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4 Phrases That Separate Extraordinary Leaders from Everyone Else · Business Energetics® with Lenka Lutonska

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  Welcome to the Business Energetics podcast where we dive deep into the new way of growing your business using the most powerful currency on the planet, your energy, not effort alone. My name is Lenka Lutonska. I'm a creator of Business Energetics and best link author of Energetic Selling and marketing. And after losing my first business, I went from £7.30 on my bank account to creating millions on repeat, by doing what I love, using the power of energy. And now I want to show you how to do the same. In each episode, we'll dive into the different aspect of your energy so you can activate the next level of your business, revenues, life, and even that sense of aliveness. Welcome. And let's dive into today's episode, My powerful one. Hi.
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  There are four phrases that I come back to again and again in my own life, in my business, and of course, with all the leaders I get to work with. And anytime I use these phrases, something shifts. You see, language that we're using is really the expression of identity from which we operate. And most leaders unknowingly language gauge with language, identity and reality that is not serving them. But these four phrases address that. These four phrases change who you are, when you think, when you feel, when you choose, when you create, when you strategize, when you lead. And that, of course, changes everything. So let's do it. Phrase number one, that separates extraordinary leaders from everyone else. I'm not available to this.
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  Simple as that.
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  Now, of course, naturally, what may come to your mind is when you say, I'm not available to this. This is the way to reinforce your boundary, to reinforce your standard. So when somebody says or does something to you or around you that is simply not who you are, it's going against your values, perhaps, or is taking you out of your highest integrity, you simply say, this is not who I am. I'm not available to this. And you communicate those boundaries. Know what? That's great. However, I'm not available to this. It's also about something deeper. The deeper layer of work for us as extraordinary leaders is to use this principle when it comes to identity curation. You see, when you hear things from your environment or from news, or sometimes from your inner critic, such as, you've got to be careful, there is not enough, or conditions in the marketplace are not right, or there is not enough time, or there are no enough resources, or this is not possible, when you hear something that contracts your nervous system, oftentimes unknowingly, you will let that be part of your identity, your operating system, from which you think, strategize, create. I'm not available to. This is about being conscious about what you let in into your identity and what you don't. So for instance, when I hear from somewhere one of those observations about market, everything is slowing down. We've got to be careful. You cannot be too much, whatever it might be. I'm simply going to say to myself, I accept that you can have that point of view, even if it's many people.
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  But I'm not available to this.
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  Meaning this is not going to be part of my identity, my configuration of self, my universe. No, I'm protective of what comes in and what I don't let come in. That's how I consciously and constantly curate who I am, curate my sense of identity, my bubble, if you like. And I suggest you do too. Because when you say I'm not available to this, in that moment you're choosing or who you are, you're curating your identity. And that's a powerful leadership skill and a rare one. The second phrase that separates extraordinary leaders from everyone else is this. If anything was possible for me, what would I love to choose? Here. Now, this phrase creates something that no strategy can ever do, and it moves you from what I call reactive consciousness to fully creative consciousness. Because, you see, most leaders operate from identity that is reactive. I've got to look out what gap I need to fill in the market, what goals, what people will pay, what everyone else is doing. We react, we mimic, and we still limit it. When you ask yourself, if anything was possible for me, what would I love to choose? Here you go beyond all limits. You go deeper into your heart, which holds the highest intelligence. And when something truly expands your heart, then you know, ah, I'm in my creative consciousness. I'm tapping into possibilities that my ego, mind, identity, the one that likes to react and be careful and be safe, who could never go, and it's from this consciousness, then you'll receive the most incredible solutions, ideas and strategic steps that will take you and your business much further. So next time, especially when you feel stuck, ask yourself, if anything was possible for me, what would I love to choose? Here, don't rush with the answer, don't force it. Simply let it land in its own time and you will see what happens.
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  Oftentimes it's quite magical. The next phrase I love to use over and over again and I encourage all of our clients and powerful leaders to use is this one. I choose this, it's done, which sounds so simple, but in reality is an antidote. And end of overthinking, over complicating which all of this is keeping powerful entrepreneurs, change makers, leaders stuck at one level. I mean, have you not experienced this when you could do things in this way, this way and this way, and you were sitting on the decision for far longer than was needed because you wanted to make the right decision. And what I say is, don't try to make right decisions, make your decisions right.
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  So essentially, when you already lean in into that fully creative consciousness with the second phrase, if anything was truly possible for me, what would I choose here? And maybe two or three choices will come to you. You will check which one of these, expand your heart a little more, which you like a little more, and you simply say, okay, I choose this. I'm not trying to make the right decision, I'm not trying to avoid that. I'm going to lose something, I'm not operating from fear. I'm going to take one of these choices, the one that possibly expands my heart a little more or a lot more, and I make it right.
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  So simple phrase I'll encourage you to use more often, more quicker, and that is I love this.
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  I choose this. It's done. That immediately puts you into identity of doneness from which you start to again perceive, think, create, strategize and lead on a whole different level. That's how all extraordinary results begin. Not with perfect plan, but with a committed choice that you made. Right? And finally, the fourth phrase that I love to choose again and again is this.
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  I love my vision more than my fears. And sometimes I love my clients more than my doubts or I love my work more than the chatter in my mind. Make this your own. But in a nutshell, this is about being able to make the right choice, right step forward, take that right risk or leap if you like. In spite of part of you being a little fearful, in spite of part of you saying you shouldn't do it, you're not ready yet. Yup, yup, yuppy. When our mind is doing the minding, our brain is doing the braining, protecting us from change and growth and wanting to keep us in the same identity, who we are today.
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  So whenever you feel those doubts or fears, just acknowledge it's part of this extraordinary leadership and extraordinary results and creating extraordinary results. Because it's through that nervousness or doubt or fear that you may feel in your body that you're actually becoming more that you actually stepping and embodying that higher level identity. So personally, these phrases truly, truly serve me to really stay in that identity. This is done to stay in the devotional leadership where I trust my vision, where I let it guide my choices even when it's uncomfortable, even when it's risky, even when it's hard.
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  And that my dear one separates extraordinary leaders from everyone else. It separates you from the life and business you're tired of living and gets you into the operating system, the identity of yours where so much more becomes possible for you.
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  So these are the four phrases that truly change everything I love to hear from you. Which one hit hardest I'd love to know in the comments below. Your attention, your heart, your presence here means to me and to the movement of business energetics more than you can imagine. So I thank you and of course if you want to go deeper into business energetics and framework that's behind all of this. All the links are in the description below. I'm sending so much love your way for now and I'll see you next time.