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Do You Accept This Q&A? · The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast

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  Speaker 1: This is the Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous podcast
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  Speaker 1: with iHeartRadio.
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  Speaker 2: It's time for a little question and answer from the
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  Speaker 2: listeners in our audience. We always appreciate hearing from you.
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  Speaker 2: We have kind of one relational question Ashley, and then
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  Speaker 2: we have a few that are a little lighthearted, more
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  Speaker 2: bachelorette Bachelor focused. Let's start with a few bachelor focused
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  Speaker 2: ones and then we'll end with the relationship question that
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  Speaker 2: was sent to me via Instagram. Okay, we'll start with
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  Speaker 2: this one. It's from Benny Ashley. If you had to
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  Speaker 2: pick your favorite Bachelorette season and your favorite bachelor season,
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  Speaker 2: who would it be? And it can't be the one
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  Speaker 2: you were on?
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  Speaker 3: Okay, Well, my favorite Bachelorette season would be probably Caitlin's
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  Speaker 3: because I was fresh off becoming friends with Caitlin, so
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  Speaker 3: it was like watching a friend date all these guys. Obviously,
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  Speaker 3: my husband and one of my best friends came from
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  Speaker 3: that season, so you know, so many friends are from
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  Speaker 3: that season, and so it's just that it's just that's it.
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  Speaker 3: I thought that not just was the cast great, but
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  Speaker 3: it just was constantly interesting, entertaining, and you guys, just
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  Speaker 3: you all rocked it.
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  Speaker 4: I loved it.
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  Speaker 3: And then one that I didn't see from a personal
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  Speaker 3: angle was Emily Maynard season. I just lived for that
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  Speaker 3: season every single week as a fan.
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  Speaker 4: Just I don't know.
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  Speaker 3: I just loved Emily and I love the way she
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  Speaker 3: handled herself. She was just badass. Barbie love her Bachelor.
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  Speaker 4: Season and that was not my own.
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  Speaker 3: Ben, I'm not going to choose yours because I'm not
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  Speaker 3: going to suck up for that. I'm gonna say the
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  Speaker 3: one that is the most monumental to me was the
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  Speaker 3: first season that I ever watched, and that was Brad
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  Speaker 3: Wollmack's second season. A lot of that has to do
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  Speaker 3: with Emily because I just loved her and I was
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  Speaker 3: just so intrigued by the show. It's just something about
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  Speaker 3: watching the whole sequence of it through fresh eyes.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's fair.
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  Speaker 3: So I don't know if it was Brad or like
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  Speaker 3: anything from that, or if it was just the first
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  Speaker 3: time watching My.
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  Speaker 2: Favorite bachelorette season would go back to Andy Dorfmann. I
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  Speaker 2: don't know why, but that season stood out to me
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  Speaker 2: in so many ways, and I had so many big
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  Speaker 2: characters and so many twists and turns leading up to
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  Speaker 2: even the finale.
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  Speaker 4: You watched it before you were on it.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah you did, Okay, Yeah, but like really hardcore,
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  Speaker 3: like actually watch week to week.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. I don't know why. I think I was home
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  Speaker 2: with my mom. I don't know if it was when
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  Speaker 2: I had Mono in college or what, but I remember
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  Speaker 2: watching it consistently and being intrigued, like invested into the show.
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  Speaker 2: And I don't get that invested. I mean, I guess
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  Speaker 2: since I've been on it very often. So my favorite
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  Speaker 2: Bachelor season that it's tough. I haven't watched many. I
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  Speaker 2: kind of only watched.
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  Speaker 4: The sides of what we're working it.
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  Speaker 2: Well, that's what I was going to say. I didn't
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  Speaker 2: watch many before my time on the show, so I
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  Speaker 2: hadn't seen many. I mean I watched Souls' season because
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  Speaker 2: I thought it was valuable and important and I thought
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  Speaker 2: that was really good. However, I would say my favorite
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  Speaker 2: season would maybe be like everybody else's right Now and
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  Speaker 2: a little recency bias would be Joey's. I just think
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  Speaker 2: we needed right like we needed it now, and I
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  Speaker 2: think it really stepped up and filled a gap that was,
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  Speaker 2: you know, very needed during that time. So I would
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  Speaker 2: say between those two, but those might be the only
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  Speaker 2: two I've watched. I mean, Chris's was probably the only
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  Speaker 2: one I watched for fun for fun before my time,
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  Speaker 2: So it's kind of hard for me to say. And
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  Speaker 2: I just think, for whatever reason, the Bachelor seasons in
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  Speaker 2: the last few years have been subpar quite.
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  Speaker 3: Honestly, Okay, I got a question from Kendall, which contestant
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  Speaker 3: from any season would you think mate would make a
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  Speaker 3: great lead. I was always wanting it to be Peter Crouse,
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  Speaker 3: Like up until this year, I would have liked them
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  Speaker 3: to pick Peter Crouse like aka, like right now, like
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  Speaker 3: I wish he was currently the Bachelor, except for he
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  Speaker 3: just announced that he has a girlfriend and crazy. I
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  Speaker 3: met this girlfriend ten almost ten years ago at an
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  Speaker 3: event in Fort Lauderdale, Florida. It was a Bachelor event.
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  Speaker 4: I think she was just a fan there.
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  Speaker 3: She was a local sports reporter and I was like,
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  Speaker 3: this girl, like I could see her on the show,
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  Speaker 3: like she she's got it going on. And then and
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  Speaker 3: I followed her. I don't know, we like hit it
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  Speaker 3: off at this event and she's one of like the
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  Speaker 3: thirteen hundred people that I follow And then all of
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  Speaker 3: a sudden, I saw her post about him and then
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  Speaker 3: him post about her just as recently as like ten
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  Speaker 3: days ago.
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  Speaker 2: So who would you pick them?
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  Speaker 4: Who would I pick now?
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  Speaker 2: Yes?
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  Speaker 4: On the market.
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  Speaker 2: No, it's hard for me to even think of many
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  Speaker 2: people that are on the market.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, everybody who I would pick I think is off.
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  Speaker 2: The market now, so Peter Krause. And then who would
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  Speaker 2: be the bachelorette choice for you? Oh?
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  Speaker 4: The bachelorette choice?
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  Speaker 2: This one's easy for me. I would love to see
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  Speaker 2: Caitlin Bristow running back.
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  Speaker 4: Okay, fine, there you know, there you am.
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  Speaker 3: I wish I could be interesting and unique and pick
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  Speaker 3: up somebody who you didn't just say, but that is that?
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  Speaker 4: It would be it.
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  Speaker 2: I would love to, especially with her sitting where she's at,
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  Speaker 2: knowing her personality.
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  Speaker 4: She's a little taken, I think, too.
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  Speaker 2: Well, true, good point, I even think about that she is.
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  Speaker 2: I also think that secretly there's been some recent seasons
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  Speaker 2: where some of those girls that we saw on Paradise
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  Speaker 2: would be great leads. The I forget her last name,
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  Speaker 2: but you know, is it jess geraldy? I think is
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  Speaker 2: how you can say. And I think some of her
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  Speaker 2: friends that she moved to San Diego with, I think
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  Speaker 2: could definitely be a lead or contenders to be leads.
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  Speaker 2: I think Victoria Fuller would bring a really funny season.
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  Speaker 2: I think it would be pretty wild. She kind of
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  Speaker 2: had the Caitlin Bristow mentality, and I think that could
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  Speaker 2: be it could be fun. As far as MINGO.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm very curious to hear this.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, he's married and been married for a long time.
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  Speaker 2: I always thought Wells or Dean would have been great leads.
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  Speaker 2: I think they would have brought a really fun like
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  Speaker 2: vibe to the show. That you know, they both kind
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  Speaker 2: of do what they want when they want, and I
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  Speaker 2: think that was something important. So those would be like
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  Speaker 2: my men, leads that I would have loved to watch.
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  Speaker 4: Neither one of them would have taken it seriously.
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  Speaker 2: No, and it would have been great.
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  Speaker 4: Probably why they both weren't.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, it would have been awesome.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: All right, hey, Ashley, we only have time for one
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  Speaker 2: more question here, and this is switching gears to a
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  Speaker 2: more kind of relational, more intimate question. This is from
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  Speaker 2: Michael and it was sent to me. He wanted us
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  Speaker 2: to talk about it, and so Michael, I am answering
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  Speaker 2: this question. He says, I'm from a small town in
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  Speaker 2: eastern Canada called Frederic Fredericton, very clickie town. Everyone knows everyone.
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  Speaker 2: I grew up without any social skills until university and
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  Speaker 2: gain skills and confidence and friends when he was at university.
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  Speaker 2: I was not diagnosed with borderline personality disorder, so in
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  Speaker 2: small towns you get labeled. That's an important sentence. Been
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  Speaker 2: single on and off since mid twenties. I use dating apps, However,
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  Speaker 2: I get bored usually any recommendations on how to meet
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  Speaker 2: new people.
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  Speaker 3: I don't know how you get over it. I think
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  Speaker 3: you probably get out there socially a little bit more.
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  Speaker 3: You probably, like you know, join some community things, You
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  Speaker 3: find more friends, and then the word is spread that
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  Speaker 3: you know, this guy's actually really cool, we were wrong
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  Speaker 3: about him all that, and then perhaps ladies or gentlemen,
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  Speaker 3: whatever you're into, will get you know the word, and
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  Speaker 3: then you can start hanging out with bigger groups. And
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  Speaker 3: that's probably the best way of dating anyway, is meeting
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  Speaker 3: through groups and through friends.
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  Speaker 2: I did see recent statistic now that eighty percent of
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  Speaker 2: people do meet online, and friends and family used to
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  Speaker 2: be ninety percent of the way that people met and
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  Speaker 2: that's dropped down to like thirteen percent here in the
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  Speaker 2: recent years and only going to get more.
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  Speaker 4: So that's why he brings it up. Yeah, dating apps
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  Speaker 4: aren't the best for him.
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  Speaker 2: I appreciate that Michael sent us this message. It means
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  Speaker 2: a lot that he trusts us with his advice, and
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  Speaker 2: I'm guaranteeing he's listening with a hopeful ear of what
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  Speaker 2: can he do. And I think actually touched on some
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  Speaker 2: really important things. Here's what I've learned in my you know,
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  Speaker 2: thirty five years on Earth. We all have something right
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  Speaker 2: and there's really no way to quantify pain. There's different
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  Speaker 2: levels of pain, different levels of trauma, but we all
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  Speaker 2: have something that causes us to be different, and different
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  Speaker 2: is good. And so here's my first piece of advice.
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  Speaker 2: You got to own this difference, can be ashamed of it.
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  Speaker 2: And so I think the more you advocate for people
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  Speaker 2: like you, I think the more that you surround yourself
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  Speaker 2: with friends, as Ashley said, and not that you're obsessed
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  Speaker 2: with talking about this, you know, diagnosis that you've had,
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  Speaker 2: but that you're not ashamed of it, because the truth
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  Speaker 2: is it is what makes you you, and so you
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  Speaker 2: own it so that it doesn't feel taboo. People can
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  Speaker 2: ask you questions about it, they can be curious about it.
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  Speaker 2: That's half of what dating is anyways, right, is asking
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  Speaker 2: questions and getting to learn and understand somebody for who
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  Speaker 2: they actually are. I think the other way to your
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  Speaker 2: question of how you meet people, I think you pick
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  Speaker 2: a few things that you're really passionate about, and I
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  Speaker 2: think this goes It can be done in a lot
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  Speaker 2: of different ways. You can sit down at home and
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  Speaker 2: write down some things that really fire you up in life,
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  Speaker 2: that really gets you excited, and as Ashley said, you
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  Speaker 2: start to join volunteer groups. You start to join community
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  Speaker 2: groups that are focused around these things. Maybe it's animals,
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  Speaker 2: or maybe it's you know, children's hunger, maybe it's all
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  Speaker 2: of those things, and you start to involve yourself in
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  Speaker 2: those activities because your presence, your time, and your effort
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  Speaker 2: are valuable. Those places need you and they need people
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  Speaker 2: like you. So you get there because you're going to
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  Speaker 2: meet people with similar interests, You're going to be able
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  Speaker 2: to talk to them about the things that you're working on,
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  Speaker 2: and you're going to become a vital part of that
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  Speaker 2: community where people know you and they say, yeah, that
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  Speaker 2: person is such a good volunteer. For this great organization
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  Speaker 2: in this small town that we live in. I understand
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  Speaker 2: the social skills aspect. But here's the point. Here's the
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  Speaker 2: thing that I know to be true. There is gonna
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  Speaker 2: be somebody, and I believe there's gonna be multiple people.
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  Speaker 2: They're gonna love you for who you are once they
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  Speaker 2: get to understand you, once they get to learn from you,
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  Speaker 2: once they get to hear you know why sometimes you
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  Speaker 2: need to step away and get in quiet because you
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  Speaker 2: get overwhelmed or whatever you know it is that happens
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  Speaker 2: to you. They're gonna be like that just makes Michael Michael, Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: Michael needs a break. That's okay. That to me is
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  Speaker 2: the place that you can get to. But this first step,
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  Speaker 2: and I go back to it, is to get confident
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  Speaker 2: in the fact that yes, this is you, this isn't
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  Speaker 2: going to change, and to own who you are so
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  Speaker 2: that people can are to ask the questions that they
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  Speaker 2: need to ask, like hey, why do you you know
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  Speaker 2: hide out or why do you seem to get really
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  Speaker 2: angryly quickly and then feel so bad for it? Like
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  Speaker 2: they can start to understand this about you and they
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  Speaker 2: can start to fall in love with who you are
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  Speaker 2: as a person this. I know it feels daunting, and
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  Speaker 2: I know it feels like you're looking, you know, through
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  Speaker 2: the window at everybody else who seems quote unquote normal,
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  Speaker 2: and you're like, I just want to be like them.
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  Speaker 2: Why can't I react the way they are? The truth is,
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  Speaker 2: once you get to know people, all of us have
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  Speaker 2: our differences, all of us have our thing. That's what
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  Speaker 2: makes the world.
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  Speaker 3: Cool, beautiful. Answer, So good luck to you. I think
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  Speaker 3: I think he's going to do I think he's going
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  Speaker 3: to take your advice to heart.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, it doesn't.
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  Speaker 3: It will be easy, right, It's always well because like
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  Speaker 3: signing up for that stuff, becoming part of the community
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  Speaker 3: can be a little awkward at first, but once you're
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  Speaker 3: like immersed.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, then it's then it's like high flying. I mean
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  Speaker 2: it's kind of like you said when it comes to university.
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  Speaker 2: Right when you step into college, you're like eyes wide open,
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  Speaker 2: so scared, so nervous. Everything you can do, it's amazing everything. Yeah, weekend,
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  Speaker 2: you're like, I know all my favorite places, I know
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  Speaker 2: when people I want to join this, you know, it happens.
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  Speaker 2: It's just life and own it. Own the differences. Hey,
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  Speaker 2: that's been another episode of the Almost Famous podcast. This
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  Speaker 2: is question to answer is a few fun ones and
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  Speaker 2: then one from Michael. The one from Michael is very
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  Speaker 2: special to all of us. If you're out there and
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  Speaker 2: you have some questions that you would love Ashley and
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  Speaker 2: I to talk through in the very you know, carrying
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  Speaker 2: way that we try, then please submit those questions to us.
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  Speaker 2: Until next time, I've been Ben, I've been Ashley.
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  Speaker 4: See you.
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