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Igeret HaTeshuva part 2 - Forgiving easily and remembering your sins · Food for the Soul

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Okay, good morning, everyone. We are deep in a special chapter of time.
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Why? Because it's a chapter that's good to know, not because the middle of something, just it's a good chapter to know.
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What's a chapter about? That you could be happy and you could be heartbroken at the same time.
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Heartbroken. We are in page 382 in the bottom numeration.
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Yes, and this one here in the numbers here at the bottom
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382 if you don't have the red little books, it's called a Tanya
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holy book
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so
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Why?
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Could you be happy and heartbroken at the same time because there's something called duality?
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Both things could coexist to state solution could do it could do both
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you could be nothing no no political agenda just saying that you could co-exist
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there could be a broken heart broken that's from your sins on one side of
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the heart heart broken heart broken heart broken broken heart you could be
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sad could be like frustrated from your avirot at the same time you could be
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happy, rejoicing, because you need to serve Hashem with Zimcha. How do they both go together?
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Number one, because they're not a contradiction, depends when. Now we do this then we do that,
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doesn't have to be at the same time. There's times for joy, times for heart before, for being
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set, you need to designate times to do chuvah, Thursday night, when you go, whenever you
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designate time to repent during the filah, when you do the tahannun, but right after
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and right before, you have to be happy, because otherwise it's going to go downhill.
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It's a slippery slope that if you are sad or distracted or the Yitzara gets you to not
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be happy, then you're going to do more of a lot more sins than even before.
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That's side number one.
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Point number two that we mentioned yesterday is that we could be happy because Hashem
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was easy to forgive.
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Remember, Hashem forgives easily.
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Why does Hashem need for Him to forgive us?
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to say sorry, that's it. When we say sorry Hashem forgives. No, what do you mean? Yes,
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very simple. Hanun ha marbel. Isloach Hashem is forgiving. We say sorry, he forgives.
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Very simple. How many times a day? All day, especially three times a day when we do
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the tfilah. And we say isloach hanur. We forgive us, atone us because we sinned
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and rebelled against you.
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And how do we complete the bracha?
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Baruch atah Hashem blessed are you
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that forgave the Jewish people.
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That's it.
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So we know we have a bracha that he forgave.
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Yes.
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It's reason, like three times Hashem forgave us.
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It's reason why we in certain time
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we in Turkey somehow like we don't want it.
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So, we kind of mentioned that on the way.
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They say, why, what do you mean?
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How could you say that about Hashem?
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So they think, what's saying?
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It's not even just about Hashem.
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Also, humans need to be able to forgive easily.
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It's a requirement from Jewish people to be forgiving.
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It actually says in the Gmarad that if you want to marry a woman,
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and you're not sure if she's Jewish or not,
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you should check if she has mercy.
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She is shy, merciful, Rahamim.
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Mercy, she has mercyful.
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Shy, not shy, like not the opposite, what?
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it's not exactly shy it's more like I think modest it by Shani means like
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not the opposite of grub I don't know what's a good word no it's like
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what's grub in Russian so interesting maybe that's it
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And here this shit means someone was very animalistic someone's like, you know, it's a big burger with 10 fingers in the middle of street
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The opposite of that is more like refined. Yeah, maybe we're fine. No classy, but refined refined refined shy
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like not
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I know we'll find the right word for this. Well, we'll find that sooner. I think it's gonna come. Oh
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Yeah
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Yeah, in another pot.
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Yeah, okay.
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Because there was that one answer.
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Okay, so, by ishanim en gom lei chassadim,
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that they do love doing chassad.
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Not just that they love doing chassad,
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they do chassad.
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So, if someone doesn't have one of these characteristics,
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we gotta investigate.
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No, it could be that they still have Jewish documentation.
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She's very interesting.
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I had recently, someone in Manhattan asked me
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asked me for a certificate that she's not Jewish because she has Jewish roots.
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She has great-great-grandparents that supposedly came from Spain, from the Jewish
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ancestry and they have Jewish names and Megan Davids and you know like they feel Jewish
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but she has zero Jewish documentation. No kutubah, no history, no nothing so she we can she can
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marry a Yidd, right? We can we there's no proof of her being Jewish but she doesn't want to
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to marry someone not Jewish because she feels Jewish but she knows she can marry
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a Jew because she doesn't have and she doesn't want to convert because she says
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if in case I'm not Jewish I am not ready to take upon myself the religion if
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I'm Jewish then I'm born into it if not then no so she asked me if I could get
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her an approval that I could certify that she's not Jewish I don't know I'm
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looking into it I just talked to our show about you know it's on my
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bucketless for today to talk to him about it. He's a type of rabbit to know. Whatever,
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it's just interesting. Like, what? Yeah, it was a first. It was like, it was interesting.
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Like, okay. So even humans, even yet, and I require to be easily forgiving. And if someone
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asks you for sorry, once you should forgive and if not, then after three times, you
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should definitely forgive. And now we're going to see here a short story, a story
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from the Bible. And Bible is something important to know because it's an important book. There's a
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story that when the Jewish people entered the land of Israel under the leadership of Yehoshua,
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right? What do the Jewish people do? God commanded them to offer peace to the nations
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who are there. If anyone wants to do a covenant of peace, great. And if not, we destroy them.
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All the nations said no.
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Joshua goes in and conquers Jericho.
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You know Jericho?
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Jericho, they go seven times around the city.
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The walls fall.
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You know the stories?
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A little bit.
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If not, then read them out.
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Bible book, Joshua.
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Then they continue to go to a city called the Ai.
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And they surround the city,
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put the whole city on fire.
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Slowly they conquer the,
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start conquering the land of Israel.
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There was one nation called the Give Onim.
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on him they come from the city from the area called give on and they got scared
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they're on up now what too late like we can't we can't say we want peace now so
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what I did is they dressed up as this as a as merge like as a delegation from
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a far place they came to the Jewish people to Yeshua like dressed up as
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if they walked for weeks from the desert.
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And they told Yeshua,
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we want to do a covenant with the Jewish people.
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We heard how great you are.
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We want to make a brief, an agreement
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that we're not going to attack you.
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You're not going to attack us, we'll be friends.
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And even though it was like a little weird,
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like what do you mean?
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Like why do you want to convince the Jewish,
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the Yeshua to sign a deal with them
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that they're not going to kill each other?
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When they found out,
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When we came to conquer them, they pulled out the paper
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I don't know what it was, a paper
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Said, hey, we said we're not gonna kill each other
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They basically tricked the Jewish people
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So we couldn't kill them
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What did we do?
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There was a decree that they're gonna be in wood choppers and water carriers
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That was their job
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They were gonna be like a little bit of slaves in Israel
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But they could remain, we're not gonna kill them
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But we're gonna give them some kind of job
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And that's it
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That's the story of your show.
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King Shoul, a few generations later,
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a tried killing and causing problems
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to this give only nation.
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Now, we don't know exactly what he was trying to do
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or what happened there,
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but all we know that they were very upset
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at him and the Jewish people.
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And suddenly, when King David,
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are you with me with the story?
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King David was Shaul's successor.
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There was a famine, there was like a time where there was no rain, no food in the land of Israel.
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And King David wasn't sure what happened.
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Why is God punishing us?
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Till he found out, he asked Hashem and he said that because Shaul hurt the Givoni,
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this nation that was hurt, killed, assaulted by King Shaul,
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We'll get punished for that.
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So King David went over to them and said, we're sorry?
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How could we make this up?
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He offered them money, he offered them silver, nothing.
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They wanted revenge.
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They wanted to kill seven descendants of Shaul,
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execute them in exchange for whatever Shaul did to them.
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Descendants' kids, kids, grandkids,
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The sentence means people that...
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Patom.
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Exactly. Patom.
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I don't know what that is.
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Patom kid is part of it.
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Got it. Like basically kid. His descendants.
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And the details.
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Some people were executed. Some not.
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Long story short, they were not ready to forgive.
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They gave a name that not forgive.
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So what we see here,
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that the king David made a Xerah made a decree that they should not be able to convert and become part of the Jewish people
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But the Givonim are blacklisted
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Until then there were you know the nations of Israel were allowed to convert and become Jewish a few generations later
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Then the Egyptians four generations later the Amalek's now whatever long story short. They cannot dinner cannot convert
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no because they're not forgivers this is something a requirement for someone
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to be Jewish is that he should have that ability to forgive this is just a
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sidetrack but it's an interesting story so I decided to share it now we could see
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it inside of the Tanya we are based 381 on the bottom left paragraph even by
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human standards you have books you have more we have a few more time yeah we
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are not out of tanias do you want to check next door if there's more or you
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checked yesterday and then find what okay there's one without without the
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binding here here here here okay even by human standards this certainty of
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Ferdon is legitimate. Not just by Hashem. There's one extra book there. Oh, no, this is Emma's, which is not the red one. Yes
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Yeah, that's very good in Russian. In Russian it's page between
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198 and 200
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I don't like this translation I'll tell them when you translate I know you
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can't make it sound like like Instagram you know like it needs to sound
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it's professional no it just it just here you don't understand at all so
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it's I it's like it just no I don't understand it's so many words that I
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come 198 on the top okay even by human standards the certainty of perdon is
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legitimate one must forgive as soon as he's asked for perdon he must not be
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cruel and vindicate vindicative even when one multilates another which
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basically means that you cut off his hands if someone by mistake or on
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purpose, intrude you and then whatever he needs to compensate you monetarily but
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when you ask for sorry you should still forgive him as it says in the Gemara in
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the 9th and chapter 8 if one has asked his fellow for forgiveness three times
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and is not being rebuffed he need not need to apologize further that's it so
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So we see that even humans should be easily forgiving, unconditionally almost.
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We're not talking about dispute, compensations, lawsuits, etc., which we need to solve amongst
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us and in court and do what's right.
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We're talking about forgiving.
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So Hashem forgives us easily, not less than one human supposed to do it for another.
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Now, when King David asked the Givonites to forgive King Saul, who had killed Givonites,
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they refused to pardon him.
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David agreed that they shall not enter the congregation of God, who are merciful, as
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it says in the Gamma in Yevamot, in the end of chapter 8.
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So we see here, as a divine trait, forgiveness is a swift and infinitely more so.
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So by Hashem, if by us, we are merciful, we could unconditionally forgive someone, how
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much more so by Hashem than his attributes are infinite that he could forgive us endlessly
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and even when it doesn't make sense to us anymore, he continues forgiving.
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So you could start dancing on the streets, why?
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Because Hashem is so easy to forgive, there is nothing you could mess up too much that
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going to be like unforgivable. Okay, there are things, I'm not saying there are things, but
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there's things that like on at least between you and Hashem, there's nothing that is too
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heavy of an issue to make disappear. And we need to like be more convinced about it,
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especially as adults, because as kids many times, we take the Averot very seriously, right?
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we're taught how bad it is to do something wrong we're not taught so much
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how easy it is for it to be forgiven it's very like we keep telling you it's how
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severe it is to value it's about to eat not kosher do this or do that but
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we also should be in the known that when you say sorry I shouldn't
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forgive and you could forget about it and move on like that not to take the
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other word lightly but to know that you forgive you know it's like almost annoying
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you know when someone like said sorry and you forgive them then they keep asking
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you for sorry you know what I'm talking about sounds like no no really really
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sorry like it's okay like oh good like you skip me in the line go ahead a
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cult of like you know that you were taking some you had the coffee cup
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with nice mug that you liked and someone ran into you and it fell and it broke I'm so so sorry so
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okay forgive you next I'm so so sorry you were the cop yesterday I feel terrible stop feeling
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terrible I don't care like you're it's annoying I don't want you to think about this anymore I
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don't think about it anymore and even if you want to ask me what happens if you do it again
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I want to ask, after when I ask sorry, like person will give me and I want to have a relationship
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after this story, like to a sorry person with one side, like to have a relationship with
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this person with another side, so like this is like once like to sorry person and to have
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after a relationship or like,
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you're saying like, is it okay to hold grudge after you forgive? Or do I need to?
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It's a good question. It's a good question. Technically, real forgiveness means to forget
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about it and move on. You know that I really forgive you if I'm gonna let you hold my baby
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again yes I'm gonna let you hold my something precious again even though you
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brought you broke it one time right but the questions if it's like if it was
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it was irresponsible in the irresponsableness that irresponsibility
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then it's it's a fact it's not personal it's more like I don't want it to
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break so I'm not giving it to you there's there's feelings and then there's
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logistics they don't need to be mixed with each other it's like if you if
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you keep bullying me and then if I gave you but I still don't want to be your friend it's okay I
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don't have to be a friend I need to be able to like yeah someone recently asked me at a consultation
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because like his wife doesn't get along with her sisters-in-laws with her mother-in-laws she
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should want them to be their friends but they're not friends you know like a whole like family
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situation I told them a very simple rule you don't have to be friends with anyone in
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in your husband's family.
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You need to be able to handle them for 48 hours.
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In case you wanna spend Rosha Shannad together,
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you wanna spend a wedding together,
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you wanna be able to handle each other in the same house.
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Don't be friends, don't go out for coffee,
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don't call on week to day.
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You need to be able to tolerate
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each other's existence without fighting.
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That's a requirement and to keep peace.
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you're engaged in, you know advice you don't have to become friends with anyone in the other family.
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It could happen but it has a risk but generally it could all be good and natural but you don't
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have to like push for it as you need to make sure you're able to handle each other.
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Similar applies to any human being technically. I don't have to be their friend and to be able to
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to handle them, and if they did something bad to me, I still have to learn how to forgive
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and continue handling them afterwards, okay? That's my opinion. If you ask someone else
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to let them be their opinion. Okay, we'll continue inside.
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O mashe mashe abkhim, the praise and blessing addressed to God, gracious and generous
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and forgiveness, when we say that he's gracious in forgiveness, what do you mean, ha-mar-be-lis-loach,
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that he forgives a lot. Gracious means a lot.
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Like everything what we did.
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Yeah, yeah, no, but what do you mean? We say God keeps on forgiving. Why doesn't
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it say just God that forgives? Why do we need to say forgives a lot, ha-mar-be?
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So it says here, emphasizes the word marbe, generous, implying multiplicity.
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This term is used in Isra, generous in perdon.
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It is characteristic of men that if one injures another and asks his perdon, which is granted,
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and then repeats the misdeed, it becomes more difficult to grant perdon again.
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And certainly in third and fourth time, between humans, that's what basically Meisar
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asked yesterday, is that when I did something bad to you and then you said sorry.
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and then tomorrow they do the same thing
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and you say sorry again.
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I see what my kids, they hit each other
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and oh I'm so sorry, and then two minutes later
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they hit them again, and I say sorry and that's it.
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Like it's like, you know he's gonna hit you again
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in a minute, but like in the meantime
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it's just like a little sorry in between.
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So it's very hard to forgive the second time,
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third time, fourth time, fifth time, right?
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Now it's still kind of a requirement
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to understand it's human if it's harder but the standard of God that that is gracious in forgiveness
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look at this in the last paragraph there is no difference between once and a thousand times
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no difference is the first time you did a mistake or the thousandth time you did a mistake
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God is kind. What's the expression of Hashem's endless kindness is endless forgiveness. Divine
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attributes are not bounded and finite. They are infinite. As in the verse, for His mercies have
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not ended. And we say about Hashem, any description, the description is of what it is, not how much
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of it. What I mean when I say Hashem is good. How much good? Endless good. Hashem is patient.
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How patient? Endless patient. When Hashem is merciful and forgiving, how forgiving? Endless.
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So we basically describe categories, but we don't limit them in quantity. In terms of infinity,
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there's no difference whatsoever between a small number and a large one. Before him,
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all are considered as not and he makes equal the small and the great.
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So it's interesting we're kind of like paraphrasing here he says Hashem equalizes the small and the
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great basically saying that Hashem takes either big people and small people or good acts small acts
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and big acts and equalizes them because by compared to endless what is more one and compared to
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infinite what is more one or a thousand just to say and what about the million
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you see so doesn't make it as if you sinned for the thousands time or the
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first time elsewhere it says yes don't worry there's an other levels of chuvah
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definitely there is difference you need to repent more you need to chuvah more
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there is a difference within yourself we jump to you straight to chapter 11
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in the Girda chuvah this comes after we know already they need to
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repent but today we wanted to focus on the topic of joy and the topic of
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happiness so in that on that level we need to know that Hashem is easy to
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forgive even a thousand times and there's no difference between the first
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time and the thousandth time because for him it doesn't make a difference
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before we say in the in the filet of the hagemon which Hashanah
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gave from which we're coming from he removes our sins every year all the
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since confessed in the al-khayt we do the list of all the sins that we do
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so repeatedly violated are again confessed on Yom Kippur and every
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coming year and so on always every year so always in the brachah of the
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end of Shimonah Israe of Yom Kippur and in the Shimonah Israe you know
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how Hashem is structured right? You know the Amida? How the Amida is structured?
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How is it structured? What at the beginning of the Hashem? Right, no, yeah, Hashem is
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Fathai Tiftach. What are the first blessings in Hashem? There's a category.
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What's the category? Avot, yeah, Avot is right. At the beginning we have three
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be brachot of praise. Praise, or also called avot, because it's a
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maghenavraha, mechaya, metim, or basically describe the past.
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And we praise the Hashem, the Hashem is so big and so great.
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You don't show up to the king saying, Haking food.
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What do we say? Haking, you're so amazing, you're so great. I heard
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when you need something from someone, you first praise them
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and then you ask for what you need
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right and then at the end what do we have at the end of Muna Isre
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very good we have the the thanks right at the end which is closed
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okay here at the end we have three of gratitude
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This is basically the modin.
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Okay?
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I say thank you.
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And then in the middle, what do I have in the middle?
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What do I have in the middle?
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What's the part in the middle?
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Depends.
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Depends.
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Every hug, something else.
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Every day, something else.
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During weekdays, what do we have in the middle?
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How many brachotes?
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12 slash 13 blessings of Valery, right?
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I need refu'a, parnasa, ge'u'la, tzadikim, tchuvah, all the things that I need, right?
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Every shmuna I say is going to have this, is going to have that.
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And then what happens in the middle is different.
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For example, on Shabbat morning, what do we read?
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We see, oh, there's a little bit of Korbanot, Shabbat, and a Brachah.
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So it's basically just two more Brachahs in the middle.
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On Yom Kippur, there's a Brachah on doing Chuvah.
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On Musaf, there's a different Brachah.
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There's a Brachah on, thank you God, for giving us the extra sacrifice.
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So it's basically another like, other Brachahs based on what the topic is in the middle.
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Okay?
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It's right, it was like justice, right?
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So, on Yom Kippur, for example, the Brachah that we have here in the middle is the Brachah,
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the Aruchatah Hashem, that forgives us, forgives the Jewish people every year, right?
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God erases our sins, Midei Shana Be Shana. Now, every year basically means that the
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Brachah is instituted in a way that we know the next year you're going to sin again,
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and you're gonna transgress again it's almost like when I forgive you I already
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could tell you that it's gonna be every year it's not like now I came up with it
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like we assume it might happen again now no no normal judge in the world will
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accept your regret if he knows you're planning on doing it again neither
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does Hashem but Hashem knows your true being that you really don't want to
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in and that's why he forgives so he removes the sins every year now here the
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alter ever kind of like power like expands it even more every year is not
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necessarily a yearly pardon year is almost like every season or every every
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time we do it every year it doesn't mean every 365 days every year means every
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time this comes around so it could also be every month could also be every
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day could also be a few times a day so we say here that's not necessarily a
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yearly pardon for three times a day we pronounce blessed are you or God
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gracious and generous in forgiving in forgiveness so this much we know now to
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to yes cover ground because ultimately it is a little complicated to say that
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we could intentionally sin again and I shall we'll just forgive about it we're
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going to see here what the altar is going to describe it to us that describe us why it
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is possible to forgive us even though we know there's going to be repeated sinning.
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The Talmud tells us, Alison do you want to read?
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The Talmud, page 383, the daily morning offering was to atone for the sins of the previous night and the regular evening service atone for the sins of the past day and so on, day by day constantly.
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So we see already, why do we have philat shacharit, philat mincha?
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Why do we have two prayers a day corresponding to?
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What's the shacharit prayer is corresponding to the morning sacrifice, right?
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How many times do they sacrifice every day in the temple?
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No.
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Two.
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Once in the morning and once in the evening before sunset.
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What about the second koba?
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Mincha is the second koba.
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Arvit, we're going to talk about sumo, what that was.
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Arvit was not part of the koba note.
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And Shabbat, how many cobalot did they bring on Shabbat?
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In the Bethan Magdash?
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Every day, how many?
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Two.
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And on Shabbat and Chagim?
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Three.
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Which one on Shabbat did they add?
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Musaf.
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Musaf literally means what?
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Do you know what Musaf means, literally?
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What is Musaf?
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What is Yosef?
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What's le-Hosif?
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Give more.
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To give more, moussakh means additional, that's the truth in translation of moussakh.
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It wasn't forbidden to sarcophize and shabbat.
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Very good question.
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You kill animal, there is a light.
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True, generally when there is a mitzvah and a prohibition, the mitzvah will take over the prohibition.
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Break me down shabbat.
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Do you allow to blow shabbat on shabbat?
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Yes? We don't do that. We don't do that, it's different.
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Chakhamim made a decree. We went here when we spoke about this in length.
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Also in the recording, we gave a full two shiurim explaining why you should blow Shafar on Shabbat
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but then they cancelled because people were carrying the Shafar around which is not allowed.
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You're allowed to do Mitzvah on Shabbat even if it entails some kind of violation of Shabbat.
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but yeah so how many prayer how many cobalot every day to when was the first
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one in the morning when was the second one before sunset in the afternoon why
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do we bring a cobalt in the morning forgiving asking forgiveness about what
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the sins from yesterday afternoon till this morning why do we bring a
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sacrifice in the afternoon for all the sins from the morning till the
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afternoon imagine you have like you know there was a husband with Jimmy
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Gurari he was like I told you about the parking you just leave the car and you
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leave at the park and you get a ticket so imagine you have just you have like
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your credit card in the office of the police and whenever you get a
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ticket they should just charge the car twice a day once in the morning once
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in the afternoon. You know, like the Lekhetchila. So, by the way, Arvit corresponds and that's
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why Arvit is optional. Arvit is not an obligation, even for men. It's less of an obligation
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than Shacharite mincha, because it doesn't correspond to an actual sacrifice. It corresponds
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to the burning of the leftovers of the sacrifices from the day. At night, after
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night falls and you're not allowed to eat the korbanot anymore. You're not allowed to sacrifice
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anymore because it's sunset already. So the Corning used to collect all the leftovers and burn them.
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So that was basically what Alviq corresponds. Whatever, it also has its spiritual meaning.
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We'll talk about it in another day. So this is, we see that every day Hashem forgives us
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already twice. Morning, afternoon, also in times of the temple. We don't have a betami,
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So what do we do instead Emma? What do we do instead of being sacrifices?
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We don't. So our shakharita mincha corresponds to the two sacrifices.
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Allison you want to continue every year?
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Every year means only that Yom Kippur atones for the grave sins, while the regular offerings, the Olah,
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are only for violations of positive comments. In our time, worship with some contents
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replace offerings, as noted above.
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So we see that the Olah doesn't really forgive everything.
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It forgives all the transgression of positive comments, but Yom Kippur
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is for all the grave sins okay all the lotas all the things I ever belt against
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Hashem like like missing a mitzvah or stuff like that it's easy to forgive
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with a sacrifice. Yom Kippur was an extra level but this is not Miriam you want to
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read for us? It says in the Talmud that if someone says I will sin and I will
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Ducuva later, then we don't help him Ducuva. Hashem is gonna make it hard for him to return.
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So what do you mean? Isn't that what we're saying? That like I'm sinning and I'm planning
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already to do, I mean later to ask forgiveness for what I'm planning on doing. It's almost
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like paying the ticket before I made the violation. So we're saying this doesn't fall
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under this category why hold on a second we're not we're just we're still in the
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in the middle of a sentence says this is not considered a statement that I will
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say never paint why continue
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is relevant only if while committing a sin he could have overcome his evil but turned it
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in his heart and in his soul. Continue. Continue to repent and pass on the sin
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Very good. So what are we saying here? That when is it considered that Hashem is not going to
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help you? Dhu Chuvah is that while doing the sin I was able to stand strong
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And then I thought I said you know what actually I could do chuvah later, so let me enjoy now
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If that's the case then we're not gonna help you afterwards because the chuvah caused you to sin
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But just like that if I like I do the sin again and again and again just because I'm struggling
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That doesn't take away from the genuineness of my chuvah
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because I actually regret it every time and it's not like oh I'm doing this but
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you know like whatever I could do Chauvat later so I'm just gonna turn on the
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light on Chauvat that's the pro that's considered repeatedly sinning while
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having that intention of repenting later in mind with all he's not by the way
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in parentheses Nadal never adds once it doesn't mean that you can't even if
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you do that while you're sinning you're having in mind please all the
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phones everyone all the phones away and I don't want to call anyone out
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individually just phones phones out thank you what I didn't forget your name
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should I say the names I'm not gonna say the names of everyone who's using their
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phone because it's not there and that's phenomenon also so by the way I see
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also behind the bag if someone puts a bag and use the phone behind the
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bag it's not helpful we're not in sixth grade anymore you know whoever
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that one needs to go, you could go to the class and do it there. It's okay. I'm beyond that stage
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in life. If it's an emergency, step out. There's no problem. But even if it's for a second,
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you know, and turn off your alarm or I don't know what, but it's like not...
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So we're not saying that you cannot do chuvah. We say that we do not grant you with an opportunity to do chuvah.
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It means Hashem is not going to help you and give you the inspiration or the ability or the mindset of repenting.
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Without he is not granted opportunity, but if he pressed forcefully and overpowered his evil impulse and did repent, then his repentance is accepted.
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So two things, number one, it's not considered echta ve'ashuv, I will sin and repent because
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this is only if you do it while you're sinning, you're relying on the repentance after to sin.
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And also really even if you do that, you could still ask for forgiveness
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and I shouldn't put forgiveness in such a case. We just say that you're not going to be
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granted opportunity. If somewhere, sometimes you're like out of the blue, you feel like
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like an inspiration to become better that's not going to happen to you okay
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you have a question or you okay so but who who plead daily Aviva do you want
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to read for us page 383 on the right column in the middle what does it mean
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that we were you pray every day you say Shmoneyeh so what does it mean
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Bring us back with a perfect repentance before you.
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What are we asking Hashem to do?
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To bring us back to Chuvah?
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What does that mean?
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What does that mean?
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That I tell Hashem, please forgive us, I get it.
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Bring us back with a perfect repentance before you.
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What are we asking Hashem to do?
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But do chuvah on our behalf?
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That's our job, no?
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The repentance is on us.
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Right, repentance is on us. What are we asking him to do to help us?
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We're asking to help us to give us a power to be strong, to fight on this.
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Okay, okay. Even more. So fighting it is one thing.
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What we're saying here, look, you don't need to think of a solution or an answer if it says the answer right here.
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Okay, I was like, okay, there was never an alarm in the classroom until I mentioned it, and I guess it's a...
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By the way, anyone who is from Israel, there's the ADH, the PTSD of alarms,
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It's a real thing there's no there's no way out of it like
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Years later till today every time there's even the Shabbat alarm or or or motorcycle on the street
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No, no the Shabbat alarm in it they know more Shabbat alarms in Israel
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What should they do it like this
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The alarm should be an alarm.
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No, but it's ten times the day on the start.
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No, no, the alarm should remain an alarm.
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The Shabbat alarm in Canites, yes, ma-
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I would never agree when you hear an alarm, you're like, get up and go.
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Yeah, no, by the way, also they have two alarms,
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about 80 minutes, 20 minutes before the pension, and then by the pension.
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In Israel, what they do, they have like, many places, they have like a-
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They have like a play, not a playlist.
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They basically have like big speakers with music.
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They play a song, and then there's another song, and when the song is over, that's the time.
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But they made a connection with your phone, and even if you don't have the app, you would...
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What? In Israel?
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In Israel?
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Ah, of course, yeah.
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If you hold your phone on Shabbat, he started to scream.
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Well, everyone in the world, they also have it in America.
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Okay, let's save your life. There's actually whatever, not such a change. There's a rabbi in
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the neighborhood, there was one studying Torah and he said that you don't need to go to the
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thing because when you study Torah nothing could happen to you. So then there was once an alarm
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and everyone said someone convinced him to leave and to go to the shelter and then the bomb
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fell where where he was studying so he told the student he has to pay him for
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the for the table and the books because if he would have sit there and learned the
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bomb wouldn't have fallen off for the kids that used to make
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No, once in place where I live, this thing was broken, so it was more scary because like...
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Okay, thank you.
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It was scary, so...
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It was scary, so...
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It was so funny.
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Okay, whatever.
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Okay, so, we're basically asking Hashem for what?
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That is that we were warned no more to fall.
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We asked Hashem, please help us, that we should not do stupidity anymore.
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I could not ask you to ask Hashem to make chuvah for me.
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I could ask Hashem to help me to not to revert more to folly.
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On yom kippur, on yom kippur what?
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We too ask, may it be your will that I sin no more.
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For us, opportunity is granted freely.
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Whoever comes to purify himself is given assistance.
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Whoever comes, as soon as he comes
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and the pardon and forgiveness are also granted forthwith.
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What we're saying here is that Hashem
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need to forgive, you just need to come. You need to do the first step. If you come and you start,
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Hashem will help you. And we ask the Hashem to help us to, to, to, to, that we should not
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return to those stupid things. So, King David says in Teileem, that I should never forget
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my sins. I should always have the sins in front of my eyes. What does it mean? So,
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So I should forget about it or should I remember it?
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We just convincing you all not for an hour to what?
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To forget and to like, to what?
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To move on.
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Thinking David, the open and daily in chapter 51 and says, my sin is before me always, right?
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What does that mean?
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Does not imply one of the last paragraph.
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Does not imply then one ought constantly to be melancholy humiliated, God forbid.
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For the following verse, the clears, let me hear gladness and joy, and the free spirit shall uphold me.
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He all his days experience shall uphold me.
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So we see that the sentence later King David says, I shall rejoice, I shall be happy.
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So it means having the sin in front of my eyes does not mean to constantly be frustrated
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or depressed from what I did.
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see that someone that they like they were about to get engaged or someone and
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they didn't get engaged and forever they regret it ten years later they're still
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depressed from this this is a bad idea it's a very bad idea because you're not
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gonna move on you need to move on and you forget about it you need to like
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forgive yourself and forgive and ask if I'm to forgive you and yalla maybe this
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This refers to other people.
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I mean, so when you remember about your sins,
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you're not judging another people for them sins.
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You want to help them, maybe, or not, like...
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So, basically, okay, I hear, that's not a bad idea.
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Same, basically, maybe the sin is to refer to other people,
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but that also you should ask, sorry, and move on.
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Why should you always remember your sins?
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It is the answer to the following,
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and that will finish because our time is kind of up,
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The point is for you to not be very egoistic and feel so superior about yourself
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You don't think so many people are like have big ego why because they think they're so amazing they're so special
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They're so perfect
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You're not so perfect
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Remember what happened then
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Let me remind you
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No, but like remember that you have a past
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why not for you to be depressed about it whether for you to not be so full of
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yourself feel to be more humble and it's actually gonna help you to be happy
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remembering your sins because anything that happens to you could be related or
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could be some kind of you know everything comes from a show and it
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could be that comes some kind of no punishment but like it could be that
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still deserve it let's say I lost money so if I don't remember my sins
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Oh, what do you mean? I'm such a tzadik. Why did something bad happen to me?
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Right, but if you remember your sins, you could be happy when you lost the money
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It could still be happy because everything's from a sham and you could be this is part of a plan and something
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I deserve there's some kind of forgiveness that I got in exchange for
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for
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For my wrongdoings
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If someone humiliated me or someone embarrassed me or something happened to me
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I could still be happy because I know it's part of something greater and I know
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That it could be connected to something bad that I did before that. Yes, maybe I shall forgive me nevertheless
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I get some kind of punishment now
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So actually remembering the sins could help you be more happy think about it
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Bring about it and wishing you all a great day ahead