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Rabbi Moshe Haber Perashat Matot-Masei Moshe's Legacy: The Primacy of Gratitude 7.25.25 · Rabbi Moshe Haber - Daily Mussar/Weekly Perasha

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  I was thinking about the price shot a little bit and I realized
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  the following question. Let's see what we can answer.
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  Moshe Banner is not literally at the end of his life in the
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  parish shop, he's given his last job, his final task in life.
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  What is his final task? As follows by the very same
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  Moshe Lamore, God speaks to Moshe Nikon Nikmat Venezuela,
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  Mehta Mejia name Ajar Tercepa La Mejia Nikon Nikon Venezuela.
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  I need you to take revenge on behalf of the Jewish people from
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  the Medianium. You file a job, you file a task
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  in life, Hashem says clearly. And I need you to take revenge
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  with the Medianem in the name of the people whom post Billam's
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  advice had the Jewish girls, the non Jewish girls.
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  Excuse me Lord, the Jewish men to sin, I need you to take
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  revenge. It led to a lot of problems, led
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  to plagues, led to the hope and ha story.
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  I need you to revenge for that act.
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  That's your last job and God says it that way.
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  Then just tell Moshe about his last mission and stop.
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  He says the words do this task and then a heart has said a la
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  Mega. Afterwards, Moshe, you'll be
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  gathered back to your people, which means afterwards life is
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  over and Hashem links the mitzvah of taking revenge.
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  And what should I be? No passing right together.
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  How much are they linked? Listen now far they linked.
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  And Madaj writes that Musharra banner was given his last legacy
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  item. If he would want and he would
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  stay alive, want to stay alive longer, he can push off
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  fulfilling this mitzvah for months, weeks, days, even years.
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  If you'd want to, you could push off for a very long time.
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  You know what happened? He would live because God wanted
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  no matter what the most gentleman.
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  His final act is to take revenge against the Medianima, his
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  legacy move. His final act is take that
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  revenge. Why?
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  Because it's a clear key to Shazam.
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  It's Kadisha sham when justice is served against those who are
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  evil. It's Kadisha sham when to get
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  rid of those who are IE in this world, God wants Masheda Binu to
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  carry out his final act. That act and literally the
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  madash writes, I'm going to say, had been wanted.
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  He could have pushed you off for a very long time.
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  But he didn't wait, he didn't hesitate, and he acted right
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  away. That's mitzvah fine, 'cause
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  keduja Hashem, the most important thing to sanctify
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  God's name, to remove evil in the world, very important thing.
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  Here's my problem. The problem is, if mosheda have
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  been outperforming keduja Hashem is so important that God would
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  say it is the final thing you have to do.
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  It's going to be a legacy item. It's going to be the closing out
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  of your career and no matter how long you wait, Hashem says
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  you're going to live until you do this act.
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  So it makes sense for Mushair Ben to go home, strap up and go
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  fight the war in the reality. What is it about Zook, say
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  Mushair Ben, who calls in the Jewish people and he says get
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  ready for war, to take revenge, we're going to split up the
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  people, etcetera. And then he hires, he invites
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  Pinchas and El Azar. He invites other people to lead
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  the war. One second.
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  Hashem asked you. God asked you to run this war.
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  God told you it's your most important job, time of your
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  life. This is it.
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  And Mosheima doesn't do it himself, hasn't make any sense.
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  He gives it over to Pikas, he gives it over to others.
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  He doesn't do it himself. He leaves the war, leads the war
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  from afar, but he doesn't do it himself.
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  How does this make sense? Because one of them is the Malik
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  huh. The general doesn't lead the war
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  general fights in those days general led the war or shareman
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  identify Hashem gave him this job by some was clear.
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  This is your literally you know you imagine a person who's
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  finishing off his career about the street.
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  What he does is he's got to be the guy he's going to be the
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  center of attention. What shareman doesn't do the the
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  role he was asked and gives it with other people who want the
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  first time say the first time that he didn't do OK a chance
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  all in the beginning right right.
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  Every time you have and more shit go to war.
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  And he got killed in the war. Yeah, but if you're told to do
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  it, you do it every time. We should have been and was
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  given a job. He did it.
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  Besides four, there was always one thing that held him back.
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  That one mid that held him back was the following over here.
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  And it represents self in different places.
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  And there was. He was supposed to find Midian.
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  And Moshe Abedin lived as a fugitive in Midian for many
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  years, so he had therefore hakarat the tov.
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  The only thing that held mushidah been back from doing a
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  mitzvah that God told him was when it came to hakarat the tov.
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  When he was a conflict with hakarat the Tov, Mushidah been
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  understood. Even though Hashem told me to do
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  it, God would never want me to do and go get sakarat tov.
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  There's no way Hashem meant me literally, even though Hashem
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  told me and you know, Hashem said it's my final job of life.
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  It cannot mean that I have to do it physically myself because
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  there is no way Hashem wants me with my own hands to go against
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  Hakka at the Tov. And this is consistent Mars, to
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  your point of his entire life, whether it be when it came to
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  hitting the dirt when it came to the plagues or hitting the water
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  when it came to the plagues. Musharra Banu would never go
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  against Hakka at the Tov. And he assumed that God didn't
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  even mean to do so. It was pashutim was obvious to
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  him that even though Hashem deemed hidden job, Hashem linked
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  it to his legacy move, it still did not mean for him to do it
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  himself. Because there's no way in the
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  world that Hashem meant for me to go against our character tof.
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  That's the translation. It's a wild thing, Hashem, but
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  such a big emphasis on Hashem been a living to do this
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  literally. It's his legacy move in fact.
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  And the Dash writes that the Jewish people were debating to
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  stop the war because they knew if we stopped this war, Moshe
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  would live. It was so clear.
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  This is literally his last and final act was such an important
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  thing and they wanted to stop it.
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  So it's clearly linked to his importance and his significance.
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  And still, Moshita Ben didn't do it himself.
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  And it's because it's constant. I want to understand a little
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  deeper. He didn't fight at all.
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  He didn't fight at all. He sent in generals.
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  He didn't fight at all. He split up the camp.
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  He prepared. He did not fight physically
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  himself because he understood that even though God told me to
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  do it, it means I should oversee it.
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  I shouldn't do it myself because there is no way I share means
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  for me to sacrifice and to give in on my I want to understand
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  one step deeper. How does that make sense?
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  How important is Akrot the 12 that he can understand?
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  Moshe could understand that God didn't mean for him to do it.
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  God told him to do it didn't mean me, couldn't have meant me
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  because Akrot the 12 there's no way I share wants me to go
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  against Akrot the 12. How important is recognizing or
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  appreciating the good that others do to you, to you that I
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  could literally translate Hashem's words to mean something
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  else when God told them the words nikom, nikmat benesa, You
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  take revenge and then your life is over.
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  Told Moshe, abandoned to do this, didn't mean me because
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  there's no way God meant for me to sacrifice Zakatotov.
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  How important Zakatotov is that degree, didn't he?
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  Didn't Moshe killed the lamb in this war?
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  Moshe himself, No. Oh, the people did, not him.
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  He did not. Or something.
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  Maybe I, I not even on the Bizukim.
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  The people themselves may belong himself.
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  Not the war. He didn't fight the war, that's
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  for sure. But Souk says or she has sent
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  the people in. What does he call him?
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  A shock? Or Tom Mosher?
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  He sends the people in. Or Tom Verpin has been a Lazar.
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  He sends him because he doesn't do it himself.
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  So how important is our character Tov?
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  Here's a theme. I think it's an important point.
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  There is nothing more fundamental to the medot, the
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  development and the character of what we are.
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  They're appreciating what others do for us.
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  They're appreciating the good. There's nothing.
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  There is no more fundamental medal in Jewish, in the Jewish
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  world than appreciate. And it's clear from this.
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  Are you grateful? Being grateful what others do
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  for you is number one. Other is grateful what you know
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  your family does for you, grateful for the community does
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  for you, grateful for what Hashem does for you, being
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  grateful for what those around you do for you.
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  Is that the fabric and the core of our existence?
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  To the point that Moscherabbeno understood naturally that if God
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  told me to do something, he could not have meant that I
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  should do it myself, because that would be a contradiction to
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  my existence. I am Moscherabbeno, I am
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  representative of the Jewish people.
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  I am supposed to be someone who represents proper character,
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  represents proper service of God.
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  There is no way that I can do both.
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  There's no way I can be the more sure that I am and also be
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  someone who's locking the I can't stop.
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  I can't it's not possible. That's easy to even this story
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  and I think it's important for us to realize and to ingrain in
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  our families and ourselves that appreciate what others do for us
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  is at the core and at the basic essential foundation of our
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  existence is to look around and to thank people and to be
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  cognizant of those do for you. Now why let's go a step forward.
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  I said say it. Why you being grateful to the
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  first We're going to There's two parts.
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  The reason I got appreciating and being grateful is so
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  important. A mold you character and a mold
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  you service action flat out and mold you character.
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  If you're any grateful person, then pretty much you end up
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  being not nice to anyone around you.
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  Yes, you're only nice to the person whom you still need be,
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  not nice to the people whom you already received from.
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  Everything on your history is wiped.
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  Everything that's that happened before you is nothing.
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  It's not existent. The elders, the parents, the
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  grandparents. This is a challenge the world
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  has. He's not wiping away the history
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  isn't the same. Basically in a sense wiping away
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  our crater tooth. If a person does not have proper
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  gratitude, anything that's happened up until this very day
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  is non existent. It doesn't exist.
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  The only thing they worry about is what's going to happen
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  tomorrow. They'll be nice to the person
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  who's going to help them tomorrow.
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  They'll be nice to those who mean to their future.
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  But they'll they'll be not nice at all.
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  They'll completely ignore all those who have done things in
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  their past. And that changes and molds your
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  entire character. But the character is meant to be
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  the exact opposite of that. Your character is meant to be a
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  person who appreciates, who recognizes, who understands
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  where all those around them played a role in my existence.
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  Has to be our mindset. So first of all, Hakaratov is at
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  the core of my service and my understanding of other people.
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  And secondly, it's at the core of my service to Hashem.
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  All right, You can serve Hashem. One of two ways.
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  Either you can serve God is what you need from him.
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  It's a future mindset, OK? Or you can serve God based on
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  what you got from him. That's a history mindset.
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  And it's a whole different service.
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  If you serve a shampoo you need from Him, yes, you'll do a lot
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  of God. You'll pray, sure.
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  You'll make sure to not, you know, not mess up because you're
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  afraid that God's going to smite me.
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  I'm scared. So you'll serve out of that
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  method, but ultimately it will not be genuine at all.
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  If a person is nice to others or nice to God based on what he
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  needs in the future, it's not genuine, it's not real, It's not
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  at its core anything. It's just pretty much, I know
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  Hashem is my genie in the bottle, so I better be good to
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  him because otherwise I'm in trouble.
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  It's pretty much, I know the people around me, you know, they
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  take care of me. So I better be nice to them
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  because otherwise and I can hear not going to treat you, probably
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  not going to give it to me. That's the mindset of the
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  future. That's no, I'll grab the dog.
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  That's only thinking about what's coming in front of you,
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  and that doesn't develop you one iota.
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  And a person that's based on fear, and Zach has the concept
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  of fear as well. This doesn't develop ourselves
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  at all. We may be acting like good
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  people, but it's only in order to check, in order to make sure
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  that everything works out in our future.
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  That's a hollow existence. A person with hakarat, A tov,
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  the person who's looking to what happened before him, looking to
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  his history, thinking about his past, right?
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  That person is the exact opposite.
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  He, everything he does is building and developing and
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  molding his character. Because it's not about what I'm
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  going to get from it. It's not at all about what's
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  going to, you know, be given back to me.
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  Instead, it's simply about what is right and what is wrong.
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  And what's right is if someone gave it to me, he deserved
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  recognition. If someone was there for me in
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  my life and deserved to be appreciated.
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  If someone at one point provided something in my life, I have to
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  recognize it. I have to think about it.
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  And the greatest people that we know act that way, and the most
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  hollow people act in the exact opposite way.
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  You'll notice people who seem nice, who are really a hollow
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  existence. And you know, there's other
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  people who are at the core nice and there are genuinely good
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  people. The difference is this.
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  Are you looking towards your future?
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  That's hollow. You look into the past.
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  That's everything. And we have to raise ourselves
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  and our children, our families without mind.
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  Say don't just think about what they're going to give to me
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  tomorrow or the next day or are they going to be there for me.
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  Think about, you know, I think of an organization who's good to
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  their previous donors, equal as good as they are to their future
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  donors. That's a very important me that
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  organization has to have. If you only lies to the people
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  who you think of may be the view in the future, that's sketch.
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  That's just trying to make sure that you set yourself up for the
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  future. And that's really a hollow
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  existence. Trust me, there are those who
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  are generous to organizations who get very, very turned off
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  when they did something years ago and then on the position
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  today to do it or they shifted their approach.
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  Everything slacks on the buildings and they exactly why
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  does it get them so upset That's that's on the building.
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  Yeah. When when shoes redo their
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  buildings speak controversial and recently has happened in one
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  of the community shows and they change the blacks and it was
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  just it was a major, major dispute consciousness.
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  That is really the challenge. So there are hollow hearth and
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  things to chivalt about it. But to me definitely a big issue
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  because you know what are you saying it's saying you know,
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  saying you're as good as your last two exactly.
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  I think you're saying it seems like you're saying way
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  definitely right, and that's literally I'm telling you it's a
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  hollow existence. I'm telling you you have to
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  recognize this and see some people.
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  You can find people who are nice, more than nice to the nice
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  to the future donors, the nice to those who will do something
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  for them in the future, and it's really nothing.
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  On the other hand, you know where do you see this?
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  When people take care of the elderly parents, right?
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  This is literally the point. Someone takes care of his
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  elderly parents. That's an example of real
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  understanding of recognizing when someone did me years ago.
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  When someone, a young guy takes care of his parents who are very
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  well off. I'll be honest to you, you don't
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  really see yet Takata Tov there. You see something we don't see,
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  you can't notice yet. Now if they do it in a way
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  that's proper and they're doing away with good and we do it and
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  they do it in a way that's real, fine.
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  We know both types. We've seen all types.
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  But you have to recognize and realize it has to be genuine.
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  Everything in our life has to be genuine and real and some what
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  should have been understood. Yes, God gave me a job and yes,
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  that job is to take revenge. And yes, it is my legacy.
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  My legacy is Kedusha Hashem, but there's no way I can be a
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  Kedusha Hashem where at the same time I'm going to sacrifice from
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  my core existence, and my core existence is my should have been
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  who was always from the beginning until now, How can I
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  talk? His name was Moshe, which we
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  know means, but not mine. He was drawn from the water,
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  which means he appreciates where he's drawn from everything from
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  start to finish. A Moshe about his makeup, which
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  always how can I talk? And he's not going to give in
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  now. He's not going to sacrifice that
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  at the end of his life. And even when God told him to do
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  something, he understood there's no way Hashem meant to sacrifice
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  America, not to thought there's no way.
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  Because God wants me to be me and the fullest existence of me
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  as someone who appreciates. And I really think this is
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  important for all of us for constantly to drive into our own
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  minds, appreciate those who are around you.
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  We all know we would be nowhere without those around us.
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  We don't know that to be the case, whether it be the guy who
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  started us off on our first job or the guy that gave us the
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  first compliment with the person who helped us meet our wife and
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  all these different things, or our wives themselves and our
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  families and our parents. It's overwhelming, it's
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  humbling, but it's also what makes you into a person that has
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  fine character to fully recognize and appreciate those
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  who are around you and all those that feel sure, it does take
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  good character and also molds good character and makes it a
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  genuine person. Whereas if you're just thinking
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  about whatever you've done for me lately, if you're just
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  thinking about the last person or the person's going to help
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  you in the future, and you may act like a nice person to a lot
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  of people, and you might also have some people you don't
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  really cheat so well. But ultimately, at the core,
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  there's no existence of character at all with them once
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  it, whereas in the contrast, this full character, that's the
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  one I share about understood. And so he translated God's words
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  and God told me to do it. And God wanted me to do this
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  last thing in my life. Even so, it cannot be done by
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  me, myself and I because that would be a lack.
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  That's all. That's the mindset.