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205. Tunde Oyeneyin, Peloton Instructor · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: When I say no, it opens up space for the
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  Speaker 1: hell yes somewhere else. Sometimes I will say no to
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  Speaker 1: something so that I can say yes to protecting my piece.
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  Speaker 2: Hey, everybody, Emily Abadi coming to you from the Age Studio.
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  Speaker 2: You are listening to episode two hundred and five of Hurdle,
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  Speaker 2: a wellness focus podcast where I connect with everyone from
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  Speaker 2: your favorite athletes to top experts and industry CEOs about
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  Speaker 2: their highest highs, toughest moments, and everything in between. We
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  Speaker 2: all go through hurdles in life, and my goal through
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  Speaker 2: these discussions is to empower you to better navigate yours
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  Speaker 2: and move with intention so that you can stride towards
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  Speaker 2: your own big potential and of course have some fun
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  Speaker 2: along the way. Today I am bringing you up my
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  Speaker 2: conversation with tonday Oi Nane that you know and.
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  Speaker 3: Love her from the Peloton Bike.
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  Speaker 2: This is her third appearance here on Hurdle, and I
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  Speaker 2: am so so excited to have her here talking about
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  Speaker 2: a bunch of things, including her upcoming book Speak, Find
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  Speaker 2: your voice, trust your gut, and get from where you
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  Speaker 2: are to where you want to be.
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  Speaker 3: For today's episode, we're really catching up.
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  Speaker 2: We're talking about the last couple of years and a
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  Speaker 2: lot of the really special topics that are in her book.
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  Speaker 2: You know, this woman crazy busy leading. After this launch,
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  Speaker 2: we're chatting about what soul care, as she loves to
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  Speaker 2: call it, looks like these days, a topic she introduced
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  Speaker 2: on the show last time. Also how it feels for
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  Speaker 2: her to be more established in her career right now.
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  Speaker 2: She opens her book, I'm a fitness instructor and a
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  Speaker 2: Nike athlete, And these are two designations, two ways she
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  Speaker 2: identifies that have really come into light over the last
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  Speaker 2: few years. She's really stepped into this beautiful role as
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  Speaker 2: a peloton instructor. She landed this really amazing opportunity with Nike,
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  Speaker 2: and I ask her how she feels about that, How
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  Speaker 2: she feels when she closes her eyes and puts herself
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  Speaker 2: maybe into the body of her younger self.
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  Speaker 3: Would she even believe it?
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  Speaker 2: We also talk about the idea of your calling and
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  Speaker 2: if everyone has the same opportunity to lead a life
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  Speaker 2: where you get to chase that calling, how to navigate
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  Speaker 2: unexpected challenges, how to embrace authenticity, and what else She's
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  Speaker 2: excited about where she's going, what's coming next. So much
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  Speaker 2: goodness in this conversation. So grateful for my girl tune
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  Speaker 2: day and her time. And I'm also really amped a
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  Speaker 2: going to her live show this week in New York City.
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  Speaker 3: Love supporting my people.
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  Speaker 2: I love the vibe of this conversation and happy to
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  Speaker 2: share it with you.
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  Speaker 3: I'm coming off of a really special trip to Germany.
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  Speaker 2: I went out there to attend the Adidas Roads to
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  Speaker 2: Records event. They ran a three different distance races is
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  Speaker 2: the five k to ten k and the half marathon,
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  Speaker 2: encouraging some of their professional athletes to go after new
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  Speaker 2: personal records. And the whole environment super motivating, super exciting.
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  Speaker 2: I'm so grateful that I got to be a part
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  Speaker 2: of it. It was great to have some time strolling
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  Speaker 2: around the streets of a town called Erlog in my
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  Speaker 2: German not good after all of the festivities were done,
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  Speaker 2: and getting my German fear and gelato and yeah, it
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  Speaker 2: was just a nice little.
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  Speaker 3: Breath of fresh air.
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  Speaker 2: Spring has sprung and I am feeling amped. Make sure
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  Speaker 2: you're following along with the show over at Hurdle podcast.
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  Speaker 2: this are in the show notes. With that, let's get
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  Speaker 2: to hurdling.
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  Speaker 1: Today.
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  Speaker 2: I am sitting down with my girl tune day. How
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  Speaker 2: you doing today, my friend?
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  Speaker 1: Hey, you're off? Hey, Hey, how are you okay?
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  Speaker 2: I'm good, I'm good. You are joining an elite club
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  Speaker 2: of people. This is your third appearance on Hurdle. Your
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  Speaker 2: first appearance on Hurdle back in February twenty twenty one,
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  Speaker 2: your second appearance May twenty twenty one.
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  Speaker 4: It's been a minute.
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  Speaker 1: I know. I thought this was gonna be like a
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  Speaker 1: once a quarter thing, but I'm down with once a year.
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  Speaker 2: But if you wanted to be once a quarter, girlfriend,
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  Speaker 2: I'm sure we can find something to talk about.
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  Speaker 4: What's a quarter? How are we feeling?
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  Speaker 1: I'm doing good today with a little bit of a
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  Speaker 1: wild day and still I'm doing pretty great, very energized. Today.
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  Speaker 1: I feeling good.
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  Speaker 2: If you had to pick two highlights, I know two
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  Speaker 2: is like not many, but two from the last year
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  Speaker 2: since we last spoke.
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  Speaker 4: Do you have anything to pop in with me?
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  Speaker 1: One? I have a book coming out on May third
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  Speaker 1: called Speak Find your Voice, Trust your gut, and get
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  Speaker 1: from where you are to where you want to be.
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  Speaker 1: In the third grade, I said that I wanted to
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  Speaker 1: write a book before I'd lived the lessons that I
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  Speaker 1: will speak to in this book. And so now that
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  Speaker 1: moment's here, that moment's arrived at feels really good. And
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  Speaker 1: then number two, I am Nike's first ever trainer to
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  Speaker 1: be named Nike Athlete, and so to have a partnership
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  Speaker 1: with Nike, to be the first anything with Nike is
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  Speaker 1: like beyond beyond what I would have ever thought was possible.
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  Speaker 1: So yeah, girl, so many when in the last three
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  Speaker 1: hundred and sixty five days, And with that is so
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  Speaker 1: much gratitude, an immense level of gratitude not only for
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  Speaker 1: all the opportunities, but to the community at Heloton who's
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  Speaker 1: made this possible for me. Gratitude with self for believing
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  Speaker 1: myself worthy, for believing myself able, capable, for trying, for
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  Speaker 1: never giving up. Lots of gratitude.
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  Speaker 2: Before we talk about speak, I want to touch on
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  Speaker 2: something knowing how busy that you've been and how busy
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  Speaker 2: you've embraced being as of recently that you and I
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  Speaker 2: spoke about, I believe it was your first episode of
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  Speaker 2: hurdle and which I know that you do speak too often,
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  Speaker 2: and that is the idea of soul care. How is Tunday,
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  Speaker 2: in the craziness of everything that's going on, making sure
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  Speaker 2: I'm looking at you.
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  Speaker 4: To get that soul care.
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  Speaker 1: It's tough. Let me not mislead you my soul care.
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  Speaker 1: In the last few weeks, as we're leading up to
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  Speaker 1: this tour, my soul care has come in like little
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  Speaker 1: micro doses of soul care, like five minutes here, five
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  Speaker 1: minutes there, three minutes pure, a minute of stillness there,
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  Speaker 1: a song that I play on repeat, like that's one
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  Speaker 1: of the things I do play the same song. My
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  Speaker 1: soul care comes in doses. You know I've said this before,
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  Speaker 1: but you know soul care for me, sometimes it's just
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  Speaker 1: say no. When I say no, it opens up space
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  Speaker 1: for hell yes somewhere else. Sometimes I will say no
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  Speaker 1: to something so that I can say yes to protecting
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  Speaker 1: my piece, because if my piece isn't protected, if I'm
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  Speaker 1: not good, then what is it for. Yeah, I have
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  Speaker 1: to be good to me so that I can be
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  Speaker 1: good to other people. When I'm not showing up for myself,
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  Speaker 1: I'm not showing up for other people. My job requires
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  Speaker 1: me to show up for other people. And so if
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  Speaker 1: I can't do that for self first, then I have
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  Speaker 1: nothing to pour.
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  Speaker 2: When you are super burnt out, where do you dig
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  Speaker 2: from for the gratitude in what you do to keep
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  Speaker 2: showing up anyway? Because I know that that's where you
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  Speaker 2: have to reach in those really tough moments people.
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  Speaker 1: I'm big on energy and frequency and vibe and feeling
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  Speaker 1: people's vibes. Like you know, it'll be a Saturday and
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  Speaker 1: I'm in that studio and then Alex Hussaint walks in,
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  Speaker 1: and Alex like carries a high vibration. He just walks
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  Speaker 1: around nightly. You know. Adriane is another one where I
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  Speaker 1: almost feel uncomfortable being in a bad mood around Adriane
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  Speaker 1: because he's just pure sunshine. And so I absorb that
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  Speaker 1: stuff my friends. I have friends who will remind me,
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  Speaker 1: like you know, of the beginning and then when someone
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  Speaker 1: faces you, you and you have to stand in front
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  Speaker 1: of a mirror and see your reflection and recall or
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  Speaker 1: count on the beginning. Two. There's so much gratitude in
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  Speaker 1: that we are so busy chasing the goal that not
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  Speaker 1: only do we not enjoy the journey, but we often
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  Speaker 1: we're moving so straight ahead, even though success isn't only near,
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  Speaker 1: it's up and down, highs, low's valleys, dips, bends, misdirections,
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  Speaker 1: right direction. We are so focused on ahead that we
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  Speaker 1: forget to look back. And when you look back, you
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  Speaker 1: can see all the shit. You can see all of
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  Speaker 1: the friction. You can see everything that you moved through.
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  Speaker 1: My friends, they're they're the mirror. They're the mirror that
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  Speaker 1: that I see my reflection and they remind me. And
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  Speaker 1: you can't but feel gratitude when you remember.
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  Speaker 2: Definitely, definitely, And I love how when I asked you
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  Speaker 2: two of the things that really resonated with you from
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  Speaker 2: this past year or two of your highlights, you undoubtedly
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  Speaker 2: said the book coming out shortly, but also mentioned being
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  Speaker 2: a Nike athlete. And I noticed, because spoiler alert, I've
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  Speaker 2: seen your book that the first line of it you write,
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  Speaker 2: I'm a fitness instructor and Nike athlete. Now, when I
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  Speaker 2: say that back to you, if you close your eyes
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  Speaker 2: right now and like put your current self in the
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  Speaker 2: body of Tune day a decade ago, how does that
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  Speaker 2: make you feel?
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  Speaker 1: Twenty six? Tun Ate twenty six makes me feel proud
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  Speaker 1: of myself, proud of myself for believing myself.
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  Speaker 4: And what do you mean by believing yourself, not.
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  Speaker 1: Believing that it was worthy, believing myself worth be capable
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  Speaker 1: believing my intuition. You know, I think it was the
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  Speaker 1: first time. Remember was second time we met via podcast World,
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  Speaker 1: and I talked about that blue light experience where I
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  Speaker 1: saw this, this, this time, everything that's happening right now,
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  Speaker 1: I saw this in a vision. After my very first
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  Speaker 1: cycling class, I knew that I'd be cycling for the
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  Speaker 1: rest of my life. I knew that I'd be teaching it.
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  Speaker 1: I knew that i'd be teaching it on the world's
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  Speaker 1: with this platform able to connect with tens of thousands
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  Speaker 1: of millions of people. After my very first second class,
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  Speaker 1: without knowing what Peloton was, I saw it. I was clear,
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  Speaker 1: it was clear, and I was certain. I am so
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  Speaker 1: proud of myself for trusting that divine download. I am
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  Speaker 1: so proud of myself for believing that intuition listening to
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  Speaker 1: its call. I could have easily said it was a
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  Speaker 1: dre dream, Oh I'm just thinking about something, But instead
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  Speaker 1: I trusted it for what it was, and that's hard
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  Speaker 1: to do. Authenticity is the intersection of trust and truth.
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  Speaker 1: Authenticity is the intersection of trust and truth when you
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  Speaker 1: trust yourself enough to show up as you truly are.
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  Speaker 1: I'm proud that in this moment, I am able to
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  Speaker 1: show up as me because me, I am good enough.
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  Speaker 1: I am not perfect, I do not pretend to be,
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  Speaker 1: and I am me, and that's good enough.
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  Speaker 2: In the way that you speak, and I you know,
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  Speaker 2: it's funny because I've learned so much about the way
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  Speaker 2: that I speak from editing myself over and over and
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  Speaker 2: over again, as I'm sure you've learned a lot about
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  Speaker 2: the way that you speak, watching your classes over and
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  Speaker 2: over and over again and seeing the you know, the
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  Speaker 2: Instagram posts of the things that you're saying.
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  Speaker 4: Over and over and over again.
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  Speaker 2: But one of the things I love about the way
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  Speaker 2: that you speak is when you say something and you
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  Speaker 2: go and say it again, and it's something that is
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  Speaker 2: not signature or exclusive to tune day, but I think
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  Speaker 2: it's very effective.
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  Speaker 4: Do you notice that you're doing that?
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  Speaker 1: Mm hmm, Yes and no. I think that power and
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  Speaker 1: purpose are connected. I think that your power is connected
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  Speaker 1: to your purpose when you're living in purpose, on purpose
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  Speaker 1: of purpose, moving in purpose on purpose of purpose, speaking
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  Speaker 1: in purpose with purpose, on purpose of purpose, when that
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  Speaker 1: chant almost comes over me, the chant being like a rhythm,
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  Speaker 1: the rhythm that causes me to repeat something. Those are
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  Speaker 1: the moments where I'm so connected to a higher frequency.
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  Speaker 1: Those are the moments when so connected to my power.
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  Speaker 1: And so do I say something knowing that I'm about
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  Speaker 1: to repeat it? No, I don't go into to repeat it.
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  Speaker 1: But the tingle that comes over my body when I
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  Speaker 1: say something, the drum that comes over my body when
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  Speaker 1: I say something that I know needs to be repeated,
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  Speaker 1: that's what guides that. In the book, I say sometimes
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  Speaker 1: in the book, I speak to it, and I say
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  Speaker 1: sometimes when I'm teaching a class, I repeat things twice
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  Speaker 1: so that the writer has the opportunity to absorb it,
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  Speaker 1: so that I have the opportunity to absorb it. And
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  Speaker 1: so me repeating that moment, in that repeating what I'm
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  Speaker 1: saying in that high frequency moment, it's for the listener
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  Speaker 1: and it's for me. We're absorbing it together.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, because that's kind of what I gather from that
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  Speaker 2: vocal infection from you. It's as though the sentence comes
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  Speaker 2: out and it's almost as though whether I'm looking at
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  Speaker 2: you or I'm not looking at you, I can hear
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  Speaker 2: it within your voice that you know I need to
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  Speaker 2: say that one more time because I need to absorb that.
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  Speaker 2: I want to come back to that. I want to
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  Speaker 2: revisit that. And that's really special because it is indicative,
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  Speaker 2: I would say, of that alignment and of that passion
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  Speaker 2: and of that purpose. Something else that I know that
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  Speaker 2: you speak to a lot. Aligning with those words of
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  Speaker 2: passion and purpose is your calling. And in the book
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  Speaker 2: you write, here's the thing about your calling. It doesn't
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  Speaker 2: come with instructions. It's like getting into a car with
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  Speaker 2: a destination but no map. You know where you're supposed
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  Speaker 2: to go, but you don't know how to get there,
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  Speaker 2: so you get in the car and you just start driving.
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  Speaker 2: My question for you when it comes to your calling
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  Speaker 2: is do.
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  Speaker 4: You think that you are.
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  Speaker 2: Lucky that you get to live out your calling every day?
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  Speaker 2: Do you think that everyone has that opportunity to align
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  Speaker 2: their work with their calling, or do you think that
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  Speaker 2: they don't always need to be one in the same.
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  Speaker 1: Hm. That's tough. I think two years ago I would
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  Speaker 1: have said lucky. Now I would say to chop it
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  Speaker 1: all up to luck would be doing myself a disservice.
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  Speaker 1: I think. I agree preparation meets opportunity meets some luck
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  Speaker 1: because I say some luck because there are people that
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  Speaker 1: prepare and then the opportunity and you know it doesn't happen.
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  Speaker 1: So yeah, there's definitely you know, maybe a bit of
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  Speaker 1: magic in there, right, But I would top magic up
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  Speaker 1: to like manifestation as well, like really really really believing,
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  Speaker 1: really putting it out there.
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  Speaker 2: Can we hash on manifestation for a second, because I
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  Speaker 2: know that you earlier were talking about, you know, that
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  Speaker 2: firm manifestation and belief that you were going to be
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  Speaker 2: teaching cycling on the world's biggest cycling platform. And I'm
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  Speaker 2: sure that there are a handful of people that are
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  Speaker 2: listening to this that want and do dream that big,
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  Speaker 2: but feel as though their manifestation just isn't working for them.
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  Speaker 2: It's not happening. They're getting frustrated with the process. Perhaps,
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  Speaker 2: what do you say to that person?
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  Speaker 1: I mean, look, I didn't just like decide I wanted to.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't just have this blue light vision, this divine
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  Speaker 1: and download and then you know, fairy tales and butterflies
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  Speaker 1: and everything was great. No, I went back to la
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  Speaker 1: I was in New York when this vision came. I
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  Speaker 1: went back to LA told myself that that I couldn't
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  Speaker 1: do it. I don't look like an instructor. I don't
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  Speaker 1: sound like an instructor. Who the hell would find me motivating?
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  Speaker 1: What would I even say to people? Nobody wants to
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  Speaker 1: look at me on a bike? These are all the
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  Speaker 1: things that I told myself. My friends called me a liar.
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  Speaker 1: When I said those things about myself, my friends called
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  Speaker 1: me a liar. I talked about my friends in the book.
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  Speaker 1: I say that my friends aren't just friends, like yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I got friends, and then I got like people people
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  Speaker 1: people friends, and it's a very short list of my people.
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  Speaker 1: I like it in the book to the Meredith Gray
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  Speaker 1: and Christina Yang friendship like people, I said all those things,
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  Speaker 1: those are all the reasons I wouldn't be able to
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  Speaker 1: do it. See this vision through, And they called me
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  Speaker 1: a liar. And I was lying to myself, not to them.
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  Speaker 1: They knew what was really under There was fear, fear, spear.
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  Speaker 1: I was allowing fear to steer. I was allowing fear
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  Speaker 1: to hold me hostage. Then I moved through that fear,
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  Speaker 1: and I do anyways awesome, still not a fairy tell story.
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  Speaker 1: I auditioned for a Peloton, had a wonderful audition, couldn't
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  Speaker 1: have gone any better, got rave reviews after the audition,
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  Speaker 1: and then I didn't get the job. A month later
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  Speaker 1: they called me and said we won't be moving forward,
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  Speaker 1: or emailed me and said we won't be moving forward
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  Speaker 1: with your candidacy. Thank you. Yeah, And so then you know,
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  Speaker 1: you go through this stage where for me it wasn't
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  Speaker 1: just you didn't I didn't get a job. It wasn't
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  Speaker 1: that get a job. It was I've seen something and
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  Speaker 1: I believed it to be so true, trusted myself fully,
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  Speaker 1: and then realized that was wrong until I then realized
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  Speaker 1: that I wasn't wrong, and I realized that my life
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  Speaker 1: when I looked at my life thirty six years, it's
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  Speaker 1: been thirty six years of collecting data. Data shows me
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  Speaker 1: that things are going my way, even when they're not
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  Speaker 1: going my way, that they ultimately go my way. And
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  Speaker 1: I've experienced a lot of loss in my life, a
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  Speaker 1: lot of trauma, and still things believe things that are happening,
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  Speaker 1: they end up working moving in my favor. You don't
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  Speaker 1: realize you know something happens, you say shit that you know,
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  Speaker 1: why is this happening? And then five years later you see, okay,
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  Speaker 1: that had to happen for this happened. Ten years later
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  Speaker 1: you see, oh okay, well that little piece had to
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  Speaker 1: fall and land in that perfect spot because this was
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  Speaker 1: a result of that not happening or that happening. I
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  Speaker 1: was not supposed to get the job with Polton the
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  Speaker 1: first time around. I wasn't. I realized that now there
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  Speaker 1: was there was players that had changed. I was supposed
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  Speaker 1: to start the job when I started the job, and
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  Speaker 1: not a day sooner. So yeah, it was. It wasn't
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  Speaker 1: a Kumbai yah story, and it wasn't easy. There wasn't
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  Speaker 1: a needing story that I got here. And I say
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  Speaker 1: that to speak to the person who's going through whatever
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  Speaker 1: they're going through.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, And I think that, as you say in the book,
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  Speaker 2: like these unexpected challenges, these hurdle moments, so to speak,
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  Speaker 2: they are our opportunity to then harness the strength that
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  Speaker 2: we have garnered from all of.
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  Speaker 4: The difficulties that we faced up into that point.
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  Speaker 1: Right first and foremost. I love it whenever you work
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  Speaker 1: hurdle into a line, so good. But yeah, whether it's
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  Speaker 1: something that your parents go through, and it's a young person.
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  Speaker 1: You don't understand the full scope of what they're going through,
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  Speaker 1: but you see the emotion and then we're walking. We
• 21:40
  Speaker 1: moved through life collecting information data. As I said earlier,
• 21:44
  Speaker 1: he was their life, collecting information and data. I think
• 21:48
  Speaker 1: that resilience is innate. As you're collecting these small moments,
• 21:56
  Speaker 1: you store it to call on, to pull on later.
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  Speaker 5: I sat when I was writing the book, and I
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  Speaker 5: thought about how I watched my mother after she'd lost
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  Speaker 5: her father.
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  Speaker 1: I watched her collect the pieces of herself that were shattered.
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  Speaker 1: I watched her collect them and then continue to live,
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  Speaker 1: not to survive, but continue to live. And I think
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  Speaker 1: that the resilience that came over me when I lost
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  Speaker 1: my little brother, and my ability to then almost parrot
• 22:50
  Speaker 1: my parents through that loss in many ways, was from
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  Speaker 1: some of the information that I had collected throughout my life.
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  Speaker 1: When I lost my dad and then had to mother
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  Speaker 1: my mother, I called on the information the moments that
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  Speaker 1: I'd gone through just three years earlier, when I'd lost
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  Speaker 1: my brother, and then when I lost my mom, my
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  Speaker 1: best friend, and was able to rise in that moment
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  Speaker 1: to be a glue for the family. It was a
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  Speaker 1: result of being able to use these moments that I
• 23:35
  Speaker 1: created this internal reservoir.
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  Speaker 2: I would say that I'm not sure if resilience is innate,
• 23:41
  Speaker 2: but I feel as though you can choose to channel
• 23:46
  Speaker 2: your own resilience. It's kind of like when you're going
• 23:50
  Speaker 2: through any hurdle moment and you have the opportunity to
• 23:56
  Speaker 2: play the victim or ask the question what's next, right,
• 24:01
  Speaker 2: And it takes perhaps a handful of those hurdles to
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  Speaker 2: get to a place where you're like, Okay, I'm ready
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  Speaker 2: to chin up and ask what's next instead of lingering
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  Speaker 2: in that malaise.
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  Speaker 4: But it doesn't always happen for some naturally.
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  Speaker 1: I think to your point, resilience is a choice. I
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  Speaker 1: say resilience is innate in that resilience is like confidence.
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  Speaker 1: It's not something that you buy. You don't go to
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  Speaker 1: the store and buy confidence. You don't go to the
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  Speaker 1: store and buy the ability to be resilient or resiliency.
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  Speaker 1: It lives inside of you. Your choice unlops the ability.
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  Speaker 4: So when you think about.
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  Speaker 2: Your journey to becoming an author, you said, you know,
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  Speaker 2: this is something that you've been thinking about from a
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  Speaker 2: really young age. When did you feel like you had
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  Speaker 2: stepped into the right chapter of your life to get
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  Speaker 2: to this point. Was there a certain moment or a
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  Speaker 2: certain thing that guided you toward this being the time
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  Speaker 2: to dive into this arena?
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  Speaker 1: I mean, when's the right time for anything in terms
• 28:26
  Speaker 1: of like feeling ready, right, in terms of you feeling ready,
• 28:30
  Speaker 1: I don't think this was a matter of oh, I
• 28:32
  Speaker 1: feel ready, and that's why I'm putting this out now.
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  Speaker 1: It was more so the last two years have been
• 28:43
  Speaker 1: full of so much doubt and so much uncertainty for
• 28:46
  Speaker 1: so many people, so much doubt and so much uncertainty
• 28:49
  Speaker 1: for so many people. The title of the book speak,
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  Speaker 1: find your voice, trust your gut, and get from where
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  Speaker 1: you are to where you want to be. If there's
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  Speaker 1: ever been a time where collectively, as of people, we
• 29:02
  Speaker 1: rethink the way we think or look at any and everything,
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  Speaker 1: it's right now. The book is a memoir, a manifesto,
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  Speaker 1: a story of my life, a guide if you will.
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  Speaker 1: It's a story of all the loss and all the
• 29:19
  Speaker 1: heartache and heartbreak and setbacks and missed opportunities and body
• 29:23
  Speaker 1: image issues and joy and hope. I think that we
• 29:30
  Speaker 1: are all more like than we are different. I think
• 29:33
  Speaker 1: we're a lot more like than we are different. My
• 29:35
  Speaker 1: hope is that you pick up this book and it
• 29:39
  Speaker 1: meets you exactly where you are. My hope is that
• 29:43
  Speaker 1: you see a little bit of yourself within my stories,
• 29:48
  Speaker 1: and then when you close the book, you're inspired to
• 29:53
  Speaker 1: grab the pen that writes out the next chapter of
• 29:57
  Speaker 1: your life. And so yeah, I mean, I said I
• 30:00
  Speaker 1: wanted to write a book in third grade, and then
• 30:03
  Speaker 1: all the stuff sets and people tell you can't, you can't,
• 30:05
  Speaker 1: you don't know where to put the comma, the punctuation period,
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  Speaker 1: you know the teacher, and the teacher comes in with
• 30:09
  Speaker 1: that right thing and tells you that you know, basically,
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  Speaker 1: you're not a good writer. And you know I wasn't
• 30:13
  Speaker 1: until maybe a year and a half two years ago.
• 30:15
  Speaker 1: A friend of mine said, because I've said it my
• 30:17
  Speaker 1: entire life, I want to write, but one day I
• 30:18
  Speaker 1: want to write a book. One day I better write
• 30:19
  Speaker 1: a book. And a friend of mine said, you know
• 30:22
  Speaker 1: that somebody else edits the book, right, they do all
• 30:25
  Speaker 1: the comments in the periods. I said, oh, well, yeah,
• 30:29
  Speaker 1: you're right. At the end of the day, I know
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  Speaker 1: that I'm a storyteller and I knew that I had
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  Speaker 1: a story to tell. And this moment, I felt like
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  Speaker 1: I could connect with people in connect with people through
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  Speaker 1: connect with people.
• 30:45
  Speaker 2: Do you also feel like that moment aligns with you
• 30:49
  Speaker 2: being in a place where you're living as your most
• 30:52
  Speaker 2: authentic self? Say that again, do you also feel like
• 30:56
  Speaker 2: this moment that you feel as though, I mean, the
• 31:00
  Speaker 2: memoir it's a big word, right, And it's not like
• 31:04
  Speaker 2: at third grade you're like, I'm ready to write my memoir.
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  Speaker 2: But now you have come into this space not only
• 31:12
  Speaker 2: in your career, but also I would say looking at
• 31:16
  Speaker 2: you as my friend, as a woman, where you are
• 31:19
  Speaker 2: standing in your purpose, living without hesitation, as your most
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  Speaker 2: authentic I don't give up what anybody else thinks about
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  Speaker 2: me self. My question is is that why this is
• 31:35
  Speaker 2: the time? Yes, a lot of people struggle with that
• 31:38
  Speaker 2: coming into their own in their authenticity. And I say
• 31:46
  Speaker 2: that recognizing that just because you tune day are very
• 31:51
  Speaker 2: sure of who you are and what you have to offer.
• 31:54
  Speaker 2: I know that doesn't come without moments where you have
• 31:59
  Speaker 2: like a about something that someone somewhere says at some
• 32:03
  Speaker 2: point or whatever like that like happens to all of us.
• 32:06
  Speaker 4: But there is a point I.
• 32:10
  Speaker 2: Believe when you're stepping into your purpose that you stop
• 32:14
  Speaker 2: caring so much, or maybe get better at judging how
• 32:17
  Speaker 2: to deal with that.
• 32:20
  Speaker 4: I'll call it white noise.
• 32:22
  Speaker 2: Can you talk about that process for you and what
• 32:25
  Speaker 2: it's been like, because I know it has not been easy, right.
• 32:31
  Speaker 1: Or I like to define authenticity as the intersection of
• 32:34
  Speaker 1: truth and trust. When you trust yourself enough to show up,
• 32:38
  Speaker 1: it's who you truly are, When you trust yourself enough
• 32:42
  Speaker 1: to live in your truth as you truly are. I
• 32:47
  Speaker 1: was an overweight kid. I was the black girl at
• 32:52
  Speaker 1: a predominantly white school, the only dark skin black girl.
• 32:56
  Speaker 1: For so long, I tried to fade in, Faden, faded, Faiden.
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  Speaker 1: If you fade in, nobody notice you. I tried that
• 33:05
  Speaker 1: for so long. Very low confidence, very low self esteem,
• 33:08
  Speaker 1: all the things. Maybe just because you tried to fade
• 33:10
  Speaker 1: in doesn't mean people aren't going to realize you're black.
• 33:13
  Speaker 1: And so it was just this matter of you can
• 33:17
  Speaker 1: hide and hide and hide, but people are still going
• 33:22
  Speaker 1: to see you. Now. Couple that with words that my
• 33:26
  Speaker 1: friend Latasha lovel Latasha. If you're listening to this, hey girl,
• 33:31
  Speaker 1: my friend Latasha very wise, She said to me tune day,
• 33:35
  Speaker 1: people's opinion of you is none of your business. People's
• 33:41
  Speaker 1: opinion of me is none of my business. In fact,
• 33:44
  Speaker 1: if I'm worried about what somebody else thinks of me,
• 33:46
  Speaker 1: I'm being nosy. And you know, in this public facing world,
• 33:52
  Speaker 1: there's two things. There's two things I've learned. Number One,
• 33:54
  Speaker 1: a friend of mine who was in the public eye
• 33:57
  Speaker 1: for quite some time, she said to me when I
• 33:59
  Speaker 1: moved to to the space, she said, you know, just remember,
• 34:03
  Speaker 1: you know this is like you know, Instagram, people say
• 34:05
  Speaker 1: nasty things comment, message, whatever.
• 34:07
  Speaker 4: Yeah, And she.
• 34:08
  Speaker 1: Said, Tunedi, would you ever write something nasty on anyone's page,
• 34:13
  Speaker 1: much less a page of a random stranger or someone
• 34:15
  Speaker 1: that you didn't know? And I thought, no, why would
• 34:17
  Speaker 1: I do that? She was yes, me again, would you
• 34:20
  Speaker 1: ever write something nasty on someone's page? I said no,
• 34:27
  Speaker 1: why would.
• 34:28
  Speaker 3: I do that?
• 34:30
  Speaker 1: She said, exactly, exactly. Those aren't your kind of people anyways,
• 34:36
  Speaker 1: So why would you give a damn what they think?
• 34:40
  Speaker 1: Those aren't your type of people anyways. You wouldn't align
• 34:43
  Speaker 1: yourself with somebody like that, so why would you care
• 34:46
  Speaker 1: what they thought? Anyways? And then you move into the
• 34:49
  Speaker 1: space where you spend time dwelling over one nasty thing
• 34:55
  Speaker 1: that someone says, and fifty other people said nothing but
• 35:01
  Speaker 1: wonderful things, nothing but things that were great, and then
• 35:04
  Speaker 1: you I told myself a long time ago, I was like,
• 35:06
  Speaker 1: my days are wild, my days are crazy, et cetera,
• 35:08
  Speaker 1: et cetera.
• 35:09
  Speaker 2: I don't.
• 35:09
  Speaker 1: Unfortunately, I wish I could respond to every single comment
• 35:14
  Speaker 1: and every single message on Instagram, because people say, oh
• 35:17
  Speaker 1: my god, the way that I'm supporting Emily, the way
• 35:20
  Speaker 1: that I am supported Emily. Oh, I wish I had
• 35:24
  Speaker 1: the time and the bandwidth to respond to everybody. If
• 35:27
  Speaker 1: I don't have the time to respond to the nice things, hell, yes,
• 35:32
  Speaker 1: why in the hell would I exert any extra time
• 35:38
  Speaker 1: that or energy that I do have on something nasty
• 35:42
  Speaker 1: on a nasayer. If you have five seconds to respond
• 35:45
  Speaker 1: to day, respond to somebody who deserves the response because
• 35:48
  Speaker 1: that other person was just doing it out of spite.
• 35:50
  Speaker 1: And then the last thing I'll say here is that
• 35:52
  Speaker 1: typically what someone doesn't like in you, it's really a
• 35:56
  Speaker 1: reflection of what they don't like in themselves. And so
• 35:58
  Speaker 1: when somebody says something to me that doesn't serve me,
• 36:03
  Speaker 1: when somebody says something to me that's full of hate,
• 36:07
  Speaker 1: I remind myself it's really just a mirror. It's reflection
• 36:10
  Speaker 1: of what they see in themselves. And then and then
• 36:14
  Speaker 1: I'm not even mad. And then I'm not even mad.
• 36:17
  Speaker 1: Then I almost have empathy for them. I feel bad
• 36:23
  Speaker 1: for them and what they might be going through.
• 36:26
  Speaker 2: The takeaway there is so valuable and the idea that like,
• 36:29
  Speaker 2: why am I going to give this person who is
• 36:33
  Speaker 2: trying to take me down my energy when there are
• 36:36
  Speaker 2: so many people here that are supporting me. It's beautiful
• 36:41
  Speaker 2: and it's certainly a hard thing to come by. It
• 36:45
  Speaker 2: does not matter if you have one person that is
• 36:49
  Speaker 2: like keeping up with your life, whether it be on
• 36:51
  Speaker 2: social media or in the real world, or you have
• 36:53
  Speaker 2: hundreds of thousands of people. It's human nature to like
• 36:57
  Speaker 2: listen to that oneative human And something that I tell
• 37:02
  Speaker 2: myself sometimes is I'll come back.
• 37:04
  Speaker 4: To this idea. I'll think about the people in my.
• 37:06
  Speaker 2: Life that I admire beyond you know, my parents and
• 37:11
  Speaker 2: my family, although I'm sure that they probably at one
• 37:14
  Speaker 2: point or another in their lives had haters as well.
• 37:17
  Speaker 2: But every single person that I think of that I
• 37:20
  Speaker 2: admire in my existence are people that have been willing
• 37:24
  Speaker 2: to put themselves out there, that have been willing to
• 37:26
  Speaker 2: take a stand and be like, this is what I
• 37:29
  Speaker 2: have to offer the world, and everyone will always have
• 37:32
  Speaker 2: something to say about them too.
• 37:34
  Speaker 1: Everyone will always have something to say about them too.
• 37:38
  Speaker 1: People hate the greatest bands in the world. I said
• 37:43
  Speaker 1: this recently in an interview. There are people that hate Coldplay,
• 37:47
  Speaker 1: there are people that hate Beyond Say, there are people
• 37:51
  Speaker 1: that hate Oprah Winfrey. If there are people that hate
• 37:56
  Speaker 1: Oprah Winfrey and they don't like me, I'm okay with that.
• 38:00
  Speaker 1: I'm good.
• 38:03
  Speaker 2: So what you're saying is that Oprah is going to
• 38:06
  Speaker 2: be one of the guests on your book tour.
• 38:09
  Speaker 1: You know, I mean I got some pretty I got
• 38:13
  Speaker 1: some Oprah level. Yeah. Actually one of the guests is
• 38:19
  Speaker 1: what is it called six degrees of separation? But I
• 38:21
  Speaker 1: think it's only like it's not even what it's is
• 38:23
  Speaker 1: this is that's one degree of separation. So yes, basically
• 38:26
  Speaker 1: Oprah's there. She's not there. Before I get sued, she's not.
• 38:29
  Speaker 1: But one of her friends is how about that?
• 38:32
  Speaker 4: Well, girl, I'll be seeing you in New York, you.
• 38:34
  Speaker 2: Know, yes, please, yes, pivoting a little bit away from
• 38:39
  Speaker 2: the haters because we don't want to give them any
• 38:42
  Speaker 2: more of our beautiful energy. Obviously, writing a book is
• 38:48
  Speaker 2: a really big undertaking. We've already talked about all of
• 38:52
  Speaker 2: the obligations that go hand in hand with that. Forget
• 38:55
  Speaker 2: about the obligations that go hand in hand with teaching
• 38:59
  Speaker 2: and so many other things hand in hand.
• 39:03
  Speaker 4: With your job.
• 39:04
  Speaker 2: How do you manage to find the time to give
• 39:12
  Speaker 2: each of these individual things your whole self?
• 39:17
  Speaker 1: You know what, that is a really really really good question.
• 39:23
  Speaker 1: I try to focus on what I'm focusing on while
• 39:29
  Speaker 1: I'm in whatever I'm in I could write a email
• 39:37
  Speaker 1: that and then if I'm going to teach a class,
• 39:44
  Speaker 1: I wipe that energy off of me because I know
• 39:50
  Speaker 1: that my frequency is felt right, I would be doing
• 39:54
  Speaker 1: a disservice to the people who were absorbing it if
• 39:58
  Speaker 1: I was to give anything less than my best. Now,
• 40:02
  Speaker 1: my best looks different day to day, and so sometimes
• 40:06
  Speaker 1: what I might be saying in class might be coming
• 40:09
  Speaker 1: from whatever I'm going through, and my belief is that
• 40:14
  Speaker 1: it meets someone that's taking that right, that needs to
• 40:18
  Speaker 1: hear that, whether it's live or three months later. You know,
• 40:21
  Speaker 1: sometimes I'll get a DM from someone and they'll say,
• 40:26
  Speaker 1: you said X, Y and Z and I felt that,
• 40:30
  Speaker 1: and they'll tell me about something that they're experiencing in
• 40:33
  Speaker 1: their life and why those words meant what they did.
• 40:36
  Speaker 1: And I think I've thought about it. You know, sometimes
• 40:38
  Speaker 1: I think I remember that day, and I remember I
• 40:42
  Speaker 1: wasn't my best that day, but I was honest and
• 40:49
  Speaker 1: someone and my honesty was able to better someone's day. Yeah.
• 41:00
  Speaker 1: I mean, I'm sitting here having this wonderful conversation with you,
• 41:04
  Speaker 1: with Caesar on my lap. You know, my first moment
• 41:07
  Speaker 1: today where I'm really able to kind of sit and
• 41:09
  Speaker 1: love on this dog as I'm chatting with you, knowing
• 41:13
  Speaker 1: that there is a massive to do list that waits
• 41:17
  Speaker 1: for me. But I don't think. I don't. It wouldn't
• 41:22
  Speaker 1: be fair to you, or to anyone listening to allow
• 41:27
  Speaker 1: the thoughts of what lie ahead to hinder this. Often
• 41:34
  Speaker 1: on the bike at the beginning of the class, I
• 41:36
  Speaker 1: say this, you know, this is a thirty minute ride.
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  Speaker 1: Be here and only here. If it's not on this bike,
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  Speaker 1: it doesn't exist. We all have our shit, we all
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  Speaker 1: have the bags, we all have the things. Allow yourself
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  Speaker 1: to let this be your escape. This is your escape.
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  Speaker 1: Be here. And so when I'm moving through each motion
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  Speaker 1: of the day, I try to just be in that
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  Speaker 1: one Well, shit not you have kids. It's very difficult,
• 42:01
  Speaker 1: and it's you know, not as easier said than done,
• 42:04
  Speaker 1: for sure. But yeah, I think that the trying to
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  Speaker 1: kind of create boundaries in space is literally the only
• 42:13
  Speaker 1: thing that girl, the only way to move.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: I also think that sometimes if you feel as though
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  Speaker 2: you're not the kind of person that thrives in creating
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  Speaker 2: those boundaries in space to start small, it's kind of like,
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  Speaker 2: I mean, I'm talking to you, your peloton instructor.
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  Speaker 4: For someone who's never gotten on.
• 42:35
  Speaker 2: The peloton bike, you wouldn't be like, come take this
• 42:39
  Speaker 2: ninety minute endurance power zone class. Yeah, Like that's not
• 42:44
  Speaker 2: that's not happening. But you could be like, start with
• 42:47
  Speaker 2: this five minute warm up. Start there, meet yourself with
• 42:50
  Speaker 2: where you're at, and instead of getting mad about the
• 42:53
  Speaker 2: fact that you're having difficulty. I don't know, you're a journalist,
• 42:58
  Speaker 2: you're having a difficulty sitting down to your desk and
• 43:01
  Speaker 2: working on an article for forty five minutes at a
• 43:03
  Speaker 2: time and giving yourself entirely to that article, or you're
• 43:05
  Speaker 2: mad that you are working. You're an account and you're
• 43:08
  Speaker 2: working on someone's taxes, and your head is also in
• 43:10
  Speaker 2: the fact that your kid needs to get home from
• 43:13
  Speaker 2: god knows what. I'm giving really random ass examples right here,
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  Speaker 2: but you totally get what I'm saying.
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  Speaker 4: It's that like, it is.
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  Speaker 2: Hard to get to this place, and it's like exercise,
• 43:25
  Speaker 2: it's like strengthening a muscle. It needs repeat work to
• 43:29
  Speaker 2: get to that place where you can confidently say, Okay,
• 43:33
  Speaker 2: I can be here, I can be present, and recognizing
• 43:36
  Speaker 2: that in small doses will then empower you to do
• 43:39
  Speaker 2: that going forward.
• 43:40
  Speaker 1: Right, Yeah, absolutely small doses, attainable doses, bite sized doses,
• 43:46
  Speaker 1: until you're able to take bigger bites, bigger. Yeah.
• 43:51
  Speaker 2: What would you say tunday that you, in writing your
• 43:57
  Speaker 2: book were the most surprised about yourself in your reflection?
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  Speaker 4: And I say that, and sometimes.
• 44:08
  Speaker 2: In writing for even the Weekly Hurdle newsletter, I'll start
• 44:12
  Speaker 2: to write something and maybe open up about something and realize,
• 44:15
  Speaker 2: like I'm really diving in right here?
• 44:18
  Speaker 4: Were there things in the.
• 44:20
  Speaker 2: Book that you started to open up about maybe that
• 44:23
  Speaker 2: you hadn't opened up about in that capacity before?
• 44:27
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I think when the book writing process requires you,
• 44:30
  Speaker 1: you know, we all have our stuff and you kind
• 44:32
  Speaker 1: of throw some of your stuff in a closet and
• 44:33
  Speaker 1: then you throw more stuff in there, and then you
• 44:36
  Speaker 1: take key, you lock the door, you just throw the key.
• 44:38
  Speaker 1: This required me to like dig the key, dig up
• 44:40
  Speaker 1: the key, find the key, find a day on door,
• 44:43
  Speaker 1: and then unlock it and then everything just kind of
• 44:46
  Speaker 1: comes rolling out. It requires you to relive things, moments, relive.
• 44:51
  Speaker 1: Then you edit and you relive relive, and then you
• 44:55
  Speaker 1: realize that everyone's going to live in those moments with you.
• 44:58
  Speaker 1: So yeah, definitely required, uh, soul searching. Yeah, there's like moments.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, what did you do to process the feelings that
• 45:10
  Speaker 2: came up while you were quote unquote digging through the closet?
• 45:14
  Speaker 1: Hmmm?
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  Speaker 6: It was therapeutic, just therapeutic, not only to dig it
• 45:19
  Speaker 6: up and let it all fall on me and feel it,
• 45:23
  Speaker 6: but to write about it so much therapy and writing.
• 45:27
  Speaker 1: Right, to write about it, I think, to write about
• 45:30
  Speaker 1: it about you writing about it on a computer, and
• 45:31
  Speaker 1: then you see it printed out. Because you print it out,
• 45:33
  Speaker 1: that's one thing, but then to see it like bound
• 45:35
  Speaker 1: in a book, then you like really feel it. Yeah,
• 45:38
  Speaker 1: and there's things I've never given myself. You know how
• 45:42
  Speaker 1: you your parents? Right, well, parents, you look at your
• 45:45
  Speaker 1: parents as like mom and dad, but you don't look
• 45:47
  Speaker 1: at them like I never looked at my mom as Baronica.
• 45:49
  Speaker 1: I looked at myself as me reading the book. I
• 45:51
  Speaker 1: looked at myself as Tombay. I saw myself as a human.
• 45:54
  Speaker 1: And I don't even know if that makes sense at all,
• 45:57
  Speaker 1: but yeah, I saw my self as Tunday. Which it's wild,
• 46:03
  Speaker 1: it's wild.
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  Speaker 2: I feel like that's what happens a lot in therapy though,
• 46:08
  Speaker 2: right when someone says, like, what does Tunday need or
• 46:11
  Speaker 2: what does Emily need? Like, this isn't something that I'm
• 46:15
  Speaker 2: sitting here looking at myself, staring at myself in this
• 46:18
  Speaker 2: out of body experience, being like what do you.
• 46:20
  Speaker 4: Need right now all the time.
• 46:23
  Speaker 2: So the writing process provided a platform to you for
• 46:27
  Speaker 2: you to be a little bit more introspective, which is great.
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  Speaker 4: Okay, tune day.
• 46:33
  Speaker 2: So as we wind down here now, I have to
• 46:36
  Speaker 2: ask you, aside from this book launch, what else excites
• 46:39
  Speaker 2: you at the moment?
• 46:40
  Speaker 1: Pizza? Pizza?
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  Speaker 7: Like when you said that, the first thing I could
• 46:45
  Speaker 7: think of.
• 46:46
  Speaker 1: It was like, ooh, pizza and champagne. What else excites me?
• 46:52
  Speaker 1: I'm excited to well, that's sill the book, but I'm
• 46:54
  Speaker 1: excited to meet everyone on the tour, like to see
• 46:57
  Speaker 1: people that I've just been interfacing with over a touch
• 47:01
  Speaker 1: screen for two years. I'm excited to spend some more
• 47:04
  Speaker 1: time with Caesar, who's staring at me. I mean, there's
• 47:08
  Speaker 1: just so much, there's so much good, there's so much
• 47:11
  Speaker 1: to be excited about it. I mean, there's so much.
• 47:14
  Speaker 1: I just moved into a new place and so I'm
• 47:15
  Speaker 1: decorating and that's really really fun. You just told me
• 47:18
  Speaker 1: before we started that we are neighbors, so I'm excited
• 47:22
  Speaker 1: to hopefully have a good brunch moment with you.
• 47:26
  Speaker 2: Hell yes, Typically at the end of the show, as
• 47:29
  Speaker 2: you know, I ask people to give themselves a piece
• 47:31
  Speaker 2: of advice looking back on some of their toughest moments.
• 47:34
  Speaker 2: But for you appropriate walking out of this conversation, new
• 47:39
  Speaker 2: book author, When someone walks away from your book after
• 47:44
  Speaker 2: finishing it, reads the whole thing, they look back at
• 47:50
  Speaker 2: that experience and they reflect on it. What is it
• 47:52
  Speaker 2: that you want them to take from your story to today?
• 47:58
  Speaker 1: I want them to hear that inner voice, to connect
• 48:07
  Speaker 1: to that drum beat, the compass intuition, the guiding light,
• 48:14
  Speaker 1: lean into moments that allow them.
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  Speaker 8: To access their power, live in purpose, move through loss,
• 48:29
  Speaker 8: their missteps, missed opportunities.
• 48:32
  Speaker 1: I hope this meets them exactly where they are and
• 48:35
  Speaker 1: moves them to exactly where they want to be today.
• 48:41
  Speaker 2: OI and A and that tell us how do we
• 48:43
  Speaker 2: keep up with you? How do we follow along with you?
• 48:46
  Speaker 2: The book is available everywhere books are sold.
• 48:48
  Speaker 4: Give us the details.
• 48:49
  Speaker 1: Book is available everywhere books are sold. Hard copy available,
• 48:53
  Speaker 1: Audio book available narrated by yours Truly.
• 48:58
  Speaker 7: Check my website. Speak Tunday for tour details. I hope
• 49:04
  Speaker 7: to see you on the road. You know, I'd like
• 49:06
  Speaker 7: to say that I'm gen Z. I do have a TikTok.
• 49:09
  Speaker 7: I have all of I think five followers to chout
• 49:11
  Speaker 7: up with the fin you. You can find me on TikTok.
• 49:15
  Speaker 1: I think my top name is tune to Tunday, but
• 49:17
  Speaker 1: most certainly hit me up on Instagram at tune to
• 49:20
  Speaker 1: tune Day. Thank you so much, Emily.
• 49:23
  Speaker 2: We didn't even mention fitness fliped, but listen to tune
• 49:26
  Speaker 2: Day's angelic voice also on fitness clip.
• 49:31
  Speaker 1: Yes on fitness flip available wherever you listen to podcasts.
• 49:34
  Speaker 1: Thank you so much.
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  Speaker 4: Girl, Thank you girlfriend.
• 49:38
  Speaker 2: I'm over at Emily Body at Hurdle podcast Another Hurdle Conquered.
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  Speaker 4: Catch you guys next time.