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Impulse Control & ADHD: More than Acting without Thinking | Ep 149 · ADHD Strategies & Support for Women

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  Hello,
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  welcome
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  to
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  Inspiring
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  Women
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  with
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  adhd.
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  I'm
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  Renee,
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  the
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  host
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  of
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  this
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  podcast.
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  Excited
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  to
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  be
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  here
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  today.
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  This
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  is
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  probably
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  going
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  to
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  be
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  shorter
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  because
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  I
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  am
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  leaving
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  to
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  go
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  on
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  a
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  trip
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  today
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  and
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  I
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  really
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  wanted
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  to
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  make
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  an
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  episode
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  before
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  I
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  left.
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  So
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  you
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  have
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  one
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  to
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  listen
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  to
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  next
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  week.
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  Because
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  I
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  know
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  when
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  I
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  get
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  back
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  from
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  a
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  trip,
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  it's
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  always
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  hard
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  to
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  just
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  fit
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  something
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  in
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  besides
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  getting
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  back
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  to
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  normal
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  in
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  my
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  home.
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  So
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  even
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  though
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  I'd
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  like
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  this
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  to
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  be
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  a
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  longer
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  episode,
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  this
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  will
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  be
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  the
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  beginning
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  of
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  maybe
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  a
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  discussion
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  on
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  this.
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  But
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  I
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  wanted
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  to
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  talk
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  about
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  impulse
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  control
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  because
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  is
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  impulsivity
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  is
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  part
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  of
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  ADHD
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  in
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  the
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  combined
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  type
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  or
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  the
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  inattentive
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  impulsive
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  type.
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  It's
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  funny
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  that
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  it
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  took
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  me
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  a
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  long
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  time
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  to
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  say
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  impulsive,
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  because
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  that's
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  the
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  part
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  that
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  I
• 1:19
  want
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  to
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  talk
• 1:19
  about.
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  But
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  anyway,
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  so
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  a
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  lot
• 1:23
  of
• 1:24
  people,
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  in
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  fact,
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  I
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  just
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  went
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  to
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  get
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  my
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  hair
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  highlighted,
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  root
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  retouched
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  the
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  other
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  day,
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  and
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  the
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  woman
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  that
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  I
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  go
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  to,
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  I
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  really,
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  really
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  like
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  her,
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  said
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  I
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  think
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  my
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  son
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  has
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  add.
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  And
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  I
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  didn't
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  want
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  to
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  say,
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  you
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  know,
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  ADD
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  hasn't
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  actually
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  been
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  a
• 1:39
  diagnosis
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  for,
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  I
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  don't
• 1:41
  know,
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  since
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  the
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  90s.
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  Let's
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  see.
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  Of
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  course
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  I've
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  done
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  an
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  episode
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  on
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  this,
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  but
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  I
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  don't
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  remember
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  name
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  changed
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  in
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  1987.
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  So.
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  And
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  my
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  guess
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  is
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  that
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  she
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  was
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  born
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  in
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  the
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  80s.
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  So
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  this
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  is
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  something
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  that
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  we,
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  we
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  all
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  often
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  have
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  ideas
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  that
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  ADD
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  is,
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  is
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  inattentive,
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  ADHD
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  is
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  the
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  hyperactive.
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  But,
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  but
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  actually
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  it
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  was
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  interesting
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  because
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  when
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  she
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  said,
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  I
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  think
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  my
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  son
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  has
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  add,
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  her,
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  her
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  reasonings
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  were
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  because
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  he
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  was
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  hyperactive,
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  because
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  he
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  always
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  needed
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  to
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  be
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  moving.
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  And
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  I
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  thought
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  that's
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  actually
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  the,
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  the
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  adhd
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  if
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  you
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  went
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  off
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  the
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  old
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  diagnosis.
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  But
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  I'm
• 2:24
  finding
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  that
• 2:25
  when
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  you
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  talk
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  to
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  people
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  and
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  even
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  if
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  you've
• 2:28
  been
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  diagnosed
• 2:28
  with
• 2:28
  ADHD
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  already,
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  or
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  if
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  you're
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  like
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  me
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  and
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  you've
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  studied
• 2:31
  this,
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  but
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  then
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  it's
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  like,
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  wait,
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  how
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  do
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  I
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  keep
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  it
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  all
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  straight
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  and
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  how
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  do
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  I
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  learn
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  more
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  about
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  myself
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  in
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  the
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  process?
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  It's
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  good
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  to
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  review.
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  And
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  so
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  ADHD
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  is
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  either
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  the
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  inattentive
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  type
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  or
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  the
• 2:47
  hyperactive
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  impulsive
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  type
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  or
• 2:49
  the
• 2:49
  combined
• 2:50
  type
• 2:50
  that
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  has
• 2:51
  the
• 2:51
  hyperactive,
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  impulsive
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  and
• 2:53
  the
• 2:54
  inattentive.
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  ADD
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  hasn't
• 2:57
  been
• 2:57
  a
• 2:57
  diagnosis,
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  diagnosis
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  since
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  before
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  1987.
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  So.
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  But
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  people
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  still
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  use
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  that.
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  Just
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  like
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  people
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  say,
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  oh,
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  I'm
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  a
• 3:05
  little
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  ocd.
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  OCD
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  is
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  actually
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  a
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  disorder
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  that
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  has,
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  that
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  leads
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  to
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  some
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  very
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  difficult
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  challenges.
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  And
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  yet
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  a
• 3:18
  lot
• 3:18
  of
• 3:18
  times
• 3:18
  we
• 3:18
  just,
• 3:19
  we,
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  I
• 3:20
  don't
• 3:20
  say
• 3:20
  I
• 3:20
  do,
• 3:21
  but
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  a
• 3:21
  lot
• 3:21
  of
• 3:21
  people
• 3:22
  say
• 3:22
  things
• 3:22
  like
• 3:22
  that.
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  Or
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  I
• 3:24
  remember
• 3:24
  a
• 3:24
  friend
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  years
• 3:25
  ago
• 3:25
  saying,
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  I
• 3:26
  probably
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  have
• 3:26
  adult
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  ADD
• 3:27
  because
• 3:27
  I
• 3:27
  can't
• 3:28
  keep
• 3:28
  my
• 3:28
  mind
• 3:28
  on
• 3:28
  anything.
• 3:29
  And
• 3:30
  that
• 3:30
  was
• 3:30
  before
• 3:30
  I
• 3:30
  knew
• 3:30
  I
• 3:31
  had
• 3:31
  adhd.
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  And
• 3:33
  I'm
• 3:33
  pretty
• 3:33
  sure
• 3:34
  she
• 3:34
  thinks
• 3:34
  she
• 3:35
  has
• 3:35
  ADHD
• 3:35
  now,
• 3:35
  too.
• 3:36
  I
• 3:36
  don't
• 3:36
  think
• 3:36
  she's
• 3:36
  been
• 3:36
  diagnosed,
• 3:37
  but
• 3:37
  we're
• 3:38
  very
• 3:38
  similar
• 3:38
  in
• 3:38
  a
• 3:38
  lot
• 3:39
  of
• 3:39
  ways.
• 3:39
  And
• 3:40
  then
• 3:40
  even
• 3:40
  people
• 3:40
  that
• 3:41
  I
• 3:41
  knew
• 3:41
  that
• 3:41
  were
• 3:41
  diagnosed,
• 3:43
  I
• 3:44
  didn't
• 3:44
  see
• 3:44
  similarities
• 3:45
  between
• 3:45
  us
• 3:46
  and
• 3:46
  the
• 3:46
  challenges
• 3:46
  that
• 3:47
  they
• 3:47
  had.
• 3:48
  I
• 3:48
  didn't
• 3:49
  delve
• 3:49
  into
• 3:49
  more.
• 3:49
  I
• 3:49
  didn't
• 3:50
  ask
• 3:50
  them
• 3:50
  more
• 3:51
  about
• 3:51
  it.
• 3:51
  And
• 3:51
  maybe
• 3:52
  we
• 3:52
  do
• 3:52
  have
• 3:52
  a
• 3:52
  lot
• 3:52
  of
• 3:52
  that
• 3:52
  in
• 3:52
  common.
• 3:53
  But
• 3:53
  I
• 3:53
  don't
• 3:53
  live
• 3:53
  in
• 3:53
  that
• 3:54
  same
• 3:54
  place
• 3:54
  anymore.
• 3:54
  I'm
• 3:54
  not
• 3:55
  in
• 3:55
  touch
• 3:55
  with
• 3:55
  some
• 3:55
  of
• 3:55
  these
• 3:55
  people.
• 3:56
  But
• 3:57
  anyway,
• 3:58
  okay,
• 3:59
  so
• 3:59
  let's
• 4:00
  go
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  to
• 4:01
  what
• 4:01
  I
• 4:01
  want
• 4:01
  to
• 4:01
  talk
• 4:02
  about
• 4:02
  with
• 4:02
  the
• 4:02
  impulsivity,
• 4:03
  because
• 4:03
  impulsivity
• 4:04
  is
• 4:05
  a
• 4:05
  big
• 4:06
  part
• 4:06
  of
• 4:07
  the
• 4:08
  hyperactive,
• 4:09
  impulsive
• 4:10
  part
• 4:10
  of
• 4:10
  adhd,
• 4:11
  but
• 4:11
  it
• 4:11
  can
• 4:11
  also
• 4:11
  be
• 4:12
  a
• 4:12
  challenge
• 4:13
  and
• 4:14
  in
• 4:14
  the
• 4:14
  inattentive
• 4:15
  type.
• 4:15
  So
• 4:15
  if
• 4:15
  you
• 4:15
  were
• 4:16
  diagnosed
• 4:16
  with
• 4:16
  inattentive
• 4:17
  type
• 4:17
  adhd,
• 4:18
  but
• 4:18
  not
• 4:19
  combined,
• 4:20
  you
• 4:20
  may
• 4:20
  still
• 4:21
  struggle
• 4:21
  with
• 4:21
  some
• 4:21
  impulsivity,
• 4:23
  but
• 4:24
  maybe
• 4:24
  not
• 4:24
  to
• 4:24
  the
• 4:25
  degree
• 4:25
  of
• 4:25
  answering
• 4:26
  all
• 4:26
  the
• 4:26
  questions,
• 4:27
  meeting
• 4:27
  the
• 4:27
  criteria
• 4:28
  for
• 4:28
  the
• 4:28
  hyperactive,
• 4:29
  impulsive,
• 4:30
  impulsive
• 4:31
  type.
• 4:33
  So
• 4:34
  you
• 4:35
  can
• 4:35
  struggle
• 4:36
  with
• 4:36
  impulse
• 4:36
  control
• 4:37
  even
• 4:37
  if
• 4:37
  you
• 4:37
  don't
• 4:38
  have
• 4:38
  that
• 4:38
  hyperactive
• 4:40
  kind.
• 4:40
  And
• 4:40
  some
• 4:41
  of
• 4:41
  that
• 4:41
  could
• 4:41
  just
• 4:42
  be
• 4:43
  your
• 4:44
  brain's
• 4:44
  inability
• 4:45
  to
• 4:46
  stop
• 4:46
  what
• 4:46
  you're
• 4:47
  doing
• 4:47
  so
• 4:47
  you're
• 4:47
  hyper
• 4:48
  focused,
• 4:49
  or
• 4:50
  your
• 4:50
  inability
• 4:51
  to
• 4:51
  pause,
• 4:52
  to
• 4:52
  delay
• 4:53
  something.
• 4:53
  You
• 4:54
  know,
• 4:54
  like
• 4:54
  when
• 4:54
  you,
• 4:54
  when
• 4:54
  you
• 4:54
  can't
• 4:55
  wait,
• 4:55
  you
• 4:55
  know,
• 4:55
  I
• 4:55
  want
• 4:55
  to
• 4:55
  do
• 4:56
  this
• 4:56
  now.
• 4:56
  It
• 4:57
  may
• 4:57
  not
• 4:57
  show
• 4:57
  up
• 4:57
  in
• 4:57
  your
• 4:58
  body
• 4:58
  in
• 4:58
  the
• 4:58
  same
• 4:58
  way,
• 4:58
  but
• 4:58
  you
• 4:59
  may
• 4:59
  have
• 4:59
  a
• 4:59
  hard
• 5:00
  time
• 5:00
  resisting
• 5:01
  urges,
• 5:01
  even
• 5:02
  with
• 5:02
  eating.
• 5:02
  If
• 5:02
  you
• 5:03
  need
• 5:03
  more
• 5:03
  dopamine
• 5:04
  and
• 5:04
  you're
• 5:04
  eating
• 5:04
  sugar
• 5:05
  all
• 5:05
  the
• 5:05
  time
• 5:05
  or
• 5:05
  snacking
• 5:06
  all
• 5:06
  the
• 5:06
  time,
• 5:07
  that
• 5:07
  might
• 5:08
  feel
• 5:09
  like
• 5:10
  you're
• 5:10
  having
• 5:11
  a
• 5:11
  struggle
• 5:11
  with
• 5:12
  that.
• 5:12
  And
• 5:13
  it
• 5:14
  might
• 5:14
  feel
• 5:14
  like
• 5:15
  I
• 5:15
  just
• 5:15
  started
• 5:15
  eating
• 5:15
  and
• 5:16
  I
• 5:16
  didn't
• 5:16
  even
• 5:16
  realize
• 5:17
  that.
• 5:17
  So
• 5:17
  you
• 5:17
  may
• 5:18
  have
• 5:19
  some
• 5:19
  problems
• 5:20
  with
• 5:20
  impulse
• 5:21
  control
• 5:21
  or
• 5:22
  just
• 5:22
  self
• 5:22
  control,
• 5:23
  and
• 5:23
  there
• 5:23
  are
• 5:23
  differences.
• 5:24
  That
• 5:24
  was
• 5:24
  something
• 5:24
  else
• 5:24
  I
• 5:25
  looked
• 5:25
  into
• 5:25
  before
• 5:26
  this
• 5:26
  episode
• 5:26
  was
• 5:27
  the
• 5:27
  difference
• 5:28
  between
• 5:28
  impulse
• 5:29
  control
• 5:29
  and
• 5:30
  self
• 5:30
  control.
• 5:31
  And
• 5:31
  I'll
• 5:32
  see
• 5:32
  if
• 5:32
  I
• 5:32
  can
• 5:32
  get
• 5:32
  it
• 5:32
  in
• 5:33
  the
• 5:33
  show
• 5:33
  notes.
• 5:33
  But
• 5:33
  I
• 5:33
  made
• 5:34
  an
• 5:34
  episode
• 5:35
  last
• 5:35
  year
• 5:36
  about
• 5:36
  impulsivity,
• 5:38
  and
• 5:38
  there
• 5:39
  are
• 5:39
  different
• 5:39
  kinds.
• 5:40
  There's
• 5:40
  the
• 5:41
  kind,
• 5:41
  and
• 5:41
  I
• 5:41
  can't
• 5:42
  remember
• 5:42
  the
• 5:42
  names
• 5:42
  of
• 5:42
  them,
• 5:42
  of
• 5:43
  course,
• 5:43
  without
• 5:43
  in
• 5:44
  front
• 5:44
  of
• 5:44
  me,
• 5:44
  but
• 5:46
  of
• 5:46
  doing
• 5:46
  something
• 5:47
  completely
• 5:48
  impulsively,
• 5:48
  like
• 5:49
  blurting
• 5:49
  out
• 5:49
  an
• 5:50
  answer,
• 5:50
  you
• 5:50
  do
• 5:50
  it
• 5:51
  before
• 5:51
  you
• 5:51
  even
• 5:52
  know
• 5:52
  you're
• 5:52
  doing
• 5:52
  it,
• 5:53
  or
• 5:55
  you
• 5:56
  have
• 5:56
  a
• 5:56
  little
• 5:57
  bit
• 5:57
  of
• 5:57
  time
• 5:57
  where
• 5:57
  you
• 5:58
  think
• 5:58
  about
• 5:58
  it
• 5:58
  and
• 5:58
  you
• 5:59
  still
• 5:59
  do
• 5:59
  it
• 5:59
  before
• 6:00
  you
• 6:00
  complete
• 6:01
  that
• 6:01
  thought.
• 6:02
  Or,
• 6:02
  or
• 6:03
  you
• 6:03
  have
• 6:03
  the
• 6:04
  thought
• 6:04
  and
• 6:04
  you
• 6:05
  think,
• 6:05
  I
• 6:05
  need
• 6:05
  to
• 6:06
  get
• 6:06
  out
• 6:06
  of
• 6:06
  this
• 6:06
  traffic.
• 6:07
  It's
• 6:07
  driving
• 6:07
  me
• 6:07
  crazy.
• 6:08
  You
• 6:08
  know,
• 6:08
  you
• 6:08
  have
• 6:08
  the
• 6:08
  impulse
• 6:09
  to
• 6:09
  do
• 6:09
  it.
• 6:09
  You're
• 6:09
  struggling
• 6:10
  because
• 6:11
  you
• 6:11
  can't
• 6:11
  do
• 6:11
  it.
• 6:13
  And
• 6:13
  maybe
• 6:13
  you're
• 6:14
  not
• 6:14
  able
• 6:14
  to
• 6:14
  get
• 6:15
  out
• 6:15
  of
• 6:15
  that
• 6:15
  traffic
• 6:15
  as
• 6:16
  easily
• 6:16
  as
• 6:17
  you
• 6:17
  could
• 6:17
  get
• 6:17
  out
• 6:17
  of
• 6:17
  a
• 6:17
  line
• 6:18
  at
• 6:18
  the
• 6:18
  store.
• 6:18
  Do
• 6:19
  you
• 6:19
  ever
• 6:19
  do
• 6:19
  that
• 6:19
  when
• 6:19
  you're
• 6:19
  in
• 6:19
  line
• 6:20
  at
• 6:20
  a
• 6:20
  store
• 6:21
  and
• 6:21
  you
• 6:21
  just
• 6:21
  think,
• 6:22
  I
• 6:22
  just
• 6:22
  can't
• 6:22
  wait
• 6:22
  this
• 6:22
  long.
• 6:23
  I
• 6:23
  just
• 6:23
  can't
• 6:23
  wait
• 6:23
  this
• 6:24
  long.
• 6:24
  And
• 6:24
  you
• 6:24
  just
• 6:24
  put
• 6:25
  the
• 6:25
  things
• 6:25
  back
• 6:25
  and
• 6:26
  just
• 6:26
  say,
• 6:27
  I
• 6:27
  can't
• 6:27
  go
• 6:27
  to
• 6:27
  the
• 6:28
  store
• 6:28
  today.
• 6:28
  I've
• 6:29
  done
• 6:29
  that
• 6:29
  so
• 6:29
  many
• 6:29
  times.
• 6:30
  Or
• 6:31
  standing
• 6:31
  in
• 6:31
  line
• 6:32
  in
• 6:32
  the
• 6:32
  store
• 6:32
  and
• 6:32
  see
• 6:33
  that
• 6:33
  your
• 6:33
  line
• 6:33
  is
• 6:33
  going
• 6:34
  more
• 6:34
  slowly
• 6:35
  than
• 6:35
  somebody
• 6:35
  else's
• 6:36
  line.
• 6:36
  And
• 6:36
  so
• 6:36
  you
• 6:36
  switch
• 6:37
  lines.
• 6:37
  And
• 6:37
  you
• 6:38
  can
• 6:38
  do
• 6:38
  this
• 6:38
  in
• 6:38
  traffic
• 6:38
  too,
• 6:39
  right?
• 6:39
  You
• 6:39
  switch
• 6:40
  lanes,
• 6:40
  you
• 6:40
  have
• 6:41
  the
• 6:41
  impulse
• 6:41
  to
• 6:41
  be
• 6:42
  in
• 6:42
  the
• 6:43
  quicker
• 6:44
  lane
• 6:44
  and
• 6:45
  you
• 6:45
  get
• 6:45
  in
• 6:45
  it.
• 6:45
  And
• 6:46
  sometimes
• 6:46
  it
• 6:46
  works
• 6:46
  out
• 6:47
  and
• 6:47
  sometimes
• 6:47
  it
• 6:47
  doesn't.
• 6:48
  It
• 6:48
  can
• 6:48
  be
• 6:49
  maddening.
• 6:50
  Then
• 6:50
  all
• 6:50
  that
• 6:50
  builds
• 6:51
  up
• 6:51
  again.
• 6:52
  But
• 6:53
  if
• 6:53
  you
• 6:53
  think
• 6:53
  about
• 6:54
  the
• 6:54
  ADHD
• 6:55
  brain
• 6:56
  having
• 6:57
  the
• 6:57
  ability
• 6:58
  to,
• 7:00
  like
• 7:01
  they
• 7:01
  describe
• 7:02
  it,
• 7:02
  like
• 7:02
  with
• 7:02
  a
• 7:02
  gas
• 7:02
  pedal,
• 7:03
  to
• 7:03
  turn
• 7:03
  on
• 7:04
  something
• 7:04
  and
• 7:04
  to
• 7:05
  stop
• 7:05
  it.
• 7:05
  So
• 7:06
  like
• 7:06
  pushing
• 7:06
  them
• 7:06
  gas
• 7:07
  pedal
• 7:07
  or
• 7:07
  putting
• 7:08
  on
• 7:08
  the
• 7:08
  brakes,
• 7:09
  and
• 7:09
  so
• 7:09
  your
• 7:09
  brain
• 7:10
  has
• 7:10
  the
• 7:10
  ability
• 7:11
  to.
• 7:13
  And
• 7:14
  maybe
• 7:14
  you're
• 7:14
  not
• 7:14
  doing
• 7:15
  it
• 7:15
  on
• 7:15
  purpose.
• 7:15
  Like
• 7:15
  with
• 7:16
  emotions.
• 7:16
  Emotions
• 7:17
  show
• 7:17
  up.
• 7:17
  So
• 7:17
  that's
• 7:18
  just
• 7:18
  like
• 7:18
  you
• 7:18
  just
• 7:19
  start
• 7:19
  going
• 7:20
  and
• 7:20
  then
• 7:20
  your
• 7:20
  brakes
• 7:21
  get
• 7:21
  you
• 7:21
  to
• 7:22
  slow
• 7:22
  down
• 7:22
  and
• 7:23
  think,
• 7:23
  oh,
• 7:23
  I
• 7:23
  don't
• 7:23
  want
• 7:23
  to
• 7:24
  be
• 7:24
  going
• 7:24
  that
• 7:24
  fast.
• 7:24
  Like,
• 7:25
  oh,
• 7:25
  I
• 7:25
  didn't
• 7:25
  realize
• 7:26
  I
• 7:26
  was,
• 7:26
  you
• 7:26
  know,
• 7:28
  you
• 7:28
  know,
• 7:28
  going
• 7:29
  60
• 7:29
  when
• 7:30
  it
• 7:30
  says
• 7:30
  to
• 7:30
  go
• 7:30
  55
• 7:31
  or
• 7:31
  something
• 7:31
  and
• 7:31
  you
• 7:31
  slow
• 7:32
  down.
• 7:32
  And
• 7:32
  so
• 7:32
  you
• 7:33
  have
• 7:33
  that
• 7:33
  ability
• 7:34
  to
• 7:34
  regulate
• 7:34
  it
• 7:35
  and
• 7:35
  to
• 7:35
  stop
• 7:36
  it
• 7:36
  when
• 7:36
  you
• 7:36
  have
• 7:37
  adhd,
• 7:37
  the
• 7:38
  ability
• 7:40
  to
• 7:40
  put
• 7:40
  on
• 7:40
  those
• 7:41
  brakes
• 7:41
  sometimes
• 7:42
  isn't
• 7:42
  as
• 7:42
  good
• 7:43
  with
• 7:44
  emotions.
• 7:44
  Emotional
• 7:45
  dysregulation.
• 7:46
  You
• 7:46
  might
• 7:46
  notice
• 7:46
  what's
• 7:47
  happening
• 7:47
  with
• 7:47
  your
• 7:47
  emotions
• 7:48
  or
• 7:48
  you
• 7:48
  might
• 7:48
  not.
• 7:49
  But
• 7:49
  you're
• 7:50
  not
• 7:50
  putting
• 7:50
  on
• 7:50
  those
• 7:50
  brakes.
• 7:51
  You're
• 7:51
  not
• 7:51
  stopping
• 7:52
  it,
• 7:52
  or
• 7:52
  your
• 7:53
  inhibitions.
• 7:54
  Somebody
• 7:54
  else
• 7:54
  might
• 7:55
  think,
• 7:55
  oh,
• 7:55
  I
• 7:56
  want
• 7:57
  to
• 7:57
  go
• 7:57
  over
• 7:57
  there
• 7:58
  and
• 7:59
  get
• 7:59
  that
• 7:59
  to
• 7:59
  eat.
• 8:00
  You
• 8:00
  know,
• 8:00
  like,
• 8:00
  go
• 8:00
  order
• 8:01
  that,
• 8:01
  those
• 8:02
  French
• 8:02
  fries
• 8:02
  or
• 8:03
  something.
• 8:03
  And
• 8:03
  you
• 8:04
  might
• 8:04
  just
• 8:05
  reach
• 8:05
  over
• 8:05
  and
• 8:06
  grab
• 8:06
  some
• 8:06
  french
• 8:07
  fries
• 8:07
  and
• 8:07
  eat
• 8:07
  them
• 8:08
  or
• 8:08
  something.
• 8:08
  I
• 8:08
  don't
• 8:08
  know
• 8:08
  if
• 8:08
  you've
• 8:09
  ever
• 8:09
  done
• 8:09
  that.
• 8:09
  I've
• 8:10
  seen
• 8:10
  kids
• 8:10
  do
• 8:10
  that,
• 8:10
  you
• 8:10
  know,
• 8:11
  where
• 8:11
  they
• 8:11
  don't
• 8:11
  know
• 8:11
  which
• 8:11
  table's
• 8:12
  theirs
• 8:12
  or
• 8:12
  something.
• 8:13
  And
• 8:13
  I
• 8:13
  have
• 8:14
  Eaten
• 8:14
  things
• 8:15
  that
• 8:15
  aren't
• 8:15
  mine
• 8:16
  before.
• 8:17
  Not
• 8:18
  that
• 8:18
  somebody
• 8:18
  else
• 8:18
  has
• 8:18
  touched
• 8:19
  them,
• 8:19
  but
• 8:20
  just
• 8:20
  without
• 8:20
  knowing
• 8:21
  it.
• 8:21
  Like
• 8:21
  seeing
• 8:22
  it
• 8:22
  and
• 8:22
  eating
• 8:23
  it
• 8:23
  and
• 8:23
  not
• 8:23
  realizing
• 8:24
  what
• 8:24
  I'm
• 8:24
  doing
• 8:25
  out
• 8:25
  in
• 8:25
  public.
• 8:26
  I
• 8:26
  know
• 8:26
  that
• 8:26
  sounds
• 8:27
  horrible,
• 8:28
  but
• 8:28
  the
• 8:29
  one
• 8:29
  time
• 8:29
  that
• 8:29
  I
• 8:29
  can
• 8:29
  remember,
• 8:30
  and
• 8:30
  I
• 8:30
  know
• 8:30
  this
• 8:30
  has
• 8:30
  happened
• 8:31
  more
• 8:31
  than
• 8:31
  once,
• 8:33
  but
• 8:34
  my
• 8:34
  kids
• 8:34
  were
• 8:34
  there
• 8:35
  and
• 8:35
  I
• 8:35
  saw
• 8:36
  a
• 8:36
  little,
• 8:37
  like
• 8:37
  the
• 8:37
  little
• 8:38
  paper
• 8:39
  tray
• 8:40
  that
• 8:40
  they
• 8:40
  have,
• 8:40
  you
• 8:40
  know,
• 8:40
  like
• 8:41
  at
• 8:41
  a
• 8:41
  fast
• 8:41
  food
• 8:42
  place.
• 8:42
  This
• 8:42
  was
• 8:42
  actually
• 8:42
  at
• 8:43
  a
• 8:43
  boardwalk,
• 8:43
  Santa
• 8:43
  Cruz
• 8:44
  beach
• 8:44
  boardwalk,
• 8:45
  where
• 8:45
  you
• 8:45
  could
• 8:46
  get
• 8:46
  a
• 8:46
  hot
• 8:46
  dog
• 8:46
  and
• 8:46
  then
• 8:47
  you
• 8:47
  have
• 8:47
  a
• 8:47
  little
• 8:48
  booth
• 8:48
  there
• 8:49
  and
• 8:49
  you
• 8:49
  can
• 8:49
  put
• 8:50
  relish
• 8:50
  or
• 8:51
  whatever
• 8:51
  in
• 8:51
  the
• 8:51
  little
• 8:52
  tray
• 8:52
  and
• 8:52
  then
• 8:52
  dip
• 8:53
  your
• 8:53
  hot
• 8:53
  dog
• 8:53
  in
• 8:53
  it
• 8:53
  or
• 8:53
  whatever.
• 8:54
  Anyway,
• 8:54
  it
• 8:55
  had
• 8:55
  onions
• 8:55
  in
• 8:55
  it.
• 8:56
  And
• 8:57
  I
• 8:57
  saw
• 8:57
  the
• 8:57
  onions
• 8:58
  on
• 8:58
  there,
• 8:59
  and
• 8:59
  we
• 8:59
  were
• 8:59
  walking
• 9:00
  by
• 9:01
  and
• 9:01
  I
• 9:02
  saw
• 9:02
  them
• 9:02
  and
• 9:02
  nobody
• 9:02
  was
• 9:03
  standing
• 9:03
  there
• 9:04
  from
• 9:04
  what
• 9:04
  I
• 9:04
  can
• 9:04
  remember.
• 9:06
  But
• 9:06
  I
• 9:06
  saw
• 9:06
  the
• 9:06
  onions
• 9:07
  as
• 9:08
  an
• 9:08
  adult
• 9:09
  and
• 9:09
  thought,
• 9:10
  oh,
• 9:10
  onions.
• 9:11
  And
• 9:11
  they
• 9:11
  were
• 9:11
  in
• 9:11
  my
• 9:11
  mouth
• 9:12
  before
• 9:12
  I
• 9:13
  even
• 9:13
  knew
• 9:13
  what
• 9:13
  was
• 9:13
  happening.
• 9:13
  My
• 9:14
  kids
• 9:14
  said,
• 9:14
  mom.
• 9:15
  And
• 9:15
  they
• 9:15
  belonged
• 9:16
  to
• 9:16
  a
• 9:16
  lady
• 9:16
  who
• 9:16
  was
• 9:16
  just
• 9:17
  a
• 9:17
  little
• 9:17
  bit
• 9:17
  to
• 9:17
  the
• 9:17
  right
• 9:18
  and
• 9:18
  she
• 9:18
  was
• 9:19
  turning
• 9:19
  to
• 9:19
  maybe
• 9:20
  get
• 9:20
  ketchup
• 9:20
  or
• 9:20
  something
• 9:22
  and
• 9:23
  total
• 9:24
  impulsive
• 9:24
  move.
• 9:25
  And
• 9:25
  I
• 9:25
  had
• 9:26
  no
• 9:26
  idea
• 9:26
  I
• 9:26
  was
• 9:26
  doing
• 9:27
  it.
• 9:27
  There
• 9:27
  were
• 9:28
  no
• 9:28
  breaks
• 9:28
  going
• 9:29
  on
• 9:29
  there,
• 9:30
  and
• 9:31
  I've
• 9:31
  done
• 9:31
  that
• 9:32
  before.
• 9:32
  You
• 9:32
  have
• 9:32
  to
• 9:33
  really
• 9:33
  be
• 9:33
  careful
• 9:33
  driving.
• 9:34
  This
• 9:34
  is
• 9:34
  one
• 9:34
  thing
• 9:34
  that
• 9:34
  my
• 9:35
  doctor
• 9:36
  told
• 9:36
  me
• 9:36
  when
• 9:36
  I
• 9:36
  went
• 9:36
  in
• 9:37
  and
• 9:37
  was
• 9:37
  diagnosed
• 9:37
  for
• 9:37
  adhd.
• 9:38
  And
• 9:39
  I
• 9:39
  said,
• 9:39
  well,
• 9:40
  I
• 9:40
  don't
• 9:40
  know
• 9:40
  if
• 9:40
  I
• 9:40
  want
• 9:41
  to
• 9:41
  take
• 9:41
  medication.
• 9:41
  I'm
• 9:42
  not
• 9:42
  sure
• 9:42
  about
• 9:42
  this
• 9:42
  and
• 9:43
  this
• 9:43
  and
• 9:43
  this.
• 9:44
  And
• 9:44
  he
• 9:45
  said,
• 9:45
  one
• 9:45
  thing
• 9:46
  to
• 9:46
  consider
• 9:46
  is
• 9:46
  there
• 9:47
  are
• 9:47
  safety
• 9:47
  issues
• 9:48
  with
• 9:48
  driving
• 9:50
  if
• 9:51
  you
• 9:51
  have
• 9:51
  impulsivity
• 9:52
  problems
• 9:53
  or
• 9:54
  who
• 9:55
  knows
• 9:55
  what,
• 9:55
  you
• 9:55
  know,
• 9:55
  paying
• 9:56
  attention
• 9:56
  or
• 9:56
  something
• 9:56
  like
• 9:57
  that.
• 9:57
  And
• 9:57
  I
• 9:58
  have
• 9:58
  done
• 9:58
  that
• 9:58
  before
• 9:58
  where
• 9:59
  I'm
• 9:59
  driving.
• 9:59
  And
• 10:00
  then
• 10:00
  I
• 10:00
  think,
• 10:01
  oh,
• 10:01
  like
• 10:01
  one
• 10:02
  time,
• 10:02
  and
• 10:02
  this
• 10:02
  wasn't
• 10:03
  an
• 10:03
  unsafe
• 10:03
  thing,
• 10:04
  but
• 10:04
  it
• 10:04
  did
• 10:04
  wreck
• 10:04
  our
• 10:04
  car.
• 10:05
  But
• 10:05
  I
• 10:06
  had
• 10:06
  the
• 10:06
  kids.
• 10:06
  We
• 10:06
  were
• 10:06
  on
• 10:07
  a
• 10:07
  trip
• 10:07
  in
• 10:07
  San
• 10:07
  Diego.
• 10:08
  It
• 10:09
  was
• 10:09
  like,
• 10:10
  how
• 10:10
  many
• 10:10
  hours
• 10:10
  Was
• 10:11
  that?
• 10:11
  Like
• 10:11
  15
• 10:11
  hours
• 10:12
  from
• 10:12
  our
• 10:12
  house.
• 10:12
  We
• 10:12
  lived
• 10:13
  way
• 10:13
  north,
• 10:13
  Northern
• 10:14
  California,
• 10:15
  and.
• 10:16
  And
• 10:16
  we
• 10:16
  were
• 10:17
  driving
• 10:17
  to
• 10:17
  go
• 10:17
  to
• 10:18
  Target.
• 10:18
  I
• 10:18
  have
• 10:19
  no
• 10:19
  idea
• 10:19
  why,
• 10:20
  but
• 10:20
  my
• 10:21
  husband
• 10:21
  wasn't
• 10:21
  with
• 10:22
  us.
• 10:22
  He
• 10:22
  went
• 10:22
  with
• 10:22
  his
• 10:23
  brother
• 10:23
  somewhere
• 10:24
  that
• 10:24
  day.
• 10:24
  So
• 10:24
  I
• 10:24
  was
• 10:24
  just
• 10:24
  with
• 10:25
  the
• 10:25
  kids.
• 10:26
  And
• 10:26
  I
• 10:26
  know
• 10:26
  none
• 10:26
  of
• 10:26
  that
• 10:26
  seems
• 10:27
  like
• 10:27
  it
• 10:27
  matters,
• 10:27
  but
• 10:28
  we
• 10:28
  were
• 10:29
  driving
• 10:29
  through
• 10:30
  the
• 10:30
  parking
• 10:30
  lot,
• 10:30
  and
• 10:30
  I
• 10:30
  think
• 10:30
  this
• 10:31
  is
• 10:31
  the
• 10:31
  day,
• 10:31
  the
• 10:32
  days
• 10:32
  before.
• 10:32
  We
• 10:32
  had
• 10:32
  GPS
• 10:33
  or
• 10:33
  anything,
• 10:33
  so
• 10:34
  we
• 10:34
  knew
• 10:34
  how
• 10:35
  to
• 10:35
  get
• 10:35
  to
• 10:35
  Target,
• 10:35
  but
• 10:36
  I
• 10:36
  couldn't
• 10:36
  find
• 10:37
  it
• 10:37
  in
• 10:37
  the
• 10:37
  parking
• 10:38
  area.
• 10:38
  It's
• 10:38
  like,
• 10:38
  okay,
• 10:39
  I
• 10:39
  know
• 10:39
  it's
• 10:39
  here
• 10:39
  somewhere.
• 10:40
  So
• 10:40
  I'm
• 10:40
  about
• 10:41
  to
• 10:41
  go
• 10:41
  out
• 10:41
  of
• 10:42
  the
• 10:43
  the
• 10:44
  parking
• 10:45
  space,
• 10:46
  whatever
• 10:46
  you
• 10:46
  call
• 10:46
  it,
• 10:47
  that
• 10:47
  whole
• 10:47
  area.
• 10:48
  And
• 10:48
  as
• 10:49
  I'm
• 10:49
  starting,
• 10:49
  as
• 10:50
  I'm
• 10:50
  still
• 10:50
  going
• 10:50
  forward
• 10:51
  but
• 10:51
  slowly,
• 10:52
  I
• 10:53
  see
• 10:53
  Target
• 10:54
  off
• 10:54
  to
• 10:54
  my
• 10:54
  right.
• 10:55
  So
• 10:55
  my
• 10:55
  impulse
• 10:56
  is,
• 10:56
  oh,
• 10:57
  there's
• 10:57
  Target.
• 10:58
  I'm
• 10:58
  going
• 10:58
  to
• 10:58
  put
• 10:58
  on
• 10:58
  the
• 10:58
  brakes
• 10:59
  and
• 10:59
  then
• 10:59
  turn
• 11:00
  that
• 11:00
  way.
• 11:00
  And
• 11:01
  I
• 11:01
  didn't
• 11:01
  do
• 11:01
  some
• 11:01
  crazy,
• 11:02
  like,
• 11:02
  turn
• 11:02
  right
• 11:02
  before
• 11:02
  I
• 11:03
  even
• 11:03
  think
• 11:03
  about
• 11:03
  it,
• 11:03
  but
• 11:05
  I
• 11:05
  put
• 11:06
  on
• 11:06
  the
• 11:06
  brakes
• 11:06
  before
• 11:07
  I
• 11:07
  thought
• 11:07
  about
• 11:07
  it.
• 11:07
  And
• 11:08
  the
• 11:08
  car
• 11:08
  was
• 11:08
  still
• 11:09
  accelerating
• 11:09
  and
• 11:09
  it
• 11:10
  ruined
• 11:10
  our
• 11:11
  transmission,
• 11:11
  which
• 11:12
  I
• 11:12
  didn't
• 11:12
  know
• 11:12
  yet,
• 11:13
  but
• 11:14
  I
• 11:14
  did
• 11:14
  that.
• 11:14
  I
• 11:14
  felt
• 11:15
  I
• 11:15
  heard
• 11:15
  a
• 11:15
  weird
• 11:15
  sound.
• 11:16
  And
• 11:16
  then
• 11:17
  we
• 11:17
  drove
• 11:17
  her
• 11:17
  over
• 11:17
  and
• 11:18
  went
• 11:18
  into
• 11:18
  Target.
• 11:18
  We
• 11:19
  came
• 11:19
  back
• 11:19
  out
• 11:19
  and
• 11:19
  the
• 11:19
  car
• 11:20
  wouldn't
• 11:20
  go
• 11:20
  in
• 11:20
  reverse.
• 11:22
  And
• 11:23
  we
• 11:23
  couldn't
• 11:23
  even,
• 11:23
  you
• 11:24
  know,
• 11:24
  put
• 11:24
  it
• 11:24
  in
• 11:24
  neutral
• 11:25
  so
• 11:25
  we
• 11:25
  could
• 11:25
  push
• 11:25
  it.
• 11:26
  It
• 11:26
  was
• 11:26
  a
• 11:26
  mess.
• 11:27
  It
• 11:27
  was
• 11:27
  a
• 11:27
  mess.
• 11:28
  And
• 11:28
  I
• 11:29
  don't
• 11:29
  remember
• 11:29
  how,
• 11:30
  how
• 11:30
  it
• 11:30
  worked
• 11:31
  out
• 11:31
  because
• 11:31
  my
• 11:31
  husband
• 11:31
  wasn't
• 11:32
  nearby
• 11:32
  and
• 11:32
  he's
• 11:32
  really
• 11:32
  good
• 11:33
  with
• 11:33
  cars.
• 11:33
  But
• 11:33
  somebody
• 11:34
  helped
• 11:34
  us
• 11:34
  and
• 11:34
  somehow
• 11:35
  we
• 11:35
  were
• 11:36
  able
• 11:36
  to
• 11:36
  push
• 11:36
  it
• 11:36
  because
• 11:37
  it
• 11:37
  was
• 11:37
  really
• 11:37
  gripping
• 11:37
  on,
• 11:38
  you
• 11:38
  know,
• 11:38
  took
• 11:38
  off
• 11:38
  the
• 11:38
  emergency
• 11:39
  brake,
• 11:40
  push
• 11:40
  it
• 11:40
  back
• 11:40
  out
• 11:41
  of
• 11:41
  the
• 11:41
  parking
• 11:41
  space,
• 11:42
  which
• 11:43
  I
• 11:43
  don't
• 11:43
  know
• 11:43
  how
• 11:43
  I
• 11:43
  knew
• 11:44
  I
• 11:44
  could
• 11:44
  go
• 11:44
  forward
• 11:45
  because,
• 11:45
  you
• 11:45
  know,
• 11:46
  why,
• 11:46
  why
• 11:46
  get
• 11:47
  out
• 11:47
  of
• 11:47
  the
• 11:47
  parking
• 11:47
  space
• 11:47
  and
• 11:47
  not
• 11:48
  be
• 11:48
  able
• 11:48
  to
• 11:48
  go
• 11:48
  forward?
• 11:49
  But
• 11:50
  maybe
• 11:50
  I
• 11:50
  tried
• 11:50
  going
• 11:51
  forward
• 11:51
  a
• 11:51
  little
• 11:51
  bit
• 11:51
  and
• 11:51
  I
• 11:51
  could.
• 11:52
  But
• 11:53
  anyway,
• 11:53
  then
• 11:53
  we
• 11:53
  drove
• 11:54
  back
• 11:54
  to
• 11:54
  my
• 11:55
  friend's
• 11:55
  house
• 11:56
  and
• 11:56
  I
• 11:56
  talked
• 11:56
  to
• 11:56
  my
• 11:56
  husband
• 11:57
  later
• 11:57
  that
• 11:57
  day
• 11:57
  and
• 11:58
  I
• 11:58
  said,
• 11:58
  the
• 11:58
  car
• 11:58
  won't
• 11:59
  go
• 11:59
  in
• 11:59
  reverse.
• 12:00
  And
• 12:00
  he
• 12:00
  was
• 12:00
  a
• 12:00
  little
• 12:00
  discouraged
• 12:01
  because
• 12:01
  he'd
• 12:01
  just
• 12:02
  replaced
• 12:02
  the
• 12:02
  transmission.
• 12:04
  And
• 12:04
  he
• 12:04
  said,
• 12:05
  yeah,
• 12:05
  you
• 12:05
  wreck
• 12:05
  the
• 12:06
  transmission.
• 12:07
  And
• 12:07
  so
• 12:07
  I
• 12:07
  said,
• 12:07
  it's
• 12:08
  fine,
• 12:08
  it
• 12:08
  drives
• 12:08
  fine
• 12:09
  for
• 12:09
  you
• 12:09
  forward,
• 12:09
  as
• 12:09
  long
• 12:10
  as
• 12:10
  we
• 12:10
  don't
• 12:11
  go
• 12:11
  in
• 12:11
  reverse
• 12:11
  all
• 12:12
  the
• 12:12
  way
• 12:12
  home.
• 12:12
  Mind
• 12:12
  you,
• 12:13
  we
• 12:13
  had
• 12:13
  this
• 12:13
  15
• 12:13
  hour
• 12:14
  drive,
• 12:15
  like
• 12:16
  in
• 12:16
  two
• 12:16
  days,
• 12:17
  which
• 12:18
  I
• 12:18
  thought
• 12:18
  you
• 12:18
  could
• 12:19
  navigate
• 12:19
  that.
• 12:19
  And
• 12:19
  then
• 12:19
  when
• 12:19
  we
• 12:20
  get
• 12:20
  home,
• 12:20
  he
• 12:20
  could
• 12:21
  fix
• 12:21
  it.
• 12:21
  But
• 12:22
  we
• 12:22
  ended
• 12:22
  up
• 12:22
  taking
• 12:22
  it
• 12:23
  in
• 12:23
  and
• 12:23
  trading
• 12:23
  it
• 12:23
  in
• 12:23
  for
• 12:24
  another
• 12:24
  car,
• 12:24
  a
• 12:24
  newer
• 12:25
  car,
• 12:25
  which
• 12:25
  was
• 12:26
  good
• 12:26
  in
• 12:26
  some
• 12:26
  ways,
• 12:27
  but
• 12:27
  impulse
• 12:28
  control.
• 12:29
  And
• 12:29
  since
• 12:29
  then
• 12:29
  I'm
• 12:30
  more
• 12:30
  mindful
• 12:30
  of
• 12:30
  it
• 12:31
  because
• 12:32
  sometimes
• 12:33
  we
• 12:33
  do
• 12:33
  put
• 12:33
  on
• 12:33
  the
• 12:34
  brakes.
• 12:34
  Impulse
• 12:35
  control.
• 12:35
  Well,
• 12:35
  like
• 12:35
  impulsively,
• 12:36
  instinctively,
• 12:37
  you
• 12:37
  know,
• 12:37
  it's
• 12:37
  like,
• 12:38
  oh,
• 12:39
  there's
• 12:39
  a
• 12:39
  car
• 12:39
  coming,
• 12:40
  like,
• 12:40
  or,
• 12:41
  you
• 12:41
  know,
• 12:41
  somebody
• 12:41
  on
• 12:41
  a
• 12:41
  bicycle,
• 12:42
  you
• 12:42
  know,
• 12:42
  you
• 12:42
  put
• 12:42
  on
• 12:43
  the
• 12:43
  brakes
• 12:44
  and
• 12:44
  other
• 12:45
  times
• 12:46
  you
• 12:46
  might
• 12:46
  do
• 12:47
  it
• 12:47
  without
• 12:48
  thinking
• 12:48
  if
• 12:48
  it's
• 12:49
  a
• 12:49
  good
• 12:49
  idea
• 12:49
  or
• 12:49
  not.
• 12:51
  Which
• 12:51
  makes
• 12:51
  me
• 12:52
  wonder,
• 12:52
  like,
• 12:52
  if
• 12:52
  I'm
• 12:53
  driving
• 12:53
  and
• 12:53
  I
• 12:53
  put
• 12:54
  on
• 12:54
  the
• 12:54
  brakes,
• 12:55
  why
• 12:55
  is
• 12:56
  that
• 12:56
  okay,
• 12:56
  but
• 12:56
  not
• 12:56
  okay?
• 12:57
  Maybe
• 12:57
  I
• 12:57
  did
• 12:57
  the
• 12:57
  emergency
• 12:58
  brake,
• 12:58
  maybe
• 12:58
  I
• 12:58
  did
• 12:59
  the
• 12:59
  emergency.
• 12:59
  I
• 12:59
  don't
• 13:00
  Know
• 13:00
  what
• 13:00
  I
• 13:00
  did?
• 13:00
  Oh,
• 13:01
  that's
• 13:01
  what
• 13:02
  I
• 13:02
  did.
• 13:03
  Okay.
• 13:03
  I
• 13:03
  don't
• 13:03
  know
• 13:03
  if
• 13:04
  I
• 13:04
  said
• 13:04
  this
• 13:04
  wrong.
• 13:05
  Maybe
• 13:06
  I
• 13:06
  said
• 13:06
  it
• 13:06
  right
• 13:06
  and
• 13:06
  I
• 13:06
  don't
• 13:07
  have
• 13:07
  time
• 13:07
  to
• 13:07
  go
• 13:07
  back
• 13:07
  and
• 13:07
  listen.
• 13:08
  I
• 13:09
  didn't
• 13:09
  put
• 13:09
  on
• 13:09
  the
• 13:09
  brakes
• 13:09
  while
• 13:10
  I
• 13:10
  was
• 13:10
  going
• 13:10
  forward.
• 13:11
  I
• 13:11
  put
• 13:11
  it
• 13:11
  in
• 13:11
  reverse.
• 13:12
  That's
• 13:12
  what
• 13:12
  I
• 13:13
  did.
• 13:13
  Maybe
• 13:14
  I
• 13:14
  already
• 13:14
  said
• 13:14
  that,
• 13:15
  but
• 13:15
  yeah.
• 13:16
  So
• 13:16
  while
• 13:17
  I
• 13:17
  was
• 13:17
  going
• 13:17
  forward,
• 13:18
  I
• 13:18
  thought,
• 13:19
  there's
• 13:19
  Target.
• 13:20
  I
• 13:20
  put
• 13:20
  the
• 13:20
  car
• 13:20
  in
• 13:21
  reverse.
• 13:21
  It
• 13:21
  was
• 13:21
  an
• 13:22
  automatic,
• 13:23
  and
• 13:23
  that's
• 13:23
  when
• 13:23
  I
• 13:24
  heard
• 13:24
  the
• 13:24
  sound.
• 13:25
  So,
• 13:25
  yeah,
• 13:26
  wasn't
• 13:26
  a
• 13:27
  brake
• 13:27
  problem.
• 13:27
  It
• 13:27
  was
• 13:27
  a
• 13:28
  changing
• 13:28
  the
• 13:28
  transmission
• 13:29
  when
• 13:29
  you
• 13:29
  shouldn't
• 13:31
  to
• 13:31
  reverse.
• 13:32
  Anyway,
• 13:32
  so
• 13:33
  let
• 13:33
  me,
• 13:35
  let
• 13:35
  me
• 13:36
  go
• 13:37
  to
• 13:37
  a
• 13:37
  different
• 13:37
  part
• 13:37
  right
• 13:37
  here.
• 13:38
  Just
• 13:38
  kind
• 13:38
  of
• 13:39
  explaining
• 13:40
  that
• 13:40
  there's
• 13:40
  a
• 13:40
  part
• 13:40
  of
• 13:41
  our
• 13:41
  brain
• 13:42
  that
• 13:43
  controls
• 13:44
  inhibition.
• 13:46
  So
• 13:46
  getting
• 13:47
  yourself
• 13:47
  to
• 13:47
  stop
• 13:48
  doing
• 13:48
  something
• 13:50
  when
• 13:51
  you
• 13:51
  think,
• 13:51
  I
• 13:52
  should
• 13:52
  put
• 13:52
  on
• 13:52
  the
• 13:52
  brakes,
• 13:52
  right?
• 13:53
  And
• 13:54
  now
• 13:54
  I've
• 13:54
  gotten
• 13:54
  us
• 13:54
  all
• 13:54
  confused
• 13:55
  because
• 13:56
  I
• 13:56
  talked
• 13:56
  about
• 13:56
  putting
• 13:57
  on
• 13:57
  the
• 13:57
  brakes
• 13:57
  and
• 13:58
  putting
• 13:58
  in
• 13:58
  reverse.
• 13:59
  We're
• 13:59
  just
• 13:59
  talking
• 13:59
  about
• 14:02
  stopping,
• 14:02
  doing
• 14:02
  something
• 14:02
  that
• 14:03
  we're
• 14:03
  thinking
• 14:03
  of
• 14:03
  doing
• 14:05
  or
• 14:05
  that
• 14:05
  we
• 14:05
  shouldn't
• 14:06
  be
• 14:06
  doing.
• 14:07
  And
• 14:07
  sometimes
• 14:08
  that
• 14:08
  could
• 14:08
  be
• 14:08
  if
• 14:08
  you're
• 14:08
  super,
• 14:09
  super
• 14:09
  talkative
• 14:10
  and
• 14:10
  you're
• 14:11
  realizing,
• 14:11
  I
• 14:11
  shouldn't
• 14:11
  be
• 14:12
  talking
• 14:12
  so
• 14:12
  much
• 14:12
  or
• 14:13
  I
• 14:13
  shouldn't
• 14:13
  be,
• 14:16
  you
• 14:16
  know,
• 14:16
  putting
• 14:16
  in
• 14:17
  my
• 14:17
  input
• 14:17
  as
• 14:17
  often
• 14:18
  or,
• 14:20
  I
• 14:20
  don't
• 14:20
  know,
• 14:20
  chiming
• 14:21
  in,
• 14:21
  as
• 14:21
  I
• 14:22
  like
• 14:22
  to
• 14:22
  call
• 14:22
  it.
• 14:22
  In
• 14:22
  conversations
• 14:23
  which
• 14:23
  might
• 14:24
  stop
• 14:24
  somebody
• 14:24
  half
• 14:25
  halfway
• 14:25
  through,
• 14:25
  they're
• 14:25
  just
• 14:26
  their
• 14:26
  sentence
• 14:26
  and
• 14:27
  it's
• 14:27
  just
• 14:27
  an
• 14:27
  excitement,
• 14:28
  but
• 14:29
  it's
• 14:29
  an
• 14:29
  inhibition
• 14:30
  and
• 14:30
  the
• 14:30
  ability
• 14:31
  to
• 14:33
  stop
• 14:33
  that
• 14:33
  isn't
• 14:34
  always
• 14:34
  there.
• 14:35
  As
• 14:36
  I've
• 14:36
  gotten
• 14:36
  older,
• 14:36
  I've
• 14:37
  recognized
• 14:38
  it
• 14:38
  more.
• 14:39
  But
• 14:39
  there
• 14:39
  could
• 14:39
  be
• 14:40
  things
• 14:40
  that
• 14:40
  you
• 14:40
  could,
• 14:41
  like,
• 14:41
  say
• 14:41
  something
• 14:42
  that
• 14:42
  you
• 14:42
  actually
• 14:42
  regret,
• 14:43
  like,
• 14:43
  did
• 14:43
  I
• 14:44
  actually
• 14:44
  say
• 14:44
  that
• 14:44
  out
• 14:45
  loud?
• 14:45
  Or
• 14:46
  with
• 14:46
  emotions
• 14:47
  tied
• 14:47
  to
• 14:47
  it.
• 14:47
  You
• 14:48
  know,
• 14:48
  say
• 14:48
  something
• 14:49
  that,
• 14:51
  you
• 14:52
  know,
• 14:52
  you.
• 14:52
  Like
• 14:52
  when
• 14:54
  somebody
• 14:55
  says
• 14:55
  something
• 14:55
  and
• 14:55
  you.
• 14:56
  You
• 14:56
  just
• 14:56
  snap
• 14:56
  back
• 14:56
  or
• 14:57
  something
• 14:57
  where
• 14:58
  you
• 14:58
  might
• 14:59
  be
• 14:59
  a
• 15:00
  little
• 15:00
  more
• 15:00
  measured
• 15:00
  and
• 15:01
  listen
• 15:01
  to
• 15:01
  them
• 15:02
  and.
• 15:02
  And
• 15:03
  not
• 15:03
  do
• 15:03
  that
• 15:03
  and
• 15:03
  not
• 15:04
  cause
• 15:04
  some
• 15:05
  problems.
• 15:06
  Or
• 15:06
  even
• 15:06
  you
• 15:06
  get
• 15:07
  a
• 15:07
  text
• 15:07
  or
• 15:07
  an
• 15:07
  email
• 15:08
  and
• 15:08
  your
• 15:09
  first
• 15:09
  response
• 15:09
  is,
• 15:09
  ah,
• 15:10
  I
• 15:10
  want
• 15:10
  to
• 15:10
  say
• 15:10
  this.
• 15:11
  You
• 15:11
  know,
• 15:11
  like,
• 15:11
  if
• 15:11
  it
• 15:11
  makes
• 15:11
  you
• 15:12
  upset
• 15:12
  or
• 15:12
  something.
• 15:13
  And
• 15:13
  just
• 15:14
  pausing,
• 15:14
  Pausing
• 15:15
  is
• 15:15
  important.
• 15:16
  And
• 15:16
  I
• 15:17
  would
• 15:17
  think,
• 15:17
  like,
• 15:17
  with
• 15:18
  texting
• 15:18
  and
• 15:18
  emailing,
• 15:19
  you
• 15:20
  do
• 15:20
  have
• 15:20
  more
• 15:20
  time
• 15:20
  because
• 15:22
  the
• 15:23
  person's
• 15:23
  not
• 15:24
  right
• 15:24
  there.
• 15:24
  And
• 15:24
  it
• 15:24
  takes
• 15:25
  more
• 15:25
  time
• 15:25
  to
• 15:25
  actually
• 15:26
  write
• 15:26
  a
• 15:26
  text
• 15:27
  or
• 15:27
  write
• 15:27
  an
• 15:27
  email.
• 15:28
  So
• 15:28
  you
• 15:28
  do
• 15:28
  have
• 15:28
  a
• 15:28
  little
• 15:29
  bit
• 15:29
  of
• 15:29
  time
• 15:30
  to
• 15:32
  weigh
• 15:32
  it
• 15:33
  out
• 15:33
  and
• 15:33
  ask
• 15:34
  yourself,
• 15:34
  is
• 15:34
  this
• 15:35
  a
• 15:35
  good
• 15:35
  idea
• 15:35
  or
• 15:35
  not.
• 15:36
  But
• 15:36
  in
• 15:37
  social
• 15:37
  situations,
• 15:38
  we
• 15:38
  might
• 15:39
  share
• 15:40
  more
• 15:40
  or
• 15:40
  give
• 15:41
  more
• 15:41
  details
• 15:41
  or
• 15:42
  tell
• 15:43
  too
• 15:43
  many
• 15:43
  stories
• 15:44
  or
• 15:44
  interruptions
• 15:45
  or.
• 15:46
  Or
• 15:46
  Even
• 15:46
  just
• 15:47
  say
• 15:47
  yes
• 15:47
  to
• 15:47
  doing
• 15:47
  things.
• 15:48
  You
• 15:48
  know,
• 15:48
  people,
• 15:48
  you
• 15:48
  want
• 15:48
  to
• 15:48
  do
• 15:48
  this,
• 15:49
  oh
• 15:49
  yeah,
• 15:49
  I'll
• 15:49
  do
• 15:49
  it.
• 15:49
  You
• 15:50
  know,
• 15:50
  and
• 15:50
  then
• 15:50
  maybe
• 15:50
  think,
• 15:50
  oh,
• 15:50
  I
• 15:51
  shouldn't
• 15:51
  have
• 15:51
  done
• 15:51
  that.
• 15:52
  You
• 15:52
  know,
• 15:54
  regretting
• 15:54
  that
• 15:54
  you're
• 15:55
  too
• 15:55
  involved
• 15:55
  or
• 15:55
  you've
• 15:56
  over
• 15:56
  committed
• 15:56
  and,
• 15:57
  and
• 15:58
  even
• 15:58
  overthinking
• 15:59
  can
• 15:59
  be
• 15:59
  impulsive.
• 15:59
  When
• 15:59
  we
• 16:00
  have
• 16:00
  lots
• 16:00
  of
• 16:00
  ideas,
• 16:00
  it's
• 16:01
  just
• 16:01
  like
• 16:01
  the,
• 16:01
  the
• 16:02
  ideas
• 16:02
  just
• 16:02
  keep
• 16:02
  coming
• 16:03
  and
• 16:03
  they
• 16:03
  keep
• 16:03
  coming
• 16:03
  and,
• 16:04
  and
• 16:04
  you
• 16:04
  can,
• 16:08
  that
• 16:08
  may
• 16:08
  not
• 16:08
  seem
• 16:08
  like
• 16:09
  something
• 16:09
  that
• 16:10
  disrupts
• 16:10
  other
• 16:11
  people,
• 16:12
  but
• 16:12
  it
• 16:12
  might
• 16:12
  be,
• 16:13
  it
• 16:13
  might
• 16:13
  be
• 16:13
  like
• 16:13
  if
• 16:14
  you,
• 16:14
  you
• 16:14
  are
• 16:15
  in
• 16:15
  a
• 16:15
  conversation
• 16:15
  and
• 16:16
  I've
• 16:16
  done
• 16:16
  this
• 16:16
  before,
• 16:16
  probably
• 16:17
  on
• 16:17
  podcast,
• 16:17
  but
• 16:18
  I
• 16:18
  know
• 16:18
  I've
• 16:18
  done
• 16:18
  it
• 16:18
  with
• 16:19
  my
• 16:19
  daughter
• 16:19
  where
• 16:20
  I'm
• 16:20
  telling
• 16:20
  her
• 16:20
  about
• 16:21
  something
• 16:21
  and
• 16:22
  then
• 16:22
  mid
• 16:23
  sentence
• 16:23
  it
• 16:23
  reminds
• 16:24
  me
• 16:24
  of
• 16:24
  something
• 16:24
  else.
• 16:24
  And
• 16:25
  so
• 16:25
  I
• 16:25
  start
• 16:25
  talking
• 16:25
  about
• 16:26
  that
• 16:26
  and
• 16:26
  I
• 16:26
  can
• 16:26
  go
• 16:27
  around
• 16:27
  and
• 16:28
  I've
• 16:28
  been
• 16:28
  with
• 16:28
  other
• 16:28
  people
• 16:29
  who
• 16:29
  have
• 16:29
  ADHD
• 16:30
  and
• 16:30
  they
• 16:30
  can
• 16:30
  follow
• 16:30
  what
• 16:31
  I'm
• 16:31
  doing.
• 16:31
  And
• 16:31
  I've
• 16:31
  heard
• 16:32
  other
• 16:32
  friends
• 16:32
  who
• 16:33
  say,
• 16:33
  oh
• 16:33
  gosh,
• 16:33
  I
• 16:34
  just
• 16:34
  jumped
• 16:34
  all
• 16:34
  over
• 16:34
  the
• 16:34
  place.
• 16:34
  I
• 16:35
  don't
• 16:35
  know
• 16:35
  if
• 16:35
  you
• 16:35
  followed
• 16:35
  that.
• 16:35
  And
• 16:35
  I
• 16:35
  thought,
• 16:36
  oh
• 16:36
  yeah,
• 16:36
  I
• 16:36
  did,
• 16:36
  because
• 16:37
  my
• 16:37
  brain
• 16:37
  works
• 16:37
  that
• 16:37
  way
• 16:37
  too.
• 16:38
  But
• 16:39
  a
• 16:39
  lot
• 16:39
  of
• 16:39
  people,
• 16:40
  it's
• 16:40
  not
• 16:40
  how
• 16:40
  they
• 16:40
  think
• 16:41
  and,
• 16:42
  and,
• 16:43
  and
• 16:43
  they
• 16:44
  don't
• 16:44
  want
• 16:44
  to
• 16:44
  jump
• 16:44
  around.
• 16:45
  And
• 16:45
  the
• 16:45
  risk
• 16:45
  of
• 16:46
  jumping
• 16:46
  around
• 16:47
  too,
• 16:47
  not
• 16:47
  only
• 16:48
  in
• 16:48
  alienating
• 16:49
  the
• 16:49
  person
• 16:49
  that's
• 16:50
  listening
• 16:50
  to
• 16:50
  you,
• 16:51
  is
• 16:51
  also
• 16:52
  forgetting
• 16:53
  what
• 16:53
  you're
• 16:53
  talking
• 16:53
  about
• 16:54
  in
• 16:54
  the
• 16:54
  first
• 16:54
  place.
• 16:55
  You
• 16:55
  go
• 16:55
  on
• 16:55
  a
• 16:55
  tangent,
• 16:56
  you
• 16:56
  want
• 16:56
  to
• 16:56
  explain
• 16:57
  that
• 16:57
  tangent,
• 16:57
  you
• 16:58
  want
• 16:58
  to
• 16:58
  tell
• 16:58
  some
• 16:59
  really
• 16:59
  great
• 17:00
  details
• 17:01
  on
• 17:01
  that
• 17:01
  tangent,
• 17:01
  and
• 17:02
  then
• 17:02
  you
• 17:02
  forget
• 17:02
  where
• 17:02
  you
• 17:03
  were
• 17:03
  at
• 17:03
  the
• 17:03
  beginning.
• 17:04
  That
• 17:04
  can
• 17:04
  also
• 17:05
  happen
• 17:05
  just
• 17:05
  in
• 17:06
  our
• 17:06
  patterns.
• 17:06
  As
• 17:07
  you
• 17:07
  go
• 17:07
  on
• 17:07
  your
• 17:07
  computer
• 17:08
  to
• 17:08
  do
• 17:08
  something
• 17:08
  and
• 17:09
  then
• 17:09
  you
• 17:09
  get
• 17:09
  an
• 17:09
  email.
• 17:10
  So
• 17:10
  that
• 17:10
  takes
• 17:10
  you
• 17:10
  on
• 17:11
  what,
• 17:11
  a
• 17:11
  tange
• 17:12
  or
• 17:12
  to
• 17:12
  another
• 17:12
  tab.
• 17:12
  And
• 17:13
  then
• 17:13
  you
• 17:13
  do
• 17:13
  that
• 17:13
  for
• 17:13
  a
• 17:13
  while
• 17:14
  and
• 17:14
  then
• 17:14
  you
• 17:14
  think,
• 17:15
  oh,
• 17:15
  I
• 17:15
  should
• 17:15
  do
• 17:15
  this
• 17:15
  too.
• 17:16
  And
• 17:16
  all
• 17:16
  of
• 17:16
  a
• 17:16
  sudden
• 17:16
  you
• 17:17
  have
• 17:17
  all
• 17:17
  these
• 17:17
  tabs
• 17:17
  open
• 17:18
  and
• 17:19
  you
• 17:20
  spent
• 17:20
  all
• 17:20
  this
• 17:20
  time
• 17:20
  doing
• 17:21
  it
• 17:21
  and
• 17:21
  you
• 17:21
  didn't
• 17:21
  do
• 17:21
  what
• 17:22
  you
• 17:22
  came
• 17:22
  there
• 17:23
  to
• 17:23
  do.
• 17:24
  And
• 17:25
  so
• 17:27
  these
• 17:27
  impulsive
• 17:28
  ways,
• 17:28
  and
• 17:28
  it
• 17:28
  might
• 17:28
  not
• 17:28
  seem
• 17:29
  like
• 17:29
  it's
• 17:29
  impulsive
• 17:29
  to
• 17:30
  click
• 17:30
  on
• 17:30
  an
• 17:30
  email,
• 17:31
  but
• 17:31
  if
• 17:32
  you're
• 17:33
  in
• 17:33
  a
• 17:33
  time
• 17:34
  restraint
• 17:35
  and
• 17:35
  you
• 17:35
  really
• 17:35
  need
• 17:35
  to
• 17:36
  get
• 17:36
  one
• 17:36
  thing
• 17:36
  done,
• 17:37
  you
• 17:37
  have
• 17:37
  to,
• 17:39
  you
• 17:39
  have
• 17:39
  to
• 17:39
  be
• 17:39
  really
• 17:39
  controlled.
• 17:40
  If
• 17:40
  you
• 17:41
  don't
• 17:41
  want
• 17:42
  to
• 17:44
  what,
• 17:44
  be
• 17:44
  late
• 17:44
  because
• 17:45
  you
• 17:45
  spent
• 17:45
  too
• 17:46
  much
• 17:46
  time
• 17:47
  on
• 17:47
  your
• 17:47
  computer
• 17:48
  when
• 17:48
  you
• 17:48
  only
• 17:48
  had
• 17:48
  five
• 17:49
  minutes.
• 17:49
  Or
• 17:51
  you
• 17:51
  might
• 17:51
  not
• 17:52
  pay
• 17:52
  a
• 17:52
  bill
• 17:53
  today
• 17:53
  and
• 17:53
  you
• 17:53
  started
• 17:53
  to
• 17:54
  pay
• 17:54
  the
• 17:54
  bill
• 17:54
  and
• 17:54
  then
• 17:54
  you
• 17:54
  never
• 17:55
  did.
• 17:55
  And
• 17:55
  then
• 17:55
  the
• 17:55
  next
• 17:56
  day
• 17:56
  it's
• 17:56
  late
• 17:56
  or
• 17:56
  your
• 17:57
  homeowner's
• 17:57
  insurance
• 17:58
  got
• 17:58
  canceled
• 17:58
  or
• 17:59
  whatever
• 17:59
  it
• 17:59
  is.
• 18:00
  There's
• 18:01
  a
• 18:01
  lot
• 18:01
  of
• 18:01
  things
• 18:01
  that
• 18:01
  we
• 18:02
  can
• 18:02
  raise
• 18:02
  our
• 18:02
  hand
• 18:02
  and
• 18:02
  say
• 18:03
  financially
• 18:04
  that
• 18:04
  we've
• 18:04
  done
• 18:05
  because
• 18:06
  we
• 18:07
  thought
• 18:07
  about
• 18:07
  it.
• 18:08
  And
• 18:08
  then
• 18:09
  the
• 18:09
  impulse
• 18:10
  to
• 18:10
  do
• 18:10
  something
• 18:11
  else,
• 18:11
  the
• 18:12
  idea
• 18:12
  that
• 18:12
  popped
• 18:12
  in
• 18:13
  our
• 18:13
  mind,
• 18:13
  maybe
• 18:14
  that
• 18:14
  idea
• 18:15
  isn't
• 18:15
  actually
• 18:15
  the
• 18:16
  impulse,
• 18:17
  but
• 18:17
  the
• 18:17
  acting
• 18:18
  on
• 18:18
  it
• 18:18
  is.
• 18:19
  And
• 18:19
  same
• 18:20
  with
• 18:20
  blurting
• 18:21
  out
• 18:21
  answers.
• 18:21
  If
• 18:21
  you
• 18:22
  blurted
• 18:22
  out
• 18:22
  answers
• 18:23
  as
• 18:23
  a
• 18:23
  child
• 18:24
  or
• 18:24
  as
• 18:24
  an
• 18:24
  adult,
• 18:25
  it's
• 18:27
  still
• 18:28
  a
• 18:28
  real
• 18:28
  impulse
• 18:29
  for
• 18:29
  me.
• 18:30
  The
• 18:30
  idea
• 18:31
  comes
• 18:31
  up,
• 18:31
  you
• 18:32
  want
• 18:32
  to
• 18:33
  act
• 18:33
  on
• 18:33
  that,
• 18:34
  and
• 18:34
  sometimes
• 18:35
  you
• 18:35
  can
• 18:35
  stop
• 18:35
  it
• 18:36
  and
• 18:36
  sometimes
• 18:36
  you
• 18:37
  don't.
• 18:38
  And
• 18:38
  when
• 18:38
  you
• 18:39
  don't,
• 18:40
  noticing
• 18:41
  that
• 18:41
  you
• 18:41
  did
• 18:41
  it
• 18:41
  is
• 18:42
  powerful.
• 18:43
  And
• 18:44
  also
• 18:44
  feeling
• 18:45
  bad
• 18:45
  about
• 18:45
  it
• 18:45
  is
• 18:46
  powerful.
• 18:47
  So
• 18:47
  the
• 18:47
  first
• 18:47
  powerful
• 18:48
  is
• 18:48
  a
• 18:48
  good
• 18:48
  powerful
• 18:49
  is
• 18:49
  noticing
• 18:50
  you
• 18:50
  did
• 18:50
  it
• 18:51
  can
• 18:51
  be
• 18:51
  helpful
• 18:52
  because
• 18:52
  it
• 18:53
  can
• 18:53
  be
• 18:54
  a
• 18:54
  way
• 18:54
  to
• 18:54
  learn
• 18:55
  to
• 18:55
  change.
• 18:55
  Just
• 18:56
  like
• 18:56
  going
• 18:56
  on
• 18:56
  your
• 18:56
  computer
• 18:57
  and
• 18:57
  thinking,
• 18:57
  I
• 18:58
  just
• 18:58
  keep
• 18:58
  going
• 18:58
  on
• 18:58
  here.
• 18:58
  And
• 18:58
  then
• 18:58
  I
• 18:59
  don't
• 18:59
  do
• 18:59
  what
• 19:00
  I
• 19:00
  intended
• 19:00
  to
• 19:00
  do.
• 19:00
  I
• 19:01
  went
• 19:01
  into
• 19:01
  the
• 19:01
  store
• 19:02
  to
• 19:02
  buy
• 19:02
  this
• 19:03
  and
• 19:03
  I
• 19:03
  bought
• 19:04
  everything
• 19:04
  else
• 19:04
  and
• 19:04
  not
• 19:04
  the
• 19:04
  first
• 19:05
  thing
• 19:05
  that
• 19:05
  I'd
• 19:06
  intended
• 19:06
  to
• 19:06
  do.
• 19:07
  And
• 19:07
  so
• 19:07
  when
• 19:07
  you
• 19:08
  recognize
• 19:08
  that
• 19:08
  something
• 19:09
  like
• 19:09
  that
• 19:09
  happens,
• 19:10
  then
• 19:10
  you
• 19:10
  could
• 19:11
  come
• 19:11
  up
• 19:11
  with
• 19:11
  a
• 19:11
  method
• 19:12
  to
• 19:12
  hopefully
• 19:13
  help
• 19:13
  that
• 19:14
  not
• 19:14
  happen
• 19:14
  the
• 19:14
  next
• 19:15
  time.
• 19:15
  Like
• 19:15
  sometimes
• 19:16
  I
• 19:16
  put
• 19:16
  a
• 19:16
  post
• 19:16
  it
• 19:16
  note
• 19:17
  on
• 19:17
  the
• 19:17
  edge
• 19:18
  of
• 19:18
  my
• 19:18
  computer
• 19:18
  screen
• 19:19
  that
• 19:19
  tells
• 19:19
  me
• 19:19
  that's
• 19:20
  what
• 19:20
  I'm
• 19:20
  doing.
• 19:20
  So
• 19:20
  I
• 19:20
  see
• 19:21
  it
• 19:21
  there
• 19:22
  and
• 19:22
  I
• 19:22
  can
• 19:23
  even
• 19:23
  write
• 19:23
  a
• 19:23
  note
• 19:23
  like
• 19:24
  don't
• 19:24
  do
• 19:24
  anything
• 19:24
  else
• 19:25
  or
• 19:25
  this
• 19:25
  is
• 19:25
  it,
• 19:26
  or
• 19:26
  this
• 19:26
  is
• 19:26
  it,
• 19:26
  you
• 19:26
  know,
• 19:27
  or
• 19:27
  walk
• 19:27
  in
• 19:28
  the
• 19:28
  store.
• 19:28
  I'm
• 19:28
  just
• 19:28
  going
• 19:29
  to
• 19:29
  get
• 19:29
  this
• 19:29
  one
• 19:29
  thing.
• 19:30
  No,
• 19:30
  then
• 19:30
  if
• 19:30
  I
• 19:30
  get
• 19:31
  anything
• 19:31
  else,
• 19:31
  because
• 19:31
  maybe
• 19:31
  you
• 19:32
  have
• 19:32
  a
• 19:32
  way
• 19:32
  of
• 19:32
  walking.
• 19:33
  I
• 19:33
  do.
• 19:33
  I
• 19:33
  walk
• 19:34
  to
• 19:34
  the
• 19:34
  right
• 19:34
  side
• 19:34
  of
• 19:34
  the
• 19:34
  store,
• 19:35
  go
• 19:35
  through
• 19:35
  all
• 19:35
  the
• 19:35
  aisles,
• 19:36
  Go
• 19:36
  through
• 19:36
  all
• 19:36
  the
• 19:36
  aisles.
• 19:37
  And
• 19:37
  if
• 19:37
  what
• 19:37
  you
• 19:37
  plan
• 19:37
  to
• 19:38
  get
• 19:38
  is
• 19:38
  in
• 19:38
  the
• 19:38
  dairy
• 19:39
  aisle
• 19:39
  at
• 19:39
  the
• 19:39
  very
• 19:39
  end
• 19:39
  or
• 19:40
  the
• 19:40
  freezer
• 19:40
  aisle
• 19:40
  or
• 19:41
  something
• 19:41
  you
• 19:41
  might
• 19:41
  forget
• 19:41
  by
• 19:42
  then.
• 19:42
  So
• 19:43
  go
• 19:43
  out
• 19:43
  of
• 19:43
  order,
• 19:44
  go
• 19:44
  the
• 19:44
  other
• 19:45
  way
• 19:45
  first.
• 19:45
  You
• 19:45
  know,
• 19:45
  you
• 19:45
  could
• 19:46
  come
• 19:46
  up
• 19:46
  with
• 19:46
  a
• 19:46
  method
• 19:47
  that
• 19:47
  helps
• 19:47
  you
• 19:48
  not
• 19:48
  do
• 19:49
  that
• 19:50
  with
• 19:51
  conversations
• 19:51
  that
• 19:52
  can
• 19:52
  be
• 19:52
  harder.
• 19:53
  I
• 19:53
  think
• 19:53
  I've
• 19:54
  mentioned
• 19:54
  before
• 19:54
  the
• 19:55
  parking
• 19:55
  lot
• 19:55
  for
• 19:55
  your
• 19:56
  thoughts.
• 19:56
  Years
• 19:57
  ago,
• 19:57
  my
• 19:58
  oldest
• 19:58
  daughter,
• 19:59
  who,
• 20:01
  you
• 20:01
  know,
• 20:01
  it's
• 20:02
  been
• 20:02
  a
• 20:02
  long
• 20:02
  time
• 20:02
  since
• 20:02
  she's
• 20:02
  been
• 20:02
  in
• 20:03
  high
• 20:03
  school.
• 20:03
  She's
• 20:03
  in
• 20:03
  her
• 20:04
  30s
• 20:04
  now.
• 20:05
  But
• 20:05
  when
• 20:05
  she
• 20:05
  was
• 20:06
  in
• 20:06
  high
• 20:06
  school
• 20:06
  and
• 20:06
  I
• 20:06
  went
• 20:06
  to
• 20:07
  her
• 20:07
  back
• 20:07
  to
• 20:07
  school
• 20:07
  night
• 20:08
  and
• 20:09
  we
• 20:09
  had
• 20:09
  10
• 20:09
  minutes
• 20:09
  with
• 20:10
  each
• 20:10
  teacher
• 20:10
  as
• 20:10
  a
• 20:11
  parent.
• 20:11
  We
• 20:11
  went
• 20:11
  from
• 20:11
  class
• 20:11
  to
• 20:12
  class
• 20:12
  to
• 20:12
  class,
• 20:12
  and
• 20:13
  sometimes
• 20:13
  I'd
• 20:13
  have
• 20:13
  a
• 20:14
  question,
• 20:14
  sometimes
• 20:14
  another
• 20:14
  parent
• 20:15
  would
• 20:15
  have
• 20:15
  a
• 20:15
  question.
• 20:15
  And
• 20:15
  you
• 20:16
  raised
• 20:16
  your
• 20:16
  hand.
• 20:16
  Not
• 20:16
  always,
• 20:17
  but
• 20:17
  sometimes.
• 20:18
  And
• 20:20
  the
• 20:20
  teacher
• 20:20
  Said,
• 20:21
  you
• 20:21
  each
• 20:21
  have
• 20:21
  a
• 20:21
  post
• 20:21
  it
• 20:21
  note
• 20:22
  on
• 20:22
  your
• 20:22
  desk
• 20:23
  and
• 20:23
  if
• 20:23
  you
• 20:24
  have
• 20:24
  a
• 20:24
  question
• 20:24
  or
• 20:25
  a
• 20:25
  comment,
• 20:25
  write
• 20:25
  it
• 20:26
  down.
• 20:26
  And
• 20:26
  if
• 20:27
  I
• 20:27
  haven't
• 20:27
  covered
• 20:27
  it
• 20:27
  by
• 20:27
  the
• 20:28
  end,
• 20:28
  then
• 20:28
  come
• 20:29
  talk
• 20:29
  to
• 20:29
  me
• 20:29
  or
• 20:29
  if
• 20:29
  there's
• 20:30
  time,
• 20:30
  you
• 20:30
  can
• 20:30
  bring
• 20:31
  it
• 20:31
  up.
• 20:32
  And
• 20:32
  I
• 20:32
  thought,
• 20:33
  wow,
• 20:33
  if
• 20:34
  she
• 20:34
  had
• 20:34
  just
• 20:35
  told
• 20:35
  us,
• 20:36
  if
• 20:36
  you
• 20:36
  have
• 20:36
  a
• 20:36
  question,
• 20:36
  just
• 20:37
  wait
• 20:37
  till
• 20:37
  the
• 20:37
  end
• 20:38
  or
• 20:39
  I
• 20:39
  won't
• 20:39
  have
• 20:39
  time
• 20:39
  to
• 20:40
  answer
• 20:40
  questions,
• 20:41
  that
• 20:41
  would
• 20:41
  be
• 20:42
  really
• 20:42
  hard
• 20:43
  because
• 20:43
  if
• 20:43
  a
• 20:44
  question
• 20:44
  came
• 20:44
  up
• 20:44
  in
• 20:45
  my
• 20:45
  mind,
• 20:45
  I
• 20:45
  would
• 20:45
  struggle
• 20:46
  and
• 20:46
  be
• 20:47
  all
• 20:47
  wriggly
• 20:47
  in
• 20:47
  my
• 20:48
  seat
• 20:48
  the
• 20:48
  whole
• 20:48
  time.
• 20:50
  And
• 20:51
  then
• 20:51
  I
• 20:51
  really
• 20:51
  do
• 20:51
  hate
• 20:52
  it.
• 20:53
  Even
• 20:53
  if
• 20:53
  the
• 20:53
  teacher
• 20:54
  doesn't
• 20:54
  say
• 20:54
  that
• 20:54
  here
• 20:55
  I
• 20:55
  was
• 20:55
  an
• 20:55
  adult
• 20:55
  and
• 20:56
  I
• 20:56
  still
• 20:56
  had
• 20:56
  teacher
• 20:57
  issues.
• 20:57
  I
• 20:57
  love
• 20:57
  teachers,
• 20:58
  but
• 20:58
  you
• 20:58
  know,
• 20:58
  it's
• 20:58
  just
• 20:58
  the
• 20:59
  whole,
• 20:59
  the
• 20:59
  whole
• 21:00
  back
• 21:00
  and
• 21:00
  forth.
• 21:00
  But
• 21:01
  even
• 21:01
  if
• 21:01
  the
• 21:01
  teacher
• 21:01
  did
• 21:02
  say,
• 21:03
  you
• 21:03
  know,
• 21:04
  like
• 21:04
  didn't
• 21:04
  say
• 21:05
  you
• 21:05
  couldn't
• 21:05
  answer
• 21:05
  a
• 21:05
  question
• 21:07
  or
• 21:07
  ask
• 21:07
  a
• 21:07
  question,
• 21:08
  but
• 21:08
  then
• 21:09
  I
• 21:09
  raised
• 21:09
  my
• 21:09
  hand
• 21:09
  and
• 21:09
  I
• 21:10
  ask
• 21:10
  a
• 21:10
  question
• 21:10
  and
• 21:11
  she
• 21:11
  says,
• 21:11
  oh,
• 21:11
  I'm
• 21:11
  going
• 21:11
  to
• 21:12
  talk
• 21:12
  about
• 21:12
  that
• 21:12
  at
• 21:12
  the
• 21:12
  end,
• 21:13
  that
• 21:13
  would
• 21:14
  even
• 21:14
  be
• 21:14
  hard
• 21:15
  because
• 21:15
  my
• 21:16
  impulsive
• 21:16
  brain
• 21:17
  wants
• 21:17
  to
• 21:17
  know
• 21:18
  now,
• 21:18
  I
• 21:18
  want
• 21:18
  to
• 21:19
  know
• 21:19
  now,
• 21:19
  I
• 21:19
  want
• 21:19
  to
• 21:20
  know
• 21:20
  now.
• 21:21
  And
• 21:21
  I
• 21:21
  know
• 21:21
  it
• 21:22
  sounds
• 21:22
  immature,
• 21:22
  but
• 21:24
  it's
• 21:26
  my
• 21:26
  brain
• 21:26
  functions
• 21:27
  at
• 21:27
  that
• 21:27
  level.
• 21:28
  So
• 21:29
  for
• 21:29
  her
• 21:29
  to
• 21:30
  say,
• 21:30
  if
• 21:31
  you
• 21:31
  have
• 21:31
  a
• 21:31
  question,
• 21:31
  write
• 21:32
  it
• 21:32
  on
• 21:32
  your
• 21:32
  post
• 21:32
  it
• 21:32
  note.
• 21:33
  If
• 21:33
  you
• 21:33
  have
• 21:34
  a
• 21:34
  thought,
• 21:34
  write
• 21:34
  it
• 21:35
  down.
• 21:35
  And
• 21:36
  if
• 21:36
  I
• 21:36
  haven't
• 21:36
  covered
• 21:37
  it,
• 21:37
  and
• 21:37
  she
• 21:37
  did
• 21:37
  cover
• 21:37
  it,
• 21:38
  she
• 21:38
  did
• 21:38
  cover
• 21:38
  it,
• 21:39
  but
• 21:39
  if
• 21:39
  I
• 21:39
  haven't
• 21:40
  covered
• 21:40
  it,
• 21:40
  somehow
• 21:41
  having
• 21:41
  it
• 21:42
  down
• 21:42
  on
• 21:42
  that
• 21:42
  paper
• 21:43
  was
• 21:43
  easier
• 21:44
  for
• 21:44
  me
• 21:44
  than
• 21:45
  saying,
• 21:45
  hold
• 21:45
  it
• 21:46
  till
• 21:46
  the
• 21:46
  end,
• 21:46
  or
• 21:46
  I'm
• 21:47
  going
• 21:47
  to
• 21:47
  explain
• 21:47
  that
• 21:47
  at
• 21:48
  the
• 21:48
  end,
• 21:48
  because
• 21:50
  I
• 21:50
  was
• 21:50
  able
• 21:50
  to
• 21:51
  put
• 21:51
  my
• 21:51
  thought
• 21:51
  on
• 21:52
  paper
• 21:52
  and
• 21:52
  not
• 21:52
  forget
• 21:53
  it,
• 21:53
  because
• 21:53
  I
• 21:53
  might
• 21:53
  forget
• 21:54
  later
• 21:54
  or
• 21:54
  I
• 21:55
  might
• 21:55
  not
• 21:55
  know
• 21:55
  if
• 21:55
  she
• 21:55
  answered
• 21:56
  it
• 21:56
  later,
• 21:56
  or
• 21:56
  my
• 21:56
  brain
• 21:57
  might
• 21:57
  go
• 21:57
  somewhere
• 21:57
  else.
• 21:58
  So
• 21:58
  it
• 21:58
  can
• 21:59
  be
• 21:59
  trickier
• 22:00
  in
• 22:00
  a
• 22:00
  real
• 22:00
  conversation
• 22:01
  because
• 22:02
  if
• 22:02
  you're
• 22:02
  telling
• 22:02
  a
• 22:02
  story
• 22:03
  and
• 22:03
  you
• 22:04
  want
• 22:04
  to
• 22:04
  share
• 22:04
  something,
• 22:05
  but
• 22:05
  then
• 22:06
  you
• 22:06
  talk
• 22:06
  about
• 22:06
  when
• 22:07
  I
• 22:07
  used
• 22:07
  to
• 22:07
  live
• 22:07
  here
• 22:08
  and
• 22:08
  then
• 22:08
  you
• 22:08
  want
• 22:08
  to
• 22:08
  tell
• 22:09
  some
• 22:09
  story
• 22:09
  about
• 22:10
  what
• 22:10
  it
• 22:10
  was
• 22:10
  like
• 22:10
  to
• 22:10
  live
• 22:11
  there
• 22:11
  or
• 22:11
  where
• 22:11
  that
• 22:11
  is,
• 22:12
  or
• 22:13
  I
• 22:13
  lived
• 22:13
  there
• 22:14
  for
• 22:14
  this
• 22:14
  many
• 22:14
  years
• 22:14
  and
• 22:15
  then
• 22:15
  we
• 22:15
  bought
• 22:15
  this
• 22:15
  house
• 22:15
  and
• 22:16
  you
• 22:16
  know
• 22:16
  all
• 22:16
  the
• 22:16
  details
• 22:17
  that
• 22:17
  come
• 22:17
  up.
• 22:19
  It
• 22:19
  would
• 22:19
  be
• 22:19
  harder
• 22:20
  if
• 22:20
  you're
• 22:20
  face
• 22:21
  to
• 22:21
  face
• 22:22
  to
• 22:22
  write
• 22:22
  it
• 22:23
  down
• 22:23
  in
• 22:23
  the
• 22:23
  middle
• 22:23
  of
• 22:23
  that.
• 22:24
  But
• 22:24
  you
• 22:25
  could
• 22:25
  say
• 22:25
  something
• 22:25
  like,
• 22:26
  oh,
• 22:26
  I
• 22:26
  want
• 22:26
  to
• 22:26
  tell
• 22:26
  you
• 22:27
  more
• 22:27
  about
• 22:27
  that
• 22:27
  later,
• 22:28
  and
• 22:28
  maybe
• 22:29
  they'll
• 22:29
  remind
• 22:29
  you,
• 22:30
  like,
• 22:30
  what
• 22:30
  was
• 22:30
  I
• 22:30
  going
• 22:30
  to
• 22:30
  tell
• 22:31
  you
• 22:31
  about
• 22:31
  later?
• 22:31
  Or
• 22:32
  maybe
• 22:32
  you're
• 22:33
  talking
• 22:33
  on
• 22:34
  a
• 22:35
  audio
• 22:35
  text,
• 22:35
  a
• 22:36
  voice
• 22:36
  note,
• 22:36
  or
• 22:37
  a
• 22:37
  Marco
• 22:37
  Polo
• 22:37
  with
• 22:38
  videos,
• 22:38
  or
• 22:38
  Something
• 22:38
  and
• 22:39
  you
• 22:39
  could
• 22:39
  actually
• 22:39
  write
• 22:39
  that
• 22:40
  down
• 22:40
  while
• 22:40
  you're
• 22:40
  talking.
• 22:41
  Sometimes
• 22:41
  you're
• 22:41
  not
• 22:41
  always
• 22:42
  aware
• 22:42
  you
• 22:42
  can
• 22:42
  write
• 22:42
  it
• 22:42
  down,
• 22:43
  but
• 22:43
  there
• 22:43
  are
• 22:43
  ways.
• 22:43
  And
• 22:44
  so
• 22:44
  noticing
• 22:45
  where
• 22:45
  that
• 22:46
  impulse
• 22:46
  to
• 22:47
  action
• 22:47
  part
• 22:50
  is
• 22:50
  a
• 22:50
  problem,
• 22:51
  then
• 22:51
  maybe
• 22:51
  you
• 22:52
  can
• 22:52
  find
• 22:52
  a
• 22:52
  way
• 22:52
  to
• 22:52
  deal
• 22:52
  with
• 22:53
  impulse,
• 22:54
  pause,
• 22:54
  and
• 22:55
  then
• 22:55
  make
• 22:55
  a
• 22:56
  choice
• 22:56
  and
• 22:56
  then
• 22:56
  the
• 22:56
  action.
• 22:58
  And
• 23:00
  when
• 23:00
  I
• 23:01
  talk
• 23:01
  about
• 23:01
  these
• 23:01
  things,
• 23:01
  I
• 23:02
  don't
• 23:02
  want
• 23:02
  you
• 23:02
  to
• 23:02
  think
• 23:04
  it's
• 23:05
  bad
• 23:06
  to
• 23:06
  have
• 23:06
  an
• 23:07
  impulse
• 23:07
  problem.
• 23:07
  It's
• 23:08
  bad
• 23:08
  to
• 23:08
  blurt
• 23:08
  out
• 23:08
  the
• 23:08
  answer.
• 23:09
  That
• 23:09
  was
• 23:09
  the
• 23:09
  other
• 23:09
  thing
• 23:09
  I
• 23:09
  said.
• 23:10
  There's
• 23:10
  power
• 23:10
  in
• 23:10
  recognizing
• 23:11
  when
• 23:11
  you
• 23:11
  blur
• 23:11
  something
• 23:11
  else.
• 23:12
  There's
• 23:12
  power
• 23:13
  in
• 23:13
  feeling
• 23:13
  bad
• 23:14
  about
• 23:14
  it.
• 23:14
  And
• 23:14
  the
• 23:15
  power
• 23:15
  of
• 23:15
  feeling
• 23:15
  bad
• 23:15
  about
• 23:16
  it
• 23:16
  is
• 23:16
  the.
• 23:17
  Is
• 23:17
  a
• 23:17
  negative
• 23:17
  power.
• 23:18
  We
• 23:18
  don't
• 23:18
  want
• 23:18
  to
• 23:18
  have
• 23:18
  that
• 23:19
  impact
• 23:19
  on
• 23:19
  ourselves
• 23:19
  of
• 23:20
  just
• 23:20
  like,
• 23:20
  why
• 23:20
  did
• 23:20
  I
• 23:21
  do
• 23:21
  this?
• 23:21
  This
• 23:21
  is
• 23:21
  so
• 23:21
  embarrassing.
• 23:22
  Like,
• 23:22
  I'm
• 23:22
  the
• 23:22
  only
• 23:22
  one
• 23:23
  who
• 23:23
  yelled
• 23:23
  at,
• 23:24
  I'm
• 23:24
  that
• 23:24
  person,
• 23:24
  or
• 23:24
  whatever.
• 23:26
  Don't
• 23:26
  think
• 23:26
  those
• 23:26
  things
• 23:26
  about
• 23:27
  yourself.
• 23:28
  Most
• 23:28
  people
• 23:28
  aren't
• 23:28
  going
• 23:28
  to
• 23:29
  notice
• 23:29
  if
• 23:29
  they
• 23:29
  do
• 23:30
  whatever.
• 23:31
  What
• 23:31
  can
• 23:31
  you
• 23:31
  do
• 23:31
  about
• 23:31
  it?
• 23:31
  Right?
• 23:32
  Don't
• 23:33
  give
• 23:33
  yourself
• 23:33
  the
• 23:33
  negative
• 23:34
  messages.
• 23:35
  Maybe
• 23:36
  give
• 23:36
  yourself
• 23:36
  some
• 23:36
  positive
• 23:37
  ones
• 23:37
  instead.
• 23:38
  Isn't
• 23:38
  this
• 23:38
  great
• 23:39
  that
• 23:39
  I
• 23:39
  was
• 23:39
  listening?
• 23:40
  I
• 23:40
  was
• 23:40
  engaged
• 23:40
  enough
• 23:41
  that
• 23:41
  I
• 23:41
  cared
• 23:42
  to
• 23:42
  participate.
• 23:43
  And
• 23:43
  maybe
• 23:43
  the
• 23:44
  teacher
• 23:44
  was
• 23:44
  happy
• 23:45
  to
• 23:45
  have
• 23:45
  some
• 23:45
  participation,
• 23:47
  maybe
• 23:47
  the
• 23:47
  teacher
• 23:48
  wasn't.
• 23:49
  I
• 23:50
  gave
• 23:50
  a
• 23:50
  lot
• 23:50
  of
• 23:50
  participation
• 23:51
  in
• 23:51
  this
• 23:51
  hot
• 23:51
  yoga
• 23:52
  workshop
• 23:52
  that
• 23:53
  we
• 23:53
  had
• 23:53
  and
• 23:54
  I
• 23:54
  felt
• 23:54
  like
• 23:54
  my
• 23:54
  participation
• 23:55
  was
• 23:55
  more
• 23:55
  challenging.
• 23:56
  What
• 23:56
  the
• 23:56
  person
• 23:57
  was
• 23:57
  saying,
• 23:57
  like,
• 23:57
  no,
• 23:58
  not
• 23:58
  necessarily
• 23:59
  those
• 23:59
  kind
• 23:59
  of
• 24:00
  participation
• 24:00
  things.
• 24:04
  And
• 24:05
  because
• 24:07
  I
• 24:07
  did
• 24:07
  have
• 24:07
  more
• 24:07
  experience
• 24:08
  with
• 24:08
  some
• 24:09
  of
• 24:09
  the
• 24:09
  things
• 24:09
  that
• 24:09
  she
• 24:10
  was
• 24:10
  talking
• 24:10
  about
• 24:11
  and
• 24:13
  afterwards,
• 24:13
  I
• 24:13
  did
• 24:14
  feel
• 24:14
  some
• 24:14
  guilt
• 24:15
  for
• 24:17
  participating
• 24:17
  so
• 24:18
  much.
• 24:18
  I
• 24:18
  was
• 24:18
  going
• 24:18
  to
• 24:18
  say
• 24:18
  chiming
• 24:19
  in,
• 24:19
  but
• 24:19
  I
• 24:19
  did
• 24:19
  raise
• 24:19
  my
• 24:20
  hand
• 24:20
  each
• 24:20
  time,
• 24:21
  thankfully.
• 24:22
  But
• 24:22
  she
• 24:23
  said,
• 24:23
  oh,
• 24:23
  no,
• 24:24
  I
• 24:24
  liked
• 24:24
  the
• 24:25
  engagement.
• 24:25
  Part
• 24:25
  of
• 24:26
  me
• 24:26
  wonders
• 24:26
  if
• 24:26
  she
• 24:26
  even
• 24:27
  recognized
• 24:27
  what
• 24:27
  was
• 24:27
  happening.
• 24:29
  Because
• 24:29
  I
• 24:29
  felt
• 24:29
  like,
• 24:30
  because
• 24:30
  some
• 24:30
  of
• 24:30
  the
• 24:30
  people
• 24:30
  in
• 24:31
  class,
• 24:31
  I
• 24:31
  could
• 24:31
  see
• 24:31
  that
• 24:31
  they
• 24:32
  were
• 24:32
  kind
• 24:32
  of
• 24:32
  nodding
• 24:32
  their
• 24:32
  heads
• 24:33
  like,
• 24:33
  yeah,
• 24:33
  why
• 24:33
  would
• 24:33
  she
• 24:33
  be
• 24:33
  teaching
• 24:34
  us
• 24:34
  that?
• 24:35
  That's
• 24:35
  more
• 24:35
  of
• 24:35
  a
• 24:35
  problem
• 24:36
  with
• 24:36
  the
• 24:36
  structure
• 24:36
  of
• 24:36
  this
• 24:36
  workshop.
• 24:37
  And.
• 24:38
  And
• 24:39
  yeah,
• 24:41
  anyway,
• 24:42
  sometimes
• 24:42
  when
• 24:43
  we
• 24:43
  apologize,
• 24:43
  we
• 24:44
  find
• 24:44
  out
• 24:44
  they
• 24:44
  don't
• 24:44
  mind
• 24:45
  and
• 24:45
  we
• 24:46
  don't
• 24:46
  always
• 24:46
  have
• 24:46
  to
• 24:46
  apologize.
• 24:47
  Right?
• 24:48
  Because
• 24:48
  we
• 24:48
  are
• 24:49
  how
• 24:49
  we
• 24:49
  are
• 24:49
  and
• 24:49
  we
• 24:50
  can
• 24:50
  do
• 24:50
  what
• 24:50
  we
• 24:50
  can
• 24:51
  to
• 24:51
  help
• 24:51
  with
• 24:51
  that.
• 24:52
  But
• 24:52
  we're
• 24:52
  still
• 24:53
  who
• 24:53
  we
• 24:53
  are.
• 24:53
  So
• 24:53
  don't
• 24:54
  feel
• 24:54
  bad
• 24:54
  about
• 24:54
  that.
• 24:56
  Hopefully
• 24:56
  don't
• 24:57
  feel
• 24:57
  bad
• 24:57
  about
• 24:57
  it.
• 24:58
  So
• 24:59
  there
• 25:00
  are
• 25:00
  a
• 25:00
  few
• 25:01
  experts,
• 25:01
  ADHD
• 25:02
  experts.
• 25:03
  One
• 25:03
  is
• 25:03
  Dr.
• 25:04
  Russell
• 25:04
  Barkley.
• 25:05
  I
• 25:05
  have
• 25:05
  his
• 25:06
  book.
• 25:06
  I
• 25:06
  haven't
• 25:06
  read
• 25:07
  it,
• 25:07
  but
• 25:07
  I've
• 25:07
  seen
• 25:08
  some
• 25:08
  of
• 25:08
  his
• 25:09
  articles
• 25:11
  and
• 25:11
  quotes
• 25:11
  and
• 25:12
  even,
• 25:12
  you
• 25:13
  know,
• 25:13
  clips
• 25:13
  on
• 25:14
  Instagram.
• 25:15
  That
• 25:15
  people
• 25:15
  have
• 25:15
  sent
• 25:15
  me,
• 25:16
  but
• 25:18
  he
• 25:18
  has.
• 25:19
  Well,
• 25:20
  actually,
• 25:20
  that's
• 25:20
  probably
• 25:20
  a
• 25:21
  whole
• 25:21
  other.
• 25:24
  A
• 25:24
  whole
• 25:25
  other
• 25:26
  episode.
• 25:28
  And
• 25:28
  did
• 25:28
  you
• 25:28
  notice
• 25:28
  I
• 25:29
  said
• 25:29
  whole
• 25:29
  other
• 25:29
  and
• 25:30
  not
• 25:30
  whole
• 25:30
  nother.
• 25:31
  Do
• 25:31
  you
• 25:32
  know
• 25:32
  when
• 25:32
  people,
• 25:32
  like,
• 25:32
  divide
• 25:33
  another
• 25:34
  and
• 25:34
  then
• 25:34
  they
• 25:34
  say
• 25:34
  another
• 25:35
  instead
• 25:36
  of
• 25:36
  other?
• 25:38
  Anyway,
• 25:41
  yeah.
• 25:42
  So
• 25:42
  this
• 25:42
  is
• 25:42
  what
• 25:42
  I
• 25:42
  want
• 25:43
  to
• 25:43
  touch
• 25:43
  on
• 25:43
  just
• 25:43
  a
• 25:43
  little
• 25:44
  bit,
• 25:44
  because
• 25:44
  impulsivity
• 25:45
  can
• 25:45
  look
• 25:46
  different
• 25:46
  in
• 25:47
  women
• 25:47
  than
• 25:47
  in
• 25:47
  men.
• 25:48
  And
• 25:49
  some
• 25:49
  of
• 25:49
  the
• 25:50
  things
• 25:50
  that
• 25:50
  we
• 25:50
  look
• 25:50
  at
• 25:50
  with
• 25:51
  ADHD
• 25:52
  in
• 25:53
  boys
• 25:53
  when
• 25:53
  they're
• 25:53
  little,
• 25:54
  a
• 25:54
  lot
• 25:54
  of
• 25:54
  the
• 25:54
  hyperactive
• 25:55
  things.
• 25:55
  Right.
• 25:56
  And
• 25:56
  how
• 25:56
  they
• 25:56
  behave
• 25:56
  in
• 25:57
  a
• 25:57
  classroom,
• 25:58
  whereas
• 25:58
  we're
• 25:59
  told
• 25:59
  that.
• 26:00
  That
• 26:00
  girls
• 26:00
  often
• 26:00
  mask
• 26:01
  it
• 26:01
  more.
• 26:02
  Or
• 26:02
  I
• 26:02
  would
• 26:02
  say,
• 26:03
  for
• 26:03
  me,
• 26:03
  came
• 26:03
  up
• 26:04
  with
• 26:04
  methods
• 26:04
  like
• 26:05
  if
• 26:05
  I
• 26:05
  couldn't
• 26:05
  sit
• 26:05
  still,
• 26:06
  then
• 26:07
  I
• 26:07
  thought
• 26:08
  of
• 26:08
  things
• 26:08
  to
• 26:08
  do.
• 26:09
  Instead
• 26:09
  of
• 26:09
  sitting
• 26:10
  there
• 26:10
  and
• 26:11
  pretending
• 26:11
  and
• 26:12
  dealing
• 26:12
  with
• 26:12
  it
• 26:12
  on
• 26:12
  the
• 26:13
  inside,
• 26:14
  I
• 26:14
  actually
• 26:14
  came
• 26:14
  up
• 26:15
  with
• 26:15
  strategies
• 26:16
  like,
• 26:17
  I'm
• 26:17
  gonna
• 26:17
  go
• 26:18
  sharpen
• 26:18
  my
• 26:18
  pencil,
• 26:19
  and
• 26:19
  I
• 26:19
  got
• 26:19
  to
• 26:19
  walk
• 26:20
  across
• 26:20
  the
• 26:20
  room
• 26:20
  and
• 26:20
  sharpen
• 26:21
  my
• 26:21
  pencil
• 26:22
  or
• 26:24
  go
• 26:24
  and
• 26:24
  get
• 26:24
  some
• 26:24
  Kleenex
• 26:25
  and
• 26:25
  blow
• 26:25
  my
• 26:25
  nose
• 26:26
  when
• 26:26
  I
• 26:26
  didn't
• 26:26
  really
• 26:26
  need
• 26:27
  to
• 26:27
  blow
• 26:27
  my
• 26:27
  nose
• 26:27
  or.
• 26:28
  Or
• 26:28
  ask
• 26:28
  to
• 26:28
  go
• 26:29
  to
• 26:29
  the
• 26:29
  bathroom
• 26:30
  or
• 26:30
  I
• 26:31
  don't
• 26:31
  know
• 26:31
  what.
• 26:32
  I
• 26:32
  also
• 26:32
  did
• 26:32
  a
• 26:32
  lot
• 26:33
  of
• 26:33
  drawing.
• 26:34
  You
• 26:34
  know,
• 26:34
  like,
• 26:34
  you
• 26:34
  can
• 26:34
  take
• 26:35
  notes
• 26:35
  and
• 26:35
  stuff.
• 26:36
  In
• 26:36
  the
• 26:36
  olden
• 26:36
  days,
• 26:36
  we
• 26:36
  used
• 26:37
  to
• 26:37
  be
• 26:37
  able
• 26:37
  to
• 26:38
  draw
• 26:38
  on
• 26:38
  the
• 26:39
  insides
• 26:39
  of
• 26:39
  our
• 26:39
  desks
• 26:40
  or
• 26:40
  something.
• 26:40
  I
• 26:40
  actually
• 26:41
  had,
• 26:41
  you
• 26:41
  know,
• 26:41
  like,
• 26:41
  the
• 26:41
  real
• 26:41
  desk
• 26:42
  where
• 26:42
  you
• 26:42
  lift
• 26:42
  up
• 26:42
  the
• 26:42
  top
• 26:43
  and
• 26:43
  stuff,
• 26:43
  and
• 26:44
  you
• 26:44
  could
• 26:44
  draw
• 26:44
  on
• 26:45
  them
• 26:45
  with
• 26:45
  a
• 26:45
  pencil
• 26:45
  or
• 26:45
  at
• 26:46
  the
• 26:46
  top.
• 26:46
  There's
• 26:47
  wood
• 26:47
  at
• 26:47
  the
• 26:47
  top
• 26:47
  and
• 26:47
  a
• 26:47
  place
• 26:48
  for
• 26:48
  your
• 26:49
  wasn't
• 26:49
  a
• 26:50
  cup
• 26:50
  because
• 26:50
  we
• 26:50
  didn't
• 26:51
  drink
• 26:51
  water
• 26:51
  bottles
• 26:52
  and
• 26:52
  stuff.
• 26:52
  Then
• 26:52
  we
• 26:52
  just
• 26:52
  had
• 26:53
  drinking
• 26:53
  fountains,
• 26:54
  but
• 26:54
  there
• 26:54
  was
• 26:54
  a
• 26:54
  circle
• 26:55
  at
• 26:55
  the
• 26:55
  top.
• 26:56
  Was
• 26:56
  that
• 26:56
  like
• 26:56
  in
• 26:56
  the
• 26:56
  olden
• 26:57
  days?
• 26:57
  I
• 26:57
  know
• 26:57
  I
• 26:58
  probably
• 26:58
  sound
• 26:58
  like
• 26:58
  the
• 26:58
  olden
• 26:58
  days,
• 26:59
  but
• 26:59
  was
• 26:59
  that
• 26:59
  for
• 27:00
  the
• 27:00
  olden
• 27:00
  days,
• 27:00
  like,
• 27:00
  for
• 27:00
  an
• 27:01
  ink
• 27:02
  well
• 27:02
  thing,
• 27:02
  like
• 27:03
  to
• 27:03
  dip
• 27:03
  your
• 27:03
  pen
• 27:03
  in?
• 27:03
  But
• 27:04
  there
• 27:04
  was
• 27:04
  a
• 27:04
  little
• 27:04
  circle
• 27:04
  at
• 27:04
  the
• 27:04
  top,
• 27:05
  and
• 27:05
  then
• 27:05
  there
• 27:05
  were
• 27:06
  little
• 27:06
  indents
• 27:06
  where
• 27:06
  you
• 27:07
  could
• 27:07
  put
• 27:07
  your
• 27:07
  pencils,
• 27:08
  and
• 27:08
  we
• 27:09
  could
• 27:09
  write
• 27:09
  on
• 27:09
  them
• 27:09
  with
• 27:09
  our
• 27:09
  pencils,
• 27:10
  or
• 27:11
  we
• 27:11
  could
• 27:11
  draw
• 27:11
  on
• 27:11
  our
• 27:12
  binders.
• 27:13
  So
• 27:13
  all
• 27:13
  of
• 27:13
  those
• 27:13
  kinds
• 27:14
  of
• 27:14
  things
• 27:14
  are
• 27:15
  creative
• 27:15
  outlets
• 27:16
  for
• 27:17
  that
• 27:18
  need
• 27:18
  to
• 27:19
  move
• 27:19
  or
• 27:19
  that
• 27:20
  hyperactive
• 27:20
  nature.
• 27:21
  You
• 27:21
  know,
• 27:22
  you
• 27:22
  see
• 27:22
  kids
• 27:23
  that
• 27:23
  are
• 27:23
  tapping
• 27:23
  their
• 27:24
  pencils
• 27:24
  or
• 27:24
  their
• 27:24
  feet
• 27:25
  are
• 27:25
  moving
• 27:25
  or
• 27:26
  adults
• 27:26
  whose
• 27:26
  feet
• 27:26
  are
• 27:26
  moving
• 27:27
  or
• 27:27
  something
• 27:27
  like
• 27:27
  that.
• 27:28
  I
• 27:28
  think
• 27:28
  we
• 27:29
  do
• 27:29
  learn
• 27:29
  to
• 27:29
  mask
• 27:30
  and
• 27:30
  not
• 27:30
  do
• 27:30
  the
• 27:30
  things
• 27:31
  that
• 27:31
  make
• 27:31
  noise,
• 27:32
  hopefully.
• 27:35
  But.
• 27:37
  And.
• 27:37
  And
• 27:37
  I
• 27:38
  would
• 27:38
  say
• 27:38
  with
• 27:38
  my
• 27:38
  boys
• 27:38
  and
• 27:38
  my
• 27:39
  girls,
• 27:39
  the
• 27:39
  blurting
• 27:39
  out,
• 27:40
  yeah,
• 27:40
  it
• 27:40
  happened
• 27:40
  with.
• 27:42
  With
• 27:42
  boys
• 27:42
  and
• 27:43
  girls
• 27:43
  in
• 27:43
  our
• 27:43
  family,
• 27:45
  but.
• 27:49
  And
• 27:49
  sometimes
• 27:49
  just
• 27:50
  talking,
• 27:50
  you
• 27:50
  Know,
• 27:51
  being
• 27:51
  able
• 27:51
  to
• 27:51
  talk
• 27:51
  to
• 27:51
  somebody
• 27:52
  in
• 27:52
  class
• 27:52
  or
• 27:52
  pass
• 27:53
  notes.
• 27:53
  In
• 27:53
  the
• 27:53
  olden
• 27:53
  days,
• 27:54
  you
• 27:54
  could
• 27:54
  pass
• 27:54
  notes.
• 27:55
  My
• 27:55
  son,
• 27:56
  my
• 27:56
  youngest
• 27:56
  son
• 27:56
  was
• 27:56
  told
• 27:57
  by
• 27:57
  one
• 27:57
  of
• 27:57
  his
• 27:57
  teachers
• 27:58
  because.
• 28:00
  And
• 28:00
  I
• 28:00
  can
• 28:01
  see
• 28:01
  as
• 28:01
  a
• 28:01
  teacher,
• 28:01
  you
• 28:01
  don't
• 28:02
  want
• 28:02
  the
• 28:02
  kids
• 28:02
  turning
• 28:02
  and
• 28:03
  talking
• 28:03
  to
• 28:03
  each
• 28:03
  other
• 28:03
  and
• 28:03
  stuff.
• 28:04
  And
• 28:04
  he
• 28:04
  was
• 28:04
  always
• 28:05
  doing
• 28:05
  that.
• 28:07
  And
• 28:07
  one
• 28:07
  day
• 28:08
  she
• 28:08
  moved
• 28:09
  him
• 28:09
  in
• 28:09
  his
• 28:09
  seat,
• 28:09
  and
• 28:09
  this
• 28:09
  is
• 28:10
  in
• 28:10
  high
• 28:10
  school,
• 28:11
  and
• 28:11
  she
• 28:12
  told
• 28:12
  him,
• 28:12
  I
• 28:12
  could
• 28:12
  move
• 28:13
  you
• 28:13
  next
• 28:13
  to
• 28:13
  a
• 28:13
  brick
• 28:14
  wall
• 28:14
  and
• 28:14
  you
• 28:14
  become
• 28:14
  best
• 28:14
  friends
• 28:15
  with
• 28:15
  it.
• 28:16
  I
• 28:16
  guess
• 28:16
  she
• 28:17
  kept
• 28:17
  having
• 28:17
  strategies
• 28:18
  of
• 28:18
  moving
• 28:19
  him
• 28:19
  near
• 28:19
  somebody.
• 28:19
  She
• 28:19
  thought
• 28:20
  maybe
• 28:20
  he,
• 28:21
  you
• 28:21
  know,
• 28:21
  he
• 28:21
  won't
• 28:21
  talk
• 28:21
  to
• 28:21
  the
• 28:21
  person.
• 28:22
  He
• 28:22
  talked
• 28:22
  to
• 28:22
  everyone.
• 28:23
  He
• 28:23
  was
• 28:23
  an
• 28:23
  equal
• 28:24
  opportunity
• 28:24
  conversationalist.
• 28:26
  And
• 28:26
  honestly,
• 28:27
  when
• 28:27
  I
• 28:27
  look
• 28:27
  at
• 28:27
  him,
• 28:28
  he's
• 28:28
  just
• 28:28
  friendly.
• 28:28
  He's
• 28:29
  not,
• 28:29
  you
• 28:29
  know,
• 28:29
  he's
• 28:30
  not
• 28:30
  super
• 28:30
  chatty
• 28:31
  like
• 28:31
  I
• 28:31
  am.
• 28:31
  But
• 28:32
  anyway,
• 28:33
  I
• 28:34
  think
• 28:34
  I'm
• 28:34
  going
• 28:34
  to
• 28:34
  stop
• 28:34
  there
• 28:35
  because
• 28:35
  my
• 28:35
  grandchildren
• 28:35
  are
• 28:36
  supposed
• 28:36
  to
• 28:36
  get
• 28:36
  hurt
• 28:36
  in
• 28:37
  five
• 28:38
  minutes.
• 28:40
  But
• 28:43
  yeah,
• 28:44
  I
• 28:44
  think
• 28:44
  that's
• 28:45
  going
• 28:45
  to
• 28:45
  be
• 28:45
  it
• 28:45
  for
• 28:45
  today.
• 28:46
  Just
• 28:46
  kind
• 28:46
  of
• 28:46
  bringing
• 28:47
  up
• 28:47
  how
• 28:48
  impulsivity
• 28:49
  can
• 28:49
  show
• 28:50
  up.
• 28:51
  And
• 28:54
  just
• 28:54
  my
• 28:54
  view
• 28:55
  on
• 28:55
  it
• 28:55
  is
• 28:55
  when
• 28:56
  we're
• 28:56
  able
• 28:56
  to
• 28:56
  expel
• 28:57
  it,
• 28:57
  when
• 28:57
  we're
• 28:58
  able
• 28:58
  to
• 28:58
  take
• 28:59
  that
• 29:00
  need
• 29:01
  that
• 29:01
  we
• 29:02
  feel
• 29:02
  or
• 29:02
  even
• 29:03
  recognize
• 29:03
  before
• 29:03
  we
• 29:04
  do
• 29:04
  it
• 29:04
  and
• 29:05
  do
• 29:05
  it,
• 29:06
  it
• 29:06
  releases
• 29:07
  something.
• 29:08
  When
• 29:08
  we
• 29:09
  don't
• 29:09
  do
• 29:09
  it,
• 29:10
  it
• 29:10
  might
• 29:10
  cause
• 29:11
  some
• 29:11
  internal
• 29:13
  problems
• 29:14
  like
• 29:16
  energy,
• 29:17
  anxiousness,
• 29:18
  inability
• 29:19
  to
• 29:19
  listen,
• 29:21
  pay
• 29:21
  attention,
• 29:22
  whatever
• 29:22
  that
• 29:23
  is.
• 29:24
  And
• 29:24
  if
• 29:25
  you
• 29:25
  need
• 29:25
  to
• 29:25
  pay
• 29:25
  attention,
• 29:27
  so
• 29:27
  having
• 29:28
  other
• 29:28
  ways
• 29:28
  to
• 29:29
  get
• 29:29
  that
• 29:29
  out,
• 29:29
  like
• 29:30
  I
• 29:30
  said,
• 29:30
  you
• 29:30
  know,
• 29:30
  like
• 29:30
  the
• 29:31
  drawing,
• 29:31
  the
• 29:31
  doodling,
• 29:31
  the
• 29:32
  whatever
• 29:34
  those
• 29:35
  things,
• 29:35
  noticing
• 29:36
  what's
• 29:36
  happening
• 29:36
  and
• 29:37
  finding
• 29:37
  something
• 29:38
  manually
• 29:38
  that
• 29:38
  you
• 29:39
  can
• 29:39
  do
• 29:40
  that's
• 29:40
  different
• 29:41
  than
• 29:41
  maybe
• 29:41
  what
• 29:42
  isn't
• 29:42
  a
• 29:43
  good
• 29:43
  idea
• 29:43
  to
• 29:43
  do,
• 29:44
  or
• 29:45
  even
• 29:45
  just
• 29:45
  redirecting
• 29:46
  yourself
• 29:46
  to
• 29:46
  something
• 29:47
  that
• 29:47
  is
• 29:47
  what
• 29:48
  you
• 29:48
  need
• 29:48
  to
• 29:48
  do.
• 29:48
  Like
• 29:49
  with
• 29:50
  being
• 29:50
  on
• 29:50
  a
• 29:50
  computer
• 29:51
  and
• 29:51
  not
• 29:51
  having
• 29:51
  the
• 29:51
  impulse
• 29:52
  to
• 29:52
  click
• 29:52
  on
• 29:53
  an
• 29:53
  ad,
• 29:53
  to
• 29:53
  click
• 29:54
  on
• 29:55
  a
• 29:55
  special
• 29:56
  or
• 29:56
  an
• 29:56
  email
• 29:57
  that
• 29:57
  sounds
• 29:58
  more
• 29:58
  fun
• 29:58
  to
• 29:58
  look
• 29:58
  at,
• 29:59
  or
• 29:59
  bring
• 30:00
  up
• 30:01
  Reddit
• 30:02
  or
• 30:02
  Instagram
• 30:02
  or
• 30:02
  any
• 30:03
  of
• 30:03
  those
• 30:03
  social
• 30:03
  media
• 30:04
  things,
• 30:04
  if
• 30:04
  that's
• 30:05
  not
• 30:05
  what
• 30:05
  you
• 30:05
  have
• 30:05
  time
• 30:05
  to
• 30:06
  do,
• 30:07
  that
• 30:07
  can
• 30:08
  be
• 30:08
  an
• 30:08
  impulsive
• 30:08
  thing
• 30:09
  because
• 30:09
  our
• 30:09
  brains
• 30:10
  can
• 30:10
  just
• 30:10
  relax
• 30:11
  and
• 30:11
  it
• 30:11
  can
• 30:11
  be
• 30:11
  easier
• 30:12
  to
• 30:12
  do
• 30:12
  that.
• 30:13
  There's
• 30:13
  one
• 30:13
  thing,
• 30:14
  one
• 30:14
  more
• 30:14
  thing
• 30:14
  I
• 30:14
  want
• 30:14
  to
• 30:15
  bring
• 30:15
  up
• 30:15
  and
• 30:16
  I
• 30:16
  can
• 30:16
  talk
• 30:16
  about
• 30:17
  this
• 30:17
  next
• 30:17
  time
• 30:18
  some
• 30:18
  more.
• 30:18
  But
• 30:20
  sometimes
• 30:21
  we
• 30:21
  think
• 30:21
  of
• 30:22
  with
• 30:23
  the
• 30:23
  masking.
• 30:23
  So
• 30:23
  like,
• 30:24
  if
• 30:24
  we
• 30:24
  have
• 30:24
  impulse
• 30:24
  control
• 30:25
  problems
• 30:25
  or
• 30:25
  we're
• 30:25
  doing
• 30:26
  some
• 30:26
  things
• 30:26
  that
• 30:26
  maybe
• 30:27
  are
• 30:27
  like
• 30:27
  with
• 30:27
  the
• 30:28
  hyperactiveness
• 30:28
  or
• 30:29
  just,
• 30:29
  even
• 30:30
  if
• 30:30
  you
• 30:30
  just
• 30:30
  have
• 30:30
  the
• 30:30
  inattentive
• 30:31
  type
• 30:32
  and
• 30:32
  you're
• 30:33
  bored
• 30:33
  and,
• 30:34
  and
• 30:34
  so
• 30:34
  you
• 30:35
  feel
• 30:35
  like
• 30:35
  you
• 30:35
  need
• 30:35
  to
• 30:35
  do
• 30:36
  Something
• 30:36
  different.
• 30:38
  Sometimes
• 30:39
  you.
• 30:41
  You
• 30:41
  are
• 30:41
  aware
• 30:42
  of
• 30:42
  how
• 30:42
  that
• 30:42
  looks
• 30:43
  to
• 30:43
  other
• 30:43
  people.
• 30:45
  And
• 30:46
  so
• 30:48
  what
• 30:48
  you
• 30:48
  do
• 30:48
  is
• 30:48
  you.
• 30:49
  You
• 30:49
  notice
• 30:49
  that
• 30:50
  and
• 30:50
  you
• 30:50
  think,
• 30:50
  okay,
• 30:50
  I
• 30:50
  need
• 30:51
  to
• 30:51
  monitor
• 30:51
  myself
• 30:52
  so
• 30:53
  that
• 30:53
  I
• 30:53
  can
• 30:53
  do
• 30:54
  this
• 30:54
  in
• 30:54
  a
• 30:54
  way
• 30:54
  that
• 30:55
  is
• 30:55
  more
• 30:55
  acceptable
• 30:56
  to
• 30:56
  other
• 30:56
  people.
• 30:58
  And
• 30:58
  when
• 30:58
  we
• 30:58
  think
• 30:58
  of
• 30:59
  people
• 30:59
  pleasing,
• 31:00
  sometimes
• 31:00
  I
• 31:00
  think
• 31:00
  of
• 31:01
  people
• 31:01
  pleasing
• 31:01
  as
• 31:01
  doing
• 31:02
  something
• 31:02
  that
• 31:02
  makes
• 31:02
  the
• 31:02
  other
• 31:02
  person
• 31:03
  happier.
• 31:03
  You
• 31:03
  know,
• 31:04
  like,
• 31:04
  they
• 31:04
  want
• 31:04
  me
• 31:04
  to
• 31:04
  do
• 31:04
  that,
• 31:05
  sure,
• 31:05
  I'll
• 31:05
  for
• 31:06
  them.
• 31:06
  But
• 31:06
  it
• 31:06
  can
• 31:07
  also
• 31:07
  come
• 31:08
  in
• 31:08
  a
• 31:08
  form
• 31:09
  of
• 31:10
  being
• 31:11
  hyper
• 31:11
  aware
• 31:12
  of
• 31:12
  what
• 31:12
  other
• 31:13
  people
• 31:13
  might
• 31:13
  think.
• 31:14
  So
• 31:14
  like
• 31:14
  I
• 31:14
  said,
• 31:14
  you
• 31:15
  know,
• 31:15
  blurting
• 31:15
  out
• 31:15
  an
• 31:15
  answer
• 31:16
  or
• 31:16
  something
• 31:16
  like
• 31:16
  that,
• 31:17
  being
• 31:17
  aware
• 31:17
  of
• 31:17
  the
• 31:17
  other
• 31:18
  people.
• 31:18
  So
• 31:18
  you're
• 31:18
  monitoring
• 31:19
  yourself
• 31:19
  because
• 31:19
  you
• 31:20
  want
• 31:20
  to
• 31:20
  have
• 31:20
  some
• 31:21
  control
• 31:21
  of
• 31:21
  these
• 31:22
  impulses,
• 31:22
  but
• 31:23
  you're
• 31:23
  also
• 31:23
  aware
• 31:24
  of
• 31:24
  other
• 31:24
  people,
• 31:25
  and
• 31:26
  you
• 31:26
  don't
• 31:26
  want
• 31:27
  to
• 31:29
  change
• 31:29
  how
• 31:30
  they
• 31:30
  think
• 31:30
  about
• 31:30
  you.
• 31:31
  So
• 31:31
  that
• 31:31
  is
• 31:33
  thinking
• 31:34
  of,
• 31:34
  what
• 31:35
  do
• 31:35
  they
• 31:35
  think
• 31:35
  of
• 31:35
  me.
• 31:35
  There's
• 31:36
  a
• 31:36
  difference
• 31:36
  between
• 31:37
  that
• 31:37
  and
• 31:37
  the
• 31:37
  awareness
• 31:38
  of,
• 31:39
  am
• 31:39
  I
• 31:39
  gonna
• 31:40
  hurt
• 31:40
  somebody?
• 31:41
  Inconvenience
• 31:41
  them,
• 31:42
  do
• 31:42
  something
• 31:42
  that's
• 31:43
  not
• 31:43
  good.
• 31:43
  So,
• 31:44
  like,
• 31:44
  if
• 31:44
  you're
• 31:44
  in
• 31:44
  traffic
• 31:45
  or
• 31:45
  something
• 31:45
  and
• 31:45
  you
• 31:45
  need
• 31:45
  to
• 31:46
  get
• 31:46
  out
• 31:46
  of
• 31:46
  a
• 31:46
  lane,
• 31:46
  you
• 31:47
  want
• 31:47
  to
• 31:47
  be
• 31:47
  aware
• 31:47
  of
• 31:48
  the
• 31:48
  other
• 31:48
  people.
• 31:48
  You
• 31:48
  want
• 31:49
  to
• 31:49
  make
• 31:49
  sure
• 31:50
  you're
• 31:50
  not
• 31:50
  cutting
• 31:50
  in
• 31:51
  front
• 31:51
  of
• 31:51
  anybody.
• 31:51
  There's
• 31:52
  a
• 31:52
  lot
• 31:52
  of
• 31:52
  room.
• 31:53
  You're
• 31:53
  staying
• 31:54
  safe
• 31:54
  on
• 31:54
  the
• 31:54
  road
• 31:55
  or
• 31:55
  you're
• 31:55
  in
• 31:55
  a
• 31:55
  store.
• 31:56
  You
• 31:56
  want
• 31:56
  to
• 31:56
  make
• 31:56
  sure
• 31:57
  you're
• 31:57
  safe
• 31:58
  doing
• 31:58
  what's
• 31:58
  fair
• 31:58
  to
• 31:58
  everybody
• 31:59
  else
• 31:59
  and
• 31:59
  all
• 32:00
  that.
• 32:01
  But
• 32:01
  if
• 32:01
  you're
• 32:02
  in
• 32:02
  a
• 32:02
  social
• 32:02
  situation
• 32:03
  just
• 32:03
  with
• 32:03
  talking
• 32:04
  or
• 32:04
  something,
• 32:05
  and
• 32:06
  you
• 32:07
  have
• 32:07
  that
• 32:07
  hyper
• 32:07
  awareness
• 32:08
  on
• 32:08
  yourself,
• 32:09
  you
• 32:09
  might
• 32:10
  not
• 32:10
  be
• 32:10
  prioritizing
• 32:11
  your
• 32:11
  own
• 32:12
  needs.
• 32:12
  Sometimes,
• 32:13
  you
• 32:13
  know,
• 32:13
  even
• 32:13
  just
• 32:14
  you
• 32:14
  think
• 32:14
  of
• 32:14
  the
• 32:14
  line,
• 32:14
  yeah,
• 32:15
  go
• 32:15
  ahead
• 32:15
  and.
• 32:15
  Go
• 32:15
  ahead
• 32:15
  and
• 32:16
  go
• 32:16
  ahead
• 32:16
  in
• 32:16
  front
• 32:16
  of
• 32:16
  me.
• 32:17
  Or
• 32:17
  you
• 32:17
  do
• 32:18
  something
• 32:18
  because
• 32:18
  you
• 32:18
  say,
• 32:18
  I'll
• 32:19
  be
• 32:19
  okay,
• 32:20
  but
• 32:20
  then
• 32:20
  are
• 32:20
  you
• 32:20
  really
• 32:21
  okay?
• 32:22
  Or
• 32:23
  I
• 32:23
  don't
• 32:23
  know
• 32:24
  how
• 32:24
  to
• 32:24
  tie
• 32:25
  that
• 32:25
  to
• 32:25
  talking
• 32:25
  or
• 32:26
  interrupting
• 32:26
  or
• 32:27
  whatever.
• 32:28
  But
• 32:28
  sometimes
• 32:29
  we
• 32:29
  are
• 32:30
  trying
• 32:30
  to
• 32:31
  hold
• 32:31
  back
• 32:32
  our
• 32:32
  own
• 32:32
  things
• 32:33
  just
• 32:34
  to
• 32:34
  help
• 32:34
  other
• 32:34
  people
• 32:35
  feel
• 32:35
  more
• 32:35
  comfortable
• 32:36
  or
• 32:37
  because
• 32:37
  we're
• 32:37
  worried
• 32:38
  what
• 32:38
  they
• 32:38
  may
• 32:38
  think
• 32:38
  about
• 32:39
  us.
• 32:40
  And
• 32:41
  it
• 32:41
  can
• 32:41
  just
• 32:41
  get
• 32:41
  very
• 32:41
  complicated.
• 32:43
  And
• 32:43
  isn't
• 32:44
  life
• 32:44
  great?
• 32:47
  And
• 32:47
  if
• 32:47
  you
• 32:47
  have
• 32:48
  an
• 32:48
  analytical
• 32:49
  mind,
• 32:49
  then
• 32:49
  you
• 32:50
  think
• 32:50
  about
• 32:50
  it
• 32:50
  more.
• 32:52
  But
• 32:53
  anytime
• 32:54
  that
• 32:54
  you're
• 32:54
  trying
• 32:54
  to
• 32:55
  take
• 32:55
  an
• 32:55
  impulse
• 32:55
  and
• 32:56
  do
• 32:56
  something
• 32:56
  with
• 32:57
  it,
• 32:57
  just
• 32:57
  try
• 32:57
  to
• 32:58
  find
• 32:58
  the
• 32:58
  way
• 32:59
  that
• 32:59
  is
• 32:59
  good
• 32:59
  for
• 33:00
  others
• 33:00
  around
• 33:00
  you
• 33:00
  and
• 33:01
  good
• 33:01
  for
• 33:01
  yourself,
• 33:02
  where
• 33:02
  you're
• 33:02
  not
• 33:04
  compromising
• 33:05
  your
• 33:05
  own
• 33:05
  needs
• 33:06
  and
• 33:06
  you're
• 33:06
  finding
• 33:06
  a
• 33:07
  way
• 33:07
  to
• 33:07
  take
• 33:07
  care
• 33:08
  of
• 33:08
  yourself
• 33:08
  in
• 33:09
  addition
• 33:09
  to
• 33:09
  other
• 33:09
  people.
• 33:10
  And
• 33:10
  I'll
• 33:10
  talk
• 33:11
  about
• 33:11
  that
• 33:11
  connection
• 33:11
  a
• 33:12
  bit
• 33:12
  more
• 33:12
  because
• 33:12
  going
• 33:13
  over
• 33:13
  it
• 33:14
  too
• 33:14
  quickly
• 33:16
  may
• 33:17
  just
• 33:17
  be
• 33:17
  confusing
• 33:18
  and
• 33:18
  I
• 33:19
  think
• 33:19
  that's
• 33:19
  it
• 33:19
  for
• 33:19
  now.
• 33:19
  Thank
• 33:20
  you
• 33:20
  so
• 33:20
  much
• 33:20
  for
• 33:20
  being
• 33:21
  here
• 33:22
  and
• 33:22
  I
• 33:23
  will
• 33:23
  be
• 33:23
  back.
• 33:23
  I'm
• 33:23
  going
• 33:24
  on
• 33:24
  two
• 33:24
  trips,
• 33:24
  Miami
• 33:25
  and
• 33:25
  Arizona,
• 33:26
  back
• 33:26
  to
• 33:26
  back,
• 33:27
  and
• 33:27
  this
• 33:27
  episode
• 33:28
  will
• 33:28
  probably
• 33:28
  come
• 33:28
  out
• 33:29
  while
• 33:29
  I
• 33:29
  am
• 33:29
  gone.
• 33:30
  But
• 33:30
  thanks
• 33:31
  so
• 33:31
  much
• 33:31
  for
• 33:31
  being
• 33:31
  here.
• 33:31
  I
• 33:32
  will
• 33:32
  see
• 33:32
  you
• 33:32
  or
• 33:33
  talk
• 33:33
  to
• 33:33
  you
• 33:33
  later.
• 33:33
  Bye.
• 33:35
  Help
• 33:35
  Other
• 33:35
  Women
• 33:36
  Find
• 33:37
  the
• 33:37
  Show
• 33:38
  Rate
• 33:39
  Review
• 33:39
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• 33:40
  with
• 33:40
  someone
• 33:40
  you
• 33:41
  know
• 33:42
  Help
• 33:42
  Other
• 33:42
  Women
• 33:43
  Find
• 33:44
  my
• 33:44
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• 33:45
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• 33:46
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• 33:46
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• 33:47
  with
• 33:47
  someone
• 33:47
  you
• 33:48
  know
• 33:48
  Hurry
• 33:49
  before
• 33:49
  you
• 33:49
  forget
• 33:51
  Double
• 33:52
  chins
• 33:53
  Rubber
• 33:53
  ducks
• 33:54
  Squeaky.
• 33:54
  Cheese
• 33:55
  and
• 33:55
  paper
• 33:56
  cups
• 33:56
  Applesauce
• 33:58
  Superman
• 33:59
  rocket
• 33:59
  ship
• 34:00
  San
• 34:00
  Peter
• 34:01
  Pan
• 34:01
  boogie
• 34:02
  boards
• 34:02
  and
• 34:02
  parachutes
• 34:03
  and
• 34:03
  soda
• 34:03
  cans
• 34:04
  Jumping
• 34:04
  jacks
• 34:05
  and
• 34:05
  pillowcases
• 34:05
  for
• 34:05
  my
• 34:06
  hands
• 34:06
  Donald
• 34:07
  Duck
• 34:07
  and
• 34:07
  fire
• 34:07
  trucks
• 34:08
  and
• 34:08
  Pokemon
• 34:09
  Santa
• 34:09
  Claus
• 34:10
  and
• 34:10
  Johnny
• 34:10
  Depp
• 34:10
  and
• 34:10
  Donkey
• 34:11
  Kong
• 34:11
  Chocolate
• 34:12
  chips
• 34:12
  and
• 34:12
  zippers
• 34:13
  it's
• 34:13
  a
• 34:13
  914
• 34:14
  little
• 34:14
  children
• 34:15
  jumping
• 34:15
  on
• 34:15
  the
• 34:15
  trampoline
• 34:16
  Model
• 34:17
  trains
• 34:17
  are
• 34:17
  passing
• 34:18
  lights
• 34:18
  in
• 34:18
  super
• 34:18
  glue
• 34:19
  Tangerines
• 34:20
  and
• 34:20
  magazines
• 34:20
  in
• 34:20
  kangaroo.
• 34:23
  Oh
• 34:24
  yeah
• 34:24
  oh
• 34:24
  yeah.
• 34:30
  Rewind
• 34:32
  I
• 34:32
  run
• 34:33
  out
• 34:33
  of
• 34:33
  time
• 34:34
  to
• 34:34
  sing
• 34:35
  melodies
• 34:36
  and
• 34:37
  harmonies
• 34:39
  I'm
• 34:39
  kind
• 34:39
  of
• 34:39
  but
• 34:40
  short
• 34:41
  the
• 34:41
  silence
• 34:42
  of
• 34:42
  sound
• 34:43
  has
• 34:43
  yet
• 34:44
  been
• 34:44
  found
• 34:45
  but
• 34:45
  not
• 34:46
  by
• 34:46
  me.
• 35:04
  I
• 35:04
  bother
• 35:04
  my
• 35:05
  toes
• 35:07
  spread
• 35:07
  on
• 35:08
  some
• 35:08
  grape
• 35:08
  jelly
• 35:10
  I
• 35:11
  don't
• 35:11
  need
• 35:11
  to
• 35:12
  fast
• 35:12
  but
• 35:13
  I'm
• 35:13
  a
• 35:13
  chef
• 35:15
  and
• 35:15
  a
• 35:15
  good
• 35:16
  wine
• 35:17
  My
• 35:18
  grandma
• 35:18
  can't
• 35:19
  hear
• 35:19
  me
• 35:20
  Hear
• 35:21
  that
• 35:21
  breakfast
• 35:22
  is
• 35:22
  done
• 35:23
  getting
• 35:24
  col
• 35:27
  so
• 35:27
  I
• 35:27
  run.
• 35:32
  Open
• 35:33
  windows
• 35:33
  broken
• 35:34
  shadow
• 35:38
  Frozen
• 35:39
  dreams
• 35:39
  are
• 35:39
  left
• 35:40
  for
• 35:40
  tomorrow.
• 36:05
  Rewind
• 36:06
  I
• 36:07
  run
• 36:07
  out
• 36:08
  of
• 36:08
  time
• 36:08
  to
• 36:08
  sing
• 36:09
  melodies
• 36:11
  and
• 36:11
  harmonies
• 36:13
  I'm
• 36:13
  cut
• 36:14
  short
• 36:15
  the
• 36:15
  silence
• 36:16
  of
• 36:16
  sound
• 36:17
  has
• 36:17
  yet
• 36:18
  been
• 36:18
  found
• 36:19
  but
• 36:20
  not
• 36:20
  by
• 36:20
  me
• 36:22
  It.