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What's You Dream Role? Let's Manifest! · Mommywood

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  Hello and welcome to Mommy Wood. I'm so happy that you're here
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  and today we're going there. I'm doing it.
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  I'm finally saying it out loud, talking about my dream role.
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  That's what we're talking about today.
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  I know it's hard to say out loud and it's just something I've
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  been thinking about and I feel like as moms we don't talk about
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  our big dreams enough. So this episode is about
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  manifesting. It's about why I haven't said
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  this dream roll out loud, Why I've hesitated to say it, and
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  how motherhood has changed this role for me.
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  My dream role how how motherhood has changed what I thought my
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  dream role was and all of that. So let's just let's get into it.
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  Let's manifest today, shall we? I also want to hear about what
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  your dream roles are and how you have changed, how that dream
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  role has changed or not since you've become a mom.
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  So let's get our emotional support.
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  Iced coffees or hot coffee, tea, Margarita, whatever you will,
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  and let's manifest. OK, so my dream role, I want to
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  be a sitcom mom. There, I've said it.
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  I want to be a sitcom mom specifically.
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  I would really like to be on well, I'm not going to pick a
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  show because I feel like the show that I want hasn't been
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  created yet, but I would like to be on a Chuck Lorre show.
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  And I say that specifically because I have been on 2 of
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  Chuck Lorre's sets now and they have been so wonderful and such
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  great experience that let's just put it out there, why not?
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  I I would more specifically really like to actually be on a
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  live audience sitcom because I feel like that schedule is so
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  great, especially for moms. I think it's just perfection.
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  I would like to, I would like to be able to put my daughter to
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  bed, have dinner with my daughter.
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  I, I feel like I've been kind of training for this role my whole
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  life just because my, my background, my training is in
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  theater. And I feel like this sitcom, and
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  I know that they're so few and far between now, but I feel like
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  especially the live audience, sitcoms are so much more
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  theatrical. And getting that immediate
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  response from the audience, I feel like I could really thrive
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  on that. Especially from my theater
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  experience. I'm more used to that.
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  But I will say, I don't think this role has been my dream role
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  forever. I think it's more of a new a new
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  dream role for me. Unfortunately, at some point I
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  told my mom and she likes to repeat it to me that I feel like
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  I'm going to be one of those people who doesn't find their
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  big success until they're in their 30s, which hello is coming
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  and going. It's we're almost done.
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  So manifesting here we are. Yes, yes, please and thank you.
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  So yeah, I do think the last couple years, few years, like
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  right before I became a mom, I was getting a lot more mom
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  auditions. And I feel like I've really kind
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  of settled into that. Not saying by any means that
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  once you're a mom, you can only play moms.
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  Like I just want to make that very clear that I do not think
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  that is true whatsoever. But I do think that I've kind of
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  kept this like a dream role. I feel like we don't.
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  I've kept it inside. I feel like I don't share my
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  big, my big dreams and my big goals often.
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  And I feel like a lot of women do that because it's scary.
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  It's scary to say those big dreams out loud because what if
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  they don't happen? What if, you know, it's kind of
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  like, what do they say? Don't tell people you're writing
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  a screenplay. Tell them when you're done.
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  So I feel like it's just being, you know, being scared And, and,
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  and I think it's vulnerable for anybody in any industry to share
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  a dream or, you know, or a big idea.
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  I think it can be scary because especially in this industry, IA
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  lot of times feel like I'm too late.
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  I didn't come to LA until a few years after college.
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  I was in New York first. I feel like I wasn't out here
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  auditioning when I was a teenager.
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  I don't have any nepotism. I don't have any people in my
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  family in the industry. So I feel like with all of those
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  things working against me, and then you add the whole lovely
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  ageism of Hollywood as a factor, that it's just so hard that I
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  feel like I am too late and or I'll feel a sense of judgement
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  like, oh, she thinks she can do that, great.
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  But I don't feel that way towards other people.
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  Again, nobody is thinking of us as much as we think they are.
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  So to put that pressure on ourselves of what other people
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  think, it's just stupid. And I know it is.
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  I know it is, we know it is, right.
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  So I think we should all be sharing these big dreams.
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  I think it's important to say them out loud.
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  I think it's important to share them especially with with the
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  people you love in your life and people that are going to root
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  for you. I do think it's important to
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  have not just have a big dream or have a goal, but ways to work
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  towards them because obviously I can't just be like, I want to be
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  a sitcom mom. Hopefully I just get that
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  audition tomorrow. That's not going to happen.
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  I need to make sure I have the right headshots that are putting
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  me in that category. I need to make sure that I am
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  doing my, my improv training, that I am keeping up with my
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  comedic timing, my acting classes.
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  And that costs money. And especially once you have a
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  kid, money is not falling off the trees, not growing on trees.
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  So, so that that is hard, but that doesn't mean it's
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  impossible. I think that motherhood has
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  definitely reshaped this dream for me, especially because, and
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  don't get me wrong, as where I am in the industry in my career
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  right now, I'm I'm not saying no to roles that are not, you know,
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  this series regular sitcom mom. I am still auditioning for a lot
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  of things. I would love to do more
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  commercials. I would love to be in movies.
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  Those schedules serve films are not great.
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  A lot of times schedules for filming anything isn't great,
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  which is another reason I think motherhood has really impacted
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  this dream role of mine of the sitcom sitcom mom because of the
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  schedule or yeah, so I just mom, mom brain, brain fog.
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  I don't think I've come very close to it yet, for sure.
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  I have definitely had a lot of mom roles, have had comedic mom
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  roles, have had commercial mom roles, have had dramatic mom
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  roles. So I'm hoping that is all
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  eventually leading up to just something something.
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  So again, it's all that accumulating into what we really
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  want. Not to say that I that anyone
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  role is going to be the final role for anyone.
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  Like, you know, even if you're on, if you're on the next, you
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  know, Modern Family, it's you know, Julie, Julie Bowen still
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  has a long time to go. She was on that show for a long
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  time and then it ended. I mean, it was great, but it all
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  good things come to an end. So there's always something next
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  to. So it's always good to have a
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  few a few dreams. I guess maybe I should think of
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  a few, a few more. I think like what the dream is
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  versus what the reality of what this dream would be.
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  It's definitely going to be different.
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  You know, we can manifest and dream up these these scenarios,
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  but it might not look like what I have in my head.
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  And I feel like that happens a lot for actors, especially when
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  you're younger and thinking, OK, I got my BFA in acting.
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  I'll just go out, do some auditions, and then I'll, you
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  know, book stuff that's not what it looks like or thinking I have
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  my BFA in acting. I don't need to take class
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  anymore. Yeah, wrong.
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  Very, very wrong. So things are never what they
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  seem. So even though we're manifesting
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  all of the specifics of exactly what we want, it might not be
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  exactly what we want, you know, you know what I'm saying, But I
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  think it's important to sit down.
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  I did this once in a, not a, not a hypnosis session, but
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  something, something like that. But talking about the very
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  specifics of what you want, like from the moment you wake up to
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  the moment you go to bed, like go through that.
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  Where is your house? What is your house?
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  Look? What's your look like?
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  What is your bed look like? Who's how are you waking up an
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  alarm, your kid? How are you getting up?
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  What are you having for breakfast?
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  Are you having coffee? What are you doing?
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  Is a car coming for you to pick you up to go on set?
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  Are you driving yourself? How are the people in hair and
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  makeup? Like all of the specifics do
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  you? What do you do for lunch?
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  Are you bringing your kid to school?
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  Who has dinner at home? Is somebody cleaning your house?
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  When do you get to pick up your kid from school?
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  Do you get to make dinner or do you want dinner made for you?
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  All of these like very specific things.
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  I think it's so interesting and so fun to do.
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  If you haven't done that, I think that's that's a good
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  thing. And I think I'm going to, I
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  think I'm going to do that again soon because it's been it's been
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  a minute since I've done that. So I feel like, yeah, I feel
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  like that's a good, a good way to kind of move this saying the
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  dream role, go through the manifestation.
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  I'm like, start taking the steps of like how we're going to make
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  this manifestation happen, like the networking, the like I said,
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  the headshots, the footage that I have for myself, like I need
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  to make sure that it all fits together in this, this beautiful
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  little package of sitcom moms, which I think is good.
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  Of course, there's always still those limiting beliefs that we
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  have of, as I said before, feeling like I'm too late,
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  feeling like I don't have enough time.
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  The days go by so fast and I feel like even with my daughter
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  at school, I'm getting nothing done.
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  I feel like it's so important to schedule the hours of the day
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  because most of the time I feel like I bring my daughter to
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  school. I, you know, maybe work out,
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  shower, get ready for the day and then it's like over, which
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  it's not over. There's still like several hours
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  left before I even have to get my daughter.
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  But I think really honing in on the hours of the day of what I
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  can do and making those lists, the list, the To Do List that I
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  love. I told my husband on our first
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  date that I love lists and he's still around folks, He's still
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  around. So I think working through
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  getting rid of a lot of those limiting beliefs, maybe, you
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  know, finding a new therapist for myself would help.
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  I think that's, I mean, therapy is always a great idea, right?
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  And then I would say to anybody else who is listening and afraid
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  to say their big dreams out loud to go for it to just you can
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  just send it to me like on Instagram or, you know, comment,
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  you know, well, I guess I don't know if people can see the
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  comments on Spotify, but DM me on Instagram or TikTok like I'm
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  I want if you want me to share it, I will.
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  But if you don't, I will not. I'm a vault, but I think at
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  least to have a friend or have somebody hear this dream, maybe
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  say it out loud. Maybe that's a nice fresh of
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  breath air. What breath of fresh air?
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  You think that getting your big dreams out of your mouth?
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  Just say it out loud in a room to yourself.
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  I want to be a sitcom mom or, you know, I want to be the next
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  Mariska Hargitay or I want to, you know, be the commercial
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  queen. Like, I don't know, whatever
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  your dream is. And I know that we can't really
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  control most of that. So having those big dreams said
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  out loud is just a way to like put it out into the earth
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  because yeah, we can't control any aspect of her career.
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  I mean, most aspects of her career it's and it's not linear.
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  So I think just to say them out loud to put them into the
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  universe is the first step. Like I'm also not saying like I
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  want to book 5 Co stars by the end of the year.
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  Like, yeah, sure, but I don't have control over that.
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  So what am I going to do to take the steps towards the big dream,
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  the things that I can control, like I said, my networking or
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  head shots and reels and, you know, doing the research of
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  who's working on these things that I want to be a part of.
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  So let's just start by saying our big dreams out loud,
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  celebrating that we have these big dreams and dream roles and
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  celebrate each other, especially as women, as mothers.
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  Let's lift each other up. You got this.
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  You're doing great. Say that dream out loud.
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  Make sure you share with me. I want to hear, I really want to
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  hear what other people's big dreams, big dream roles, big
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  dream ideas. So be sure to share with me and
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  thank you for being here and being a part of Mommy Wood.