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Rabbi Moshe Haber Path of the Just- Layers of Shabbat Observance 5.21.25 · Rabbi Moshe Haber - Daily Mussar/Weekly Perasha

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  Dom the Cute. Page page. 226 corn on the 227.
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  Good bacon. The idea you got it good yes
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  good the idea of cleansing ourselves in each one spot on
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  his point and so far many topics.
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  There are a lot of levels and a person can not just say I'm good
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  at that I'm good at that topic is enough.
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  We have to work at it. So for example, we had honesty
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  we had when it came to Hulashan and devotion area, a lot of
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  different areas. So another one now is keeping
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  Shabbat. There are a lot of layers to
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  Shabbat observance. We know them from this
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  community. How many different versions
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  there are. We discussed yesterday, right?
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  That's even inside. And the idea is he came to say
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  I'm shamed. Shabbat originally, you could.
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  Now we want to work on it and developing.
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  They used to be not going to work with someone.
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  That's it. That's great.
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  Already that was. Now, right now, we want to add
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  feeling young not. Turning on the radio in the car
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  on the way to work with human. Yeah, very.
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  Brave, jealous. You're not old enough.
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  That was a brainwashed guy here. You guys weren't smoking
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  something? Not smoking.
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  Sorry, get a walk. Don't.
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  You. Wow.
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  See, there's all levels. They all included the fact that
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  the people were being conscious, which is a good thing.
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  They worked out from there. So in the community we worked a
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  lot and removing all these different things.
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  And now the goal is to completely cleanse it.
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  And it started aiding the positives too.
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  Bringing on a Shabbat, bringing the Shabbat table, going to
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  shore, bringing the feeling, dressing properly, having the
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  right suffer. All these things are also part
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  of layers of Shiba observance, so a person can't just question,
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  answer all you shall be Shabbat, yes or no?
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  There's a lot more to it, as we'll see.
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  The point is is. A good answer.
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  To a point, I keep Shabbat. I do this.
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  I know it's better to be more than that when it comes to this
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  topic. We all know it's only because
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  there are so many different laws regarding this topic.
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  Hirkita rabta E Shabta, you are a lot.
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  It sounds like a rhyme. Hirkita Rabta E Shabta, there
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  are many laws when it comes to Shabbat and even when it comes
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  to the Rabbanans Alphabeti him, even though it's only from the
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  rebels, from the rebels like Muhsir and these things and very
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  important ALDI Schwut Kalabener and the Gemma has to adjust and
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  it say, don't say oh, to the Rabanan, it's not a big deal.
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  There are many of them, true, but they were important.
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  Shoot, shoot. He viner to Abu Dhor.
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  The generations is from the Dravanan.
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  So is that with that proof? Not sure the Kolam Shavin, the
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  Cavortinova Brazil mystery, every detail is very important.
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  With all those different ramifications, we have to be
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  careful. The idea is that many laws
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  umashi crochet Allah and Mon Shimerato, who has she
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  retirement ASIC and with the baby masam Matram.
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  Let me let me delve into opinion commentary.
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  I think one of the hardest things for the community to keep
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  is not working and not talking about work either.
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  This to me. He's giving you time.
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  About years ago all. To send me.
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  Out they're not. Working is is is not the hard.
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  It's anymore working. About work, yeah.
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  But nowadays, not working in my SO, that's exactly.
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  But now I talk to my work, it's hard, Vulam, he says.
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  That's a good example of an A level where a person can't
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  simply say I'm Shama Shabbat, they need to say all my words
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  Shama Shabbat too. Vulam person has to know hi
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  suraj, this topic Mevoir Pete vena Navi.
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  They're clear in the words of the prophet hebator respect
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  Shabbat nasot de raheja from making new irregular ways.
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  You eat the ways. And so hits the heart with Abeda
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  bar in our finding your Shabbat regular debut de Verde bar
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  talking about mundane things. So it's a clear pass Sukhva
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  Naveen. It's a real topic, and yet it's
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  a tough topic, as an example, where a person can't simply say,
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  check the box, say again, what was the Yankees score?
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  That's not his bait. The Yankees score is not.
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  It's not. It's mundane.
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  It's not his basis. Marco Shukol mash a surba,
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  Shabbat lassoor, anything, a simple rule, anything that's a
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  SU on Shabbat to do. It's a SU on Shabbat to talk
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  about a SU Le Chad El barbudo. It's a suit to work toward it,
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  to do certain things that are going to help your business.
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  And we day because you can't do it.
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  You can't even angle toward it. Ola Hasquito, repeat, cannot
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  even order out of your mouth. Words work with a hen, a sue.
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  In fact, let's see how the storm.
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  You know the code to the store and Sunday's a big day.
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  Saturday night is a major market day.
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  You want to walk into the store. That's the word.
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  Look at the merchandise, see what you have, see if you're
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  ready. That too, cannot be done because
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  that's weekday stuff you're getting involved in the weekday
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  stuff to compute in your mind, what do I need to get more of
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  tomorrow? Cannot go to the store.
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  All right, now it's easy me to say I don't understand high
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  level. I used to walk.
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  We used to walk. I remember when I stopped
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  wanting to work on shut up, my brother and brother, I went to I
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  I used to walk to the store and like kind of be there but not be
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  there, but not work, but work. Yeah.
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  So, but you were thinking what you're using your mind.
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  Right, you're working in your mind for all little mental
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  absolutely. And the whole idea is it is
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  level of ambiance, a level of feeling that I was about to
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  feel. And we could have check every
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  box and we can fail at the omelets or we could take the
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  same structure, have the right approach and we can succeed as
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  we'll see guys. I know somebody in Myrtle Beach
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  that closed on the Shabbat between the Rosh Hashanah and
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  Kipu, but got in the car Go see if the others were busy.
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  Exactly. It's hard to enjoy yourself.
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  Was in the I Was I still when I? Was in New York.
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  I wasn't. Even there this is funny Ole le
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  la PETA Hamidina. Another example of this
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  challenge is a person goes to the city.
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  You know the city limits. Let's say it's Belila getting
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  ready to get into the next car right with you about ends to
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  leave Benera la merchants and this example to go to the bath
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  house or to visit something else.
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  So he's getting himself ready right before Vala sulomar de
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  vappoloni ayesela maghar. So not only can you do these
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  actions of preparing, you also cannot discuss what tomorrow's
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  plans are or sohraboloni eknila maghar.
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  I'm going to purchase certain merchandise tomorrow.
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  The rain called, it's a bazem. All similar examples.
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  Are these different? Are these difficult?
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  This is all difficult, but the idea is there are levels to the
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  idea of Shabbat. How many levels do you know in
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  your framework? How many levels do we know in
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  the community? How many different kinds are
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  there? Different sheet, you know.
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  The most impressive thing when I was a kid, I was in Atlantic
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  City every summer working OK, and that time Atlantic City was
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  the biggest thing they had the beauty pageant day, everything.
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  There was no casinos. Labor Day was the biggest,
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  biggest event of the year. But what's Shanna?
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  Saturday night, Labor Day weekend, every.
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  That's why I closed this door. I went with my other my brother.
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  We took a a hotel on Pacific Ave.
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  It was a Sephardic show of Spanish.
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  Nobody opened up. Everybody gave he.
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  Was the old rush and up but no that.
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  Would be almost everybody closed on Rush and.
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  We came back from We spent one year in Myrtle Beach in the 70s.
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  There was a. Lonnie O'shell.
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  It's my grandfather shoe. Right, I know I see the names
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  so. We spent one year there.
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  It was. That was it.
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  Every holiday, no matter how early it came, we were in.
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  New York. This is the process.
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  So with that structure led to more, which led to more, which
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  will be to more and. You know, let me know how we
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  went today. You have it in your heart.
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  Have it in your heart, maybe to do more.
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  It's something to build. On it was here I don't know
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  today and we could even look those days and even judge
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  properly one most people don't work on Saturday in this country
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  anyhow 2 most people don't like to work they like vacation right
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  it's different mindset and three I mean not that many people are
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  in those types of stores. So it's a whole different mini
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  Sayon and today's. And even the people that are
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  still in it, the head managers, the stores are open.
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  Yeah, they're not working. Correct.
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  It's different heads. It's Shabbat idea, the Shabbat
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  feeling. It's something that's very
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  significant and it's again, something that requires the
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  cute. The cute means you clean
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  yourself in the area, you get better and better, and the
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  approach is constantly looking at ways to build upon your
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  Shabbat. All right, let's take what we're
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  going into right now. We're about to go into a
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  weekend, many people are away and then go into a chef.
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  What many people are away go into a summer, many people on a
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  different structure. And like we've said before, that
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  calls for a Shabbat challenge. We all know it to be the case.
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  Shabbat in one place is different than Shabbat in
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  another place. The challenge is greater and
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  it's you, not the harder. And a person has to reset
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  themselves and put more emphasis on making sure your Shabbat is
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  right in such a situation. So in the morning you have to
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  work on your mignon. Where are we praying?
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  Where are my kids expecting to be #1 #2 you have to work on
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  your Shabbat table. Where am I eating?
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  How is it going to lift the table?
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  Are we wearing normal clothes by the table?
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  Right? I've heard this to be the case.
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  Kids go to shul Brooklyn, look around, have the shul's kids,
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  kids run around the whole shoe. I've heard this to be a real
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  thing that people when they go to deal, they don't even bring
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  for their kids, many of them shoe clothes.
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  And it's a wild thing here. The kids are in the whole
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  community in Brooklyn. The whole mindset is you cater
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  to the kids, you work with the kids, build the kids up,
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  etcetera, etcetera. Because of the logic, we all
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  know how important it is for the kids and how much they become
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  connected. And then in the winter, summer,
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  now part of it is early Manhattan thing partially, and
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  part of it is the mindset. They just whatever.
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  So it's a wild thing. I have to work at that and tell
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  yourself my kids require Shabbat just like I do and they're going
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  to go to school. So all my grandkids says to be
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  the mindset and has to be worked on.
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  The point is, without any kids, well, working at something, you
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  can't just say I'm Shamisabad, I'm good to go, but.
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  The short the the I had this argument, the rabbi and Bill the
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  shoes and the community are catering to this lifestyle
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  instead of someone getting up there and and just educating the
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  people how when you regress now, so kind of October, November,
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  you just rebuilding to maybe get back to where you started and
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  then you get nowhere. It's like you're spinning your
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  wheels where they offering all these first minions and it's not
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  because a guy wants to pray early if I have them, you know
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  what I mean? It's a crotch.
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  It's a crutch to allow them to do this.
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  I have a photo that it's too early for the little kids to
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  come with them. So now that's their app where
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  the kid doesn't go to school. More guilty as charged to the
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  only differences this year we had I think in that place.
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  I think the number is like 70% stained to learn the whole time.
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  So at least the first class even more wow.
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  So that was felt better, but still, I still think it's a
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  challenge that kids need a place. 1000% yeah.
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  It has to be more focused on that.
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  And it's amazing, you say. Oh.
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  It is. I mean, I suffered 10 years in
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  those kids binyons with the. School.
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  Oh gosh. No, but that's what my wife
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  says. You have to be consistent if
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  you're going to do it. You can't just do it 10 months.
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  If not, you're not going to do anything and it's the truth.
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  I sat there, I dealt with it till they were up to 1413 and
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  then you get to get get out of jail free cards to do who you
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  want. But you know, you got to put in,
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  you got to put in the time. I understand in the in the Shiba
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  world, they have a classic concept.
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  Every few months there's been azamari, which is a break.
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  Some of them along and some of them can be very destructive.
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  So you have a kid who was, let's say, living out of town, all on
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  the Shiba grounds. He's out there.
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  He got he got his schedule. He was there.
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  He was building himself on and on.
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  Then he comes home. Home was wonderful, city is
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  great. But now he's had no structure,
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  no one telling he's he's wild, no one telling him when to wake
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  up. He might miss Mingyan.
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  His learning schedule's all over the place.
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  He might have said late at night, no one's really on top of
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  him. And it's an unbelievable
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  contrast. And then she knows this is a
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  major thing to have to work on. That's where they have these
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  things bad as the main learning as we have over here, because
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  otherwise the boys can be like this and they can fall off.
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  So they say that very and and and the challenge around what
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  they say is you come back after the after the break and they got
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  to restart, right. You got to get your mind into
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  it. You got to blow the stuff up.
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  Like you said, it takes months. It could take months for a kid
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  to get him back to his peak. All right, true.
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  The matter is for many book and shoes in a cinema.
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  Thank God we saw of the year with the holidays.
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  The holidays are charged and they're strong and they're very
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  motivated. I mean includes to the hot.
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  That's very good for many people.
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  Minus that, it would take a long time to get us back to
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  ourselves. That doesn't mean the deal
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  infrastructure is not good. The deal infrastructure is
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  amazing. It's incredible and people have
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  to use it. It's unbelievable.
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  People have to use it. It's good.
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  And bad There's a lot of good, There's a lot.
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  Of bad. I'm saying that the shoe
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  infrastructure is now amazing. Yeah, the shoes, there's a lot
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  of challenge there, but you have all the ability now.
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  But if the kids are doing all the other stuff, it's an
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  unbelievable conscious you look at.
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  You can't understand how the same people are doing these
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  things from good families, good backgrounds, just a little bit
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  with the word, you know, relaxed mindset, a little bit foot off
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  the pedal and it can go haywire in a second.
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  It can be so with the little kids, it can be so with the
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  teenagers for sure, and it can even be so with the adults.
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  So we have to be on top of it when it comes to Shima Shabbat,
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  be on top of the fact. And this example is really
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  everything you know, even such. Route too.
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  I know people. Shoot.
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  So certainly at home they go on vacation, they eat anything not
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  nailed out. Sure, sure.
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  I'm on vacation. I can't believe that I I your
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  others, then you need that you part F they anything not nailed
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  down. I'm telling you, be probably
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  others. They're on vacation.
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  It's a wild muds and it's just some sort of head that we have
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  to work out. You have to be not key in this
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  like he meets. I work at it, I work at it and I
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  never lit up and I'm consistent in this concept.
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  If you that case, you'll see Shaban deal is beautiful.
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  You'll see you come back, eat his building.
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  You're not trying to eat grabby kiss in different places.
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  You're good, you're strong, you're healthy.
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  It takes a lot of work. I know it takes a lot of work,
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  but it's worth it and you can develop and you can build.
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  And then as Rabbit would say, they have this concept that has
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  only this one said, I use the concept all the time.
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  He once said for boys, he said if you learn a certain amount of
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  hours, if you learn an hour, you're wise.
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  Two hours, you're wiser. 3 hours straight, to give examples, 3
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  hours straight, you're very, very wise.
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  In fact, at that point your advice is very clear.
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  You go more, you go more, you go more and one hour builds another
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  hour. And he says I have this certain
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  amount of time to person can borderline have a level, as he
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  says, a level of ruach ha Kurdish.
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  It doesn't mean he's seen any things that say anything.
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  It means his clarity of mine is so strong because of his
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  consistency and building 1 on the other unbelievable clarity.
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  That's true when it comes to learning.
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  It's also true when it comes to your observance.
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  If things are consistent and you don't have a break, you don't
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  destroy it. You don't have to pick up the
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  pieces. You can become something.
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  You could leave people in the dust.
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  That's how strong you can be, has to be on my side.
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  So you're going to the Shabbat, you're going to the holiday,
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  you're going wherever you're going.
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  You got to go away from time to time.
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  Keep up the consistency and be dedicated to having in your
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  home, the same home that you believe should be done.
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  Have it wherever it is. Don't allow the world or the
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  climate and the way people do it.
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  The dictator you have, you have a way.
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  All of a sudden we change places and now all the things are
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  allowed. All of a sudden we change
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  places. Now a Shabbat table.
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  I don't know where they're crying from, where they're
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  going. We're wearing shorts.
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  Doesn't make sense. You have a beauty in Brooklyn.
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  You have a beauty. Wherever you are has to be the
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  most. And if you do, it's a beautiful
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  thing and it's a display of consistency.
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  They can help you for a lifetime.
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  Let me just help you for the next month.
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  It helps you for a lifetime and develops a strength nobody else
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  has. All right, that's the idea.