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Reset in Puerto Rico: Cutting One-Way Friendships and Building Powerful Connections · D-constructing Topics

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  What's going on, everybody? What's going on, folks? And my name is David,
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  and I'm your legendary host of this legendary podcast.
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  Ooh, we always got a good one. Once again, doing a little special recording in my beautiful island.
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  Yes, my island.
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  It's called Puerto Rico. It's not called something else. I'm just saying.
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  My beautiful home place where I was born, where my physically,
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  spiritually, mentally,
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  well, physically I was born there, But, you know, spiritually,
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  mentally, the United States has been that home where, you know,
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  has cropped up this legendary, legendary host of this legendary podcast.
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  My name is David, and welcome to my podcast. We got a good one once again.
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  Woo, woo, woo. Let's get it. Yeah, I'm going to sound a little,
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  I'll be honest. But I'm recording this early in the morning.
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  Beautiful, beautiful, beautiful scenery where I'm at, by the ocean.
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  I sound one puerto rico you already know let's go but yes i'm gonna sound a little bit like okay,
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  as i'm as i'm i'm not gonna say i'm a little zombie
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  boat but you know i'm kind of like okay it's very early in the
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  morning i had a good time last night and you
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  know maybe i did not sleep a lot
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  of hours i felt good though i slept good but just saying
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  and i'm like i'm a light sleeper so anyways we
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  got a good one because you know sometimes in
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  life and i mentioned this on my previous podcast that sometimes you got to hit
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  that reset button you know what i mean and sometimes that reset button could
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  be like okay where can i go to kind of get a way where it's affordable where
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  it's to be it's on my reach wherever you know because sometimes a lot of people.
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  Especially those people who've
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  been working hard working their butts off whatever it is that you do,
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  there's got to be a little that me time and then that me time you
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  know hit that reset button because sometimes that reset
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  button it could be like okay it could be mentally spiritually physically
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  whatever it is you know so i found
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  myself that not only am i doing that for those people
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  out there hey listen hit the like share button comment even though i'm i'm a
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  little bit uh in a getaway mode The fact that I've been networking Work mode
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  All this good stuff Doing a lot of good things For this podcast For organizations that I belong to.
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  For things so that we could do and we could definitely be in a better place
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  and a better things because great things are coming no no no no not great things
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  i take it back legendary things are coming so it's one of those things when
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  you find yourself like okay what's going on,
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  what's going on what can i do and uh yeah and i apologize you know so i'm sitting
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  in this chair and i'm moving and i'm like that it's making a little squeaky
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  sound and i don't want my list This is my beautiful list And it's like What's
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  going on This guy Probably got like A little bit of stomach pain Or something
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  like that But that's not the case.
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  I'm just moving in this leather seat So he's making that noise Like Wee Wee
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  Wee You know what I mean But we back though Hey listen Don't lose that How can
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  I say Focus We focus here Let's go I'm seeing you I'm seeing you,
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  But sometimes We just gotta be straight up With life Like hey listen We just
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  gotta tackle A couple of things Just straight up Like straight up Straight up,
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  And what I did this morning is that I reached out to somebody, right?
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  Somebody, maybe, and there is someone who I feel like is a trusted friend.
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  And a lot of people, we've been in those situations.
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  We've been in those situations with people that are non-family,
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  right? That you trusted, that you went out of your way because you believe in them.
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  We've been there, but sometimes we feel like sometimes that's like a one-way street.
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  Have you ever been in a friendship relationship where now you start to realize, oh, man, you know what?
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  This was not a friendship. This was a one-way street somebody was taken advantage of.
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  And Deconstructing Topic Podcast, I got a lot of friends. I got a lot of connections.
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  There's a lot of things right there that I'm going to be talking about in my
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  podcast because you know what? I want to believe in a power connection.
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  Sometimes I've come across people where either where I work at or people around
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  where you kind of, ah, this person, I'm not going to be cool with this person.
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  You know, you start to judge that person, how they look, how they act,
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  whatever. Hey, listen, by all means.
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  But then when you start talking with that
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  person and then the next thing oh you know let's say i'm
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  just using an example here and i think this
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  happened to me but it's not happening you know i see this
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  individual this gentleman little iffy in
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  my book you know what the hell is going on you know what i'm saying
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  and you're giving the chance you tell them hey listen i
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  do podcasts oh well i do too but i'm
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  working in master square garden oh hey listen could get
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  you next ticket for like 20 percent off you know
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  employee i got a connection you know i'm a nicks fan
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  let's go nicks basketball nba imagine that so
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  just to tell you how sometimes a
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  power connection when you connect with people you never
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  know what it is what they do that
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  that connection leads to something that could
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  help you and benefit each other you feel me
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  i mean that's where i i feel you know
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  i kind of feel with this person that
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  i uh retired in the morning i'm like yo you know i'm just saying i'm just trying
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  to remind you here that your boy deconstructing topic was there for you let's
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  get it going let's help each other let's get the ball rolling let's do something
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  special you know what i'm saying.
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  Then you start to realize and question everything like wait a minute.
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  This is like a one-way street friendship, you know what I mean?
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  So what to do with those situations, right?
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  Obviously, people are going to be like, F them, you know? Which,
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  again, you know, that's a good one.
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  We could always find these different options. You could be like,
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  hey, this, this, and that.
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  But the one situation is this, that I noticed, that I've, excuse me,
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  come across a lot of people, is that when you build, excuse me,
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  Ooh, I'll tell you, for some reason, Mimi, I was drinking a little bit of water,
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  and then it kind of went to the wrong place.
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  You know what I mean? But you see, that's why I make this podcast genuine.
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  So I don't need to edit those things out because I'm just, like,
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  kind of thinking, and at the same time, it's like, wow.
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  But it is about certain situations that you can be like, all right,
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  let's cut that person. You know what I mean?
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  Let's cut that person from your life. Like, it is what it is.
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  There's people that, you know,
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  hold on to it because they're hoping for that person to be like, okay.
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  But what it is, you know what I'm saying? What it is that sometimes we hold
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  down to these situations for what purpose?
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  And sometimes we hold down to friendship for so long because we no longer see
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  them as friends, but they're just family.
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  But you already know how they say sometimes even family could be the worst thing in people's life.
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  And it kind of applies to, you know, friendship. You know, you kind of connecting
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  with somebody and being their friend, being each other, living life.
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  If I pass by, oh, listen, we're taking care of each other.
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  We're taking care as we grow. We got kids, we married, whatever it is,
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  we helping each other. You know what I mean?
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  Excuse me, but sometimes it doesn't seem that way. Because sometimes you kind
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  of start feeling like it's like a one-way street.
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  And then with my case, with relationships, you know, that I've been,
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  that I stay close to, I'll be honest with you, I hit a little pause point.
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  Like, hold on, let me think. Let me think here.
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  And sometimes for the most part, it's not nothing that I have against those individuals.
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  You're just like, hold on. Again, how can we elevate each other?
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  Because sometimes we have all these friends These close friends or whatever
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  it is that we call them And we ask that question Wait a minute,
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  how can we elevate each other?
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  We live in a beautiful country in the United States Beautiful land,
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  There's so much opportunity But yet, you know, this land, this country The people
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  that run this country They take advantage of people They squeeze people to death
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  Like for whatever the case might be And they turn you into consumers But I say to myself,
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  Look at the people that are Quote-unquote successful.
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  What do they do?
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  They build connections And not only they build connections But they build connections
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  with people that you know That are going to be there And that's another thing
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  too Now we can never guarantee when we come across somebody,
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  We can never guarantee that whatever relationship Whatever we built on That
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  we could help each other out You know what I mean?
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  But sometimes there's those red flags That you just be like,
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  ah, interesting And sometimes that's, hey, I'll be straight up.
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  The person I reached out to earlier, there was a lot of red flags like, hey, what's going on?
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  You know what I mean? Something is odd. Something doesn't seem right.
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  But you kind of say to yourself, hey, I believe in a person. Hey, boom.
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  But again, the power of connection and what it is that we could do and whatever
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  it is, think about it. How can we help each other? You know what I mean?
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  You know, sometimes, again, I'll say this much.
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  It's cool to say, okay, I met this person who works in Mass Square Garden who
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  has discount, you know, price for the New York Knicks game, right?
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  But then what's the point of, how can I say, I like to think that if you don't
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  have the means even for discounts to buy those tickets, then it defeats the
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  purpose of kind of exploring that relationship.
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  You know what I'm saying? So that means that you, on the other side,
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  when you meet with people,
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  connect with people, when you build relationships with people,
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  just as you expect, you also have to think on your side of things that people
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  might expect something from you. Excuse me.
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  When if that's the case, then, hey, listen, put yourself in that situation.
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  And I always feel like there's something in the air that hey
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  listen every time that we try to connect every
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  time that those regular folks out there that got
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  those nine to five feeding family whatever the
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  case might be there's always that one thing there's always something that kind
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  of like drag us back whether it's a political event or some other kind of event
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  or something that's beyond the scope of control of what it is then it consume
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  us then we wake up we start watching the because we want more information.
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  I don't know where you start taking sides or whatever the case might be or whatever
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  the situation happens, you start taking sides.
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  Now that person who you, you know, consider yourself that friend,
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  they have a different view.
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  Now I don't know where that connection becomes disconnected just because of something.
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  We can't let certain things dictate us. And just listen.
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  And again, you know, I spent the last couple of days listening to different
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  people with different backgrounds about how they see things and how they view things, and I listen.
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  And I try to grab, even if I disagree with certain viewpoints,
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  I try to grab what we can do together. You know what I mean?
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  The issue is that sadly, the powers that be, they control and push the buttons
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  of those people where they're still going to gravitate into that negativity. You know what I mean?
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  So as I'm doing this podcast, this beautiful episode of this Deconstruct the
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  Topic podcast, beautiful.
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  Let's go. So I'm doing this. I want people to understand.
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  Listen, let's grab each other, hold each other accountable, and let's build those connections.
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  Let's build those connections even stronger, even better.
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  Because I'll be straight up. I mean, again, those people who push the buttons, they're good.
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  And those people that we kind of call out, we go to the social,
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  you know, this person is bad.
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  This person, it's a billionaire who owns this company, who does this and that.
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  And we go out there and talk bad about that person. But guess what?
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  You and the platform that that person owns, and they have pushed the binds when
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  you put more emphasis on that to say, let's build that community. You know what I mean?
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  So on this episode, I want people to understand. Once you finish this,
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  you start to kind of think about those people who are close,
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  those people who you trust, those people who you'd be like, wow, that's my people.
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  So that's that situation. Find a way and kind of say to yourself,
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  okay, what is those relationships that I have right now? What do they mean to me?
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  How can I make the best out of it? How can they make the best out of it? You know what I mean?
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  So let's make it happen. I'm out of here. Much love. Hit up the like button,
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  comment, share, all that good stuff because it's the Deconstructing Topper podcast.
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  I mean, you already know.
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  We on a mission. We making it happen because what?
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  Saving the mind is saving the life. Let's go. Peace.