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Social Media Fame & Consequences - Viral The New Currency · DidiLawren

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Episode. Because for the past couple of
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weeks been holding myself back doing videos because you're just
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going to be making videos on a daily basis talking about the.
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Challenges that youths are facing in the current.
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Day and age. Now we're talking about
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sextortion, we're talking about cloud chasing.
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We're talking about fame or viral being the new currency and
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we're also. Talking about people, ending it
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all. Because they have not achieved
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what they want to. Achieve so social media has been
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has got. A lot of good.
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For the youths, especially Nigerian youths, because most of
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them are now employed being influences on social media,
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making skits, comedy, singing, like the music industry is
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booming both nationally and international.
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The Afro Beats is one of the biggest export that Nigeria
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currently. Has.
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And everybody wants to jump. You know, Nigeria wants somebody
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successful or something. Everybody wants to do that.
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Thing. So social media has brought a
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lot of good because you can literally sit.
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Down and go. Viral for just being yourself.
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There's this girl who just recorded a video of herself, her
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daily activities. I think her name is Trauma.
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And the video give her 2 million so.
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You can literally sit down, have a phone and just do something
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and then your life can change in an instant within that same.
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Capacity your life can also. Change if you don't manage your
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expectation on social. Media now on the first one that
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went. Viral and that everybody was
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talking about. Is the booby girl the bad girl?
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She literally according. To the story she was.
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Being blackmailed by a former lover or ex-boyfriend who she
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sent sexual content to and he released it on social media or
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somehow that contains go released.
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She's been trending nonstop until he our own, very own mule,
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Nollywood actress Moyo. Lawal there are so many people
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after like it's it's been a. Trend right now I can't even
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count. About 3-4 people after Bubba
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Girl, but it didn't really get that much attention.
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Like Bagel did. So the next person was, we
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allowed Nollywood actress Moyo Lawal and.
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According to this story, she was dating.
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One guy and the. Guy.
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They broke up. He actually proposed to her,
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according to the story. And then they broke up and he
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released sexual content. Of her online.
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Now this is the discussion. A lot of people are saying that
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people are just releasing content.
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For viral to go viral because viral is the new currency.
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Everybody wants to go viral, Everybody wants to do things.
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That we just get their names. Out there, everybody wants to
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live their life. They Instagram.
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Baby girl life and that comes. At a cost.
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Because if you just sit down, you do content and you don't.
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Do things crazy things. People don't really get to know
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you. This is very evident with an
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interview that Mandy. Kids granted Mandy Case is a
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Nigerian social media influencer who puts.
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Herself out there talking about. You know, sex, talking about a
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whole lot of things. What she can.
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Do how she can do things. And in that.
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Interview she said She was broke.
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She didn't have. Anything and then.
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She decided to because she can't see that sex sells.
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She decided to do that and before you know it, she went
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viral. Everybody was talking.
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About her. People were even approaching her
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for, you know, soliciting, you know.
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And all. That so she said that her life
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has taken a different turn because now she can't even be in
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a relationship. Anybody that is approaching her
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is approaching her based on that.
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So you can see social media being a.
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Whole lot of tool that can be used for.
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Good, but I think the problem is some people are not even patient
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enough. To just grow things organically,
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everybody wants to. Go viral and one of the.
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Things that people are doing to do to.
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To go viral is allegedly releasing explicit content out
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there. I mean in many.
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Cases case she. Put out videos talking about all
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these things. She didn't really.
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Put out, you know, sexual or explicit content videos online.
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Although there are so many people online putting out all
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those things and they don't even go viral.
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But the question now is, is famed the new currency?
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Because you look at so many. People and doing very.
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Well, for themselves. Talented you.
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Even hear stories of people going.
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For, let's say contracts. They be dead for that contract.
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They went there being themselves, just going there.
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As they are maybe taking an Uber or or maybe driving an old car
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and somebody who is not even as competent.
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As they are. They borrow everything from
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cars, from twigs. Or to clothes, just to look.
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The part and once. They get there, They.
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Gain favour just because. Of the way they presented us
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themselves. So you see a whole lot of people
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on social media leaving Fake. Life and that has.
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Caused a whole lot of problem, especially in this generation
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where. We still believe that the man.
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Should foot so many things. So that also put pressure on our
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young. Men on how they want to.
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Make money and. Take care of because you see a
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whole lot of Yahoo, Yahoo plus going on.
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So there is a whole lot now within all this conversation.
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There was an interview, granted Kiki.
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Granted today and. She talked about, you know, in
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this generation, she's making money, She's a skit.
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Maker. She's a fashion just like she
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she she does. She's into comedy.
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So she makes a lot of money and according to her husband, also
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makes money. But they share Bill.
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You know, she pay rents. People were like, this is not
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happening. They cannot pay rent.
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They cannot. Do this they So a whole lot has
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been going on social media. People dissecting that, saying
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that they cannot do. That and that.
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Is beneath it, and then you look at, you know.
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The social media space OK if. Social media has given a whole
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lot of. People, the ability to make
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money without even probably leaving your.
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House. Yes, Kiki.
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She attended event. She will see events.
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She does the whole lot of things, which, yeah.
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She goes out to do those things, but does that mean she?
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Because this is 1 some of the. Pressures that we put on.
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The male gender and. This is why.
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We have problems today. We're thinking, OK, the male,
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the the, the man should provide. A whole lot of women came for
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Kiki. They were like, Oh my God, how
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can you pay rent? How can you pay rent?
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Your husband's house. What's your husband doing?
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Why can you not parents? That they cannot pay rent to
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even some Nollywood actresses. They came out.
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And they said. That they their husband was not
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even allowed them to pay rent. They cannot even do that.
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Some people say that. If they if they are the ones
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paying rent, why are they getting?
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Married, I think. What she.
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Was trying to say is it's not about the rent because obviously
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she said that this man can, you know, give her 10,000.
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Dollars. You know, even after paying the
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rent, he can. Send that to Maldives Dubai for.
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Vacation and all that. It's not about the money.
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It's about the principle involved in that.
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Aspect. I think a whole lot of youths
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because it's quick money, especially social media money.
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Social media fame. You're getting money thrown at
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you and then you just using the money.
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Some of them are just. Buying different things,
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everybody. Is buying cars on daily basis.
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I want to be the one to drive. The latest car thought to be the
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first to do this, or to be the first to do that.
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So they're busy spending their money on certain things.
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A whole lot like nobody owes anybody explanation on how they
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spend their money. Obviously, but I think we also
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need to talk about the responsibilities.
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Involved because there was this other story like a whole lot has
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been going on. Social Media I.
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Can tell you. That at the back of this
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conversation, the entertainment. Industry lost a rapper.
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Who backed and this? Rapper has a girlfriend who has
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a very young. Child and she came out online.
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She's been crying how she's going.
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To cope, she has a young child. What is she going to do?
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How is she going to take care of the?
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Child and. You could see that.
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You could see the implication of somebody saying I don't want to
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pay rent my money. You know I don't take care of
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myself in man should do that for me.
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Nobody is thinking about the implication of what if somebody
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something happens to that person.
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He was 27. This old with a child a six
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month. Old baby, you know nobody is
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would ever imagine that you know he would die so young, even
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though the girlfriend if you. Had told her, you know, two days
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ago that she would be raising that.
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Child alone, I am very sure. She would have put certain
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things in place. To ensure that should be able to
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do that. So my point is in as much.
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As the youths. Are using social media for
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different reasons people releasing explicit content?
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To go viral. If that works for you, that's
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fine. People doing a whole lot of
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things to make money now, even if you're making money, you
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should also consider what you do with that money, because easy
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comes. Easy go.
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You see a whole lot of people, they make money, let's say
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influencing. Job and their first money like.
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Monique said they paid out. 500,000 to promote a brand.
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So you see a whole lot of people doing little.
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For money and the. Dangers in that is if you're
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doing that and you're earning that money and you just
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spending, you're not thinking about how you're going to pay
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your. Bills.
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OK, you're living with your husband.
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You're not thinking. About how?
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What if something happened there?
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Was this story of this young widow Who?
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The husband family literally took away.
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Everything they were. Married for over 10 years, she
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had about three children. And.
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He just one day slumped. Died and the the husband's
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family just came in, picked up everything.
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Even the laptop, because I think the husband was an.
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Architect and they. Chased out of the house, so she
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she's been going. From pillar to post seeking
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help, you know. And then you look at those kind
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of situation. And then you see women saying
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that they will not. Pay rent.
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These are the same people that will still come out.
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Online I am a widow like listen. We nobody prays to be with you,
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but every beginning has an ending.
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Something is going to end, even the man.
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Before you marry a woman. Think about what if something
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happens? To you, how are your children
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going to be taking? Care of the whole lot of people
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will tell. You I've put so many things in
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place, there's money in the bank.
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'S There's this. There's that, but at the end of.
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The day. We're talking about naira right
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now to the dollar. Is ridiculous.
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Let's say you've saved all this money thinking.
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Obviously. Naira thinking you have so much
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money once you're gone. And that money, there is no
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money coming in once you're just spending and there's no money
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coming. In, regardless of how much.
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You have it is going is going down.
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It will be going down so inasmuch as.
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Social media is a tool that everybody wants to.
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Use Everybody wants to. Everybody wants to make money,
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everybody wants to be famous. I think we need to.
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Start kind of censoring ourselves on what we see.
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Or what we do. Or what we post.
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I mean, when you talk about the bubye girl right now, she's
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nowhere to be found. Because the shame of, you know,
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coming out there after. Your videos of your coochie has
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been plastered on social media. It's kind of it's it's.
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I don't even know how she's going to.
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Do that and then you talk about Moyo Moyo.
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Right now, nobody is talking. About the guy, because then
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again, guys. Get away with all these teams
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she is being. Talked about she has.
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That fame right now, but is he being?
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Transferred into currency. I have no idea.
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Because you look at all these things.
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And it's putting in a negative light some brands, especially in
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Nigeria. Because you know, Africa is
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still a very traditional country, some brands will not
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even associated. With her, yes, she has the fame.
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She went viral. But at what cost?
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And then you come. You talk about Kiki, who is
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saying listen. Very.
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Very hard working person. I make my money but I still pay.
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My husband makes money but I still pay bill and people are
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like. Oh my God, why would you?
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How dare you do that? How dare you?
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You just say you will make more money than you was.
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What like? You see all these things and
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you're thinking. What is what?
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What are people learning on social media?
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What are people learning on social?
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Media and then. If let's say, God forbid,
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something happens to her husband or.
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That marriage and. She is used to paying bills.
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She's going to pay those bills. She's going to take care of her
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child and she's going to. Be fine, unlike the other widow
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who was not. Paying bills, she was a very.
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Housewife taking care of her kids and then one morning her
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husband. Slumped and died and right now.
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She's out there crying, looking for.
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Who to help? Back to more bat.
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Mobile is very 27 years. Old was 27.
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Couple of days ago when he slumped.
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And died and. You look at all these things, he
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has a six month. Old baby who?
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The girlfriend is also on social media saying how is she going to
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cope? Is fame translating to money?
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You know, because you look at all these things, everybody
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wants to be famous. Everybody wants to be.
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Popular Everybody wants to be the.
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It's girl. Everybody wants to make some
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money on social media. What are you?
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Doing one of the best. Things I like.
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About the Mandy kiss. Story was that even after all
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those things, she went back and she was like.
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OK, I've made fame. I want to change my brand.
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I want to even start selling products, marketing and home
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products and she's like, she's never going.
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To go back to where she was. Before, I think the problem is
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some people find it very difficult to transition from
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1:00. Phase to the other These are the
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people that get stuck. Let's say the more bad situation
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where. He got kicked out of his record
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label or he left the record label because of problems there
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and transitioning from there. Let's say nobody even is trying
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to sign you. You already.
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Have that fame. You have a platform that you
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can. Use to, but people some people
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cannot transition from one point to the other.
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The long and short story is looking at the social media and
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the youths we need to. Look at how we're going to
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balance things, because once you lose that balance, it's going to
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be a lot. And as an adult.
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As a youth, whether Gen Z Millennial.
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Whatever you should be able to contribute towards taking care
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of. Yourself.
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Even if somebody is giving you money, even if somebody is
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taking care of all those things, make sure.
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You. Can earn.
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To take care of certain things, even if you're not giving that
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money out. So let's say you get married to
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somebody. Who is taking care of you?
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Doing everything for you? Sit down and make a plan.
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Yes, you know the amount. You.
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Know the rent every month. Or every year.
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Make sure you're keeping aside you're.
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Earning like money is coming into your.
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Hands and you can. Pay portion because once you.
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You have responsibility. You're going to go out there to.
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Get that money. So let's say you have the you're
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in the comfort zone of. A marriage where you're not
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contributing. So it gives you that cushioning
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where you can go out there, do so many things and then.
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Be able to take care of certain things.
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Before you get to. The point whereby the husband is
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no longer there and then. You lost, so you look at social
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media today. People.
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A lot of people want to be like some people, but they don't want
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to leave the. Realities of what's happening?
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The question now? Is is viral the new currency?
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Do we all want to just go? Viral just for the sake of
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going. Viral because once you have
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viral. Brands contact you Brands
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through. Themselves as you, you make
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money, but once you cannot transition from.
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That phase and that. Phase Close.
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This is where people have depression.
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This is why so much. Today because they are looking
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at what people are doing on my record, my mate is doing this,
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my mates is doing that and I am. Not doing anything.
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Start. Anywhere.
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And make sure you're paying your bills.
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Don't go and put your coochie out there.
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Just because you want to go viral because it.
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Is going to come back and bite you.
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It will, so let's be guided. Let us.
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Be guided. Yes, going viral.
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Is very important for. The.
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Latest because everything is on social media right now.
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And it is. Important You go viral?
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For people to get to know you. But then again, what are they
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knowing you for? And that's going viral.
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Make sure you're paying your bills.
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And taking care of your mental health so that when one door
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closes, you will not just go and jump off.
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The third Mainland bridge or whatever.
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Bridge or story building you. You would be able to transition
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to a different. Phase in your life.
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It's been a lot going on within the past couple of.
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Weeks and. I just said to.
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Compress everything in one video.
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Because sitting down talking about these things individually,
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it's it's. I don't even know you're just
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going to be doing. Videos every hour.
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I don't have the strength of that.
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You freeze. So.
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I hope I make sense. I hope you understand that life
20:35
is too. Short regardless of whether.
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You're in a. Marriage and your spouse is.
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Taking care of everything. Make sure you are taking some
20:44
responsibility. Or even if you're not taking
20:46
them, make sure you give. Yourself some responsibility and
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you're. Keeping money aside, so that.
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You will. Be able to.
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Your earning power in. Will increase and don't just go
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viral for. The sake of going viral.
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Don't plaster. Your nudes out there just for
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the sake of. It and we need to caution
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ourselves again about taking recording.
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Ourselves. It's ridiculous.
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I know. I know this.
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You know, this generation like we like pictures.
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We like videos. Some people, it gets them off,
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it gets them going so. Take it easy, Take it easy.
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Don't put your face. Don't put your face.
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