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310-Not A Sidebar. Your Fight Is Your Anointing · Stuck No More Voices

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  What do you do when the person who was supposed to be in your corner is the very reason you are standing alone?
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  What do you do when the promise is real?
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  The calling is clear, but the support you were counting on never showed up.
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  What do you do when you have done everything right and someone else's choice?
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  Left you holding the weight of a dream that was supposed to have helped you do what did.
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  You stay in the fight.
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  Welcome back to this episode.
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  You know, I've been in the midst of the E-Series, but something just made me stop for this one.
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  And what I have to share with you is not a motivational pep talk.
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  This is a word.
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  This is something you may need right at this moment.
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  So this is a story that God tucked into scripture and a place most people never look, and I believe he put it there specifically for the woman who is tired of explaining why she's still standing after everything she's been through.
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  I want to take you to Genesis 38 Tarmar, not the of two Samuel 13.
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  The of Genesis 38.
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  Now, before you go, I go any further, I need to say something because if you know this story, your eyebrow may already be raised.
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  's story is uncomfortable.
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  I will not pretend otherwise, when you read what she did, your first instinct might be to judge her.
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  That is a very human response, and I'm not going to shame you for it, but I want you to stay with me.
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  Her method you may disagree with, but her motive was covenant.
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  She was not acting out of rebellion.
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  She was not being reckless.
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  She was a woman who had been wronged, who had been forgotten, who had been quietly written off by the very man who held the key to her promise, and she refused to disappear.
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  Now there is a difference between a woman acting outta desperation and a woman acting out of determination.
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  was determined and when, when it was all said and done, Judah looked at her and said out loud, she is more righteous than I am.
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  Hold on to that.
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  We are coming back to it.
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  of Genesis 38 is one of those women in scripture that history almost skipped.
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  Her story shows up right in the middle of the story of Joseph, one of the most well-known narratives in the entire Bible.
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  Genesis 37, Joseph and his coat.
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  Genesis 39, Joseph in Egypt, and there in the middle.
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  Genesis 38.
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  It feels like an interruption, like someone accidentally left a chapter in the wrong place, but God does not make editorial mistakes.
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  So was married to Judah's son Er.
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  Er died in that culture when a husband died without a children, his brother was to marry the widow and carry on the family line.
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  That was the covenant.
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  That was the promise.
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  That was her right in that culture time.
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  So she married the second son.
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  Onon.
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  He died.
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  Judah had a third son.
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  And waited.
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  She went back to her father's house as Judah instructed, and she waited for Judah to honor the covenant.
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  She waited for the promise that was legally, culturally, and covenantly hers and Judah stalled.
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  He delayed.
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  He quietly decided was too much trouble.
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  He moved on with his life and left sitting in a season that was never supposed to last that long.
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  She was not abandoned by a stranger, by the way.
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  She was abandoned by family, by someone who had the authority, the access, and the obligation to help her.
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  And he chose not to.
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  She had done nothing wrong.
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  She had lost everything, and the person who should have been her covering became her ceiling.
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  A short break here from my story.
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  After I retired from radio, I still knew there was a call in my life to speak.
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  One day I heard this well-known podcaster talk about how stages were looking for women of faith.
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  And I continued to follow his program, the free program, and then I saw a paid program.
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  Something told me this was for me.
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  God had already told me my voice was anointed, but I knew I needed my husband's approval, his support.
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  So I put together this report and told all about the program, all the details about the main guy of the program, put it in a nice little.
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  Covering and I gave it to my husband to get his approval.
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  He didn't even look at it.
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  He threw it on the couch and then said something condescending and critical.
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  I felt like I was trapped.
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  As long as I was married to my husband, I didn't think there was anywhere to go with my speaking.
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  So that story has a different ending.
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  It's not the point of this story, but I knew what it was like when someone should support you.
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  Denied that and denied it in a very ugly way.
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  So let's go back to I want to speak directly to the woman who's in that place right now.
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  You have built something real.
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  You have served faithfully.
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  You have shown up with excellence in rooms that did not always celebrate you.
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  And there's someone in your life who should be your loudest cheerleader, and they are not.
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  They're quiet when you need them to speak up.
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  They're absent when you need them Present.
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  They're unsure when God has already been clear, and you have been carrying that alone.
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  You've been smiling through it, you've been pressing through it, you've been believing God while quietly grieving the support that never came.
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  understands you.
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  She did not have anyone fight for her.
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  She had to fight for herself with God is her only witness, and she did it with patience and courage.
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  And a holy kind of tenacity that does not make noise, but does not quit either.
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  God saw her in that season.
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  He saw every day she waited.
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  He saw every door that should have opened and didn't.
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  He saw what she lost because of someone else's choice, and God did not waste one moment of it.
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  Here's what I need you to understand before you close this episode.
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  of Genesis 38 is not a sidebar in scripture.
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  Her story is not a detour, not an interruption, not a footnote Tucked between two more important chapters.
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  She is in the genealogy of Jesus.
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  Matthew chapter one, listed by name.
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  Your story is not God's sidebar either.
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  It is the covenant.
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  It is the path of your destiny.
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  Every delay, every disappointment, every moment you held the promise alone, when someone should have been holding it with you, God was weaving it into something that has eternal weight.
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  You were not overlooked.
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  You are being prepared.
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  The woman who fought without support and kept going anyway has a testimony that the woman who had everything handed to her will never be able to carry your fight.
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  Is your anointing.
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  If this landed in your spirit today, I want you to do one thing before you move on with your day.
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  Find one promise in scripture that belongs to you, one that feels delayed, one that someone else's choices may have complicated.
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  Write it down and say it out loud.
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  This promise is still mine.
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  'cause Tamar never stopped believing that and God never stopped honoring it.
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  So if you're an established leader who's built something real and you can relate to this story, you know your voice has not yet been reached, the room it was made for the stuck.
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  No more executive cohort's built for you not to start over.
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  Not to really figure out who you are, but to finally let what God put in you be heard the way it was always supposed to be heard.
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  Everything is waiting for you.
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  The link is in the show notes.
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  Until next time, remember this, you are not a sidebar.
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  You are the covenant and it's time to be heard.