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Rabbi Moshe Haber Path of the Just: The Joy of Mitzvot and Perfect Living 12.9.25 · Rabbi Moshe Haber - Daily Mussar/Weekly Perasha

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We have a box. Very well, you see.
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Yeah. Besides, Shane's right.
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Where are you? So the idea, That's right, the
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idea are you talking about is one of the major items of our
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displays of love Hashem. And we're able to do things with
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Simcha. Yesterday we explained that
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there's different degrees of connection.
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There is yearning for something cleaving to something and is
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enjoying it. That is all about some hot.
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I'm sorry, some hot beans. You really love it.
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You have a great time doing it makes you happy, makes you feel
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full patient is what here's the key item.
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The idea of doing some hot with him.
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It's fine. Here's the element.
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The way to figure out is that you have something that makes
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you happy that would not make the average person happy.
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You have an area it doesn't exist in the world in the avid,
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the regular world, right? I give you a classic example of
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I should say this example. Yesterday I heard an interview
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with the wife of the of missing the guy who bends the way of
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Tali Kirk coming out with the book, a book around his beach
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for a knife, Ruby Skull. And there's talk about the
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Shabbat, right? And I'm listening.
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He has a book, I mean about Shabbat.
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It sounds like it's a classic book.
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His book is about keeping Shabbat interesting.
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He's not Jewish. But what made me interesting to
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me is that usually we have our secrets.
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And if you the idea of some howism it's about is that if
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someone tells you Shabbat is fun, you understand, you go to
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go eat on Shabbat has fun. They have a hard time.
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Imagine how it's possible. How could shutting off my phone,
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how could X, you know, not doing anything and separate from the
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world? How could that be fun?
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Is there some ha there that you have?
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He realized that he realized there's some ha there that you
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have and other people that I found these interviews are
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interesting is that he's talking, she's talking about
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something that's our secret and really the rule doesn't see and
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the same thing is true. Let's say with what I learned,
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you have a good time, you have a fun time and someone else, you
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tell them what you do and they say you get up in the morning.
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You really do you. It's freezing.
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Call it time or whatever it is that you do that we give you
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some ha of all concepts of a beauty or joy in some of the
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world. And CSI has a shenya suka who we
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call Dolby Abouda Suka is a major component of service of a
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shem Umash DaVita mazir vome. It's a pursuit to be a medical
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say if do it a shem, A suka bolifana bernana.
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Serve a shem with happiness. Come in front of God with joyous
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song. Oh maybe Sadikim righteous
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people. He's The Who y'all to live now.
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OK, we are see some people how righteous people are just a
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crazy joy over them. It's what and let me talk some
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is a rule. If you want to have Shakira in
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your life, if you want to have Hashem's blessing, you enjoy a
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mitzvah that creates the home for the Shakira.
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Hashem comes down to a happy person.
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For example, excuse me, our upcoming parasha Yakovabino is
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your loser son. You'll say for 22 years, during
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the 22 years Yakovo was a prophet, will not have any
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prophecy during 22 years of his life.
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Why? Because he was not happy.
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Because if someone's missing, if there's no sukha, there's no
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shahina. If there is sukha, there is
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shahidah. Like you mentioned quality.
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Talking about quality with Allah Qadi, a lot of places in the
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world they don't do quality, but she has you don't do quality.
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One of the reasons they don't do quality is because of sadness
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because God looks exile. So because they they can't do
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quality and quality is a moment when the shahidah comes out and
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rests on the hands of the quality.
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And if they don't have happiness, they don't have
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shahidah. I'd always do a joke with as she
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has friends. He's say you want to see a
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difference in US and you, you guys, you guys are serious.
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That's guys even always more serious than Syrian.
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And what's the proof is the quality?
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They don't do quality. We do.
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They try, by the way, twice in history they tried to bring it
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back and they had crazy catastrophes that happened to
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the communities and they brought it back in Israel.
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Israel is different. Yeah, but outside of Israel,
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they tried to bring it back and they created the fascist and
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they dropped out. When he does it, they know some
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ha, some high ski. Why?
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Because you have the hassle, ha, in order for this, you cannot to
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come down, which tells you that God considers the greatest place
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on earth if that's what he's going to go.
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That means you consider the greatest place on earth is a Jew
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who's happy about a mitzvah. Are Jew, are Jew in step one,
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happy in Step 2 and happy with a mitzvah step three.
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That's like a hat trick. That's perfect.
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And that is something that God says that's what I want to rest
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by Shakinai. So that's obviously what we want
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to be. We want to be in a position that
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says this is my Bantam in Dodge. Nowadays, a happy Jew with the
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mitzvah is at Saint Benjamine Gosh today, because originally
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Hashem rested Shakina in the Bantam in Dodge, a place that
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was built out of purity, a place that was built in the holy
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inspired earth. And that's Hashem rested
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himself. And today God rests himself in
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you. What you're happy while you're
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learning. That's also a shaheena hope or a
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kohen who's doing a mitzvah and he feels good about blessing the
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people. Shaheena right there.
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That's who we want to be. Vaapa sukhana lambala EV do it.
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Shammah serve a shammah abuba midrash amana be aibo.
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I've heard this rabbit before, but he says when you stand up to
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pray, let Palau you hear a little you should be happy.
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Shut down with balil Lil' Kim, Shane Kayo Subor.
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Where should my joy come from Praying?
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Praying is a serious thing. Where is joy come about my
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praying? Yes, there is.
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How lucky are we that we have this opportunity?
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Who in the world has an opportunity?
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You know how oxygen is so important because we get so used
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to it, So we don't really appreciate it.
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And water is so important, we get used to it or appreciate it,
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right? And saying anything is true when
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it comes to tefila. Tefila is a crazy gift.
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It's almost a silly gift. That is, you have the
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opportunity to talk to God all the time, three times a day,
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plus you have the ability to talk to Hashem all the time.
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It's an unbelievable gift and that should trigger hackiness
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and a joy that you will have when you stop and say this is a
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crazy opportunity. I have something going on in my
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life and I'm trying to figure it out and I'm going to talk
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straight to the source. That's insane.
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I have an issue. It's a $10,000 issue and I I
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could know they run this way, on that way.
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I have to do this. I have to jump to 1000 hoops to
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figure it out. Or I can go straight to the
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source directly and talk to him face to face and it's up to him,
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which means it's resolved. I can allow the situation to be
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resolved so long as I talk to God.
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That is crazy and that shall lead to unbelievable.
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Some hobbies. You have to realize that every
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time we pray, we have already resolved the issue.
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That doesn't mean the alcohol will be what we expected, but
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when we have resolved the issue because we've taken the
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situation taken out of our hands and put it on Sham's hands and
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now he decides. So if he is pro us, I'll do it.
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If He wants us to go through a little process, that'll go
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through a process, but it's all resolved.
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It's all in the right hands. It's all the right outcome.
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You go to a rabbit for a blessing.
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Good question. And the reality is the reason to
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go to the rabbit for a blessing is because it's a fair question.
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And the simple open giant answer is that a rabbi is a good
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vehicle of the same idea as Qaadim as a blessing rabbit is
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considered a good vehicle of Hashem because he learned so
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much to it all. And he can bless you.
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He can give over his better a little bit.
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But you're right then many rabbis have said, you know the
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Hafez hai, very famous for having said he was famous to
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giving blessings. And they came true.
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People live a little life. Many people live a little life
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in Europe. Or people who went to him
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before, before he passed away and they got a blessing.
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My friend's grandfather, for example, lived to over 100 years
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old, went through Denmark, survived the war, all that
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stuff. And that's because he meant not
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because, but he meant to have his name in the forest about a
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month before he passed away. But he was trying to get some
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good air and he got a blessing of long life.
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There are many people such as shambles and the head.
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He himself used to say, why are you coming to me for a blessing?
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You just learn a panic and Michelle it.
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You don't need to come to me learn a panic Michelle.
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But the idea there is if you're a person who has Hashem's
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blessing in him. He able to give it over a little
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bit. I don't have the simple answer,
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but that's the overall idea I guess for giving to and Hashem
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told that Ravido and you're going to be a bit of how which
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made our vote have the power to give all blessings.
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Fair question, by the way. It's like, awesome.
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The reality is, excuse me? It's cock's blessing to his
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children. Yeah, 'cause blessing.
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Those were all prophecy slash direction.
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It's a complicated blessing, not that simple, but it's something
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to it for sure. So now we're telling we're
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saying Atifilara, for example. It's an unbelievable gift.
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How happy would I be if I was told every single issue is
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handled? That means I have the
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equivalent. And not being at all
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exaggerated, I have in my disposal the equivalent of being
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the wealthiest man in the world, the most successful man in the
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world, the best family in the world, the best home in the
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world, All those things. I have the equivalent to them.
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Why? Because God, based on my prayer,
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has in His control to provide that for me.
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And if He does, great. And if He doesn't?
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Because He thinks that's great. So ultimately I am in the best
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position imaginable for myself. While these men in the world is
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a means to an end. What's the end?
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Happy perfect situation. If I am in a perfect situation
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without that, I'm in the exact same position as Mr. X, right?
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I'm in the same position. I said it sounds silly, but you
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are you are in the exact same position as the wealthiest man
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alive. Why?
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Because he is in a position that's best for him in his mind
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and you based on God's decision are in a position that's better
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and theft not to be to you at all.
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You're in a better position because God said I'm going to
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give you the best position plus some challenge that'll make you
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stronger, plus normal mind plus regular life, not crazy.
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All this proofs and when you talk to Hashem and the color to
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be that you have, you have an opportunity to be placed in the
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most perfect situation. If that's the case, when I get
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up to pray, I'm talking to myself as well.
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I should be with such unbelievable joy.
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I should be overwhelmed. If you do it with Hashem, Mr.
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Khan, because you're psyched. When you get a meeting with a
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big buyer, you're psyched. You're psyched when you get a
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good deal on a home, forget about it.
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Crazy hobby. When some friend says this is
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the Collies for that car that you wanted your whole life,
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they're giving $400.00 off a month.
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You're losing your mind. So exciting right?
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Someone tells you you won a small raffle, Forget it.
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Or what if you literally have all that and plus more in the
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hands of Hashem every time you pray, you have all that.
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You have the right position for the car, right position for the
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whole. You have the right amount of
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money. So you won the raffle.
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You have the right home for your family, you have the right
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situation for your children. That's all money areas.
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You have the right teachers for your children, you have the
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right school for your kids, you have the right spouses for your
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kids, the right married children, the right health.
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All that is right. The moment you get up to pray,
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that is a crazy sabra. And we're supposed to have
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David's blood. Makes sense.
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It's a reality. And the same thing is true in a
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different vein when it comes to other mitzvah.
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But tefillah is the clearest because tefillah is God.
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Here's my life, make it perfect and Hashem says OK I will.
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And he takes out a life and puts it in perfect of his eyes.
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That's your life. Your life is perfect in the eyes
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of God. I'm perfect in my eyes, but
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perfect in the eyes of God. Neither is my life perfect in my
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eyes. That's what we want.
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We'd much rather having our lives be perfect in the perfect
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one then we would my life be perfect in my eyes because I
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have no idea if the house I'm in right now is good for me for 10
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years. So now I would never know if my
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children's teachers see my nice people, if because of my kids.
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I don't know if my salary is the right salary.
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I don't know anything. God does point clear very
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simple. It should be because you're this
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you're in perfect situation. Once you pray, I'm going to be
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about you're praying to a God who does not like it.
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This is the true happiness. Our heart should be what's the
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word they used elated that we have the merit Lavo live now
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don't even come out to both serve Ola Sokh bittura to Mr.
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Taft. She have a Sheila Muta MBT a car
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in the street at the which is also perfection.
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So he's adding another point what he's saying if I told you
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you can be using and utilizing your time in the best way
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imaginable, you couldn't be doing the most effective things
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in your life. A lot of times people have the
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life crisis or start crisis. What is it about?
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I think I wasting my time. I feel like I didn't get to
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where I wanted to go right. I had a period of time, I've
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said this before, where I was on the way to to.
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I had a schedule. I meant to finish us and then
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saw a teaching and then I went out the window.
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It was a different type of schedule.
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You repeated a lot of stuff you learned before.
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You're learning it slower. You're learning how you're doing
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different things and unable to at a certain point in time in
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the beginning and beginning of teaching, there was a bit of
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regret, not regret, regret, but he'd be like a feeling of I had
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a plan. I'm not sick of that.
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I plan and I'm not really, you know, feeling the way I wanted
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to feel about talk about accomplishment.
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But then you stop and you realize your accomplishment
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switches and you recognize it's great.
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So if a person realizes that his service of our shop, what he's
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doing right now in life, if he's sitting and learning to that, if
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he's praying between, if he's raising his children, if he's
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being a good husband, if he's being a good member of the
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community, if he's giving me charity, if he's saying kind
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words, all these things are my purpose in life.
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And I realize that and I have the opportunity to do that.
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How awesome is that feeling? That should be a Sahara and
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there is no other way because when you get to use your life
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with meaning and not only simple meaning, but the purpose of life
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literally, and it's very similar to the first happiness.
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The first happiness was your life is perfect because the
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outcome is going to be perfect for you.
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This happiness is your life's productivity is perfect.
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I am getting to do what I like to do.
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I'm getting to I'm getting to do what's great for me.
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I'm going to learn, I'm going to produce, I'm going to develop
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what's production. Production is not what someone
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else says production. The fact that you able to go
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throw a crazy party, there's no production there.
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There's zero production of that divide.
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The production of making some people feel good that they got
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invited to the party. That's it.
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Compare the production between a person who feels special in life
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in the world out there because he did something wow to the
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production that you and I feel or you do something meaningful.
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It's shocking. There's more production
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productivity for you sitting and talking to your child for 10
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minutes and there is a person who gets to have a crazy party.
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A meeting with the president, whatever it may be, is more
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productivity in your situation than theirs.
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I that is the mindset that you hit or you realize I get the
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opportunity and I get the merit to do God's will.
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So my life is in perfect hands and my role is a perfect role.
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How happy am I? This has to be the sense.
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The fact that people are depressed with their position is
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only because they're not recognizing and not realizing
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and they're living a meaning as long as they are addressing the
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meaning, of course. But if they realize that they
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come to a poor in life that they're doing these that are
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meaningful. There's some how necessary.
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It's so how should be unbelievably overdue.
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It like those classic cases where the rabbi got up after
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learning and decided to dance or the people.
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It's like I was sitting there talking to a guy the other day.
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His child is not well. Child was in the hospital for
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goals for OK, a serious day. Child wasn't well.
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At the same time, the guy came to learn for a few minutes in
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between a song like this in the middle.
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I heard him say from a shot of the Gemara, OK, And it's not
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exaggeration. He got so excited like, ah, it's
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so unbelievable. And he got all joyous about
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Shawn thinking about all Wally's going back and forth, thinking
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about his son, and he's all losing track of his son and he's
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spending the whole time with his son.
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He's spending what I would have said, but this that feeling is
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something that gives a person happiness and you have this and
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I had this in our own ways. There are certain feelings when
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you feel like I'm living a meaningful life.
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You know, a lot of volunteers drop out.
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Volunteers in all areas have a crazy drop out.
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Wait, wait, why? They got inspired.
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But then the actual doesn't feel like much.
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Imagine you got inspired to take care of a a case, take care of a
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be a Big Brother, big sister situation.
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Think care of someone is from a broken family.
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All right, you're getting involved after a little while,
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doesn't feel like much. You kid not listening.
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Their mother doesn't appreciate it.
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They give you a hard time for you to get.
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They give the kid a trip, whatever it might be.
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It doesn't feel like meaning even though you stepped in for a
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meaningful purpose. The reality of doing the
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Champions class, to recognize anything that you're doing which
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is meaningful should feel awesome the whole way through.
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That too triggers A Saha. But today we have two great
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sahas. One, the joy of my life being in
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the perfect hands, being that I pray.
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And two, the joy of my position of life, my role of life by
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learning my mitzvah, I raised my family, I being a husband.
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All those roles being meaningful, also being perfect
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because they are roles of serving our shaman, doing his
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will. And if you are living life the
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right way, you are living the happiest life imaginable.
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Not a pursuit, not an end goal, not something else going on, not
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the vacation involved, not the other trip, not what someone
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says about you. Those are all not real
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happiness. Real happiness comes.
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I'm living a perfect life in the hands of God and living a
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perfect meaningful life doing God's will.
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And we have the capability of doing so.
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And we really are doing so every single day.
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Our job was just a step into these shoes, which was you get
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to pray. Hope you have that mindset.
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This is awesome. Or do you get to live your life?
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Next time you interact with another person, next time you
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sit down for a class, next time you do anything, you say, well,
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this is literally the greatest place on earth.
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This is literally the best position I can be in in my life.
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And then you do it or something. But somehow we always wonder how
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can a person have so much some ha and there's so much going on
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in their life. We all have things going on in
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life, right? All of the things that are on,
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you know, unclosed tabs, you all have it.
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You have some ha or you realize this is the center of the
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universe and those other things with other issues go to the
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back, go become background. They don't become the thing
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itself. Well, this is by the way, these
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are works in life. You know this right now you
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can't have two focuses at the same time, right, Can you?
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Not if you want to work, you can't do anything.
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Well, we're not having to focus at the same time.
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What you hit a point at your misunt are joyous, which means
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they feel like they're meaningful, which means they
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feel like they're at the center of the world.
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What has been happening here is all the other things in life.
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Take a back seat on your worries, on your mind and your
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mood so you can have a person who's not doing so well
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financially, but he really enjoys the dress that he's
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doing. I know such a person who went
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through a major upheaval in business over the last year or
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so major, but he's heavily evolved the dress it.
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I saw no difference in the guy's mood.
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That sham eventually made it come back up again, but during
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the process, I saw zero difference in the guy's mood.
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What do I think? That's because he's so heavily
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focused on his meaning in life. That became the center of the
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universe, and the other issues, although they're real, became
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background. You can't have two centers at
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the same time now at the same minute, or at least you could
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juggle back and forth, all right, But you can't have two
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centers at the same time. So the more you make the purpose
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of life your meaning, the more you make what you're doing in
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your retort something of clarity, something of a, of
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essential. What's the word I'm looking for?
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I think of value, I guess. Then everything else that goes
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on in life will become a little bit background noise.
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You're not going to have a person.
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There's a reality. Yeah, I got a person that loves
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to learn to it all day, but also it's heavily insulted all day.
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Little. It's not possible.
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Why is that possible? Because if he loves and he is
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sitting and doing the truth all day long, he's enjoying it.
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What someone else has to say about him, she matters.
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That's how it works. So when you move you somehow
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over to the purpose, you move your headaches away from the
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center of your mind. OK, what's top of this shit?