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5-MINUTE FRIDAY: Navigating Unexpected Turbulence With Grace · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: Hey everyone, Emily Avadi here you are listening to another
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  Speaker 1: installment of five Minute Friday.
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  Speaker 2: Greetings from Mexico.
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  Speaker 1: I am here for my first time ever, a little
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  Speaker 1: trip to relax and wind down. I'm in Cabo San Lucas,
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  Speaker 1: and wow. I don't know what took me so long
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  Speaker 1: to get to Mexico. Maybe just because it's a little
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  Speaker 1: farther than going to the Caribbean from the northeast, but
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  Speaker 1: this place is absolutely stunning. For five Minute Friday this week,
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  Speaker 1: I am talking to you about getting here, which was
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  Speaker 1: a hurdle for sure. So I was supposed to leave
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  Speaker 1: on Tuesday night. I get to the airport. I'm on
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  Speaker 1: a night time flight around I don't know. I think
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  Speaker 1: it was five point fifty, which is outside the box
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  Speaker 1: for me, considering usually I do any international travel on
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  Speaker 1: a flight that leaves like at the crack of dawn.
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  Speaker 2: But I digress. So I'm on this evening flight.
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  Speaker 1: It boards on time, they we leave the gate, and
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  Speaker 1: right when we leave the gate, we get an announcement
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  Speaker 1: that there's some bad weather coming in and it's gonna
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  Speaker 1: be in the way of our flight pattern, and so
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  Speaker 1: the decision is that we're gonna hold off on leaving,
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  Speaker 1: so I don't mind. I actually miraculously I'm in a
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  Speaker 1: row by myself. I'm like, I'm a turn on this movie.
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  Speaker 1: I'm gonna do some work. A couple hours go by,
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  Speaker 1: a few announcements like we're still waiting, we'll give you
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  Speaker 1: an update when we have one, et cetera, et cetera.
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  Speaker 1: Three hours go by, at like three and a half hours,
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  Speaker 1: they let us know that there's a rule I believe
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  Speaker 1: it is three hours domestically, four hours internationally is the
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  Speaker 1: longest that you can wait on the tarmac before you
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  Speaker 1: have to go back to the gate.
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  Speaker 2: So they're sending us back to the gate.
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  Speaker 1: So we go back to the date the gate, and
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  Speaker 1: right as soon as we got to the gate, a
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  Speaker 1: gate agent comes on and they are the person that
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  Speaker 1: breaks the bad news to us that our flight is
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  Speaker 1: now canceled and that it will we will not get out,
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  Speaker 1: And you know what, like, okay, we will not get out.
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  Speaker 2: That's the thing. So there's people growing on the plane.
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  Speaker 1: Everyonets to a deep plane get off and I never
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  Speaker 1: check a bag ever, ever, ever. But of course the
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  Speaker 1: one time that I don't actually get to go at
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  Speaker 1: least at that moment on my trip, I checked a bag,
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  Speaker 1: so I had to go to baggage claim and get
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  Speaker 1: my bag. It's like ten fifteen at night. Now I
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  Speaker 1: am just like a zombie and super tired. It's funny
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  Speaker 1: all of this, because I'll be honest, the entire time,
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  Speaker 1: I wasn't really phased because, first of all, I hate turbulence,
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  Speaker 1: like absolutely hate it. I don't know many people that
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  Speaker 1: love turbulence, but I get a lot of anxiety, as
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  Speaker 1: one may be able to understand. And so I was like,
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  Speaker 1: you know what, I would rather be safe on this
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  Speaker 1: runway than feel completely not safe and without any control
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  Speaker 1: in the air as we're like getting jostled around by
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  Speaker 1: some bad weather. And if you haven't traveled yet, you
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  Speaker 1: may have read this, but there's been an increase in
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  Speaker 1: crime and like issues on planes, and like flight attendants
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  Speaker 1: are going back and getting more self defense training because
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  Speaker 1: people are feeling some kind of way for the most
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  Speaker 1: part about having to wear a mask for that long.
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  Speaker 1: So I was thinking about, you know, the tension that
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  Speaker 1: may be circulating in the air, so to speak, during
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  Speaker 1: that long waiting time that we were on the plane
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  Speaker 1: of people that were like a little frustrated and feeling
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  Speaker 1: claustrophobic and getting a little anxious. Thankfully, like no one
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  Speaker 1: was revolting. The whole plane was very well behaved. But
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  Speaker 1: then you add in that these people like want to
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  Speaker 1: get to this nice destination. It's getting later. It's getting later. Anyway,
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  Speaker 1: it was super lucky no one acted out on the plane.
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  Speaker 1: We all got off the plane, and I got so
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  Speaker 1: many dms as I was like sharing this story. Oh
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  Speaker 1: my god, it's so great that you didn't flip out,
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  Speaker 1: like how are you not pissed right now? And again,
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  Speaker 1: aside from being very content not dealing with the turbulence, irl,
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  Speaker 1: I just realized that this was one of those things
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  Speaker 1: that I had absolutely no control over, Like, it wasn't
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  Speaker 1: the pilot's fault that there was bad weather, it.
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  Speaker 2: Wasn't anyone's fault.
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  Speaker 1: All that we could do was just navigate the situation
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  Speaker 1: we best the best way that we could in that moment.
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  Speaker 1: And I will definitely say that old Emily so to speak,
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  Speaker 1: may not have handled it that well. You know, there
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  Speaker 1: have been many things in the last couple of years
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  Speaker 1: that I've realized I have kind of eased up a
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  Speaker 1: little bit on and all I do now is just like, well,
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  Speaker 1: this is how it is now. And I go back
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  Speaker 1: to that saying time and time again. It's a famous
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  Speaker 1: saying that Sarah Levy offered me, the founder of Y seven,
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  Speaker 1: when her and I sat down for one of the
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  Speaker 1: first episodes of Hurdle.
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  Speaker 2: It's this is how it is now.
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  Speaker 3: You.
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  Speaker 1: It's never going to be like it was five minutes ago,
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  Speaker 1: and it could be very different five minutes from now,
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  Speaker 1: And the best thing that you can do is handle
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  Speaker 1: whatever's going on in this moment to the best of
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  Speaker 1: your ability. And so that's what I did with the
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  Speaker 1: plane situation last week. I ended up getting on a
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  Speaker 1: bright and early flight at seven fifteen in the morning
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  Speaker 1: the next day on very little sleep. And now, as
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  Speaker 1: I said, I'm here in Mexico and I couldn't be
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  Speaker 1: more grateful. So just a little reminder, deal with what
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  Speaker 1: you can control the controllable, and don't be too hard
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  Speaker 1: on yourself if things don't go as you'd hoped or
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  Speaker 1: you expected, because the best thing that you can do
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  Speaker 1: in those situations is show up for yourself, have some grace,
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  Speaker 1: and move forward with some kindness. My prompt for you
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  Speaker 1: this week, when was the last time you had to
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  Speaker 1: just accept things as they came, and what did you
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  Speaker 1: learn from that situation? Again, prompt you this week, when
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  Speaker 1: was the last time that you just had to accept
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  Speaker 1: things as they came?
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  Speaker 2: And what did you learn from that conversation?
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  Speaker 1: I mentioned last week that I was going to stop
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  Speaker 1: looking for one. I went on a date, I want
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  Speaker 1: to say it was about a month ago, and on
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  Speaker 1: the date, the man asked me what my red flags were.
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  Speaker 1: And I have thought about this question, this conversation so
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  Speaker 1: much in the last you know, since then the date
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  Speaker 1: you know, it was fine, it didn't work out, but
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  Speaker 1: it really impacted me that question because it has me
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  Speaker 1: thinking a lot about the way that I am in
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  Speaker 1: relationships and my affinity to turn negatives into positives or
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  Speaker 1: try to see the bright side of things. Because the
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  Speaker 1: examples that I provided this person in the moment had
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  Speaker 1: a lot to do with my work ethic and how
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  Speaker 1: active I am, which I see as positives but could
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  Speaker 1: be a negative if it comes to incorporating someone else
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  Speaker 1: into my regular routine making time for them when I
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  Speaker 1: also have these other priorities. Right, But I will say
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  Speaker 1: this a little caveat here. I believe that for the
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  Speaker 1: right person, you make it all work. Okay, Glad that
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  Speaker 1: I said that. Anyway, I've been thinking a lot about that,
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  Speaker 1: So I'll share the same question with you. What are
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  Speaker 1: your red flags? We all have them. What is something
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