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5 characteristics that take you from an ordinary college student to a successful entrepreneur · The Entrepreneur's Wife: Finding Purpose as the Helper of a Small Business Owner in a Feminist Obsessed World

• 0:04
  SPEAKER_00: What is up guys?
• 0:06
  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to the Entrepreneur's Wife podcast.
• 0:08
  SPEAKER_00: I'm your host, Carly Raines.
• 0:10
  SPEAKER_00: If you're new here, this is a podcast where we talk about finding purpose as the helper to our small business owners in this feminist obsessed world.
• 0:19
  SPEAKER_00: And today we're going to talk about five qualities that set you apart.
• 0:24
  SPEAKER_00: And this is inspired by what I've seen in my husband over the past six years of him owning a business and four years of us being married.
• 0:33
  SPEAKER_00: So these are qualities that I've seen consistently over the years.
• 0:37
  SPEAKER_00: And this doesn't mean that if you have these qualities, you necessarily should start a business.
• 0:43
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe if that's what the Lord calls you to do.
• 0:45
  SPEAKER_00: I just mean that these are qualities that I've seen in my husband that set him apart from the average Joe that I think would help anybody incorporate in their life to help them succeed in the goals that they have and to help them become successful in whatever they want.
• 1:04
  SPEAKER_00: So these are five qualities, like I said, over the past six years.
• 1:08
  SPEAKER_00: And real quick, if you missed last week's episode, that was because there was not an episode because I was sick.
• 1:16
  SPEAKER_00: And usually right now, how it works is I film this and then I upload it.
• 1:22
  SPEAKER_00: And so I really need to get ahead so that way if I do get sick or we go out of town, I don't miss a week.
• 1:28
  SPEAKER_00: But last week I was very sick.
• 1:34
  SPEAKER_00: I'm not really sure.
• 1:35
  SPEAKER_00: So I didn't come into the office and I just had a stuffy nose, so I didn't want to auto-record it.
• 1:42
  SPEAKER_00: So we took last week off.
• 1:44
  SPEAKER_00: But I've had this episode prepared even before last week.
• 1:48
  SPEAKER_00: Um so now I am just now getting to it.
• 1:52
  SPEAKER_00: So we're gonna go over five qualities that set you apart, and um I'm just gonna kind of dive in and then kind of explain each one.
• 2:00
  SPEAKER_00: So number one is drive, and this is pretty much when you do something and you don't need someone to motivate you.
• 2:12
  SPEAKER_00: You can motivate yourself, you really have that drive.
• 2:16
  SPEAKER_00: You don't have to have someone constantly behind you saying, do this, do this, remember to do this.
• 2:22
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and I just have seen this over the years with Briston and his consistency to show up every day and work on the business, um, even do like the admin tasks that are not fun.
• 2:41
  SPEAKER_00: I've seen him show up every day and have that drive, even though no one is telling him, hey, in order to be successful, you need to do this.
• 2:52
  SPEAKER_00: Or, you know, as an entrepreneur, you don't really have a boss, like you are the boss, and so I can see how it's very tempting to just kind of like slack off when you don't have a vision.
• 3:07
  SPEAKER_00: I think one thing that my husband has always done very good at is he always knows like where he's going in a sense of like he knows where the business where he wants to get long-term with the business, and I think that's helped him because then on days when he's unmotivated or he doesn't want to do some boring admin tasks or whatever needs to be done, he still sees the vision that he has for the business, and so that motivates him to continue on, even if in the present moment he's not motivated.
• 3:42
  SPEAKER_00: Um, so just like as his wife, I will say that what these qualities don't just bleed into like our business.
• 3:51
  SPEAKER_00: I will say that these qualities affect like every part of our life.
• 3:55
  SPEAKER_00: So his drive towards entrepreneurship, I see that with his drive towards his faith.
• 4:01
  SPEAKER_00: I see that with his drive towards fitness, like I see that with his drive towards our marriage and our kids.
• 4:08
  SPEAKER_00: So I think that like when we listen to podcasts like this where it's like five qualities to set you apart, or I listen to one that's talking about like what elite people do that's different than average people.
• 4:21
  SPEAKER_00: It really is like a moment for us to self-evaluate and to say, hey, okay, like what are habits and what are decisions that I'm making in my life, and do they align with these qualities or these habits or these consistencies or these routines that these elite people are doing?
• 4:40
  SPEAKER_00: And I love it because a long time ago I heard this quote, and it was by this guy, and he pretty much said that when you set a goal, you successful people write it down and they make a plan to achieve that goal.
• 4:55
  SPEAKER_00: And he said that not writing it down and not making a plan for your goal is a wish.
• 5:03
  SPEAKER_00: Like it's not a goal.
• 5:05
  SPEAKER_00: So if you just in your mind, if you think, oh, I want to do this, like I want to write a book, great.
• 5:12
  SPEAKER_00: Now, what's the plan that we're gonna take?
• 5:14
  SPEAKER_00: What's our action plan to get there?
• 5:16
  SPEAKER_00: Um, or like I want to make this amount of dollars, or I want to move here, I want to do this, like whatever it is, right?
• 5:22
  SPEAKER_00: I want to run a marathon.
• 5:24
  SPEAKER_00: He's like, if you don't make a plan to actually achieve that goal, it's not a goal, it's a wish.
• 5:30
  SPEAKER_00: And I think a drive, having a drive to do the plan, even when there's moments of doubt or discouragement or you're unmotivated, like still committing to the plan, I think is is gonna set you apart.
• 5:47
  SPEAKER_00: Because even in like my personal fitness journey, like there's so many times across the board, whether it was in sports or trying to lose weight or like training for a race, like everyone hits a moment where you want to quit.
• 6:01
  SPEAKER_00: And you don't see maybe you get you you're stagnant, you don't see the results that you want, or it gets hard.
• 6:09
  SPEAKER_00: Or like for us in college athletics, I remember when COVID happened.
• 6:14
  SPEAKER_00: COVID was a very interesting time in college athletics because you did not compete.
• 6:19
  SPEAKER_00: So you showed up every day to practice, and there was no reward for your discipline and your consistency to show up to practice.
• 6:28
  SPEAKER_00: Like you were, you didn't know when you were gonna compete because you didn't know when COVID was gonna be over.
• 6:32
  SPEAKER_00: And so you showed up every day to practice, and I remember we felt very discouraged because for a year we're showing up twice a day to practice, we're doing all this work, and a part of you is like, is this for nothing?
• 6:44
  SPEAKER_00: Like, am I gonna graduate and I'm gonna move on with my life?
• 6:46
  SPEAKER_00: And I just I just spent that season working so dang hard for something that I never got to try or do.
• 6:53
  SPEAKER_00: And I remember my coach, we showed up to practice one day, and he looked at us and he said, he said, Olympians train for four years for one event.
• 7:04
  SPEAKER_00: Like, think about that.
• 7:05
  SPEAKER_00: Like an Olympian, yeah, they're on the screen and like it's super hyped, right?
• 7:10
  SPEAKER_00: And the environment's high and it's high energy and all this stuff, but you didn't see like the four to eight to twelve years before they stepped out on the stage.
• 7:20
  SPEAKER_00: Like all you're seeing is the big energy day for them to compete.
• 7:24
  SPEAKER_00: You're not seeing the time every day that it showed up, that they had to show up and drive have a drive in order to get to competition day.
• 7:34
  SPEAKER_00: And I remember when my coach said that, like, Olympians trained four years for one meet.
• 7:38
  SPEAKER_00: I was like, oh my gosh, who am I over here complaining about working out for a year and not getting any cross-country meets?
• 7:46
  SPEAKER_00: Like it just put it to, it put my complaining to shame.
• 7:50
  SPEAKER_00: But the a quality that sets you apart is a drive.
• 7:54
  SPEAKER_00: You don't need people to motivate you.
• 7:57
  SPEAKER_00: You're gonna show up no matter how you feel, and you're still gonna put in the work.
• 8:01
  SPEAKER_00: And I love it because one of the things that there's a podcast to listen to, and it's it's a I don't know their names, but they're a fitness couple, like they they coach people and they're they're super fit.
• 8:12
  SPEAKER_00: And one of the things that they said is that you elite people commit to what they say they're gonna do, they don't commit to their mood or their feelings.
• 8:24
  SPEAKER_00: So if they say, hey, I'm going to lose 20 pounds, okay.
• 8:29
  SPEAKER_00: Well, even when you feel like not eating healthy, and this is this is I'm talking to myself right now, but even when you feel like not eating healthy, an elite person is gonna commit to no, I said I was gonna lose 20 pounds.
• 8:41
  SPEAKER_00: So I am choosing to commit to that, not commit to my present mood or my feelings.
• 8:47
  SPEAKER_00: And I feel like that is a drive.
• 8:49
  SPEAKER_00: Like, if you if you're asking, well, how do I have drive?
• 8:53
  SPEAKER_00: Like, how do I do things even when I don't want to do them?
• 8:57
  SPEAKER_00: It you just you wake up and you you consciously have to tell yourself it this parallels so much with the Christian faith, but you constantly have to tell yourself, I am choosing what I said I was gonna commit to, not what I feel like doing right now.
• 9:10
  SPEAKER_00: And that's so true in our Christian walk because there's so many times where we get saved and we're like, yes, I'm gonna go all out for Jesus.
• 9:17
  SPEAKER_00: And then you hit a point to where you don't want to read your Bible or you get tempted into sin or you don't want to be Christ-like, somebody ticks you off and you want to kind of go off on them or whatever.
• 9:27
  SPEAKER_00: Like there's moments where it's like, I don't want to commit to what I said I was gonna commit to.
• 9:33
  SPEAKER_00: And then in that moment, you have to stop.
• 9:35
  SPEAKER_00: And I think so many times we don't stop, we just like react.
• 9:39
  SPEAKER_00: We're reactive people, and you have to stop and you have to say, okay, like again, am I going to commit to what I said I was gonna commit?
• 9:46
  SPEAKER_00: I gotta remember the vision, right?
• 9:48
  SPEAKER_00: I gotta remember, like, I said I was gonna go all in for Christ, I said I was gonna do this walk, or am I gonna commit to my present feelings at the moment?
• 9:55
  SPEAKER_00: So super important, drive is super important.
• 9:59
  SPEAKER_00: Number two, sorry guys, I still am getting over my cough.
• 10:04
  SPEAKER_00: Number two is honestlash integrity.
• 10:08
  SPEAKER_00: I wanted to put these in the same category.
• 10:11
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and I wrote, we struggle with wanting to be liked by others, so we forfeit our character for acceptance.
• 10:20
  SPEAKER_00: And this is like true even with friends.
• 10:25
  SPEAKER_00: Um, number one, I think it comes with good intentions, right?
• 10:30
  SPEAKER_00: Like, you don't want to hurt somebody's feelings.
• 10:32
  SPEAKER_00: Um, but at the same time, like that's on one end of the spectrum.
• 10:37
  SPEAKER_00: I don't want to hurt my friends' feelings.
• 10:40
  SPEAKER_00: At the same time, if they ask me a question and I sugarcoat it, I'm am I really being honest?
• 10:46
  SPEAKER_00: Like, am I can I really tell them how I really feel about something?
• 10:51
  SPEAKER_00: Um, am I being genuine?
• 10:53
  SPEAKER_00: And then on the flip side, am I so focused on being liked by others that I forfeit my integrity in moments whenever it's put to the test?
• 11:03
  SPEAKER_00: And so we have these two spectrums.
• 11:05
  SPEAKER_00: And so my example of my husband is the other day, this was like a week ago, we sat down and we have our goals written on our mirrors.
• 11:17
  SPEAKER_00: And so he has like some business goals, some personal goals, some like goals that we have together, just a bunch of different variety of goals.
• 11:26
  SPEAKER_00: Then I'm likewise, I have like my author goals, you know, content goals, our goals, my fitness goals, you know, just a bunch of different goals.
• 11:35
  SPEAKER_00: And he has three goals checked off on his list.
• 11:40
  SPEAKER_00: And I was getting frustrated because I'm over here like feeling like I'm putting in all this work, and he's over here checking stuff off, and I'm over here like stuff's in motion, like I'm currently losing weight, but I haven't lost all the weight that I want to lose from postpartum, or I'm currently writing books and trying to publish them, but they're not published yet, or you know, all these different things.
• 12:05
  SPEAKER_00: Like, I'm currently getting better at making content, but is it where I want to be?
• 12:09
  SPEAKER_00: No.
• 12:09
  SPEAKER_00: So, like, I don't have much checked off.
• 12:12
  SPEAKER_00: I think I have like two things checked off, and those two things are just reminders of what I need to do on a weekly basis, they're not even like milestones that I've reached.
• 12:24
  SPEAKER_00: And I just I was so frustrated.
• 12:26
  SPEAKER_00: I was like, you know, and I kind of like had like a whole meltdown of like, you know, I feel like I'm not like where I want to be.
• 12:34
  SPEAKER_00: And since we moved to Texas, I just feel like I've been humbled like over and over and over again.
• 12:40
  SPEAKER_00: And so Briston sat me down and he was like, okay, he was like, well, let's look at your social media, because I guys, I genuinely enjoy making content.
• 12:50
  SPEAKER_00: It is a form of creativity and storytelling that I I didn't know that I liked, but like genuinely I like figuring out, like on YouTube, okay, you're telling a story.
• 13:01
  SPEAKER_00: How do I visually tell a story that creates value?
• 13:04
  SPEAKER_00: And on social media, like through a reel, how do I tell a story that's effective and creates value and gets people's attention?
• 13:10
  SPEAKER_00: And like, I don't know, I just I love the whole like idea, the logic behind um, and like the philosophy behind content creation.
• 13:20
  SPEAKER_00: So I was telling him, like, none of my stuff is growing, and like at the end of the day, it's not about growth, but at the end of the day, you want your stuff, like you want to be successful, okay?
• 13:32
  SPEAKER_00: So I'm enjoying it, it's not all about growth, but at the same time, I want to grow, you know.
• 13:37
  SPEAKER_00: So I was telling him, like, I'm putting in all this work, it's not growing, all this stuff.
• 13:41
  SPEAKER_00: And he sat me down and he was like, okay, he was like, let's look at someone that you really admire.
• 13:47
  SPEAKER_00: So there's this girl named Morgan, she used to be a D1 swimmer, now she's like a nurse, and she pretty much has like lifestyle content where she shows you recipes, her workouts, her lifestyle of like what her life's like, and I just really like her content.
• 14:03
  SPEAKER_00: She motivates me, and I just really like her stuff.
• 14:06
  SPEAKER_00: So we went to her social media, we looked at her grid, her her reels, like what she's doing, all this stuff, and then we went to mine.
• 14:14
  SPEAKER_00: It was pathetic to say the least.
• 14:19
  SPEAKER_00: I mean, it was like a hit to the face.
• 14:21
  SPEAKER_00: So Briston starts hammering me about, well, she does this and you don't do this, and she does this and you don't do this.
• 14:29
  SPEAKER_00: And he was being honest, like everything that he said was true.
• 14:33
  SPEAKER_00: And like, if you're a woman listening to this, you're like probably like, how could he have done that?
• 14:37
  SPEAKER_00: Like, but it was it was with good intention.
• 14:41
  SPEAKER_00: And hit his point, like, his he wasn't like criticizing me to like put me down.
• 14:47
  SPEAKER_00: He actually was like showing me, like, no, Carly, like you're blinded to the fact of like she's doing this really well, and your stuff is not doing very well, so you need to fix it here.
• 14:59
  SPEAKER_00: And did I have my moment of tears?
• 15:02
  SPEAKER_00: And and did was I hurt, yes.
• 15:04
  SPEAKER_00: But then the next day, it was like, okay, let me like separate myself from the feedback that he said, because he was honest, and I know that my husband loves me and he wants me to be successful and he cares about me and he cares about my feelings and you know, all the stuff, right?
• 15:21
  SPEAKER_00: So I know he wasn't saying that to put me down, I know he was saying that to make me better, and that's just the deal with honesty and integrity is it's is like, will you, if your friend or your spouse came to you, you know, like this is a check for me.
• 15:38
  SPEAKER_00: Like, if he came to me and said, Hey, what do you think about my content?
• 15:42
  SPEAKER_00: You know, am I gonna be honest?
• 15:44
  SPEAKER_00: Am I genuinely gonna be honest?
• 15:46
  SPEAKER_00: And it's funny because when people explain my husband when he's not around, it's just like so funny because they'll be like, Yeah, he like tells you straight.
• 15:54
  SPEAKER_00: Like he he's an honest person.
• 15:56
  SPEAKER_00: Like he's gonna tell you how it is, he's gonna, he's not gonna sugarcoat it.
• 16:01
  SPEAKER_00: And but I I think we need people like that.
• 16:03
  SPEAKER_00: And I and I look at very successful people and I see that quality in them, that they are honest.
• 16:10
  SPEAKER_00: You ask them a question, they're not like a politician that's gonna beat around the bush and tell you what you want to hear.
• 16:16
  SPEAKER_00: No, they're gonna tell you the actual truth of their opinion and and how they see it.
• 16:23
  SPEAKER_00: And so the next day I was like, okay, knowing my husband loves me and cares about me, I took his feedback, his honest feedback seriously, and now I've like tried to tweak my content.
• 16:35
  SPEAKER_00: And I feel like it's getting better.
• 16:37
  SPEAKER_00: I feel like I'm getting better at it.
• 16:38
  SPEAKER_00: So honesty is is will set you apart for sure.
• 16:43
  SPEAKER_00: And guys, something too that I've like just realized in friend groups is that you like you want honest, genuine friends.
• 16:53
  SPEAKER_00: You don't want fake friends, and everyone says, like, don't be a fake friend or don't have fake friends, like you want someone who's gonna be genuine if you ask a question and give you honest feedback and have that integrity.
• 17:06
  SPEAKER_00: And so, you know, even if people don't like you because of your honesty, that's a them problem.
• 17:12
  SPEAKER_00: And I've had to realize that, like, I've really had to realize, okay, if someone asks me a question, I'm like in our Christian faith, if someone asks me a question that I know they disagree with, but they genuinely are asking me, like I need to be honest in that moment, and I can't get wrapped up in the fact of what they think, you know, because then then I'm just not living a peaceful life and I'm just caught up in things that at the end of the day really don't matter.
• 17:39
  SPEAKER_00: Like they're not I don't want to say who cares about them because you should love and care about them, but like who cares about what they think?
• 17:47
  SPEAKER_00: You know, if they if they're genuine, honest people, they're gonna ask questions and they're not gonna judge and they're gonna, you know, seek to understand you rather than make opinions about you based on your answer.
• 17:59
  SPEAKER_00: So that's my answer to that.
• 18:01
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, number three is willing to change slash willing to take risk.
• 18:07
  SPEAKER_00: This is a big one in the entrepreneurship like field.
• 18:12
  SPEAKER_00: Um, I remember Briston said that the time gap between when you have an idea and when you execute it, for entrepreneurs, that time gap is very small.
• 18:24
  SPEAKER_00: Like, if they think of an idea, they're probably gonna execute it like tomorrow, if not sooner than that.
• 18:32
  SPEAKER_00: They they like, and I feel like for the majority of us, like I even struggle with this.
• 18:36
  SPEAKER_00: I feel like for the majority of us, we think of an idea and we sit on it.
• 18:40
  SPEAKER_00: Like we literally sit on it and we we get our mind going.
• 18:44
  SPEAKER_00: We're like, well, should I do this?
• 18:45
  SPEAKER_00: Well, well, it will, you know, what is it gonna affect?
• 18:49
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, it's got these risks, well, is it worth it?
• 18:51
  SPEAKER_00: And like rather than try, we just sit on it, going through all of these different scenarios, and we don't actually like act on it.
• 19:00
  SPEAKER_00: And that limits us because, like he has said, Briston has always said, the bigger the risk, the bigger the reward.
• 19:07
  SPEAKER_00: But if you don't take a risk, you can't expect to have a reward.
• 19:11
  SPEAKER_00: And then going back to change, change is you know, we've talked about seasons on a different episode.
• 19:17
  SPEAKER_00: We talked about Ecclesiastes three and you know how there's different seasons in your life.
• 19:21
  SPEAKER_00: And I feel like I feel like Briston is very good at like jumping to the next season.
• 19:27
  SPEAKER_00: Whereas like my tendency is like if I'm comfortable in a season, I have to have confirmation from the Lord that we are supposed to go to the next season.
• 19:36
  SPEAKER_00: Like it just makes me really nervous, but I think that's because I have a fear of making the wrong decision, which limits my risk taking ability, and that's just not something that's gonna set you apart, you know.
• 19:52
  SPEAKER_00: Um, a lot of people struggle with that.
• 19:55
  SPEAKER_00: And I just look at having a job and you know, taking risk.
• 20:01
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe you're not enjoying your job, but you take a risk to change your job.
• 20:05
  SPEAKER_00: How many people would think, oh, I would love to change my job, but XYZ?
• 20:11
  SPEAKER_00: And so, you know, when we moved to Texas, like the risk of moving to Texas and me quitting my job, I wasn't loving my job in that moment.
• 20:20
  SPEAKER_00: And I am so thankful being on the other side, having took that risk.
• 20:25
  SPEAKER_00: But in the moment of taking that risk, like I didn't know that it was gonna pay off.
• 20:29
  SPEAKER_00: He didn't know that it was gonna pay off.
• 20:31
  SPEAKER_00: We didn't know that moving to Texas was gonna be such a blessing that it has been.
• 20:36
  SPEAKER_00: So, you know, you don't know what's gonna happen when you make a change or when you take a risk.
• 20:42
  SPEAKER_00: But I think having that, like Briston all is always optimistic.
• 20:46
  SPEAKER_00: He's like, if it doesn't work out, you know, we can figure it out.
• 20:50
  SPEAKER_00: And he's just been always optimistic about taking risk, how you learn something new, how it could be a big win, you know, all this stuff.
• 20:58
  SPEAKER_00: And I think that sets that that definitely sets you apart because just those people just are afraid to take risk.
• 21:06
  SPEAKER_00: And so um, okay, uh, let's see, number four.
• 21:12
  SPEAKER_00: This is a big one too, and Proverb talks a lot about this, um, but having an excellence mentality.
• 21:21
  SPEAKER_00: So basically, in slang terms, not half butting it.
• 21:25
  SPEAKER_00: Um and I have seen this since I've met Briston.
• 21:31
  SPEAKER_00: Like he wants it to be perfect.
• 21:35
  SPEAKER_00: And I I say perfect, but I mean he genuinely wants it to be excellent.
• 21:40
  SPEAKER_00: He, especially when it comes to the business, he never wants to give a customer crap or less than 100% or less than excellent.
• 21:51
  SPEAKER_00: He's done a very good job in marketing when it comes to branding.
• 21:55
  SPEAKER_00: Like that's a very excellent mentality of how can we maximize.
• 22:00
  SPEAKER_00: Excellence and maximizing kind of go in the same bucket.
• 22:04
  SPEAKER_00: How can I maximize whatever it is that I'm doing to an excellent standard?
• 22:10
  SPEAKER_00: And um, I don't know.
• 22:13
  SPEAKER_00: He just he expects things to be done well.
• 22:16
  SPEAKER_00: And if they're not done well, then he wants you to go back and do it well.
• 22:19
  SPEAKER_00: So that does definitely set you apart.
• 22:22
  SPEAKER_00: Um and I will say just like as a person, I think this goes back to integrity, but just as a person, like no matter, no matter if it's not job related, whether it's volunteering or just being a good friend or whatever it is, like when someone prioritizes an excellent mentality, I think it just creates a lot of you can depend on them.
• 22:46
  SPEAKER_00: I'll say this, you can depend on them.
• 22:48
  SPEAKER_00: As a friend, you can depend on them because you know they're gonna follow through with what you've said.
• 22:53
  SPEAKER_00: And I think that that's very important when setting yourself apart because you like Proverbs 31 literally talks about how the woman is so godly that she gives a good reputation for her husband in the city.
• 23:10
  SPEAKER_00: And so as wives, it's like, is what I'm doing excellent when I talk to people, when I interact with people, when I'm working on a project, like I want people to, when they think of us, when they think of Brestor and I, I want them to think, I can count on them, I can depend on them, they will follow through with what they've said.
• 23:31
  SPEAKER_00: And I think having an excellent mentality does that.
• 23:36
  SPEAKER_00: So number five, okay, this one's really good.
• 23:41
  SPEAKER_00: I don't think he's always been like this, but I think he to an extent, but I think he more and more that he grows, the more and more I see this coming out of him, is asking questions.
• 23:54
  SPEAKER_00: And there are so many people who follow a system.
• 23:59
  SPEAKER_00: They they they don't even ponder their like the path that they're on.
• 24:05
  SPEAKER_00: And this is something that I am thankful for that my husband does, that I hope he continues to do, not just as a business owner, but as a leader in our family, is that he constantly is asking the question, Am I doing what God wants me to do?
• 24:20
  SPEAKER_00: And I think too many times we get comfortable, like I said, and we just forget to ponder the path that we're on.
• 24:29
  SPEAKER_00: And Proverbs talks about this that the wise person ponders their path.
• 24:34
  SPEAKER_00: The foolish person is careless and just continues on and doesn't think or ask the question, Am I on the path of life?
• 24:43
  SPEAKER_00: They just they just carelessly, blindly go down the path.
• 24:47
  SPEAKER_00: And what what they don't realize is they're drifting to the path of unrighteousness or the path of death.
• 24:54
  SPEAKER_00: And but they don't realize it, right?
• 24:56
  SPEAKER_00: And so, like him asking questions um and making sure that he hears from the Lord before he makes a decision, that's like super important, guys.
• 25:06
  SPEAKER_00: And that is gonna set you apart.
• 25:08
  SPEAKER_00: I feel like so many times as Christians, we like want something or thinking about doing something, so we do it and then we go to God in prayer saying, God, shouldn't I have done that?
• 25:20
  SPEAKER_00: Or like, is this okay?
• 25:22
  SPEAKER_00: We don't first go to God and say, God, should I do this?
• 25:26
  SPEAKER_00: Or if we do go to God first, are we patient enough to wait for an answer rather than wanting it right there in the moment?
• 25:33
  SPEAKER_00: And so I think those things set you apart.
• 25:38
  SPEAKER_00: So those are pretty much my five things that I have.
• 25:40
  SPEAKER_00: And they're five simple things that I think you can incorporate in your life, no matter what you're doing, no matter how old you are, no matter your job, no matter your fitness goal, like your faith.
• 25:50
  SPEAKER_00: Like these are five things that I tried to think of across the board, and that is your drive.
• 25:56
  SPEAKER_00: So when the going gets tough, what is the thing that's gonna keep you going when you don't want to go anymore?
• 26:05
  SPEAKER_00: Like, how how you gonna get out of it?
• 26:08
  SPEAKER_00: And don't think, oh, I'll figure it out when that time comes, because you will not figure it out, you will be trampled over unmotivation and slothness, and you will be like what proverbs says, and become a fool and become lazy.
• 26:24
  SPEAKER_00: Like, we need to have an action plan today before that ever happens.
• 26:29
  SPEAKER_00: So, drive what drives you, and really, guys, drive just has to do with purpose.
• 26:34
  SPEAKER_00: Like, what is my purpose?
• 26:36
  SPEAKER_00: What and I said, like the reason, the reason that I started this podcast, The Entrepreneur's Wife, was because I saw multiple times, I saw spouses who had a very ambitious spouse who knew exactly what they wanted to do.
• 26:55
  SPEAKER_00: Like Briston knew Texas outlaw, he knew the vision for it, he knew he wanted to pursue it full-time.
• 27:00
  SPEAKER_00: I mean, his his path and vision was clear, his drive was clear.
• 27:04
  SPEAKER_00: And for me, I was like, okay, I don't want to I want to write books, but I still feel like my vision, my windshield is still a little foggy, and I'm and I'm trying to figure out like where I'm going and why I'm going that direction.
• 27:19
  SPEAKER_00: And I've seen this with other spouses who their spouse is super ambitious, but I don't know.
• 27:26
  SPEAKER_00: I just say that to say that your drive is affected by your purpose, and your purpose is gonna affect your drive.
• 27:32
  SPEAKER_00: So if you have no drive, I would ask yourself, well, do I know my purpose?
• 27:38
  SPEAKER_00: And if you are wondering what your purpose is, or if you know your purpose, that should affect your drive.
• 27:45
  SPEAKER_00: So that's that.
• 27:47
  SPEAKER_00: Number one is drive.
• 27:48
  SPEAKER_00: Number two is honesty and integrity.
• 27:50
  SPEAKER_00: I feel like we should always be honest.
• 27:52
  SPEAKER_00: God values honesty, it is a virtue that He takes seriously, and integrity is doing what you said you would do.
• 27:59
  SPEAKER_00: So can you be dependable and can people count on you?
• 28:03
  SPEAKER_00: That's really important.
• 28:04
  SPEAKER_00: Number three is a willing to take risk or a willing to change.
• 28:07
  SPEAKER_00: And I got guys, I just think that as Christian business owners, this just comes back to if you have a business idea or a business decision that you're trying to make, just pray about it and ask for confirmation from the Lord or wisdom from the Lord, and then whatever He says, then you take that risk or not, and then you make that change or not.
• 28:26
  SPEAKER_00: Like that's the easiest way to do that.
• 28:29
  SPEAKER_00: Um, number four is having an excellent mentality.
• 28:35
  SPEAKER_00: So I'm giving 100%.
• 28:37
  SPEAKER_00: That was something my parents always said growing up.
• 28:39
  SPEAKER_00: I want you to give 100%, and I want you to do your best.
• 28:43
  SPEAKER_00: And doing your best doesn't always mean it's perfect, it doesn't always mean it's gonna get first place or what or you're gonna make the most or whatever.
• 28:51
  SPEAKER_00: Doing your best simply says I have maximized my abilities and I am pouring everything I have into them.
• 28:58
  SPEAKER_00: So maximize and having excellence pair together.
• 29:02
  SPEAKER_00: The last one is asking questions and pondering the path you're on.
• 29:06
  SPEAKER_00: And this just goes back to seasons.
• 29:07
  SPEAKER_00: Am I where God wants me to be?
• 29:09
  SPEAKER_00: If not, where do I need to go?
• 29:11
  SPEAKER_00: What do I need to do?
• 29:12
  SPEAKER_00: When do I need to pivot?
• 29:13
  SPEAKER_00: When's the season gonna change?
• 29:14
  SPEAKER_00: Always, always in the back of your mind asking the Lord, okay, Lord, whatever your will is, let's do it.
• 29:21
  SPEAKER_00: If you want us to move, let's do it.
• 29:22
  SPEAKER_00: If you want us to do this, let's do it.
• 29:24
  SPEAKER_00: If you want us to, you know, and I think too often we get comfortable in our season and we don't want to change, and we don't want to ask questions, and that's just you're you're gonna miss out on blessings that God has for your life.
• 29:40
  SPEAKER_00: So that's what I have for that.
• 29:42
  SPEAKER_00: It's it's kind of a short podcast, but I hope that this was encouraging for you.
• 29:46
  SPEAKER_00: If you watched until this point, I want you to leave the star emoji because there were five qualities and there are five points to a star.
• 29:56
  SPEAKER_00: So leave the yellow star emoji and let me know like what quality you do well at, what which of the five qualities you do well at, and what quality you need to work on.
• 30:09
  SPEAKER_00: And to answer your question, I think I need to definitely work on my um drive for sure.
• 30:18
  SPEAKER_00: Doing stuff when I don't want to do it, but I said I was gonna do it.
• 30:21
  SPEAKER_00: I need to work on my drive.
• 30:23
  SPEAKER_00: And something that I feel like I do well at is questions, pondering the path of life.
• 30:33
  SPEAKER_00: I I'm constantly doing that.
• 30:35
  SPEAKER_00: So I hope this was a good episode, and I will see y'all next week for another episode.