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Growing Up Without a Dad: How Father Wounds Shape Sons · A Capture Deep Vibs A Positive Space For Inspiration And Embracing Of Heart

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  Speaker 1: Six Types of Unhealthy Father-Son Relationships In romantic comedy drama
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  Speaker 1: film Garden State, main character Andrew returns to his hometown
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  Speaker 1: to attend his mother's funeral. Andrew's father, a psychiatrist, blamed
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  Speaker 1: Andrew for his mother's death and put him on medications
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  Speaker 1: to try and control his emotions, believing it was Andrew's
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  Speaker 1: anger that triggered his mother's accident. People often say sons
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  Speaker 1: grow up to be as great as their fathers. But
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  Speaker 1: what about those of us who grew up without a
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  Speaker 1: dad or had a tough upbringing from them? We want
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  Speaker 1: to inform the public just how important it is to
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  Speaker 1: understand how toxic family dynamics can affect the individual's state
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  Speaker 1: of being. Here are six types of unhealthy father-son relationships. 1.
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  Speaker 1: The Absent Father A special shout out goes to Coffee Drop,
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  Speaker 1: who mentioned the absent father in our recent video, Six
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  Speaker 1: Types of Unhealthy Father-Daughter Relationships. If you haven't already, please
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  Speaker 1: check it out after this. The absent father was never
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  Speaker 1: around when you needed him. CEO and co-founder of Psych2Go,
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  Speaker 1: Ty Kwong, can strongly relate to this. His father left
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  Speaker 1: Ty and his family when he was little. Ty's father
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  Speaker 1: is a businessman who is constantly sucked into his work.
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  Speaker 1: There's nothing wrong with being passionate about your career, but
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  Speaker 1: his father has an unhealthy obsession with making money. As
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  Speaker 1: a result, he lost sight on finding a purpose from
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  Speaker 1: his work, causing him to spiral down a dark, empty hole.
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  Speaker 1: Ty was never emotionally and physically nurtured by his father.
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  Speaker 1: This abandonment can be detrimental to the son's emotional and
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  Speaker 1: physical development over time. Ty learned what not to become
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  Speaker 1: from his absent father and is passionate about growing Psych2Go
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  Speaker 1: into a bigger platform, hoping to raise mental health awareness
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  Speaker 1: and help others who've been through similar struggles as him. 2.
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  Speaker 1: The Addict Father The addict father is someone who struggles
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  Speaker 1: with some sort of addiction, whether it's alcoholism, gambling, drug abuse,
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  Speaker 1: or pornography. Unfortunately, Ty also relates to this one. Due
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  Speaker 1: to his father's unhappiness and competitive nature in being money hungry,
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  Speaker 1: he struggles with alcoholism. If you haven't already, please check
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  Speaker 1: out our video later, Seven Ways Alcoholic Parents Affect Their Children.
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  Speaker 1: Sons with an addict father have a fear of being
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  Speaker 1: vulnerable because of their emotional instability their fathers instilled within
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  Speaker 1: their lives. They are often scared to open up to others,
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  Speaker 1: afraid of being let down, hurt, and rejected. This can
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  Speaker 1: strongly affect their ability to form close, intimate friendships and
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  Speaker 1: relationships with romantic partners. 3. The Harsh Father This type
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  Speaker 1: of father is overly strict and tough on his son
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  Speaker 1: with frequent angry outbursts. The family often does not feel
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  Speaker 1: safe making mistakes and showing their flaws around him. The
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  Speaker 1: harsh father could be highly religious and expects everyone in
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  Speaker 1: his household to follow his rules and regulations. Sons who
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  Speaker 1: grow up with this type of father usually feel like
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  Speaker 1: their upbringing was more constricting than life-giving. Often the harsh
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  Speaker 1: father guilt trips his son, blaming him for not being
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  Speaker 1: good enough, rather than teaching him at how to get
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  Speaker 1: better at something. This type of father is usually moody, unpredictable,
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  Speaker 1: and feared by his son. 4. The performing father. The
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  Speaker 1: performing father is someone who often immerses himself in his
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  Speaker 1: work or hobbies. He doesn't enjoy sitting down with his
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  Speaker 1: kids and spending quality time with them. Instead, he always
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  Speaker 1: feels like he has to keep busy and has a
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  Speaker 1: hard time relaxing. The performing father is obsessed with performing
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  Speaker 1: well and always pushes himself to get better. Goal-oriented, he
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  Speaker 1: focuses on results, success, and achievements. In the workplace, he
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  Speaker 1: usually has a great reputation, and many of his co-workers
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  Speaker 1: find him responsible, reliable, and level-headed. At home, however, sons
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  Speaker 1: of the performing father feel neglected and rarely ever get
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  Speaker 1: their own needs met. As a result, they miss out
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  Speaker 1: learning important life skills and may struggle with low self-esteem issues,
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  Speaker 1: feeling like they can't meet the high standards of their
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  Speaker 1: own father. 5. The Passive Father Similar to the performing father,
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  Speaker 1: the passive father also has a great work ethic in
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  Speaker 1: the workplace. But instead of being busy at home too,
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  Speaker 1: the passive father leads a very uneventful life after he
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  Speaker 1: clocks out from work. Emotionally unavailable, he leaves all the
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  Speaker 1: work and chores up to the mom, including picking up
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  Speaker 1: the kids from school and spending quality time with them.
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  Speaker 1: This father, although he's still physically present in the family,
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  Speaker 1: he's often emotionally distant and doesn't interact much with his son.
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  Speaker 1: I grew up with a passive father, and even to
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  Speaker 1: this day, it's hard for me to bond with him. 6.
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  Speaker 1: The Abusive Father The abusive father forms intense emotional and
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  Speaker 1: physical wounds in the household. He often mistreats his son
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  Speaker 1: through physical, verbal, emotional, and or sexual abuse. This can
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  Speaker 1: take a massive toll on the son's emotional and physical
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  Speaker 1: development and can deeply hurt his self-esteem. Often, sons of
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  Speaker 1: abusive fathers can grow up either being abusive themselves or
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  Speaker 1: victims of abusive romantic relationships. Which type of unhealthy father-son
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  Speaker 1: relationship do you resonate with? We know how hard it
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  Speaker 1: is to talk about toxic family dynamics and want to
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  Speaker 1: be a safe, non-judgmental place for you. please share your
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  Speaker 1: story with us down below. We also want to remind
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  Speaker 1: you that you are worth so much more than the
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  Speaker 1: mistreatment you experienced in your childhood. Toxic patterns are hard
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  Speaker 1: to break out of, but with enough heart, self-awareness, and courage,
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  Speaker 1: they can be conquered. Please don't forget to also subscribe
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  Speaker 1: Thanks for watching.