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Rabbi Moshe Haber Path of the Just-The Pious Path: Embracing Dedicated Character Traits 9.18.25 · Rabbi Moshe Haber - Daily Mussar/Weekly Perasha

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  More examples of a person being a Cassie, which means someone
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  having, as we mentioned, a passion or a dedication to
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  certain topics. Here's our goes, page 348.
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  Yan Zamara Bizarro's example is me and my like positive talk.
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  But we mentioned yesterday maybe the most important character
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  item of all is not to be, as we call them, Matil Emma in your
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  home. Which means in the old days the
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  husbands had the power. I save the old days for a
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  reason. And in those old days the
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  husbands had the power. There was a certain sense of
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  fear, almost like a child has in the old days also.
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  We know for a parent, both of these things are gone now.
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  And the husband power boy, definitely no.
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  You know the lack of parents power over children.
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  But it used to be a thing. You open the room with a boss,
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  right? You have a serious scary boss.
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  You walk in his attention. You're afraid to say something
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  wrong, you're afraid to mess up. And that's called the capal de
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  Vito Petit. To get angry in my home is the
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  same in Yan. And this rabbi is saying I made
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  sure in my gargi trade to avoid being very much be very
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  particular, In other words, making things tense in my home.
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  Why do you do this? Why do you do that?
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  What are you doing? What are you saying?
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  How do you say that I know that my opinion is one of the real
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  area of Ben me thought is that when a person's in a position of
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  power, he might be just a father, you know, you know, head
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  of an organization. Any position of power to use
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  that position and make the room tense is a very bad in God.
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  And this rabbi is saying I made sure to never dissuade Amidah
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  and I never walked in front of someone greater than me, which
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  means I made sure to give proper respect.
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  Another idea that I was very careful about to allow respect
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  to be respect to let people who deserve it get the proper
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  respect. Another example, Beloit harti de
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  mevoorta metuna foot another in Yan with his rabbi was very
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  careful. I I thought about total they
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  want, but I made sure not to think Torah thoughts in a place
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  that was smelly, disgusting. I dirty Torah shouldn't be
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  there. I would not think Torah thoughts
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  now place a different thought. There's different concepts.
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  Other two are character related, whether it be not making people
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  nervous, like creating tension nor disrespecting.
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  And this one is Torah related. I did not think improper Torah
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  thoughts in improper place, or that is it's a sensitivity to
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  the Kedusha of Torah. So once again, you have an
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  example of an idea that's not actually by definitively a real
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  law, but what it is is an understanding of the sentiment
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  of the law. So when you're a Hasid, which
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  means when you believe in something and you have a passion
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  for something, you're going to make sure not just to check the
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  box, you're going to make sure to make sure that the outcome of
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  that situation comes out proper. Which is if you're a Hasid with
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  relationships, not only are you going to avoid insulting
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  anybody, which is obvious, you're also going to make sure
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  to make the other person feel good.
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  Because if I am passionate about having good relationships, I
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  want them all to feel good. If you're a Ghazi with trial
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  learning, not only are you going to make sure to have your set
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  time, you're also going to try to find extra time or try to
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  make sure that you don't have excuses to miss.
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  That's part of being a Ghazi, Torn and Yan.
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  This rabbi was a Hassid when he came to respect of Torah.
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  So he made sure that he interviews thinking Torah, which
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  is by him probably was a natural go to reflex.
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  I don't do it, but I'm in a smelly place.
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  I don't do it when I'm in the eye place.
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  What got him to realize because he was dedicated toward the
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  respect of Torah, that's what passion does.
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  That's what dedication does, and that's what being a Hassid does.
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  He take something and you take it all the way.
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  So for us, like we said from the beginning, each one of us how
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  our own things that we're fashioned about, we're supposed
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  to tap in dittos and take them all the way and don't stop and
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  have a certain unique trait in a certain area.
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  You should have something that's noticeable about you in any
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  specific area, whatever it be, choose your lane, but whatever
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  that lane is, it's noticeable. You're extremely honest, you're
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  extremely nice, extremely encouraging, very early to pray,
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  strong with your learning schedule, whatever it is a very
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  solid husband to make the home very comfortable and warm.
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  You choose your Elaine, but there should be Elaine and
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  that's khasid Velo al akhti as Rabbi is a feeding tires list la
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  al akhti arba ammot Velo to have lot to film.
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  Definitely a hard one to keep and that is he would now walk
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  for a what 6 feet a whole day without either learning to
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  without having to run his mind. Same thing or wearing Tiffany as
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  the old days. This is a great I buy it's a
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  great level. Let's constitute Valeria Shanti
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  Vibetta Madras is not good for me.
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  I never took a nap and chill. OK, I take naps.
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  I take naps and I deliberately find rooms in my yeshiva where
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  to take naps, and some of those rooms might be learning places.
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  That's not good for me. But this rabbi is saying, again,
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  in respect, his passion was respect of Torah in its place.
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  So he didn't take a nap in a shoe.
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  So, I mean, he's tired, he's exhausted, had a late night last
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  night, he has to fall asleep. He goes out of the show to take
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  a nap. Again, a passion to respect to
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  the shoe. Well, she not keva.
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  Well, she not arai, he would not take a permanent nap a real, you
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  know, lay down tight or doze off neither Velo sasti a tecalat
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  haveri. Another example of being very
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  careful. I did not as another rabbi
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  mentioned, I did not enjoy my friend's downfall.
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  You have a die, right? David is lenses just now a
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  minute ago. The joy that some people have by
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  the reverse cancel the culture going on right now.
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  And you know what I mean? There are certain people who a
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  couple of years ago were, you know, shouldn't be liberal and
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  they were destroying everyone in the wake, right.
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  And now, as they call it, it's all coming back to roost.
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  And these guys are getting fires all these big, you know, quote
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  UN quote to be king who are holier than thou, who were Mr.
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  Righteous and we're talking about people.
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  I meant highlighting negative traits over Republicans.
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  These guys now are feeling of coming their way, Right.
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  And this last night, another Khashubi got axed.
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  Good. I don't know if it's long term
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  or temporary, but this guy got axed.
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  Yeah. All right.
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  No. Name another Khashubi.
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  So my point is he watches. And the other CERN.
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  OK, he's not Jewish. I don't know.
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  Maybe he's even. I don't know.
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  They definitely not. But his mother's Italian.
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  Hey, Beno. So he watches and you say
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  yourself, awesome, take him out and put someone else in his
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  place. That's the other guy's a Jew,
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  similar situation. You have a guy, he's a big
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  community guy. He was very arrogant and talked
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  a lot and he made him something like he was new and all that
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  stuff. And then he loses his money,
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  right? This happens.
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  His sense of a little bit of sense of like, OK, it was coming
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  to him. Even gratification.
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  As Rabbi said, I don't play God. I don't say, oh, that happened
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  to him, he deserves it. That happened to that guy.
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  Awesome. Let the world be straightened
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  out. Don't play God.
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  I'm not saying you can't enjoy it when ATV Anchor gets axed.
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  All right, we can relax over there.
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  But I am saying that you can be careful.
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  You have to be careful. But doesn't that mess with your
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  camera through? If you enjoy.
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  That yeah, because it leads to that feeling though the guy is
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  really looking to Zahirut and stay away and they really
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  shouldn't go down that path to. Begin with absolutely don't play
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  God. Don't allow your mind to play
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  God. Don't be waiting for the God
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  moments. Don't do that.
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  Let things be the way they are. Let the wrong people be in
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  power. Let the wrong people have
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  arrogance. Understand that it's a show life
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  anyhow. It's a big deal, right?
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  Absorb it the right way. You don't need to straighten the
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  world out in your mind and wait for this one to fall and that
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  one to go up and this unknown person to make it and that
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  arrogant person to fall. Don't do that.
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  Let the world be the way it is and you'll find happiness in
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  life. And yeah, you're a hateful
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  person. You can never be happy.
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  You can't function in hateful. You just hate evil, not the
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  person about all day longer. You like when you see truth come
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  through, but you can't. As I'm saying this way, SaaS the
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  the grown have it all means enjoying someone else's
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  downfall. That's a bad indication as a
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  sense of like a little bit of of a little of a vengeance mode,
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  little bit of A and that's not a good mode.
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  You want to have ability of that one, huh.
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  We go all the time. But Lord Karate, another
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  example. Another rabbi had funny some of
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  these things 2 rabbis have below Karate La Javerae behind the
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  tour. I would not refer to my friend
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  with his already existing nickname, which means not only
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  did I not give him a nickname, I was not willing to call him.
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  Here's the guy who's called Bubba.
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  I called him William or something exactly.
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  I wouldn't GI wouldn't go right. I wouldn't go to the nickname.
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  I would stick with the original. From these different examples
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  and you can make up a million. Here's a rabbi or his example.
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  Here are examples of people who were very dedicated to different
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  traits in different areas, whether it be character to the
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  learning, to that respect, respect of a shoe, respect to
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  people, all these things are different ways of being
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  dedicated. And the goal is not to try to
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  adapt all of these, but rather try to absorb the message that
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  all these sound. And that is, it's not just
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  enough to check the boxes, it's far greater and a way different
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  person. If you are a Hasid, which means
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  you take something that you were raised on, something that you
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  tended to like, it's without mitzvot that you believe in and
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  you're a personal, you know, your life guides you that way.
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  You like dedication and respect to people.
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  You like that you're into respect of Torah.
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  Choose your lane. Take the thing that you're
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  dedicated to and go according to this concept all the way.
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  So this rabbi is saying I made sure never to create tension in
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  my home. Why is that a thing?
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  Because we know, as we said from the non ball, one of the
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  greatest we thought the man can have and one of the worst we
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  thought the man can have is the worst is Matil Emma.
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  Matil Emma means putting tension in your home, putting tension
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  over over the people. He has problems.
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  Well under you. You have employees, you have
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  workers. I'll tell you the truth, I was
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  never a boss on the boss remote until the rabbi business.
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  And when that started, I realized a bad side could come
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  out of you when you're in a position of power.
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  Why is that? Cause all of a sudden you think
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  so as we answer to you have they mess up?
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  You can highlight it and you can, you know, tell them why
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  this and why that and take a picture of something and say why
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  is it look that way? All the classic boss moves and a
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  person has to be careful. That is called hepatiti pitoc
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  petty, which means particular and your own matil Emma,
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  bringing fear and tension over those who are less than you.
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  This rabbi who had a passion for good character says my example
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  of great character is I avoided that even though I was in a
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  position of power. The husband over the wife and
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  his example, even though I had control, I didn't show it.
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  And those are the greatest people, the people who lead in a
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  certain sense, and they get the whole place to rise up, the
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  whole place to follow the lead without bringing the hammer
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  down. That's a man of character and
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  that's a Hasid that he's writing about because a Hasid is a
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  person who takes an area of life, whatever the area may be,
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  and he takes it all the way. So like I said before, both, you
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  can have a thing with other people.
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  You can have a Vera down the Markham, something with Hashem.
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  It's good to be a Hasid in both because you want to develop both
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  parts of yourself. You want to develop your
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  relationship with God and you want to develop your
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  relationship with man. You know, there are people say
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  elite who are very dedicated to 1 and not the other both ways
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  and they don't recognize the need to be very good at both.
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  But a Hassid is a man who has his thing, who has what he is
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  raised on or maybe something that he's inclined to.
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  We all have things that were inclined to.
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  I like certain character treats. It fits my MO and I'm not so
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  good at others. You're not the most on time guy.
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  I'll be honest, I'm not the most good at certain areas, but I do
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  have certain things that I'm inclined to.
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  So Al Hazid takes those things that he was raised on and he
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  lived by and he takes them all the way and someone looks at
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  them and says so. And so he may be a regular guy.
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  He's a prime example of honesty and business, or he's a prime
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  example of what a good husband should be or a good father or a
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  good son. And these are examples.
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  You want to find one. We have to do the whole Tara or
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  we should pick a couple that we take him to the bank all the
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  way. And you develop the trait of a
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  Hasid, which is someone who's extremely pious in certain
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  areas. I'll stop by this.