could be my husband or I mean, I could be a cool date.
• 55:29
  [SPEAKER_02]: You felt me?
• 55:30
  [SPEAKER_02]: How would you so you wouldn't approach and you wouldn't say anything at all?
• 55:34
  [SPEAKER_02]: Like your flirt wouldn't be like, let me follow and maybe LOL a story or nothing.
• 55:40
  [SPEAKER_02]: You do something if you really thought this was a good game.
• 55:42
  [SPEAKER_04]: You wouldn't like a couple of pictures or nothing.
• 55:45
  [SPEAKER_04]: To even let the person know that you see them.
• 55:47
  [SPEAKER_01]: You got a okay.
• 55:50
  [SPEAKER_01]: Because I'm maybe, I'm maybe access to their social media, yeah, maybe.
• 55:54
  [SPEAKER_02]: Because I'm talking about somebody's watching this episode, they reach out.
• 55:58
  [SPEAKER_02]: Like I'm like, oh, okay, I'm in Atlanta.
• 56:00
  [SPEAKER_02]: I'm single this seemed like a cool dude.
• 56:02
  [SPEAKER_02]: You just, you just wouldn't do anything, you just let it pass you by.
• 56:07
  [SPEAKER_04]: I don't think they look at us passing them by, but I think I think a woman, I just think she's a traditional woman and I just think that she prefers being pursued, which is okay.
• 56:17
  [SPEAKER_04]: I just think that it, okay, it cuts down, you know, like,
• 56:22
  [SPEAKER_01]: do I want to do the next episode?
• 56:24
  [SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, because somewhat some some people will reach out to you and pursue you definitely.
• 56:28
  [SPEAKER_01]: We can record it and then if I don't like to get it to leave it.
• 56:32
  [SPEAKER_03]: Oh yeah, she definitely on your team for sure.
• 56:35
  [SPEAKER_03]: She said let me look at it.
• 56:36
  [SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, oh, is that part of the contract can I sign that?
• 56:39
  [SPEAKER_03]: No, so yeah, he don't get it.
• 56:41
  [SPEAKER_02]: All right, first of all, my mom's anything you want to say and conclusion.
• 56:47
  [SPEAKER_03]: I just want to say that.
• 56:49
  [SPEAKER_02]: Real quick, one this is relationships.
• 56:51
  [SPEAKER_04]: Absolutely.
• 56:52
  [SPEAKER_04]: Absolutely.
• 56:53
  [SPEAKER_04]: If you quality, I will make it work.
• 56:55
  [SPEAKER_04]: Yeah.
• 56:56
  [SPEAKER_04]: I literally, I literally just got my first place at 40.
• 57:02
  [SPEAKER_04]: I was living on hotels five days, five days a week for the last 10 or 11 years.
• 57:06
  [SPEAKER_04]: So a lot of people was like, Mike, why don't you have your own place?
• 57:11
  [SPEAKER_04]: It's all the stuff and it was just like, I made a commitment to myself to see the world because I wanted to understand what was out there that I never experienced yet.
• 57:18
  [SPEAKER_04]: And I committed myself to traveling, you know?
• 57:20
  [SPEAKER_04]: over 50, 60 countries later, like, in a bunch of different experiences, I'm glad that I made that investment in myself.
• 57:25
  [SPEAKER_04]: You know what I'm saying?
• 57:26
  [SPEAKER_04]: I wasn't married, I don't have any kids.
• 57:28
  [SPEAKER_04]: So for me, I have to feed them to do that, but I just need to the confidence to be able to be okay doing something that everybody didn't understand.
• 57:34
  [SPEAKER_04]: And now I feel like I'm a little bit more valuable at the result of this.
• 57:37
  [SPEAKER_02]: I love it.
• 57:38
  [SPEAKER_02]: Okay.
• 57:38
  [SPEAKER_02]: Thank you so much, Mike.
• 57:39
  [SPEAKER_02]: Please, uh, to everybody your phone number, so you can text you.
• 57:42
  [SPEAKER_04]: And my phone number is at M-O-S-S-T-A-L-K-S.
• 57:47
  [SPEAKER_04]: Most talks.
• 57:48
  [SPEAKER_04]: That's it.
• 57:49
  [SPEAKER_04]: That's how you can read to me.
• 57:51
  [SPEAKER_03]: And it's gonna go to the tracing process.
• 57:53
  [SPEAKER_02]: But I'll put this whole number in the comments.
• 57:56
  [SPEAKER_02]: Actually, y'all just like that.
• 57:58
  [SPEAKER_02]: We're in the day, even in my stuff being moved.
• 58:05
  [SPEAKER_02]: We'll be hosting PyCans Summit 2026, make sure you all reach out to more Instagram, malls, talks.
• 58:12
  [SPEAKER_02]: I'm going to give people a little code where way to reach out to you without having to reach out to you all like that.
• 58:23
  [SPEAKER_02]: All you have to do is type.
• 58:28
  [SPEAKER_02]: I saw that episode, but I make you look comfortable.
• 58:32
  [SPEAKER_02]: If I gave you that, that instruction like yo, if you watch this, you enjoy this conversation, or you're somewhat interested, just type, I enjoy that episode.
• 58:41
  [SPEAKER_02]: That's what I'm talking about.
• 58:43
  [SPEAKER_02]: In his DM.
• 58:44
  [SPEAKER_02]: Oh yeah.
• 58:45
  [SPEAKER_02]: That's all I'm talking about.
• 58:46
  [SPEAKER_02]: In my DM.
• 58:47
  [SPEAKER_02]: So I'm getting, yeah, I don't get any money.
• 58:48
  [SPEAKER_02]: Genuine was say that too.
• 58:50
  [SPEAKER_02]: Well, but if they watch this, they know not to say that.
• 58:54
  [SPEAKER_02]: They might say, are you what you're about so or more, that or not?
• 58:57
  [SPEAKER_02]: But if I'm trying to give the people like K, yeah, an opportunity to say reach out without having to say, hey, I thought that's something I like it is cute.
• 59:05
  [SPEAKER_02]: I'm telling you
• 59:07
  [SPEAKER_02]: to say, I saw that episode, got you.
• 59:11
  [SPEAKER_03]: I saw the episode is a little dry though, right?
• 59:13
  [SPEAKER_03]: I saw that episode.
• 59:14
  [SPEAKER_03]: Okay.
• 59:15
  [SPEAKER_02]: It got to be, it got to be a little pressure for a person who's watching.
• 59:18
  [SPEAKER_03]: I see.
• 59:19
  [SPEAKER_03]: I saw that episode.
• 59:19
  [SPEAKER_02]: I saw that episode.
• 59:21
  [SPEAKER_02]: That's them saying, I'm feeling, I'm, or I'm open.
• 59:27
  [SPEAKER_02]: Cause that's a little more forward.
• 59:28
  [SPEAKER_02]: K is not a type of, I'm open.
• 59:30
  [SPEAKER_02]: She reminds me I saw that episode.
• 59:31
  [SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
• 59:31
  [SPEAKER_02]: It's not a thing.
• 59:32
  [SPEAKER_03]: You know what I'm saying?
• 59:33
  [SPEAKER_02]: It's potential.
• 59:34
  [SPEAKER_02]: So if you get that DM, just know.
• 59:40
  [SPEAKER_02]: I'm excited for you, Mike.
• 59:41
  [SPEAKER_03]: I doubt it.
• 59:42
  [SPEAKER_03]: But you're gonna get married off of this, bro.
• 59:44
  [SPEAKER_03]: I'm absolutely not.
• 59:47
  [SPEAKER_03]: Watch.
• 59:47
  [SPEAKER_04]: I just told you watch.
• 59:50
  [SPEAKER_04]: You hear all the things, K-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-
• 1:00:05
  [SPEAKER_02]: He said it's something I struggle with.
• 1:00:07
  [SPEAKER_03]: I can only repeat what someone says to me.
• 1:00:10
  [SPEAKER_03]: I didn't say I, but okay, but you're repeating it in a different way.
• 1:00:13
  [SPEAKER_02]: We're back into our money right there.
• 1:00:15
  [SPEAKER_02]: I'm just saying, you said it's something that I struggle with.
• 1:00:19
  [SPEAKER_04]: Yeah, and I just mean mentally.
• 1:00:20
  [SPEAKER_04]: Like I look at that, like, man, that's a stain on my record.
• 1:00:25
  [SPEAKER_04]: It's almost, it's almost about the fact, it's almost about the fact when I lost my virginity 16 and I realized that I could have been a virgin till I was married.
• 1:00:32
  [SPEAKER_04]: I didn't lose my virginity because I just had a weak moment.
• 1:00:35
  [SPEAKER_04]: I lost it because my mom told me it was special, but everybody around me was having sex.
• 1:00:39
  [SPEAKER_04]: And I was just like, I guess I got to find some of my special to do it, and I chose the person that was my best friend at the time.
• 1:00:44
  [SPEAKER_04]: Like I knew it was chosen by I was talking to them.
• 1:00:46
  [SPEAKER_04]: I chose it.
• 1:00:47
  [SPEAKER_03]: You're going to wait for your married?
• 1:00:48
  [SPEAKER_03]: What, tap sex?
• 1:00:50
  [SPEAKER_03]: My God's grace.
• 1:00:51
  [SPEAKER_03]: We'll see, but man.
• 1:00:53
  [SPEAKER_03]: But I promise we, I promise we ain't cheating again.
• 1:00:56
  [SPEAKER_03]: Mm-hmm.
• 1:00:56
  [SPEAKER_03]: Okay.
• 1:00:57
  [SPEAKER_02]: I said, I'm saying that confident, man.
• 1:00:59
  [SPEAKER_02]: Is the woman that's watching us right now, are you saying I want to intentionally wait?
• 1:01:05
  [SPEAKER_02]: No, that's not what I'm saying.
• 1:01:07
  [SPEAKER_04]: I'm saying that I'm working on being able to say that.
• 1:01:12
  [SPEAKER_04]: how are you working on that, right?
• 1:01:13
  [SPEAKER_04]: Take him out time, but while I'm single, not having sex, even though I'm available and free to everybody.
• 1:01:18
  [SPEAKER_04]: I mean, do you remember last time I saw you was like, Mike, I'd be careful out here, I heard some age rates in Atlanta, I was like, that's fine, I'm not having sex with anybody.
• 1:01:24
  [SPEAKER_04]: I can't contract something, you're not doing something to get caught with it.
• 1:01:27
  [SPEAKER_04]: Yeah, it's scary for them people out there, out here, going crazy.
• 1:01:30
  [SPEAKER_03]: But yeah, but me and my apartment.
• 1:01:33
  [SPEAKER_03]: We would be good.
• 1:01:34
  [SPEAKER_03]: We'd be good you.
• 1:01:35
  [SPEAKER_03]: It's real safe in there.
• 1:01:36
  [SPEAKER_02]: Okay It's real safe in there first.
• 1:01:39
  [SPEAKER_02]: All right ladies.
• 1:01:40
  [SPEAKER_02]: It's not invitation by the way.
• 1:01:41
  [SPEAKER_02]: Ladies.
• 1:01:42
  [SPEAKER_03]: It's just a declaration.
• 1:01:43
  [SPEAKER_03]: Mike Moss.
• 1:01:44
  [SPEAKER_02]: I'll deliver to them Okay, and I'll get a search and find all these single men in Atlanta and you serve them up on a plate for these ladies.
• 1:01:53
  [SPEAKER_03]: Yeah Good luck fellas.
• 1:01:55
  [SPEAKER_03]: I hope you'll have a better shot than I did man
• 1:01:57
  [SPEAKER_02]: And you do good, you do good.
• 1:01:59
  [SPEAKER_02]: Well, that's the latter end.
• 1:02:00
  [SPEAKER_02]: If they stop watching in like the first 20 minutes, then it's over, but if they watch, they'll see your heart.
• 1:02:06
  [SPEAKER_03]: All right, any closing words?
• 1:02:08
  [SPEAKER_03]: Oh, no, when we yout deserved to love that you won't, please don't settle for nothing that you know is not for you.
• 1:02:15
  [SPEAKER_04]: You don't have to see it to believe that it can happen for you.
• 1:02:19
  [SPEAKER_04]: There's a billion people in the world.
• 1:02:21
  [SPEAKER_04]: Everybody's not for everybody.
• 1:02:22
  [SPEAKER_04]: There's a lot more men than there are women and thank God because there's a lot of people out there wasting people's time.
• 1:02:27
  [SPEAKER_04]: Let them people go through the screens.
• 1:02:29
  [SPEAKER_04]: Let them go through your process.
• 1:02:30
  [SPEAKER_04]: The easiest way to expose a man is with time.
• 1:02:33
  [SPEAKER_04]: Listen to me again.
• 1:02:34
  [SPEAKER_04]: The easiest way to expose a man is with time.
• 1:02:37
  [SPEAKER_04]: he will give you the world in seconds.
• 1:02:39
  [SPEAKER_04]: But if you make him wait, he'll reveal himself.
• 1:02:41
  [SPEAKER_04]: Amanda don't want to spend time.
• 1:02:42
  [SPEAKER_04]: Don't have it.
• 1:02:43
  [SPEAKER_03]: He won't give it.
• 1:02:44
  [SPEAKER_04]: Wait for what it is that you want to give up or what it is that you want to see and you'll get what you want or you'll get rid of what you don't.
• 1:02:52
  [SPEAKER_02]: Boom, there we go.
• 1:02:53
  [SPEAKER_02]: Senator message all and be a podcast on the podcast on the dot com.
• 1:02:57
  [SPEAKER_02]: We'll see you there, peace.