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how to get unstuck · feel your feelings with Ethan Jewell

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  Mental illness is already difficult enough on its own to
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  deal with however, when we feel stuck or like the mental illness
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  is a part of us that is when it can become far more difficult
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  and that is when it can become deadly, hey, there and welcome
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  back to another episode of feel your feelings with me, Ethan
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  Jewel. This is a podcast.
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  I started all about mental health, and mental health
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  awareness. Now I'm not a doctor, a
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  psychologist or professional in the mental health industry
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  whatsoever. I'm just a normal guy who was
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  felt some big feelings It's very passionate about mental health
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  and wants to start the conversation.
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  So, thank you so much for being here.
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  And, as always, let's feel some feelings, feeling.
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  Stuck is a difficult thing, it makes you feel helpless and
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  makes you feel like you simply can't do anything and it really
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  keeps you from living a fulfilled and healthy life.
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  You see mental illness is very, very difficult.
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  And one thing that is very common among people with mental
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  illness is feeling stuck with in whatever field.
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  Things that they're feeling I've experienced this extensively.
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  I've struggled with depression a lot in my life and often when
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  I'm overrun by feelings of depression.
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  I also feel like I'm stuck with in them.
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  It's difficult to see a way out. It's almost impossible to see
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  the light at the end of the tunnel.
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  I'm overwhelmed by these feelings in the moment.
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  I'm overwhelmed by the feelings of depression and I simply can't
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  focus on anything else. And I can't even think about
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  getting out of those feelings. They Consume me.
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  I become stuck. It's like quicksand.
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  Sometimes, the more I fight, the more stuck I feel.
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  I feel like I'm sinking within this feeling so I wondered if
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  this was a common thing and I began to wonder why this
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  happens. If you've experienced this, you
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  know, how frustrating it is to feel stuck.
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  You know how frustrating it is to become convinced that this
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  mental illness is a part of you and that you're never going to
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  get rid of it. So, I did a little bit of
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  research and I started trying to figure out why we feel stuck.
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  And what I came across was very interesting and is what I wanted
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  to talk about today. I found an article from
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  psychologists Dennis real Ohio, howl called the psychology of
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  feeling stuck, why we trap ourselves in situations and I
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  started reading through this article and what I found felt
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  painfully relatable and I realized it is exactly why I
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  feel stuck. It's exactly why I struggle to
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  get better. Why I struggled for so long to
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  do anything about the depressive feelings?
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  That I felt see he States. All individuals experience,
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  shame. It can be a helpful emotion, a
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  healthy level of Shame. Let's individuals know when
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  they've made mistakes. But some people, secretly carry,
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  toxic levels of Shame. This baggage associated with
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  shame keeps an individual from moving forward, making them feel
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  stuck and I read that. And I really started to think
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  about my own experience, with mental illness and carrying
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  baggage and carrying shame in feeling stuck.
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  And I realized Feelings are absolutely correlated.
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  Let me break it down when we feel mentally ill, we often feel
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  ashamed of it. Our society teaches us that real
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  mental illness is something to be ashamed of.
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  Yes, we are making progress when it comes to mental health
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  awareness. But people still don't want to
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  face the reality of mental illness.
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  They don't want to face the gross difficult to understand
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  parts of mental health. It's hard.
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  It's hard to talk about, it's hard to see, but it's real
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  people who With mental illness, often feel ashamed of the
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  difficult feelings that they face because they feel alone and
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  isolated within them, they try to then hide.
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  These feelings leading to further, feelings of isolation,
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  and shame. This is a brutal cycle and one
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  that I was caught in for many, many years.
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  I tried to hide how deeply I was hurting.
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  I hardly told my family, I didn't tell friends and I tried
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  to pretend like everything was fine.
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  I became deeply ashamed. Of the feelings that Part of me.
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  And at the same time, I felt incredibly stuck When we
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  struggle with shame, When we struggle with this baggage, as
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  the article, I was reading States, we struggle to move
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  forward, we are weighed down by her.
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  Baggage of the past. We are weighed down by the
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  heaviness of our shame and it becomes impossible to grow.
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  It becomes impossible to become a better person.
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  It becomes impossible to heal. Healing is already a difficult
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  process, but when were way Weighed down by shame.
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  And we don't share our emotions with other people because we're
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  embarrassed of them. It becomes impossible to heal a
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  big part of healing. Our mental health is sharing our
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  feelings with other people, whether it be a therapist
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  friend, a family member. Somebody who could be trusted
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  anybody, a big part of healing is sharing.
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  We have to share our feelings. We need to talk them out the way
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  I've begun healing. My mental health is by sharing
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  my emotions through music and I Two friends.
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  I talk to my family. I'm very open about my mental
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  health because I don't feel tied to shame anymore.
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  As I shared, I realized other people are there for you.
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  They're there, they care and they'll love you through it.
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  And if they don't, then that tells you, they aren't the right
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  people to keep around in your life.
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  And one day, somebody will care deeply and they will love you
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  and they will help you heal through this mental.
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  Health is a difficult field to navigate within it isn't.
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  Credibly difficult and it becomes almost impossible when
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  were weighed down by feelings of Shame.
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  This leads us to feel stuck and feeling stuck.
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  Keeps us where we are. It keeps us mentally ill.
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  It keeps us depressed, anxious, and feeling every bad feeling in
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  the book. So please do not be ashamed of
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  what you are. Do not be ashamed of the
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  feelings that are a part of you. They are a part of The Human
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  Experience. Everybody feels deep.
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  Placated. Intricate, and sometimes painful
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  emotions. And there's nothing to be
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  ashamed. Of don't let this drag you down.
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  I encourage you to talk to a loved one to talk to a family
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  member, a friend that you trust anybody, that you trust, who
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  will listen, it is the most important thing we can do to
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  heal our mental health. I believe in you.
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  It helped me so much, and it can help you too.
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  If we can just get over this shame.
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  And if we can get over the taboo nature of Mental Health,
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  Everybody struggles every single person on Earth has struggled
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  with some kind of mental battle, and you do not need to struggle
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  alone. Feeling stuck is difficult.
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  I've experienced it a lot. And I actually wrote an entire
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  album about it that comes out in one week.
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  June 2nd. So give it a listen.
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  When it comes out, it's called stuck in a bad place by Ethan
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  Jewel. That's going to wrap it up for
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  today's episode. Thank you so much for being
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  here. Please shoot me a message on my
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  my Instagram at Jewel, boy underscore.
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  And let me know what you thought about today's episode.
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  I release music, all about Mental Health, on all platforms
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  as well, under the name of Ethan Jewel, if you need a good cry,
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  you should go listen to it. So, thank you so much for being
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  here. Thank you for understanding
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  that. You should not be ashamed of
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  your emotions. And as always, thank you for
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  feeling your feelings. I'll see you next time.