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Ally doesn't nag, she just suggests 1 · Scott & Ally on Demand

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  SPEAKER_01: Yes, we have a good everyone from Ileana and Lauren.
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  SPEAKER_01: So we're good there.
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  SPEAKER_01: Uh let's see here.
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  SPEAKER_01: And a T G I Fetty's in there with a good morning.
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  SPEAKER_02: Uh-huh.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I'm sorry, but she said uh good morning.
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  SPEAKER_01: Uh good or no.
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  SPEAKER_02: But what?
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  SPEAKER_01: Betty's grammatical writing always throws me off for some reason.
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  SPEAKER_01: She goes, Beautiful morning, good everyone.
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  SPEAKER_01: I mean, it's only four words, but for whatever reason, it's the pattern of the way it lays out.
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  SPEAKER_01: I'm not used to speaking the way she does.
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  SPEAKER_01: Right, because whoa, whoa, whoa.
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  SPEAKER_02: You want to cough that out?
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  SPEAKER_02: I was just choking on some coffee and I didn't I didn't realize it actually like affected my voice.
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  SPEAKER_02: Anyway, um, yeah, because you usually start off with good everyone.
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  SPEAKER_01: And then beautiful people.
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  SPEAKER_01: Oh, what a beautiful Maybe I'm not used to seeing beautiful or seeing beautiful around my name.
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  SPEAKER_01: That could be what it was.
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  SPEAKER_01: Oh, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes.
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  SPEAKER_02: Uh then Gavin was testing the the text messaging.
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  SPEAKER_02: Did you see this?
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  SPEAKER_02: No.
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  SPEAKER_02: Test.
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  SPEAKER_01: Thank you, Gavin.
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  SPEAKER_01: It worked.
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  SPEAKER_01: Hey, today is a great day for you.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I'm gonna I wanna mention this.
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  SPEAKER_01: There are different levels of this.
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  SPEAKER_01: Today is International Nagging Day.
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  SPEAKER_01: And here's the thing about this.
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  SPEAKER_02: Oh, you think I nag?
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  SPEAKER_01: No.
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  SPEAKER_01: I think well, yes, but you do it different.
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  SPEAKER_01: Oh, do I?
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  SPEAKER_01: So here's the thing.
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  SPEAKER_01: So it's I'm gonna I'm gonna pay a compliment right up front here.
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  SPEAKER_01: Wow.
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  SPEAKER_01: Tiffany is not a nager.
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  SPEAKER_01: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_01: She will abuse me with put downs in a beautiful way.
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  SPEAKER_01: Uh-huh.
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  SPEAKER_01: You know.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's a theme in your life.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's subtle, but you know, also I know it's not it's not nasty.
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  SPEAKER_01: Like I think she's, you know, in her very dry way, uh-huh, you know, uh teasing me.
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  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_01: But it's not nagging, uh, per se, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: I'm probably the nager in the house.
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  SPEAKER_01: In fact, I probably drive her BS crazy because she likes to do things at her own pace.
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  SPEAKER_01: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_01: I struggle with her pace.
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  SPEAKER_01: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_02: Let's say So roles are um well, in typical households, you would say roles would be reversed in yours.
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  SPEAKER_01: I would.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I'll give you the example.
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  SPEAKER_02: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_01: She always comes through on birthdays for like the kids, you know, like with what we're planning.
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  SPEAKER_01: The problem is it's always three days before the birthday, and I'm in full panic mode.
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  SPEAKER_01: I can do it.
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  SPEAKER_01: She'll tell me afterwards.
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  SPEAKER_01: I've had that ordered for six weeks, and I'm like, oh my god.
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  SPEAKER_02: You have to over-communicate with Scott.
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  SPEAKER_01: So, yep, yep.
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  SPEAKER_01: Yep.
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  SPEAKER_01: Yep.
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  SPEAKER_01: So what happens?
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  SPEAKER_02: Oh, I parted, let me tell Scott.
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  SPEAKER_01: Yep.
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  SPEAKER_01: So what happens is broke a toe, tell Scott.
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  SPEAKER_01: I have begun the nagging process and I drive her, like I said, I drive her crazy.
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  SPEAKER_01: And it's just something I need to get over.
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  SPEAKER_01: I may have to schedule a session with uh the therapist.
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  SPEAKER_01: But uh I I can't because I'm used to uh look, I used to be very last minute.
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  SPEAKER_02: Uh-huh.
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  SPEAKER_01: But then for some reason something changed, and I'm like, I gotta get a little bit ahead, and it causes me to do that.
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  SPEAKER_02: I think I know what it is.
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  SPEAKER_02: Once you got full custody of the kids, then it's this is all me.
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  SPEAKER_02: Like there is no so you knew that if anything fell behind, there's no one.
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  SPEAKER_02: I mean, yes, you have Tiffany, but like you are the person.
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  SPEAKER_01: There's yeah, that's I think that sub subconsciously probably was a big piece of it.
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  SPEAKER_02: I feel like that's when the change happened.
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  SPEAKER_01: So that that I will say, I freely admit that I'm the jackass with that.
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  SPEAKER_01: Now let me go over to Allie.
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  SPEAKER_01: Allie handles things a little bit differently.
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  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, there's nagging, but it's not nagging in the traditional sense.
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  SPEAKER_01: I don't I don't like this word.
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  SPEAKER_01: It is very snarky and very just, you know, cutesy jabsy.
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  SPEAKER_01: Do you ever cross that passive aggressive?
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  SPEAKER_01: That's the word.
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  SPEAKER_01: Uh do you ever cross the line though and go full in?
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  SPEAKER_01: Like, I don't know, maybe Zach's just too nagged?
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  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, maybe Zach's too afraid of you and and just make sure that stuff gets done.
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  SPEAKER_02: But uh so uh two things.
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  SPEAKER_02: Number one, I I don't consider it nagging because you should have done it the first time.
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  SPEAKER_01: And so Oh if that's not justification and it's fine.
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  SPEAKER_02: It's not.
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  SPEAKER_02: It's just being a team player.
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  SPEAKER_02: And then the second I can't deny it.
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  SPEAKER_02: And the second thing is, no, I don't, I'm not a full on I don't first of all, I don't have to tell him over and over and over again.
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  SPEAKER_01: Because he's terrified of you, I don't like it.
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  SPEAKER_02: Well, so he said the other day, he goes, I just don't ever want to disappoint you.
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  SPEAKER_01: Oh, that's terrification.
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  SPEAKER_01: Oh, it absolutely is.
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  SPEAKER_01: Terrification invented a word.
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  SPEAKER_02: But it absolutely is.
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  SPEAKER_02: But even the other day And you love it.
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  SPEAKER_02: I do.
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  SPEAKER_02: Even the other day, I made dinner.
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  SPEAKER_02: We have a little thing in our household.
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  SPEAKER_02: If you make dinner, then the other person cleans up.
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  SPEAKER_02: Because we're a team.
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  SPEAKER_01: Sure.
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  SPEAKER_02: And and so he didn't do the dishes.
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  SPEAKER_02: So the next day, he was talking about just, you know, eventually when he moves in, and he was like, Oh, you know, I gotta keep my weight around here.
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  SPEAKER_02: And I said, Oh, like when you didn't do the dishes last night.
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  SPEAKER_02: No.
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  SPEAKER_02: See, that's where it happened.
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  SPEAKER_02: See, there it is.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's it's not really nagging in the traditional sense, it's just a good jab, you know?
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  SPEAKER_02: And he's like, I knew it, I knew that was gonna come back on me.
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  SPEAKER_01: I knew, and oh look at uh yes, go ahead.
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  SPEAKER_01: I want to hear your audio text, yeah.
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  SPEAKER_00: Oh my god, he's just clothes everywhere.
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  SPEAKER_00: He'll wear a shirt for a few hours and then he'll throw it on a dresser or the desk or something, and then he'll have a pile of clothes that he's worn for maybe a couple hours, and then they just sit there in a pile.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's like, oh my gosh, dude, just let me wash it and put it away.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then eventually I collect a lot of clothes and wash it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, where did that go?
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  SPEAKER_00: Like I leave a lot of people.
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  SPEAKER_02: Oh, see.
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  SPEAKER_02: I I I'm actually with I'm actually with him on this.
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  SPEAKER_02: I have you know, things get sweaty dirty.
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  SPEAKER_02: Yes yesterday, we were standing by the smoker at the farmer's market.
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  SPEAKER_02: My my clothes smelled like chicken barbecue.
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  SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_02: That is absolutely going in the wash.
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  SPEAKER_01: Absolutely.
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  SPEAKER_02: But these pants I'm wearing today, I only wore them for a very brief time.
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  SPEAKER_02: So they've been living.
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  SPEAKER_02: There's I have this like little vanity thing.
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  SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_02: They've been like hanging.
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  SPEAKER_01: Ah, that's fine.
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  SPEAKER_01: That that's not okay.
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  SPEAKER_02: It's closed purgatory, is what I like to call it.
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  SPEAKER_01: Close purgatory.
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  SPEAKER_02: Yes, it's not ready.
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  SPEAKER_02: It's not ready for laundry, and it's about to go back on my bottom.
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  SPEAKER_01: I'll give you one other example of Tiffany's not really nagging, just taking a good.
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  SPEAKER_01: Oh, I love this.
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  SPEAKER_01: So uh she's on this new kick now that all clothes must be turned right side right before it goes in the laundry to get the dog hair off.
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  SPEAKER_01: Now, it makes total sense.
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  SPEAKER_01: And and admittedly, it takes me a ramping in period to be able to absorb the orders you're giving.
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  SPEAKER_01: Not gonna lie about that.
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  SPEAKER_01: So uh instead of did you well, there's two things.
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  SPEAKER_02: Wait, wait, wait.
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  SPEAKER_02: Are you saying you take your pants off and it's like they're inside out?
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  SPEAKER_02: No, please don't.
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  SPEAKER_01: Um, no, uh, yeah.
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  SPEAKER_01: So if they're wrong side, right.
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  SPEAKER_02: Yeah, but you take your pants off and it's like you flip them inside out?
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  SPEAKER_01: No, you flip them the right way.
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  SPEAKER_01: You know when you take it.
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  SPEAKER_01: No, no, no, no, no.
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  SPEAKER_02: When you're taking your pants off.
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  SPEAKER_02: I'm not talking about before the laundry.
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  SPEAKER_02: I'm saying you are end of day taking your pants off.
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  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_02: Do you take them off and then all of a sudden the inside is on the outside?
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  SPEAKER_01: No, if that happens, you have to turn it the right way.
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  SPEAKER_01: Of course.
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  SPEAKER_01: That's yes.
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  SPEAKER_02: I never my clothes are rarely flipped.
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  SPEAKER_01: Where they're inside out.
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  SPEAKER_02: Correct.
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  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_01: So that being said, okay, uh, what she'll do is it'll start like this.
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  SPEAKER_01: It first it starts like this.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I don't know, you guys can tell me if this is nagging.
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  SPEAKER_01: I don't think it is.
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  SPEAKER_01: I think this is just her way to, you know, stick it to me.
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  SPEAKER_01: So she'll give me the the the first will be Did you turn all the clothes right side right side out or right side in, inside right, whatever the word is.
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  SPEAKER_01: The way we're the right way.
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  SPEAKER_01: The way that you would wear them.
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  SPEAKER_01: And as I'm in the middle of saying, why yes, I mmm.
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  SPEAKER_01: Oh, back to the mm-hmm.
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  SPEAKER_01: Go back to the podcast.
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  SPEAKER_01: You'll catch that one.
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  SPEAKER_01: So that'll be the first round of it.
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  SPEAKER_01: The next round of it becomes you didn't turn it right side right, did you?
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  SPEAKER_01: I'm like, but I I did.
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  SPEAKER_01: Like, she's already in this denial phase of me doing anything right.
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  SPEAKER_02: I'm like, go back and yeah, but then do you go back and check?
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  SPEAKER_02: Like, I'm not sure, I'm really not sure.
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  SPEAKER_01: I you're damn right I do, because I'm like, I'm not getting this butt kicked.
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  SPEAKER_02: I know where my bread is butter.
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  SPEAKER_01: You're damn right.