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Are You Ready for the Life You Keep Asking For (S5) S35 E7 · Inspirations for Your Life

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So guys, let's kick this show off.
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Welcome to another amazing episode of the ever
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-popular Inspirations for Your Life show.
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I'm John C.
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Morley.
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I'm a serial entrepreneur and engineer, a marketing
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specialist, video producer, podcast host, coach, keynote speaker,
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graduate student at Montclair State University, a passionate
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lifelong learner, and so grateful now to be
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a published author.
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So today, we're closing our weekly master topic,
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become someone your future self can actually depend
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on, with one big question I want to
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share with everyone.
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Are you ready for the life you keep
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asking for?
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That's today's granular.
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We ask for more success, opportunity, freedom, influence,
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responsibility, and even growth.
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But if everything you've been asking for arrived
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tomorrow, would you actually be prepared to carry
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it?
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That's why there's a delay between you asking
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and you receiving.
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I think that's a very important thing to
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understand how that works and how that makes
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a difference.
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But it really is important to understand, like
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I said, how this all works.
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And it works pretty well, guys.
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It works pretty well.
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It works really, really well.
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So let's explore 30 ways to become ready
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before the opportunity arrives.
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I think that's an important thing for us
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to understand and to notice because, you see,
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the problem is a lot of people out
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there think one thing, but then they don't
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really believe what that is.
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And then they short-circuit themselves.
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They short-circuit themselves.
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And I think that's an important thing for
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us to actually, you know, for us to
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understand.
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Okay.
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All right, guys.
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So let's get right into the first point.
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Wonder what that first point is?
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So that is wanting more doesn't mean you're
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ready for more.
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Wanting more doesn't mean you're ready for more.
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That's an important thing that a lot of
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us miss, right?
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They miss, like, what that's about or how
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does that connect us, okay?
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I think that's a really important thing to
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think about.
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So let's keep that in perspective.
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Desire and readiness are different.
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You can want an opportunity while still needing
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the skills, discipline, judgment, and character you're required
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to actually handle it.
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Number two, prepare before opportunity actually arrives.
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I think that's an important one, guys.
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We have to prepare for it.
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And so don't wait until everyone is depending
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on you to start preparing, learn, practice, and
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strengthen your abilities while the pressure is still
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manageable.
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Number three, build the capacity to carry more.
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Bigger opportunities usually bring bigger responsibilities.
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Don't only ask what you want to receive.
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Ask what you'll need to become capable of
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carrying this.
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And I think sometimes it's like we want
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to grow, but the problem with growing is
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that we don't understand where we're going to
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be or what we're going to do, okay?
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So I think that's an important thing for
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us to realize, okay?
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That we have to have the container.
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We have to have the tools to be
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able to handle what we're getting.
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Number four, stop expecting success to fix everything.
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It won't.
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Success can magnify what's already there.
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Strong habits become more valuable, but poor habits
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can become, well, bigger nightmares.
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Strengthen your foundation first.
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This is the most important thing.
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Number five, build discipline before motivation disappears.
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It's the discipline that actually gets us through.
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It's the discipline that gets us to become
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successful.
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Nothing else, okay?
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Motivation comes and goes, but discipline keeps you
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moving when excitement fades.
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So create habits that work even when you
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don't feel inspired.
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Number six, guys, handle today's responsibilities well.
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Don't become so focused on your next opportunity
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that you neglect the one already in your
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hands right now.
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Yeah, I think that's an important thing for
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us to realize.
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We have to understand what that means or
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how that's going to affect us, right?
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I think that's a very important thing to
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think about.
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So today's responsibility is training for tomorrow's, right?
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And we need to train, and then the
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opportunities will be presented to us.
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Because as we train, we're now going to
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be able to look for those opportunities because
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we're going to be confident in ourselves.
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Number seven, guys, stop waiting to be discovered.
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Improve whether anybody notices or not.
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The work you do privately can determine whether
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you're ready when somebody finally gives you the
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opportunity publicly.
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But you have to do it privately first,
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guys.
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You have to do it privately first.
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That's a real important thing for everyone to
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understand, okay?
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Number eight, build confidence from evidence.
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Confidence becomes stronger when you practiced, you solved
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problems, you survived setbacks, learned from mistakes, and
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proven to yourself that you can adapt.
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Number nine, guys, know yourself under pressure.
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This is a key.
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Pressure reveals what comfort can hide.
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Learn how you react when plans change.
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Problems appear and decisions have consequences.
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Number 10, strengthen your judgment.
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Knowledge gives you information.
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Judgment gives you the ability to decide what
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to do with it.
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Bigger opportunities often require decisions where the answer
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isn't obvious, guys.
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Become accountable without being chased.
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Don't make people repeatedly remind you about responsibilities
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you've accepted.
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Follow through because your words should mean something.
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Number 12, protect trust before you seek influence.
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Great water, guys.
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Influence without trust doesn't last.
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So keep commitments, protect confidential information, and never
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misuse access simply because somebody gave it to
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you.
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I think sometimes that power can go to
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people's heads, unfortunately.
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But that's a key, guys.
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That's really a key for a lot of
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people to understand, okay?
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Really important, guys.
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That's something I think that a lot of
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people don't realize what's going on.
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But I think it's important to understand this.
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I think it's very important to understand because
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understanding it makes the difference.
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And this can make you change who you
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are, okay?
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It can make you change who you are.
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Number 13, admit when you're wrong.
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You don't become weaker by correcting yourself.
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Strong people recognize mistakes, learn from them, make
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adjustments, and keep moving forward.
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Sometimes people are going to say something and
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it's going to be like, oh, I don't
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want to do that.
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Or they're going to put you down.
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Don't let that break your discipline.
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Number 14, stay teachable as you grow.
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It's important to stay humble, okay?
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Success doesn't mean you've learned everything.
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Keep asking great questions.
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Keep listening.
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Someone with less experience than you may still
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know something you don't.
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So be open to that.
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You never know when you're going to learn
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something.
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You never know when you're going to learn
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something.
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That's the real key.
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Be humble, be humble.
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Number 15, guys, build resilience before the setback.
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The future you want will still contain difficult
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days.
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Success doesn't eliminate adversity.
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Learn how to recover before a major challenge
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demands it.
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Practice, be ready, right?
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Being proactive instead of reactive.
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That's a big key, guys.
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Number 16, learn to manage your emotions.
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Your emotions matter, but they don't need to
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control every decision you have.
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Recognize what you're feeling while keeping your thinking
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available.
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I think that's a point that a lot
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of people miss because when this changes, it's
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like, okay, my whole perspective changed.
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And then that changes your whole capability, okay?
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Your whole capability.
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That's a key, guys.
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That is really, really a key that a
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lot of people just don't seem to understand,
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okay?
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They don't seem to understand that and what
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it actually means.
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I think that's an important piece, guys.
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Number 17, become comfortable with uncertainty.
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I've said this so many times.
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You won't always have perfect information.
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Sometimes you'll have to evaluate the facts, understand
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the risks, trust your judgment, and move, right?
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You may not be in the right spot
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and that's okay.
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Nothing wrong with that.
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We learn every single day in our life
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and we stay humble and we are always
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teachable.
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We're always learning.
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Number 18, guys, stop depending on constant validation.
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I know so many people that they have
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to be pat on the back.
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They have to be praised every day.
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And that's not going to be good because
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when you don't get that validation, you're going
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to want to crawl into a hole because
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you didn't get your ego stroked.
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If your confidence requires applause, what happens when
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the room becomes quiet?
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Know your values and capabilities without needing everyone
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to confirm them.
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And if you don't believe me and you
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think this doesn't affect you, the minute somebody
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changes, it doesn't revere you.
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You're going to be like, I can't do
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this.
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I can't do it anymore.
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Number 19, let humility grow with success.
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Achievement doesn't require arrogance.
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Respect people, ask questions, share credit, and remember
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that success should expand your contributions, not your
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ego.
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I think a lot of people getting out
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of college as undergrads seem to get this
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wrong.
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Well, I'm better than everybody.
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Okay, and what does it prove that you
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think you're better than everybody?
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You're not.
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But what does it prove that you think
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you're better than everybody, right?
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What does that prove?
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What does it prove?
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It proves absolutely nothing, right?
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It proves absolutely, absolutely nothing.
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Nothing.
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I mean nothing.
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I think that's a real thing that hopefully
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wakes people up, right?
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Success should expand your contributions, not your ego.
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That's the key.
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Number 20, guys, become someone who improves the
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room.
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We've talked about this a little bit this
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week.
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When you enter a difficult situation, bring clarity
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instead of confusion and chaos and stability instead
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of, let's say, disaster or turmoil.
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Make your presence useful and meaningful, welcoming, respectful.
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Number 21, know what you won't sacrifice.
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Oh, this is a real good one.
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What won't you sacrifice?
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Every opportunity has a price, but not every
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price is worth paying.
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Decide what matters before you're pressured to trade
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it away.
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Understand what your core values are and how
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they function within you and how they make
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you operate.
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If a core value is not beneficial to
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you in the world, get rid of it.
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You don't have to hang on to a
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core value for life.
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Sometimes people start with core values and then
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they move to other ones because they're not
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aligned to what they really want.
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That's the key, guys.
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And I think when we know that we
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have full choices to make decisions, that's when
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magic starts to happen in our lives.
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That's how it works, guys.
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But this does not happen overnight.
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So I say, become that person, right?
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Become that person that you wanna be.
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You might not become that person overnight.
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It might take time.
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It's like the people that start with a
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task and they're terrible at it.
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And we always say, you do not have
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to be great to start anything, but you
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have to start something to become great.
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And that's a very powerful thing, guys.
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Very powerful.
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Powerful enough that'll make you understand why you're
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doing what you do.
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People do what they do because they get
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meaning.
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They get value out of life.
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I think that's a very important thing.
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And hopefully that makes sense for a lot
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of people.
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But I realize it may not.
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Number 22, build a life that can support
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success.
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What am I talking about?
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Your health, relationships, energy, routines, and personal life
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all matter.
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Success becomes difficult to enjoy when everything supporting
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it, well, starts collapsing.
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But these happen because of the choices you've
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made.
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Number 23, stop confusing visibility with readiness.
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Being noticed doesn't mean you're prepared.
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Followers, titles, attention, and recognition can create visibility
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without creating competence.
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Number 24, guys, strengthen your private standards.
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Hmm.
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Character matters most when nobody's checking, when nobody's
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watching, when nobody's seeing you.
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It's what you're doing in private.
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What you repeatedly do without supervision, without people
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watching you, eventually influences who you become publicly.
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It happens kind of slowly.
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It doesn't happen overnight.
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And it becomes like if you're over here
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and you want to move way over to
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the other side, suddenly you take slow steps.
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You're like, wow, I'm actually the other side.
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That makes a change for people.
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Number 25, guys, earn bigger opportunities through smaller
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ones, right?
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If you were looking to make, let's say,
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$1,000, and all you were looking for
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is 1,000, you might not get the
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1,000, but if you looked at 100
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small, $100, right?
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110 times is 1,000.
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Don't dismiss today's responsibility because it isn't your
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dream opportunity.
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Small opportunities can become proven grounds for larger
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ones.
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Number 26, become flexible without losing yourself.
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Okay, that's important.
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Plans change, markets change, people change, you change.
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Adapt your strategy without abandoning the values that
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keep you grounded.
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What are those values?
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They're your core values, your core values.
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Number 27, build for sustainability.
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That's an interesting one.
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Getting somewhere is one challenge.
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Remaining capable once you arrive is another.
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Don't create success that requires destroying yourself to
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maintain it.
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That's a key.
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Number 28, ask what your future requires from
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you.
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Instead of only imagining what you'll receive, consider
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what you'll need to contribute.
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What skills, habits, discipline, and judgment will that
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future you want actually require?
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Number 29, guys, become someone, as I said,
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the whole master topic of this week, your
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future self can depend on.
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Your future cannot depend entirely on luck or
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perfect circumstances, they don't exist.
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Give it something stronger, a person who prepares,
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learns, adapts, follows through, and keeps growing.
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Not because he or she has to, but
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because they want to.
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When you play a game in the world,
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you enjoy moving the pieces around, you enjoy
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figuring out how to solve, how to win.
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Number 30, guys, be ready when the door
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opens.
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You may not control when your opportunity arrives,
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but you have tremendous influence over who meets
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it when it does.
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So the door may appear again, but the
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next time you see the door, even if
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it does appear, it'll probably be locked.
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So the door appears and it's open, go
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in.
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Just because you see the door a second
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time doesn't mean it's going to be unlocked.
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The next time it'll probably be locked.
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Don't spend years asking for an open door
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while ignoring the person who must walk through
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it.
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And you see, ladies and gentlemen, that's the
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challenge I want to leave you with tonight.
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Think about the future you've been asking for
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years.
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Maybe it's a bigger career, different opportunity.
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Maybe it's financial freedom.
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Maybe you want to build a business, become
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a leader, strengthen a relationship, make an impact,
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or finally accomplish something you've imagined for years.
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Now, change the question.
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Instead of asking, when am I going to
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get it?
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Ask, who do I need to become so
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I'm ready when it arrives?
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That question changes everything because it puts part
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of the responsibility back in your court, your
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hands.
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You can't control every opportunity.
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You can't guarantee that someone will say yes.
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You can't control timing, markets, other people's decisions,
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or every circumstance surrounding you.
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But you can prepare.
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You can strengthen your judgment.
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You can become more disciplined.
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You can improve how you respond under pressure.
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You can become reliable.
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You can protect your integrity.
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You can learn from mistakes.
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You can become confident without becoming arrogant.
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And you can develop the capacity to carry
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more without ever losing yourself.
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You see, ladies and gentlemen, that's what this
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entire week has been about.
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We started by understanding who you are without
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allowing other people to define you.
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Then we explored trust and responsibility, quiet confidence,
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making difficult decisions, staying steady under pressure, and
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becoming someone who improves the room.
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When you walk into a room, are the
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people glad you're in the room, or are
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they glad that you left?
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Now it's coming full circle, and hopefully it's
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all coming together.
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Your future isn't only about what happens to
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you.
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It's also about who you're becoming before it
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actually happens.
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Don't just ask for responsibility.
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Become trustworthy.
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Don't just ask for influence.
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Build character.
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Don't just ask for success.
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Build the capacity to actually sustain it.
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Don't just ask for opportunity.
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Become prepared enough to recognize it, and courageous
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enough to act when it arrives.
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Most importantly, guys, don't become so obsessed with
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reaching tomorrow that you neglect the person you're
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developing today.
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Ladies and gentlemen, if you don't know who
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I am by now, I'm John Seymour.
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I'm a serial entrepreneur, an engineer, and many
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things more, and this has been another amazing
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episode of Inspirations for Your Life.
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As I get ready to close today's show,
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I ask all of you to please become
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someone your future self can depend on.
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And remember this, ladies and gentlemen, don't just
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ask whether your future is coming.
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No.
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Ask whether you're becoming someone who's ready to
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handle and receive it when it actually arrives.
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Keep learning.
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Keep growing.
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Keep preparing.
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And become someone your future self can depend
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on.
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And that might sound daunting.
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And I said to you guys before, things
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that are uncomfortable are where the scales get
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tipped for success.
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Comfortability doesn't breed success.
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When we're uncomfortable, we have to learn a
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new skill, right?
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That's when we learn.
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That's when we grow.
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And don't worry if everybody likes you.
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Some people may not.
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Because you're growing.
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Sometimes people get jealous of that.
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Unfortunately, guys.
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Again, I'm John C.
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Morley, serial entrepreneur.
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Be sure to check out BelieveMeAchieved.com for
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more of my amazing, inspiring creations.
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I'll catch you for a brand new master
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topic tomorrow.
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Be well, everyone.