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5-MINUTE FRIDAY: When Not Getting What You Want Works Out · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: Hey, everyone, five minute Friday day after Thanksgiving, Heavy Thanksgiving.
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  Speaker 1: I hope that whatever you did yesterday, you were able
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  Speaker 1: to do something that involved some smiling and hopefully a
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  Speaker 1: little bit of time for you and maybe some family,
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  Speaker 1: maybe some friends, maybe some movement. I am reflecting on
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  Speaker 1: the fact that yesterday I did something that I didn't
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  Speaker 1: want to do and it ended up really working out
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  Speaker 1: for me. Yesterday I did the Turkey Trot Walk instead
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  Speaker 1: of the Turkey Trot Run. The Turkey Trot I typically
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  Speaker 1: do every year near where I grew up. It's a
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  Speaker 1: five miler, and although I'm officially throwing my name in
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  Speaker 1: the ring for Tokyo twenty twenty four, I can't believe
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  Speaker 1: I'm saying that out loud. I'll be running the Tokyo
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  Speaker 1: Marathon next year. Right now, I am loving on a
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  Speaker 1: little bit of left knee tendon itis. It's something I've
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  Speaker 1: never dealt with before, but it's not exactly something that
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  Speaker 1: I couldn't anticipate considering that I have been dealing with
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  Speaker 1: right foot planter or fasci itis. So if we're looking
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  Speaker 1: at the body and something is wonky with your right side,
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  Speaker 1: then sooner or later, your left side that's been compensating
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  Speaker 1: for it is going to say something. It's gonna Something's
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  Speaker 1: gonna happen, and that's what we're dealing with now. Now
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  Speaker 1: I've talked and worked with the physical therapists that I've
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  Speaker 1: been working with for some time about this issue. I've
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  Speaker 1: seen him and he's not concerned. I have a plan,
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  Speaker 1: similar to when I started gearing up for my last
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  Speaker 1: bout of effort in Berlin, to start this training cycle
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  Speaker 1: predominantly on the bike while I give my left knee
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  Speaker 1: some time to calm down, some time for that inflammation
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  Speaker 1: to subside. Is it frustrating and weird that I'm going
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  Speaker 1: to be running a marathon in fifteen weeks and I'm
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  Speaker 1: not currently running at all. Yes? Do I trust wholeheartedly
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  Speaker 1: in my physical therapist. And I'm not sitting here going
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  Speaker 1: to talk to you about your issues because they are
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  Speaker 1: very different than mine, and I am not a physical
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  Speaker 1: therapist and I'm working one on one with this man
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  Speaker 1: and everything's going to be okay. Also, yes, now you
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  Speaker 1: know where I stand. So you also have any sort
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  Speaker 1: of tendonitis, I encourage you, although I appreciate any sympathies
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  Speaker 1: that you're sending my way, I can't tell you what
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  Speaker 1: to do with your body except that you need to
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  Speaker 1: treat it with great and respect. So that's where we
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  Speaker 1: sit on that. But I tell you all of this
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  Speaker 1: because yesterday I did the turkey trot walk and at
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  Speaker 1: first I was frustrated, and I thought like, maybe I
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  Speaker 1: should just do this trot anyway, It's going to be fine.
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  Speaker 1: And the reality is that if I give my body
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  Speaker 1: the love and respect that it means right now, and
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  Speaker 1: I listen to my physical therapist and I follow the plan,
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  Speaker 1: then I get to do the thing that I want
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  Speaker 1: to do in fifteen weeks, Whereas if I don't follow
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  Speaker 1: the plan and I'm shortsighted, then I would be putting
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  Speaker 1: myself at a disadvantage and I might not get to
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  Speaker 1: go after my ultimate goal. And I tell you this
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  Speaker 1: story because that is something that isn't just applicable, of course,
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  Speaker 1: with moving my body, with running, which candidly ninety nine
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  Speaker 1: point nine percent of the stories that I tell you
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  Speaker 1: here on Hurdle none of them actually have to do
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  Speaker 1: with moving the body at all. There are so many
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  Speaker 1: things that happen in our lives that we want in
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  Speaker 1: the moment, But if we are shortsighted about these things,
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  Speaker 1: then there is a probability, probability that you could be
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  Speaker 1: doing something detrimental in the long run. It's really along
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  Speaker 1: that theme of respond versus react, which I swear is
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  Speaker 1: the theme for me for twenty twenty three. I've talked
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  Speaker 1: about it here on the show, especially on five Minute
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  Speaker 1: Friday before. But responding is you giving yourself a chance
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  Speaker 1: to take a step back and then take action to
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  Speaker 1: wholeheartedly think about how a certain circumstance or a certain
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  Speaker 1: moment can play out in the long term, versus reacting,
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  Speaker 1: maybe based on emotion and doing something in the moment
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  Speaker 1: that you may regret in the long haul. Think of
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  Speaker 1: it in the circumstance of getting an email that makes
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  Speaker 1: you feel some kind of way. Maybe it's a sponsor
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  Speaker 1: pulling out of the show, something that I have had
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  Speaker 1: to deal with certainly over the last almost six years now.
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  Speaker 1: And in that moment, you're frustrated and you want to
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  Speaker 1: say something right. But what happens when you take a
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  Speaker 1: step back and you think about the relationship in the
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  Speaker 1: long haul and I say that, and you know that
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  Speaker 1: light bulb goes off, because sometimes it's the relationship not
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  Speaker 1: only with other people, but also with yourself. You know
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  Speaker 1: how angry I would have been with myself if I
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  Speaker 1: made what could have been considered a selfish choice to
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  Speaker 1: go out and run five miles just for the sake
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  Speaker 1: of running five miles, to say that I did the
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  Speaker 1: Turkey Trot, when in all seriousness that one five mile
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  Speaker 1: run doesn't actually matter. Yeah. So I ended up doing
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  Speaker 1: the walk, and not only was it lovely, but I
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  Speaker 1: got to do it with my mom and it was
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  Speaker 1: an experience that we got to share together. And then
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  Speaker 1: when we were sitting at the diner after, I looked
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  Speaker 1: at her as she said, I am having so much fun. Yeah. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: That's the responding versus the reacting. That's understanding that it's
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  Speaker 1: all happening for you. That's coming to terms with the
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  Speaker 1: fact that there are going to be moments that you
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  Speaker 1: don't get what you want. But that doesn't mean that
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  Speaker 1: you're not getting what you need. I'll say that one
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  Speaker 1: more time. Sometimes when you don't get what you want,
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  Speaker 1: you are actually getting what it is that you need.
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  Speaker 1: So have compassion for that idea, right, have compassion for
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  Speaker 1: the fact that sometimes there are going to be things
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  Speaker 1: that don't go as you had hoped, or as you
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  Speaker 1: had planned, or as you want in that moment. But
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  Speaker 1: that doesn't mean that how life is playing out for
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  Speaker 1: you despite those circumstances isn't happening for you. I have
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  Speaker 1: so much to be grateful for right now, my friends,
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  Speaker 1: my family, my body, everything that I am capable of,
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  Speaker 1: and some days it is harder to trust the process
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  Speaker 1: than others. But trust me, it is just that it's
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  Speaker 1: happening for you. My listener question for you this week,
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  Speaker 1: what is one circumstance lately that you had to respond
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  Speaker 1: versus react and how did that play out for you?
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  Speaker 1: What did you learn from that? What is one circumstance
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  Speaker 1: lately that you had to respond versus react, maybe exercise
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  Speaker 1: a little bit of patience and how did that play
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  Speaker 1: out for you? And now a listener question.
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  Speaker 2: Hi, Emily, it's Jackie. I always see you wearing the
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  Speaker 2: cutest white shoes and all of your Insta posts and
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  Speaker 2: I would love to know how do you keep your
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  Speaker 2: white shoes white? I love the new white shoe trend
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  Speaker 2: and running shoes and sneakers, but I cannot ever seem
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  Speaker 2: to keep mine white. Thanks have a great day.
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  Speaker 1: Jackie was so good to see you. Recently, literally, by
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  Speaker 1: complete coincidence, in New York City, this woman was standing
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  Speaker 1: behind me in coffee in a coffee line. She does
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  Speaker 1: not live there. We had had the honor of meeting
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  Speaker 1: before Jackie actually reached out to me. She deals with
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  Speaker 1: MS and she wanted me. I was so flattered by
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  Speaker 1: this opportunity, but I was not in the place to
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  Speaker 1: do this with her. But she asked if I would
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  Speaker 1: consider running the Boston Marathon with her as a guide.
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  Speaker 1: And it is a dream for me to have to
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  Speaker 1: be in the place to do that for someone else,
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  Speaker 1: especially because running has given me so much. But I knew,
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  Speaker 1: because of what I was dealing with with planter fasciitis,
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  Speaker 1: that I wasn't in the place to confidently say that
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  Speaker 1: I could show up for her on that day. Despite that,
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  Speaker 1: I've had the opportunity to meet Jackie many times, so
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  Speaker 1: when she was literally standing behind me in line in
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  Speaker 1: I think we were in no ho It was beside myself. Anyway,
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  Speaker 1: I digress your question, white sneakers. I do something that
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  Speaker 1: you're not supposed to do, and I'm just gonna come
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  Speaker 1: clean with it, no pun intended. I throw my white
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  Speaker 1: sneakers in the washing machine. So what I do is
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  Speaker 1: I take out the laces and I take out the insul,
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  Speaker 1: so the laces and the she go in the washing
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  Speaker 1: machine with just regular tide detergent. The soul stays, the
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  Speaker 1: insole stays out, and I wash them and then I
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  Speaker 1: air dry them with newspaper inside so they keep their shape. Now,
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  Speaker 1: there are tons of different kits and tools and whatnot
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  Speaker 1: that you can use to clean your sneakers without throwing
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  Speaker 1: them in the washing machine. They say not to do
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  Speaker 1: that because it impacts the sole the foam on most
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  Speaker 1: shoes as well as if the shoe has shel I'm
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  Speaker 1: sure it can impact that as well. I would never
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  Speaker 1: do this with a pair of carbon plated shoes, let's
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  Speaker 1: just say that. But for sneakers like my New Balance
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  Speaker 1: ten eighties, I throw those in the washing machine all
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  Speaker 1: the time. My Acex novoblasts those goes. Those go in
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  Speaker 1: the washing machine as well. Things I would not throw
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  Speaker 1: in the washing machine. If you have like a leather sneaker,
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  Speaker 1: like an air Force one, I would not throw those
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  Speaker 1: in the washing machine. With those. Again, it's not scientific.
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  Speaker 1: I'm sitting there with like a lysol wipe, maybe an
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  Speaker 1: old toothbrush. But yeah, you know, I'm just doing the
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  Speaker 1: best I can to keep these fresh and admittedly probably
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  Speaker 1: getting new sneakers a little bit more often than I
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  Speaker 1: like to admit, and for that I am also both
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  Speaker 1: fortunate and grateful. I hope everyone was able to enjoy
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  Speaker 1: their holiday. I'm sending so much gratitude out into this community.
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