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5-MINUTE FRIDAY: A Critical Conversation & An Emotional Hangover · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: What's going on? Everyone? Emily Abadi here, you are listening
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  Speaker 1: to five minute Friday from Hurdle. Oh my gosh. I
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  Speaker 1: have been digesting how I feel after last night's Safety
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  Speaker 1: and Numbers panel all day to day. If you asked
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  Speaker 1: me how it went, I would tell you it went
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  Speaker 1: quite well. And I'm typically my biggest critic. It felt
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  Speaker 1: so surreal to have such a beautiful gathering of people
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  Speaker 1: in the community to talk about something that frustrates so
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  Speaker 1: many of us. The issues that were dealing with when
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  Speaker 1: it comes to safety in running, and we chatted so
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  Speaker 1: much about so many different things, ranging from tools that
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  Speaker 1: we can use to be more safe, to the concept
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  Speaker 1: of allyship and what it looks for, what it looks
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  Speaker 1: like for men to be allies of women in running,
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  Speaker 1: and different scenarios in which that may play out. A
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  Speaker 1: lot of you have reached out to me asking if
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  Speaker 1: it was recorded. It's not recorded. It was not recorded. However,
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  Speaker 1: I will be having more conversations on this topic, and
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  Speaker 1: I promise to bring this to the feed as soon
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  Speaker 1: as those happen. But with that said, as I'm sitting
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  Speaker 1: here and I'm processing all of my emotions, the thing
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  Speaker 1: that I keep coming back to is just the phrase
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  Speaker 1: what's next. And I think that is the most beautiful
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  Speaker 1: thing this place to be in when you're an entrepreneur
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  Speaker 1: and you do something that feels so right and you're
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  Speaker 1: asking yourself what's next, because there's this really great clashing
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  Speaker 1: passion and purpose. After looking out at the one hundred
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  Speaker 1: and fifty plus people in the crowd last night, I
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  Speaker 1: can say with certainty that this is so important and
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  Speaker 1: something that so many of us I think. I use
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  Speaker 1: the word frustrated already, but feel frustrated about feel so
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  Speaker 1: frustrated that the thing that makes me feel good in
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  Speaker 1: my body for the most part, running, that thing is
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  Speaker 1: taken away from me because of so many things outside
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  Speaker 1: of my control. I mean, just this morning there was
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  Speaker 1: news of a woman that was attacked and raped running
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  Speaker 1: in the morning on the West Side Highway. It's one
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  Speaker 1: of the most popular running paths in New York City.
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  Speaker 1: Just today, the morning after we gathered and talked about
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  Speaker 1: what can we do to feel more safe in our
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  Speaker 1: community and how can we show up for one another.
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  Speaker 1: There are always going to be things that are beyond
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  Speaker 1: our control. So while I feel frustrated and admittedly a
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  Speaker 1: little scared about the state of what is going on
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  Speaker 1: in running and our safety. I also feel so much
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  Speaker 1: purpose connected to the conversation that I had last night
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  Speaker 1: and the conversations I want to have going forward, and
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  Speaker 1: the action that can come from those conversations. I always
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  Speaker 1: ask myself what's next in the times where I feel
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  Speaker 1: so certain and aligned and in my purpose, and also
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  Speaker 1: in the bad times too. I'll never forget. I was
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  Speaker 1: in talks for this really big contract in April of
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  Speaker 1: twenty twenty one, and it fell through, and I was
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  Speaker 1: texting my father just like absolutely beside myself. And while
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  Speaker 1: he did provide some space for me to express my feelings,
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  Speaker 1: his question to me, like it is, each and every
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  Speaker 1: time that something doesn't go my way as well as
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  Speaker 1: something goes my way, is all right, what's next? And
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  Speaker 1: it's up to us to get to that place. It's
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  Speaker 1: up to us not to get complacent. It's up to
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  Speaker 1: us to remember that regardless of the outcome of one
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  Speaker 1: specific event, we then have to keep moving forward. So
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  Speaker 1: perhaps this weekend, maybe you're lacing up and Sunday doesn't
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  Speaker 1: go as planned, and so yes, feel all the feelings
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  Speaker 1: that go with that disappointment. But then I encourage you,
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  Speaker 1: if this happens to you, to ask what's next, which
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  Speaker 1: is exactly what I had to ask myself after the
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  Speaker 1: New York City Marathon last year. If we're being real,
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  Speaker 1: when we have these moments that feel like small wins,
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  Speaker 1: when we feel that momentum, the best thing that we
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  Speaker 1: can do is keep showing up rather than rest, because
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  Speaker 1: it is in that momentum that we find our true power.
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  Speaker 1: Right it is in that momentum that we can really
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  Speaker 1: expand and explore possibility that maybe we never thought possible
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  Speaker 1: in the first place. And so we're regardless of where
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  Speaker 1: you are right now, regardless of what your big goals are,
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  Speaker 1: I encourage you to to ask yourself that question. And
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  Speaker 1: maybe that's this week's listener prompt. What's next? What do
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  Speaker 1: you want? Whether you feel like you're winning or you
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  Speaker 1: feel like you're losing. The theme, the thread, it is
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  Speaker 1: the same, what's next? And that is entirely within your control.
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  Speaker 1: And now a listener question.
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  Speaker 2: Hi, Emily, this is Jen from San Francisco. I'm a
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  Speaker 2: longtime Hurdler listener from the past five years. I used
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  Speaker 2: to live in New York City and during the pandemic,
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  Speaker 2: i actually moved back to San Francisco in the Bay
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  Speaker 2: Area to be closer to family, and I was wondering,
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  Speaker 2: when are you coming out to San Francisco for a
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  Speaker 2: visit and a run with fellow hurdler's Thanks bye.
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  Speaker 1: H San Francisco. Can I tell you that I grew
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  Speaker 1: up coming to San Francisco quite often and I had
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  Speaker 1: family that lived in Walnut Creek, And since both of
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  Speaker 1: my mother's parents passed away, it's been a little moment
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  Speaker 1: since I have been back. I don't have it on
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  Speaker 1: my radar at the moment. I only have one travel
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  Speaker 1: plan for the rest of the year and it is
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  Speaker 1: actually to Las Vegas in December. But I promise as
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  Speaker 1: soon as I have more travel dates on the calendar
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  Speaker 1: and that can get hurdlers involved, you will be the
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  Speaker 1: first to know. I'm curious. I am looking for some
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  Speaker 1: out of the box destinations for next year, maybe some
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  Speaker 1: different local travel recommendations, and by local, I just mean domestic.
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  Speaker 1: So if you have them, hit me up, tag me
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  Speaker 1: over and STI I'm over at Emily Body. You know
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  Speaker 1: that hurdle is over at Hurdle Podcast. If you're running
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  Speaker 1: this weekend here in New York, City, good luck. If
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  Speaker 1: I'm seeing you tomorrow at the Bandit pop up over
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  Speaker 1: at Whalebone, I'm bleeker, I can't wait. And with that,
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  Speaker 1: another hurdle conquered. Catch you guys next time.