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Fornication: The Sin We Rename, Excuse, and Regret—And the Holiness Christ Commands and Gives · Reformed Thinking

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  Welcome back to Reformed Thinking and to another deep
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  dive. The idea here is simple.
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  We take a stack of sources, theological arguments, biblical
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  commentaries, cultural critiques, and we try to get to
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  the heart of what matters. We want to give you the targeted
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  knowledge you need to feel well grounded.
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  And today we are jumping into a really defining issue of our
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  age, sexual morality. Specifically, we're looking at
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  what the Bible calls fornication or pornea.
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  Our sources measure the current cultural mood, which, you know,
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  loves to rename, and excuse this behavior against the unchanging
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  standard of God's holiness. It's a heavy topic for sure.
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  It is, and our mission today is to really understand the gravity
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  of the biblical prohibition, but not just the prohibition itself.
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  We need to see that it's rooted in God's ownership, in his
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  design. And then and then we get to
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  celebrate the generosity of the gospel remedy that's provided in
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  Christ. So we're not just looking at
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  what the Bible forbids, but getting to the why.
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  That's a good way to put it. The documents we have in front
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  of us, they just make it impossible to treat this
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  lightly. They state pretty clearly that
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  fornication isn't a small error. You know, a minor misstep.
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  It's not a cultural adjustment. Not at all.
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  It's an action that violates God's revealed law, and it
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  wounds people who bear his image.
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  It results in really significant spiritual and relational damage.
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  And as always here, since this is Reformed thinking, we're
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  approaching this through the lens of God's sovereign
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  authority, the whole concept of covenant, and the systematic
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  structure of sin and grace. We're not really interested in
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  shifting opinions. No, we're after the enduring
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  truth of God's Word. So let's jump right in.
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  Let's start with the crisis of language, the battle over the
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  terms themselves. Good place to start.
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  OK, so let's unpack this. The source material points out
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  that our society has gotten remarkably good at making sexual
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  sins seem, well, appealing. It frames it as harmless
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  pleasure, or connection, or even self discovery.
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  And it does this with euphemisms, right?
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  Hooking up? Sleeping together.
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  Testing compatibility. That one too.
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  It all sounds so clinical and harmless.
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  And that linguistic camouflage is incredibly effective.
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  But it's precisely what the Bible just refuses to do.
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  What do you mean? Well, the sources draw this
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  analogy. A surgeon can't heal a wound by
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  calling it a scratch. A physician doesn't cure a
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  disease by flattering it. Right, you have to name it to
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  treat it. You have to.
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  So if we want to apply God's remedy, we have to first name
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  the disease based on His moral diagnosis, not our own
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  preferences. OK, so let's get those
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  definitions locked down. Let's start with the broadest
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  term the New Testament uses in its warnings.
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  That would be pornea. Pornea it's the the big umbrella
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  term. It covers all sexual activity
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  that is unlawful, meaning it happens outside the boundaries
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  got established in his covenantal design.
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  So this would cover what? Premarital sex, obviously.
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  Premarital sex, homosexuality, incest, any other form of
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  unchastity. When Paul gives these warnings,
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  you know in places like Matthew 15 where Jesus lists the evils
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  that come from the heart, or First Corinthians 6 where Paul
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  gives that singular command to pornea is the word.
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  So it's the general category for sexual immorality.
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  It is, which naturally leads to the distinction from adultery.
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  We tend to use those terms interchangeably, but the Bible
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  is more precise. It has to be.
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  The more specific term is wojea mojea.
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  And that's just adultery. It's specifically adultery,
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  sexual unfaithfulness that violates an existing marriage
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  covenant. So if a married person sleeps
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  with someone who isn't their spouse, that's morchea.
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  But if two single people sleep together.
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  That falls under the broader category of pornea, and the fact
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  that the general warnings use pornea is so important because
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  it specifically includes premarital sex.
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  It shows the prohibition isn't just about covenant breaking
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  like adultery, but about covenant disregard.
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  So entering into the sexual act without the covenant being there
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  in the 1st place? Exactly.
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  And what's the theological weight behind being so candid?
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  Why not just use softer language, especially for single
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  people? Because the sources argue that
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  the definition has to be covenantal, not cultural, And
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  that's because sexuality itself is covenantal.
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  The core issue is ownership and authority.
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  God's authority. God's authority.
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  The Bible defines sexual purity by whether the ACT happens
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  inside that publicly vowed, binding, exclusive framework of
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  marriage. If it's outside that bond, the
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  ACT is considered defilement I. Think of Hebrews 13.
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  Hebrews 13.4 is crystal clear. Marriage is to be held an honor
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  by all. The marriage bed is undefiled,
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  but God will judge the sexually immoral, the poorness and
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  adulterers. So the ACT itself, outside the
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  public Pharaoh carries the shame and judgement of lawlessness.
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  It doesn't matter how popular it is this.
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  Doesn't matter at all. You mentioned the power of
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  euphemisms to sanitize the conscience.
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  If I call the poison I'm drinking juice, It might quiet
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  my fear, but it doesn't change the fact that it's poison.
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  That's a perfect analogy. We see this massive cultural
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  effort to rename fornication called love.
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  Call it experimentation, called self-expression.
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  It's an attempt to silence that God-given conscience, isn't it?
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  The one that knows this act is sacred.
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  The second we start calling illicit sex clean, we are
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  actively rebelling against God's moral universe.
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  The pursuit of cleanness has to begin by admitting the activity
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  is in fact moral uncleanness. Which brings us to this
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  fundamental clash between the biblical ethic and the modern
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  secular 1 Consent. The world seems to frame sexual
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  activity as morally fine as long as everyone consents.
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  And this is where the source material draws a hard line.
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  Consent does not sanctify, covenant does.
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  Say more about that. Sexual Union was designed by God
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  to speak the language of lifelong, exclusive total
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  fidelity. The mutual agreement of two
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  people, which is all consent, is it can't magically transform an
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  act of rebellion into an act of holiness.
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  So even if everyone involved feels good about.
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  It even then, the Bible says the ACT is defiled because it's
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  outside the honor of the covenant.
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  Mutual agreement can't replace God's authority.
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  That distinction, covenant not consent, really shifts our
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  thinking from just a list of rules to a deep principle.
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  If God forbid it, what essential part of his design is being
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  violated? The violation is all about
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  fidelity and legitimate ownership.
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  When God established marriage in Genesis 2, He created a
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  protected, exclusive sanctuary for sexual union.
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  A safe place for it. A safe place and fornication, as
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  these sources describe it, is the functional attempt to get
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  the privileges of that sanctuary, the intimacy of the
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  pleasure, the connection, without taking on the promises
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  that build the walls. The promises of permanence,
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  responsibility, fidelity. All of it.
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  This is why the analysis calls it theft.
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  Dressed as romance. That's a.
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  Powerful phrase it is. Because the ACT itself says I
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  give my whole self to you forever.
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  That's the language it was designed to speak.
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  It's a one place bond. But the uncommitted heart holds
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  back the right to withdraw the promises the body is speaking.
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  It treats the other person as consumable.
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  Exactly as something to be used for gratification until the
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  relationship gets inconvenient or cost too much.
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  OK, let me play the cultural advocate for a second here.
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  If two adults freely agree to a temporary arrangement and they
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  both say upfront, hey, no promises, how is that theft?
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  What's being stolen if the bodies are, you know, freely
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  offered? That's the question, isn't it?
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  And the sources respond by pointing to the non negotiable
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  reality of that one flesh bond. The theft is happening on three
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  levels. OK, first, the ACT steals the
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  inherent meaning of sexual union itself.
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  It rips it away from his design as a perpetual bond.
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  You're using a tool, the physical act, for a purpose.
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  It was never designed for casual closeness, and you damage the
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  tool in the process. I see and the. 2nd 2nd The theft
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  is against yourself and against your neighbor because you're
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  treating people as a means to an end.
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  Even if you wave the verbal promises.
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  The one flesh act creates emotional and spiritual
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  entanglement. It just does.
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  So fractured expectations are almost inevitable.
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  They are the material describes how it steals purity, trust and
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  future spiritual integrity. It hardens your conscience
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  because it demands secrecy and self justification.
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  And this leads us right to what Paul says in First Corinthians
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  6, specifically to believers, this unique bodily offense.
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  Yes, exactly. Paul argues that every other sin
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  a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral
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  person sins against his own body.
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  That is a stark warning. It's different from other sins.
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  It is. While a sin, like lying, uses
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  the body, sexual sin involves the body in a uniquely personal
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  way, bonding the people involved.
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  And for a believer, this is not just personal damage, it's a
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  crime against ownership. Because our bodies are not our
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  own. They are purchased by divine
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  blood. They are members of Christ and
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  the temple of the Holy Spirit. So fornication becomes
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  sacrilege. Taking what belongs to the Lord.
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  And joining it to what the Lord forbids, It's an offense against
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  our new identity, against the lordship of Christ over our
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  whole being. It basically says I know I was
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  bought with a price but this part of me is still mine to use
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  however I want. Now, before we move on, we have
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  to make a clarification that the source material is very careful
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  about this is about voluntary sin versus being sinned against.
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  Absolutely, we must not confuse the two.
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  This whole discussion of porneia is about voluntary participation
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  in unlawful sex. Scripture is just as clear in
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  condemning all forms of sexual violence, coercion, abuse and
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  exploitation. Victims bear no moral guilt.
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  None the other ones who have been wronged.
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  Scripture commands us to defend and protect victims while the
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  perpetrator bears the full weight of judgment for their
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  wickedness. When we talk about sin here,
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  we're focused on the choices of those who willingly transgress
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  God's law. OK, that's a crucial
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  distinction. Let's move to Part 2.
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  God's design this idea that sexuality belongs to covenant,
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  not convenience. Right.
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  To really grasp why the prohibition is so serious, we
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  have to see the beauty in the order of the original blueprint.
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  God's design for sexuality isn't just some religious add on, it's
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  built into the structure of creation itself, laid out in
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  Genesis 2.24. It's a gift with meaning,
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  boundaries, and a sequence. A sequence.
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  That's the key, Genesis 2.24 says.
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  Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold
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  fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.
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  That sequence is the grammar of sexual ethics.
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  OK, let's break that down. The three verbs.
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  The order seems to be everything here.
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  It is everything. The first step is leaving.
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  This is a public, decisive act. It's a reordering of your
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  loyalties. It means you're separating from
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  dependence on your family of origin to start a new
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  independent domestic unit. It's a public outward
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  declaration. It is then the second step is
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  holding fast or cleaving. This speaks of permanence,
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  fidelity, exclusivity. This is the public legally
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  honored vow, the promise before God and witnesses that says I
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  belong to you alone until death separates us.
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  So that establishes the covenant framework.
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  It does, and only after leaving and holding fast does the text
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  mention one flesh. The bodily union is meant to
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  express and seal and consummate the full person commitment that
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  has already been publicly and legally vowed.
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  So the physical act is the public covenant made private.
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  That's a great way to say it. The implication, then, is that
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  our modern culture has just completely flipped that sequence
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  on its head. Completely inverted it, modern
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  convenience seeks the one flesh experience as a way to discover
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  if they even want the covenant of holding fast.
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  The audition. It's an audition, and often it's
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  done while people are still financially and emotionally
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  dependent on their original families, so they haven't even
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  done the leaving part. So you're forcing the sexual
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  act, which is designed to signify total permanent
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  belonging, to speak the language of temporary conditional
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  connection. That contradiction fractures the
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  purpose of the act and the integrity of the people
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  involved. You're tearing apart the
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  sequence that God joined together.
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  So to appreciate the boundaries, we have to appreciate the
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  goodness of what's inside them. The sources outlined 3 specific
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  purposes for marital sexuality. Right.
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  And they're protective, not punitive.
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  First, there's covenantal unity. This is the highest expression
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  of faithful love. You're treating your spouse not
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  as a relief valve, but as a covenant partner to whom you're
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  giving your embodied self. It's Communion.
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  It strengthens fidelity. It does.
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  Second, it's ordered toward fruitfulness.
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  Genesis 1.28 establishes that it's the means by which humanity
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  receives children as God's gift. Sex is tied to life, even if
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  life isn't the direct result of every single act.
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  OK, unity, fruitfulness and the third.
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  And 3rd and this really shows God's pastoral care.
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  It's a lawful safeguard. It's a God appointed home for
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  desire. Paul talks about this in First
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  Corinthians 7, saying spouses should render conjugal affection
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  to one another as a remedy against temptation and
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  uncleanness. So God doesn't extinguish
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  desire, He dignifies it and directs it into the safe harbor
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  of marriage. That's it.
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  Now let's contrast that robust 3 dimensional design with the
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  shallow experience of the modern convenience model.
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  Well, convenience model tries to isolate one purpose, pleasure or
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  temporary closeness and just discard the others.
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  It wants the experience of deep unity without the price of
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  fidelity or the responsibility of potential fruitfulness.
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  It misunderstands. The physics of the human soul.
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  It does. It treats sex like a shared
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  disposable hobby. You use it when it's fun and you
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  toss it when it gets emotionally heavy.
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  But the physical act itself isn't disposable.
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  It speaks that language of 1 flesh permanence.
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  It creates bonds and memories and habits you can't just
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  conveniently delete when the relationship ends.
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  And the predictable results of building a relationship on
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  convenience instead of covenant. They're destructive, yeah.
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  Convenience undermines trust and emotional safety because both
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  people know deep down that the arrangement is conditional and
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  temporary. The sources highlight the
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  fractures that follow, the anxiety of performance, the
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  shame that creeps in, suspicion, a hardening of the conscience.
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  And when real life hits. When real life hits conflict and
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  unplanned pregnancy, illness, aging, the convenience model has
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  no resources. It just offers escape.
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  But the structure built on covenant, on vows made before
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  God, is designed for endurance. The temporary arrangement just
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  can't bear the weight of reality.
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  Let's shift and look at this through the framework of the
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  moral law, specifically the 7th Commandment.
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  You shall not commit adultery. The theological traditions we're
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  working with, like the Westminster Larger Catechism,
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  teach that every commandment has both a negative and a positive
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  demand. Right.
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  What it forbids and what it requires.
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  So on the negative side, the prohibition is huge.
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  It goes way beyond just the physical act of adultery.
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  It does. It condemns the whole spectrum
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  of unchastity, fornication, incest, prostitution,
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  pornography, homosexual activity, and then, critically,
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  the internal drivers of these sins.
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  Lust. Immodesty, unchaste thoughts.
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  All of it. The law is a surgical
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  instrument. It doesn't just cut away the
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  outward behavior. It reveals the disease in the
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  heart. This is where Christ's teaching
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  in the Sermon on the Mount become so piercing.
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  It is when Jesus says that looking at a woman with lustful
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  intent means you've already committed adultery in your
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  heart. He's tracing the sin back to its
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  root in our desires and imagination.
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  The external act is just the rotten fruit of an already
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  freight land misdirected internal state.
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  So purity isn't just abstaining from certain physical acts, it's
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  about disciplining the mind and the will.
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  That's the core of it. OK, so if the negative demand is
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  restraint, what does the positive side require us to do?
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  What's the cultivation we're called to pursue?
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  The positive demand is the cultivation of chastity, and
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  biblically, chastity is the ordered, disciplined enjoyment
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  of God's gift both inside and outside of marriage.
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  It's a pursuit of holiness, not just repression.
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  So within marriage, what does that look like?
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  Within marriage, the positive duty requires active and
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  faithful love, tenor affection, and mutual conjugal care, that
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  ongoing rendering of duty to one another that Paul talks about in
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  First Corinthians 7. And outside of marriage, this is
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  where it can start to sound like just the long list of rules.
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  It can sound like rules, but it's actually the pursuit of
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  freedom. The Westminster Larger Catechism
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  gives this stunningly comprehensive list.
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  It requires chastity and body, mind, affections, words and
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  behavior. Which translates into very
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  specific actions. Very specific.
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  For the body it means modesty and physical boundaries.
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  For the mind it means guarding against unchaste media and
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  fantasy. For our affections it means
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  directing our love toward God and neighbor in holy, non sexual
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  ways. It demands self-control,
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  watchfulness, diligent labor, shunning all occasions of
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  uncleanness. And this is important,
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  recognizing that those without the gift of celibacy should seek
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  the remedy of lawful marriage. It's a pastoral command.
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  It is. It's guiding us toward the
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  structure that honors our design.
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  And we have to be clear that this obedience is not a system
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  for earning God's approval. Absolutely essential obedience
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  is the fruit and the evidence of salvation, not the 'cause we
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  uphold the moral law because it reveals the character of Christ,
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  grace restores us to delight in the law as a guiding light.
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  We pursue chastity not to become acceptable to God, but because
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  we were bought at the ultimate price and we want to glorify the
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  Redeemer who has already cleansed us.
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  All right, let's move into Part 3.
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  The sources consistently argue that fornication isn't a small
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  sin because its consequences are multidirectional.
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  It strikes upward, outward, and inward.
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  Let's start with the upward offense, the strike against God.
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  This is the most serious one, because it's a direct assault on
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  his authority and ownership. It's first simple lawlessness, A
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  willful act against the cleared will of the Holy One.
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  But more than that, the source material defines it as a
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  practical despising of God's authority.
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  The action says my temporary gratification matters more than
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  your eternal command. That's it.
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  When Paul says in First Thessalonians that the Lord is
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  an avenger in all these things, he's not just threatening a
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  future punishment. He's describing the current
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  reality that God takes this violation personally.
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  To disregard the command for sexual purity is to disregard
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  God Himself. And for the believer, this
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  offense is escalated. It becomes sacrilege.
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  We touched on this earlier from First Corinthians 6.
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  What does it mean to commit sacrilege with your body?
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  Well, sacrilege is misusing or profaning something that's been
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  consecrated to God. From the moment of conversion, a
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  believer's body is definitively joined to Christ.
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  We are members of Christ. So when a believer engages in
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  fornication, they are literally dragging what has been
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  consecrated in United to Christ and joining it to an act of
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  rebellion. It's a theological contradiction
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  made physical. It's trying to enlist Christ's
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  members in the service of sin. Moving outward, How does
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  fornication offend our neighbor? The culture insists that if two
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  adults consent, there's no victim.
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  And that argument just fails to grasp the biblical meaning of
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  neighbor and the real nature of sexual union.
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  Paul warns that in this area we are prone to wronging and
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  defrauding our neighbor. How so?
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  What is being defrauded? The defrauding is subtle, but
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  it's corrosive. It involves using your neighbor
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  as an instrument for your own selfish gratification, treating
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  them as a disposable object rather than a soul made in God's
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  image to be cherished in purity. You steal their spiritual
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  integrity by enticing them into sin.
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  And it often involves deception, doesn't it?
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  Deep emotional deception. Hidden expectations.
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  Manufactured intimacy, manipulation.
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  Even when no long term promise is spoken, the expectation of
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  relationship often lingers, and when it inevitably dissolves,
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  the broken trust and shame are laid at the neighbor's feet.
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  So the theft isn't money. It's relational, spiritual,
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  emotional. Exactly.
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  And that spiritual sabotage goes beyond the two people.
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  Every act of fornication undermines the integrity of
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  marriage in the community and the testimony of the church.
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  Sin is never hermetically sealed.
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  It always spills out and pollutes the environment.
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  And finally, the inward offense, the peculiar harm sinning
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  against one's own body. Why is the damage to the self so
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  unique here? The uniqueness is in the
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  spiritual entanglements that the one flesh bond creates.
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  Sexual sin works on 2 levels. Physically it involves the body,
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  but spiritually, because the body is the temple of the Holy
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  Spirit, fornication profanes the sanctuary.
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  It compromises the very vessel that's been consecrated for God
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  to live in. And the sources talk about
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  memory bonds. Yes, sexual acts create powerful
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  memory bonds and habits of mind that are uniquely enslaving.
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  Through repetition, the body and the mind are trained to seek
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  relief and validation outside of God's ordered path.
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  This leads to a clouding of assurance and a hardening of the
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  conscience. It's spiritual self harm.
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  OK, if we agree sin is harmful, we have to admit it thrives on
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  lies. We only continue in a rebellion
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  when we're convinced our actions are justified.
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  So repentance means we have to engage in a kind of intellectual
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  warfare. We do we have to refuse the lies
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  that protect the behavior. So let's dismantle some of them.
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  The most common one has to be We love each other.
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  It sounds so good. It's deceptive because it uses
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  the language of virtue to cover vice.
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  The biblical reply is simple. True holy love is proven by
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  keeping God's commandments. Biblical love seeks the holiness
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  of the other person above momentary pleasure.
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  If you really love someone, you don't entice them into rebellion
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  against their Creator. That's the gravest harm you
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  could do to them. It is.
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  Love doesn't reserve the right to sin with someone.
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  It demands sacrificial fidelity. OK, the second one we hear all
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  the time, especially with cohabiting couples.
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  We're basically married. The source material is so quick
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  to point out that basically is a covenant avoidance strategy.
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  Marriage requires A vowed, public, honored commitment.
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  Cohabitation is an attempt to get the benefits of marriage
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  while keeping the freedom to walk away without cost.
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  It's an act of presumption. It is.
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  You're claiming the privileges, but refusing the costly
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  faithfulness and accountability that a public vow requires.
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  If a couple is truly committed, they should honor God and each
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  other by making that commitment public and legal.
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  Then there's the more spiritual sounding lie.
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  God wants me happy. This one elevates our personal
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  emotional state above God's holiness.
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  It reimagines God as a cosmic enabler whose job is to satisfy
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  our cravings. But Scripture refutes this
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  completely. God never separates genuine,
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  lasting joy from holiness. He's declared will isn't our
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  comfort. He's declared Will is our
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  sanctification. So choosing what God forbids in
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  the name of happiness is just rebellion dressed up as
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  spirituality. That's all it is.
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  The joy sin offers is fleeting and chemical.
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  The joy God offers through obedience is deep and spiritual.
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  And finally, the lie of individualism.
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  It's not hurting anyone. We touched on this, but why is
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  this lie so dangerous? It's dangerous because it
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  ignores the spiritual dimension completely.
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  As we said, sin is never isolated.
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  Even if a sexual act seems mutually agreeable, it hardens
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  the heart toward God. It sets a pattern of
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  lawlessness. The material talks about the
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  invisible harm, the spiritual hardening, the clouding of
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  assurance, the pollution of the conscience.
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  Every act of willful sin creates spiritual scar tissue.
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  OK, we know that outward, inward behavior flows from inward
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  worship, Jesus said. Fornication comes out of the
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  heart. So if we strip away the lies,
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  what's the core allegiance underneath sexual immorality?
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  At its root, it's idolatry. The heart is giving its ultimate
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  allegiance to a created thing. Pleasure, validation, intimacy,
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  approval. And it's letting that thing rule
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  the will. The idol promises what only God
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  can really give. Relief from anxiety, Validation.
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  A sense of belonging. But the idol demands a
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  sacrifice. It does the sacrifice of
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  secrecy, the sacrifice of a clear conscience.
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  It's the sacrifice of spiritual fellowship with God.
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  The person engaging in fornication has made a trade,
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  they've whispered. I will have this pleasure now
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  because I love it more than I love obedience.
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  The desire itself becomes the God that demands to be fed.
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  And hand in hand with that, idolatry is the sin of unbelief.
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  Yes, unbelief is the operating system for idolatry.
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  It's a practical distrust in God's goodness and his
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  sufficiency. It's living as though God's
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  boundaries are designed to deprive us of something good.
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  It's the echo of the Serpent's Lion Eden.
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  It is. Do you, God, really say?
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  Isn't this pleasure more certain than God's distant promises?
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  Unbelief whispers. Holiness means missing out.
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  I have to take this for myself now.
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  The fight over sexual purity is really a battle over who gets to
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  define what's good and whether Christ's lordship over our body
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  is trustworthy. So the path forward requires a
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  reformation of worship before a reformation of action.
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  Absolutely. The deepest repentance isn't
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  just sorrow for doing wrong, but sorrow for loving wrong.
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  We have to learn through the gospel that God isn't a stingy
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  commander but a generous Father, and that holiness isn't misery
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  but the path to genuine joy. The fight is over, Lordship.
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  It is well I treat, my body is mine to use, or is belonging to
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  Christ to honor. Let's turn a corner, then, to
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  Part 4, the Gospel remedy and strategy.
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  Good. But before we rush to the
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  comfort, we have to let the law do its painful work.
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  The law is a mirror. It shows us our sin is grievous
• 25:05
  and deserves judgment. Paul makes the consequences of
• 25:08
  unrepentant sexual sins so clear, the sexually immoral will
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  not inherit the Kingdom of God. The severity of the law is
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  necessary. It is.
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  It's what drives us to the refuge of the Gospel.
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  And the gospel immediately provides this glorious pivot,
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  the antidote, in the very next verse.
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  And such were some of you, but you were washed, You were
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  sanctified. You were justified.
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  That is the hope for the sexual guilty, and it's laid out in
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  three parts. 1st, we are washed. This speaks to the removal of
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  guilt and pollution by Christ's blood.
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  The atonement is fully applied. The scarlet main of our past
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  failures is bleached clean. The history of rebellion is not
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  just forgiven, it's erased from the divine Ledger.
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  It's gone, gone. Second, we are justified.
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  This is legal declaration. We are pronounced righteous
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  before God, completely absolved, based entirely on Christ's
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  perfect obedience, which is imputed to us.
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  When the Father looks at the justified believer, He sees
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  Christ's purity, not our history of failure.
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  That removes the condemning guilt of the past.
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  Completely. And 3rd.
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  We are sanctified. This refers to a definitive
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  setting apart. We are claimed by God as holy
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  vessels transferred from the dominion of darkness and filth
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  into the realm of light and purity.
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  This is the seed of holiness planted in US, demanding an
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  ongoing break from the old way of life.
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  Our new identity is holy. So grace is not a permission
• 26:30
  slip to go back to sin, it's the engine of power to forsake it.
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  Holiness isn't the price we pay for God's love, but the grateful
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  response for being bought with Christ's blood.
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  That is the essential relationship.
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  The gospel gives us a new reality.
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  We belong to Christ, and because of that we get the command live
• 26:47
  like you belong to Christ. The very body that was once an
• 26:50
  instrument of impurity is now to be joyfully presented to God as
• 26:54
  an instrument of righteousness, all motivated by gratitude.
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  Having received this rescue, the believer is now in this lifelong
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  warfare of mortification, putting sin to death.
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  Yes, and true repentance is more than just regret over the
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  consequences. It's godly sorrow that grieves
• 27:08
  offending a holy God. It involves A profound change in
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  judgement, desire and direction. And when it comes to sexual sin,
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  the biblical strategy is uniquely decisive.
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  It's not managed or moderate. It's simply flee.
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  That is the singular continuous strategy.
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  The Greek tense is a present active imperative.
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  It's a command for a continuous habitual action.
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  Make running your default setting.
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  We're told to treat sexual temptation not as a polite
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  opponent, but as a predator. A relentless predator we have to
• 27:39
  escape from immediately. The wisdom behind flee is a
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  brutal honesty about our weakness.
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  We are too easily overcome if we linger.
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  I think of Joseph. Joseph is the classic example.
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  His righteousness was proven by running out of the room, leaving
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  his coat behind, not by trying to withstand Potiphar's wife's
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  seduction while staying in isolation with her.
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  If you hesitate when you see the occasion for sin, you're already
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  losing. Running requires practical,
• 28:04
  often severe steps. The sources frame it as making
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  no provision for the flesh. What does that look like today?
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  It requires A ruthless, costly disruption of your life.
• 28:14
  Sexual sin thrives on secrecy, isolation, and rehearsed
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  fantasy. Fleeing means we have to remove
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  the lures, even if it's costly, using that severe imagery Jesus
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  used of tearing out your eye or cutting off your hands.
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  So this is intensely practical in the digital age.
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  It is making no provision means cutting off the pipelines of
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  sin. Private, isolated settings with
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  a dating partner. Late night unsupervised visits.
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  The easy availability of suggestive media relationships
• 28:41
  that routinely inflamed desire. If your phone or your location
• 28:46
  is a consistent occasion for sin, you are morally obligated
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  to disrupt that arrangement. If you protect the environment
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  of sin, you're not fighting, you're just setting up your next
• 28:54
  fall. Exactly.
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  But the fight can't be purely negative, can it?
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  Mortification has to be paired with vivification, putting on
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  righteousness. Absolutely.
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  We have to pursue holiness as actively as we flee impurity.
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  Paul pairs flee youthful passions with pursue
• 29:09
  righteousness, faith, love and peace along with those who call
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  on the Lord from a pure heart. So holiness is not best fought
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  alone. It isn't.
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  We cultivate chastity by intentionally filling our lives
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  with disciplined habits of worship, engaging with
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  Scripture, prayer, and visible fellowship with other believers.
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  The negative command to run is only sustainable when it's
• 29:28
  paired with a positive pursuit of Christ in community.
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  OK, let's wrap up with Part 5, application and the Church's
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  role. Let's look at specific
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  applications, recognizing that you listening might fall into
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  different categories. So for the unbeliever or the
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  nominal Christian, the material warns against treating
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  fornication as just a behavioral problem to fix.
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  The deeper, more urgent issue is standing before a holy judge as
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  a guilty Sinner in Adam. Right.
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  Your primary need is regeneration, not just reform.
• 29:59
  The urgent call is to repent of your whole history of sin and
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  believe in Christ, the only refuge for a guilty soul.
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  And if you claim to be a Christian but continue
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  comfortably in sexual immorality, you need to hear the
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  warning that self deception might be at work.
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  The invitation is never clean up and come to Jesus.
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  No, it's come to Jesus and be cleaned.
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  The moment you turn and believe, the full justifying and
• 30:21
  sanctifying work of Christ applies to you.
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  But that grace does not tolerate unrepentant, willful rebellion.
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  OK, what about for dating or engaged couples?
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  This is where fornication often hides is just escalating
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  romance. For a couple already sitting
• 30:36
  sexually, the sources are clear. The most loving and necessary
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  action is decisive, immediate repentance and stopping.
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  And that repentance has to be visible.
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  It requires radical visible changes in behavior.
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  You have to remove the conditions that enable the sin.
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  This means no isolation, no prolonged time alone where
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  temptation can breed, no late night visits, no physical
• 30:59
  intimacy that reliably inflames desire.
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  If you're engaged, you honor the marriage covenant by pursuing
• 31:04
  integrity and chastity before the wedding.
• 31:06
  And if a dating relationship can't survive holiness.
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  It reveals that the driving force wasn't biblical love but
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  appetite and it needs to be re examined.
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  And this extends to the digital realm.
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  This is the modern application of cutting off the hand.
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  Accountability is not legalism, it is sanity.
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  It means using filtering software, sharing passwords and
• 31:26
  having regular check insurance with a trusted godly
• 31:28
  accountability partner. We have to refuse to create a
• 31:31
  private sanctuary for sin on our devices.
• 31:35
  And a word for those who have been sinned against, those
• 31:37
  harmed by coercion, abuse. Yes, the source is a very
• 31:41
  protective here. Being violated is not the same
• 31:43
  as committing fornication. If shame and pain and brokenness
• 31:47
  were forced on you by someone else's wickedness, Christ does
• 31:50
  not add to that burden. He calls you to bring your pain
• 31:53
  into His light and seek healing and safety and help from the
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  community. Let's talk about the church's
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  role in shepherding purity. The church is God's ordinary
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  instrument for this. We are not a collection of
• 32:03
  morally successful people. We are a redeemed community,
• 32:06
  strengthened and guided by divine means.
• 32:09
  Our primary defense is means of grace.
• 32:12
  The word prayer, The sacraments. The Word faithfully preached
• 32:16
  exposes our sin and renews our minds.
• 32:19
  Prayer brings our specific battles honestly before God.
• 32:23
  The sacraments, baptism, and the Lord's Supper assure the
• 32:26
  repentant of their cleansing and warn the hypocritical.
• 32:29
  These are the power lines for cultivating chastity.
• 32:31
  And what about discipline? In a culture that's allergic to
• 32:34
  moral authority, this is a feared topic.
• 32:37
  The source material views loving discipline as rescue when a
• 32:41
  professing Christian persists unrepentantly in willful
• 32:44
  fornication. Discipline is an act of love to
• 32:47
  that person and a purification for the church.
• 32:50
  It's necessary because it confronts self deception and
• 32:53
  interrupts the ability to sin comfortably inside the
• 32:55
  community. A church that just winks at
• 32:57
  unrepentant sexual sin isn't showing grace.
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  It's showing a hateful disregard for that person's soul and for
• 33:03
  Christ's honor. But the goal is always
• 33:05
  restoration. Always, discipline must be
• 33:07
  balanced with tender restoration.
• 33:10
  If repentance is genuine, the church must immediately forgive,
• 33:13
  comfort, and reaffirm the struggler.
• 33:16
  Repentant believers aren't permanently stained.
• 33:18
  They are to be guided into new habits and strengthened.
• 33:21
  And finally, the responsibility of parents and church leaders to
• 33:24
  be proactive. Proactive discipleship in the
• 33:27
  home is vital. Many Christian homes just failed
• 33:30
  to give clear, positive teaching about God's good design for
• 33:33
  marriage, the dignity of the body, and the need for
• 33:36
  self-control. Parents and leaders have to
• 33:38
  speak clearly, warning against the specific dangers of
• 33:41
  pornography and the false promises of sexual freedom.
• 33:45
  It's about cultivating a culture where holiness is honored.
• 33:48
  Honored, not shunned, and where the means of grace are treated
• 33:52
  as essential tools for survival. OK, to wrap up our deep dive, it
• 33:56
  seems to present you with a stark choice between two
• 33:59
  competing gospels that define our age.
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  It does. The world's gospel offers
• 34:03
  immediate, convenient pleasure, autonomy, and the lie that your
• 34:06
  identity is defined by your strongest desire.
• 34:09
  The outcome, as our sources show, is guaranteed emotional
• 34:12
  bondage, broken promises, and eventually deep in shame.
• 34:16
  And Christ's gospel offers the only true freedom rooted in that
• 34:19
  declaration. You were bought with a price.
• 34:22
  Therefore, glorify God in your body.
• 34:24
  True life and joy are found under His gracious Lordship, not
• 34:27
  in throwing off restraint. Holiness is liberty.
• 34:31
  So we leave you with a final summons.
• 34:32
  First, repent. Stop renaming and defending your
• 34:36
  sin and turn from it decisively. Second, believe.
• 34:40
  Run to Christ, whose blood is powerful enough to wash the
• 34:42
  deepest sexual guilt. And 3rd Walk, pursue holiness as
• 34:47
  an act of worship, relying on the means of grace and choosing
• 34:51
  covenant faithfulness over temporary convenience.
• 34:53
  And you have a final provocative thought for us to consider.
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  I do. Here it is.
• 34:57
  The greatest danger of sexual sin is not the outward
• 34:59
  consequence, but the inward allegiance.
• 35:02
  It reveals who or what owns you. If Christ's ownership of your
• 35:05
  body is the defining theological fact of your life, what
• 35:08
  specific, costly physical habit, digital boundary, or existing
• 35:11
  relationship arrangement must you now surrender or restructure
• 35:15
  to reflect that truth? Ponder that allegiance as you
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  move forward.