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How narcissists act when they think you are done for good? · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on, beautiful people.
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  Today we're going to be talking about how narcissists feel or
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  what they will do when they think that you're done with them
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  for good. If you're new here, my name is
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  Lee Hammock. I'm a self aware narcissist and
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  welcome to another episode of the Narcissist Code.
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  Boom welcome back. How we doing?
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  I get awkward at the beginning of some videos.
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  I feel a little awkward sometimes.
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  This is me. Yeah, that's how it goes.
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  Y'all Welcome back. Welcome back, welcome back.
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  How do narcissists feel? How would they act?
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  What the hell would they do when they think that you are done
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  with them for good? Yeah, this is a tough this is
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  going to be a touchy, touchy 1 because they can go a few
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  different ways. I think a lot of people
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  understand that when narcissists think that you are done with
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  them, not when they're done with you.
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  That's a whole different video. Like when a narcissist is done
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  with you for good. I'm, I'm, I'm text it to myself
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  really quick. When a when narc is done with
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  you for good. That'll be Part 2.
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  This part when when you are done with them for good.
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  How do they act? How do they behave?
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  What goes on in their damn minds?
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  It's a good question, isn't it? Because so many people battle
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  with this right here. When a narcissist thinks that
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  you are done for good. Like if y'all, even if y'all
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  still live together. Like if you, if you still live
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  with this person and they can feel in their bones that you
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  have disconnected from them, that you have successfully
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  disconnected from them. If they feel that they will
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  start to act up, some of them like this, some of them will
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  withdraw, right? Some narcissistic people will
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  withdraw their love, care, affection.
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  They will do that type of stuff, right?
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  That's what narcissists do. They they would withdraw their
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  love, their care, their affection and all of the other
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  good stuff. They will absolutely do that,
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  right? But there are a lot of
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  narcissistic people. Not a talk to people out there
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  that just was will. They'll just try to reconnect
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  with you a lot. Even when they think you're
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  done, they will refuse to leave you alone, right?
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  Even when they think you're done, some of them will refuse.
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  Some of them will apply more pressure to you.
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  Some of them will apply more pressure to you when they think
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  that you're done for good. Some of them will apply more
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  pressure to you to try to get you to stay.
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  Even when you're done for good, Even if you go, even if y'all
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  live together, even if you're no contact, even if you've
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  disappeared from the face of the earth, they will try to find
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  you. I had a woman reach out to me
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  the other day, said like, I moved across the country.
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  My, my, my narcissistic partner did not believe that I was done
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  with him. So I had to move across the
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  country to get away from him. And when I did, he had no idea
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  where I went to. He had no idea where I had went,
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  no idea what I had done, no idea what what had happened.
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  Right. She said.
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  He had no idea what had happened, no idea where she
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  went, no idea what she was doing.
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  And guess what? Five months later, he popped up
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  on her front door step. He had somehow found where she
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  was at. He had somehow discovered where
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  she was at. When he was done for, when she
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  was done for good, He thought this act of love to find her
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  would make her love him more. What would make her come back?
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  Hey, I know you blocked me everywhere.
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  You vanished on me. You disappeared on me.
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  I know you did that, right? I know you've done all of this
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  stuff. I know we're no longer together.
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  I know this, but I love you so much that I'm willing to stalk
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  your ass to show you how much I care.
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  I'm willing to stalk you to show you how much you matter to me.
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  I'm willing to stalk you to show me, to show you how much I am
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  willing to stalk you. This is the I'm telling you.
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  This is the mindset of a narcissistic person.
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  This is how some of them act. This is how some of them
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  operate. Y'all, they will think that this
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  act, this, this, this last final act is how that they will get
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  how they will get you back right?
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  They think this last final act, this final creation will get you
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  back with them. You're not dealing for good.
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  Like all breakups are not mutual.
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  And I say that I don't, I don't say this.
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  I don't say that to make it sound like you have no power.
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  But in a narcissist mind, just because you break up with me
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  does not mean that the relationship is absolutely over.
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  I know that sounds ignorant. I know it sounds stupid.
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  I know I absolutely know that it sounds ridiculous.
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  But I'm telling you, that's the mind of a narcissistic person
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  right there. They think like, OK, she's,
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  she's, they just joking with me. They're not really done with me
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  just yet. They're just saying this type of
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  stuff because it makes them feel good.
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  You know, they're, they're saying this because it, it makes
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  them, it gives them energy. That's that's what, that's what
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  that's what they're saying is no.
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  Like they won't, they don't want to take no for an answer.
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  So some of them will refuse to leave you alone.
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  Some of them will still pop up on your ass.
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  Some of them will still come to stalk you and do all this
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  horrible stuff to you. A lot of them will do that type
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  of stuff to you out. This is what you had to prep
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  for. Like some of them will refuse to
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  let you go. When they think this, it's over.
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  When they think you're done with them for good, they will.
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  Some of them will just refuse to accept it.
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  While others, there are other people out here, there are other
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  narcissists. When they think you're done with
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  them for good, they will punish you.
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  If y'all have to Co parent, if y'all have to parent, if y'all
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  have to do anything, if you have to do anything, or if y'all are
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  tied together, they will punish your ass.
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  You're going to get punished now like you are you.
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  You're going to get punished right now for how I feel.
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  They're going to make your try to make your life a living hell
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  for the rest of your existence because you caused a
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  narcissistic injury by being done with them for good.
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  Regardless of whatever they have done to you, regardless of
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  whatever they put you through regardless, regardless of how
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  they treated you, regardless of what they've done to you.
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  They're not like they're going to punish you for leaving them
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  if you leave, if you've left them, if you discarded them, if
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  you're like moved on with your life and happy years down the
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  road. They don't care that
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  narcissistic injury does not heal.
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  Narcissistic injuries don't heal y'all.
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  Unless they go to therapy and work on it, this is going to be
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  them. They're going to be angry and
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  fiery hot and psychotic towards you because you hurt their
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  feelings, because they feel like you hurt me.
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  Because you hurt me. I have to hurt you because you,
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  because you hurt my feelings, because you broke over me.
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  Because you decided that you decided that your best, you
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  living your best life didn't have me in.
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  It didn't include me. I have to punish you because I'm
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  a child, because I'm a petulant little child and I have to
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  punish you for that. That's the mindset of a lot of
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  narcissists right there. They have to punish you for
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  holding them accountable. They have to punish you for
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  being done with them. And they, like I said, they have
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  to try to turn the kids against you.
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  They try to have to, they have to try to hurt your feelings
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  consistently. They try to have to do all of
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  this stuff because their feelings are absolutely hurt
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  because you wrecked them. This is how it works right here.
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  I tell. I'm just telling you.
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  And it sucks because you, like, they're punishing you because
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  you made a choice that you didn't want to be with them
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  anymore. Now, will some of them
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  absolutely leave you alone? Go find a new like some of them
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  will find a new supply and try to rub it in your face and stuff
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  like that. Yeah, some of them will
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  absolutely do that. Some of them will find a new
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  supply and treat the new supply better than they ever treated
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  you. Right?
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  Ain't they how I go? They will treat the new supply
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  better than they ever treated you.
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  You know this how this is the mindset, because you've been
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  doing this with the new supply, because the new supply, this new
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  supply that they're going to treat the new supply better than
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  they ever treated you because they feel a certain type of way
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  about you, because their feelings are hurt, right?
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  This is how their minds works. And I say, I, I, I try to tell
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  this to people all the time, but like narcissistic people talk to
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  people. This is how it goes, like
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  they're going to go to get a new supply and they might disappear
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  on you. You might not ever hear from
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  them again because yes, you still caused a narcissist the
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  injury and they find a new supply and just try to heal
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  through heal from that. They try to heal using somebody
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  else. They try to heal from you by
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  using somebody else. That happens right there, y'all.
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  But also I said there are narcissists that disappear.
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  They're the ones that find a new supply.
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  But also y'all, I ain't going to hold y'all too long.
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  This is going to be the last little section right here.
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  There are some narcissists that want you.
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  The reverse discord happens. There are some narcissists that
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  want you to be the one that breaks up with them.
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  So they have an excuse to do what they do.
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  So they have an excuse to move on fast.
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  So they have an excuse to disappear on you.
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  They have an excuse. There are some of them that push
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  you away to the point and they hope that you are done for good.
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  They hope to God that you are, that you are done for good, that
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  you are finished and like I said, that you are done for
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  good, that your feelings are hurt and that you don't you
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  won't have you. You don't want anything else to
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  do with them. So they have this excuse, this
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  built in excuse to move on very fast.
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  A lot of them do this right here.
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  Y'all, a lot of narcissists do. A lot of narcissists have this
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  mindset and this mentality that they, they like they are,
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  they're, they are cowards and they don't want to be the ones
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  that break up with you. So they manufacture you breaking
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  up with them. They treat you badly, so you
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  break up with them. They, they devalue you and cuss
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  you out and take away the love, care and affection.
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  Withhold affection, withhold everything just so you are the
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  one that leaves the relationship and they can feel better about
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  themselves. Y'all know?
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  Y'all know, y'all know. This happens to so many people.
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  They feel better about the situation and it gives them this
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  excuse to move on. So some of them hope that you
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  are done for good. Some of them do.
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  This is the mindset of some narcissist.
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  They hope that you're done for good.
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  They hope that they've caused enough pain in your life, enough
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  suffering in your life that you finally have the strength to
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  break it with them that you finally decide, you know what,
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  to hell with them. I got to be done.
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  I got to, you know, I got to, I got to pick me luscious.
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  I got to pick, I got to put me first.
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  I got to put me first. I got to put me first.
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  You know, they they tick the old tick tock sound.
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  I got to put me first. I got to put me first.
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  That type of stuff right there happens.
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  So I was just telling you, if you're dealing with a narcissist
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  or a toxic person, this is the mindset, this is the, this is
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  the mentality that you might eventually end up facing while
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  dealing with an abusive narcissistic person.
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  This is how they're going to like, this is how it's going to
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  go. I know people are just like,
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  well, look, that sucks. Yeah, it absolutely does suck.
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  You know, it absolutely is heinous.
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  It's it's absolute travesty that you have to put up with this
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  type of these type of behaviors. It's absolute travesty that you
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  have to go through this. This is absolute travesty.
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  You know, that's why I just tried to tell people just when
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  you're done for good, protect yourself because some of them
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  will try to hurt you, some of them try to harm you, some of
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  them will try to Hoover you. Some of them will leave you
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  alone. Regardless, when you are done
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  with them for good, make sure that you are done for good.
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  Make sure that you don't Hoover yourself.
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  Make sure that you are ready to you're ready to go, no contact
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  or low contact or you're ready to deal with the, the fuss, the
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  anger, the frustration. Just make sure that you are
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  ready because at the end of the day, there really is what
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  matters your healing, your growth, your freedom.
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  That's the end of the day. That's what matters the most
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  job. So make sure you take care of
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  yourselves, make sure you protect your own peace.
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