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ASPERGERS Adult Daily Life With Autism REALITY · Aspergers & Autism Podcast [The Aspie World] AuDHD

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  In this video, I'm talking about being an Asperger's adult and
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  the ways in this can impact your life.
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  All that coming up. Hey guys, welcome back to the
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  aspy world. My name is Dan, I have autism,
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  share if this can help you. Hey guys, before you get started
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  with the video, I just want to let you know I have a free
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  Autism web class which is designed to help you achieve
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  daily life tasks for people on the spectrum.
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  It will be in a card above here and a link in this.
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  OK on the video. So in this video guys, I'm
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  literally talking about my personal life and how I have
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  issues with certain things and my daily life tasks.
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  How? Asperger's syndrome.
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  Kind of like impact my life in certain ways and ways in which I
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  deal with those to the best of my ability.
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  Come with the video. So I have a diagnosis of
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  Asperger syndrome and ADHD combined, and I also have
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  dyslexia, OCD. I actually, I wanted to do a
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  video talking about the things that impact my life just from an
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  Asperger's point of view, from just having an autism spectrum
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  disorder. Now obviously we know that
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  Asperger's isn't diagnosed. Asperger's.
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  Now it's just diagnosed as autism spectrum disorder.
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  Let me know in the comment down below if you have a diagnosis of
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  Asperger's syndrome or a diagnosis of autism spectrum
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  disorder, because there's no difference.
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  But I just like to know which terminology was used to diagnose
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  you because I read and respond to every single comment.
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  So if you do that, that'd be super awesome.
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  So daily life, right? One of the things I wanted to
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  talk about was going shopping, right?
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  Not just going shopping. I'm not talking about like, you
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  know, going to outlet stores for clothes or like gadgets and
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  stuff. I'm talking about like, grocery
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  food shopping. OK, this is a necessity.
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  And I have the biggest issues with this for a number of
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  reasons. Let's get into it.
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  So the first reason I have an issue with groceries is because
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  going to the store is kind of like, it's kind of a big deal.
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  You know, you're going to go somewhere.
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  There's going to be lots of people.
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  And that kind of social anxiety starts hitting in and like, you
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  start worrying and panicking, thinking, Oh my goodness,
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  there's going to be lots of people there.
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  I don't know their intentions. I don't know if they're good
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  people, bad people, don't know what they're going to do.
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  Right. And that fear of not knowing
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  that social commutative part, because obviously autism is a
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  social commutative issue, It kind of drives my anxiety
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  through the roof. So I get social anxiety.
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  And as a response to that, I'm just kind of like, Oh my
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  goodness, you know, I kind of don't dread going to the store,
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  but I just don't look forward to it as much as I would do if it
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  was. There was more kind of things in
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  place to make it more autism friendly.
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  Right. Because as soon as you get in
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  that door, there's like a billion people buzzing around
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  and being really, really fast. And then also there's like loud
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  music blaring. So as soon as you enter the
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  story of like, loud music, like the security guys watching over
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  you, because I know they're doing their job, but it also
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  makes you feel kind of like you're some kind of like
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  criminal. I'm like, oh, my goodness.
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  And then so you got the security, the pressure from
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  going in there. There's the music playing.
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  So you're trying to focus on everything.
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  Now this is super interesting because of the ADHD combined
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  with the Asperger syndrome Try. I love to focus on stuff unless
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  I'm hyper focusing, which means that I'm focusing on something
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  that I really, really enjoy. My mind kind of starts wondering
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  because it's hard to keep on task because of the ADHD.
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  So I can only really like take in a certain amount of sensory
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  input before it's just game over.
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  Like overload, just get out. So you're walking in the store,
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  you know, you're instantly greeted with crazy loud music.
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  You know, like like Oh my goodness, you know, and you're
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  walking down and that's like going on, right?
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  And then you're getting a little bit down the store and then all
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  of a sudden and all of the bread aisle starts like, you know,
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  about the waft of bread and stuff is like, so your senses
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  are getting overloaded there. And then the deli counter smell
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  kind of comes in. And then there's like the
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  abundance of people just walking around this store, kind of like
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  bumping into you and there's kids there.
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  And it's like parents and shouting at the kids.
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  And there's lots of things going on and you're trying to do your
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  shop by getting the things that you want to do on your list.
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  But there's other people coming in and they're like, oh, excuse
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  me, it's just chaos. It's just chaos.
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  It's like it's something that, like, it needs to be quietened
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  down like. So in the UK, they've got a
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  thing called Autism Hour, which is basically where they have an
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  hour on a certain day, selected day.
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  So people with an autism spectrum diagnosis can go and
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  shop leisurely so that they kind of like.
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  Turn the music. Down they turn.
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  The lights down because lights in there are bright as well.
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  I've got to mention that with the lights.
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  Are just like, whoa, super bright.
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  And then they kind of tell people like it's autism hour.
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  So like if you are going to be there, be respectful and be
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  quiet and like that's kind of like hustle and bustle of the
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  usual kind of shoppers. Now that's all well and good,
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  but that happens one hour of one day, once out of the year that I
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  know of. Which is crazy, right?
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  I know some stores and some outlets have kind of like
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  expanded that and I've got like Autism Hour in place.
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  That just happens, you know, all the time, which is fine.
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  But in terms of this autism hour, Oh my goodness, just
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  having one hour isn't good enough.
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  So my hack for going to the store is very, very simple.
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  I take headphones with me. Now these are the Apple's noise
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  cancelling headphones. And I put these in because that
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  just absolutely takes the the noise away from any kind of
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  like, you know, the the noise and of the people, the noise,
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  the music, all that kind of stuff, you know, the hustle and
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  bustle noise kind of takes that away.
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  So at least it grounds you to 0 so that you can deal with the
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  smell and then you can get over the smell and then you can deal
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  with the people in the line trying to get their stuff.
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  So that's one way I do that. Another one is to check the
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  time. So if you go on Google, if you
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  open your phone, go on Google, you're actually able to find
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  like the the best opening times and like you know, busiest times
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  for for the thing that you're you're talking about.
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  If you go on your phone and type in something like, I don't know
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  McDonald's or or whatever, it actually shows you a chart of
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  like how and when the busiest time is.
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  It's kind of like a graph that goes over the top and it tells
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  you when the busiest time is and when the less busiest time is.
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  So the hack is to go there on the less busy times, which is
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  pretty simple right? So less busy times and use noise
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  cancelling headphones. I actually have a second set of
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  noise cancelling headphones, which are the Bose noise
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  cancelling headphones everyone raves about which are actually
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  here in my draw actually use these Morphus Studio Production
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  now because I actually have the the the Apple ones, but these
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  are the Bose headphones. Super cool right?
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  And these are really, really good.
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  I have a link for the Bose headphones in the description
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  below. If you want to get your hands on
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  these, I highly recommend these. They're a little bit more
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  expensive than the Apple ones, but they are a lot better than
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  the Apple ones for actually blocking out all noise I've used
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  on an airplane and it was just crazy good.
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  So other than that, pubs, clubs, bars and restaurants, Oh my
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  goodness, where do I begin? There is an issue that presents
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  itself. So people in the autism spectrum
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  take things very literally and very seriously because they take
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  everything at face value in literal format.
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  So when we go to like, restaurants and stuff, I'm
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  always taking things literally. So if we, like, I'm going to the
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  restrooms or I'm going to the salad bar or something, we bump
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  into somebody and then they try to do a joke to be sarcastic.
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  I don't know if they're joking or being serious.
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  This really bugs me. Like how am I ever supposed to
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  know if this person is being serious or not?
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  Like, you know, people just joke about all the time.
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  And actually, one time I was in a supermarket and this guy was
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  trying to be funny with me when I was going on the till.
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  And then I was like, hey, what are you doing, man?
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  Why are you being, like, a jerk for what's what's going on?
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  And he's like, oh, no, I'm trying to be funny.
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  And I was like, what the heck? That's not funny because I
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  didn't understand the joke. And because of that, it didn't.
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  It's not like it landed me in trouble, but it kind of
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  presented a difficult situation. So then I have this, like, fear
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  of social interaction because of the fact that I know that people
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  are going to do jokes that I'm never going to get.
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  And because of that, then I'm now in the, you know, I'm in a
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  difficult situation. And so when you go to bars and
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  restaurants, have a meal or whatever, if you're seeing your
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  family and friends, then you are going to be confronted with not
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  only a bunch of social situations that are going to be
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  so difficult because you're not going to understand the body
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  language, the the commutative types of these people, the the
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  unwritten kind of social rules, how far to stand away from so
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  on. How?
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  When's your turn to talk? How long do you talk for?
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  Do you talk about your own topic for for a long amount of time?
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  And when's somebody else's turn to talk?
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  You know, all these things Kind of collaborate to make the the
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  whole experience not a nice experience.
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  And because of that, I kind of think that going to restaurants
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  and pubs and stuff is stressful alone, just for those reasons.
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  Let alone the fact that Oh yeah, you're in a busy place.
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  There's like bottles clunking everywhere.
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  There's like people moving in and out.
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  There's loud and rowdy people as people wanted to dance and sing
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  and all this kind of stuff. So I simply hack this in a very
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  simple way. I have a simple rule.
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  It's basically this, unless I have to, I just don't go.
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  People always feel like they are obliged to do things because
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  they feel like, well, if I don't go up and think bad of me
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  because it's this person's birthday, or if this person's,
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  you know, done this and whatever and whatever.
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  But if you should always take care of yourself because there's
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  no point in going somewhere and putting yourself out your
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  comfort zone, then you become upset and have issues so that
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  then just to police somebody else because then they're going
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  to be worried about you, you know, they're going to be like,
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  what about you? What's going on with you?
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  So take care #1. If it doesn't feel right, if
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  you're not happy with it, just don't go.
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  That's what I do. And yes, maybe some people will
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  get offended by it, you know, but eventually they'll realize
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  that you're just taking care of your mental health and your
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  neurological health. And then they'll say, OK, well,
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  I get that. And then, you know, if they're
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  true friends and the true family members, you know, that are
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  honest and they're going to really appreciate it and they're
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  going to be appreciative of the fact that you're not going to
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  put yourself out there to make more of a problem for yourself.
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  So that is basically the way that I deal with that guys.
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