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Mastering the Art of Letting Go with Toni Thrash · Start Your Comeback: Rebuilding after Divorce, Empty Nest, and Loss of Spouse

• 0:00
  Speaker 1: Is there a major life transition benching you?
• 0:02
  Speaker 1: I know you may be asking what's next?
• 0:06
  Speaker 1: What's my purpose?
• 0:07
  Speaker 1: What if?
• 0:08
  Speaker 1: Because I've asked those too.
• 0:11
  Speaker 1: Welcome to the Start your Comeback Podcast.
• 0:14
  Speaker 1: I'm Toni Thrash, a certified life coach, and I want to share the tools and practical steps to help you create a winning game plan to move into your new adventure.
• 0:25
  Speaker 1: Hi, welcome back.
• 0:57
  Speaker 1: You are listening to episode 51.
• 1:00
  Speaker 1: I'm so glad you're here.
• 1:03
  Speaker 1: Last week you heard me discuss the need to learn to listen to the sound of you.
• 1:07
  Speaker 1: That means taking that first 20 minutes of the day to just listen, without any screens available.
• 1:15
  Speaker 1: But this week I want to discuss the art of letting go.
• 1:20
  Speaker 1: As a rule, as we learn to let go, we find we are more present in our reality and not in a brain fog.
• 1:29
  Speaker 1: We see a shift happen.
• 1:31
  Speaker 1: This shift is imperative if we are going to get past the junk.
• 1:35
  Speaker 1: This shift and the following action steps are required before we can take the steps toward healing.
• 1:41
  Speaker 1: We need, as we walk through transitions, letting go of our past, our mistakes or someone who no longer has the right to be there, or maybe a job has to happen before we can transition.
• 2:00
  Speaker 1: Not letting go steals valuable time, energy and mental stamina from us.
• 2:06
  Speaker 1: I'm learning to let go of some things that are sucking my time from me.
• 2:09
  Speaker 1: They're good things, but I'm putting them on a shelf to return to later.
• 2:14
  Speaker 1: It is a seesaw of emotions for me, as it will be for you.
• 2:18
  Speaker 1: It's good for me to walk away and lean into new adventures.
• 2:24
  Speaker 1: Here are three questions I want you to ask yourself when you are in this letting go step.
• 2:31
  Speaker 1: Okay, the first one is are you ready to let go?
• 2:35
  Speaker 1: If the answer is yes, then the next step is pure courage and risk.
• 2:41
  Speaker 1: You've decided to leave behind what is no longer working for you.
• 2:46
  Speaker 1: That's great.
• 2:48
  Speaker 1: Then we can map it out and get ready to build that game plan.
• 2:51
  Speaker 1: But if the answer is no, and yet you still have that nudge of saying I need to let this go, but you're not quite there, then there's still a little bit of work for you to do, and that's okay, there's no shame in this.
• 3:07
  Speaker 1: Just do the work that you need to get you to the place that you need to be.
• 3:12
  Speaker 1: Number two, then what are those steps for letting go?
• 3:18
  Speaker 1: You see, this part of the process is a must mental exercise with your coach, because, as a coach, this is an important part because, as we move into the map it out stage in a couple of weeks, it will help to build that game plan to help you move forward.
• 3:36
  Speaker 1: Number three how will you overcome the obstacles that challenge your letting go?
• 3:42
  Speaker 1: People will say things because that's what they do, but you have to prepare how you will handle the unexpected obstacles.
• 3:53
  Speaker 1: So it's good for us to actually maybe think of some of the obstacles that could pop in our way, and this is a brainstorming exercise to help you see where these obstacles are and to expect them.
• 4:06
  Speaker 1: Please do not think that letting go just happens.
• 4:11
  Speaker 1: It takes time and it's hard.
• 4:13
  Speaker 1: The important thing is you have decided that this is no longer working for you and you are taking that imperative first step, which is a mental shift that will lead you down the path to your freedom.
• 4:27
  Speaker 1: So here are three things I want you to start thinking about as you prepare to let go of something, someone or a job or whatever it is that you need to let go of, maybe just a bad habit.
• 4:45
  Speaker 1: The first thing is this I want you to begin to expect the best possible outcome.
• 4:53
  Speaker 1: Here's why If we don't have the expectation of the best possible outcome, then we stay stuck because our belief system is still in the muck and there's still fear attached.
• 5:07
  Speaker 1: And what do those expectations look like?
• 5:10
  Speaker 1: Write them down, glue them to a wall or tattoo them on your arm.
• 5:15
  Speaker 1: Expecting leads to a mental shift, to know it is now time to let go.
• 5:22
  Speaker 1: You see, when I pray, I expect God to answer.
• 5:25
  Speaker 1: He has always answered.
• 5:28
  Speaker 1: If that expectation wasn't there, then I have zero hope.
• 5:33
  Speaker 1: Number two I want you to be kind to yourself.
• 5:38
  Speaker 1: Turn off that noise and don't listen to the voice which always has had a negative reminder who do you think you are?
• 5:48
  Speaker 1: You can't do that.
• 5:49
  Speaker 1: You see, you can talk yourself out of anything, but I want you to now talk yourself into something that is healthy and rewarding, and sometimes we don't know what that is, and that is why we need a coach.
• 6:05
  Speaker 1: And number three, finally, the last thing I want you to have is resolve that life doesn't have to be redundant.
• 6:14
  Speaker 1: You have the choice to build a life, regardless of the transition, that is beautiful and fulfilling.
• 6:22
  Speaker 1: You may not see it just yet.
• 6:24
  Speaker 1: I see it and I believe in you.
• 6:26
  Speaker 1: Sometimes that transition is the only way to get us to move out of the box that we've built around ourselves.
• 6:34
  Speaker 1: Letting go is one of the hardest things we will ever do.
• 6:38
  Speaker 1: It's painful, terrifying, it's beautiful and exhilarating.
• 6:45
  Speaker 1: All of these emotions are essential to letting go.
• 6:48
  Speaker 1: Let go of what you think needs to happen and trust in the process and how God changes your perspective.
• 6:56
  Speaker 1: After all, any transition is always a letting go shift we need to make.
• 7:03
  Speaker 1: Please let go of what people will think, because this is sure to keep you in on the bench and trapped.
• 7:11
  Speaker 1: So, are you struggling with letting go of someone or something or a belief system that you had?
• 7:17
  Speaker 1: I know firsthand that it is so hard and yet, with a new game plan, it's hopeful.
• 7:25
  Speaker 1: I would love to be part of your journey to letting go, of your journey to letting go.
• 7:34
  Speaker 1: I have a free discovery call and would love to discover with you the steps needed for you to let go and to move forward.
• 7:38
  Speaker 1: Just hit the calendar link in the show notes and book that call now.
• 7:43
  Speaker 1: That's it for this week, but join me next week as I discuss part three of the Sound of you series.
• 7:49
  Speaker 1: Mapping it out, I'll get you off the bench to start your comeback.
• 7:55
  Speaker 1: I want to give a special shout out to Country Club for the original music.
• 8:16
  Speaker 1: You can find them on Instagram at Country Club.
• 8:20
  Speaker 1: Thank you.