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(#38) HOW TO LIVE YOUR PURPOSE ✨STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK · Alignment With Jenn

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Hello and welcome to this episode of the Alignment with
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Jen podcast. I am your host Jen, That's easy.
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And today I'm really excited because we're going to talk all
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about purpose. The messages that I get on
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Instagram, there's basically three main things that everyone
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wants to manifest love, money and fulfillment in their
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purpose, living their purpose and their career.
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And I can say for myself, this has been one of the biggest
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changes in my life, going from a career that was unfulfilling to
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a career that feels like play and is so deeply fulfilling.
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And it has radically changed my entire life.
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And I know that a lot of people get to this point where they're
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like, I'm doing pretty well in my career.
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I'm making pretty good money, but there's something that's
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missing. I feel like I am meant for more.
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I feel like there's something I'm meant to do that my soul is
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meant to express, but I'm not doing it because I'm afraid.
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I don't know what people think. People are going to judge me.
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And there's this transition period and a lot of people don't
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make it across that gap. So many people, I would say most
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people don't. When you do, on the other side
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is your best possible life because we are here to express
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something that our soul came here to express.
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And for some people, not for everyone, it's through their
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work, it's through their career. But I think every single person
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wants to feel fulfillment in their career.
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They want to feel like they are doing something that their soul
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came here to do. Most people just give up on it
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and my goal with this episode today is for you to not give up
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on it. For me to give you a little bit
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of a tool kit to show you how you can start to cross that
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chasm of going from unfulfilled things are pretty good to super
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fulfilled things are freaking amazing.
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Because I also know that money flocks to purpose.
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I fundamentally believe that when you are in your purpose,
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when you are doing something that your soul came here to
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express money, loves it. Money is like, sign me up,
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right? Loves it.
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And that is where I want you to get.
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I want you to get to that place where you feel like money is
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just flowing effortlessly, easily.
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You see all these paths to create money.
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You see all of these paths to express yourself.
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You are helping people with your gifts of your soul.
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Because I believe that every single one of us has a unique
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purpose on this planet. And when we can access that
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purpose, we heal the planet and we do our best work, right?
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Think about when you do something you absolutely love,
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how you show up for it, versus when you do something you don't
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really love, right? It's a very different frequency.
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And I want to get you into this frequency.
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So we're going to talk about some of the things that make it
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difficult to cross this chasm, if you will, and some of the
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things that are going to make it easier.
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And I do want to take a moment and just define what purpose is.
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So your purpose is the thing that your soul came here to do.
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And I believe that our purpose is in service of others.
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I believe that if it's completely self-serving, it's
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typically not our purpose and it's not what our soul came here
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to do because our souls are generous.
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Our souls came here to give, to love, to appreciate.
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That is what is like the creator, like source energy and
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we came here to learn how to be like source.
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And so you expressing that part of yourself is and you giving
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the greatest gift that you came here to give.
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There's nothing more powerful than that.
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I will also say as well that I believe purpose is more of a
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thread versus a destination. So for myself, my purpose has
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evolved. Right when I first started my
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business, I wasn't podcasting, but I was still in my purpose.
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Right now, I believe podcasting part of my purpose, and so it
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can evolve what it looks like, but what I typically see is it's
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something that you absolutely love to do and something that
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really, really moves you. So for me, I think of my purpose
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as helping women to heal and be to become the most unlimited
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versions of themselves. And I can express that in a lot
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of different ways, right? But our purpose is kind of that
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more overarching thing that moves us that we're like, I just
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want to get out of bed so I can start to move this forward
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because it hits me on a deep, deep, deep level.
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It matters to me on such a deep level that I help women in that
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way. Like it.
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I can't stop thinking about it. I feel like I'm obsessed with
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it. So your purpose is typically
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going to be something you don't have to be obsessed with it,
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right? We're all different levels of
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this session. But it's something that moves
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you that you're like, I really feel for this, 'cause I really
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feel for this and it matters to me and I want to put my time and
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energy behind it. And if you do not know, if
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you're like, I have no idea what matters to me that much, then
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you just need to experience more things.
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You need to try things. You need to put yourself out
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there. You need to play, you need to
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explore, you need to read more books in order to expose
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yourself to that right? Because it's likely that you
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just haven't hit it yet. And that's fine.
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And for some people, I think it's their life's work is going
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to be to find what that thing is, right?
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For some people, it's going to come more easily.
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I think I've known since I was a kid this is what I was meant to
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do, right? Other people, it's going to take
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more time. But I'm telling you, it is the
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most worthwhile journey you will go on because the development of
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who you become and how you show up in that purpose is going to
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fundamentally change who you are.
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And it's going to make you feel so fulfilled on a deep level.
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And that is irreplaceable. Your purpose could be a business
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that you start, it could be a career that you follow, right?
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I have a client who is really, really high up in Google, and
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that was her purpose. She loved, loved working at that
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company, right? For some people, it could be
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being an exceptional mother or an exceptional parent, right?
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But it's something that you want to devote yourself to.
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A lot of the people that I work with, it's their business that
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they create. And so that's what I'm going to
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speak to more within this episode, but just know that this
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will apply wherever you are. It could be for anyone.
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And I believe that if this episode resonated with you, it's
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because you know you have a purpose.
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And you may know what it is, you may not, but you know that
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there's something greater you're meant to do.
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And you feel this pull of, I really, really want to express
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myself in that way. I don't feel like I'll feel like
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my best self until I do that. And so that is really who this
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is for. It's for that person who wants
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to walk across the coals in order to express themselves on
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that deeper, deeper level. So let's talk about what
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prevents people from either finding their purpose or
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expressing their purpose. If you feel like you haven't
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found your purpose, part of it is likely because your mind is
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kind of blocking you from finding that because of fear.
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And if you know your purpose and you're not expressing it, the
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most common thing I hear is, well, like, I don't have the
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money to do it. That is not an excuse.
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That is like not an excuse whatsoever.
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Tony Robbins says there's no such thing as lack of resources.
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There's lack of resourcefulness. If you believe that you can't do
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something because you don't have the money for it, that is a
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fear. On a deeper level.
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That is using that as an excuse. It's an excuse.
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Same if you say you don't have the time to do it.
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It's not true. When I started my supplement
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business, I thought that was my purpose at the time, was not my
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purpose. So I I made a pivot.
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I didn't have the time. I didn't have the money.
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Guess what I told myself I was like, I don't wanna make
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excuses. I wanna show up for myself.
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I wanna show up for what I believed at the time was my
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vision and my dream, and it was part of my path, Absolutely.
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So I told myself, 15 minutes every single day I'm gonna
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devote to working on this. I didn't know what I was doing.
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I'd never started a business. I'd never created a physical
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product. I had no idea what I was doing.
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But I chunked it down. So that way I showed up for it.
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15 minutes a day. If you don't have 15 minutes a
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day, then that's not a problem with your time and your
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commitments. That's a problem with your time
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management. Every single person has 15
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minutes a day in order to dedicated to something that
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really, really matters to them. Why do we do that?
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Why do we make excuses? Why do we sabotage ourselves?
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Why do so many people stay in shadow callings or shadow
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careers for so long without making a pivot, without making a
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change? It's because unconsciously,
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there's so much fear about that change.
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And so I want to talk about the most common fears that I see
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working with my clients. So that way you can just kind of
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notice, is this happening for me?
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Is this something that I need to clear out?
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Because what I've seen is when we clear out these unconscious
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fears, we are pulled toward our purpose.
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It's much easier for us to create content.
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It's much easier for us to work on our businesses.
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It's much easier for us to show up for the things that we want.
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It literally is a pull. And I've even seen it within my
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business where I'll have periods where things will stagnate and
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I'll be like, oh, that's interesting.
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Why is it stagnating? And I'll look and I'll be like,
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oh, because I, I wasn't doing this.
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I wasn't showing up here. And then I look at it more
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deeply because I know action is a symptom of an underlying
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belief. So if I look at it more deeply,
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often time, 100% of the time is often is I need to rewire
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something on a deeper unconscious level.
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So then I'll do that rewiring work.
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I did it last year and then that same month my business grew by
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four times in a month, right? Same.
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What will happen is as you rewire those fears, you will
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start to see things more clearly.
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It's like you take off smudged glasses and you set them down
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and now you can see with 2020 vision because you can see the
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actions that you'll need to take.
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You can see where you were sabotaging.
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What I saw with myself is that I knew exactly the actions I
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needed to take, but I was not taking them.
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I was making excuses about taking them.
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So it was really easy for me to grow my business because I
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already knew exactly what to do. I just needed to stop my foggy
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glasses from blocking it. That's what will happen is
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you'll clear out these fears. Maybe that will lead you to your
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purpose. Or if you know your purpose, it
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will illuminate the path for you to take.
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And that path is going to require you trusting and you
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leaping before you are ready. I'll talk about that a little
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bit later. So the first fear that I
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oftentimes see is the fear of the unknown.
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We love comfort. Our subconscious minds favorite
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thing is the familiar, but our greatest path is not built
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inside of the familiar. Our current path is built inside
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of the familiar. That's why it's familiar.
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So if you want to overcome and cross that chasm, one of the
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first things you're going to have to look at is where is this
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fear of the unknown showing up? Where am I afraid of?
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And a great question for this is, what bad thing do I believe
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will happen if I start to pursue my purpose, if I start to show
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up? For a lot of people, it's the
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fear of being seen. I think now in this modern age
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of social media, that's probably the biggest fear that people
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face is what are people going to comment on my post?
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What are the people from high school going to think if I start
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posting about spiritual content? That's what I thought.
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Now I'm like, it doesn't even occur to me to think about that.
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But that stopped me initially, right?
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What are my parents gonna think? What is my boss gonna think?
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People will oftentimes say, well, I can't start a business
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online because what if my boss sees it?
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You still gotta pursue your purpose, right?
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You can't let your current reality stop you from pursuing
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it. So that's a huge one is the fear
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of being seen. I kind of think of the fear of
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the unknown as the overarching fear.
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It's like we have all these speculations about what will
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happen if we start to pursue that purpose and then we break
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it down into these more sub fears.
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So the biggest one I do think for most people is the fear of
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being seen. It's the fear of especially
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being seen failing. What are people going to think
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if I fail? I thought this with my
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supplement business. I was so afraid to start to put
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myself out there. At first, I wanted it to just be
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a product brand without my face, because I didn't want people to
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see what would happen if I fail. That's horrible psychology, if I
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might say, because what does it lead to?
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It leads to me preparing to fail, right?
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So that's another one, the fear of failure.
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So let's talk a little bit more about the fear of being seen or
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the fear of what people think, the fear of judgement.
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You can call it any of those. But what's really, really
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interesting is when we feel rejected, it actually activates
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the same receptors in the body as feeling physical pain.
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It's actually physically painful for us.
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That's why when you go through a breakup, you can actually
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physically feel like you're experiencing pain because it
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activates those same circuits. And so when we associate posting
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on social media or creating a website or going on a podcast,
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being seen in some way with a threat to our survival, we will
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unconsciously resist that. And that unconscious resistance,
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it could be procrastination, it could be not having the time or
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the money, these fabulous excuses that we make.
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It could be always making excuses of like, oh, I need to
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go do this or I need to go do this.
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It could even be as simple as like you sit down to write
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content. This has happened to me.
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The reason I know all of this is because I've gone through all of
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this. It could be literally sitting
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down to write content or write an e-mail or to record a pitch
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for something or record, I have a lot of actresses in my
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community record an audition. And just feeling blank in your
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brain, like you can't think clearly, that is a really big
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sign of a subconscious block. Because if that wasn't there,
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our mind wouldn't be resisting it.
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That's how brilliant your subconscious mind is at keeping
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you safe. I also want to just mention that
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the flip side of not overcoming these fears is self abandonment.
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It's not living the life, it's living a shadow life.
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It's living a life lesser than you know, that you came here to
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live. And I personally think that is
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the greatest risk of all. I do not want to be 125 years
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old on my deathbed. I don't know, Maybe I'll live
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past that. I have no idea where we'll be at
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that point. But I don't want to be in that
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place, regretting and thinking I played small.
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I wish that I had shown up more. I wish that I had gone after
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what I wanted. I want to publicly fail.
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I want to publicly show up for myself.
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I want to put out content that's cringy because I think that's
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way less scary than realizing ninety 100 years from now that I
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am not living the life that I came here to live.
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That to me is like the most awful feeling in the world,
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right? And that's The thing is we have
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to decide what pain we want to face because there's going to be
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discomfort. It doesn't necessarily have to
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pay be pain. It doesn't have to be suffering.
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It can be discomfort, right? We have to decide what
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discomfort we want to face and what we want to get comfortable
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with. Another really big one I see.
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And this I also think is more of a surfaced one.
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It's like some of these are more surface and some of them are
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more deep rooted. Is the fear of making wrong
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decisions. This I see.
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Oftentimes it's more of a symptom of people will be like,
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well, I really want to start a business or I really want to,
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you know, start pursuing acting, but I'm not really sure what
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path to take. And they can live in that space,
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that purgatory for a very long time without making any actual
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decisions. That is where we need to do that
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deeper rewiring work. For all of this, you need that
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deeper rewiring work. For me, every single quantum
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leap I've made is when I do that deeper rewiring work.
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And it's like I cleaned off my eyeballs and I see the world
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differently. So noticing what I want you to
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use this episode for is just to notice where are you doing these
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things? And then ask yourself what's
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beneath the surface. And then join my community and
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we can rewire those things. Another big one I see is people
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call it imposter syndrome, but it's like, who am I to share
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this, right? I'm not good enough.
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I don't know enough in order to share this, but a really great
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exercise you can do with this is just look at the people sharing
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online. There's varieties of levels of
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skills, right? There's people like I think of
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Dave Asbury, he's not a doctor, right?
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People would say like, oh, you need to be a doctor in order to
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share in the Wellness space. And that's not true.
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And he's helped thousands and thousands, probably millions of
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people with his expertise because he's so devoted to his
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learning, right? And so stop looking and making
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reasons why you can't and why you don't know enough.
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I see this show up a lot as people always taking more
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courses, always reading more books, but not applying them,
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not taking the action, right? I'm always learning and taking
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new courses and reading books, but I'm doing the things
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simultaneously, right? It's when you're just kind of
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constantly consuming and always being like, oh, I need another
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coach. I need another thing.
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Without actually implementing anything and being in the arena,
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right? When you are in the arena, when
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you're actually showing up, when you're actually doing the
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things, you're taking the risks. That's very different than when
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you're sitting on the sidelines learning.
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And I think it was Theodore Roosevelt who has this really
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great quote about bringing in the arena.
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And basically the sum of it is like, don't take advice from
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people who are not in the arena. This is another thing that stops
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a lot of people as well is they will listen to their family
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members, their friends who have never accomplished what they
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want to accomplish. Stop taking advice from those
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people. Take advice about your purpose
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from people who have lived it because they've actually put
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themselves out there. People who haven't lived it,
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they're speculating, right? It's like me watching a sports
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game and being like, oh, I think you should do this play when I
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know nothing about what's actually going on the sports
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field, right? The same thing is true for your
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life. Watch who you're taking advice
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from. Is it people who have
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accomplished what you want to accomplish?
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Find those people and learn from those people rather than
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learning from your friends and your family.
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Because your friends and family are amazing and they're great.
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But if they haven't done it, then they're basically just
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giving their opinion and unvalidated opinion.
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OK, it might sound a little harsh, but it's very true.
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Another really, really big one I see is the occurrence of the
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myth of tomorrow. It's this idea that I'll do this
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tomorrow. I'll show up for this tomorrow.
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And that is showing some underlying fear.
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Oh, I'm going to start my business when I get back from
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vacation. But then you get back from
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vacation and you got all this stuff going on at your job.
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So then you're like, OK, well, I'll start it when I'm on break.
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I'll start it next week. Start tomorrow, 15 minutes
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tomorrow. Because if you don't, you're
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going to keep kicking the can down the road.
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And I say this because I did it and I see it over and over and
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over again with people who come to work with me.
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I it's like all of these patterns are so universal.
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We do all of these same things when we're procrastinating
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something we're fearful about. So looking at that as well,
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another fear I see come up for a lot of people as well in
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pursuing their purpose is the fear of being wrong.
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The fear of like being cancelled, right?
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If I share something and people are going to make me wrong for
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it, It's this fear of being misunderstood.
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It's if I put myself out there, especially if you're somebody
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putting something out there that's really from your soul,
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that's a reflection of who you are.
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Like my business is very much from my soul.
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It's a reflection of who I am. I could be scared of being
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wrong, right? I could be scared of what are
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people going to think of me or people tell me, oh, that's not
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right, you can't say that. But I can't waste my energy
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thinking about that because that would stop me from pursuing my
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purpose. And I'm going to be wrong and
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I'm going to make mistakes and I'm OK with that.
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For me, that is part of the course.
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That's part of being in the arena.
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And I don't expect perfection of anyone else.
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So I don't expect it for myself as well, right?
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And so this is also part of that perfectionism.
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Personality type of not wanting to be wrong, of not wanting
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people to judge you and that is one of the biggest things I
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think you have to overcome to really pursue your purpose.
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I think another big piece of purpose pursuit as well is money
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and our relationship with money. That's huge, especially if you
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go from like a nine to five where your income is quote, UN
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quote stable, which I don't. I don't even really believe that
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anymore to a business where it's more up and down or it can be
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more up and down. And especially when you're first
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starting a business, there's more risk inherently.
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So working on that money relationship, that's the first
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point I wanted to make, is really looking at your
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relationship with money and your relationship with ability to
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take risk. Because I believe that it's
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actually way more risky to stay in a job that you don't like for
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a steady paycheck than it is to actually go out and try
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something and pursue something that may fulfill your soul, then
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spend 40 years in a career that isn't right for you.
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I think that's a way bigger risk in my opinion.
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Right. Yeah.
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Maybe you'll lose some money, maybe you'll lose some time.
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You might struggle. You'll probably fail a little
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bit fail. But I think there's not even a
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close comparison between spending all of your time and
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something that's not right for you and something that isn't
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meant for you. When I decided that I was no
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longer going to do my supplement business, I was basically at
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this point where I, I was going to either invest in it and get
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investors and really, really grow it.
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It was doing well and it was like ready to do even better.
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And or I could leave and step out and do what really mattered
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to my soul. And it was a really hard
21:34
decision because I had spent all this time, all of this money,
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all this energy building it up to that point.
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And I could see the money I could make.
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I could see the, the growth of that business if I stayed with
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it. But I knew on a soul level, I
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was like, this isn't what's meant for me and I didn't want
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to do it. And that was a difficult
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decision I had to make. And those are the kinds of
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decisions that we'll have to make, whether it's leaving your
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9:00 to 5:00 or it's leaving something that's unaligned for
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you, trusting that you know that something better is meant for
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you. One of my really good friends
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before she met her husband, she was dating someone else.
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And she's like, it was actually a really good relationship.
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She's like, but I knew on a soul level it wasn't right for me.
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And so I broke up with him and she's like, it was actually
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really scary because I didn't know if I would meet someone
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else. And then two weeks later, she
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met her now husband, who is her soul mate, who she's so in love
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with, right? But her ability to trust that
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things were going to work out for her to step into the arena,
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to step into the chasm of the unknown led to her greatest
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timeline. And I believe that is how it
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works, that we must step into the unknown in order to receive
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our greatest timeline. And when we are constantly
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living in comfort, then we're never going to do it.
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We're never going to receive our greatest timeline.
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We could receive a really good timeline, but it will never be
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our greatest timeline if we're not really willing to trust and
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have the faith in the creator in the universe because that's
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where faith is built. Faith is not built in a day
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where you know everything that's going to happen and it all works
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out perfectly. Faith is built when we don't
23:16
know what's going to happen and we choose to trust anyway.
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So another nugget I want to leave you with is your soul is
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not uncertain. Your soul is not unclear.
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It is the human aspect of us that is unclear, that is
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uncertain, that doesn't know the next steps.
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Our soul knows. Our soul knows why we came here.
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Our soul knows what's meant for us.
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And the more that we can clear out the gunk in our minds, the
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fears, the doubts, the old memories that make us doubt
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ourselves and feel not enough, that make us so fearful of
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rejection. The more that we can clear those
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out, the more that we can express at the level of our soul
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and that we can hear the wisdom of our soul, the guidance of our
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soul. I find that the more that I've
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stepped out there, that I've healed these things, that I've
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stepped into that arena, the more that my intuition has
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gotten more clear, the more that I've been able to see the right
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path for me and take those risks.
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This isn't saying you need to quit your job tomorrow.
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This is saying, what can you do even for 15 minutes a day to
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show up for the life that you want to create for yourself
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versus the life that feels comfortable and safe?
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Another thing I want to mention because I think it's kind of a
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kick in the pants a lot of people need, is that there's
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actually an opportunity cost to playing small and not living
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within your purpose. And the first thing to actually
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think about is the unlived life, right?
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There's the lack of fulfillment that you experience when you are
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living in a shadow career or a shadow calling when you're not
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doing what your soul came here to do.
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That's a huge cost. In my opinion, that's the
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biggest cost of all because I think when we're living in true
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alignment with what our soul came here to do, we are most
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magnetic, our most powerful. We receive our highest
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timelines, but then there's also a financial cost, right?
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Of yes, maybe you are receiving a paycheck, but there's way more
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money available to you when you're living in your purpose.
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When you're truly on fire with that purpose, money flocks to
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our purpose. So there's the loss of that
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income that happens when we stay in those shadow careers.
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And we don't see it that way, right?
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We see it as safety, we see it as security, but it's not that
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it's overtime what's actually happening.
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There's the loss of connections, there's a loss of opportunities.
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There's so many opportunities that you can tap into when you
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are reflecting the essence of your soul.
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People are drawn to that, Opportunities are drawn to that.
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And when you allow yourself to be in that space, sure, there
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might be some people who aren't driving with it, right?
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I get unfollows on Instagram every single day.
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I don't care. It doesn't even occur to me to
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care, right? There's people who don't jive
25:52
with what I share, but there's people who really, really jive
25:54
with it, right? And then there's opportunities
25:56
that come from that. There's experiences that come
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from that. Another consequence, and I think
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this is one we don't even really think about, is health
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consequences. So for a long time, I was living
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very out of alignment, right? I was in the wrong relationship,
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I was in the wrong career. And I've shared about this a
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little bit on some other episodes, but my health was
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pretty bad. I had rashes all over my body.
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I was very inflamed. My gut health was very, very
26:20
horrible. I was very anxious.
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And I believe that it was because I was really, really
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living out of alignment. And part of that was because I
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was in the wrong career for myself.
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Now that I'm living much, much more in alignment, my health is
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significantly better even though I'm a decade older.
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Because there's this unconscious energy that we put towards
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managing when we are not living in our true alignment, right?
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It takes effort to do things that don't actually feel like
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they light up our soul when there's so much energy that
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comes when we live in that alignment.
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The last thing that I want to share with you is the steps to
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living your purpose, right? I just want to give you kind of
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a simple pathway for you to follow.
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So the first is live in the end. So I don't care if you know what
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your purpose is. I don't care if you are
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completely unclear on what it is I want you to write out.
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Get a cute journal for yourself. Write out a really clear vision
27:20
of what you want your life to look like in terms of the work
27:23
that you do, the money that you make, the appreciation right,
27:27
the recognition that you get, the impact that you have, the
27:30
type of people maybe you work with.
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What do you want that to look like?
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And it can be really simple to start with, right?
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It doesn't have to be super complex, but write that out and
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begin every single day to visualize that.
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Because what you are doing is you're putting energy toward
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that future that you want to create.
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And you will start to attract experiences and ideas and
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opportunities that align with that, right?
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The law of attraction would become more attracted to your
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future than to your present. That's the first thing.
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Write that out and just feel into it every single day.
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That's going to help you, whether you know what you want
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or you don't know what you want. This is the most important step.
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Then what will happen is you will start to get intuitive hits
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on what to do. Maybe you decide you're like,
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you know, I just want to start posting on social media about my
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health habits. That sounds like a fun, exciting
28:22
experience for me. So maybe you start to do that,
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OK, You follow those intuitive hits.
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You follow what feels exciting and what feels interesting to
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you. If it feels like a chore, meh.
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But it still feels like on the other side of that, learning it
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would be really, really exciting and interesting to you, then
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that's something to follow, right?
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It's not always going to be the path of least resistance because
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sometimes the path of least resistance is watching Netflix.
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That's not necessarily going to lead to your purpose.
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Maybe it will, I don't know, but typically it's going to be
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something that will stretch you a little bit but will feel
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really exciting and good in a stretchy way, right?
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It might be uncomfortable, but it's stretchy.
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So that's the second step is begin to follow those urges and
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those nudges. Then the third step is to begin
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to build self trust. So we build self trust by taking
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risks. Those can be really big risks.
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They can be really micro risks, right?
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A micro risk would be posting something on social media.
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A micro risk would be emailing someone about a job opportunity.
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These small risks that we can take where there's not really
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any downside. The only downside is the
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discomfort of maybe being rejected.
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There's this girl on Instagram, I'm sure you guys have probably
29:39
seen her, and she talks about how her goal was to get rejected
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100 times. And through that process, she
29:45
became just really comfortable with rejection, right?
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The more that we get rejected, the more that we show our mind.
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I'm not gonna die from rejection.
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This isn't gonna kill me and that's OK.
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I'm not gonna die from negative comments or people's judgments.
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That is the most liberating place that you can live from.
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So building those micro moments of building that self trust.
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So what are some small or big risks that you can take?
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I personally, maybe I'm a little bit of an adrenaline addict, I
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don't know, but I love taking risks.
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I think it's really fun. So I will take bigger risks,
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right? And they pretty much, I would
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say most of the time work out, Sometimes they don't.
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And I'm OK with that. That's a risk I'm willing to
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take. So understand where you're
30:27
starting with your risk tolerance and find something
30:29
that feels a little bit stretchy for you.
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And then you begin to keep building that.
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And that's how your comfort zone becomes the size of the world.
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The other step, and I recommend doing this throughout the whole
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process, is really clearing, understanding and clearing those
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subconscious limits. Because if you don't do that
30:47
step, it's like you are going to be walking around with these
30:51
really smudgy glasses that are like those Coke bottle glasses.
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So you can't really see that well.
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So you're going to be trying to make decisions when you're
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driving a car with a blindfold on.
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It's going to be a lot harder for you to very clearly see the
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next steps if you're operating from a lot of limiting beliefs,
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fears, doubts, old and subconscious programming.
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And if you've never done the subconscious work, likely you
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are right. And I'm sure you kind of
31:16
understood that more through this episode.
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So those are the four steps. I'll give them to you again #1
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live in the end. Get clear on that vision and
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live and do it #2 follow the intuitive hits, follow the
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guidance. Exciting, fun, playful #3 build
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self trust by taking micro or macro risks #4 clear
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subconscious limits. OK.
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And there's two ways that I can help you with clearing the
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subconscious limits and this whole process.
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One is I will link my program. Everything I touch turns to gold
31:51
in the section. It's a little mini program and I
31:54
go deeper into the subconscious limits related to money.
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But even if you don't feel like money is a focus for you, that's
32:01
a good place to start because you'll understand more about the
32:03
subconscious mind and the nervous system and how that
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limits us. Another way.
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If you're like, I just want to go, I'm ready for this kind of
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help. Jen is send me a message on the
32:13
on Instagram at alignment with Jen is my username with the word
32:17
podcast and I'll share a 5 minute video with you about my
32:20
program where we do this on a weekly basis.
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You receive a library of over 50 rewiring sessions.
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It is what I use personally for myself every time I want to bust
32:31
through a new limit. It's getting better and better
32:33
every single week. It is the best resource, I
32:37
think, for subconscious rewiring that I've ever found.
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That's it for today. I'm so happy you were here and
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I'll see you next week. Bye.