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Season 4 - Episode 13 - Being present is a muscle · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Hey everybody, welcome to the good morning from the Chicken
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  Coop podcast. My name is Kim Johnson and I am
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  a mastermind, set coach, creative strategist, and also
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  happen to be a farmer. This is my chicken coop and I
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  come out here every day to record a podcast to teach
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  distinctions, possibilities, new ways of thinking, and just bring
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  some joy into the world. So welcome to the coop and let's
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  start your day off in a fantastic way.
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  Hey everybody, good morning. I hope you all had a wonderful
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  weekend, as I know I did. I enjoyed some time off and
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  getting ready for the garden. But that's not what we're
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  talking about today. Today we're talking about being
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  able to control your attention and, you know, being focused on
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  it. And we've all heard, you know,
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  people say, hey, listen, it is incredibly important to be able
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  to put, you know, stay present. We all heard it.
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  Stay present. Be be mindful, stay in the
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  moment, whatever words they want to use for it, but it's about
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  staying present. But here's the thing.
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  How hard is it to stay present? It's incredibly hard to stay
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  present. And why am I bringing this up
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  today? Because all I was thinking about
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  all weekend was being able to plan the garden and my in my
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  head all weekend long, I was planning gardening, planning
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  stuff, getting focused on that, ordering seeds, looking what am
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  I missing? Going through the seeds that I
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  had already received. I became completely obsessed
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  with it and I was not present in what I was doing otherwise.
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  Meaning here I am with my family and I'm off in my head thinking
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  about all the things, my setup, what I want to do.
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  So how do we do something when we know we have a real issue
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  being present in the moment? Because it this isn't something
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  where you, you just automatically have the skill.
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  This truly, my friends, is about practicing and building a muscle
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  to do this. And it all boils down to
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  noticing when you are not there. Recognizing who's driving, of
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  course, is always a part of it, but then pulling yourself back
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  to being in the moment with them and really giving or or or not
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  just them, but whatever you're working on, really giving that
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  your attention. So I, I think it's, I think it's
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  kind of interesting because there's an, there's an image
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  that you can use for this and you can say, OK, if I put sand
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  in a, a glass of water of Oz of water, imagine that it's all
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  completely and totally I can, I can see the sand on the bottom.
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  I can see right through the glass.
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  Now, if I take that glass and I and I swirl it around, all of a
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  sudden that sand is going to be all through the water.
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  You know, you can see it and you can see the sand in there, but
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  yet you can still, you know, recognize it's sand and water.
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  It's still those two elements, but look how they've combined.
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  And this is what happens when we don't have clear attention
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  giving it. You know, we're not clearly not
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  present is that we can see the two elements, but they're all
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  mixed up. And it gives us a problem
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  because we are, we're not giving something that chance to be
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  harnessed to be able to be really present with somebody and
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  influencing people or making people feel good is about truly
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  being present with them. It's it is about putting.
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  There's so many good things I can't even begin to tell you
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  about messaging yourself and learning your with yourself
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  about this process. It's why I got so obsessed with
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  mindfulness many years ago. Doesn't mean that I still don't
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  have to practice it myself because it's about being
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  present. A huge part of it is about being
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  present, and it's hard to learn to be present.
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  So one of the things I really want to point out about this is
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  that it it's essential to harmonious living.
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  If you don't put yourself on that path of saying I need to be
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  present with each, each piece of whatever I'm doing, each person
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  I'm with, each part of my day, then you're never going to get
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  100% of where you want to go because you're not being able to
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  give it 100% of your attention or at least that 90% of your
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  attention. It's being in that state for an
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  extended period of time and then you start to build muscle with
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  it. So really it's, it consists of
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  just learning how to build that muscle and being present and
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  being ready with that muscle. So how do you do this?
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  So there are great exercises to start off with with as as far as
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  building the muscle goes. But here's the thing, it's very
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  simple stuff and it's going to seem annoying and I know it's
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  going to seem annoying, but just start off with it.
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  Just focus on the fact that when you wake up in the morning, just
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  start this one little thing and my present with the tasks that
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  I'm doing. Just when you get up and you go,
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  let's say you get up and the first thing you do is go pee and
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  my present while I'm going to the bathroom.
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  Or is my body on autopilot and my brain is already somewhere
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  else? Or am I grateful that I just got
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  up and I can walk to the bathroom or however you get to
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  the bathroom and I can go pee. Can I am I, can I just be
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  grateful for that part of it? Brushing your teeth and my
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  present. Brushing my teeth.
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  Am I giving the toothbrush and my teeth the right attention?
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  Am I washing my face? And I noticed the how the water
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  feels and I noticed how I am in the task.
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  I'm grateful that I have skin to wash.
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  Whatever it is that makes you stay in the moment.
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  And I say grateful because that's what makes me stay in the
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  moment. Drinking your coffee or whatever
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  your morning beverage of choice is, how does that make you feel?
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  Are you with it does Are you enjoying it?
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  Are you completely present with that?
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  Let's start there. But the key is moving forward to
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  be present. OK my friends, I hope you have a
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  blessed day and I will see you all tomorrow.
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  Bye.