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Episode #175: Navigating Grief During Times of Change · Tea Time w/Amie & Bev

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Good morning, Welcome to tea time with Amy and Bev. Hello, Hello
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day Sunday. How they're going? Oh so much, so much happening.
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So the major thing is have had a pretty big life change recently and I
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started a full time job. And interesting enough. I mean, first of
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all, I just want to say that I love this. I love helping
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people. I love coaching and teaching classes. Sometimes for people who are doing
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well, people are doing things and they're starting to get overwhelmed and overloaded with
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stuff, and the emotions and involved of overwhelmed and frustration and irritation all that,
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right, we know that cause a resistance and that can slow processes down.
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It can give us setbacks. And I was there and in business,
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especially well in business from I mean, I listened to a lot of entrepreneurs
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and business leaders and mentors. And you gotta when you, especially when you
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start your own business, when you're self employed, that you set your why,
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and your why has to be huge and strong so that you can focus
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on it and keep that momentum going. My why is big and strong,
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but my focus wasn't there. My focus was on all the stuff I was
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trying to stay on top of. On a regular. So things business is
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not doing well, so I still gotta have an income. I stopped bills
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to pay so I went and got a job full time and plus some hours.
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So it's going to be a little more than full time. But the
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interesting thing is is that this position, I'm utilizing some of the skills that
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I already have from a business perspective, helping this company get organized, working
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for a nonprofit. Flexible in the schedule because there is ah we work more
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hours than the forty right, So it's kind of a on an honor basis
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that you know you work extra hours here and you need to take some time
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off whatever, just let us know you're not gonna be here. I mean,
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so flexible super band. Now, that's what I'm used accustomed to because
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I've been working from home for so long. And then you know, I'm
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still in that headspace of I know this is for me. I know good
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things are gonna immediately. Well I have to say not immediately. I did
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go. And I want to say this to everybody who has any kind of
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change in their life, especially if it's big, you will grieve. I
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had my meltdown. I cried, ugly cry snot tears flowing, and I
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let it out. I just let it all out because we have to let
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that those emotions move. So anytime I just an acquaintance her her boyfriend just
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went to jail and he's gonna be gone for a while. And I told,
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I'm like, you gotta grief. You have to grieve. You gotta
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let that energy flow. Whether you cry or punch a pillow or whatever it
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is, you're gonna move through a grieving process. So anytime we have big
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changes, especially little changes too, we may not really recognize it as grieving,
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but those big things that really jolt us, we got to move that
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energy. Don't stuff it and true try to put that happy face on and
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suck it up. Let it move. So anyway, so I got into
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the mindset of everything's temporary, this is happening for me, It's happening for
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a reason. I'm going to learn something new, something different, something that's
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going to help propel me. I know there's there's a lot of good stuff
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that's going to come out of this. And I've already I've only been there
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for like two and a half days. I've been thinking about having like a
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retreat for women for a healing retreat three four days. I've already had a
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conversation with somebody who's an event planner. I've had a conversation with a lady
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who loves to cook and is thinking about going to call binary school, and
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I talked to her about possibly being the chef for the retreat. Like,
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I'm having these conversations that I wouldn't have had sitting in my house, right
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I'm getting out into the public. I'm having these different conversations with these different
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people. And this morning, this morning, I was like, okay,
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Universe, now I need a facility, right, I need at somebody's home,
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a retreat center, something to somewhere to have this event. Right.
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So I'm I did. I did have to have a mindset shift. As
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far as you know, I believe everything's temporary. No matter what we're doing,
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everything is temporary. And I said to myself, after like a day
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into working, I said, I gotta do I don't have to do this.
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I'm going to do this so I don't have to do it anymore.
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I'm just gonna do this until I don't have to do it anymore. And
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I don't know where this is going to lead because there's so many I am
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meeting, I am meeting and will meet so many different people. And that
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was one of the things I talked to you about too, was I need
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to get out into the public. I need to be out there meeting and
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socializing with people. I need people to know who I am. People hear
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my name all over this town. I will go a place They're like,
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oh, are you Amy Wait, I'm like yes, Like now they're putting
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in a face to a name, and so I just see this. Really,
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it's just cool. And I'm utilizing like my organization skills, business skills,
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communication skills, website designing skills. Like there's so much diversity in what
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I'm doing, and that's what I like. I don't like repetitive stuff.
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I'm doing the same thing. I get myself ill. I will tweak something
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to cause a problem so I can fix it. We know this about me.
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I've shared that before. So when I have multiple topic subjects going on,
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I'm just like, oh, this is fun. So that's thing would
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mean, Matt. I think it's so awesome. And you totally feel different,
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right. You feel there's an open flow with you instead of when we
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show up trying to show up as our best, and you were showing up
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as your best. Even though there's inner stuff going on. The inner stuff
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can be palpable, can be felt. But today's conversation is a nice flow.
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It's open, it's you're exposing yourself exactly, and it's not even exposing
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yourself, You're you're showing everybody. This is where I'm at right now.
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This is the experience that I've had right now. And it's so I find
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this so fascinating because the universe has been pulling you in so many different directions
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for the last couple of years, like you getting it involved in a lot
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of the technicological stuff with the on the computer, the setting out the advertisements,
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do it Like all these things that you've been doing has all led to
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to this. Now this isn't the end all be all, because there's something,
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there's another piece that's going to come from this, and it's like you
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don't even know. And the and the fascinating thing is because I just we
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were just talking about this on Tuesday of last week. If you had just
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put out a feeler to a couple of people or a person and she's like,
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you know, come see me, and next thing you know you've got
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a job. This is the proof of how things are supposed to move in
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our lives. And I say supposed to like it has to do it.
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But it's a natural flow of things when things are going in the right direction,
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when we're making making a move to go. Like you, there was
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resistance because you needed a break from your job, your job at home,
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you know what I mean. You needed a break from that. And when
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you let go of that resistance, you cried and you let go of all
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of that, and it was all the way back to a childhood stuff.
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Right. It's it's whether we recognize it or not, it's all that all
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those emotions back to. Then. I say that because, like you said,
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grieving, it doesn't matter if you're grieving the loss of a loved one
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or a job or a relationship, a place, you know whatever. If
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you're greeting that stuff, we're not in full flow of things. And if
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we try to smile and act like everything's great, we're actually restricting. We're
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still at that point restricting our flow because we're not offering up ourselves completely to
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everybody else. We're not allowing ourselves to receive what's coming into us. I
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don't even know where the hell that came from because I wasn't even part of
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the conversation. But it wasn't too bad. But I'm just thinking about this
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stuff because it's like, there's so much stuff that you've been doing, and
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there's so much stuff, and it's like, now I can see how it
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all kind of it was all. It was guiding you the whole time and
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that and this is another thing of if there's things that you're you know,
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you typically don't gravitate towards or you like something, but you're like, I
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don't know about that, but it keeps showing up in your experience. It's
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trying to lead you in that direction. And that's a choice. It's a
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choice to be put your nose to the grindstone. Like you. We've all
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we've learned, both of you and I have learned that you put your nose
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to the grindstone, you just keep going and don't make it to the end.
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Whatever that looks like. You just keep going. And it's not even
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where. We've learned that it doesn't have to be that way, But our
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old patterns are still there because I still do this this stuff too, especially
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when I don't know, like last Sunday was my first day that I've had
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to myself by myself in a very long time, just a whole day by
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myself, because my significant other was working all day long, and he doesn't
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he's just covering for somebody, So it's like I had an opportunity for it
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to be by myself all day long. Well, I wanted to feel worthy
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and that I had done something, so I were I. I got on
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my hands and knees and mopped the floors. I cleaned up parts of the
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kitchen that needed to be taken care of. I did all my laundry,
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like I had all my sheets and towels and everything was clean for the next
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week for work. I took care of everything, but I didn't take care
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of me. I didn't give me me time. And then then and I
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had written down, what did you what were you asking for? Because and
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then you answered it because you were at you had an ask for things.
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And sometimes we have this act asking for things and we don't know how it's
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going to show up, and then we want to resist it sometimes because it's
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not how we want we thought it should show up, right, Like I
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want to have all this money coming in, but maybe my expectation might be
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from the lottery and I'm resisting another area from it for it coming in,
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just to use that as an example, and it won't come in that way.
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But if it comes in through someone else, right, well, hey,
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I'm gonna go ahead and write you this check. And then it's like,
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oh, then that brings up a whole other can of worms, because
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when you do that, it's like, now I feel like I'm now I'm
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obligated to this person. So it's like, it's just what are these These
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are what we call triggers there for us to look at. It's for us
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to become neutral to it and jump on, jump on the ride, like
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see what it looks like. It's I love your attitude about this whole thing.
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And I know at first it kind of we talked about it, and
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then it was a little bit of heapiness, But it was a heapiness for
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me too, because it's a process for me too, because I'm in the
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process of transitioning from from my employment to other things. And then now I'm
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starting to think, am I transitioning from that or am I, like we've
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talked about earlier, am I learning how to set boundaries. Am I learning
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how to just be more honoring of myself but still honoring others, you know,
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showing up for the greater good, evolve, but not being around what's
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been termed to me as ask holes, where you have people that constantly ask
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you questions and they there's never a follow through. They And it's not that
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they're bad people or anything like that, because we've I'm sure I've been in
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the same space at some point. I couldn't pinpoint. I'm sure maybe my
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life review will show me. But yes, I've done it. Yeah,
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right, And it's not like it's a bad thing, but it's like it
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does it's not a feel good thing. Well, I want to say that
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about the boundaries because I mean, when you're in business and people know what
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you do, they want free advice. That's that's then it becomes equivalent to
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the ass holes. Right, they get the free advice, but they don't
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do anything with it. But they don't take up your time. But they
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but we don't realize is they're human too. They want their downtime too.
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They are focused on other things too. And if if all these people are
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coming at them every day when you know you go out in public and they
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come up to you and they're talking to you and they want to share their
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stories with you, and then they want that free like I only I have
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the same amount of time in this day as you, as long as I'm
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staying in the physical body, and I got other things to do, right,
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So I had to learn pretty quickly that I can I can spend a
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moment to empathize with somebody and I can say, you know, here's my
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I'll send you my scheduling link, SEA can schedule an appointment. And that's
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like, you know, because that was a boundary to set that I had
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to set because I have other commitments. I have other things to do.
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I'm I'm I have a lot to do, so I need that time and
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space and energy to do it as well. So yeah, when you know,
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setting boundaries just for anybody's important because that is taking care of yourself.
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That is self care as nurturing yourself. Just you know, where I'm at
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just watching people because you know, when you're in when you're in an office
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space especially and you're focused on something and you have people coming in and out
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of your office like twenty thirty times a day, I don't know. I'm
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not exaggerating. You really don't get anything done. And they say it takes
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an average of about twenty minutes to refocus of where you are at in the
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project when you're interrupted. So now not only are you interrupted with the conversation,
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now you're having that conversation and then having to refocus, and about time
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you get refocused, somebody else is walking in, or the phone rings,
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or and so it's like creating the boundaries of unless somebody's dying, take a
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message, take write down your notes, and then come and we can talk
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about all of it at once. It's like, or give me an hour,
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okay, can I'm an hour of unterrypted up, uninterrupted time, and
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then we can meet and have a conversation. So just recognizing how important boundaries
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are, especially for anyone who is I know, for people self employeed,
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especially sometimes that could be difficult as you're starting out because as a coach,
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you know, I just want to help everybody, and at the same time,
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if I try to help everybody, I'm going to help nobody. So
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being mindful the boundaries are important for your sanity is the word sanity because I
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mean really, because it's for your it is for yourself until you can evolve
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where you're neutral and you're not triggered by these things. The boundaries are beneficial,
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they're healthy. We need them in order for us to kind of see
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things, in order for us to build up a neutrality to it. I
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feel like because when we build up another understanding because we step back from it
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and try to come at things from a space of love instead of from a
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space of defense, anger, frustration, sadness, grief. Something else you
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said too. I mean it wasn't part of the conversation, but we were
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talking about like that refocus. It takes that amount of a certain amount of
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time, And the first thing that came in my mind is, well,
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okay, well how can we speed up that? Because that's the three D
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right, We're talking three D when we're talking that conversation, but from a
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five D conversation, how could we speed up that refocus? You've learned how
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to do all the stuff, so this is a natural thing for you,
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so now you're it's so fascinating. I almost feel like maybe some at some
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point you're gonna make business coaching people and stuff like that beyond this, because
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it's because you've gravitated towards a lot of this stuff. Anyways, it's been
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like and it seems to be like a natural flow for you, honestly,
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but for you to be in the environment, and then especially in the environment
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you're in right now, because it's your creativity is so valuable in the environment
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that you're in, really in your positivity and your energy, your open flowingness.
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Well, I have to say right away because of the where I'm at
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right now is very very much involved politically in that interesting right for me,
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but right away in the in in two days, in No. One one
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and a half, my second day there, an email needed to be written
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in response to a disgruntled participant of an event, and so she read me
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her response and I was like, mmm, this, I mean, it
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was just defensive and like aggressive, you know. It was pointing the finger.
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They're each pointing the finger at each other, so each of them,
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You're so good, keep going, each of them trying to prove the other
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person wrong or prove themselves right, and wanting to be validated and all this
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stuff. And when I read her response, I was like, and I'm
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explaining these things as we go. So we revamped the email and then it
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was kind of a rush thing, but it was it was direct, but
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it was professional. And the next day she sent it off and the next
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day I said, how did you feel about She goes, well, I
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kind of wanted to put this piece in there just so that they and I
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said, I understand that. And what we also want to recognize is they're
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throwing a temper tantrum. And how do kids get attention by throwing a temper
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tantrum? And if you're going to meet their energy, then you're you're dipping
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into their energy and meeting them and that causes resistance and you're just going to
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keep going back and forth with this type of energy. So let's try to
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shift that and not meet them where they're at. Right, I'm trying to
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explain it to her in terms that she could hear me, and she was
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getting it, like she's like, oh, so I know I'm going to
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be in that way now. Us having a conversation about energy and all that
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stuff, we like, we get it right. But when I'm out in
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the public and people are talking to me, I gotta use a different language
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to get my point across. And that's a skill that I'm developing now so
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that I can get better at, especially in the space that I'm in,
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so which I guess learning something new or getting better at or honing in on
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a skill, and and so I know that there's a lot of value in
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me being there and and just embracing what's going on and enjoying that process and
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that flow, and it's seeing where it goes. So yeah, I mean
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doing coaching in the business and having the other the other people there there there
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that are going to be picking up on that stuff too, right, So
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it would be quite interesting to see how this pans out. Well, it's
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just like you said, imagine or it's there's it's political as well, and
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it's like because they needed your balance, do you know what? Do you
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know what I mean? It wasn't because otherwise it could be out of control
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and it's not. It's like you said, automatically when you start doing letters
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like that, and I understand because we as soon as you read it,
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you're as soon as you're reading it, you're already connected to their energy.
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You're already feeling it. So if you're feeling like this attack naturally, if
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you're if you're willy nilly going about this, you know, moving through life,
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you're going to automatically accept the challenge like I'm going to attack back,
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right, We're going to see who's going to be able to win from this.
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But that's where the neutrality comes into place because when we become neutral,
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now we can see that this person is needed to be seen and heard,
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really needed to be seen and heard. And now it's up to me.
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The way that I respond could lift this person up or could drive them down
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even more. And then on the other aspect of that, this person is
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another aspect of myself. So if I am I going to talk to myself
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like an asshole, or am I going to talk to myself like and see
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myself that myself needs to be lifted up and needs to be you know,
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have an understanding and be heard because this person needs to be heard for whatever
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their opinions are. And it's like even for me, I ran ran something
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by you before we got on and this is why I said, oh,
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you're so good, because you're describing that, but you were also describing the
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conversation that I had had with you this morning, and you were processing that
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information and sharing it without dipping into my energy about it because you could have
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picked up the psychic stuff and you would have been like, oh, but
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yeah, but did you do this or you know what I mean? You
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could have picked up on some things like that. So it was just awesome
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how you processed it. But it just goes to show me. For me,
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it's a confirmation that you're exactly where you're supposed to be. How long
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are you going to be there? I don't know, but it's opened up
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more of a creativity. And then also coming back to where you talked about
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your your getaways, the retreat retreat retreat, but when we were talking about
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the retreat, I was thinking about that too, and it's like this opened
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up another doorway for you to have possibilities instead of thinking you have to do
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it all by yourself. So this is another prime example of showing how things
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can work out and it doesn't have to be by ourselves. We don't have
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to figure out where we're going to put something, how we're going to set
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it up, you know how much it's going to cost, all these other
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things. No, we put it out there and now you're getting that opportunity
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to do it. You get to play with the universe like you're right,
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like right, now if you want to look at it like you're going to
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your office and that's your vision board. When you go to that space,
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that's your vision board, because it's got like you've got the stuff all in
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your mind all over the place, and all these people that are coming in,
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because there's a lot of people that come through that space that are coming
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in are going to be bringing forward such different information and it's and it's now
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you're in a space of where you're going around people's work doesn't feel like there's
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a take. And I'm not saying that it was a take before, but
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maybe it was a little bit out of balance because I think you're giving and
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you're putting out of the stuff you were doing was out of balance of what
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you were receiving, right, And I guess that's another Saying that out loud
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makes me think that maybe that's another queue for ourselves to be like, Okay,
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this is this is out of balance. I'm saying that because this is
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for myself too, because I'm recognizing right now, even with the work that
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I've been doing and seeing the same amount of people I'm there's an out of
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balance, I know, and so I recognize that. So that's for me
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to see now. And now it's for me to ask myself or ask my
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guides, how, what's what does balance look like? For me? How
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can I get into balance? What parts of my life are out of balance?
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What parts are taking over the focus, and what's being left behind?
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And I already kind of stated that last week I had my Sunday and I
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didn't I utilized it by I did things for myself. Now, this is
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not like I did it for somebody else. I was for myself. I
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did the kitchen or cleaned and stuff like that, and I enjoyed myself,
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but I did not give myself space to sit and meditate, to sit and
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draw, to do any easing creative. I didn't do any of those things.
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So it's like, I love this journey you're on because it's so real
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and it's so applicable for everybody's lives right now, everybody's. And it's like
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we don't have to get tied up in all the crap, and we've been
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put all right. We haven't only been on here for half an hour,
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and we've already put out there's so much information that we've put out that if
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people want to start doing the research, it'll be wonderful. It's my significant
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other comes home yesterday and he's like, well, this person's got cancer and
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everything else, and my moutomatically getting on the thing, like let's go.
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I'm gonna go look up Barbara. Now I'm gonna go look up doctor Burger.
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I'm looking at the medical medium. What information is coming forward for me?
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Right? And then I said to him, I said, well,
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though they have Internet, because all I would do is forward links. It's
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because that's all I'm gonna do. I've done that a little bit of research
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for people, and mostly I've recognized that they don't do anything more with it
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because I can see a need. It's like having a conversation with their soul,
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and it's like their soul saying they could use all this information, and
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then you put it all out there and it's to be not I'm holding onto
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an attachment. However, they use that information because you gave them a gift
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and it's whatever they want to do with it. And so that's a learning
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process too. It's a learning process. It really is. Just like when
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I knew when my mom was trying to get a transition, and I knew
26:04
that she had cancer. I'm like, and then when we found out,
26:07
you know, she gone went through all the treatments and survived all that and
26:11
survived the surgery, then it's like she's having problems and I'm like, look,
26:15
if you just talk to this person, I know that she can help
26:18
you. I know that she can save you. And that's straight. And
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yes, I do know that she could have just like you could have.
26:25
I could have. It was just whoever she was ready to hear. And
26:27
at that time, that's not what she was ready to hear. That's not
26:30
where she wanted. She didn't want what I wanted, and that was okay
26:33
for me to let go of that. So it's like, I'll still find
26:36
the information and I'll still supply it, but I'll do it from a space
26:38
of love, unexpected right and just love. And that's a boundary too for
26:47
yourself, is to say I'm being resourceful, here's the resources. I'm if
26:53
you're going to do something with it, great, and if you have any
26:56
questions or want to talk about it, great, Yeah. But the boundary
27:02
is, like you said, not having any expectation of what they do with
27:06
the information. Because anytime somebody is in a position where we view it as
27:12
uncomfortable or needs fixing, or they need help or what. You know,
27:19
how we're perceiving it when when they're staying in the struggle, they're still gaining
27:26
something from it. It could be they're getting empathy from people, they're getting
27:32
the attention they want, they're still believing in their suffering. Like we don't
27:37
know their story. We don't know their what what their spirit needs them to
27:41
walk through. We don't know you know, their their their attachments, like
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we we don't have that whole picture. We only have ours, and we're
27:52
viewing it from our standpoint that we know better. Right, And that's something
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out That was another boundary I had to step for myself as a coach,
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Like I could see the possibilities, but that doesn't mean that's the journey that
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they're ready to take. And it's just like in an addict of anything,
28:14
that nothing's going to change until they decide to change. And so as we've
28:18
talked about for recognizing that being resourceful, here's the resources, and I'm going
28:23
to take a step back until they make It's like playing chess or checkers until
28:27
they make the next move toward me. Right, I can say you know,
28:33
send them a text, hey thinking about you, sending you a lot
28:37
to love, take a step back, and I can do that a few
28:41
times, and if there's no reciprocation, then then that's where it is.
28:47
I can't keep pushing it because if I push, that's resistance and then there's
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no there's no room for flow. And so setting the boundaries realier for yourself.
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It's not for the other people. It's totally for yourself. Right.
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I've I've spent thousands of dollars on books and stuff and given them away for
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them to sit on people's bookshelves and never be touched and know it like I've
29:15
been told, oh yeah, yeah, you got I'm maybe like, you
29:19
know, five ten years oh yeah, maybe I should read that book.
29:26
You know where you could have been by now had you read it when I
29:29
gave it to you ten years ago. But that wasn't their journey. That
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wasn't and it wasn't And it's not for me to make the decision that their
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life sucks and it needs to be fixed. And I I'm the one that
29:42
has the tools like they it may not need to be fixed. It might
29:48
there might be right where they need to be for their journey. I don't
29:52
know that. It's not for me to decide. It's for them to decide
29:56
when they want to make a change because they don't like the way their life
29:59
is going. True. So that's where we come into sending that waves of
30:07
love and grace and and doing it saying loving prayers and seeing holding a vision
30:11
for them of seeing them just happy in life or enjoying life. And however
30:18
they get there in that journey, that is up to them. I can
30:22
just hold help hold that vision for them. That's true too. It is
30:29
and it is easy. And guess what, it's not frustrating either. When
30:32
you can visualize. I'll tell if somebody, you know, if you're sending
30:36
out some prayers to someone like maybe their legs aren't feeling good or they're or
30:38
whatever, if you can see them like smiling and laughing and dancing around and
30:44
like bringing up their knees real high and they're like dancing and stuff, that's
30:48
that's sending them. That's sending them a better that's a feel good energy.
30:52
We don't even have to define it with anything. We don't have to label
30:56
it with anything, because when we label it was something that we're putting it
30:59
in to a box. And it's just like it's just like even for us
31:03
looking for careers when you're doing a spiritual path and you're like looking at all
31:06
the stuff while I'm a psychic medium, I'm a channel, I'm a I'm
31:10
you're putting yourself, you're labeling yourself, and you're putting yourself into a box.
31:14
And to me, it's like, we are all those things already,
31:18
all of them, yeah, but how are we going to utilize them in
31:21
our everyday thriving experience while we're here instead of being like a just existing,
31:29
some people aren't even existing like I mean on a level where they're existing and
31:33
enjoying this experience. And I understand people have gone through a lot of stuff,
31:37
a lot of stuff. It's one thing I've learned even more recently that
31:41
there's so many I had a friend that always would say, faces you see,
31:45
hearts, you don't know because you don't because just like you how we
31:48
started out this conversation. We can put a smile on our face and show
31:52
up all the time, but doesn't mean that we don't have all these emotions
31:56
going on inside. And then when we can finally be like like Hey,
31:59
how's your day. Well, actually, it's pretty shitty right now. This
32:01
is where I'm feeling at. And then it's an opportunity for the other person
32:05
just to send love. It's not for someone to say, it's not for
32:07
someone else to fix it. It's not for someone else to try to make
32:10
them feel better. It's not for you to get into the space with them
32:14
so you can make them you know, you can match their energy energy.
32:16
So because misery loves company or you know, someone grieving might need someone grieving,
32:22
it's that's not how it works. It can work that way for some
32:25
people. But it's like it's like slowing down the trickle of what really we
32:29
could possibly feel. And it's a blend of w Womac refers to it recently
32:35
as undiluted love. That's pretty cool when you think about that. And so
32:40
I'm trying to move and I say trying because this is new to me.
32:45
Instead of focusing on all the other things, I'm simplifying it and I'm just
32:49
focusing on my heart. When I start getting frustrated, and before we have
32:52
this conversation or started our meeting today, I had you know, I had
32:55
talked to you about something that I was frustrated about because I wanted to raise
32:59
my vibration and I need to see things in a little bit different way before
33:01
we started, which helped me completely. Sometimes I'm saying that because sometimes even
33:08
though I'm practicing this undiluted love, the space of love, because if I'm
33:12
coming from a space of love, no matter what the other person's doing,
33:15
no matter what the letters said, no matter what the reaction was, no
33:17
matter what, no matter if someone started the laundry and then left the house
33:22
and the other person had to take care of it, or you know,
33:24
perspective, But no matter if any of that stuff, if we're coming from
33:28
a space of our hearts, we will never see it that way. We'll
33:31
never see that ever had to be defended. We'll never see that there ever
33:35
had to be anger and involved. And I'm saying this out loud because this
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is for myself, but it's for everybody else too. We would see that
33:40
there are so many other reasons why we wouldn't do we wouldn't move forward doing
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anything else or feeling anything else other than undiluted love like nothing else. And
33:52
that's a practice. Right now, it's a practice, but right now it's
33:55
getting easier and easier and easier, and I just started it so I can
34:00
get a little bit lost on things. And then I was saying that I'm
34:02
like, well, okay, let me see it by love. And I
34:05
talked to you, had the conversation, and by the end of our little
34:07
conversation, I could see it by love. So that that's why we reach
34:12
out to those that are around us that aren't And it wasn't like you were.
34:15
You could have jumped on the bad wagon with me and and found all
34:19
the testification, but it didn't. It didn't have to. It wasn't that
34:23
way because it wasn't your space and you were neutral and I came asking the
34:27
question from you. So again that goes to the whole thing. We're giving
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out information to someone has cancer or or something that self help or spirit came
34:36
through and told you something to tell them, and you did it. That's
34:38
all we can do without attachment, right, and then we're from the undiluted
34:43
love, that space of the heart where we're just focused on them and understanding
34:46
that even if no matter what, that positivity is going to come from you
34:51
and it's going to be received, and maybe they may only allow themselves to
34:53
fill it as maybe someone handsome a package of candy that day and it boosts
34:58
their mood up. Right, it's just whatever they can handle, they're not
35:01
going to be able to take from you, like all this amazing love flowing
35:06
at them right that second when they've got everything so closed off and they're resisting
35:09
it, they've got their hands up and they're like, no, stop,
35:13
not even knowing what they're stopping. So this is just part of this whole
35:15
journey, and it's awesome and it's amazing, but it can be so simple,
35:20
all of it. Yeah, And a couple of things I wrote down
35:23
while while you were talking was, you know, it's a lot easier to
35:30
be in your home and maintain your energy compared to being out in public,
35:34
right, being around people of different personalities and their struggles and their stories and
35:40
their defensiveness. And so I think that's that's like a that's part of my
35:46
level of process in maintaining my energy, because there is a lot of defensiveness
35:53
in conversations with some people where they're at with in the work environment. And
36:04
the more I maintain my energy, the more their energy shifts exactly, and
36:08
the less they're going to do that So what do you think that's you know,
36:10
how amazing that's going to be for their point of attraction, that they're
36:15
going to start realizing how much easier the flow is. And it's not for
36:23
me to pat myself on the back. It's just I'm just maintaining my energy
36:28
and I'm not and I'm I'm being more grounded being around people like that,
36:36
and that's going to have a positive effect on the environment. So it's so
36:40
beneficial, right. And the other thing is I could have when I transition
36:50
from from doing my business full time to going and getting a full time job.
36:55
I could have gone through being angry and pissed off and and you know,
37:01
got into that space of putting myself down that I failed and and nothing,
37:07
I can't do anything right. I could have I could have gone into
37:10
that story. I didn't, And I think I recognize that right away.
37:15
I'm like, how I want to see this as a failure, Like I
37:22
just see this as it's a pivot, it's a change, it is something
37:24
I have to do for now. And if I'm going to be here,
37:29
I think I feel like I'm going to be here for at least another forty
37:31
years, at least this is this is just for now. I'm not going
37:37
to do a source for next forty years. I don't know if I'm gonna
37:39
do it for two years. I don't know how long it's going to be.
37:42
And it's okay because I don't know this. It's just opening doors.
37:46
Yeah. If I would have taking that lower vibrational energy, first of all,
37:52
I probably wouldn't even got the job. Right. I had my ugly
37:57
cry on Tuesday, and no, it was the tuesday before, right,
38:06
it was the tuesday before. It was last week. I think, well,
38:09
okay, because we talked about it last week, so so right after
38:14
it because I had reached out to this person once and said, hey,
38:16
you know, I'm I'm in the market for a full time job. Lah
38:20
lah lah. She asked me what I did, and she goes, okay,
38:22
I'll keep my ears open. I had my ugly cry. I had
38:29
my mindset shift. I had all these things going for me. She text
38:32
me and says, do you want to meet with me? How do you
38:37
feel about working here? I was like, because I'm dropping that heavy energy
38:43
and I'm not having the attachments of the I'm not good enough, I'm a
38:46
failure. I suck I'm I can't. I can't get it right, like
38:51
I have any attachments. I was like, for now, this is what
38:55
we're doing. For now, it's a pivot. What can come out of
38:58
this? Who are the people I'm going to meet? What information knowledge am
39:02
I going to gain from this? What other skills am I going to gain?
39:06
What am I What do I get to practice right? What do I
39:07
get to get better at? So, first of all, I probably wouldn't
39:12
have got the job. I probably would have got a job I really didn't
39:15
care for, to be honest, if I would have stayed in this in
39:17
that if I would have if I would have gone into that type of energy,
39:23
and the other thing, even if I whatever job I got in that
39:27
type of energy, I would have brought an attitude with it that would have
39:30
been uncomfortable. And then there's still resistance. They're still just just being disgruntled.
39:37
And so it's not going to be a benefit for me first and foremost,
39:43
and it's and then imagine the work the work environment I would have created
39:52
in my manifestation process, it just sounds like, Yeah, I'm doing so
39:57
good and I'm so excited about where Matt and how I'm doing and what I'm
40:01
learning about myself, because that's really what it is. Every time we make
40:07
a choice or decision, we get to learn about ourselves. And that is
40:10
my goal every day. What am I learning about myself? What am I
40:14
learning about myself? How can I show up and be due? But I
40:15
show up and do and be better? And however this works out? I
40:21
know because I've been practicing and talking about this, especially with you for like
40:25
the last three years. Is just being open to the possibilities, be in
40:31
gratitude, allow the ease and flow. No, it's temporary. Sometimes we
40:37
have to pivot in order for the doors to open, for the universe to
40:40
get the information to us or guide us in a right. A river when
40:45
it comes up against a rock or bowl a huge boulder, it doesn't just
40:50
keep pushing, it flows around it. Well, that's us, right,
40:54
we come up against this boulder, but we think we gotta push through it
41:01
and stick with it and keep going. When the universe is like, okay,
41:07
let's just divert divert our energy this way so there's more of a flow
41:12
so we can get you to where you want to be. What you've been
41:15
thinking about, what you've been dreaming about about your goals, but we just
41:19
got to go this other direction for now so we can get you there.
41:23
Is that awesome team or what an incredible team to have to say, just
41:30
just go this way just for a little bit, and then we're gonna get
41:32
you back and on your path of what you what you're wanting to bring to
41:37
you. Yeah, hell yeah, okay, and no non resistant, right,
41:45
totally non resistant. So you open yourself up for flow from everywhere like
41:50
that's and that opens up for you to receive the lottery or receive whatever.
41:53
If it opens you up for everything. It's not control like anything. It's
41:58
just being like, Okay, I'm trusting the universe. I'm trusting the universe
42:00
is putting me right here, because the universe is putting you right there,
42:04
or wouldn't have happened so fast. There's that that flow, and then you
42:07
were open because you shifted that fast. In the past, the shift wouldn't
42:12
happen that fast. It might have taken a little while longer before you found
42:15
that job. But you shifted so fast, holly shift. But it was
42:19
really super fast, right it really, but it really was. And it's
42:22
such a your your energy is lighter, your more, more possibility instead of
42:29
limitations, right, because that's what it feels like. It's awesome. And
42:32
then we're talking about this stuff that I'm starting. I don't know where it
42:36
came from. But then I'm thinking about addicts. Like I said, I
42:38
don't know where it came from. But it's like they a lot of times
42:42
they don't have to control to say no, and I don't know how it
42:45
fits into this conversation. So they don't have they can't they don't have any
42:47
health, healthy boundaries at all. They have no way of saying no.
42:52
And it's like they're always wanting to do things to please everybody else. There's
42:54
such an energy about, well, they gotta quit doing this, they gotta
42:57
quit doing that. No, they got to be here and have the experience,
43:00
whatever their experience is. And and once once they decide that I'm done
43:06
with this addiction because I do have control over my life. Because they have
43:08
no control over anything in their life, but this is the one thing they
43:12
can. They can freak and either say they don't have control over it or
43:15
they just give up their control willingly to it because they don't want to feel
43:17
how much they don't have control over their lives or how there's no value to
43:22
them, then there's no worth to them, there's no I could go on
43:25
with a whole list of things, but it's like it's even an addict.
43:29
And I say even an addict, and its like a lower it's not lower,
43:34
it's another person having an experience. When you're going through addiction. It's
43:37
like looking at it and being like, I'm not doing this for somebody else,
43:39
whether I'm doing going to do the drugs or quit the drugs. I'm
43:43
doing it for me. And I think that's the whole thing. And you're
43:45
that's the whole thing for you too. You're not You're doing this for you.
43:50
You're not doing it because you got to raise the kids. You don't.
43:52
You're not doing it because you've got to do all these other things.
43:54
Because there's it's there's just other ways for it to work out. You're doing
43:59
this now from a space of man, I know the universe has my back.
44:04
I know that I'm on the flow. This feels good. Look at
44:06
how fast this happened. Look at the ship that happened so fast. Look
44:08
at I can have an ugly girl cry and then I'll and then look at
44:12
what came out of that. Look at what came out of me not holding
44:15
onto all these emotions inside my system. There's like all these things, like
44:20
right, all these things, but it was an experience. All of was
44:22
an experience to take you to the next stage. On another level, you
44:25
may you may have been the ugly girl crying like screw this and and then
44:29
went and worked at McDonald's or went and worked at freaking cracker barrel. And
44:34
I'm not saying that those are bad jobs either, but I'm just saying it
44:36
wouldn't have been It wouldn't have resonated with your soul, and you would have
44:39
gotten bored with it really super quick. So then the universe opens up this
44:44
doorway for you that can utilize all these things that you've been guided to because
44:49
you've been guided all along and in the state at the meantime, while you've
44:53
been being guided, you've been letting go. You've been doing the work,
44:57
and you've been processing. You haven't ignored this shit, you haven't up to
45:00
You let it come to the surface and then you ask questions. And even
45:04
when you're going through it, it feels kind of heavy, but that heavy
45:06
that you went through for the last six months or the last whatever. It
45:09
doesn't. It's not the same heavy as it would have been years and years
45:14
and years ago, because there's a different perspective. There's a light at the
45:16
end of a tunnel because you know that you've been you're supported, and there's
45:20
a reason. It's not by accident. Yeah, And there's been a lot
45:24
of reprieve in my energy because now I look at that to do list,
45:30
like that huge long to do list that I had, and there's things that
45:35
I'm like, oh, I don't have to do that, no more.
45:36
I don't have to do that no more. Right, And it's just a
45:38
release because now where I'm at for now, I'm going to move in this
45:45
direction, my energy is going to shift and change. I'm gonna have opportunity
45:50
to regroup. And this, as we talked about, because I thought about
45:55
this too. It is one my numerology one year meaning working on foundation,
46:01
and so we got a clear clutter. We got to remove the blocks,
46:07
the things that are weighing me down so that I can create a solid,
46:12
more solid foundation and start building on that. And so it's an opportunity to
46:19
take a step back. Right. What do they say when you're working in
46:22
a manifestation and you're having a lot of resistance. Shift your energy, shift
46:28
your focus. So my focus is being shifted in a huge way. So
46:36
I get a breath of fresh air. So my bills are getting paid and
46:39
that feels good to me. And I still have my business. I'm still
46:45
working on it. I still have classes going now. But now, like
46:51
I said, I'm meeting people who I can lean on and ask for help
46:54
to create a retreat. And my business isn't going away. It's just shifting
47:04
because I have to shift. I gotta shift my energy for this foundation to
47:10
be laid. And I think that's amazing. How you know we could get
47:17
very disgrunted, because you know, we can get very disgruntled when things change.
47:22
And if you don't like change, I hate to tell you this,
47:27
that is inevitable. It's happening every second and every day, especially in your
47:31
body, and it's better to embrace it. And it's again temporary and it's
47:39
for now. But when the universe, when you're wanting something and desiring something
47:45
so bad but you cannot get out, you can't get your mind out of
47:49
the box, you can't remove the blinders, the universe will come in and
47:52
say, this is what we're doing right now, this is what we're gonna
47:57
do. You can kick and scream if you want to, it's not going
48:00
to help your manifestation. Is not going to help your point of attraction if
48:02
you want good things. But this is what we're doing right now. Is
48:06
like parents saying no, you're gonna do this. Well, that's what the
48:10
universe has said, No, you're gonna do this. Now I can go
48:15
into an open and receiving and ingratitude. I mean, really like the relief
48:22
of a bill getting paid, such a relief, so much gratitude in that.
48:28
That absolutely is the biggest point of my attraction is the way I'm feeling.
48:32
So when I'm feeling like I'm taking a breath of fresh air, I
48:37
can relax knowing that I'm going to have an income to pay my bills.
48:44
That sends that signal to the universe says, Oh, she wants more of
48:46
this. Great, Let's have her have a conversation with Pete, this person
48:50
about being an event planner. Oh, let's have a conversation with this person
48:53
who loves cooking. Right, It's like, Oh, let's bring her into
48:59
this space where she can do use her skills that she's already has. Oh,
49:05
she loves having a flexible schedule, so let's put her in this environment
49:09
like there's so much to be grateful for even though this change has happened,
49:15
and I totally embrace it, and and I'm actually excited about it because the
49:22
opposite is not gonna serve my I mean, it's gonna I smack me around
49:25
a little bit, I'm gonna get some bumps and bruises. Not gonna be
49:28
fun. So I would much rather be in the space of gratitude of this
49:31
changes. I love it. It's super temporary, it really is. It
49:42
really is, because it's just something. It's like it's like you're flitting in
49:49
because it's there is such a ripple. We talked about you, we're saying
49:52
all about all the things how how it can benefit you, but it's such
49:54
a benefit to everybody else, which we talked about as well. But I
50:00
just want to kind of emphasize that because when when we're putting that focus on
50:02
that, you're showing up, You've already are giving someone a different perspective to
50:06
look at something, how they're sending something out. You're you're giving different perspectives.
50:10
With people coming in, you're receiving a different perspective. So it's at
50:14
ebb and flow. Right, we're back to the infinity sign. There's a
50:16
constant flow from you to the next. It's a constant ebb and flow always,
50:22
always when we're in a space of receiving and giving, it's not just
50:25
being in the space of giving or just being in the space of receiving.
50:29
It's the flow. It's there's a balance, and that's what you're that's you're
50:35
you're showing the example of that to everybody that's a near experience and everybody that
50:38
walks in and they'll notice a difference in the energies. And then when it
50:42
comes to politics, there is such a there are so much emotions about it
50:46
from one side to the other. But that's been that's been created. That's
50:49
like a synthetic form of of emotions that it's like again we're back to the
50:53
three D things. Do we want to put our attentions on that or it's
50:57
like do we want to see it as at presenting a possibility? So this
51:00
is the possibility of what it could be, but what could it be?
51:04
Because this possibility doesn't feel so good to me. So it's like, what
51:07
can I create from this? And it's going over to here, and then
51:09
it's talking about it with you, and it's talking about it with my partner,
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and talking about it with my kids or people, my clients that come
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in, and then it kind of gets bigger and bigger and it changes and
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not all ripples out to everybody. And we've all had something, we've all
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had a hand in it, we've all we've all been a participant in this
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sport here while we're here. But it's it's for the greater good of all
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all these things that we're doing, all of them, and all these things
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that you're doing right now, which I find just I just find it awesome
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because I've been watching you for a long time and I've been hearing you for
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a long time, and I do pay attention and I see you know,
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I see things too. It's just it's amazing that you have moved forward.
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The way that you have moved forward is giving permission to so many other people
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and then not staying in that struggle, because you could have been like,
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well fuck this, I'm going to go back to work, I'm gonna go
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do this I'm gonna make this work or I'm gonna go do something else part
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time or whatever, you know what I mean. You could you could have
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gone that route and then and then kept yourself in that space until you decided
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to move forward from that space. But you didn't take that route because you
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didn't. It wasn't a necessary route because you don't have to keep yourself in
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the struggle. You're not addicted to the struggle. And sometimes I feel like
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people are addicted to the struggle. YEA addicted to the anger because the anger
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was my motivation in a lot of ways, and I noticed that it still
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is, but also recognizing how much energy am I picking up from the collective
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if there's some, Because there is a lot of defensiveness in the world,
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and I have dealt with that for myself. That's my experience, not because
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it's been coming at me, just coming at me. It's coming from me
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as well, a defensiveness. And that's because that my inner child will pop
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up and be like, well, la la la la la, that's about
52:51
me and this is and it's not. And it's that's where the neutrality comes
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in again, and realizing it's not about you, and then realizing sometimes someone
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saying something to you because their souls speaking for them. Mostly there's their soul
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speaking through them to give them the advice, and it's maybe a confirmation for
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you, or maybe a trigger for you, or maybe it's whatever it needs
53:12
to be in that moment. But there's a benefit because it's the ob and
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flow. Even on the stuff that we don't think that doesn't feel good to
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us, it's there's still an eb and flow. There's still an opportunity for
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growth, an opportunity for change, an opportunity to let go of something that
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we're holding on so tightly too, so we can move forward and then receive
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all the abundance that's flowing into your life now. Because you're abundant. I
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can feel it from you. It's palpable. That's good. It's crazy.
53:39
Yeah, but you gave yourself relief. That was a thing because you didn't
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decide to hold onto the struggle. If you didn't decide to hold onto the
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victim. And that's something else I recognize when I start thinking about something.
53:51
Grandkids are a great topic. If there's something that I feel like is going
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against them, that's immediately when I recognize I talk about not being a bit
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or being a victim. But in those spaces, I'm now being a victim
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for my grandchild. So I've still stepped into the victim role. What was
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the answer of the universe gave me. I've got to be an undiluted love.
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That's where I've got to be at because if I'm looking at it from
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that space, from the victim, it's shitty. It doesn't feel good.
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It makes me want to cry, it makes me sad, it makes me
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feel like a lot of other people, feel like you have no control over
54:25
a situation, that you're stuck, that you're lost. There's nothing you can
54:29
do, you can juice to get to sit on the sidelines and watch this
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happen. That's the victims standpoint. That was my victims standpoint that I still
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it's like it's found another way to trickle, and the show me another way,
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and then it's like, no, I've got to move forward from this
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from a space of love, because again, if I'm putting out energy to
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anybody but it's not from love, I'm only adding more grief to their already
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experiences of grief. I'm already adding more anger to their anger. We don't
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need to add that we don't need to put that more stuff into someone else's
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pot. They're already they're already in a str as it is, so giving
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them a helping hand, right, And the helping hand might be a prayer.
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The helping hand might be visualizing seeing them happy and seeing life going flowing
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just perfect for them, amazing for them. And then when we do all
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that stuff, we open ourselves up to those possibilities too, So now we're
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allowing that flow to come into ourselves without doing anything. A lot of this
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stuff is so effortless, but we've been we've been groomed, and we've been
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told, and we've been for generations upon generations. You've got to work hard
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to do this. And I'm not saying that you don't have to work hard,
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but when you're banging your head up against the wall all the time,
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and you're and you're going at a place where if you're going to a job
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all the time and you feel like you have to be there and you have
55:43
to do this, and you're crying to get up and go to your job,
55:45
you've really got to check in with yourself and see what you really want
55:47
and really ask yourself, why do you want to be in this place of
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struggle because all but everything that's being presented to us is for our growth.
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I'm gonna have to stay since I since I have shifted into this new,
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this change. I've actually slept for the past three nights. I wasn't sleeping
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good. That is awesome. I mean I was like, holy crap,
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I think I slept right. So, yeah, a big resting better.
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So that's another piece of that weighted blanket, just being lifted in and allowing
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my body to relax even more. Yeah, and then not even noticing that
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you had it in the first place until you let it go, you know
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what I mean. I'm not saying you didn't notice it at all, but
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notice to what depth it was until we've let go of it. Because you
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notice it, you have an awareness. I mean, that's why where you're
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at right now, that's why you're there. And that was one of my
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asks to the universe. I'm like, man, I just want a good
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night's sleep. I want several good night's sleeps, right. I've been asking
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that for a while because it's been a toss and turn and the blanket shuffle.
57:08
Because the hot flashes get up and go peete, like all these different
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things that I've just not been rested in the past few days. Right what's
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happening? This is really cool? And you're receiving more of a challenge,
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not a challenge, that's not that's not Maybe it's just more there's just it's
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like new stuff. And I don't want to call it a challenge because that
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feels kind of daunting to me a bit. But it just it seems like
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you're you're it's you're receiving more of a benefit of the things that you're doing
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all day long. Right now, I don't know, it's I don't know.
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I don't know. I can I can feel it, but I don't
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know what words to provide it. Stay tuned as the saga unfold. But
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even in the even in that office environment I'm in now, I can overhear
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conversations and in as far as like going back to maintaining my energy, hearing
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those conversations and how I perceive them, I can dip into the energy of
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it or it send send love to it. Right So in maintaining in maintaining
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my energy, I send love because I know that can shift the environment.
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I know it can shift the conversations. I know good things are going to
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happen, but we can do that. We can do that in any work
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environment that we're in. And so if you're in a in an environment that
58:43
is fairly energetically heavy, shift your own energy and be grounded and connecting to
58:52
that gratitude and that love self, love, love, the spirit, love
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of the universe, and start putting that out just as your thoughts, like
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we've been talking about, sending waves of grace, waves of love, saying
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prayers, I you know, include that this is all working out for the
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highest and greatest good of all, because that's what we really want. And
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by me being in this space, this new environment, the highest and greatest
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good of all, I don't know what that looks like, but I do
59:28
know the possibilities of it being amazing, and I want to hold that vision
59:31
and then anything coming out of it. And so remember that when you're in
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your own work environment or self employed environment, gratitude is a must. Gratitude
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is a must for all areas of your life. There's always something to be
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grateful for. And then that love, the waves of love, prayers of
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love, and remember to include yourself in that, like have some ease and
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grace with yourself as you're moving through things. Like I said, when you
1:00:05
go through a huge change, there is a grieving process. Allow yourself to
1:00:09
move through that, move that energy, and step into the gratitude. I'm
1:00:15
so relieved, right my bills are going to get paid. I'm so relieved
1:00:17
now that I recognize I'm getting a better night's sleep. I'm so relieved now
1:00:22
that this weight has been lifted on. Like, I have so much to
1:00:25
be grateful for. But not only that, but I still have a bed
1:00:29
to sleep, and I still have a house to live in. I still
1:00:30
have food in my refrigerator and dishes and gas, water electric, like,
1:00:36
I still have all these things that have been there, and I can still
1:00:39
focus on those and the other things that I'm getting as a benefit of this
1:00:45
change. So being gratitude, focus on the gratitude for anything and everything that
1:00:52
you already have. So important. You say that, and with the first
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thing that I because I cleaned up my mirror. I always write messages on
1:01:00
my mirrors, and I cleaned that my mirror was morning. In the top
1:01:04
of my list is gratitude nice Nice, because it's just it's it's part of
1:01:08
the it's it's everything. It's that appreciation. Yep, even drama and trauma,
1:01:16
we even moving through that stuff. There's something to be grateful for.
1:01:21
And it's not necessarily the situation. You can focus on. The sun is
1:01:25
shining, the flowers are blooming, you have fruits and vegetables in your garden.
1:01:31
You have a closet to put your clothes in, you have a bed
1:01:35
to put your sheets on. Like, you can find gratitude even when life
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isn't looking so good. It's true, right, So any final words,
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my dear, this is good, This is good. It really was.
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It's like two hours and one. I would say it loves love, love.
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That's that's where I'm at right now. It's just it's all about love
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and it's finding it's it's asking yourself what love is to you? How does
1:02:07
love feel to you? It's not love that would ever have a definition really
1:02:12
from what the definition that you've you've learned through a lifetime while while you've been
1:02:16
in this experience. It's about the undiluted love, the love that's so unconditional,
1:02:22
that doesn't see anything in any ways. It's like our guides are angels
1:02:28
and anything that's around us. They don't ever set at us. I know
1:02:30
we joke around about them hitting their heads and stuff like like, oh God,
1:02:31
here we go. But they don't ever. They're never they don't have
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because they don't have an attachment to an outcome. They just love us.
1:02:38
They're there to help us, guide us. And that's how. That's what
1:02:42
our heart is for, that's what our love is for. It's it helps
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to guide us. We have this connection love and honor it and let that
1:02:50
be your focus. And then when you're feeling shitty, just keep saying the
1:02:52
word love a million freaking times and see what happens. And then start breathing,
1:02:57
because now you've taken your mind off the crap and they're focusing on the
1:03:00
word love and it might open up doorways of well, what is it I
1:03:05
want to experience this? I want to what does unconditional love feel like?
1:03:07
What does uni deluded love feel like? It's all about love right now,
1:03:13
So go love yourself love. Everybody just lovesis all right, my friends,
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Thanks for hanging out with us. Teas name with Amy and Bev, and
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we will see you when we see you, It's true. Take care well,