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Baylen Out Loud’s super mom - Julie Dupree Gives Moms Club Great Advice! · Inside The Moms Club

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  Speaker 1: Hi, Welcome to inside the Mom's Club, where being a mom.
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  Speaker 1: a good laugh together. I'm Monica Samuels. You are now
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  Speaker 1: inside the Mom's Club, your private destination for all things mom. Welcome,
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  Speaker 1: Mom's welcome to inside the Mom's Club. I'm your host,
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  Speaker 1: Monica Samuels, and I'm here with my lovely co host,
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  Speaker 1: Julie Orchid.
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  Speaker 3: Hello.
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  Speaker 4: What's going on, Monica?
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  Speaker 2: Well, it's we're back here in Los Angeles.
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  Speaker 5: We are.
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  Speaker 4: It feels it's so good, and I mean it does.
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  Speaker 2: It feels me.
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  Speaker 1: The weather's been amazing, as we say here on the
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  Speaker 1: Mom's Club. Yeah, and it's just been great.
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  Speaker 4: It's been sunny and warm and blue skies and everything
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  Speaker 4: that the whole reason that people live in La So
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  Speaker 4: it's been perfect.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: And then the only well it's not this is not
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  Speaker 1: that it's not perfect, but we share a room when
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  Speaker 1: we're traveling here, and we've had to learn each other's
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  Speaker 1: little idiosyncrasy that's for sure, things that we do so,
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  Speaker 1: you know, like I go to bed listening to Seinfeld.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, it's a routine and she's not even watching the show.
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  Speaker 1: I actually bought a new pillow that I highly recommended,
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  Speaker 1: love it. It's a pillow.
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  Speaker 2: For your face.
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  Speaker 1: You put it over your face, right, But Julie threatened
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  Speaker 1: to put it over more than my face.
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  Speaker 2: Yea, whether or not she was ready to.
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  Speaker 4: It was like that pillow me anyway. But yeah, we
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  Speaker 4: have a lot of it. We have to learn each
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  Speaker 4: other's ins and outs, and I can honestly tell you that,
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  Speaker 4: you know, Monica has some teens that I've had to
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  Speaker 4: ask the depth of what they mean and how you
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  Speaker 4: process them. So, I mean, your level of anxiety today,
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  Speaker 4: how is it?
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  Speaker 2: I'm four maybe yeah.
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  Speaker 4: It's actually pretty good. Bad, it's pretty good today.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I have So I have anxiety, which I've shared before,
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  Speaker 1: which is, you know, working on it. That's something that Julie,
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  Speaker 1: who travels with me, then has to deal with because
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  Speaker 1: it means that I do certain things that she's used to.
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  Speaker 2: My husband's used to it.
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  Speaker 4: But I mean, yeah, I mean the biggest one is
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  Speaker 4: like you have a routine that you got to make
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  Speaker 4: sure that you're ready to go and processed and rent
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  Speaker 4: the restroom before every show, run to the restroom before
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  Speaker 4: we board a plane. I mean, it doesn't matter. And
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  Speaker 4: so finally, as an ear nurse, I was just concerned
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  Speaker 4: that you had UTIs all the time. Honestly, I didn't
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  Speaker 4: really know what was.
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  Speaker 2: And it always has to be just under the gun.
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  Speaker 1: Just it's just like it has to be like right before,
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  Speaker 1: I mean, talk about anxiety. Yeah, should make everybody more
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  Speaker 1: anxious than pop, but like I don't.
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  Speaker 2: It has to be like.
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  Speaker 4: It's a time and you have a little touch and
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  Speaker 4: I'm not picking on you. I'm literally like, well maybe
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  Speaker 4: sometimes I am, but OCD two plays a part of
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  Speaker 4: that with your anxiety, and you do have that. So
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  Speaker 4: I'm just trying to understand it because I don't know
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  Speaker 4: if it's helpful for a person like me, who you know,
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  Speaker 4: kind of blows and goes, you know, and not processing
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  Speaker 4: all of your you know, little routines. Is it helpful
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  Speaker 4: for me to be like, hey, you're gonna be fine,
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  Speaker 4: let's go, We've got this. Maybe you can tell me.
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  Speaker 1: I think it it doesn't change anything.
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  Speaker 4: So I do have a you're ignoring what I'm telling you.
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  Speaker 1: No, okay, it's just it takes more to get over that.
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  Speaker 1: So I have it started like as a kid, I
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  Speaker 1: had big problems with germs.
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  Speaker 4: It hasn't changed.
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  Speaker 2: It hasn't changed, and so that's not good. So I
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  Speaker 2: washed my hands a ton.
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  Speaker 1: But my dad and he was not being mean about it,
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  Speaker 1: but he started calling me the sanitary kid. And there
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  Speaker 1: was a little diddy he always said it was he.
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  Speaker 1: Let's see, he holds her hands with rubber gloves and
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  Speaker 1: kisses her through a strainer, the sanitary kid. And so
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  Speaker 1: I was the sanitary kid. But you know what, actually
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  Speaker 1: it didn't bother me because as much as they called
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  Speaker 1: me and told me I was a you know I
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  Speaker 1: hated germ. I liked it because I thought, okay, everybody
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  Speaker 1: knows I don't want germs around me, you know.
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  Speaker 4: And then and it plays into the hyperchondriact.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, that does have that. But you know what, so no,
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  Speaker 1: CD is one of those things that you also.
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  Speaker 2: Like. I always would like on on walking up and
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  Speaker 2: down steps.
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  Speaker 4: Oh yes, I always forgot about.
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  Speaker 2: To step over a line with my right It's just stupid.
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  Speaker 2: I mean it's not stupid. It's it's like.
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  Speaker 4: Something you have to do, but you work on it every.
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  Speaker 2: Day, take your life in a way because it's like, I.
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  Speaker 4: Mean, we've been together for four years and we know
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  Speaker 4: each other's things, and I've learned that you know, this
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  Speaker 4: is part of your routine and who you are, but
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  Speaker 4: I also like to jump in every now and then
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  Speaker 4: and discover what's behind it and will that ever change?
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  Speaker 1: Well, to answer your question, certainly with people, you know,
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  Speaker 1: therapy and things they call your attention to m it's
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  Speaker 1: not the biggest thing I've been told is why don't
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  Speaker 1: you try to go out and get on that airplane?
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  Speaker 4: Right?
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  Speaker 1: Why don't you just run up and down the stairs
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  Speaker 1: and don't worry how it turns out?
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  Speaker 2: Right? And it's just you can't.
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  Speaker 1: It's hard, but I'm very well aware of it, right,
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  Speaker 1: and it hasn't you know. And the other thing is
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  Speaker 1: you kind of feel like, you know, like this is
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  Speaker 1: the first time I've ever talked about any of that.
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  Speaker 2: My sister's going to be a zoomer mom. I bet
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  Speaker 2: she didn't know that.
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  Speaker 4: I always I'll be asking.
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  Speaker 1: Also, you know, and we're gonna talk more. We give
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  Speaker 1: a wonderful guest. It was to discuss more of this
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  Speaker 1: sort of thing. But on the show Bailing Out Loud,
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  Speaker 1: where she said she has to do everything in threes,
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  Speaker 1: I had to do everything in threes for a while.
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  Speaker 1: That's and I and I also had a tick in
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  Speaker 1: law school, yes, where I was constantly doing squinching my
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  Speaker 1: nose where everybody's like, Monica, you've got it.
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  Speaker 2: I think that it was stress.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, stress that.
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  Speaker 2: So there's a lot of stuff.
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  Speaker 1: You know, Well, let's just jump right into the subject.
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  Speaker 4: Deal with on a daily.
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  Speaker 1: Ba Absolutely, so we are thrilled to have with us
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  Speaker 1: the mother of the star of TLC's most watched unscripted
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  Speaker 1: TV show, Bailing Out Loud. The reality series showcases Balen,
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  Speaker 1: who has Tourette syndrome, and the ways Bailing and her
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  Speaker 1: family manage the challenges that come with it. In addition
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  Speaker 1: to bail in this amazing as we say on the
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  Speaker 1: Mom's Club, mother of five other children is raising with
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  Speaker 1: her husband Ellen in West Virginia. Please welcome Julie Dupree.
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  Speaker 1: Welcome to the Mosque Club. Hello Julie, We're so thrilled
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  Speaker 1: for you to be here. And let's just start from
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  Speaker 1: a little background for those who haven't seen the series,
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  Speaker 1: but I highly recommend they watch it because.
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  Speaker 2: It really is.
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  Speaker 1: It's a great it's a great show, but it's such
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  Speaker 1: as a show it identifies something that people are learning
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  Speaker 1: a lot from. So Bayalin has Tourette syndrome, which you
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  Speaker 1: recognized from her childhood, but it really didn't manifest itself
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  Speaker 1: in a more severe way from what I understand, until
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  Speaker 1: the pandemic. Is that correct, or just tell us a
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  Speaker 1: little bit about how you all came to discover that.
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  Speaker 4: You discovered that she had Tourette syndrome.
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  Speaker 3: True, so at a young age, she she did have
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  Speaker 3: multiple issues. You know, you could see the ADHD manifesting
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  Speaker 3: itself in little OCD things. She had a few random
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  Speaker 3: ticks seven eight years old, and then everything kind of
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  Speaker 3: took a break until right around the age of sixteen
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  Speaker 3: she started to get some simple ticks, some neck jerking.
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  Speaker 7: We kind of let that fly, just.
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  Speaker 3: Not really knowing where we should go with things and
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  Speaker 3: what to do about it. See, if you know your
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  Speaker 3: brain chemistry and those chemicals are rapidly changing at that age,
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  Speaker 3: so you just think, okay, well, we're just gonna we're
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  Speaker 3: gonna let this pan itself out. But by the time
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  Speaker 3: of eighteen, or probably slight slightly before eighteen, maybe a
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  Speaker 3: little bit before the pandemic, things really kicked into high
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  Speaker 3: gear for her and then of course for us, because
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  Speaker 3: we were absolutely clueless with what to do and what
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  Speaker 3: was actually going on, because we had never thought to
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  Speaker 3: it ever, we had thought all these what now we
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  Speaker 3: know as co morbidity is to go that go hand
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  Speaker 3: in hand with tourette We I mean, it was just
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  Speaker 3: I felt like we were ambushed.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, I bet, I bet, just thrown into the wildfire
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  Speaker 4: of learning something that's going to be a part of
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  Speaker 4: your life.
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  Speaker 1: And the combination of things like Tourette's a lot frequently
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  Speaker 1: comes with OCD, so that causes her to be in
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  Speaker 1: some danger at times, is correct, because if she's got
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  Speaker 1: a you know, she punches somebody or she hits some
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  Speaker 1: break something, and she's gonna keep doing it until three
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  Speaker 1: times until she feels that she's done what she needs
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  Speaker 1: to do. But that's not safe for her. So I know,
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  Speaker 1: I saw you one episode where you went to the
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  Speaker 1: grocery store with her or cooking with her, and you know,
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  Speaker 1: how do you manage those challenges on a daily basis.
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  Speaker 3: I mean management is it's kind of it's complicated because
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  Speaker 3: it's not a one way round. You're dealing with so
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  Speaker 3: many other things at one time. But for the most part,
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  Speaker 3: I would say that OCD is the devil. It is
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  Speaker 3: driving the car, and that is what really accentuates her tourette.
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  Speaker 3: I think her tourette would be a much simpler case
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  Speaker 3: of turette to deal with if it weren't for the
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  Speaker 3: OCD kind of infringing itself into her world. So she
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  Speaker 3: has obviously been through counseling, behavioral therapy.
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  Speaker 7: There's not a whole lot that works, Julie.
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  Speaker 4: Is there like a group you know what I mean? Like,
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  Speaker 4: you know, there's groups for everything, but for people who
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  Speaker 4: are experiencing living with Tourette syndrome? Is there anything like that?
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  Speaker 2: There?
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  Speaker 7: Very well could be.
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  Speaker 3: I haven't personally looked into it. Yeah, now that she's
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  Speaker 3: adulting and we are realizing together that the OCD is
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  Speaker 3: driving the car, well, fortunately and unfortunately that's kind of
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  Speaker 3: her responsibility Sure to make sure that she's managing that.
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  Speaker 3: I can't do that for her, as much as I
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  Speaker 3: want to help Sure, and maybe as much as the
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  Speaker 3: show makes it look like I'm a helicopter mom.
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  Speaker 7: I'm really not.
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  Speaker 4: I gotcha.
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  Speaker 1: I gotcha well, And I understand how that feels too,
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  Speaker 1: because my oldest son had a traumatic brain injury, and
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  Speaker 1: today you wouldn't know that he has. He still deals
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  Speaker 1: with some of it. But whenever he would take the
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  Speaker 1: car out and drive the car, I knew that he
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  Speaker 1: would lose focus or something, and so I was at home.
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  Speaker 1: When I watch you on the show, I feel like
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  Speaker 1: I feel for you. Whenever she's out experiencing other things
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  Speaker 1: that you don't have control over.
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  Speaker 2: It's hard, right, because.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, one time Jared came home and he had swiped
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  Speaker 1: the side of the car on a guardrail and just
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  Speaker 1: lost focus and came home and the whole side of
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  Speaker 1: the car had That's.
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  Speaker 4: Part of it. But that's a that's a good way
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  Speaker 4: I mean to that those types of stories. How did you?
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  Speaker 4: How did you get to be like so public? How
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  Speaker 4: did this come about? The show? And her decision to
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  Speaker 4: go public, which I think has been tremendously helpful, her
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  Speaker 4: YouTube and everything that she's done with it. So how
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  Speaker 4: did the show come about?
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  Speaker 3: The show came about through Michael Levitt. He reached out
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  Speaker 3: to I believe it was me personally. He messengered me
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  Speaker 3: and basically said that he adored Balen and he felt
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  Speaker 3: very inspired by her and wondering if we could do
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  Speaker 3: a zoom to speak more. He already knew that she
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  Speaker 3: was like a public figure obviously because of her following.
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  Speaker 3: So yeah, that was that was basically it.
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  Speaker 7: And we had.
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  Speaker 3: A we had a liking for him right from the
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  Speaker 3: get go, Like you could tell that there was a connection.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, so yeah, no, yeah, we've met him. He's a great,
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  Speaker 1: a great guy. We enjoyed Michael, yeah a lot. So
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  Speaker 1: she was already a public person because she put herself
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  Speaker 1: out there so kids these days. Did you know that
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  Speaker 1: she was had decided how I'm going to go on
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  Speaker 1: TikTok and identify myself as someone with Tourette's. Did she
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  Speaker 1: say in advance, HAMM doing this or seek your counsel?
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  Speaker 2: Like should I do this? Or you just discovered one
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  Speaker 2: day that she's blown.
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  Speaker 4: Up into Julie's Like yeah, no, Monica, absolutely not.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm just saying it's a question.
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  Speaker 1: I think I know the answer, but I just let her, Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: tell us about that experience, because.
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  Speaker 3: I don't think that she was interested in our opinion
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  Speaker 3: at that time, because it was really just it was
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  Speaker 3: really more of like this this freeing of herself.
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  Speaker 2: Right.
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  Speaker 3: So I think we found out like maybe two weeks
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  Speaker 3: later that she had posted this TikTok video that had
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  Speaker 3: went viral, and we're like, wait, what's going on?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, what are we doing here?
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  Speaker 4: What are we doing now? And yeah, you're.
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  Speaker 7: In her master bathroom doing videos.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, this is like, I don't know, this whole generation's different.
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  Speaker 3: So I was like, Okay, if you're comfortable with it,
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  Speaker 3: I'm comfortable with it. And it obviously had a purpose
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  Speaker 3: to her, and the driving purpose was to make sure
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  Speaker 3: that her schoolmates knew.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, that she.
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  Speaker 3: Was a really accelerated version of herself and she was
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  Speaker 3: embarrassed of herself and she wanted to put that out
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  Speaker 3: into the world before anybody could do it for her
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  Speaker 3: because she had seen some girls in a local store taking.
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  Speaker 7: A video of her.
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  Speaker 3: So that that was her driving course to say, Okay,
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  Speaker 3: I'm going to I'm going to hold the power here.
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  Speaker 7: Yeah, and I'm going to show everybody.
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  Speaker 3: As opposed to the world doing it. So yeah, and
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  Speaker 3: it just kind of blew up from there and we
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  Speaker 3: didn't really understand that it blew up.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, it really has. I actually knew who Balen was
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  Speaker 4: before I knew about today, So you know what I
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  Speaker 4: mean A from her videos, which I think are super courageous.
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  Speaker 4: I think she's incredibly brave. How do you feel as
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  Speaker 4: a mom on this public journey of her being out there?
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  Speaker 4: You know, obviously you're going to get negative feedback or people,
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  Speaker 4: you know, say things people are in you know, terribly cruel,
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  Speaker 4: and so as a mom, what do you do with that?
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  Speaker 4: How do you guys handle that? Because it seems to
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  Speaker 4: me that that would be almost impossible to avoid.
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  Speaker 3: Right, Like, this is her life and she's living it,
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  Speaker 3: so no matter what I say, it has no impact
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  Speaker 3: on her. So we're just really encouraging and supportive and
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  Speaker 3: always throwing out just little bits of bits, you know,
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  Speaker 3: wisdom of like hey maybe this is and you know,
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  Speaker 3: maybe don't go this route or whatever. But as your
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  Speaker 3: children become adults, you realize that you do have less
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  Speaker 3: control and you're kind of in the backseat going okay,
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  Speaker 3: please don't go off.
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  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, Julie and I are well aware.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah I giggled a little bit because I have one
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  Speaker 4: that doesn't she could literally care less about my opinion,
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  Speaker 4: you know, of what I have to say.
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  Speaker 1: I was like, okay, I learned that with my youngest
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  Speaker 1: son when he texted me and said I think I'm
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  Speaker 1: gonna go skydiving, and I texted back absolutely not, which
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  Speaker 1: was followed by a video of him skydiving.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, he's already gotten back here.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah anyway, So yes, they don't listen to anything like that.
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  Speaker 1: Well she has done, I mean to put herself out there.
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  Speaker 1: That's a huge public service to get people talking about
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  Speaker 1: all of this and thinking about it in a different way.
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  Speaker 1: When Julie and I were looking at different things related
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  Speaker 1: to tourettes to get ready for the show, I saw
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  Speaker 1: a video of a young man. He had very severe
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  Speaker 1: tourettes and he's gotten some treatment at the Mayo Clinics.
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  Speaker 2: So there was a YouTube video about it. But I
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  Speaker 2: looked in the.
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  Speaker 1: Comments and one of the comments read I went to
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  Speaker 1: school with this guy. I didn't really know what was
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  Speaker 1: happening to him, and now I wish I had bothered
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  Speaker 1: to at least say hi, yeah, And that just touched
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  Speaker 1: me like yeah, I mean, so she's giving a voice
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  Speaker 1: to all of these people, and that's tremendous, and I
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  Speaker 1: am with the social media as it is.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, there's some negative people, and you.
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  Speaker 1: Know, I I'm on Instagram and TikTok and everything. I
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  Speaker 1: do these silly videos and then I get those message
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  Speaker 1: on TikTok the bottom says it's folded to protect my
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  Speaker 1: well being. The comments, you know, it's like, okay, I'm
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  Speaker 1: not going to read those because right, so, yeah, I
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  Speaker 1: know how yeah tough it can be. Well, what's it
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  Speaker 1: like to bring a film crew into your home and
• 17:31
  Speaker 1: your family? Because I was someone wants joked that we
• 17:35
  Speaker 1: should do a Mom's Club reality show, and I thought,
• 17:38
  Speaker 1: I don't think we should number one.
• 17:40
  Speaker 2: But second, I wouldn't feel like I was being myself.
• 17:43
  Speaker 4: Well, here's the deal. Your makeup and hare would be
• 17:45
  Speaker 4: done in mine would not be and that, yeah.
• 17:48
  Speaker 2: I know who would be all put together?
• 17:50
  Speaker 4: But what was that like for you all and your
• 17:53
  Speaker 4: other kids?
• 17:55
  Speaker 3: It was surreal and you can't really describe it to
• 18:00
  Speaker 3: somebody that hasn't been through it. So it's like we
• 18:03
  Speaker 3: try to describe it to our family and friends, and
• 18:06
  Speaker 3: there's really no perfect description of how you can articulate
• 18:12
  Speaker 3: the feelings that you're going through that all of these
• 18:15
  Speaker 3: strangers are in your house, and your life is going
• 18:18
  Speaker 3: to be national and all these crazy things.
• 18:22
  Speaker 7: It's just.
• 18:25
  Speaker 3: I don't know, it's really just it was. I think
• 18:27
  Speaker 3: it took just a lot of family thought, perspective, it
• 18:34
  Speaker 3: just being really like introspective of how is this going.
• 18:37
  Speaker 7: To pan out for us?
• 18:38
  Speaker 3: How are we going to balance the pros and cons
• 18:41
  Speaker 3: of this?
• 18:42
  Speaker 7: Is it the right thing? And since we came to
• 18:46
  Speaker 7: the conclusion that.
• 18:46
  Speaker 3: This was the right avenue for us, we looked at
• 18:51
  Speaker 3: it more as a blessing. So having them with us
• 18:54
  Speaker 3: every day was a little bit of a challenge because
• 18:57
  Speaker 3: you're opening up your space in your world, right, but
• 19:01
  Speaker 3: it was way more of a blessing.
• 19:03
  Speaker 7: Than it was anything else. Just well, I don't know,
• 19:06
  Speaker 7: most people don't.
• 19:07
  Speaker 3: Get to have that experience, Yes, so just to have
• 19:10
  Speaker 3: that experience is really just.
• 19:13
  Speaker 7: Yeah, that's great.
• 19:13
  Speaker 4: I love how you phrased that. It's a blessing, and
• 19:16
  Speaker 4: you know, I really like that. But this is inside
• 19:18
  Speaker 4: the mom's club. How do you care for yourself? How
• 19:21
  Speaker 4: do you take care of yourself? What do you do kid?
• 19:24
  Speaker 2: How do you manage that?
• 19:25
  Speaker 4: How do you manage.
• 19:29
  Speaker 3: I always give props to my husband in this.
• 19:31
  Speaker 4: Avenue because that's beautiful.
• 19:33
  Speaker 3: We chose, like out of the gate to be a
• 19:37
  Speaker 3: little bit more on the end of poor so that
• 19:40
  Speaker 3: I would always have the ability of availability. Yes, so
• 19:46
  Speaker 3: there were some rough years in there where I was like,
• 19:48
  Speaker 3: oh lord, I need to get the job.
• 19:51
  Speaker 4: Yeah you can stay home, Yeah exactly.
• 19:54
  Speaker 3: And now things have really flattened out, the youngest being eleven.
• 19:59
  Speaker 3: I feel like I've really come into who I am
• 20:02
  Speaker 3: as a person and a mom in the last five
• 20:05
  Speaker 3: to ten years. And I make it a point I'm
• 20:09
  Speaker 3: intentional about making time for myself and knowing my limits,
• 20:14
  Speaker 3: and I don't know, I feel like I've really just
• 20:17
  Speaker 3: became a person in like the last ten years.
• 20:19
  Speaker 7: It's fantastic. Yeah, you know, the first fifteen.
• 20:21
  Speaker 3: Years of parenting wasn't you know, it wasn't all daisies
• 20:25
  Speaker 3: and whatever.
• 20:27
  Speaker 2: Now, of course, so getting it having a child he's eleven.
• 20:30
  Speaker 1: Now now you've come to sort of the other side
• 20:32
  Speaker 1: of that, is that what you would what would you
• 20:33
  Speaker 1: share with all the moms out there who are currently
• 20:37
  Speaker 1: dealing with, you know, some less less me time than
• 20:41
  Speaker 1: maybe they feel that they need just intentionally taking the
• 20:45
  Speaker 1: time or how.
• 20:46
  Speaker 2: Do you.
• 20:49
  Speaker 7: How do I What would be my message to them.
• 20:52
  Speaker 1: Is they're going through it like there is light at
• 20:56
  Speaker 1: the end of the tunnel. You know, I've got through it,
• 20:59
  Speaker 1: and I'm.
• 21:01
  Speaker 3: Yes, when you look back on life, it's so short.
• 21:04
  Speaker 3: So just keep in mind that this too shall pass, yea. Yeah,
• 21:07
  Speaker 3: and when it passes, you're going to actually wish it
• 21:10
  Speaker 3: back because you're probably going to be in a position
• 21:15
  Speaker 3: of a different struggle. So yeah, I always have those
• 21:19
  Speaker 3: moments where I'm like, gosh, I wish I would have
• 21:21
  Speaker 3: been more in the moment when my kids were really little,
• 21:24
  Speaker 3: because I can appreciate that.
• 21:26
  Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, I think that's amazing. Being present is something
• 21:29
  Speaker 4: that I like to remind myself. I'd like to remind
• 21:32
  Speaker 4: my friends, and you know, it is really valuable. So
• 21:35
  Speaker 4: I have a quick question for you. So I naturally,
• 21:38
  Speaker 4: I think everybody's naturally a mama bear, right, so you know,
• 21:42
  Speaker 4: and I don't have a child that has Tourette syndrome,
• 21:45
  Speaker 4: But how do you handle the public when you're out,
• 21:48
  Speaker 4: you know, with balen if someone is you know what
• 21:52
  Speaker 4: I mean, being not kind, inappropriate, and you know, how
• 21:56
  Speaker 4: do you handle that? As a mom?
• 22:00
  Speaker 3: I think most of the time I err on the
• 22:04
  Speaker 3: side of grace, sure, because we're all just so human
• 22:07
  Speaker 3: that and you can never begrudge somebody for ignorance. But
• 22:12
  Speaker 3: when it just turns a little bit too far and
• 22:16
  Speaker 3: it becomes malicious, some of the comments or a stare
• 22:21
  Speaker 3: or a face.
• 22:23
  Speaker 7: I tend to.
• 22:27
  Speaker 3: I'll tend to say something, but I'm really kind for
• 22:31
  Speaker 3: the most part. There's only been a couple situations where
• 22:35
  Speaker 3: they were like extremely rude and we at this one
• 22:41
  Speaker 3: time in Washington, d C. We had all left the
• 22:45
  Speaker 3: restaurant and I made it a point to walk back
• 22:47
  Speaker 3: in and educate this nice couple, and he ended up
• 22:50
  Speaker 3: he was a doctor, and she was like, I mean,
• 22:54
  Speaker 3: they were highly educated people and probably two of the
• 22:58
  Speaker 3: rudest individual I've ever sat next to in a restaurant.
• 23:02
  Speaker 7: I was like, do better.
• 23:04
  Speaker 4: Do better?
• 23:04
  Speaker 7: Do better?
• 23:06
  Speaker 4: Good for you? Good for you. I just realized, I'm
• 23:08
  Speaker 4: glad that you are upfront about that, because that's something
• 23:11
  Speaker 4: that I wondered about, because yes, and I would disintegrate
• 23:14
  Speaker 4: these people into my eyes to ashes that would be.
• 23:19
  Speaker 2: Through your answer.
• 23:19
  Speaker 1: I was thinking, I know what Julie would do and
• 23:22
  Speaker 1: there would probably be arrests involved.
• 23:27
  Speaker 2: Maybe let them have it.
• 23:28
  Speaker 4: I have a few friends that might bail me out.
• 23:30
  Speaker 4: Jennifer Marsh, I totally yeah.
• 23:35
  Speaker 2: So how do your other kids feel.
• 23:37
  Speaker 1: About all the attention? I mean, are they good with it?
• 23:41
  Speaker 1: Is anybody resentful? Because I know there's all the sibling
• 23:43
  Speaker 1: rivalry and things that happen, and you know, Balen's getting
• 23:47
  Speaker 1: a lot of attention and fame, and I mean, do
• 23:49
  Speaker 1: they they're on the show, but are they any of
• 23:52
  Speaker 1: them not thrilled with that or they're there?
• 23:56
  Speaker 3: The one that it's taken the least favor with would
• 24:02
  Speaker 3: be the seventeen year old Spend just because so much
• 24:07
  Speaker 3: of his life has lived in a social environment with friends,
• 24:11
  Speaker 3: and I don't think that we know everything that is
• 24:13
  Speaker 3: being exchanged through Snapchat and things like that. So I
• 24:16
  Speaker 3: think that he's had to have a lot of defensive
• 24:20
  Speaker 3: moments for his sister and things like that. He also
• 24:23
  Speaker 3: doesn't like to hear, hey, your sister's hot. Yeah, like
• 24:26
  Speaker 3: my kids, maybe other than Beckner, which is the young one,
• 24:32
  Speaker 3: they are the opposite of, for lack of better words,
• 24:36
  Speaker 3: like attention horse like they don't they want less attention
• 24:41
  Speaker 3: in regards to publicity, which makes it really weird. It's like,
• 24:46
  Speaker 3: how are we on National TV, and my kids really are.
• 24:50
  Speaker 4: Not Kardashians have a brother and he absolutely is out
• 24:54
  Speaker 4: of the picture when it comes to that. So I
• 24:56
  Speaker 4: think of that. I mean, their story is nowhere different,
• 24:59
  Speaker 4: I mean so different. But I'm just saying in general,
• 25:01
  Speaker 4: so they get a choice, right, I'm sure of how
• 25:04
  Speaker 4: much they want to be and how much they don't
• 25:06
  Speaker 4: want to be on television and how much of.
• 25:09
  Speaker 1: It because we've interviewed other people that have done reality shows,
• 25:13
  Speaker 1: is because sitting back as the audience, and you know,
• 25:16
  Speaker 1: there's an editor and so that they put this show
• 25:18
  Speaker 1: to each episode together, it has to be some dramatic effect.
• 25:22
  Speaker 1: Because if all you all did all day was just
• 25:23
  Speaker 1: walk around and make scrambled.
• 25:25
  Speaker 2: Eggs, people be bored, right. So I got.
• 25:28
  Speaker 1: Really into the storyline, which is on a storyline, it's
• 25:31
  Speaker 1: your real life of Colin.
• 25:33
  Speaker 2: And your daughter.
• 25:34
  Speaker 1: And I'm watching the relationship unfold, and I'm thinking to myself, Oh,
• 25:39
  Speaker 1: they're too they're young, that they should they're.
• 25:41
  Speaker 2: Too young, you know, So you're watching all of that, and.
• 25:44
  Speaker 1: Then I then I was his proposal is so beautiful.
• 25:48
  Speaker 1: I mean, did he write that himself? That was beautiful?
• 25:51
  Speaker 1: And I cried I'm not gonna lie.
• 25:53
  Speaker 4: Well, I mean, I think some people don't know your
• 25:55
  Speaker 4: daughter is, Oh, she's engaged.
• 25:57
  Speaker 2: Engaged, she can engage.
• 25:59
  Speaker 1: So how much of that now? You can't give too
• 26:02
  Speaker 1: much of it away, But I mean one point, your husband,
• 26:06
  Speaker 1: even on the show, kind of seemed to have some
• 26:08
  Speaker 1: reservations about what's going on with Colin and Balen. They're
• 26:13
  Speaker 1: just is your real life or does some of it?
• 26:15
  Speaker 1: Like his Colin, if he's watching that, probably thinks, well,
• 26:18
  Speaker 1: I thought they liked Mari.
• 26:20
  Speaker 2: Is that what isn't it tricky? Or how do you
• 26:24
  Speaker 2: manage that?
• 26:27
  Speaker 3: So, yes, it's completely unscripted, right, but it doesn't mean
• 26:31
  Speaker 3: that like we're not walking around with GoPros.
• 26:34
  Speaker 7: On our head.
• 26:35
  Speaker 3: Sure so, and that would be the most boring show
• 26:38
  Speaker 3: ever just to see footage like that. So there has
• 26:41
  Speaker 3: to be I call it scene setting right where they're
• 26:45
  Speaker 3: putting you into scenes and they're motivating you to say, Okay,
• 26:48
  Speaker 3: let's let's talk about this. Because the narrative of the
• 26:53
  Speaker 3: show is trying to get to a certain place, and
• 26:56
  Speaker 3: in order to create that arc, like, there's topics that
• 27:00
  Speaker 3: they want you to discuss more than.
• 27:01
  Speaker 7: Others per se.
• 27:03
  Speaker 3: Yeah, so there's there's always some like scene setting, and
• 27:07
  Speaker 3: there's I think that there's like a ton of permits
• 27:10
  Speaker 3: that they have to go about doing. So reality TV
• 27:13
  Speaker 3: isn't reality TV in the moment, I can't watch it
• 27:17
  Speaker 3: the same now because no show. Like I'm like I
• 27:20
  Speaker 3: could breathe through all that, like, oh, I know what's going.
• 27:23
  Speaker 4: On, I know what's happening.
• 27:27
  Speaker 5: Yeah, so certain things, you know, when you watch them back,
• 27:33
  Speaker 5: you're like, they didn't take anything out of context.
• 27:37
  Speaker 7: They did a great job.
• 27:39
  Speaker 3: I mean, we put so much faith in them, and
• 27:41
  Speaker 3: they really really came through. They followed our wishes and
• 27:44
  Speaker 3: desires with making sure that it's like ninety percent awareness
• 27:49
  Speaker 3: and education.
• 27:50
  Speaker 7: But we're all also not stupid.
• 27:52
  Speaker 3: We know that there's an entertainment kind of a drama
• 27:55
  Speaker 3: factor and we have all of that.
• 27:58
  Speaker 4: Yeah you know, I've got todrama. You don't. Yeah, we
• 28:01
  Speaker 4: don't have to like yeah, but that makes me to
• 28:05
  Speaker 4: a good question for Bailan, what what do you see
• 28:09
  Speaker 4: for her future? Obviously I know that she's engaged, but
• 28:12
  Speaker 4: like what is tell us a little bit about her
• 28:14
  Speaker 4: future and living with tourette?
• 28:17
  Speaker 1: So how you see that Julie's a nurse and I
• 28:19
  Speaker 1: know Balen expressed an interest in being Yes, I.
• 28:21
  Speaker 4: Was listening to that, like she really you know. I
• 28:24
  Speaker 4: love the way that you know she wants to help
• 28:27
  Speaker 4: other people based off what she's been through, and I
• 28:31
  Speaker 4: always love when someone says they want to be a nurse.
• 28:37
  Speaker 3: I feel like what I could see in the future
• 28:39
  Speaker 3: for her is doing anything that shows that she's really
• 28:42
  Speaker 3: an ambassador for this condition. So whether it's just always
• 28:46
  Speaker 3: like moving into more personal spaces, public speaking, private events,
• 28:52
  Speaker 3: so that she's just not this figure that's that's on
• 28:55
  Speaker 3: a screen. Really, So that's really what I hope the
• 28:59
  Speaker 3: most her because I think it's important for people to
• 29:04
  Speaker 3: see that every day is really much more of a
• 29:09
  Speaker 3: challenge for her than what you see on a TikTok
• 29:12
  Speaker 3: or even what you see in one episode.
• 29:15
  Speaker 7: It's it's very complex.
• 29:17
  Speaker 4: It's twenty four scents.
• 29:18
  Speaker 7: I don't know what you're getting.
• 29:20
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I understand. I understand, So well, that's great.
• 29:23
  Speaker 1: What I do love about this generation too, is they
• 29:26
  Speaker 1: some of them, they are choose to be ambassadors for
• 29:29
  Speaker 1: certain things when bad things happen to them, or they
• 29:32
  Speaker 1: have some something that they're struggling with, like my son
• 29:35
  Speaker 1: when he had his brain injury thanks to Julie actually
• 29:39
  Speaker 1: by accident, he started getting involved in an organization called
• 29:42
  Speaker 1: Hope for Minds and really talking about traumatic brain injury
• 29:46
  Speaker 1: and really going out there and raising money for it
• 29:49
  Speaker 1: and speaking about it and everything. So hats off to
• 29:53
  Speaker 1: all of these kids who do that. Well, we are
• 29:55
  Speaker 1: very excited because we have women who just ask you
• 29:58
  Speaker 1: some questions, not yet, not just They are our zoomer moms.
• 30:01
  Speaker 1: So welcome zoomer moms.
• 30:04
  Speaker 7: You.
• 30:08
  Speaker 2: Okay, I'm going to start.
• 30:10
  Speaker 1: Ronda Marie, can you please tell us your full name,
• 30:13
  Speaker 1: where you're from, and a little bit about yourself and
• 30:15
  Speaker 1: do you have a question for Julie.
• 30:17
  Speaker 2: Hi?
• 30:19
  Speaker 8: Excuse me, I am Ronda Phillips. I'm originally from Los Angeles,
• 30:23
  Speaker 8: but I actually live in Shreveport, Louisiana, and believe it
• 30:27
  Speaker 8: or not, I am in Atlanta right now being a
• 30:31
  Speaker 8: zoomer mom. Excuse me, really excited about what's taking place.
• 30:36
  Speaker 8: I have a question. You know, Julie, you were sharing
• 30:40
  Speaker 8: about family and all that has going on. If you could,
• 30:45
  Speaker 8: could you tell us a little bit about family time
• 30:50
  Speaker 8: that obviously is unscripted, something that is dear to your
• 30:54
  Speaker 8: heart because as a mom, we realize that our children
• 30:59
  Speaker 8: are our husbands. Our family is very important. I am
• 31:03
  Speaker 8: a mother of a retired vet and she is going
• 31:08
  Speaker 8: through some things right now, and I know that quality
• 31:12
  Speaker 8: time with her has really been a blessing to both
• 31:15
  Speaker 8: of us.
• 31:16
  Speaker 2: So I'd just like to.
• 31:17
  Speaker 8: Hear a little bit about your quality time with your family.
• 31:22
  Speaker 3: Quality time with the family, like when we're a one
• 31:26
  Speaker 3: complete unit, when all six of the kids are back
• 31:29
  Speaker 3: under one roof, really looks like eating together and playing
• 31:33
  Speaker 3: like wiffle ball outside. It's a lot of it is unspoken.
• 31:37
  Speaker 3: It's through the things that we're doing together in the
• 31:39
  Speaker 3: time spent. I feel like that's where we really become cohesive.
• 31:46
  Speaker 3: Like you realize that even though there's one that's twenty
• 31:49
  Speaker 3: four and one that's eleven, that they really are more
• 31:51
  Speaker 3: alike than they are different because they're both planted from
• 31:54
  Speaker 3: the same seed.
• 31:55
  Speaker 7: And I think.
• 31:57
  Speaker 3: That we've done a decent job parenting them that they
• 32:00
  Speaker 3: they know that like this is this is where your
• 32:03
  Speaker 3: value comes from. It's from this household, and don't ever
• 32:08
  Speaker 3: lose that exactly.
• 32:10
  Speaker 4: I agree, yes, And that's an amazing question. I have
• 32:14
  Speaker 4: a question for you, Like I know that you're a
• 32:16
  Speaker 4: speaker as well, But like, what do you do with
• 32:18
  Speaker 4: your family, Like tell us you know a little bit
• 32:22
  Speaker 4: about your journey. I mean you mentioned just slightly when
• 32:25
  Speaker 4: you ask the question, but I'd love to hear it.
• 32:29
  Speaker 8: So my daughter, she is actually thirty six, and she
• 32:35
  Speaker 8: active duty retired from a medical condition that happened while
• 32:39
  Speaker 8: in the military. Okay, We've been separated for just about
• 32:43
  Speaker 8: fifteen years. So I had a young, young, young adult
• 32:50
  Speaker 8: who actually now is grown, and we are redeveloping our relationship.
• 32:56
  Speaker 8: We do lunch, we sit down, we talk about our day,
• 33:01
  Speaker 8: we go shopping, we have girl time. And one of
• 33:05
  Speaker 8: the things that is very important to me, I had
• 33:08
  Speaker 8: to realize that my daughter, I'm still mom, but I'm
• 33:14
  Speaker 8: not the mom of that seventeen year old who left
• 33:18
  Speaker 8: and went into the military. So I'm there to advise her,
• 33:23
  Speaker 8: but not to dictate to her, okay. And that has
• 33:27
  Speaker 8: really helped our relationship to bloom and to continue to grow.
• 33:33
  Speaker 4: And I think Julie feels that deeply, right, Like as
• 33:36
  Speaker 4: far as to be there and to you know, advise, advise,
• 33:40
  Speaker 4: and how we all aspire to the advising role.
• 33:44
  Speaker 2: Yeah, relationship.
• 33:46
  Speaker 1: Yeah, Kim, welcome to the Mom's Club. Tell us your
• 33:49
  Speaker 1: full name, where you're from, and a little bit about yourself,
• 33:52
  Speaker 1: and do you have a question for Julie.
• 33:53
  Speaker 9: Yeah, I'm stepping outside right now because I have two
• 33:57
  Speaker 9: kids that I'm trying to save you guys from hearing. Amazing,
• 34:03
  Speaker 9: I guess my biggest question I mean with so you
• 34:07
  Speaker 9: with so many kids, like how did you manage the
• 34:09
  Speaker 9: younger years? And keep saying I guess and keep time
• 34:14
  Speaker 9: for yourself, I don't remember.
• 34:25
  Speaker 4: A complete blackout.
• 34:26
  Speaker 1: That is actually the most honest answer we've ever had
• 34:29
  Speaker 1: her on the Mom's Club.
• 34:30
  Speaker 4: Yes, that just done. Drop the mic, love it. Yeah, perfect,
• 34:37
  Speaker 4: So Kimberly, it's all going to go away. This is
• 34:40
  Speaker 4: why we all have more than one child. We forget
• 34:42
  Speaker 4: how painful it is, and we do it again for
• 34:44
  Speaker 4: some reason.
• 34:45
  Speaker 1: So you might want to keep a journal you can
• 34:47
  Speaker 1: refer back to right now if you have the time
• 34:49
  Speaker 1: to write any jots, something down so that you can remember.
• 34:52
  Speaker 4: Because yeah, beautiful blur Kimberly.
• 34:55
  Speaker 1: Yes, Jennifer, welcome to the Mom's Club. Tell us your
• 34:59
  Speaker 1: full name, where you're from, and do you have a
• 35:01
  Speaker 1: question for Julie?
• 35:04
  Speaker 2: Hi, everyone, so glad to be here.
• 35:05
  Speaker 4: I'm Jennifer Marsh.
• 35:06
  Speaker 10: I'm from Austin, Texas, and I have a twenty three
• 35:10
  Speaker 10: and a nineteen year old, and I'm sitting here thinking, Wow,
• 35:14
  Speaker 10: being a parent for that long must be you do
• 35:18
  Speaker 10: probably have a lot of experience and forget the early
• 35:21
  Speaker 10: versions of toddlerhood.
• 35:24
  Speaker 7: But you know, part of this journey of.
• 35:28
  Speaker 11: Being in a marriage and having six kids, I wonder,
• 35:31
  Speaker 11: like what it's like to also take on a reality
• 35:34
  Speaker 11: show that comes into your family and a child who
• 35:37
  Speaker 11: has you know, we all have one child that tends
• 35:41
  Speaker 11: to take up more time than the others, and it's
• 35:45
  Speaker 11: you know, and I always wonder like, how what's the
• 35:48
  Speaker 11: best way to hold space.
• 35:49
  Speaker 6: For the ones who don't have the same needs for
• 35:53
  Speaker 6: your time? And you know, I just have two, so
• 35:55
  Speaker 6: it's easy for me. I've definitely had one kid who's
• 35:57
  Speaker 6: been a lot more just needed a lot more attention
• 36:01
  Speaker 6: than you know. My first child was super independent, oh
• 36:04
  Speaker 6: scare of herself, and at some point she was just
• 36:06
  Speaker 6: done and I launched, and you know, my second child
• 36:10
  Speaker 6: was you know, also he's an amazing kid, but just
• 36:13
  Speaker 6: needed a little bit more attention, you know. Sensory integration disorder, dyslexia, dyspraxia.
• 36:20
  Speaker 7: You know, all these things which were.
• 36:22
  Speaker 6: We worked through them, but you know, they just took
• 36:25
  Speaker 6: time away from my daughter, and so she was sort
• 36:27
  Speaker 6: of I always.
• 36:28
  Speaker 7: Wonder like, is she independent because she had to be?
• 36:29
  Speaker 7: Or she independent because she was just going.
• 36:31
  Speaker 2: To be that way?
• 36:32
  Speaker 3: So I wonder like, what is it how do you
• 36:34
  Speaker 3: hold space.
• 36:35
  Speaker 4: For your other kids? Good question.
• 36:40
  Speaker 3: I think my answer to that would be to just
• 36:43
  Speaker 3: I'm always meeting them where they're at so and I'm
• 36:48
  Speaker 3: in making sure that I'm also in that moment with them.
• 36:51
  Speaker 3: So if if I'm spending too much time over here
• 36:54
  Speaker 3: one day, then then maybe the emotional attention this one
• 36:59
  Speaker 3: needed was just for me to lay down and watch,
• 37:02
  Speaker 3: you know, a thirty minute.
• 37:04
  Speaker 7: Episode of a show with them.
• 37:06
  Speaker 3: Because everyone's needs are different, so his thirty minutes, we
• 37:10
  Speaker 3: might think wasn't enough, but really thirty minutes to him
• 37:15
  Speaker 3: is more like Balan's six hours. So it's always kind
• 37:20
  Speaker 3: of keeping that in perspective.
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  Speaker 7: But I just I just love being a mom, so
• 37:25
  Speaker 7: it comes easy.
• 37:26
  Speaker 3: For me, Like I like to set myself on the
• 37:29
  Speaker 3: back burner. I like to be with them and make
• 37:34
  Speaker 3: sure that that I'm doing what they love. I'm watching
• 37:39
  Speaker 3: I'm sitting in the cold watching your baseball games.
• 37:41
  Speaker 7: I'm you know, I'm.
• 37:43
  Speaker 3: Going shopping at the stores that you want to go
• 37:45
  Speaker 3: shopping to. We'll go through the coffee shop that you
• 37:47
  Speaker 3: want to go to. It's kind of like really sacrificial.
• 37:52
  Speaker 7: In a lot of ways, and you can lose.
• 37:54
  Speaker 3: Yourself, but I just stay grounded in my faith and
• 37:57
  Speaker 3: that it less of me and and more of Him,
• 38:01
  Speaker 3: and that makes me whole.
• 38:03
  Speaker 4: Beautiful answer, beautiful love that.
• 38:05
  Speaker 2: That's so great to hear.
• 38:06
  Speaker 7: Yeah, I mean, because you said at the beginning that you.
• 38:08
  Speaker 11: Tried really hard to be in the backseat, So sounds
• 38:11
  Speaker 11: like that's generally a philosophy of yours well.
• 38:14
  Speaker 1: And you do give a lot of credit too to Alan,
• 38:16
  Speaker 1: your husband. So you've I mean, he's works full time
• 38:20
  Speaker 1: and you're staying at home.
• 38:22
  Speaker 2: Do you feel like he's.
• 38:24
  Speaker 1: Equally, like spends dedicates time to each of the other kids,
• 38:28
  Speaker 1: and he's in addition to working and doing everything else.
• 38:31
  Speaker 2: Do you feel like it's an equal.
• 38:35
  Speaker 4: No, nothing's equal.
• 38:37
  Speaker 3: I don't think it's equal, and I do feel that
• 38:40
  Speaker 3: over the years, he feels like he's missed out because
• 38:42
  Speaker 3: he has been such a workforce that has given me
• 38:47
  Speaker 3: the opportunity to make sure that I'm at everything and
• 38:50
  Speaker 3: I can do everything and all the doctor's appointments and
• 38:53
  Speaker 3: all of the things that we're dividing and conquering.
• 38:57
  Speaker 7: But he still has to hold down a job.
• 38:59
  Speaker 3: He's still has to make sure we have medical insurance
• 39:02
  Speaker 3: and all of those things. So I think men carry
• 39:07
  Speaker 3: burdens differently than we do. I think they definitely do,
• 39:10
  Speaker 3: and I acknowledge that for him, and I do have
• 39:14
  Speaker 3: moments where I feel really sad for him because I
• 39:16
  Speaker 3: know that I've really been able to embrace a lot
• 39:20
  Speaker 3: more of the kids than maybe he has.
• 39:23
  Speaker 1: But I really I really like and appreciate your answer
• 39:26
  Speaker 1: because I think a lot of women seem to come
• 39:28
  Speaker 1: down on the dads and say, oh, he didn't you know,
• 39:30
  Speaker 1: it wasn't taking time, And that's really the most honest
• 39:35
  Speaker 1: I love your answer because I know my husband now
• 39:37
  Speaker 1: is the kids are older, I think he looks back
• 39:40
  Speaker 1: he missed a lot. Yeah, I was the team mom
• 39:43
  Speaker 1: and the baseball team, and I was I got to
• 39:45
  Speaker 1: spend a lot of time with him, but he didn't
• 39:47
  Speaker 1: so because he was working so hard.
• 39:49
  Speaker 4: So exactly, but I do want to I do want
• 39:51
  Speaker 4: to say something to this subject. I am not a
• 39:54
  Speaker 4: married person, but I will tell you this. I think
• 39:58
  Speaker 4: it's an amazing relationship that you have stuck together because
• 40:01
  Speaker 4: this could have this could have broken your relationship and
• 40:04
  Speaker 4: your family life wide open. That's the truth. So I
• 40:08
  Speaker 4: love that part. But I will say that if I
• 40:10
  Speaker 4: had to guess and get into like a man's head
• 40:12
  Speaker 4: who's always working, not always around, that he appreciates what
• 40:17
  Speaker 4: you are able to bring, even though he can't be
• 40:21
  Speaker 4: there all the time and he may have missed out
• 40:23
  Speaker 4: on some stuff. He loves how this is set up.
• 40:26
  Speaker 4: And I think that they really I think men, I
• 40:29
  Speaker 4: could be wrong, really really value what is being built
• 40:33
  Speaker 4: and what is created in your home.
• 40:35
  Speaker 1: So I just well, when you're when you're watching the show,
• 40:39
  Speaker 1: like I do, you appreciate your relationship, you're working together together.
• 40:44
  Speaker 1: It feels like with the entire situation. Lisa, Lisa, welcome
• 40:50
  Speaker 1: to the Mom's Club. What's your full name? Where are
• 40:54
  Speaker 1: you from? She's my sister by the way. Yeah, tell
• 40:58
  Speaker 1: us a little bit about yourself, which I told a
• 40:59
  Speaker 1: lot right there, And do you have a question for Julie.
• 41:03
  Speaker 7: My name is Lisa Morris.
• 41:04
  Speaker 12: I am from Horseshoe Bay, Texas, which is outside of Austin.
• 41:08
  Speaker 7: I do. My husband and I watch your.
• 41:10
  Speaker 4: Show together, so we just love it.
• 41:12
  Speaker 12: One of the things I was curious about is because
• 41:15
  Speaker 12: I have two daughters that are close in age, and
• 41:16
  Speaker 12: I wonder how the sister relationship is. You know, they'll
• 41:19
  Speaker 12: go shopping and things like that, but I also know
• 41:21
  Speaker 12: that my daughters will when I'm all ask something, I'll
• 41:25
  Speaker 12: get on the nerves about one are kind of a
• 41:26
  Speaker 12: little bit as much as they get along, are.
• 41:28
  Speaker 3: They close or do they have their moments or.
• 41:32
  Speaker 7: What's that relationship?
• 41:33
  Speaker 3: Like, they have an interesting relationship because Sammy truly is
• 41:39
  Speaker 3: Balin's biggest advocate in the world, and she's feisty though
• 41:44
  Speaker 3: she's got like this Italian side to her where there's
• 41:46
  Speaker 3: no gray. It's black and it's white and this is
• 41:49
  Speaker 3: what we're doing. So the things that they don't see
• 41:54
  Speaker 3: eyed eye with are the gray areas because Baylen's so passive, like, oh,
• 41:58
  Speaker 3: that's fine, he overcharged me fifty dollars, It's okay, and
• 42:04
  Speaker 3: sam He's like, that's hard earned money. You need to
• 42:08
  Speaker 3: Like they're like Samuel is very firm, So some of
• 42:14
  Speaker 3: their personality traits and their temperament come across as different
• 42:18
  Speaker 3: and it is.
• 42:19
  Speaker 7: A little bit inflated.
• 42:20
  Speaker 2: I would say.
• 42:23
  Speaker 3: In some of the episodes, I think it's going to
• 42:26
  Speaker 3: be balanced out where you can really see Sammy's love
• 42:30
  Speaker 3: and commitment to bailin because they grew up together.
• 42:33
  Speaker 7: They're a year and four months apart or something.
• 42:37
  Speaker 3: I mean, they're really close. They grew up they were
• 42:40
  Speaker 3: best friends. That's that's all they knew was each other.
• 42:44
  Speaker 4: So it's a scrapper in a relationship. So I love
• 42:47
  Speaker 4: that somebody, do you know what I mean to help
• 42:50
  Speaker 4: the other person step in there.
• 42:53
  Speaker 3: Well, there's been a lot of times where Sammy is
• 42:56
  Speaker 3: willing to beat people up.
• 43:00
  Speaker 4: Like you need someone to stand in front. So what
• 43:04
  Speaker 4: do you want people to know about Tourette syndrome.
• 43:12
  Speaker 3: That it looks different on everybody, but that mostly it's
• 43:18
  Speaker 3: such a socially disabling condition that just needs so much
• 43:25
  Speaker 3: grace yet so much more research because these people are
• 43:31
  Speaker 3: living in dark places. Yes, just they don't feel like
• 43:35
  Speaker 3: they fit in anywhere. And it's not like other conditions
• 43:43
  Speaker 3: genetic disorders, where maybe somebody doesn't have all their faculties
• 43:47
  Speaker 3: like these these kids have all their faculties. They are
• 43:51
  Speaker 3: cognizant of when people are staring.
• 43:54
  Speaker 7: They know what's going on. You.
• 43:56
  Speaker 3: You know, you can't pull a fast one by them
• 43:59
  Speaker 3: because maybe they are not fully equipped mentally or intellectually.
• 44:04
  Speaker 4: So be kind. Be kind is what you're saying.
• 44:08
  Speaker 3: Be kind and don't say stupid things.
• 44:10
  Speaker 4: I love it.
• 44:13
  Speaker 2: As you would have them. Yeah, let's say things to you.
• 44:17
  Speaker 2: Let's just say it to you.
• 44:18
  Speaker 1: No, we get along. That's what the beauty of the
• 44:22
  Speaker 1: Mom's Club. Well, thank you Zoomer so much for joining us.
• 44:26
  Speaker 1: As always, you were amazing.
• 44:28
  Speaker 2: We appreciate it.
• 44:30
  Speaker 1: And Julie is aside from the show which is on
• 44:33
  Speaker 1: every Monday night, is that on TLC, it's also an
• 44:36
  Speaker 1: HBO Max. I believe where else can they find your
• 44:40
  Speaker 1: family on social media?
• 44:42
  Speaker 2: Or Bayleen? Where did they find her?
• 44:45
  Speaker 1: Because I know you want the don't watch your social
• 44:46
  Speaker 1: media to where can they find you?
• 44:51
  Speaker 3: Well, Baylen's TikTok handle, I think it is just Baylan Dupree,
• 44:54
  Speaker 3: same for same for her Instagram.
• 44:57
  Speaker 7: But I don't know where you're going to find their.
• 45:00
  Speaker 4: Well I'm going to tell you where you're going to
• 45:01
  Speaker 4: find the rest of us. Yeah, it's Jules j u
• 45:04
  Speaker 4: ls Depre number eight, which I'm assuming is the number
• 45:09
  Speaker 4: of people in your family, so and so that is
• 45:13
  Speaker 4: your handle, and we are so happy that you were
• 45:15
  Speaker 4: able to join us today.
• 45:17
  Speaker 1: Check it out and definitely watch Balin out loud and
• 45:20
  Speaker 1: do what you can.
• 45:21
  Speaker 2: To support people who have Tourette's for sure.
• 45:24
  Speaker 1: And other Be educated, be kind, educate yourself, and be
• 45:28
  Speaker 1: a good person. That's what that's what we espouse here
• 45:31
  Speaker 1: on the Mom's Club. Yeah, so thank you so much,
• 45:33
  Speaker 1: Julie for joining us. You can find us on social
• 45:36
  Speaker 1: media at inside the Mom's Club, on TikTok, Facebook, YouTube,
• 45:42
  Speaker 1: you name it.
• 45:43
  Speaker 2: We're all over the place.
• 45:45
  Speaker 1: We also have a website inside the Moom's Club dot com.
• 45:47
  Speaker 1: You want to check there if you want to be
• 45:49
  Speaker 1: a zoomer mom like these lovely ladies that we're on today.
• 45:53
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• 45:56
  Speaker 2: Yes, we've credit.
• 45:57
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• 46:00
  Speaker 1: least the existence of Julie on this show, because we
• 46:03
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• 46:05
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• 46:06
  Speaker 1: Monica is an app that you want to get. It
• 46:09
  Speaker 1: helps you sleep better, focus, it gives you energy. But yes,
• 46:15
  Speaker 1: I turned this on and Julie goes Jesus, we sleep.
• 46:20
  Speaker 4: It works better when you don't have Seinfeld.
• 46:22
  Speaker 1: And otherwise otherwise there's a lot of snoring and other
• 46:27
  Speaker 1: things that disturbing.
• 46:29
  Speaker 2: It's kitten well okay, yeah, lions. Anyway, it's all great.
• 46:36
  Speaker 2: It's very lovely. Anyway.
• 46:39
  Speaker 1: We also love Beverly Hills Lingerie because they're a great
• 46:42
  Speaker 1: example of someone who's been helping us with our chapters
• 46:46
  Speaker 1: across the country, which I mentioned earlier. So there are
• 46:49
  Speaker 1: events all over two sisters who started a lingerie store
• 46:55
  Speaker 1: together and they have an online shop. They contributed to
• 46:59
  Speaker 1: events that we have across the country. So we are
• 47:01
  Speaker 1: going to have events all over the country meet other moms.
• 47:05
  Speaker 1: And the great thing is you'll have local companies like
• 47:09
  Speaker 1: Beverly Hills Lingerie that contribute. You can you can come
• 47:12
  Speaker 1: home with prizes and new friends. I actually met a
• 47:16
  Speaker 1: lot of new friends at the event in Dallas. I
• 47:19
  Speaker 1: tried to win the prizes, but I got smoked out
• 47:21
  Speaker 1: that I wasn't allowed to put my name in the.
• 47:23
  Speaker 2: Bowl, so I gie to do it.
• 47:25
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I was cheating anyway, but there's great prizes, so
• 47:28
  Speaker 1: you definitely want to do that and we definitely will
• 47:31
  Speaker 1: be in Shreveport when that event happens. We're first excited,
• 47:35
  Speaker 1: so it's all it's all good. So, Julie, I cannot
• 47:38
  Speaker 1: believe this time goes by so fast.
• 47:39
  Speaker 4: It does because we get to meet such cool people
• 47:43
  Speaker 4: and we learn a lot. We learn a lot and
• 47:44
  Speaker 4: that feels good.
• 47:45
  Speaker 1: We do so, but it's time has passed again. But
• 47:49
  Speaker 1: we'll be back next time with celebrities and extraordinary moms
• 47:53
  Speaker 1: like you. We know all your me time is precious
• 47:55
  Speaker 1: and valuable. Don't forget our motto though, we do have
• 47:58
  Speaker 1: a motto, ladies, don't forget it. If you don't laugh
• 48:00
  Speaker 1: sometimes you're gonna so always remember that. Keep laughing and
• 48:04
  Speaker 1: we'll see you next time inside the Mom's Club.
• 48:09
  Speaker 2: Yeah,