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Marketplace Proverbs & Coffee With Ernie · Marketplace Proverbs and Coffee with Ernie-A Proverb Per Day Keeps Stinking Thinking At Bay

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  SPEAKER_00: Silence isn't always neutral.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes it costs.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, let's talk about something.
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  SPEAKER_00: Have you ever been on the receiving end of being ghosted?
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  SPEAKER_00: No call, no response, just silence.
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  SPEAKER_00: Doesn't feel great, does it?
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, Proverbs 25 describes that kind of experience like a bad tooth.
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  SPEAKER_00: It lingers, it nags, it sticks with you.
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  SPEAKER_00: But here's the part that really resonates with me.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes when we're really honest and transparent,
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  we're the ones doing the disappearing in business and
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  relationships and even
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  SPEAKER_00: spiritually.
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  SPEAKER_00: So here's the question.
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  SPEAKER_00: Where have you replaced clarity
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  and Relationship Building with Silence Welcome to Marketplace
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  Proverbs and Coffee
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  SPEAKER_00: with Ernie,
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  SPEAKER_00: where a proverb a day keeps stinking thinking at bay.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm Ernie Lansford.
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  SPEAKER_00: After more than 60 years in sales and leadership, I've learned that
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  Biblical wisdom is the most valuable asset we can carry into
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  the marketplace.
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  SPEAKER_00: Each time I read Proverbs,
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  SPEAKER_00: Scripture reveals practical insight for leadership,
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  SPEAKER_00: service,
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  SPEAKER_00: and building relationships that far outlast the last transaction.
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  So,
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  pour yourself a cup of your favorite brew,
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  and let's explore today's proverb together.
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  Today I am in Proverbs 25 verse 14 and then verse 19 using the
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  Contemporary
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  SPEAKER_00: Standard Bible or CSB.
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  Quote,
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  Like clouds and wind without rain is a man who boasts of a gift
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  he does not give.
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  SPEAKER_00: Trusting in a treacherous man in time of trouble
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  SPEAKER_00: You know,
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  SPEAKER_00: in our current shifting culture,
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  SPEAKER_00: we've given a cute name to a cowardly habit,
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  SPEAKER_00: ghosting.
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  And it happens when someone suddenly stops communicating
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  without explanation.
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  Now,
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  my son,
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  a former leader at an iconic big-box retailer,
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  saw this constantly in H.R.,
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  He would do interviews and they would do all the bidding and
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  people would accept a
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  SPEAKER_00: job offer and poof,
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  SPEAKER_00: they vanished.
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  SPEAKER_00: They didn't even show up for the first day.
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  Solomon described this perfectly in Proverbs 25 and they are
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  like clouds that
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  SPEAKER_00: promise rain but never deliver.
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  And to the person on the other side,
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  that broken trust feels like a bad tooth.
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  SPEAKER_00: A constant nagging pain.
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  But when we do a,
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  quote,
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  mirror check,
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  end quote,
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  we might find an even more dangerous silence.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes we ghost God.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I'm guilty of that.
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  And when we feel unworthy because of our mistakes or our lack
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  of discipline,
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  SPEAKER_00: we tend to withdraw,
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  SPEAKER_00: ghosting God.
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  SPEAKER_00: We stop praying.
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  SPEAKER_00: We stop reading his word.
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  SPEAKER_00: We avoid the many advisors in our faith community.
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  SPEAKER_00: We think God is too far away or too disappointed to hear us.
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  SPEAKER_00: And we may think that God is mad at us.
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  SPEAKER_00: We replace the truth of his grace with the avoidance of our shame.
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  SPEAKER_00: But let's remember this.
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  SPEAKER_00: Ghosting God doesn't protect us.
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  It only leaves us disconnected from the power source Now as
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  gospel-centric customer
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  success masters our effectiveness is tied to our connection If
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  we're ghosting God
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  because we don't feel worthy we are trying to navigate life's
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  chaos without a map
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  SPEAKER_00: Ghosting
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  Whether it's an HR candidate screening or our own spiritual
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  lives Ghosting replaces
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  truth with avoidance Ephesians 4.15 calls us to quote speak the
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  truth in love end
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  quote and that includes speaking the truth to ourselves about
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  God's grace Now
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  SPEAKER_00: Silence isn't always sinful.
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  SPEAKER_00: Proverbs 22.3 tells us the prudent,
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  SPEAKER_00: quote,
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  SPEAKER_00: take refuge,
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  SPEAKER_00: quote,
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  SPEAKER_00: from abusive or manipulative situations.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you know, Jesus withdrew from those who rejected the truth.
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  SPEAKER_00: The difference is the heart.
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  SPEAKER_00: Ghosting becomes a bad tooth when silence replaces respect.
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  SPEAKER_00: Boundaries become a refuge when silence protects righteousness.
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  SPEAKER_00: In a culture that disappears when things get uncomfortable,
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  a gospel-centric customer success master stands out by staying
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  present with their
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  SPEAKER_00: clients,
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  SPEAKER_00: their family,
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  SPEAKER_00: and above all,
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  SPEAKER_00: God.
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  SPEAKER_00: God the Father, God the Son,
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  God the Holy Spirit think on that today's customer success code
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  integrity provides
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  closure ghosting only provides confusion and today's action
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  points action point
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  number one is the spiritual mirror check have you been ghosting
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  God lately because
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  SPEAKER_00: you feel unworthy I have but I have confessed it and
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  SPEAKER_00: Action Point Number Two Let's check our inbox of avoidance.
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  Is there a person you've been ghosting because the conversation
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  feels awkward?
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  Well,
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  pick up the phone and make that call today or send that text or
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  whatever.
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  SPEAKER_00: And action point number three is model the standard.
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  In the marketplace,
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  in your workplace,
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  be the person whose yes is yes and no is no.
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  If you can't fulfill a commitment,
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  well,
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  have the courage to provide clarity
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  Action Point Number 4 Humble Release If you've realized you
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  made a rash vow without
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  SPEAKER_00: thinking,
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  SPEAKER_00: don't vanish.
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  SPEAKER_00: Don't ghost.
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  SPEAKER_00: Humble yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: Apologize.
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  SPEAKER_00: Deliver yourself from the snare of silence.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let's pray.
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  Lord,
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  forgive me for the many times I've chosen the comfort of
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  silence over the duty of truth.
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  SPEAKER_00: Forgive me for ghosting you because I feel unworthy of your blessings.
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  Please help me to remember that your grace is the only thing
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  that makes me worthy.
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  Give me the courage to stay present in my relationships and in
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  your presence.
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  SPEAKER_00: In Jesus' name, amen.
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  Well,
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  thank you for joining me on this episode of Marketplace
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  Proverbs and Coffee with Ernie.
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  SPEAKER_00: If this episode has been meaningful to you or added significance to you,
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  SPEAKER_00: please consider sharing it.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's how we influence the marketplace for God.
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  SPEAKER_00: We truly do.
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  SPEAKER_00: And remember, chasing personal success is temporal.
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  SPEAKER_00: Adding significance to others is infinite.