Latest / The D.L. Hughley Show / DLHS Hour 2 | Mom squanders child’s college fund

Transcript

DLHS Hour 2 | Mom squanders child’s college fund · The D.L. Hughley Show

• 0:00
  Speaker 1: Question we're asking.
• 0:01
  Speaker 2: A mother spends her daughters squanders because that's the word
• 0:05
  Speaker 2: they use, squanders, her daughter's school up, you know, college fund. Now,
• 0:09
  Speaker 2: the daughter saves up her money, goes to college for herself.
• 0:11
  Speaker 2: And then when her mother asked to move in where
• 0:13
  Speaker 2: she said, hell no. Do you think she was wrong?
• 0:17
  Speaker 2: I am reading a lot of these stories, and I
• 0:19
  Speaker 2: think maybe it's because what we do for a living,
• 0:22
  Speaker 2: but they seems to be a disconnect in the way
• 0:26
  Speaker 2: we were raised, in the way parents are written children
• 0:29
  Speaker 2: these days. Because it used to be the popular notion
• 0:33
  Speaker 2: that your mom sacrificed so you could go to college.
• 0:36
  Speaker 1: They did without.
• 0:37
  Speaker 2: And then I just can't imagine a mother of our
• 0:41
  Speaker 2: generation doing something like that.
• 0:44
  Speaker 1: But I think it may. I'm sure it happened. Yeah,
• 0:46
  Speaker 1: I was gonna say I think it has happened.
• 0:48
  Speaker 3: I just think that it just seems so, I don't know,
• 0:52
  Speaker 3: just more prevalent nowadays, things like this that happen.
• 0:56
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 0:57
  Speaker 2: And then but then she worked her way through college,
• 0:59
  Speaker 2: so it maybe she just wanted to teach her a
• 1:02
  Speaker 2: valuable listen.
• 1:03
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean maybe that's why I was wondering. Maybe
• 1:07
  Speaker 3: she didn't get good grades, or maybe she decided she
• 1:10
  Speaker 3: didn't want to go to school, and she was going
• 1:11
  Speaker 3: to keep the college fund. I don't know, but I
• 1:14
  Speaker 3: still think if you saved it for her, let her
• 1:16
  Speaker 3: use it how she wants to.
• 1:18
  Speaker 1: I have saved college funds. Right. Look, my kids don't have.
• 1:21
  Speaker 2: Any any college bills because I worked hard to make
• 1:27
  Speaker 2: sure that I took the on the some of them,
• 1:29
  Speaker 2: because you know, when I wasn't babysitting, I was making
• 1:32
  Speaker 2: sure that they you know.
• 1:36
  Speaker 4: Well.
• 1:37
  Speaker 1: But it was one point Kyle had money.
• 1:40
  Speaker 2: Left over and we used it to use to finish
• 1:44
  Speaker 2: pan for Ryan's I don't think he knew that to
• 1:47
  Speaker 2: right now, so let's stop this show right now. That's
• 1:51
  Speaker 2: Paul Paul. But we was like, man, we got to
• 1:55
  Speaker 2: because you know, it was way more for her college
• 1:59
  Speaker 2: than their way more like she went to a real.
• 2:02
  Speaker 1: College, but it was I mean, but they were her
• 2:06
  Speaker 1: college was way more.
• 2:08
  Speaker 3: Well, I'm totally on the daughter's side now because as
• 2:12
  Speaker 3: I'm reading into this, I find out that she had
• 2:15
  Speaker 3: told her mom she wanted to go to college. Her
• 2:17
  Speaker 3: mom told her, I've already started setting money aside for
• 2:20
  Speaker 3: you to go to school. It wasn't a lot, but
• 2:21
  Speaker 3: it was enough to cover to her first two years
• 2:23
  Speaker 3: of tuition. So the girl is now, you know, she
• 2:25
  Speaker 3: got her head down. She's studying hard when she starts
• 2:28
  Speaker 3: applying for schools, and she asked her mom for the
• 2:31
  Speaker 3: tuition for the deposit. Turns out her mother didn't squander
• 2:36
  Speaker 3: the money. She spent the entire fund to pay for
• 2:39
  Speaker 3: her older brother's wedding. And she told her, well, I
• 2:42
  Speaker 3: figured you could get a scholarship. You could do that, bliss.
• 2:45
  Speaker 3: Weddings are a once in a lifetime thing.
• 2:47
  Speaker 1: Not if you do it right. And there's that oh
• 2:54
  Speaker 1: that's pretty, that's.
• 2:56
  Speaker 2: Woweah, maybe she has to you'll better.
• 3:00
  Speaker 3: Apparently she does. But now I guess who her daughter likes.
• 3:03
  Speaker 3: Better go live with my brother? How about that he
• 3:07
  Speaker 3: lived with her?
• 3:08
  Speaker 1: Probably?
• 3:09
  Speaker 2: So the question we're asking ing jemna. A mother squannors
• 3:12
  Speaker 2: her daughter's college fund. The doughter gets mad and puts
• 3:16
  Speaker 2: herself through college, pays for college, gets mad, the mother
• 3:19
  Speaker 2: wants to live with her. She's like, hell, no, did
• 3:22
  Speaker 2: get after wherever you put it? And then all fantas
• 3:25
  Speaker 2: the mother did use her college fund to pay for
• 3:27
  Speaker 2: her older brother's wedding. Yeah, but that's not fair, which
• 3:31
  Speaker 2: is weird because you think the father of the bride
• 3:33
  Speaker 2: would pay for the way that's supposed to. But it's
• 3:36
  Speaker 2: clear that the mother doesn't like her and doesn't well
• 3:40
  Speaker 2: it's fair. It would also tend to lead you to
• 3:43
  Speaker 2: I would ask, if I was the daughter, why don't
• 3:45
  Speaker 2: you go live with your son because pay for his wedding?
• 3:48
  Speaker 1: Right?
• 3:48
  Speaker 2: Yeah, right, But I'm sure right, I'm sure his daughter,
• 3:51
  Speaker 2: her daughter or not doesn't like her either. But we
• 3:53
  Speaker 2: just making up all these I have no idea, but
• 3:57
  Speaker 2: I do know I would be mad too if somebody
• 4:00
  Speaker 2: forwarding my educational journey like Jasmine just did and break.
• 4:04
  Speaker 5: No.
• 4:04
  Speaker 1: I was not the one who threw it as your
• 4:06
  Speaker 1: educational journey. You did that all by yourself.
• 4:08
  Speaker 2: No, I told you that. I said I wanted to
• 4:10
  Speaker 2: go to college, and and well.
• 4:12
  Speaker 3: You here's the thing, though, you don't have to say
• 4:15
  Speaker 3: I wanted to go to college. You can say I'm
• 4:17
  Speaker 3: going to go to college.
• 4:18
  Speaker 1: I don't have you could afford two weeks, so you've
• 4:21
  Speaker 1: got time. I have to make sure stop dreaming about that.
• 4:23
  Speaker 2: I can't That's what I can't do it now, right,
• 4:26
  Speaker 2: So stop dreaming about it.
• 4:27
  Speaker 1: I can change your dreams.
• 4:28
  Speaker 2: No, let somebody else dream somebody else's tern larious, hilarious.
• 4:36
  Speaker 2: You know what, I've had enough of this break.
• 4:38
  Speaker 4: You know.
• 4:41
  Speaker 1: The question.
• 4:42
  Speaker 2: We're asking a mother's quantas her daughter's college fund. The
• 4:46
  Speaker 2: dollar pays for herself to get yourself through college, pays
• 4:49
  Speaker 2: for it. The mother needs a place to live, that
• 4:51
  Speaker 2: won't let her live there. Do you think she is wrong?
• 4:53
  Speaker 6: We're going through the phones, So I think that the
• 4:56
  Speaker 6: daughter is not wrong for me personally, I do you
• 4:59
  Speaker 6: know go by with the Bible says children obey your
• 5:02
  Speaker 6: parents and the Lord and all of that, but it
• 5:04
  Speaker 6: also says don't provoke your children. And I think that
• 5:06
  Speaker 6: was a different form of provoking because that was just wrong.
• 5:09
  Speaker 6: So I think my I'm gonna have to figure it out.
• 5:12
  Speaker 7: Hell.
• 5:13
  Speaker 4: No, she should not be allowed to come back to
• 5:16
  Speaker 4: her daughter's house. First of all, the daughter has to
• 5:20
  Speaker 4: go out and fight struggle in this environment, and then
• 5:25
  Speaker 4: with her mother no help, no support throughout the process.
• 5:29
  Speaker 4: And then she turns around when she's in need and
• 5:32
  Speaker 4: she's looking for her mom, she's looking for her daughter
• 5:35
  Speaker 4: to take her in. No, I don't think it's right.
• 5:38
  Speaker 8: My initial thought was, no, do what whatever you do
• 5:42
  Speaker 8: with that money?
• 5:42
  Speaker 6: Do.
• 5:43
  Speaker 8: But then I thought about it, that's still my mother.
• 5:46
  Speaker 9: And I'd have to look at her situation, you know,
• 5:48
  Speaker 9: before I make that drash decision, because yes, she did wrong,
• 5:52
  Speaker 9: but her current situation may have me racing.
• 5:56
  Speaker 4: You know.
• 5:56
  Speaker 9: My initial thought was no, no, no, the mom is trifling.
• 6:01
  Speaker 9: And yes, parents have gotten really trifling. Some of the
• 6:05
  Speaker 9: things that they've done to their children. I could never imagine.
• 6:07
  Speaker 9: I paid for my child to go to school, I
• 6:10
  Speaker 9: paid her rent so she wouldn't have to quit it.
• 6:12
  Speaker 9: So in order for you to take your child's money
• 6:14
  Speaker 9: so she can better herself, how dare you? And then
• 6:17
  Speaker 9: the audacity to ask, can you come live with her
• 6:20
  Speaker 9: after she's better herself? Maybe you should take some time
• 6:23
  Speaker 9: to better yourself.
• 6:25
  Speaker 5: You know, it's kind of subjective, but everybody has a
• 6:27
  Speaker 5: right to, you know, make decisions based on themselves and
• 6:31
  Speaker 5: their best interest. I don't know if it's because of
• 6:34
  Speaker 5: what the mother did, but sometimes in your life, over
• 6:37
  Speaker 5: the course of your life as an adult, you're gonna
• 6:40
  Speaker 5: come to the realization is that some people that you
• 6:42
  Speaker 5: just got to move away from and some people that
• 6:45
  Speaker 5: you can't operate in close you know, proximity with, even
• 6:48
  Speaker 5: if it's your parents. So her not letting her mother
• 6:51
  Speaker 5: move in with her, if she knows that that's not
• 6:53
  Speaker 5: the best thing for her, I think she was well
• 6:56
  Speaker 5: then her right and understanding to do that. If it
• 6:58
  Speaker 5: had anything to do with there, that might be what
• 7:01
  Speaker 5: she knows she can't deal with. But sometimes you have to,
• 7:04
  Speaker 5: you know, not bring people around you if you're going
• 7:07
  Speaker 5: to keep moving forward and you still can you know,
• 7:09
  Speaker 5: you just don't deal with them like that. But I
• 7:12
  Speaker 5: think she was right if she if she knew that
• 7:14
  Speaker 5: she could, you know, if she knew it wasn't a
• 7:16
  Speaker 5: good move for her, she was within her right.
• 7:18
  Speaker 1: It all depends if the mother was saving.
• 7:21
  Speaker 8: The money out of her pocket, the money that the
• 7:24
  Speaker 8: mother worked for, or did the daughter save her money
• 7:27
  Speaker 8: through like scholarships or work when she was able to
• 7:31
  Speaker 8: work as a team. If the mother saved the money,
• 7:35
  Speaker 8: then she has the right to spend it. However, she
• 7:38
  Speaker 8: might have want to give it to her daughter to
• 7:39
  Speaker 8: go to college. Bills might have came up, life might
• 7:42
  Speaker 8: have happened. So it depends on the reason that the
• 7:45
  Speaker 8: mother spent the money, and if the money was the
• 7:48
  Speaker 8: mothers that she saved up for the daughter now and
• 7:51
  Speaker 8: if it was the daughter's money.
• 7:53
  Speaker 1: Mama did wrong, so a daughter.
• 7:55
  Speaker 2: Her mother responded her daughter's college fund. The daughter paid
• 7:58
  Speaker 2: for herself to get put herself to college. And now
• 8:01
  Speaker 2: when a mother needs a place to live, there like hell,
• 8:04
  Speaker 2: get some gone.
• 8:06
  Speaker 1: You think she was wrong? Are we going to the phones?
• 8:09
  Speaker 10: The daughter wasn't wrong at all. It was the mother
• 8:12
  Speaker 10: who was wrong. The mother sold the season of her
• 8:15
  Speaker 10: all destruction by taking that child's college money. Now the
• 8:19
  Speaker 10: daughter might have the bilitating's debt starting out in life.
• 8:23
  Speaker 10: So yeah, I wouldn't let my parents move back here.
• 8:26
  Speaker 1: Nothing doing that.
• 8:27
  Speaker 10: I could have had a better education than whatever. But yeah,
• 8:31
  Speaker 10: the mother was wrong.
• 8:32
  Speaker 7: I believe if she had a college fund, and I'm
• 8:36
  Speaker 7: going to just go with maybe grandma had to set up,
• 8:39
  Speaker 7: maybe it was inheriting some dad, but it was her
• 8:43
  Speaker 7: college fund, so you needed to wait to see if
• 8:46
  Speaker 7: she was going to school and have it there for her.
• 8:50
  Speaker 7: So no, I don't believe she owes a roof over
• 8:53
  Speaker 7: a mom's head. If mom didn't take care of that
• 8:56
  Speaker 7: fun that she could have that wish for hill Man, that's.
• 9:00
  Speaker 11: A tough one. You know, there's nothing new under the son.
• 9:03
  Speaker 11: The Bible teach us to under our parents. My mother
• 9:05
  Speaker 11: and that father was to our parents. The Bible tells
• 9:08
  Speaker 11: us to don't provoke your children, but it's not a
• 9:12
  Speaker 11: generation thing. I've seen some crazy stuff when I was
• 9:15
  Speaker 11: coming up in the seventies and eighties that I've seen
• 9:18
  Speaker 11: the father show at his son. I saw another father
• 9:21
  Speaker 11: try to kill his son. So this is nothing new
• 9:23
  Speaker 11: under the son. But what I would tell him if
• 9:26
  Speaker 11: that was me, I would tell my mom, since you
• 9:28
  Speaker 11: swung it, because she could have sworn under her education
• 9:31
  Speaker 11: by taking care of her. So I don't know the
• 9:33
  Speaker 11: real story. But if she didn't, I would tell my mom,
• 9:36
  Speaker 11: you can move in, but you're gonna pay part of
• 9:38
  Speaker 11: this tuition. You're gonna pay part of my education. So
• 9:41
  Speaker 11: pick a bill and you got it. But just a
• 9:43
  Speaker 11: tough situation, but I will make her pay something