Latest / Motivation Mindset Podcast / Your Life Will Never Be the Same After This Message

Transcript

Your Life Will Never Be the Same After This Message · Motivation Mindset Podcast

• 0:07
  Speaker 1: Boxing is a port man's sport, and I found boxing.
• 0:11
  Speaker 1: Boxing found me, or we found each other because I'm
• 0:15
  Speaker 1: so opposite of what I used to be or what
• 0:17
  Speaker 1: I did. I am quiet, shy, almost introverted, but to
• 0:24
  Speaker 1: be involved with the sport that demands your respect and
• 0:28
  Speaker 1: it's about bravado and what have you. Boxing to me
• 0:32
  Speaker 1: was a sense of being calm, being safe because I
• 0:35
  Speaker 1: felt safe in the ring more so than I felt
• 0:38
  Speaker 1: safer outside the ring. That it kind of brought me
• 0:43
  Speaker 1: to the real world. My coach was saying that you
• 0:48
  Speaker 1: guys can win the Olympics. That's what most kids need
• 0:52
  Speaker 1: to hear. A sense of encouragement, depending where you come from,
• 0:56
  Speaker 1: how you were brought up, how you were raised, or
• 0:58
  Speaker 1: speaking of confidence to a young kid is powerful because
• 1:02
  Speaker 1: now I believe I can do something, and I just
• 1:05
  Speaker 1: worked hard, just worked extremely hard every single day. You
• 1:11
  Speaker 1: have to believe in yourself. You have to do your
• 1:14
  Speaker 1: version of roadwork, which could be going to work earlier.
• 1:19
  Speaker 1: The same principles that it required for me to be
• 1:21
  Speaker 1: a champion, It's applicable in everyday of life. And my
• 1:26
  Speaker 1: philosophy is called power, which is prepare overcome when every
• 1:31
  Speaker 1: round it's here, and it's here. I create the fight
• 1:37
  Speaker 1: in my hand. I see it, I feel it, I
• 1:39
  Speaker 1: taste it. For me. Talk about when I lost my
• 1:43
  Speaker 1: first professional fight, which was so devastating, emostly devastating because,
• 1:51
  Speaker 1: like as you stated, my friends, my family, they were
• 1:55
  Speaker 1: trying to calm me down, although I wasn't quiet. I
• 1:59
  Speaker 1: was like hurting side because there was a fight that
• 2:02
  Speaker 1: I thought that I should have won. I could have
• 2:04
  Speaker 1: won if I had a different game plan. But to
• 2:10
  Speaker 1: help you understand why I went the route that I
• 2:13
  Speaker 1: did was because Roberto Durand was one of the most
• 2:16
  Speaker 1: intimidating fighters ever prior to Mike Tyson. And he cursed
• 2:22
  Speaker 1: me out, he cursed my wife out, and he pushed me,
• 2:25
  Speaker 1: shut me. He did all those things. He was like
• 2:27
  Speaker 1: a bully. He was a bully. He challenged my Manhod,
• 2:30
  Speaker 1: he took my Manhu, and I said, you know what,
• 2:32
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna beat this guy at his own game. And
• 2:34
  Speaker 1: I went to that Irraine and I was fighting in
• 2:37
  Speaker 1: total toe, which I should not have done. I mean,
• 2:40
  Speaker 1: no one likes to lose, no one. But what makes
• 2:44
  Speaker 1: your winner is coming back, is getting up from knockdowns.
• 2:49
  Speaker 1: And I lived with that for a few months, and
• 2:53
  Speaker 1: I said, you know what, I can beat this guy.
• 2:54
  Speaker 1: So I came back to show Roberto Duran that I
• 3:00
  Speaker 1: can come back. So it was good for me. Well.
• 3:04
  Speaker 1: I tend to choreograph the fight because in my head
• 3:09
  Speaker 1: I was good at breaking you down, and I will
• 3:12
  Speaker 1: study tapes of you, watch your pet peeves. I was
• 3:16
  Speaker 1: I would understand what makes you take, what makes you up, upset,
• 3:21
  Speaker 1: and I will play on those things. All those things
• 3:23
  Speaker 1: were just for me, ways of breaking you down. Fundamentally
• 3:28
  Speaker 1: break you down, but more so here because if I
• 3:31
  Speaker 1: get if I make you miss enough well, and then
• 3:35
  Speaker 1: I make you pay for those misses, then you doubt yourself,
• 3:40
  Speaker 1: because that's what they call it, the sweet size of boxing. Doubt,
• 3:47
  Speaker 1: first and foremost is always, let's say present. Although we
• 3:52
  Speaker 1: won't admit it, but we do doubt ourselves. That comes
• 3:56
  Speaker 1: into play when you're not sure, be sure what we want,
• 4:00
  Speaker 1: but not really sure how to get there. I paused
• 4:05
  Speaker 1: give myself timing. And although palls can be five seconds,
• 4:08
  Speaker 1: palls can be ten seconds, can be ten minutes, can
• 4:10
  Speaker 1: be ten days. You gotta let this thing and this
• 4:13
  Speaker 1: thing come together, your heart and your mind. It all
• 4:17
  Speaker 1: has to work as a unit, one piece, doing your
• 4:20
  Speaker 1: due diligence. To make sure you have all the information,
• 4:24
  Speaker 1: because when I do my road work, my roadwork is
• 4:26
  Speaker 1: running four or five miles. My road workers also checking
• 4:29
  Speaker 1: out and knowing your weak points and strong points. It's
• 4:34
  Speaker 1: all those things that makes a winner. Muhammad Ali gave
• 4:39
  Speaker 1: me some advice many many years ago. He said, Ray,
• 4:44
  Speaker 1: be your own man, but control your own legacy and
• 4:48
  Speaker 1: sign your own checks. But I didn't understand what he
• 4:50
  Speaker 1: was talking about. But I also wanted to be different
• 4:55
  Speaker 1: than most fighters, unfortunately who have fallen on the wayside,
• 5:00
  Speaker 1: and that was to create my own legacy and maintain
• 5:04
  Speaker 1: And I was able to do that because I had
• 5:06
  Speaker 1: good people around me. I had good people who were smart,
• 5:10
  Speaker 1: who had morals, who didn't take advantage of me as
• 5:14
  Speaker 1: a young kid, a young teenager, a young fighter back
• 5:20
  Speaker 1: in the day. This is back in like in the eighties,
• 5:22
  Speaker 1: early eighties. I was like twenty five, twenty six, and
• 5:27
  Speaker 1: you know, I was on top of the world. I
• 5:29
  Speaker 1: had my titles, I had the money, had the thing,
• 5:32
  Speaker 1: and I wasn't prepared to do anything else. So now
• 5:36
  Speaker 1: all of a sudden, I meet new friends and all
• 5:38
  Speaker 1: those little friends turned me on to something they called cocaine.
• 5:42
  Speaker 1: So I became an addict. I became an alcoholic, and
• 5:47
  Speaker 1: I did all those things and giving myself no respect,
• 5:52
  Speaker 1: and I did that for a couple of years. But
• 5:54
  Speaker 1: the thing about it, I thank God. I'm a blessed man.
• 5:57
  Speaker 1: I mean, I am one a guy who who have
• 6:01
  Speaker 1: good people around him. And also I surrendered myself. If
• 6:06
  Speaker 1: you don't come to grips with who you are, you'll
• 6:10
  Speaker 1: never be happy. I am the happiness I've ever been
• 6:11
  Speaker 1: in my life because now I'm okay in my own skin.
• 6:16
  Speaker 1: But I am cool with who I am. I mean,
• 6:18
  Speaker 1: I can walk into this room and if no one
• 6:20
  Speaker 1: recognized me, it's okay, it's okay. I'm okay with who
• 6:24
  Speaker 1: I am. Life is a fight, life is a challenge,
• 6:29
  Speaker 1: and everyone is not nice. Everyone is not gonna have morals,
• 6:33
  Speaker 1: and some people try to take what you have. I
• 6:36
  Speaker 1: mean all of those things, and I just found a
• 6:40
  Speaker 1: place recently in the past couple of years that has
• 6:46
  Speaker 1: made me the man I am today. I've been ten
• 6:48
  Speaker 1: years sober. It was hard for me to say I'm
• 6:51
  Speaker 1: an alcoholic because I'm sugar raying in it. When I
• 6:55
  Speaker 1: Foally was able to say that my life got better.
• 7:00
  Speaker 1: My life got so much better. And I was sexually
• 7:03
  Speaker 1: abused as a kid, and I kept it to myself
• 7:08
  Speaker 1: for many, many years. It ate it me for so long,
• 7:12
  Speaker 1: and I thought it was just me who that happened
• 7:15
  Speaker 1: to me, And at certain times of the year or
• 7:18
  Speaker 1: time or times of the month it resurfaced. I never
• 7:22
  Speaker 1: dealt with it. I always pushed it away. And the
• 7:24
  Speaker 1: way I pushed it away was drinking or drugs. It
• 7:28
  Speaker 1: wasn't until I faced the reality of what happened to
• 7:31
  Speaker 1: me and accepted that and moved on that I became
• 7:35
  Speaker 1: a better man, a better father, a better husband. It
• 7:38
  Speaker 1: was such a release. And when I talked about the
• 7:43
  Speaker 1: sexual abuse, I would get so emotional, really really emotional.
• 7:47
  Speaker 1: It's so vivid in my mind. I could smell his breath,
• 7:51
  Speaker 1: I could smell his I can smell his body, smell
• 7:54
  Speaker 1: you know. It was that real and it is that real.
• 7:58
  Speaker 1: It took my life away because I I was never happy.
• 8:01
  Speaker 1: As much fame as I had, oh money as I had,
• 8:04
  Speaker 1: I was never happy. I drank to be happy. I
• 8:07
  Speaker 1: did cocaine a lot of it to be happy. So
• 8:11
  Speaker 1: my life for the most part was shut down, was
• 8:13
  Speaker 1: blacked out, and people saw me. What they saw was
• 8:18
  Speaker 1: an individual who achieved significant stuff. But it wasn't really
• 8:24
  Speaker 1: happy because all of a sudden, now I'm saying, who
• 8:26
  Speaker 1: likes me for who I am? It was getting to
• 8:29
  Speaker 1: that point. My biggest problem. I suppressed things. I would
• 8:33
  Speaker 1: never tell you what I just told you today. I
• 8:36
  Speaker 1: would keep it to myself. If it's bothering me, if
• 8:39
  Speaker 1: you did something wrong, I wouldn't tell you. Of all
• 8:42
  Speaker 1: the things. I'm non confrontational. But I found out that
• 8:45
  Speaker 1: stress and keeping things inside can can kill you, and
• 8:50
  Speaker 1: no I can't. It will kill you. There's no greater
• 8:54
  Speaker 1: feeling to me than to give back, to make it,
• 8:57
  Speaker 1: to make a difference. It, whether it's a phone call
• 8:59
  Speaker 1: to some fan, is wonderful. It's something that you don't
• 9:02
  Speaker 1: have to tell me. Twice, I got a call and
• 9:06
  Speaker 1: this guy he was given a few months to live,
• 9:12
  Speaker 1: but he wanted to speak to me. He wanted to
• 9:14
  Speaker 1: say hi, wo Jesus. And it's really resonated. It was
• 9:18
  Speaker 1: like I said, I got to call this guy, and
• 9:21
  Speaker 1: I did call. I called, I spoke with him about
• 9:23
  Speaker 1: an hour and I talked to this guy. I was
• 9:26
  Speaker 1: in tears, man, and I just I say, Man, you
• 9:29
  Speaker 1: keep fighting, man, he said, He said, Ray, you know
• 9:31
  Speaker 1: talking to you right now, man, has given me so
• 9:34
  Speaker 1: much more life and so much more carriage. It's just
• 9:38
  Speaker 1: little things that you do or you can do that
• 9:41
  Speaker 1: makes a difference in someone's life. And I cherished that
• 9:44
  Speaker 1: moment and I valued that time with that with that
• 9:47
  Speaker 1: young man, I've been blessed in so many ways. It's
• 9:53
  Speaker 1: nothing for me to make a phone call, but to him,
• 9:58
  Speaker 1: that gave him another another day, another week, another month
• 10:03
  Speaker 1: on this earth. It costs nothing to be nice. It
• 10:07
  Speaker 1: costs nothing to be nice. What's your definition of the
• 10:10
  Speaker 1: life well lived? It's about pursuing and accomplishing your dreams.
• 10:16
  Speaker 1: I tell people all the time to dream, to dream
• 10:18
  Speaker 1: the dream, because your dreams like your gps towards your success.
• 10:26
  Speaker 1: Your dreams are what allows you to see the light
• 10:29
  Speaker 1: at the end of the tunnel. It's what gives you motivation, determination,
• 10:35
  Speaker 1: and you go for that, and you go for that dream.
• 10:37
  Speaker 1: You know, you reach out and you work hard because
• 10:41
  Speaker 1: people tell other people what they can't do, so they
• 10:45
  Speaker 1: tell you you can't do that, and a lot of times,
• 10:48
  Speaker 1: nine times out of ten we believe them, but they're
• 10:51
  Speaker 1: telling you what they can't do. Don't let them tell
• 10:54
  Speaker 1: you what you can't do. I talk about success, I
• 10:58
  Speaker 1: talk about victory. Victory is find in so many ways.
• 11:02
  Speaker 1: For me, my victories are my family, my gold medal,
• 11:05
  Speaker 1: and my titles. And for other people, your victories can
• 11:09
  Speaker 1: be promotion, it could be a new home, it could
• 11:14
  Speaker 1: be something simple. No matter how you define victory, you
• 11:18
  Speaker 1: just got to go for it. You have to go
• 11:21
  Speaker 1: for it and be the fighter. We are fighters, and
• 11:25
  Speaker 1: if I know anything about fighting, I know how to win.