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Embracing Positivity Amidst Life's Challenges · Eye Opener Society

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  Me everyone and welcome back to your favorite
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  show the eye-opener society you have
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  uh three hosts tonight you got myself gary you have me hannah and we have me
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  britney and uh we welcome britney back as our co-host for these a couple episodes
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  here for uh the end of august and we're We're so glad that you're joining us.
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  Infity, like we said, these are just shorter conversational style podcasts that
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  we are doing just because Hannah is going to be going on vacation while the rest of us suffer.
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  So thanks, Hannah. It's well deserved for me. I have no sympathy.
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  Well, I totally agree with that. Just everything that I see and everything that
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  we're feeling. I wish I could go by myself.
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  I hear you on that. Is that horrible? No. No, it's not horrible, actually.
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  It's fine. I think that we all, at some point, deserve something like that.
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  That's like me. When I go out to the woods, I like to go out to the woods alone.
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  Yeah. And I just function out there. And it's so much better than dealing with
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  everybody else and life and population and all that.
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  And Brittany, I think you feel in the same way as well.
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  Yeah. Well, I was actually going to ask Hannah if you're going by yourself or going with friends.
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  I have a couple of fans going. and yeah it's a family vacation so you're almost
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  going to need a vacation from the vacation when you get back yeah chasing my
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  kid around Mexico is going to be such a great time for me.
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  Oh my first time out of the country so is it his first time flying yeah it's
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  his first time flying too okay i'm excited i really am like it's something cool
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  you know to experience i didn't think i was ever probably going to experience
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  anything like this in like the age that i'm at now,
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  um but to just say that i'm really excited isn't is yeah you know um it's just
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  i don't know you You know, kids are unpredictable, so we'll see how it goes.
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  We'll see how much relaxing I actually get to do.
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  I think that's another thing, too. When we're talking about this positivity
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  and more focus on positivity,
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  I really feel like we are not giving ourselves as people enough time for ourselves anymore.
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  We just seem to be constantly doing the things we don't like rather than the things that we do like.
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  You know, my biggest problem all the time is work. You know,
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  work is just one of those things that get in the way all the time.
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  And it's just there and you got to go through it and it blocks you. It really does.
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  And I think it really harms the psyche.
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  I think we do. We need the time alone
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  and I think that's what we could talk about um definitely
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  I am like you know I'm not saying like I don't want to
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  not bring my kid to vacation I love doing things with
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  my kid um I just think like the
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  back of my mind just knows that my kid is
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  an absolute tyrant of society so I'm
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  like this is going to be a great time for me I'm probably going
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  to come back with at least minimum four gray hairs um
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  but i know he'll have a time of his life there's so
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  much we're saying it like a family friendly kids resort like a
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  family friendly resort so he'll have plenty of stuff to
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  do and like i can do things with him i'm just like really just anxious about
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  it i feel like so i'm kind of psyching it out but as far as alone time goes
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  i feel that i definitely think people do need to take time from themselves because
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  i feel like if you don't you kind of develop a dependency on other people.
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  That's a good one. I totally believe in that too.
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  Yeah. You're going to run into that situation where you are just stuck in that
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  mindset where it's always about either work or it's always about other people's
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  ideas, other people's ideas of fun and all, and you're not taking that time for yourself.
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  So that I definitely can agree with.
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  Brittany, and you're going through some stuff too, and I certainly feel that.
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  But I think Brittany too, it's everybody right now. It's really almost the entire world.
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  We've been having discussions about just the way people are and the way it's
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  affecting each other because we're just not,
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  projecting enough positivity. And I think that's probably what you're going through yourself.
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  Yeah. I think it's, I'll make sure of a few things. And Hannah,
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  I'm sure you can agree with this as moms.
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  And especially me as a mom of a little boy who has his own challenges on a day to day basis.
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  Sometimes I feel like I don't give myself enough grace and it's easier said
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  than done to be like, it's okay.
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  Tomorrow's a new day. Or that's just how today went.
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  I don't know for me, there's some days where I just feel like I should be doing more.
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  I should be doing better or things should be different.
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  So with that and parenting, sometimes that's just a drag.
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  So that's where it is important to have that alone time by yourself,
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  especially when you're raising a child so that you're not pouring from an empty cup, essentially.
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  But for me, I think it's hard because this month has been full of challenges,
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  just work and personal life.
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  And I always try to stay so positive.
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  And I have a friend that nothing impacts them. They're always happy and positive.
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  And they're like, I always try to find a solution or something good that can
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  come out of what happened.
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  And I just said to them the other day, what good came out of what happened with
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  my son today? There's nothing positive.
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  There was nothing that I could focus on. And.
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  It is the reality. I try to stay positive, but then we have those outside influences as well.
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  Everything that's been going on this month that sometimes just brings you down.
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  And as much as you try to shut it out, it creeps its way back in.
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  And I was telling you this, Gary, on Facebook, I find myself snoozing people
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  or unfollowing ads or saying nacho again, in just so it's not bringing me down mentally.
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  It's what is going on. We did discuss this.
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  The world right now, like I said, we are in for a collapse.
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  And the many times I've spoken about this, the collapse could be good because
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  we're seeing a fall of all this negative.
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  It's got to reach a plateau and it has to finally just give,
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  you know, the ceiling, it's going to reach the ceiling.
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  And then we're going to start seeing a lot more, much better things.
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  Just like life, we need to go up and down these hills all the time.
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  We hit these really highs and then we go really low.
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  And sometimes we're on that downward spiral all the time.
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  And we feel that I feel that now we're going through it historically right now
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  with politics and social media and all where negativity can be spread so much.
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  And I'm also including just driving.
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  I can no longer drive a car. I just can't because people have become homicidal on the roads.
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  So I'm seeing this and it's becoming greater.
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  But do we focus on this? Is this what we allow to bring us down?
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  Do we shut off the social media? Do we snooze people? Do we say, hey, that's it. Enough.
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  And start thinking different to start getting ourselves back up that hill.
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  What do you think, Hannah? With me, I think...
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  It's easier said than done. For me, I, you know, I can talk,
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  I could talk a big game up to myself.
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  And I think that's what like makes me chuckle is that I can sit there and I
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  can be like, I don't need this person. You know, I only need myself.
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  Like, you gotta love me for me.
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  Like, screw you. You don't like me the way I am.
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  But then like, in the back of my head, I'm like, Oh my god, I need this person to need me.
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  I need this person to love me because they will make me like love,
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  like, you know what I mean? Like they help me love myself.
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  So this goes back to, I had talked about this, you know, just having like the
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  dependency on other people.
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  And I've been working very hard on not doing that because I find myself,
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  like you said, Brittany, you like hit like the,
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  don't show me this again, or I don't want to see this because I find myself
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  like, And I totally blame my FBI agent with this.
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  But like I find myself getting like notifications on Instagram of like quotes being posted.
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  And they like are quotes about like something that's like what I'm going through
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  right now. And I'm just like, you know what? This is unacceptable.
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  I cannot be seeing these because they are putting me down. The inside influences,
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  they're just coming right back to me and it's not helping at all.
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  So I really do my best to, I guess, filter out those things.
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  Like you said, Brittany, as much as possible.
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  But I also I have been practicing giving myself some grace.
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  But and I've also realized that we can't be positive all the time.
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  You know, we can sit there and say we need to live more of a positive life. And, you know.
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  The world can be positive. Like, yes, it can be.
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  However, we can't sit high all the time because then when a low happens,
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  it's catastrophic for us.
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  So I think for me, it's just kind of teaching my brain to realize that the lows
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  are going to come, but the lows aren't lasting forever.
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  The highs are going to come. You know, it's kind of like,
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  you know necessarily like if
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  you really think about it like riding in a boat you know
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  the tide's gonna come strong or a big
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  wave's gonna come but then it's gonna crash and the water gets flat again so
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  i really just try to like really think of analogies when it comes to getting
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  through my feelings because i know it can't rain forever and i'm on the opposite yeah end of you you,
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  you're like, I don't want to say codependent on like with people.
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  And I used to be like that so much.
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  And years have kind of shut everybody out other than my son and just focus.
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  And the other day when breakdown like for ventilating and crying in my car,
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  I was like, I have nobody to call,
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  and talk to right now like what I needed the most so it's like.
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  See with me identified an issue yeah I don't I don't call anybody I don't I
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  could I I don't I don't um I do it alone for the most part unless he's like
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  you good and I'm like yeah I'm good.
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  But I do it alone. I as much as I want someone, you know, to love me and be here for me.
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  I think in the back of my head, I always feel like I'm going to be a bother or I'm being too much.
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  So I don't call anybody. I just kind of get myself through it.
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  And then like, I think as I'm having my emotional breakdown,
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  like, who can I call? Who can I call? But I stop myself.
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  There's like this weird like thing in my chest where it's like,
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  if I even try to dial someone's number, I feel like I'm going to the drag and
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  throw up. So I just don't.
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  So I feel you on that. I'm with you.
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  I definitely understand feeling like a burden. I always feel like sometimes when I'm having these.
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  Like rollercoaster where we're on like i can tell sad at that point i want to reach out,
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  out to somebody i also feel like and though like
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  they don't want problems of their own so why do they
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  want to listen to me complain about mine or just essentially
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  invent about you know what happened yeah and
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  i think with me too like when i do reach out to people or
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  like i'm talking to somebody but like
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  I'm not really like getting the response that I want I think
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  it even makes me angrier because it's like I just want you to care about
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  me and love me and match my energy and you don't so
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  it just frustrates me even more so it's just
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  it's been like a it's like a rocky like you said it's like a roller coaster
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  because you're just like I just need you to tell me what I'm thinking in my
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  head that I want you to tell me but then I sit back and I'm like holy shit I'm
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  I'm waiting for someone else to tell me what's already in my head.
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  How would I listen to my own damn head?
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  So it's hard. It's easier said than done. Cause I still, I'm like,
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  I just wish they would say that to me, you know? And I'm like,
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  I'm literally saying it to myself. I need to stop.
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  It's hard. You have to like break the cycle. Yeah. And I love talking to you, Carrie.
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  Obviously I love talking to you because I stop by all the time to just talk
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  about random things. But Hannah, there's things that you say that.
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  That just make me realize like because when you
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  said about somebody not giving you the reaction that they
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  wanted that happened to me and I'm just like it made me even more mad and I
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  was just like all right so you're like I want a Hallmark movie scene that's
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  literally me I'm like I need that I need it but it doesn't I think it's just
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  hard because you know I don't know if it's like
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  femaleness or something, but like, we definitely,
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  we, we, we want what we want.
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  But the problem is, is that we don't stop and like go outside of our body for
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  a little bit and be like, we're literally, we're literally have the answers in our head.
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  We, we know what we want. Why don't we just give it to ourselves?
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  Yeah. It's just, it's idiotic to me, to be honest. Like, I'm like, I am so pathetic.
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  Brittany, let me remind you, you could have called us. I mean,
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  never, ever a problem with that ever.
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  Um, I feel I can give my all, especially listening to people,
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  but sometimes that's only for certain people.
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  Like if I get a good vibe from a person, those are the people I want to really,
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  you know, surround myself with. And that's what we need to do.
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  We need to surround ourselves with the people that are positive influences in our lives anyway. way.
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  It's, you know, random people sometimes, if I'm getting a negative energy off
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  of them, I'm not going to give them the time of day.
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  And it's not because I'm mean, but I'm not going to expend my energy on somebody
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  who I don't think is going to use that energy in a positive way.
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  So that you have to think about too.
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  And like the both of you too, I'm the same way. I cry alone when it does come
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  down and I have my breakdowns. I don't reach out to anybody because,
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  I always feel like I'm the one, like, you know, your mom, my wife,
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  she has so much emotional energy and I'm always there to support her.
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  And I got to carry that weight a lot.
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  And that burden falls on me to the point where I collapse, but I have to collapse
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  alone because I don't want that negative energy to get to my wife.
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  I don't want her to feel that way. so yeah the
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  way we deal with these it it's always
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  on a personal level but we are we're
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  dealing with energies and like me i use it wisely like your mom she she'll spend
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  all that positive energy on everybody even those that don't deserve it and then
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  that also that comes back to you bad as well um now britney we were talking
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  about it like and we're going to set this up for sure.
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  Because Brittany is always you know remote on
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  our restream account restream.com by
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  the way you know it's a great platform just a
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  quick plug there but Brittany you know always she's
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  not in the studio with us but you need
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  to come out to the studio one day hanging out with
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  all of us we got to pick a night because those
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  things like that like there's new friendships to be made
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  uh new things to learn about each other that's a
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  lot of positive energy just like you and i when we sit at
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  the patio and we have those great nights and real smoke if we
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  invite somebody else in and we got that same type of energy together
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  that's going to lift spirits that's going
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  to make things on a positive note because we'll try
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  very hard to keep things you know on that higher
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  energy instead of focusing on that low it's going to be fun you know and that's
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  what we need that's one one way to deal with all of this so we'll get that together
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  as a matter of fact bring you just come on over now and let's just do it right
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  like let's call from work tomorrow let's all just um yeah it was so funny like
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  right before i came down here i was like i should really call for work tomorrow
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  i just don't want to do it oh i thought about that tuesday wednesday thursday tomorrow i have a half.
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  Day we have a due so i'm feeling
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  guilty like i can't take time off and i'm
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  just at the point where i'm like i need it for my mental health i'll regroup
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  losing four hours at work is not the end of the world we'll start again on monday
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  so make it that's my motto if you have it take it and take it right in the middle
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  of a really big project yeah that's what i say you know I mean, just walk away.
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  I mean, that does not seem like my problem. Yeah.
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  I honestly, I think that way now only because I spent my entire life working.
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  I started at 16 and here I am at 53.
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  I don't know how you do it. Something like that. I don't even know how old I am.
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  Don't ask me. And you've got a birthday coming up in August.
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  Oh, by the way, Hannah's birthday is coming up August 12th.
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  Oh, yeah. I've already been looking around, actually. I want the sweatsuit in
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  the worst way possible. Like I want the sweatpants and the sweatshirt.
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  It's yeah, it just looks so cozy. I'm like, I would never take it off. I will never take it off.
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  Yeah, that well, that's what I was thinking. Like fall is coming.
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  So it might be a good time to invest in it. And then I have it for fall.
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  Yes. Oh my gosh. Yes. I love them. They're so cute. I'm like leggings and like
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  Fabulous. Oh, yeah. Recommend. I'm thinking, what do I want most?
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  And then maybe order a few things and then I'll have them. And that's all you'll
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  see me in all fall and winter.
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  Yeah, Reaper's the best.
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  So with this episode, like I say, we wanted to do this conversational style.
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  And it's great having Brittany here because it throws another voice in,
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  different emotions, different feelings.
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  And I'm really actually getting the vibe and I like it because we're going to
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  sit and record another episode real quick too.
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  And we'll be all set for August.
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  But we're focusing on the positive. And when we feel these negative energies,
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  when people are feeling down, you have support.
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  Brittany, you have support from us.
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  Anybody else, find your outlets, find who works for you, reach out to them.
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  If you have to reach out to us, our email is theeyeopenersocietyatgmail.com.
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  Talk to us. We can try and give advice best we can.
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  We're only human beings without PhDs, and I don't think everybody needs those
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  PhDs. We sometimes need real people to talk to with real feelings that go through
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  the same thing every single day.
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  And that's why I appreciate this conversation.
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  I appreciate the fact that, yeah, we can sit down one day soon and have a.
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  Night smoking cigars britney i don't even know do you smoke cigars um
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  i haven't done in probably like 16 years so
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  yeah at least you smoke them that's so cool
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  yeah all right well we could definitely do that i want to end off this on a
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  positive note and that's what i want to say i want everybody to reach out to
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  the people that you admire the most the ones that you feel the most comfortable
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  around sometimes you don't have that sometimes you only have yourself and there's
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  There's nothing wrong with that.
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  And I think I said on the last episode, I said, always remember,
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  tell yourself, I am beautiful.
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  That helps a lot. Or just stay positive. And yeah, you're not going to be positive all the time.
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  It's not going to happen. Believe me. It's great. There are people like that.
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  It's great. I don't like them.
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  Like even when you're negative, the positives are still coming.
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  The positives aren't non-existent. You just have to get through and feel through the negatives.
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  There's going to be a future. We must live in the present. If that present isn't
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  exactly positive, remember, the pendulum is going to swing right back soon.
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  And we have to trust that.
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  Life is literally yin and yang. Okay. It's literally yin and yang.
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  So everybody stay positive. We're going to take a little moment here to breathe.
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  And then we're going to be recording the next episode. And we will see you on the next episode.
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  Again, everybody, I want to thank you all for listening. and
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  don't forget we are on pod bean
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  all right if you go to iopenersociety.podbean.com you find all of our shows
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  also we're finding great people there and coming up soon in the next few months
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  we have to wait a little while just scheduling wise i would like you to check out t-i-k radio radio.
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  Monica Susanna, she is a DJ and she agreed to come on our show.
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  I don't even have enough time to talk about all the wonderful things she's involved in.
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  And I cannot wait to collaborate on this because two things,
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  mental health and music.
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  And those are very high up on her list. And we are going to be talking a lot about that.
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  So that's T I K radio, check her out on pod bean, and we will see you on the
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  next episode. See ya. Bye.