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Memory Lane, Love Languages and Laughter: A Fun-filled Ride Through This Thing We Call Life · All About The Joy

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Carmen Lezeth: Hi everyone.
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Carmen Lezeth: Welcome to All About the Joy.
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Carmen Lezeth: I am so glad to have my friends in the neighborhood, woo Woo.
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Carmen Lezeth: So let me say hi first to Joy.
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Carmen Lezeth: Thank you for joining us.
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Carmen Lezeth: I'm so glad that you're here, Andrea.
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Carmen Lezeth: As always, Cynthia, I got much love for you and Rick, you always here, so don't matter, no, I love you, Rick.
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Cynthia Lopez: I'm so glad you do.
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Carmen Lezeth: So today I wanted to do a little something different.
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Carmen Lezeth: All of you were going to bring questions and kind of throw it your way to kind of run the place.
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Carmen Lezeth: But I do have a couple of announcements I want to make first.
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Carmen Lezeth: So, rick, can you just double check that we are live, because I don't see the live button on.
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Joy Gouge: I know you just went live on Facebook.
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Cynthia Lopez: Yeah, I see the live button.
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Rick Costa: Yeah, and LinkedIn said we were live too.
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Carmen Lezeth: OK, great, ok, great.
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Carmen Lezeth: So one of the things I want to announce is next Thursday we have our regular show.
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Carmen Lezeth: It'll be me and Rick.
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Carmen Lezeth: We're going to have our conversations.
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Carmen Lezeth: We might have a guest stop in, but on Friday at 6 PM it's going to be I'm going to call it the collab of late nightparentscom and all about thejoycom.
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Carmen Lezeth: Folks are going to be battling it out and we're going to be on my platform, but Ted Hicks will be hosting it.
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Carmen Lezeth: I'm going to be very quiet.
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Carmen Lezeth: I'm going to be very quiet because, if not, it's just going to be me and Brian fighting.
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Carmen Lezeth: Mark your calendars.
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Carmen Lezeth: I'll send out a reminder tomorrow, friday 6 PM, don't forget.
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Carmen Lezeth: We'll be here Thursday as well.
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Carmen Lezeth: Cynthia will be here, andrea will be here.
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Carmen Lezeth: Joy, are you coming?
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Carmen Lezeth: I'll try to say yeah, ok, ok, I didn't know if you even knew because I haven't been able to talk to you on the down low, on the private.
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Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, so it's next Friday night, 6 PM Pacific time, and it should be fun.
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Carmen Lezeth: I think there's going to be about 10 of us on, so we'll see how that goes, and Ted Hicks will be monitoring.
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Carmen Lezeth: I'm just being clear.
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Carmen Lezeth: I will not be moderating.
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Rick Costa: That's going to be wild.
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Carmen Lezeth: That is going to be a lot.
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Carmen Lezeth: The only thing I want to do is I want to give a shout out to Christy Cottovan I'm not saying his name correctly, but last week and I can't believe this, but it is the highest listen to episode so far is with Joel Lava, which is really weird, because the other one was Juliana.
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Carmen Lezeth: So I'm going to have to get Juliana back on because she losing her, but it was so hard because there were so many issues with his internet, so it was really hard for me.
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Carmen Lezeth: So I had to call in reinforcement and he's in London and he did it overnight and it wasn't perfect, but it was better than what I was able to do and I just want to say thank you to him because it was just such a kind thing.
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Carmen Lezeth: He's a great editor and I would love to thank at some point I could hire him on a regular basis because it would just make my life easier.
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Carmen Lezeth: But shout out to him.
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Carmen Lezeth: So OK, with that said, I'm going to let it go.
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Carmen Lezeth: I don't know who wants to go first, but it is turn the tables Thursday.
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Carmen Lezeth: So, cynthia, you seem like you're ready.
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Cynthia Lopez: Oh, yes, I have questions.
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Carmen Lezeth: OK, we ready.
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Carmen Lezeth: Tell us who you want to answer first.
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Carmen Lezeth: You went to ours, ok.
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Cynthia Lopez: Do you feel that you are young at heart or an old soul?
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Cynthia Lopez: I'll go with joy first.
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Joy Gouge: Oh, I definitely feel like I'm young at heart.
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Joy Gouge: Oh yeah, absolutely.
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Joy Gouge: OK but why?
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Joy Gouge: Why?
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Joy Gouge: Yeah, oh, my gosh One, I've always loved to play, not just no, I'm not talking about just with kids.
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Joy Gouge: I mean, yeah, I'll get down on the floor with a kid and we can play all day, but I just enjoy having fun.
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Joy Gouge: I enjoy life.
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Joy Gouge: I enjoy every day because I know, especially even from, like, oh gosh, 16, 17 years ago, for three and a half years I didn't know if I was going to live from week to week, and so I really started to enjoy life.
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Carmen Lezeth: Wait, do you want to explain that or not?
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Carmen Lezeth: You don't have to, but that's deep.
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Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, you know what I mean.
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Carmen Lezeth: That's a little bit deep.
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Joy Gouge: Yeah, In 2003, for whatever reason the doctors don't know why I had uncontrollable asthma and for three and a half years I was at the doctors or in the hospital every week for three and a half years, Wow, and the doctors describe it as wildly out of control.
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Joy Gouge: I was allergic to a lot of the different asthma medications OK, so that didn't really be controlled by that.
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Joy Gouge: And for three and a half years I was on very high doses of steroids and that started the weight gain.
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Joy Gouge: That started just all kinds of crazy stuff when you're on steroids.
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Joy Gouge: I mean the osteoporosis or osteoporosis or osteopinia.
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Joy Gouge: So it was just kind of a snowball.
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Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, so you were just in a bad space health-wise and you thought it was near the end or something.
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Carmen Lezeth: You thought there was a possibility.
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Joy Gouge: Oh yeah, there was several times.
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Joy Gouge: I've even had a doctor yell at me saying people die every day with asthma.
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Joy Gouge: I didn't want to be in the hospital again, and there was one night in particular.
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Joy Gouge: I was laying in the hospital.
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Joy Gouge: I'd been admitted again and I had IVs in both arms, oxygen on, and it was probably about 3 o'clock in the morning.
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Joy Gouge: Now it was just I just don't want to cry.
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Joy Gouge: I was laying there and it was just like a realization came over me that I'm still here.
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Joy Gouge: Yes, I may be wired up in IVs and drugs going through the IVs, but I'm still here.
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Joy Gouge: Yes, you are, and there was a purpose.
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Cynthia Lopez: Yeah.
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Joy Gouge: But after three and a half years I actually started doing better.
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Joy Gouge: The doctors don't know why it was starting to come back in control.
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Joy Gouge: Wow.
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Cynthia Lopez: That's crazy.
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Carmen Lezeth: That is amazing too, right.
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Joy Gouge: Yeah.
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Carmen Lezeth: So you're a child at heart and it's because I think we can clearly see that you are very happy with every day that you've had since that scare.
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Carmen Lezeth: I mean that's beautiful.
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Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, oh, yeah, wow, go ahead, cynthia, I'm sorry.
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Cynthia Lopez: I can't help it.
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Cynthia Lopez: You know it's no show.
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Carmen Lezeth: I'm always hosted.
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Carmen Lezeth: I got to ask the follow-up.
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Cynthia Lopez: All right, Andrea, how about you I?
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Andrea Shields Nunez: don't know.
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Andrea Shields Nunez: I think a little bit of both, which is sort of a cop out.
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Carmen Lezeth: But I know.
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Andrea Shields Nunez: My first thought was child at heart, because I think of myself as kind of immature.
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Andrea Shields Nunez: And then I was like, well, as I was hearing Joy talk about it, I'm not terribly playful and those kinds of things, but I do like I don't know and I think of an old soul.
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Andrea Shields Nunez: I think about someone who thinks about things deeply and tries to know a lot of things, and I like that too.
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Carmen Lezeth: So I don't know You're an old soul, I'm just telling you what you are oh yeah, maybe you should be answering these questions for us.
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Andrea Shields Nunez: But yeah, I was going to say I lean more child at heart.
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Andrea Shields Nunez: Yeah, and as I get older I certainly want to cultivate that more.
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Andrea Shields Nunez: You know what I mean.
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Andrea Shields Nunez: I'm already going to be older, so I may as well try to bring in some of the joy of being a child and having less responsibilities and all that kind of stuff.
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Carmen Lezeth: So yeah, I guess it's there.
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Cynthia Lopez: I guess, Whatever Rick, how about you?
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Rick Costa: Always been a mix because, like, all right, let's say, we go to a gathering at all ages, what always happens I end up with all the kids, why, I don't know, they gravitate towards me, I don't know.
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Rick Costa: And I'm like, ok, and they're like where's Rick?
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Rick Costa: You know where Rick is Like it's like he always in a with kids.
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Joy Gouge: I don't know why.
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Rick Costa: But then at the same time, I'm like, I also feel like I'm old, soulish too, because it's like I'm a deep thinker, I'm observer and I don't know.
9:06
Rick Costa: It's like, I feel like I'm a mix.
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Carmen Lezeth: Cynthia, you want me to?
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Rick Costa: answer it.
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Carmen Lezeth: You want to ask me a sec.
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Carmen Lezeth: You know what?
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Carmen Lezeth: I don't think I could be an old soul, because I feel like that has more wisdom than I have.
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Carmen Lezeth: I just don't think I'm that deep or that brilliant of a.
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Carmen Lezeth: Do you know what I mean Like old soul to me?
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Carmen Lezeth: Like, when I think of people who are old souls, I think of, like Maya Angelou, misha Reston-Page, or people who are, like, really smart and really deep.
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Carmen Lezeth: I'm not that person.
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Carmen Lezeth: I don't know if I'm a kid at heart, though, either.
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Carmen Lezeth: I feel like I'm not.
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Andrea Shields Nunez: Are you both.
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Andrea Shields Nunez: For you, maya, I'm not saying I'm either I'm saying I'm, either no.
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Carmen Lezeth: No, I'm not saying I'm both.
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Carmen Lezeth: I'm actually saying the opposite.
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Carmen Lezeth: I don't think I'm either you know what I mean Like maybe that's a cop out, but I'm just being honest, as I'm saying it, like I feel, you know, like I just had this huge conversation today with somebody at work and I felt so mean and horrible, and I had.
10:11
Carmen Lezeth: It was actually I had to be professional and mature about it.
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Carmen Lezeth: Right, and it's a hard thing to do, but I'm so good at it and it's such a level of maturity and experience to be able to tell someone in their late 60s, early 70s, to calm the F down.
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Carmen Lezeth: The world is not falling apart because you don't have your Bentley cleaned or whatever the hell was going on.
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Rick Costa: You know what I?
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Carmen Lezeth: mean, it was something as frivolous as that, you know.
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Carmen Lezeth: So I don't see myself as either one of those.
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Carmen Lezeth: I don't.
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Carmen Lezeth: I think I'm just like boring, normal human being just trying to make it each day.
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Carmen Lezeth: That's what.
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Carmen Lezeth: I see You're like a teenager I'm a teenager right, cynthia, but what about you?
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Cynthia Lopez: Oh, I'm a big kid.
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Carmen Lezeth: I know I was going to say I helped you with confusion.
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Carmen Lezeth: You have confusion, like I would tell you.
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Cynthia Lopez: I am a big kid, especially when it comes to Disney.
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Cynthia Lopez: I am like five years old when you talk about Disney.
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Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, you are obsessed with Disney, like Rick is with Marvel.
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Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, I am, that's so cool.
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Carmen Lezeth: Well, that was a good question.
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Carmen Lezeth: You have more I do.
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Carmen Lezeth: Should we go ahead?
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Carmen Lezeth: Oh, go ahead, man Go ahead.
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Cynthia Lopez: Let's see I have four, but I'm going to pick.
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Carmen Lezeth: Is it as deep as that?
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Cynthia Lopez: Probably not OK, this one's a quick one.
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Cynthia Lopez: What is your love language?
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Cynthia Lopez: What does that mean?
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Carmen Lezeth: I don't even know what that means Cynthia.
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Andrea Shields Nunez: do you know them all?
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Andrea Shields Nunez: Why don't you tell it?
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Andrea Shields Nunez: Why don't you say what they are?
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Andrea Shields Nunez: I honestly don't know.
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Cynthia Lopez: I've never even heard of the book.
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Andrea Shields Nunez: I know some of them.
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Andrea Shields Nunez: I don't know all of them.
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Carmen Lezeth: What do you mean then?
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Carmen Lezeth: What is your love language?
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Cynthia Lopez: Basically like in any relationship.
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Cynthia Lopez: What do you feel is your way of expressing love to someone else or the way you want them to express love to you?
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Carmen Lezeth: With money.
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Carmen Lezeth: Is that what we're talking about?
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Cynthia Lopez: That's your way.
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Carmen Lezeth: Lots of money would be great.
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Andrea Shields Nunez: I don't think I remember them all, but there's acts of service, so doing nice things for you, playing nice things, you know, acknowledgement or something like that.
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Andrea Shields Nunez: Right Physical touch gifts Is that all of them?
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Andrea Shields Nunez: I think that might be all of them.
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Andrea Shields Nunez: Maybe that I missed one.
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Carmen Lezeth: I'm confused.
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Carmen Lezeth: I don't know what my love language is.
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Andrea Shields Nunez: Is that in all relationships that's the theory yeah, all people are like given their love in a certain way, and so it's your job to know what your partner's love language is, so that you can communicate with them in that way.
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Cynthia Lopez: Okay, I'm going to blow you up.
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Carmen Lezeth: Go ahead, Andrea.
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Carmen Lezeth: What's your love?
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Andrea Shields Nunez: language girl.
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Andrea Shields Nunez: Acts of service Do nice things for me.
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Carmen Lezeth: So that means you, okay, I just want to learn.
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Carmen Lezeth: So you're saying, if somebody does nice things for you, then you love them, they love you.
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Andrea Shields Nunez: Yeah, that's how I like someone to show their love for me and how I show my love for other people, like cooking, right, that's doing a nice thing for people.
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Andrea Shields Nunez: I do that for people.
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Andrea Shields Nunez: You know, that's a love language for me and it's an act of service.
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Carmen Lezeth: You're saying I have not felt that kind of love from you in a very long time, but I have not felt the love language of cooking in my house and leaving me food for a couple weeks.
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Carmen Lezeth: Friendship of my love language is confusion, I think.
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Andrea Shields Nunez: Okay, I hear what you're saying Well.
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Andrea Shields Nunez: I don't know what your love language is.
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Andrea Shields Nunez: You have to tell me.
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Carmen Lezeth: I've never thought of such a thing.
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Carmen Lezeth: I really don't.
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Carmen Lezeth: I've never.
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Carmen Lezeth: I don't know what my love language is.
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Cynthia Lopez: Well, if you were in a relationship, or in any relationship, how would you want someone to show you that they love you or appreciate you?
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Andrea Shields Nunez: How do you know Like what makes you feel loved?
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Cynthia Lopez: We should go to joy.
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Carmen Lezeth: I think there's a reason why I am definitely single right now.
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Carmen Lezeth: Is this the answer?
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Carmen Lezeth: Is this what I've been missing the whole time?
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Carmen Lezeth: You're like I?
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Andrea Shields Nunez: have no love language.
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Andrea Shields Nunez: I don't have any love language.
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Cynthia Lopez: I'm not a young or old man, I don't have no love language.
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Carmen Lezeth: I think we now know the secret.
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Carmen Lezeth: I don't know.
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Carmen Lezeth: I'm so confused.
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Carmen Lezeth: I think Rick is trying to tell me that he's trying to come on, but I'm having so much fun I'm going to have to ignore him for a bit.
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Carmen Lezeth: Oh, here he is.
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Carmen Lezeth: Wait, here he is.
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Carmen Lezeth: Okay, wait, we're going to bring Rick on.
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Carmen Lezeth: Rick, you missing it, chow.
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Carmen Lezeth: We've now determined that the reason why I am single all this time is because I don't know what my love language is.
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Carmen Lezeth: I know I'm like that's the answer.
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Carmen Lezeth: All right, give me the options again and I'll tell you what I think I might want.
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Carmen Lezeth: It is so material.
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Carmen Lezeth: It's clearly not material stuff that doesn't matter.
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Andrea Shields Nunez: Well, no gifts is one of them, right, Isn't that material?
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Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, but you know, that's not really my thing.
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Carmen Lezeth: I'm asking you guys, yeah, so gifts is one of them.
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Rick Costa: Affirmation.
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Andrea Shields Nunez: Words of affection or some you know like thank you, yes, thank you, yeah, wait so wait, I'm confused.
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Carmen Lezeth: So you mean somebody tells me you're awesome and and that's going to make me love them?
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Carmen Lezeth: I'm confused.
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Carmen Lezeth: It's not about making you love them.
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Andrea Shields Nunez: It's not like some voodoo shit where they're like I don't want to.
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Andrea Shields Nunez: I'm not going to go and poke it in the hole and say she's awesome, she's just all in love with me.
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Carmen Lezeth: Okay, I'm still trying to figure out.
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Carmen Lezeth: Thank you, Rick just wrote.
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Carmen Lezeth: Rick just wrote words of affirmation, quality time, physical touch, acts of service, receiving gifts.
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Carmen Lezeth: There you go.
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Carmen Lezeth: Okay, I think mine might be quality time.
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Carmen Lezeth: That's probably fair right?
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Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, I think so.
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Carmen Lezeth: I think that's probably me, Like I don't need to see you every day.
16:36
Carmen Lezeth: I don't even need you to live in my house Intent, I have your own place.
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Carmen Lezeth: But I like, like, if we're going to be together, we're going to be.
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Carmen Lezeth: I think that might be true.
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Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, I clearly not, because you know I'm by myself.
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Carmen Lezeth: Joy, your turn.
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Joy Gouge: Oh my goodness, I love the quality time.
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Joy Gouge: Yeah, that quality time Same.
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Carmen Lezeth: Cynthia was yours and Rick was yours.
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Carmen Lezeth: Oh, rick let's go with you first.
17:04
Rick Costa: I would say probably quality time and some with a sprinkler.
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Rick Costa: Acts of service, like I was.
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Rick Costa: It's basically how do you feel loved when somebody does which one of these things?
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Rick Costa: So quality time, huge for me.
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Rick Costa: Like you want to spend time with me Cool, that shows you love me.
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Rick Costa: You know I love that.
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Rick Costa: But then acts of service is like I'll do the dishes for you.
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Rick Costa: Whatever, I'll do this for you, you ain't got to do it.
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Rick Costa: Really Like that'll make me feel like oh wow, you know.
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Carmen Lezeth: Oh, you know what when?
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Rick Costa: you said acts of service, like when Andrea was talking.
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Carmen Lezeth: She said I was thinking like you know you volunteer, confusion, confused by all of this.
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Carmen Lezeth: No, you know acts of service.
17:49
Andrea Shields Nunez: You know you're being at the end of the day.
17:51
Andrea Shields Nunez: Gas up your car, do something.
17:53
Andrea Shields Nunez: You know like I want to revise.
17:55
Carmen Lezeth: I want to revise.
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Carmen Lezeth: I like rubbing my feet.
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Cynthia Lopez: She likes physical touch.
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Carmen Lezeth: I want, I want men to.
18:09
Rick Costa: This is rated G right this is rated G show.
18:15
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, wait a minute.
18:16
Carmen Lezeth: Here's the thing.
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Carmen Lezeth: I'm in charge of the clips.
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Carmen Lezeth: Okay, that's so funny.
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Carmen Lezeth: All right, I think I'm getting it All right.
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Carmen Lezeth: Go ahead, cynthia, what's yours?
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Cynthia Lopez: So mine to be two of them.
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Cynthia Lopez: So I have the quality of time and gifts, but not like huge gifts, like, for instance, like if somebody goes to a store and they know I love Disney let's give an example and they go to a store, they see something with Disney or something like that, and they just thought of me and grabbed.
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Cynthia Lopez: It could be a dollar, it could be 25 cents, doesn't even matter, it's just the point that they show that they thought of me and pick something up for me.
18:59
Rick Costa: It doesn't mean being materialistic.
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Rick Costa: It means like somebody took the time to actually get something and said, oh, I think this is gonna make their day.
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Rick Costa: And then you did it and it's like, oh, wow.
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Carmen Lezeth: Right, okay, but this isn't just romantic relationships, then?
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Carmen Lezeth: Right, not necessarily.
19:15
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, so you guys were just messing with me, okay?
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Carmen Lezeth: Well, after this, I'm gonna have to have like, I'm gonna have to write in my journal and be like.
19:25
Carmen Lezeth: This is what happened with this guy.
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Carmen Lezeth: I did not understand that he was trying to provide service.
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Cynthia Lopez: And your love language might not be the same as your partner or as your friend.
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Cynthia Lopez: It may be totally different.
19:42
Carmen Lezeth: Clearly I wasn't even paying attention.
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Carmen Lezeth: So is that really?
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Carmen Lezeth: I guess it's really a thing, mm-hmm, wow this will be the last time we do turn the table Thursday.
19:54
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, because the host is feeling like a loser.
20:00
Joy Gouge: But you're learning so much.
20:01
Joy Gouge: It's your therapy session.
20:03
Joy Gouge: I love these questions.
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Carmen Lezeth: I love totally is we're gonna fix Carmen after all.
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Carmen Lezeth: Who's next?
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Carmen Lezeth: Is it Andrea Joy?
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Carmen Lezeth: I don't even know if you had time to do some questions, but it's okay.
20:17
Joy Gouge: No, just let me go last.
20:19
Joy Gouge: Okay, that's cool, I'm just doing Andrea.
20:23
Andrea Shields Nunez: Voila.
20:24
Andrea Shields Nunez: Okay, so I had a little bit of trouble coming up with a question, but I do have one.
20:28
Andrea Shields Nunez: I actually have two, so I'm just gonna lead into it.
20:32
Andrea Shields Nunez: As Carmen knows, I don't like social media.
20:35
Andrea Shields Nunez: I don't do social media much to her.
20:37
Andrea Shields Nunez: You know annoyance and whatever.
20:39
Andrea Shields Nunez: And so I remember we had a conversation once where I told her, like I'm a consumer of social media, I'm not a person who puts things out, I go there to look for things and of course we've all you know I'm assuming that you're all you know have accessed social media in the last week or whatever.
20:56
Andrea Shields Nunez: It's been a super downer, to say the least.
21:00
Andrea Shields Nunez: I came across it was a TikTok that was posted on Twitter, because I don't do TikTok, which, again, is a problem, but it was.
21:11
Andrea Shields Nunez: It just brought me so much joy.
21:14
Andrea Shields Nunez: I mean, I literally was like having tears, you know, watching this TikTok, and it was this teacher who took her students I would say they were probably like first graders on a trip to Mexico and she made little passports for them and it was payday and they had like little dollar bills they got.
21:34
Andrea Shields Nunez: She set up the chairs and like they were on a plane and she got like something on the screen that looked like it was takeoff.
21:41
Andrea Shields Nunez: One of the moms made like all this Mexican food, so they had Mexican meal that they bought with their money and they had souvenirs and just it was so, so, so wonderful.
21:51
Andrea Shields Nunez: That was the age that I used to teach.
21:52
Andrea Shields Nunez: So I just like just filled my heart with joy and I was like this is, this is what I want from social media.
21:59
Andrea Shields Nunez: I really don't want any of the other stuff.
22:01
Andrea Shields Nunez: So my question I have two questions.
22:04
Andrea Shields Nunez: First question is what do you use social media for?
22:08
Andrea Shields Nunez: How do you use it?
22:09
Andrea Shields Nunez: And my second question, to really go with our theme, is what's something that you saw on social media in the last few days that brought you joy?
22:18
Andrea Shields Nunez: If there was anything.
22:22
Cynthia Lopez: No, that's good, very good.
22:23
Cynthia Lopez: I'll go first.
22:26
Cynthia Lopez: I use social media to kind of get ideas, because I, you know, I like my crafty stuff scrapbooking, card making, things like that so I like to get ideas on those.
22:38
Cynthia Lopez: And then what really brings me joy when I see them is when I get decoration ideas for Christmas, especially because I love Christmas.
22:46
Cynthia Lopez: So that's what I use it for.
22:50
Carmen Lezeth: Love that.
22:51
Carmen Lezeth: So I use social media not just for research, like that's one part like especially when I'm interested in something specific work wise, especially like on LinkedIn or whatever TikTok.
23:06
Carmen Lezeth: I'm telling you, all the dancing videos just make me so happy.
23:09
Carmen Lezeth: I love people who can't dance and they're caught like they do a do-it-do act with somebody else and they're following them.
23:16
Carmen Lezeth: And when I say they can't dance, they're following a professional dancer.
23:20
Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean.
23:20
Carmen Lezeth: And I think the thing that frustrates me about Andrea and social media, I'm just gonna, because when you brought it up, so I'm gonna say it is you can curate what you choose to see on social media.
23:34
Carmen Lezeth: You can do that and I think that's what I've done.
23:36
Carmen Lezeth: I also put limits on every social media, so I'm only on for an hour, right, and then my phone beeps and I stop it never beeps so much because I've trained myself, you know.
23:46
Carmen Lezeth: But yeah, I love social media.
23:49
Carmen Lezeth: My favorite things are the dancing videos and one of my favorite I've introduced Rick to him is what's his name?
23:57
Carmen Lezeth: Terry Kay Confusion.
23:59
Carmen Lezeth: He does these videos that are like he.
24:02
Carmen Lezeth: It's just the way he speaks, like whether it's recipes that he's doing a duet with.
24:07
Carmen Lezeth: He'll be like watching someone do a really bad recipe and he'll be like police police, why are you putting butter on whatever?
24:16
Carmen Lezeth: Like he gets so annoyed, you know?
24:18
Carmen Lezeth: Or he'll be like I love that for you, meaning he didn't touch that recipe when it's on Google.
24:23
Carmen Lezeth: So he brings me so much joy because he's very happy guy and he's just very funny, so, yeah, yeah, I like watching the cooking things too.
24:34
Andrea Shields Nunez: Oh man, so funny.
24:35
Andrea Shields Nunez: My feet is barely like 70% cooking videos.
24:41
Joy Gouge: Okay because where I was on Periscope and even on Hats, where I live streamed, I did a cooking show and I loved my cooking shows.
24:49
Joy Gouge: I loved them, and so now that both of those have collapsed, I feel kind of lost almost, and now I'm gonna try to do a podcast and do some different things.
25:03
Joy Gouge: So it's kind of changing Right.
25:06
Joy Gouge: I love the cooking, I love the Christmas ideas.
25:10
Joy Gouge: I've watched YouTube about those all the time, and now just lost my try to talk.
25:19
Carmen Lezeth: It's okay, cause your sound is going in and out again.
25:21
Carmen Lezeth: We don't know what's going on.
25:22
Rick Costa: It's so weird.
25:23
Rick Costa: We can hear you clearly, but there's these weird noises that come in and out.
25:29
Rick Costa: It's so weird.
25:31
Joy Gouge: Okay, yeah, because actually, for some strange reason, the house is kind of quiet tonight, so I don't know what's going on.
25:39
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, it's nothing in your house.
25:40
Carmen Lezeth: It's a weird noise coming through.
25:43
Carmen Lezeth: It's like a weird noise.
25:45
Carmen Lezeth: It's almost like there's.
25:46
Carmen Lezeth: It's like a half buzz sound with a hitting of something.
25:51
Carmen Lezeth: So it wasn't your headset, although with your headset you sound more muffled than you.
25:56
Carmen Lezeth: Now you sound clear, right, okay.
25:59
Carmen Lezeth: So that's okay.
26:01
Carmen Lezeth: We go work with it, it's okay.
26:02
Carmen Lezeth: Here's the reason why I bring it up is cause, again, I'm the one doing the editing, so it becomes a really hard thing.
26:08
Carmen Lezeth: But I'm not going to put all of this too much work for me to do all five people, so I'm just going to try to get little clips and enter.
26:14
Carmen Lezeth: We will see what happens.
26:16
Carmen Lezeth: I don't know.
26:16
Carmen Lezeth: I want to win the lottery, that's all I want, not for any.
26:22
Carmen Lezeth: Not enough to hire people to help.
26:24
Carmen Lezeth: Oh, I don't need much.
26:28
Carmen Lezeth: I don't need much.
26:29
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, did I accidentally cut you off, joy?
26:35
Carmen Lezeth: I lost this.
26:36
Carmen Lezeth: I thought what was the second part of the question?
26:42
Andrea Shields Nunez: Well, you said what you use it for and just what brought you joy on social media this week or recently.
26:48
Joy Gouge: Oh, oh.
26:49
Joy Gouge: I read this story actually today on Facebook about this woman sat down, this kind of like a hateful lady sat down next to this older gentleman on the plane and she said she didn't want to sit next to him.
27:06
Joy Gouge: She demanded to change seats and the flight attendant went to speak with the pilot and the pilot was okay, you know, we'll change them.
27:15
Joy Gouge: And then the flight attendant came back, told him said can you please follow me?
27:22
Joy Gouge: And the woman stood up and said no, gentleman, will you please follow me?
27:26
Joy Gouge: And took him to first class.
27:28
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, oh wow, oh wow, oh good, so she got to upgrade.
27:34
Carmen Lezeth: No, he got the upgrade.
27:36
Carmen Lezeth: He did right, right, right.
27:38
Joy Gouge: Yeah, great yeah.
27:40
Carmen Lezeth: That's really, yeah, I like the little joyful moments on social media.
27:44
Carmen Lezeth: I really do.
27:45
Cynthia Lopez: Yeah.
27:46
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, Rick, you gonna share.
27:49
Rick Costa: So I'd say, as far as usage, both informational and entertainment, if I'm a little bored or you know, or if, like, if I'm on hold or something for a long time, like I'm not listening to music, we put on something on Instagram or something whatever.
28:03
Rick Costa: But, yeah, probably more informational because I like to learn things, understand things, and so I look at a lot of YouTube videos and stuff like that.
28:13
Rick Costa: But, yeah, also entertainment and the funny stuff for me is what Carmen doesn't like, I do, like this lapstick stuff Like people and he keeps sending it to me and I'm like I try not to.
28:24
Carmen Lezeth: I know I like send him a question mark Like does this have anything to like?
28:26
Carmen Lezeth: I'm at work and I'm like, oh, rick, my co-host is sending me maybe information for the upcoming show.
28:32
Carmen Lezeth: Let me see what it could be.
28:34
Carmen Lezeth: And it's like some dorky stupid thing.
28:38
Andrea Shields Nunez: Like what kind of?
28:39
Andrea Shields Nunez: When you say slapstick, what do we like?
28:41
Andrea Shields Nunez: Jackass type of stuff Like what are we talking about?
28:44
Rick Costa: Not that degree.
28:45
Rick Costa: No, not that.
28:47
Carmen Lezeth: For me it's just as bad.
28:48
Carmen Lezeth: Like Lucy stuff, lucy ball Lucy, like stuff that I don't think is funny.
28:53
Carmen Lezeth: I have a very I don't think my level of humor is that difficult, but it clearly does not jive with most people on our show.
29:02
Carmen Lezeth: That's all.
29:03
Cynthia Lopez: I know comedy is not her love language.
29:05
Cynthia Lopez: Comedy is not my love language.
29:09
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, it's a true thing.
29:11
Carmen Lezeth: Funny Like I don't know if it's all coming, I'm not feeling bad.
29:14
Carmen Lezeth: You know what?
29:15
Carmen Lezeth: We not doing this kind of show Never again.
29:20
Rick Costa: Another one, another stuff, another ones that I'm seeing a lot more of now was.
29:24
Rick Costa: I was today years old when I found out this.
29:28
Carmen Lezeth: That's come up a lot.
29:29
Carmen Lezeth: Oh yeah, those are funny.
29:30
Rick Costa: And I'm like.
29:30
Rick Costa: Some of them are like, really, come on, everybody knows that Some of them are like are you serious Like?
29:35
Carmen Lezeth: Some of them are like ooh, me too, but I ain't gonna share.
29:39
Cynthia Lopez: Wow, yeah so funny.
29:42
Carmen Lezeth: I like the things and I've been.
29:44
Carmen Lezeth: This is so weird, but like learning how to fold your clothes so that it's really effective, and like for your suitcase, or just all the different ways people fold, I love those.
29:55
Carmen Lezeth: I'm like that is so cool.
29:57
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, those things.
29:58
Andrea Shields Nunez: I like watching them, but I would never do it.
30:01
Carmen Lezeth: Oh, I do it for my jeans now.
30:03
Carmen Lezeth: Oh, really Like hanging up my jeans makes so much more sense in the way.
30:08
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, I'll send you the.
30:10
Andrea Shields Nunez: I did finally learn how to fold a fitted sheet, though, from a really, really, really hot guy who did a hip hop Right.
30:19
Carmen Lezeth: Let's talk about that.
30:21
Carmen Lezeth: I think what was missing in high school for me was the visual of a hot man trying to teach me history.
30:29
Andrea Shields Nunez: I'm just saying it doesn't hurt, it doesn't hurt, it doesn't hurt.
30:34
Andrea Shields Nunez: There's a dance around without a shirt and show me how to do it.
30:37
Andrea Shields Nunez: Yeah, I want to start 17 times so I figure it out Absolutely.
30:43
Carmen Lezeth: Is it misogynist too when we do that, when women do it?
30:47
Rick Costa: I feel so objectified.
30:51
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, is it misogynist just for when men do it to women?
30:55
Andrea Shields Nunez: Well.
30:57
Carmen Lezeth: I don't know.
30:57
Andrea Shields Nunez: I don't know that I would call it misogynist, but sexist, sexist.
31:02
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, all right well whatever, okay, clearly learning a lot today.
31:05
Carmen Lezeth: I'm on all the ball there.
31:06
Carmen Lezeth: I hate Carmen, I'm just kidding.
31:11
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, who's?
31:12
Andrea Shields Nunez: next.
31:13
Andrea Shields Nunez: That's everybody on my question.
31:15
Andrea Shields Nunez: I think it's Rick.
31:16
Andrea Shields Nunez: Yeah, Rick.
31:17
Rick Costa: So I had a question.
31:18
Rick Costa: This is going to be sci-fi-ish, so bear with me.
31:21
Carmen Lezeth: I was just going to say he going to talk about Star Trek.
31:24
Rick Costa: No, no, not Star Trek.
31:25
Rick Costa: This might require some thinking.
31:28
Rick Costa: But somebody from the future comes to see you right now and says I'm going to send you to your past for 30 seconds to give yourself a message.
31:39
Rick Costa: Where would you go and what would be the message?
31:45
Rick Costa: I know me Like.
31:46
Rick Costa: I know exactly what I would do.
31:47
Carmen Lezeth: You're going to have to answer because all of us are going to have to think on it for a minute.
31:50
Carmen Lezeth: That should have been a good one.
31:51
Carmen Lezeth: I already am.
31:52
Carmen Lezeth: Oh, Joy already knows.
31:54
Rick Costa: Something for me was this I should never have taken this job promotion that literally changed so much of my life, because a few months after that company layoff and they all took care of the newer people that literally changed my life in so many ways.
32:10
Rick Costa: So if I hadn't ever done that, if I could have gone back and say, don't do it, don't take the promotion, my life would be so different.
32:17
Rick Costa: Right now I'm convinced.
32:19
Joy Gouge: Oh yeah, I would go back to my ex and just say don't do it.
32:24
Joy Gouge: I would lock myself in the closet before I would make it back.
32:29
Carmen Lezeth: Wait, wait, wait.
32:29
Carmen Lezeth: Is this wait?
32:30
Carmen Lezeth: Did you just say your ex?
32:31
Carmen Lezeth: So you would tell yourself not to date him?
32:34
Carmen Lezeth: Yes, ooh, I didn't even think about that.
32:38
Joy Gouge: Yeah, I would say run, run like the wind, just go, go, go, go, go, go, go, go, go go go, go go.
32:46
Carmen Lezeth: That is so funny.
32:47
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, andrea, have you figured it out.
32:51
Andrea Shields Nunez: Yeah, I worked at the software company in the 90s while I was in college and my boss was super into Apple products that's how I learned how to use a computer and he was always like he bought a bunch of Apple stock and he was like you should buy it, you should buy it.
33:07
Andrea Shields Nunez: And I was like I'm good.
33:08
Andrea Shields Nunez: So I would go back and tell myself, yeah, have Ron, show you how to buy some Apple stock.
33:14
Andrea Shields Nunez: I would do, don't do anything with it, but sit on it for like five minutes.
33:18
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, I think that's what I would do too.
33:19
Carmen Lezeth: I'm gonna jump on that bandwagon.
33:21
Carmen Lezeth: I would probably do something like that.
33:22
Carmen Lezeth: Have somebody I don't know who, but have somebody tell me to give me the money.
33:27
Carmen Lezeth: You can't change it, you can only tell yourself something.
33:30
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, I would go back.
33:31
Carmen Lezeth: This would be more secure.
33:33
Carmen Lezeth: I would go back and find out what the actual lottery numbers were for the billion dollar, blah, blah, blah.
33:41
Carmen Lezeth: Cause you would at least get half and I'd whisper it to myself in the future.
33:47
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, that's what I would do.
33:49
Carmen Lezeth: I would there you go.
33:51
Andrea Shields Nunez: I'm cheap talking.
33:52
Andrea Shields Nunez: That's for billionaire right now, right.
33:55
Cynthia Lopez: I'd probably go back and tell myself what I wanna do now and then.
34:02
Cynthia Lopez: That way I would have been in school sooner instead of waiting so long for my degree.
34:11
Carmen Lezeth: I like that.
34:11
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, I guess you would have to think about it as something that you not so much regret, but something you'd want to change.
34:18
Carmen Lezeth: I don't know, I kind of want to see how this all pans out.
34:22
Carmen Lezeth: I'm at this point in my life where I'm like I feel like I've done so much and I feel like I've done so much right and I still don't have the things I want.
34:31
Carmen Lezeth: So where is this going?
34:32
Carmen Lezeth: See, I'm like I'm like now messing with the good Lord.
34:36
Carmen Lezeth: I'm like you know what we here now I need to see how this ends.
34:41
Carmen Lezeth: Hopefully it ends well, but you know what I mean.
34:43
Carmen Lezeth: Like I'm kind of like I don't know.
34:46
Carmen Lezeth: I kind of don't want to change anything in my past, if I'm being really honest, because I want to see what the hell this was all for.
34:53
Andrea Shields Nunez: Yeah, I thought about a couple of things like don't go to law school, and I was like but I don't want to lose what I learned from those things.
35:03
Carmen Lezeth: I was just going to say I don't think I would have met you if you didn't go to, if you had.
35:06
Andrea Shields Nunez: Yeah, yeah, exactly.
35:07
Andrea Shields Nunez: All of that has like trajectories that take you off into other places.
35:11
Carmen Lezeth: It's so true, like the minute you said, that I thought if you had not gone to law school, you and I would never have met Exactly, and I think my life would be much more horrible without you in it Same here.
35:24
Andrea Shields Nunez: No joy girl.
35:24
Carmen Lezeth: It's true.
35:26
Andrea Shields Nunez: No, I'm serious, it's true.
35:28
Andrea Shields Nunez: That's what I mean when I started to even walk down the road a little bit.
35:30
Andrea Shields Nunez: I'm like too many things change then that I don't want to change, so you can't, you know yeah.
35:37
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, and I just wrote a chapter about you in my book.
35:41
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, and I just know that wouldn't have happened either.
35:44
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, and Jara's like what, what, what, this?
35:48
Andrea Shields Nunez: bitch will knock it on social media.
35:54
Carmen Lezeth: It's so annoying.
35:56
Andrea Shields Nunez: She's the one talking about like it's so funny we're in her anti-ET.
36:03
Carmen Lezeth: I have a question.
36:03
Carmen Lezeth: Did everyone answer?
36:04
Carmen Lezeth: We all answered right, I have a question.
36:07
Carmen Lezeth: Oh, is there another question?
36:09
Carmen Lezeth: I could ask another question Go ahead, Rick Go ahead.
36:13
Rick Costa: So this one is obviously one that you're gonna feel comfortable discussing, and I have one, but something that publicly happened, that you were very embarrassed or humiliated or something to that nature.
36:28
Rick Costa: So I'll tell you what happened with me and I'll never forget it because I was really embarrassed.
36:33
Rick Costa: So it was a church thing and I was one of the people that was supposed to sing and the woman that ran it I called her mom because I loved her and we would talk all the time, and she was like how do you say it?
36:51
Rick Costa: Plus a plus size black woman, and I called her mom.
36:55
Rick Costa: I loved her to death.
36:56
Rick Costa: And so the lineup was set.
37:00
Rick Costa: You know, you got the paper.
37:00
Rick Costa: See who's going next.
37:01
Rick Costa: Da da, da, da da.
37:03
Rick Costa: One guy was stuck in traffic so like, all right, we'll just throw him later on when he comes in.
37:09
Rick Costa: Da da da.
37:09
Rick Costa: So then everybody's going da da, da and I'm next.
37:11
Rick Costa: So she's like, well, this next person, I'm very close to them, we've got out to eat and we've done this, and I literally think she's talking about me because everything matched.
37:24
Rick Costa: And then she says come on down, so-and-so, whoever the dude's name was.
37:30
Rick Costa: And I'm standing up already, starting to walk down oh my God and the lady next to me.
37:37
Rick Costa: I didn't know her from Adam.
37:38
Rick Costa: I put my head in her shoulder.
37:40
Rick Costa: I was like, oh my God, oh my God, oh my God, oh my God, so embarrassed, right.
37:45
Rick Costa: So then he did his thing, right, after hearing this big, long introduction, right?
37:50
Rick Costa: So now it is my turn.
37:52
Rick Costa: What does she do, rick, rick what is it what?
38:00
Rick Costa: I was like.
38:00
Rick Costa: I will never forget that that was funny.
38:03
Carmen Lezeth: Wow, they call her mom after that either.
38:05
Carmen Lezeth: Huh.
38:06
Rick Costa: I still did, I still did.
38:10
Carmen Lezeth: Oh man, Just wrong.
38:13
Carmen Lezeth: That's happened to me before, though, too.
38:15
Carmen Lezeth: I think we've all had a little.
38:16
Carmen Lezeth: Probably we're like embarrassed in that way.
38:20
Carmen Lezeth: I just know like the simple things like when somebody's saying hi to you from across the street or something and you're like I can't believe you realize they're not talking to you Like that's happened to me.
38:31
Carmen Lezeth: Way, I'm like, girl, put your ego in check.
38:34
Carmen Lezeth: No, no, no.
38:37
Rick Costa: Or when the Bluetooth things first started coming out.
38:39
Rick Costa: You don't know if they were talking to themselves or to you, or to what.
38:43
Carmen Lezeth: Now I just think people are crazy when they're walking down the street with Bluetooth.
38:48
Andrea Shields Nunez: I've got a horrifying one.
38:49
Andrea Shields Nunez: So I was substitute teaching.
38:53
Andrea Shields Nunez: I think I can't remember how old they were like almost middle school, I guess and so the teacher had left a note with all the stuff to do and one of the things to do was to take a quiz after lunch.
39:04
Andrea Shields Nunez: So to have the little papers, the stack of papers, she's like have them, clear their desks and put the quizzes down and then time them, whatever.
39:12
Andrea Shields Nunez: So they're all getting settled and everything.
39:15
Andrea Shields Nunez: And I'm like, all right, clear your desks.
39:17
Andrea Shields Nunez: And I start putting the quizzes down, like face down, and there's like the stragglers and I'm like clear your desks everybody.
39:24
Andrea Shields Nunez: And I learned the names pretty fast.
39:25
Andrea Shields Nunez: So I'm like naming people off.
39:27
Andrea Shields Nunez: I'm like, all right, James, put your stuff away, whatever.
39:29
Andrea Shields Nunez: And then I turn around and I see this kid still has some stuff on their desk and I can't remember their name now, which is probably because I blocked this whole incident.
39:40
Andrea Shields Nunez: But so I'm like whatever, Jane, take all of you.
39:44
Andrea Shields Nunez: And I'm getting a little annoyed because I'm impatient Jane, take all of your stuff off of your desk.
39:48
Andrea Shields Nunez: And all the kids around her like those are her hooks, she's got hooks.
39:53
Andrea Shields Nunez: She didn't have any hands and it was like oh my God, oh my God, I still just even I'm gonna crawl under the desk, even saying it right now.
40:04
Andrea Shields Nunez: It was so, so, and I was just like I'm sorry, that's fine, here you go.
40:09
Andrea Shields Nunez: And I just turned around and I was like, please, God, strike me down.
40:13
Andrea Shields Nunez: Right now I'll just break it all away.
40:15
Andrea Shields Nunez: These kids don't want to take this quiz.
40:17
Andrea Shields Nunez: Let's all just go.
40:19
Andrea Shields Nunez: Let's all go together.
40:21
Carmen Lezeth: I'm never gonna.
40:22
Andrea Shields Nunez: No one tell you before you did substitute she was like not, she only came to the class for like math or whatever you know, and I just oh my God, oh my God.
40:33
Andrea Shields Nunez: So, yeah, that's the worst, one of the worst moments of my life.
40:37
Andrea Shields Nunez: Oh, man, and all the kids like they're literally those are her hooks, she's got hooks and I'm like I can feel it.
40:47
Carmen Lezeth: I can feel my ear, yeah, no, okay, oh, my goodness, bad for the poor girl oh.
40:53
Andrea Shields Nunez: Jesus, yeah, that's, you know.
40:56
Andrea Shields Nunez: Caught two.
40:58
Andrea Shields Nunez: I don't teach anymore.
41:03
Cynthia Lopez: She quit after that day.
41:06
Carmen Lezeth: Done and done, Joy.
41:10
Carmen Lezeth: I feel like you have a story in there.
41:13
Joy Gouge: Yeah, in my tales, to compare it to that.
41:18
Carmen Lezeth: I know, thomas, I don't know how to fix this.
41:23
Rick Costa: I have no idea.
41:24
Carmen Lezeth: I don't.
41:25
Rick Costa: Okay, go ahead.
41:27
Carmen Lezeth: But talk louder so we can hear you.
41:28
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, okay.
41:31
Joy Gouge: It's been several years ago and I wasn't a turk speaking and, thank God, I was standing behind like a very large wooden platform, like a pulpit, you know, okay, so it was just like this big wooden thing and I was, I was talking and I just and I had on the dress that button down the front.
41:57
Joy Gouge: Oh, no I touched my stomach and Realized oh god.
42:07
Carmen Lezeth: Oh, no, no oh.
42:14
Joy Gouge: I was like, okay, I've got to keep talking, don't panic.
42:20
Joy Gouge: And then try to Stay in this deal is possible behind where nobody could try to see me and try to button up my dress and still.
42:33
Carmen Lezeth: Oh my god.
42:41
Joy Gouge: It was just like oh lord.
42:42
Joy Gouge: Needless to say, I went home.
42:50
Cynthia Lopez: I was gonna ask have you worn any button down dresses ever?
43:01
Joy Gouge: Oh yeah, it's.
43:06
Andrea Shields Nunez: Okay, picture of you standing there trying to be like.
43:14
Carmen Lezeth: To work it.
43:15
Carmen Lezeth: I think I would have been like you know what?
43:16
Carmen Lezeth: That's how I New style showing my lingerie.
43:28
Joy Gouge: It was a very conservative.
43:32
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah.
43:39
Cynthia Lopez: I feel like all my embarrassing moments have happened in hospitals, so there was this one time.
43:45
Cynthia Lopez: I was really sick and I had to go to the emergency room.
43:49
Cynthia Lopez: I had a fever or chills, everything, and I'm waiting in the in the waiting area and One was outside having a cigarette.
43:59
Cynthia Lopez: I just felt like, oh my god, I'm gonna pass out.
44:01
Cynthia Lopez: Let me, let me call one real quick so you can come inside and help me.
44:05
Cynthia Lopez: So he comes inside, I pass out.
44:08
Cynthia Lopez: The nurses and doctors, like I.
44:11
Cynthia Lopez: I can feel them grabbing me, putting me into a wheelchair and everything, but I just couldn't respond.
44:18
Cynthia Lopez: I couldn't open my eyes, couldn't respond anything.
44:20
Cynthia Lopez: So I could hear them talking.
44:23
Cynthia Lopez: I feel them doing my vitals and I'm starting to come too, but I'm also feeling something coming up my throat.
44:32
Cynthia Lopez: Oh.
44:32
Cynthia Lopez: So I'm like, oh my god, in my head, I'm like I can't speak.
44:37
Cynthia Lopez: I can't want this poor nurse.
44:39
Cynthia Lopez: I couldn't say anything and I swear to god it was like the extra citizen.
44:48
Cynthia Lopez: I'm so sorry.
44:49
Cynthia Lopez: I'm so sad, that's all I can say to the poor girl.
44:51
Cynthia Lopez: Oh.
45:08
Carmen Lezeth: My god, yeah, I felt so bad.
45:11
Carmen Lezeth: We must deal with that all the time.
45:13
Carmen Lezeth: Oh yeah.
45:16
Cynthia Lopez: Man, how about you, carmen?
45:21
Carmen Lezeth: It's too many, I'm trying to choose.
45:24
Carmen Lezeth: I remember one time this the sad part about this is it's like not that long ago, but let's just pretend it was a long time ago but Somebody dared me and I took the dare, and the dare was that I would be able to get on a bike and go up a hill here in Tomasco Canyon.
45:45
Carmen Lezeth: You know, enjoy what I'm talking about.
45:47
Carmen Lezeth: Like a mountain bike.
45:49
Carmen Lezeth: I was like I can do that.
45:50
Carmen Lezeth: That's not a big deal, are you?
45:51
Carmen Lezeth: You know, please, you know that I, so athletic, I've been working out Ta-da-da-da-da, whatever.
45:57
Carmen Lezeth: So I get on the mountain bike and this is like a $10,000, you know it's some ridiculous amount.
46:03
Carmen Lezeth: Like it's somebody's really great expensive mountain bike.
46:06
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, so I'm going up and I think I'm like all good or whatever.
46:10
Carmen Lezeth: I lose my way.
46:11
Carmen Lezeth: Not only do I fall like I fall, but I fall.
46:16
Carmen Lezeth: The bike goes over me and Takes my shirt with it.
46:22
Carmen Lezeth: Oh it's better because I wear a sports bra, but it hooked so perfectly.
46:31
Carmen Lezeth: Whatever was still here, it's better than that, because I didn't even notice, because I was like, or my friends are laughing, they're not helping.
46:52
Carmen Lezeth: Thank God we didn't really have cameras back then, because this shit would be my boobies and I didn't notice it and I was like, why are my friends not helping me?
47:17
Carmen Lezeth: Can you imagine?
47:22
Carmen Lezeth: You have this dramatic experience.
47:24
Carmen Lezeth: I'm thinking, oh my god, the bike.
47:26
Carmen Lezeth: It's so expensive.
47:27
Carmen Lezeth: I broke the bike.
47:28
Carmen Lezeth: I might have broken a limb or something you know so dramatic.
47:32
Carmen Lezeth: And and my friends friends with quotes are laughing.
47:37
Carmen Lezeth: Four of them, the left one.
47:50
Rick Costa: Janet Jackson ain't got nothing on you.
47:52
Carmen Lezeth: No, no, honey, my boob was already out of the bag.
47:54
Carmen Lezeth: I think that one was probably the most embarrassing and and it got again.
48:02
Carmen Lezeth: You know like it hurt my feelings a little bit, you know, because they didn't care, I mean, but it was funny.
48:11
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, that was embarrassing.
48:15
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, I had many, many accidental naked moments.
48:21
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, it just happens, just it's.
48:37
Carmen Lezeth: It's just happened too many times to me.
48:39
Carmen Lezeth: It gets me annoyed, but you know, it's what it is, it's okay.
48:43
Carmen Lezeth: I've learned to love my body.
48:44
Carmen Lezeth: I Remember one time I so I did do nude pictures at one point and you know right, I did the.
48:53
Carmen Lezeth: They weren't real, they're not pornographic or anything.
48:58
Cynthia Lopez: Dwa photos there.
48:59
Cynthia Lopez: What boo Dwar is that you say?
49:01
Cynthia Lopez: It are they boo?
49:03
Andrea Shields Nunez: Dwar, I've never seen them, but are you serious?
49:07
Andrea Shields Nunez: Yeah, I don't?
49:10
Carmen Lezeth: you've never seen my.
49:11
Carmen Lezeth: I had them on my website at one point.
49:14
Andrea Shields Nunez: I mean, I've seen a few shots.
49:33
Carmen Lezeth: I don't know what that means.
49:34
Carmen Lezeth: Doesn't that mean like it's more like?
49:36
Andrea Shields Nunez: Fancy like sultry sexy.
49:38
Andrea Shields Nunez: You know what with pornographic people.
49:42
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, I did a whole photo shoot with this amazing there, what tasteful, they're, testful.
49:51
Carmen Lezeth: You can't see anything, but you can see the possibilities, that's all.
50:00
Carmen Lezeth: They're really beautiful, whatever.
50:01
Carmen Lezeth: But what happened at one point?
50:03
Carmen Lezeth: Right, because when you're doing, we did all my headshots, we did outside, we did inside, we did like you know, we did changing of clothing or whatever.
50:11
Carmen Lezeth: And I knew he knew we were gonna do this because I really wanted to.
50:15
Carmen Lezeth: At one point it was one of the things in my bucket list to do nude photos that were really tasteful and beautiful or whatever, right.
50:20
Carmen Lezeth: So, and I felt really comfortable with this photographer and so we went to do them.
50:25
Carmen Lezeth: But when you're doing a photo shoot, I don't know if all of you know this, but you got to take breaks because you get exhausted.
50:30
Carmen Lezeth: You know me get tired.
50:30
Carmen Lezeth: So you know, we start doing them or whatever, and we start doing the nude ones.
50:34
Carmen Lezeth: And I was very comfortable, you know, because there's a makeup person, there's a, there's a lighting person, you know it's kind of the whole thing, right.
50:41
Carmen Lezeth: And at one point I mean I take a break and I'm just like I'm so sorry, I didn't mean that.
50:55
Carmen Lezeth: I'm like, oh hell to the no.
50:57
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, I have those photos.
51:03
Carmen Lezeth: I mean it was just a weird, like you know.
51:05
Carmen Lezeth: I mean I was just taking a break, that was for his private stash.
51:11
Carmen Lezeth: It was so funny because you, you know you have the makeup, people, the lighting, you feel pretty, the music's on, you do everything and then you see the reality of the actual you.
51:29
Carmen Lezeth: That's not.
51:30
Carmen Lezeth: Oh, is that airbrushed?
51:32
Carmen Lezeth: I kind of took away from the whole thing.
51:38
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, anyways, but I do have the other pictures that gorgeous.
51:47
Andrea Shields Nunez: Yeah, very tasteful, very tasteful.
51:50
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, who else has an embarrassing thing that we go do everybody?
51:53
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, oh, my god, we're at the hour mark too, so what?
51:57
Cynthia Lopez: are your questions.
51:58
Cynthia Lopez: Carmen, I'm sorry, do you have a question?
52:03
Carmen Lezeth: Well, I was going to ask a question that had more to do with the video I sent you and I sent it to Andrea, to you, which was how I came up with this kind of idea, and I think it was Jeff, my friend Jeff went to school with asked the question in the Instagram post.
52:19
Carmen Lezeth: We were talking about best friends, like what makes somebody a best friend, and he asked is your spouse or your boyfriend your best friend or do they have to be?
52:28
Carmen Lezeth: I'm going to answer them because it was in the Instagram post and I thought it was such a great question that doesn't have to be about your spouses today, but I'll just be honest and say I don't think anyone I've ever again.
52:39
Carmen Lezeth: We now know why Carmen is single and will always be, and now this will add to it I don't think any guy you didn't thought I was in love with was my best friend.
52:48
Carmen Lezeth: I don't think I've ever said that.
52:50
Carmen Lezeth: So I'm curious for all the married people in the room and the idea is your spouse or maybe you can't talk about it, so let's talk about past loves, or they your best friends?
53:00
Rick Costa: Well, if it makes you feel better because I am divorced, I considered her my best friend, but obviously that didn't help.
53:10
Andrea Shields Nunez: Okay, that's fair.
53:11
Andrea Shields Nunez: There was one guy I dated who I considered my best friend at the time.
53:17
Carmen Lezeth: Did I know you, then did I know you well.
53:19
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, good.
53:23
Andrea Shields Nunez: Oh yeah, that role.
53:24
Andrea Shields Nunez: But yeah, I have to answer your question Are they, do they have to be, or should they be?
53:31
Andrea Shields Nunez: I would say no one note Interesting.
53:36
Andrea Shields Nunez: I think it's helpful, probably, if they are, but do they have to be out?
53:42
Andrea Shields Nunez: Should they be?
53:43
Andrea Shields Nunez: I don't know.
53:43
Andrea Shields Nunez: I think it's important to have things for yourself, but I'm also a pretty selfish person, so Me too.
53:52
Carmen Lezeth: I'm selfish and single and I love it.
53:53
Carmen Lezeth: I love it.
53:58
Cynthia Lopez: Cynthia go ahead.
53:59
Cynthia Lopez: I agree that they don't have to be.
54:03
Cynthia Lopez: It probably doesn't make the relationship better, I think it's important to have a good relationship.
54:09
Cynthia Lopez: One in the room is one in the room.
54:11
Cynthia Lopez: I consider him as one of my best friends.
54:14
Cynthia Lopez: Yeah, we pretty much do everything together.
54:18
Cynthia Lopez: I mean, we've been together since I was 19, so that's cool.
54:25
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, I was just messing with you because I know one Joy is your husband, your best friend.
54:33
Joy Gouge: I consider him one of my best friends.
54:35
Carmen Lezeth: Yes, I love the qualifiers you all said.
54:38
Carmen Lezeth: One of that's good.
54:39
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, do joy.
54:41
Carmen Lezeth: Do you think in relationships that's probably the better way to go, because clearly I'm taking notes now so I have to work on my love language and some other things, so do you think they should be your best friend?
54:55
Joy Gouge: I think they should be, if not your best friend, it's really important that you have that connection with your partner.
55:05
Joy Gouge: Yeah, as if you don't, you know, there's a huge aspect of the relationship that's missing Right.
55:14
Joy Gouge: And if they're not your, you know, if they're not your best friend, if they're not a really close friend, you need to ask yourself why.
55:25
Carmen Lezeth: Hmm, I'm going back to that money part.
55:27
Carmen Lezeth: I'm just trying to be my best friend with the money.
55:30
Carmen Lezeth: It's funny because that's so.
55:33
Carmen Lezeth: You know, I'm just kidding because it's so, not me, but it is kind of funny to say, okay, did everyone answer?
55:40
Carmen Lezeth: I'm going to cut this off a little bit.
55:43
Carmen Lezeth: Hey, ted, I'm going to cut this off, so we go and watch your show.
55:46
Carmen Lezeth: Ted says.
55:47
Carmen Lezeth: I answered this question this week while on vacation.
55:50
Carmen Lezeth: Love my wife she's not my bestie, married 24 years.
55:55
Carmen Lezeth: My best friend is someone that I've known for 40 years.
55:59
Carmen Lezeth: Oh, I think our show next week is going to be real good.
56:05
Carmen Lezeth: She's not my bestie.
56:09
Carmen Lezeth: Oh, I like that.
56:09
Carmen Lezeth: It's kind of what you guys were saying, andrae and Cynthia.
56:12
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, I honestly don't.
56:15
Carmen Lezeth: I've just never had that experience and I always.
56:17
Carmen Lezeth: You know, I think we grow with people.
56:20
Carmen Lezeth: So I don't want to say I thought I was in love and now I'm not, because I think that's where I was at at that moment.
56:26
Carmen Lezeth: But now when I reflect back, I realize like I didn't even like him, which is weird, you know, like I didn't even like things about this person.
56:37
Carmen Lezeth: How could they have been my even good friend?
56:39
Carmen Lezeth: You know, clearly, again, I'm going to relabel this whole show why Carmen is single, but I'm so glad you guys stopped by.
56:50
Carmen Lezeth: Thank you so much, joy.
56:51
Carmen Lezeth: I appreciate you.
56:52
Carmen Lezeth: I know you didn't know till last minute, but thank you for coming on.
56:55
Carmen Lezeth: Andrea, cynthia, my heart Love you, girl, always.
57:00
Carmen Lezeth: And Rick, thank you, don't forget.
57:02
Carmen Lezeth: Next week we're going to be on the show Thursday night again, so that'll be fun.
57:07
Carmen Lezeth: Please stop by Friday night 6pm Pacific.
57:11
Carmen Lezeth: It'll be the battle between what is it late night, parents and all of the joy and there should be 10 of us and it should be fun.
57:19
Carmen Lezeth: It'll be.
57:19
Carmen Lezeth: Ted Hicks will be hosting on this platform, so we'll see you then for sure.
57:23
Carmen Lezeth: But until then, remember it's all about the joy.
57:26
Carmen Lezeth: Everyone Bye.
57:27
Carmen Lezeth: Thanks for stopping by.
57:31
Carmen Lezeth: All about the joy.
57:32
Carmen Lezeth: Be better and stay beautiful folks.
57:35
Carmen Lezeth: Have a sweet day.